MY COMING OUT STORY! | Bisexuality

Hi there this video is for anyone who has ever come out gay or bisexual or lesbian or any of the LGBT, I did to be honest to myself and tell other what my sexuality is my name Courtney-jai and I'm a bisexual man. I feel its important not to have pride in your sexuality but in yourself I also made this video to see how different I would be years from now and how much stronger and more confident this choice has made me
thank you for watching and please share this so other can see how this choice can change your life for the better.
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[@denyuhl3909]

It's so refreshing seeing a KZbinr who's is bisexual. Very hard to find KZbinrs who are bisexual and know the struggles, haha.

[@Erin4447]

it really is

[@JoasRadiomann]

Jake Wright, Connor Manning, Kenny Moffitt, Alayna Fender, Ashley Mardell, Shane Dawson, Mason Healy, RJ Aguiar, Weird Norwegian, doddleoddle, Brenden Hopkins, Gizzy Gazza, ITS ME ROSS, Ryan Cassata, Skylarkeleven, lohanthony, Brittan Smith, Brian Murphy, Jeremy Martin TV, Kaines Way, Jordan Blower, ... Will add more to the list if I feel like it next time. You're welcome!

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

Rosie (of Rose and Rosie), Keara Graves, TheNotAdam (not active anymore I think), Georgia Bridges, Gaby Dunn, JammiDodger, Dutchy, Courtney Act (only has 1 vid made around time of "The Bi Life" reality bi dating show I guess, they are genderqueer and pansexual). Also can't forget about Elle Mills, the best shot/produced and most viewed coming out video on YT I think (4M views last I looked?) - watch the story in the last year, her crush she came out for is also on this list from Joas/me! - not mentioning to avoid spoilers for those who haven't watched (yet). Note: Miss Fenderr renamed her channel, is now Alayna Joy on YT though can probably still find it by searching for MissFenderr. I know between us we haven't listed them all quite yet!

[@johnlondonbimeetup7961]

It does seem a bit harder to find out who you should look to for bi things depending on your style; am really considering putting together a few short vids with an overview of the YT bi vloggers as it is now. YT recommendations algorithm can sometimes help lots but can also mess with you/drop you down rabbitholes. Am a computer techie but limited video editing skills... Anyone any offers to collab on this idea, ideally from near London UK? Would be cool to meet some of the folk on the list Joas/myself posted too, for tips/just to broaden and mingle different communities.

[@kyleelliott2853]

I love you so much I wut to be your boyfriend

[@danssaddimple9133]

i'm a bi girl and you seem like a great person and you're also really handsome ❤

[@Courtney-Jai]

thank you guys for the love and support this only makes me stronger which make us stronger im proud to call you fans friends and family

[@Courtney-Jai]

so i kept turning the likes and dislikes off cus i didnt want people who see this video to see gay or bisexual as a bad thing but also the whole point is to show you dont need to hide from it so there staying on and staying proud im sick of ignorance and important people who think they have can have an effect on others lives with their bullshit hate

[@daeslepr400]

survival of a teenage dirtbag Way to go. Just subscribed. I just don't have the time to waste on the haters, hope you can get there soon. Best of luck from California.

[@Courtney-Jai]

thanks dae for the support man and ye me to

[@bionicredneck6976]

Courtney-Jai I support you for who you are, your sexuality doesn't bother me in the slightest at all, you're the same person as who you were before & I love you to the world & back 🖒

[@kylegough8198]

Hi I am really proud to be bi but I prefer women but some men are fit af no names but zac efron lololol. I still need to come out though I’m struggling

[@Courtney-Jai]

It surprises me to how many views this video has and how many people have contacted me because of it

[@NapoleonCalland]

+Courtney-jai It's not a surprise for your fans. ;)

[@Courtney-Jai]

still blows my mind I just think back to the days where Id get 10 like 1 comment 100 views and I would be like holy crap people like me

[@NapoleonCalland]

Courtney-Jai It's called humility, and it's a very fine quality to have! It might also have something to do with the fact that you're right, people do like (and admire) you. Plus it's always good to see someone charismatic and caring doing his bit to fight "bisexual erasure" and get people to like and love themselves as they are.

[@Courtney-Jai]

well if I don't do it who will

[@NapoleonCalland]

Courtney-Jai Eight words in which you proved my point! ;)

[@BrownsBacker]

And 8 yrs later..... he's an example for boys and girls younger than this in a huge tv show!!! What a journey!!!! And it all began with the courage to come out! ❤️❤️❤️❤️😭😭😭 If there is ANY video that Alice may have seen that convinced her to cast you....this could be it....because you were just a little bit older than the characters, but knew when you were their ages....This brings out the exact same feelings and has the same honesty and simplicity as Heartstopper itself!

[@logicpolice2451]

OMG.... that accent, the jawline. AGHHH. If you're single, feel free to DM me x

[@JoasRadiomann]

He's with his girlfriend for almost 3 years now. Sorry buddy!

