My CONTROLLING MOTHER is DEMANDING that I BREAK UP with my Boyfriend... - Reddit Podcast

[@ConnorPugs]

It’s crazy how some parents think they can rule their kids lives FOR THEIR ENTIRE LIVES…

[@josephtheprogamer8030]

It's crazy how one of your fav KZbinrs listen to someone else like 🥵

[@AlexEditsStuff]

Connor pugs!?

[@AlexEditsStuff]

Wow i watch ur vids too😅

[@AlexEditsStuff]

Ye😂

[@Charles_3213]

Yeah agreed

[@Ayaforshort]

The mocking you while crying is out of the NPD mom playbook. She is seriously deranged and it has nothing to do with OP. If you have a parent that treats you this way get out ASAP. Go no contact because they will try to destroy your life!

[@aetheralmeowstic2392]

I got password privacy at _13._ Honestly, the ability to treat your children like human beings should be a legal requirement for being a parent.

[@prettyesther9696]

You know, it is almost the same situation as me. My parents are very controlling in everything and the first time I had a phone, i was 18. Yeah, sometimes it sucks but these story is way too over the line and best to cut off your toxic family to protect yourself from drowning in toxicity.

[@sharkie018]

It should already be common fucking sense

[@duggggggg]

I personally was forced to tell my mom my pass code to things like my phone. But that never bothered me as the only time she'd ever have my phone were when I was grounded. Which wasn't often. I wasn't even allowed to have social media until last year. But that never bothered me as I didn't have anyone I wanted to talk to anywaysm

[@chrismc410]

Some parents never do it. Mine aren't nearly as bad as that but I am also 43. Pushing back is a sight easier if one is 21 more than twice over. In other words, by any definition, I'm a grown ass man

[@Box_creature]

My mom doesn’t even give me password privacy privileges,and she’ll even grab my phone out of my hands and search through it at any given moment. Heck I’m not even allowed to close my door

[@angelicakelly829]

I have to say that the first story super triggered me because my mom is the same way. I have literally moved over a hour and half away because she would randomly pop up at my house. She doesn't think that she does this but she guilts me really bad and I used to be the same way have her voice in my head telling me what I can and can't do or why should and shouldn't do even now after having my second child I am still struggling but it's gotten a lot better thanks to therapy and my new significant other.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Oh my word, me too. To make matters worse, my sister was/still is the Golden Child. So not only did my mother act like a gaslighting controlling narcissistic crazy person, she handled my sister with kid's gloves. My mom now doesn't try me anymore because she knows I will cut her off forever and not think twice about it. To the OP of the first story: do what you gotta do to let go of that guilt. That is the only thing holding you back. You're a grown woman and don't need Mommy anymore. She's sick. Get far away from her.

[@weeb535]

Send her to a mental hospital

[@kanna231]

The mother is such control freak that needs to seek help and learn her lesson that she can't control you anymore since you're 18 years old you're adult it's time for you to get your own life without her controlling habit if she was my mother I would just leave her and never look back until she will her lesson.

[@AlexEditsStuff]

I like everyones comments.🎉

[@FangedDiamond78]

@@AlexEditsStuff wow

[@shadow2v1]

For the creepy friend thing, he was unstable and searched for help ( it's a good thing for someone admitting he needs help) blocking him again can cause something bad, in my opinion don't give him the same trust and everything but try to communicate with him about his problems, mental issues are very dangerous and can't be controlled without help

[@Nyxworld_.]

right bc I can see a little of myself in him, recently my childhood friend got a bf and I just personally think they spend way too much time together. I know they only see each other 2 or 3 times a month. and I see her almost every day but I just don't like sharing her attention and I feel kinda selfish. he's a cool dude I actually really like him and would consider him a friend. but it's uncomfortable to be sleeping over and she's just talking to him and not including me in the conversation when it used to be just us 2 laughing all night long until her mom would come into the room telling us to go to bed. if she ever chose him over me I wouldn't know what id do I don't have a rock as hard as her. I would go ballistic to the point of insanity where therapy would not be an option. I have extreme trust issues and hate being fucked over, I grew up in a broken home and have emotional trauma. I really don't want to end up like him but ik I can so it scares me. if you actually read this random person on the internet I apologize for my rant lmao! XD

[@dulcegamez3364]

@@Nyxworld_. wow you really need help... how can you say therapy won't help you?? Because I really think you should get some help... I grew up in a broken home too and I love my friends and I feel so happy for them when they find someone who loves them. It's kind of weird and creepy thinking she should only focus on you. One day she's going to get marry and have kids....