[@sanjaysiva883]

Why not... Give a shot bro

[@LaurenRead123]

Courtney this was so brave of you. My brother is gay, my sister is pansexual, and my best friend james is gay. I may not be bisexual or gay myself but I understand how hard it must be. There's so many ignorant people that don't understand sexuality and dont except people in the lgbtq community, but you can't let those people tell you how you should be. Love is love and that's just how it is. You're an amazing person and it was so brave of you to do this. You're an inspiration and I love you.♡♡♡♡♡

[@thomasbleming678]

I came OUT with my bisexuality 10 years ago. I have known that I was bisexual since I was 15. I have lived with my bisexuality and I ACCEPT it.

[@ezelldaniels6064]

Our story so similiar. I always knew since 14 or 15 but was indenial for so long and didn't want to accept it til I turned 22/23

[@charlescourtois1075]

I'm bi but still I don't feel like I HAVE TO come out as bi, I don't feel like it's something that is so important people should know; I mean if they ask I tell them but that's not what's the more interesting thing about myself so I don't really get why people who identify as something else than heterosexual should "come out". Am I the only one who doesn't give a fuck about sexuality nowadays x') I'm kind of a mess >

[@thg6004]

That was exactly my thought, and at first I didn't wanted to come out as bi because "it is my own business, right ?" But it comes situations in life where you have to say it to the people close to you in order to be honest, to feel closer to them or even just to be understood.

[@charlescourtois1075]

Arf... but my "straight" friends don't do that when we're in a conversation. I know society wants you to be assumed straight and oversexualized, but as I'm not and don't fit in the trend, I felt like being bi doesn't change me, it's only part of me and that I'm way more than just " a bisexual man". Somehow I guess you're kinda right when it comes to feel "closer" to people, if you want them to know you fully. But "coming out" would mean that I was hiding my bisexuality before, as if it was a shame and I'm not into it. No need to make sexuality such a choker ... It doesn't define you as a whole.

[@Courtney-Jai]

No I agree as I've got older I've realised labelling can back you into an impossible corner having expectations you don't want to or need to fill id rather say my sexuality is what it is at the time I mean time changes everyone

[@charlescourtois1075]

Sure, I think I will stick with my thug attitude on sexuality and go on with it :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

+Charles Courtois you do you bro

[@101Allusionist]

I know the feeling. Straight people just don't understand how terrifying it is to come out and its all because they can only see the surface of our life and never what is actually going on in us. I'm glad I stumbled upon your video lol it inspired me to start planning on making videos.

[@nathanbeardy5465]

I'm bisexual but i haven't told my parents i've told friends but i'm still scared to tell my best friend because i love him he doesn't really talk to me much cuz of weed but i still love him he's depressed but i'm too scared to help him. My dad is so scary but my mom i think she will accept me but i'm way too scared to tell them

[@chewy736]

Nathan Beardy hey, just checking up on you. How’d it go?

[@nesrineranouch8646]

Hope that went well

[@B_PE]

This.

[@redscale82]

I forcefully denied my bisexuality for 12 years until I accepted and came out to my colleagues at work and family. They all accepted me. It was a great feeling.

[@thescranline]

Thanks for sharing dude. I know exactly how you feel, that step of coming out is one of the hardest decisions i've ever made, but theres a huge gay community who support one another. Much happiness, Nick

[@Courtney-Jai]

well thank you that means alot to me and as i think of it it doesnt define me i am me gay straight or bi we all deserve to live life to how we want and i wont have anyone telll me different :)

[@Hadetimes]

This video made me tear up. I'm 26 and just now kind of coming to terms with being bi. All my friends and fam are straight (that I know of) so I've felt really alone these last couple months. I've watched a bunch of your videos over the last couple of days and they have made me feel less alone, so thank you, Courtney.

[@pennstategraduate]

There might be an agency or two and groups of friends which would be supportive. When I became single years ago I looked up gays and gay nudists on a search engine which worked out very well.

[@danielewenkhare3600]

I’m gay and this really touched me, no matter how different you are, we are all UNIQUE 🏳️‍🌈💗💖💕

[@sparhan]

I've recently watched Heartstopper (absolutely loved it!) and found your channel though there. Since watching Heartstopper it made me think back about my view on my sexuality over the years and realising that I've been curious about it for a long time and I suppose I've really felt 'non-straight' for a long time, but just never felt the need to label it. My brother came out as gay when he was a teenager and had built up in his mind an expectation that the reaction would be horrible. But in reality, we weren't surprised or really bothered. In fact, the overwhelming feeling was of happiness and pride, that he had worked out what made him happy and had felt able to tell us. He was also worried about our Dad's reaction, and I even remember him telling my Dad that he wanted him to shout at him or punch him or something, because the reality of our easy acceptance was so different to what he had imagined. I believe him doing the 'hard work' for me, along with other family members, means that it has ever since been a topic that is open and discussed, and me discussing my curiosities or just being myself was never a big thing. I genuinely think it's this that means that I have never felt a need to come out or to label myself, and I believe I am very lucky to have experienced this. So, having come all the way back to watch this video and listen to your personal account, I just wanted to say that this account of your experience was so authentically talked about and you expressed yourself in such a raw and emotional, but overwhelmingly positive, way. It was beautiful to watch and I think that this sort of style of video, where you just talk, openly and honestly is so powerful for people. So much content like this is over-hyped and sometimes unrelatable, whereas most of your videos (especially ones like this) are really genuine! Thank you! The sort of representation for bisexuality and LGBTQ+ that you demonstrate, along with shows like Heartstopper; it all optimises the view of the future I believe we should move towards. A future where people can just be themselves, where they can be curious and open at any point and it is seen as normal. Where they don't have to announce anything, but can like and love whoever they want. Labels can be helpful for some people to research your feelings, they can be helpful for some people to understand you, they can even for some people help you feel part of a community, but eventually, I would love to see a society where they aren't needed. Where people are all just people and they fall in love with other people. ❤️

[@reesehoover3214]

watching these videos make me so emotional. ik this was years ago but i’m so proud of u and i’m glad you’re happy :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you thats very sweet

[@xyzeffect]

This was amazing to watch. Im 27 years old and a bisexual male. And I recently came out to my sister and a few friends and they've been so supportive. This past month has been eye opening and I've finally accepted myself and I finally love life ha. I have a boyfriend who has been supportive through all of it. Thank you for sharing this

[@S01-k9z]

Such a good looking nice guy , who cares if your straight, bi, gay or whatever u are really genuine nice and extremely handsome you have the world at your feet don't ever get down or depressed about your sexuality because you seem like a really cool person and that's what matters.

[@jamescarrington5521]

I SO wish there had been guys like you who I could've talked to at such a turbulent time in my own adolescence. I knew I was completely gay by the time I was about 12 or so, and it just felt so....incredibly NATURAL for me, both then as well as now. You younger guys, I admire your tremendous emotional strength, and PLEASE just know and understand just how lucky most of you younger generation gay/bisexual guys truly ARE! You all are, collectively, perhaps the bravest young men and women I've ever had the pleasure to have met, albeit simply on some kind of social media, something we didn't have when we were your ages back in the 1990's. 2 years ago, I discovered that my own father is also bisexual, and this presented me with a bit of shock, yes, but.....the ANGER, all of that ANGER that my own father had heaped upon me, the anger and betrayal I felt towards him, and all of the name-calling and verbal abuse (by both he and my mother) that both my oldest brother, who is also gay, and myself, had heaped upon us. I am still so angry that he let both of his sons just sit there and suffer in silence, when he could have really been a help and a mentor to us. I have 3 brothers, 4 of us total, and 2 are straight, 2 are gay. I am angry that he used my mother like that and hid behind her while he was out carousing around with all those other men, all while ignoring us. I began to act out, I got into trouble.....stupid, petty things, really......I remember just being so depressed and angry and suicidal at that time in my life; I even got married myself, because I didn't know what else to do back then; it sure would've helped if my own father had tried to help me instead of choosing to ignore both my brother, myself, and our terrible situation. At least I didn't bring anymore innocent kids into this world, unlike what my dad did to us.....my parents forced my other gay brother into the U.S. Army, trying to make a "man" out of him; Hell, we already WERE men....just not heterosexual men. Well, anyway, I finally got into therapy to deal with all of this stuff, and I DO feel much better now. Just keep up the good work, guys; what you're doing here is absolutely selfless and beautiful. Thank you, all of you.

[@Courtney-Jai]

i just wanna say to the hater evolve with time living in hate will just corrupt weather you like me or not have respect for those who have to go through this

[@DudeShesCoolTV]

I am so proud of you Courtney. Stay true to yourself!

[@Courtney-Jai]

***** i did read this comment a while ago and i do appreciate it and the hate isnt from that the hate is from me having a falling out with some other youtubers as they werent very nice people so they decided to send haters i dont think many gays go around disliking coming out videos wether gay or bi as it would defeat the point of them entirely, they are their to help others in anyway they can.

[@korisx]

survival of a teenage dirtbag other youtubers? I didn't realise they did that. Can you give us a few names?

[@Courtney-Jai]

korisx give you a few names of what?

[@Courtney-Jai]

ah doesnt matter im dealing with they stopped so nothing to worry about

[@GillianF143]

I can't believe I've never come across your channel or videos before... you're amazing! I love this so much.

[@Courtney-Jai]

+Gillian Fenwick I wouldn't say I'm amazing just a muppet with a camera but thank you I appreciate the nice comment hope to speak to you again in future videos :) I try my best to talk to everyone

[@CatchTh3Wind]

As a gay guy (though I agree with your friend who says we could do without labels) I want to say thank you for posting this. I'm out to friends and now am learning to fully be myself around family. Somedays go better than others, but it's getting better each day. Thank you for being a positive, authentic influence. And good for you!

[@Courtney-Jai]

well im trying my best to help others and this videos helps just one im happy

[@justineb-vaillancourt2075]

But like, it's the truest statement, that when you come out, it's like the world is like an open door, you live so much freer, I felt like I was hiding before I came out and like a year later I feel super comfortable about my sexuality and I couldn't be happier!