[@OKAYOKAY420]

​@@Nyxworld_. nah, you NEED therapy asap.

[@KaityKat117]

Yeah i didn't like AITJ's response to that one. I think Jim deserves a second chance. Maybe not just outright trust him right away, but give him a chance to prove he's changed.

[@mushmello526]

Maybe, but you shouldn't be obligated to not do something because someone else could be affected by it

[@kaia7768]

For the last story I feel like it only becomes a deal breaker when you take into consideration that they've been dating for 12 freaking years and she's constantly being excluded from family events. It honestly doesn't seem like he's serious about her and it doesn't seem like it's going to change anytime soon if I was her I would definitely start reconsidering my options.

[@eeveebrosstudios]

Well we don’t know if she’s been constantly excluding from these events, if anything, she only seems to be excluding when it’s circumstantial at best and ignorant at worst, and from what I can tell, those moments seem far and few between. And I’d say he is serious about her considering that they’ve been together for 12 years now, and if he wasn’t serious, I don’t think he would be distressed by this, he would have probably said something like “you complain to much” or “I’m done with you” when she blew up and just broke up then and there

[@TheeKaroolyne]

I agree, it's been 12 years and the boyfriend doesn't even think of her because it was a "family event"... She has been his partner for more than a decade and he still doesn't think of her as his family.. I mean... yikes And yeah, I find it worrying that the GF says it is a repeated pattern and the BF still can't see the problem Idk, I don't like the vibe there

[@Chrissy85308]

That is what I was thinking. 12 years and she has been excluded from family events before. She wants him to stand up for her and show support for her to his family.

[@AddyCBaddie]

@@eeveebrosstudios in the story they did say that it’s happened more than once before. I’ve been married for about 12 years and this was a major problem in my marriage. My husband didn’t realize his family was excluding me from things but years later they had to admit to it and apologize to me, because they had been repeatedly excluding me and feigning ignorance. We have intuition as human beings, and if people learn to follow their intuition, they will know when somebody is purposely being mean to them. Those kinds of behaviors need to be called out. And if someone’s been together for 12 years, there’s no way their family excludes the partner on accident. After 12 years together one family member is basically a couple when you think about family events. Somehow they conveniently had enough time to buy the mothers ticket, buy the other girlfriends ticket, buy all the family members tickets, and no one thought of his girlfriend of 12 years. No, this was done on purpose and has been sneakily done on purpose multiple times. And this person just doesn’t wanna think badly of their family, but they obviously do not like his girlfriend. Even with the minimal information that was given it’s very apparent.

[@JadeCaro]

As for the last story, the OP mentioned that the girlfriend said this wasn't the only time something like this happens. To always be unconsciously forgotten about is just as hurtful as being out right rejected, because that means you don't matter enough to them for them to even think of you. How on earth is a girlfriend of 12 years not considered family yet? Yes, the OP might do things with his gf, but doing things together with only your S.O is different from being included/invited to family events.

[@eeveebrosstudios]

It’s also important to note that we don’t know how frequently she’s been left out, but ops explanation seems like it’s usually circumstantial if it happens often, not to say that’s definitely true of definitely false, but it’s important to keep an open mind about this as we only know as much as op wants to tell us

[@JKGirl90s]

@@eeveebrosstudios It said something when someone who has dated for over a decade feel conscious about it. A year or two could be waved off as her being overly conscious and making a mountain out of a molehill but 12 years makes me more inclined to believe the girlfriend more. I don't think a girl who has invested over a decade dating OP would consider ONE incident as a deal breaker, sounds more like the last straw that breaks camel's back to me. Severals case of 'being excluded' from SO's family is not rare in reddit, but usually 2+ years relationship- this is over a decade.