[@Courtney-Jai]

yeah its like you breath oxygen and its finally yours to breath maybe that's too preachy haha

[@DionYorkie]

congrats! Coming Out (Emotional)

[@Courtney-Jai]

haha thank you man respect you on yours it was awesome

[@treycummins3102]

Ok. You got me. Trying to get the tears off the phone screen. Your story of telling your dad was just perfectly worded and his change in attitude for you is truly the heartstopper . I know these videos take alot out of you. But truly. They give back to others in ways you may never know

[@frankmarter6845]

You aren’t born to live up to others expectations. You are born to be the best you can be gay or straight. It’s no one’s business but your and your love interests. No one else is involved. If you choose to tell someone that’s your business. Your parents may expect you to be straight but there is no guarantee. If you are straight that’s fine. If you aren’t that’s fine too. Your sexual interests are only a small part of who you are. If someone feels differently then put distance between you and them. They aren’t worth your time. Prejudice should not factor into your character. You are fine just as you are. You were born the same way everyone else is. You didn’t come with labels.

[@matthewward2606]

I'm not even kidding this has got to be the best coming out story I have ever watched, read, and heard about. You're right, it is scary to come out.

[@Courtney-Jai]

thank you the videos is there to help out others but most of all myself every now and again i re watch it and see how much my life has bettered since i came out.

[@matthewward2606]

survival of a teenage dirtbag I think that is good because it allows you to compare what it was then to what it was to now to make people realize it does get better. I strongly advise you change your name though, it's no good beating your past-self up like that.

[@Courtney-Jai]

i love my name and its got nothing to do with negative, my name mixes two of my favorite things together neds delassfied survival guide and teenage dirtbag by wheatus

[@Courtney-Jai]

i cant belive this vid has hit over 10,000 views iv'e had so many people asking for help and there all appreciating it so if you do need some help message me on my fb fan page ill be happy to help

[@TnDon]

Great video, young man. Please don't be disturbed when some gays dispute your status as being bi-sexual. Just a great video. I have a little tear in the corner of my eye because I'm so happy for you. Great story well told.

[@chamomillesip]

Awesome video :) love the story and I love that you have accepted it. I hope we're coming into a generation where no one cares whether anyone's gay or not. We should be in a world where if someone says they're in a relationship we have to ask them whether it's a boy or a girl. That's how normal it should be.

[@Courtney-Jai]

You'llNeverGuess ye i think the problems we live with is that everyone has to be something no one is just allowed to live, this is why i dont like people commenting things like your so brave i mean it shouldn't be i mean heterosexuals don't get that treatment you like girl your so brave everyone's equal in my eye gay straight bisexual. what annoys me most without a doubt is gay has become a huge acceptance but then gays and heterosexuals both judge bisexuals saying you cant be one or the other, it like have can you requests rights for one sexuality and then condemn another surly this is a backward view also when people say well your just greedy im sorry i know many people who sleep with ten upon tens of girls or gays now greed implys i seek out my own self gain but the precious moments i share with that person are always a 100% pure i cant say that from alot of people. At the end of the day we are all people and know one should be judged for their sexuality as long as it remains within the boundaries of your own species.

[@chamomillesip]

survival of a teenage dirtbag agreed :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

ye i dont get that i mean isnt all about equality when you judge someone by their sexuality your defeating the point of the gay rights movement everyone should be free to be them what ever sexuality that is

[@serinadelmar6012]

You’re a gem Courtney-Jai. “You’re perfect as you’re unique” I love that. 💓

[@ccrott]

I came out as bi last month, it was one of the the hardest things I've done. Takes a lot of guts man!! So much respect for you, support you all the way! X

[@Courtney-Jai]

thank you ye when i told my dad my throat seized up so much i just wrote it instead of saying it

[@okimlistening2u]

Courtney, Eddie and Joey are two great people! You are fortunate to have them as friends. I'm an American counselor and teacher of your age group. You can be certain that being straight, bi, or gay has nothing to do with choice or morality. Sexual orientation is in your DNA just as being right or left-handed is in your DNA. Courtney, facing and accepting this challenge has made you a stronger and more mature person than your age indicates. I salute you, bro!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Wow this video is almost two years old and you were here still supporting me then when I had like 300 subs that's crazy

[@celestiaescobedo9770]

Im so proud of you (: it must have taken a lot of courage to make this and to tell people, and I'm proud of you for doing that. Remember that you are yourself, and no one can change you. Not even the people who don't accept the fact that you are bisexual. Don't let them get to you. Forget about them because they don't matter. You are you, and no one can change that.☺️💕

[@Courtney-Jai]

thanks man i wont change for no one

[@chloesimpson4340]

I know what you mean as I am bisexual and it is really hard to tell people

[@shakilrazaashrafi3419]

But why should we need to tell the people ??? ... From India And don't know either I'm straight or bi... .

[@danielisaactaylor3079]

I’m bi and i just started coming out some of my friends know but this video is so great in i know how much telling someone helps you feel better about it

[@MARK23048]

Dude, I am well old enough to be your father and please don't think I am anyone weird on here looking for friends or anything inappropriate. I am basically watching some of these videos to figure out where I did go wrong in life. You are correct in saying being gay or coming out is much easier these days and more accepted than in years past. I was never able to and have spend my whole life hiding in the closet. So it is interesting to hear in so how many different ways brave young men like yourself have addressed this issue with their family and friends. Both of my parents are gone now and never knew. But it is so hard living your life a secret. I just wanted you to know, that while it is probably too late for me to correct my mistakes in life, your video has touched me probably more than any I have seen. You are a very special and lucky person. Your parents should be so proud of you. Watching this actually makes me feel better about life. Thank you.

[@Courtney-Jai]

MARK23048 well i believe its never to late to make a change and they are proud but i don't think anyone should be proud for it, it should just be one of hose things the fact we put such a strong enthesis on it is what makes it so hard for people to come

[@MARK23048]

Courtney-jai Thanks so much for replying to my comment. I still admire you for the way you present yourself and like you say, even though I am older, people like you, but you stood out and had a big effect on me, have helped me gain more confidence in myself and being who I am. Thank you for being on here and being you. You have helped me more than you know, take care........................Mark

[@Courtney-Jai]

anytime man im glad i helped

[@MARK23048]

Courtney-jai so sorry to hear about your nan. I know it's tuff. I live in the U.S. and lost my grandmother way back when I was like 14 years old. You were both so lucky to have each other in your lives. She will be proud of you as you live your life, because she is looking down from up above. Just try to be strong for all of her other grandchildren you being the oldest. You can continue her legacy by doing that. I lost both of my parents as well and even though my mom died at 94, it is never easy to say goodbye. So cherish all of the days you have left because you never know what will happen and never go to sleep at night mad at your parents or anyone you love in your life. It is so precious. It's OK to cry dude. It shows you are a special caring person and you truly are. You know I've commented to you before because you inspire me and I think you are so special. Please take care and be strong and know that your nan is looking down proudly on you from Heaven and someday long from now, you will be with her again to share all of the special things you have done in your life time with her. Take care man.....................................Mark

[@Sonicxis4ever]

Does anyone else ever feel like an imposter? I know that i'm bisexual, but I feel like the world sees me as an imposter. I have more experience dating guys and being intimate with them so I feel like people don't recognize me as a bisexual person. Its hard for me to date girls let alone approach them. Idk if anyone else feels this way? Especially if you arent super masculine

[@Courtney-Jai]

I actually get alot less me feeling this way but others feelings this way about me , being bisexual is always questions but yout never questioned if you come out gay and don't have a boyfriend but if you had a boyfriend or girlfriend after coming out bi somehow your either straight or gay because "you've made your choice".

[@Sonicxis4ever]

Love you, from America 🇺🇸. This is a good video and it was comforting . I think I still feel shame for being bisexual

[@officialkanyau]

Why all the thumbs down? I thought the video was awesome

[@Courtney-Jai]

i got trolled on it its happened recently its sad but hey my videos are for me and the people who want to watch them

[@Courtney-Jai]

survival of a teenage dirtbag and thank you that means alot

[@Courtney-Jai]

***** and this comes down to stupidity no homosexuality you rem, the choice of wearing a condom is down to people having sex whether gay or straight protection is down to the user now look at your statics on a global scale and when you can prove god exist in the flesh by bringing him to my doorstep maybe then i believe you but till then keep you ignorant views to yourself

[@Courtney-Jai]

i got ur point im not going to heaven and i dont really give a shit have fun without me

[@Courtney-Jai]

you seem to fantasize about gay thoughts alot someones in denile haha yes i am bisexual and no i also love the comfort of a women just cus you cant understand it and your lashing out because you are secretly gay its ok i mean you have mentioned more sexual encounters using me then i have actually had it must mean you think of me alot and for that your very sweet but luke im really not interested in you

[@camille550]

I realized I was bi several months ago and my coming out hasn't been very easy either, my father has been pretty much okay with it but my mom needed more time, I think. I'm always so grateful when they think about adding the "do you have a boyfriend... or a girlfriend?", now, it's not all great everyday but you're right, in the long run coming out - and all the awkwardness that comes with it - is worth it in the end! Thank you for this beautiful testimony

[@lillyevans3322]

I feel like my story isn’t right. I’ve gone through all of the “accepting” who I am. And when I came to terms with who I was, and I told my mum, she tells me I’m not. She tells me SHE knows me, and I’m not, it’s just a phase. I jut can’t talk to her anymore, I’m not allowed to talk to ANY girls without my mum asking, “who is that? Is she, u know, does she, u know?” And she just makes me sick. I have to wait until I’m at least 17 until my mum will believe me, she won’t let me date girls or anything like that, she’s stopping me from who I am and every time I hear the word bi I start to cry, because I know the person who i was closest with, no longer trusts or believes me.

[@noahsharp6913]

When I posted my coming out story I was so extremely scared but it was great to know there was such a positive feed back.

[@zerdanphunrab]

Eight years ago. 🌈You are amazing young man, and you've helped so many others. ❤

[@awesomelife3710]

I've watched dozens (100s ?) of coming out videos, and yours is one of my top favorites! Such sweetness, gentleness and joy as you became more honest with yourself and others. Congratulations! Thanks for the encouragement you give others who haven't come out yet...