[@TheeKaroolyne]

Yes yes yes, and yes

[@horothewisewolf5436]

Poor Jim man. He wasn't right in the head and it ruined his relationships. Now after getting the help he needed they're to afraid to even show a little trust he might have changed. I don't blame them. And I wish the best for him. If you're reading this stay strong Jim life happens and moving on will help the pain. 🫡

[@takira0971]

For the last story not being invited isn't a deal breaker, the deal breaker is the fact that he's dated her for 12 years and has still not gotten as serious as getting engaged or getting married. But hey it could also just be an agreed upon arrangement

[@Sir_Trollman]

I think they have a reason, plus they don't say if they are engaged or not

[@karinagutierrez7134]

No one is willing to pull the plug on a long term relationship over being left out one time. This is a last straw situation - either she has been left out too many times, doesn’t trust the brother’s gf, feels this means he doesn’t view this relationship that seriously, or has unrelated issues in the relationship. Regardless, OP was thoughtless in the situation from not extending the invite earlier. I can’t imagine my partner telling me, “hey, I don’t like being left out” and not making sure I check if I can invite them on future outings. Or telling them, “hey I’m going to do this thing with my family and really want it to just be us.“ Also, having the other gf join “family” events implies the other gf is serious enough to be considered family while she’s relegated to just being “some girl”.

[@henryjensen2849]

Oh my god, my mom does the same thing as the first stories mom. Mocking, thinking she is always right, screaming at me for no reason.

[@monkeydluffy-ei3um]

You can't control people's lives especially if they're your children! Also who are you To Demand that they break up with their boyfriend? and not even for a good reason

[@AlexEditsStuff]

I like everyones comments.🎉

[@angus_ismyname3424]

OPs mom is the type of mother who would rather have OP be with a man with a good job, career goals regardless of how he treated OP

[@TheeManLion]

How in the hell is a gf of 12 years not being invited to family events? Like, that is a life partner. Is it just cause they're not married?

[@The_dandy_zombie]

that was my first thought too

[@manufran02]

For the second story, I was o.k the guy just needs to make time for his friend . He kind of felt left out ,all his friends in relationships while he was still single ; then the rest of the story was heard then Yeah he definitively needs to cut him out as a friend . No friend wishes ill will to others just because he's lonely .Shoot look at me , In my family I might be the only single guy while the rest of my family have grown .I keep thinking "when's my time " even with all the wrong things happening to guys out there . My god just look at Johnny Depp , one lie from a woman and his career and character were destroyed. Even then , I still want a relationship. But yeah , the guy should not be given a chance at all not how he acted towards his other friends. As for the fist , definitely the right move for her to move with her dad.

[@revolvingworld2676]

I can kinda relate to the second guy. Not in rhe psycho crazy behavior, but in the fact that literally ALL his freinds left him and he was the only one single. It happened to me in highschool. That dude has serious problems and needs a psychiatrist. And it is pretty messed up that they all went on double and triple dates leaving him out of the group, it does kinda sound like rubbing it in his face. "We just want to hang out with other couples" is kinda dumb. I have a boyfriend currently but I still hang out with my freinds especially my best freind. Admittedly she's not as clingy as this guy, but I'm not gonna cut her off just because I have a bf now and she doesn't. And "hanging around other couples" and not inviting my single freinds like some elitist sounds scummy cause that just gices off the impression that my _single_ freinds aren't worthy of my _greatness_ or something.

[@kermanbizzlebop8895]

​@@revolvingworld2676 yeah idk, like the other guy is out of pocket but OP and his gf sound like they're fucking attached to the hip. I don't trust couples that just ALWAYS wanna be around each other, I just get bad vibes from that. why in the fuck would a normal human being want to spend every waking moment around one person, so much so that they willing bring them around everywhere and only go hang out with others if it accomdates both of them ? that's weird man

[@AJgaming-ce1ln]

He got mental help to improve, and yet you and the op here wants to not give him a chance!? WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!