[@Courtney-Jai]

+Fernando Alfaro your very kind when i made it i hadnt watched any other coming out video i didnt want it to seem like it was influenced by anyone but me it needed to be raw

[@chrissessions3798]

You opening up about your true self is commendable. You are a beautiful soul. Always remember that. 💕

[@halfmoonrisin]

i live for the day when so many people try to define another their sexuality not that one's sexuality is not important mainly to themselves but others need to finally realize that being bi , gay or straight doesn't make a person better or less then another. I still say that many religions are the cause for such ignorant feelings towards anyone that is not like themselves. You look happy and that is what counts.

[@regidorparcon8434]

Don't be afraid the way you are, every people is, not perfect, be not affected from the negative of the world, someday you'll find perfection , just focus on good things, your not alone,

[@JessLoyal123]

so proud of you Courtney

[@canny_linguist]

It's so weird seeing you aged 19 😳 Wanted to check out your OG coming out story and I was not disappointed 🏳️‍🌈

[@Courtney-Jai]

I was slimmer and not very confident in myself

[@canny_linguist]

@@Courtney-Jai You were cute as a button and still are 😘 Was honestly expecting you to say your dad didn't take it well but it's so nice to know he took this new information and did his best to - adapt I suppose for want of a better word?

[@sophiaamundsen9142]

It's amazing how our minds can play tricks on us. I mean, it's undeniable that this guy was absolutely beautiful at 19 and still is really handsome now but because he might have had low self-esteem he felt self-conscious and unsure of himself and couldn't see himself like that. And most importantly, he's a beautiful person inside and you can tell because he's an empathetic and caring person who's been trying to help others for a long time now. So proud of his personal journey!❤🏳️‍🌈

[@CowboyFrankHarrell]

Gay, BI, Straight doesn't matter, unless one is looking for a lover. Good for you. Glad your dad came through. I never told my dad because back in 1983, I was afraid he would reject me. Back then as your dad thought, the general opinion was we were sick. He passed in 83. Now I wish he could see what I have accomplished with my life.

[@Thisistrulyoddtv_Mark]

I cannot get over how beautiful you are xx and your so brave for sharing this on KZbin I know it’s 8 years old now this video but it’s awesome that it’s still here for future generations to see and if they can take advice from it and it can help them come out then that’s amazing I was 28 when I came out as bisexual and I was so lucky I had a fantastic positive reaction from them all they said if your happy and healthy that’s all that matters to us if I knew they would have all been that accepting I would have come out sooner x .

[@Courtney-Jai]

Funny enough if I had heartstopper 13 years ago I probably would have come out when I realised I was bisexual , this video is reminder of how far I've come to where I am today.

[@carlykiller]

U should stick to this hairstyle

[@MissMovie2]

Okay, so, uploading this video was so brave of you. I showed this to my friend who is kind of struggling with who he is and it really made him feel better and I can't thank you enough for that. Honestly, thank you so so much

[@Courtney-Jai]

***** well tell your friend it gets alot easier being you and being happy are the most important things in life

[@SteveMac110]

Thank you for sharing your story :) I have just turned 19 myself and I only came out as bisexual to my family the other day and they were so accepting. It really does take a weight of your shoulders. Your story was actually a big help in getting the courage to tell them something that I have been hiding from them. Thank you :)

[@ItsCurtisLife]

The world is more accepting now with gay or bi people but yeah its good that you came out! respect bro!

[@Courtney-Jai]

thanks man all i ever wanna be is me and i had to do this to be me

[@4theloveofAJ2023]

Please don't hate me, but your hair is adorable in this video. Not slamming your longer hair, but this is adorable. Also, I've only dated bisexual men who were in the military. Love yourself & be happy!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Why would I hate you for that funny enough I've just cut my hair to pretty much this length again

[@jacobalvarez2134]

You are the bravest person I have seen. I've met many people that have come out and everyone has there stories to tell. Courtney, you are the best. Loyal subscriber till' the end!

[@pennstategraduate]

I'm a gay guy who is thrilled you chose to post this. I wish I could meet you and find out how things are now, nearly ten years later.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Pretty good to be honest still making, I was in heartstopper helping nick come out as bisexual , I got in attitude magazine and I've helped alot of people come out since.

[@pennstategraduate]

@@Courtney-Jai Good for you!!!!! I'm glad you're helping others. What is "heartstopper?"

[@DevonJYaffe]

Your story is so wonderful to hear. I came out in 11th grade and ever since I have been able to live a happier life. You have such a great attitude towards coming out and it's people like you who give those afraid to have courage and hope. Thank you :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

well that was the aim i wanted it to be raw only being out i think it was a week after this i felt like maybe i could help somone with what i had learned