[@domherabaya4382]

I know having a controlling parent can be hard... Especially that anxiety is hard too

[@Anna-fk5hq]

In the first story i can relate to it sm. My mom thinks she knows me better than I know myself so she assumes the worst of me and is very controlling. I feel like I’m not being delusional and stupid when I hear other peoples opinions on similar situations to mine.

[@maxc.2411]

Op in story 2 has every right to want nothing to do with the guy, but holy shit stringing him along after the guy got help is fucked up. If you don't want him in your life then he honest. Fucking hell

[@charlenevarada--Stargazer]

I had/have a cousin just like that mother. I'm glad I'm out of his influence in my life forever. I even had to BEG him for EVERYTHING! Ugh!!!

[@lordhawkeye]

Girlfriend of 12 years.... that right there was your first red flag. You have been together for a decade. Put a f'ing ring on it or let her move on. Her blow up was very much a sign of other issues at play that you are either willfully ignoring or too ignorant to notice. In a heart beat I would have declined to go in that situation. Instead he goes to the internet to find the right excuse to get out of being an adult. Hell girl it sucks he has wasted some of the best years of your life but you need to get out now and find someone who is more invested in building a life with you. Good lord what a mess.

[@mahesito1943]

1. You dont know if she wants to get married at all or if they have talked about it or not 2. If there are other issues at play that he doesn´t notice the girl has a mouth too, COMMUNICATE whatever is troubling you 3. Is he supposed to ignore his family because she blows up? Family is important to some people and its not like the two of them dont spend time together already. 4. Dude is asking for advice on how to be a better boyfriend and adult and you shame him for it? Wow 5. The guy has been with for 12 years and he is not invested in building a life with her? Also that mentality of "wasting" the best years of her life is always going to cause trouble for her and all future relationships; because it implies that there is something better out there that you are "missing out." Good lord what a mess indeed.

[@The_dandy_zombie]

@@mahesito1943 if after 12 years the person i had decided to stick with was still not considering me family enough to be thought of for a fun event and somehow no one else thoughts to say 'oh hey what about that person you've been with for more than a decade?' either, id also have concerns about my years being wasted

[@mahesito1943]

@@The_dandy_zombie Fair enough.

[@reagansweetheart]

Ok, honestly, you should wait a few years before marriage. Even one year isn't enough. They'll most likely go through problems and not know how to fix it if they get married too fast

[@switchuser14722]

And u know this from experience cos I KNOW THATS NOT TRUE my parents got married when they were 20 and 21 and they r been together since and had no problems

[@reagansweetheart]

@@switchuser14722 yeah, um, how long did it take for them to date and then get married? I'm pretty sure they've dated for years if they REALLY haven't had any fights

[@adamwilliams4928]

@@switchuser14722 Not trying to be rude, but you don't know whether or not they've had problems. If anything, it shows how great parents they are, because from YOUR perspective they've never had any issues. Meaning whatever problems they MAY have had, were never exposed to you.

[@switchuser14722]

@@adamwilliams4928 trying to show that u pissed me off here but I do know that they ain't had any problems nor once in the two decades I been alive have they shouted at eachother or swore at eachother u know NOTHING about my parents NOTHING

[@adamwilliams4928]

@@switchuser14722 I wasn't trying to upset you. That wasn't my intention and I apologize for that, but the truth is, we'll never know everything about our parent's marriage. I'm not saying anything bad happened, but there are plenty of things our parents will keep private from us.

[@h.o.g.956]

Almost word for word conversations I had with my own mom in that first one

[@alpha-sama]

I hope Jim will get his life back on the road :)

[@AJgaming-ce1ln]

He did, its that op still didn't accept him after it

[@AnimeGamer501st]

@@AJgaming-ce1ln that's the crazy part as soon as he mentioned the mental hospital things clicked in my head i was all like ah he was probably having some sort of episode and was going crazy and because he admitted himself into the hospital he was probably trying to become a better person and it really did seem like he was becoming a better person the original poster is going to drive his friend into committing suicide and I will personally blame him for abandoning his friend in his hour of need

[@sonicthegodhog5474]

It's really stupid, treating a kid as a child, watching over her 24/7, when she is probably between 19 and 26.