[@austinobrien2164]

survival of a teenage dirtbag I just want you to know that i think this video is super inspiring. Everybody has their own way of coming out whether its difficult or easy. There will always be people who will say rude things and there will be people who love you for you. I just want to say that I am a new KZbinr and a member of the LGBTQ+ community. I decided to post my coming out story on my channel too and even though I have only 240 views on it I have still gotten some awesome support from people. I want you to know that I think of all the coming out stories that I have watched, yours is the one that has spoken out to me the most. I am completely out of the closet and yet still not accepted in my own home. My family is a conservative and very religious family yet they still think they can pray the gay away. I still love my family though. I hope that someday they will come to terms. The LGBTQA+ community has been so helpful especially with being in Nebraska (which is the most conservative state in the United States) and some other help from my friends that I have gained along the way. I know that it cannot be fixed. I freaking love how you ended this video, If I could share any video with somebody who is struggling with the coming out part of their life and what they should do to prepare themselves I would recommend yours. You are just an inspiration. Everybody loves you for you and no outside force can change that. Please go watch my video! I will be trying to make more videos in the future. Hope to hear from you! Thanks and keep living life like the perfect person you can be. :)

[@declanclarke1669]

In some ways confrontation leads to change. Good job for coming out.

[@benpang2299]

Honestly such a lovely video to watch, the one thing that society cannot stop thriving is happiness-it's key to living

[@Courtney-Jai]

Ye happiness is what life is all about

[@scarythots]

You're very inspiring and I love people like you that share something to the wold

[@TheSebba123]

I fucking love you! you just put words too exactly how i feel...Im bisexual too, and i recently came out too.. especially sucks to be bi because a lot of people dont believe its possible to like both.. I hope your story turns out as good as mine did! bytheway, your handsome :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

Your very kind and yes it's hard cuz you tend to get prejudice from all over gay straight and every where in between

[@sophiaanderson1676]

I honestly am so proud of you for doing this I respect this so much and u r so brave. I really can't believe some of these comments you are happy and just telling us and not lying they shouldn't say anything bad about that.

[@CJ-nq3nv]

Why would anyone be ashamed of loving both? I would think that you would be more ashamed of loving less. Wouldnt that make more sense? Why not enjoy the best of BOTH???? Remember everyone! Bi is BOTH Bi is Beautiful and of course.... BI IS BEST!!!

[@sorickrohithhutheram3878]

This is an amazing video. It really encourages other LGBT people to come out.People should never think of someone different after finding out that they're gay or bisexual. As long as love exists between two people then it's real.Never be ashamed of who you are and don't let anybody bring you down. Be you and spread love 🏳️‍🌈

[@CraigMcArthur]

Thank you for your heart felt (and heart rending) video. If it helps even one person, it would be great. Be sure to say thanks to your fantastic parents (more than once - cos they won't hear it the first few times) for being concerned about you.

[@Courtney-Jai]

oh i do i have my up sand downs with my dad over it but other then that i say the whole experience has brought me closer to them

[@jaj9371]

you're brave man! im sure your parents will be proud of you :)

[@Courtney-Jai]

there proud of me for other reasons my sexuality shouldn't be one of them that's how i see it we should hold coming out on a pedestal like a big thing if we didnt the world would run alot more smoothly because people would see it as an every day thing but thank you for taking the time to watch my video i hope you liked it.

[@noahsharp6913]

Good for u dude it takes a lot of guts to announce this online. U are extremely brave.

[@alfredori]

I'm glad you came out. It's okay. People will love you no matter what.

[@Courtney-Jai]

well even if they didnt i wouldnt need them in my life

[@annedylopez]

u got me in tears ................i know coming out is a hard thing my friend was scared and he asked me to help him so i did after all through going it him friend and family accepted it

[@Boudjatatwalidgmail.comBoudjat]

i'm happy For you dude , i'm bisexual too, and i'm against any culture or idea of haters to descrimination people because they think them complitely right. they 're idiot we're who we're. i feel the same that you feel is so hard for US because de are men and it's like this . good luck for all of US .

[@nicogallegos6351]

This video honestly made me cry , you are truely an amazing wonderful inspiring person , im glad that you made this video 😭 its truely unique 😭💕💕

[@jiminicannotjimout.2170]

As a bisexual i always feel that being bisexual is harder than being a lesbian

[@Courtney-Jai]

It's can be I think it's because you get looked down upon from gay people and straight people and it baffles me seems we just want the same thing

[@jiminicannotjimout.2170]

@@Courtney-Jai yeah

[@xx-kj1om]

I think homosexual people and trans have the hardest because it’s illegal being gay in a lot of countries because you were taught same sex relationship is wrong and you can easily be attack.

[@itsashleyy7393]

I swear to god i can jump to any video and your still a 10, please stop looking so good

[@juliavanderwal8998]

I'm crying, you're so amazing! 😭😍❤️

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you Julia you're very sweet

[@jeancolapierrearmande3326]

Thanks Courtney! I’m afraid I fell in love with you! Can’t help it.....

[@apmorales06]

Courtney I’m 11 and i am coming out when I am 12 on my birthday which is in a couple of months (3-4) i am coming out, you story has really helped me, thank you 🙏

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well I wish you all the best and I hope it goes well

[@jkc-kp]

I’ve only come to terms with this recently. But I’m absolutely terrified to let anyone know about it.

[@vincentdisalvo-yv3ge]

I admire your courage in revealing to the world your sexual preference for being bisexual. In reality do you really think the world cares? Most of us whether you believe it or not are bisexual in different degrees. All of us carry both the female hormone, estrogen as well as the male hormone testosterone. This alone will sway you one way or the other in what direction you are going. The problem as I see it with bisexuality is that it can affect long time or permanent sexual relationships. You may feel one way today and tomorrow feel differently. It's very challenging. However be it what it is, learn to love everybody and be happy.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Just to correct you as I've been corrected preference refers to choice , where as bisexuality isn't a choice who you fall for is who you fall for. Other then that I thank you for your support this video is 9 years old and I still feel thr same as I did back then , the only difference I found someone who accepts me for me.

[@kentmillamena1518]

Hey Jai, thanks for this video man because of this video it helped me to come out. I came out when I was 17 to my friends and now I am now 20 and fully out to everyone including my parents. Life is so much better now. Everyone was very accepting, even though they were all shocked when I've told them. Once again man thanks :) From UK

[@timkidd8491]

Great and uplifting video! I wish you all the best for the future.

[@Courtney-Jai]

thank you my future feels alot brighter now

[@DianaIsabelVR]

In my experience 19 years old is a very crazy age for bisexuals I'm proud of this handsome red-haired boy Sincerely, a bisexual female

[@Courtney-Jai]

I have brown hair but the message is still nice thank u

[@louisaturnbull3606]

Don't let anything get you down Courtney x

[@Tripper111]

I know this video came out a decade ago but I just came across your channel. Thanks for sharing your story I'm gonna check out some of your last recent videos.

[@Courtney-Jai]

@Tripper111 I recommend 5 stages of bisexuality and my reactio heartstopper I'm actually in episode 6 :) enjoy

[@annabanana21112]

I SUPPORT YOU ALL THE WAY!!!!! U ROCK!! I ACCEPT U FOR WHO U R!

[@Courtney-Jai]

and thats all i ever ask :)

[@annabanana21112]

:) I love just the way u r!!!! r u funny and great and so much more! u r worth something that is greater than ever and ill support u until the very end! plus r u my buddy! :D

[@Courtney-Jai]

ye sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet super awesome sweeeeeeeeet haha

[@annabanana21112]

teehee :D thxs I will always and forever accept you for who u r!!! u can always come to me to talk if u need to talk to someone cause im really understanding person and I love helping people! I always here for u buddy!!!

[@Desertsun17]

You are totally the sweetest.. You had me in tears at the end of your video! Be blessed and may life be full of everything good for you! :)

[@stuzz3511]

OMG you are sooooo cute and sweet here!! 😍 You've came such a long way Mr and should be so proud of yourself! Big fan babe 😘

[@TheBrianWright1]

What a good looking lad... crying and smiling with you!!

[@mattmcv]

Just came across your channel now and felt very warm and fuzzy while watching this - very happy for you! X all that matters is that you are happy! X

[@prabhavgautam]

You are brave love... :) you know its all right. there may be few ups and downs.. But believe that there are people who will love you, support you, and will always believe in you.

[@LenHealsU]

Excellently stated! Thank you for your courage and fortitude coming out like you did, inspiring others, including me!

[@frl24]

ho damn you makes me cry, you are the sweetest person and a big human, thanks for that words, are very inspiring.

[@BrownsBacker]

How do you think that a show like Heartstopper would have made 19 yr old Courtney feel better in his self acceptance and coming out process?

[@Courtney-Jai]

19 year old Courtney would have felt like he wasn't alone that there were people who felt just like him. It's something I so wished I had when I was a kid.

[@BrownsBacker]

@@Courtney-Jai it's such a lonely time...especially if you don't have any other out friends.

[@jamesdonovan466]

Your something else Courtney. An amazing, very personal story that's so uplifting x

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thank you I try my best

[@salicityhoffses5708]

This is amazing, I support you 100%. I have to admit that coming out was hard for me also but you are brave and amazing!

[@cody_codes]

Thank you for this video, I really appreciated hearing your story. I’m going through a bit of an understanding with myself recently that I’m bisexual as well, and hearing you tell your story gave me a boost of confidence. Thanks again and I’m so happy for you :)

[@WilliamLingenfelter]

You are a very sweet person, whoever you settle down with will be a very lucky person. A long and happy life to you.

[@Lillulivsad]

So young, so cute and so brave! Love you!

[@xiballisticsix6942]

This is quite the heartfelt and inspirational video. For the last year, I've been questioning myself in terms of my sexuality. It was a bothering experience as I didn't really have a definitive answer as to who I really was. However, in these last few days I've come to a conclusion. The conclusion that I am bisexual. I've accepted and embraced the feelings that had been appearing for so long. Good for you on your experience.

[@Courtney-Jai]

+XiBallisticsiX well that's the first step I spent so long saying was I right or wrong but then I just thought these feeling are natural there loads of other people like this so I just accepted it and I'm a lot happier as a person for it

[@xiballisticsix6942]

+Courtney-Jai Well, that's it. Once you realise that you are not alone, it will be much easier to accept yourself. I felt very much the same way as yourself, but now I can say with pride that I know who I am.

[@Courtney-Jai]

and that's all everyone need to know as long as your okay being yourself that the first step