[@kawaiimisanga]

For the first story, it's somewhat eerily familiar to my childhood. Distance, no contact and time does wonders. Therapy helps a lot too. Edit: OP is lucky to have a support system.

[@maem7462]

With the last story I think the best thing to do is fully explain the situation to the girlfriend and acknowledge that her feelings are valid and also let her know that your brother doing this annoyed you and it’s not fair of him to do that. It seemed that everyone was under the impression the it was a family event. Make sure she knows that you thought it was a family event and weren’t aware until the brother made it known that he was bringing his girlfriend when it was too late to get any tickets. I would also suggest talking to the brother for doing stuff like this quite often and let your girlfriend know you are talking to him. The main thing to say when talking with the brothet would be to ask for him to inform ppl when he is inviting his girlfriend and seeing if everyone else is fine with that bc the person who sent out the invite could’ve intended for it to be just for blood related family. Have him ask and get it approved and if he does ask and ppl say no we just want this portion of the family and he sneaks her in anyway then maybe stop inviting him. Another option is if it’s a situation where you can wait until he arrives and have someone call you and tell you if he invited his girlfriend or not if he invited her then you go to the event with your girlfriend as well. If you are already there than call the girlfriend and invite her

[@Landmantx]

That is such verbal abuse. No one should be abused like that from their parent.

[@octo1129]

The fact that Jim is gay just explains so much. He wasn't friend vs gf jealous, he was probably into OP and was jealous at the gf for being in his way. I just can't see a simple friend being this deeply jealous

[@callmemobile2]

Ok in story 2 abkut the "clingy" friend Clingy: someone who has emotional attachment to people, likes hugs,cuddles,headpats and other types of physical contact with either loved ones, friends, family. Obsessive: someone who gets mad at everything, stalks people, throws fits for no reason, has a creepy attachment to people, overall eerie behavior. Hope you know the difference now

[@aarushtherobloxian5710]

Give your friend another chance.

[@12_gauge76]

That first one opened some very deeps wounds, my grandma was narcissistic like that mother :( my dad still won't sign me up for therapy or even himself after she abused both of us for a good separate portion of our lives

[@Laurel_Griffin]

That dad is totally messed up. I couldn't imagine my dad ever doing that, or anyone in my family for that matter! I also wonder if he even has a problem with his kids looking at his secret messages since the person said that the family members borrow each other devices. Not cool bro 😤

[@knightatyourservice7512]

I've just DM-ed OP. I don't have an answer yet, but I hope she will respond. Although I bought it

[@knightatyourservice7512]

Sorry. No response

[@Paradoxicallibility]

"I can rule your life because im your mother!" Well we had no choice, but you do.

[@silexsilly8934]

Story 1: MINUS CHRISTMAS AND THE BF THATS LITERALLY MY MOM, Girl I get not being able to express yourself because you get mocked and yelled at for nothing, your not alone!

[@anti-classist]

After 12 years she isn't considered family? I'd break it off too and move on...

[@eartlcraft]

First story; Op should definitely put her mom is a terrible retirement home preferably one with abusive staff :D

[@billcipher3479]

story 1 going no contact with that mother is the best move

[@tag_u_rit]

If you have been dating for 12 years and you still just consider her your girlfriend you have bigger problems than going to a show

[@seancollins6255]

Someone need to call the Revengeance, to they can end the op's controlling monster parent, forever. 😏😏

[@abigailmitchell8877]

It’s so sad because the first story is the situation I’ve been in my whole life and still going through. I’m 20

[@ArmyB0830]

The text on the first one sent me back- my best friends partner yells at me for no reason and I have so much anxiety-

[@jaimeebidwell9305]

With the clingy friend one, I was on Jim's side until the baby part. I've been in his situation. You're close friends with someone where you do everything together and know a lot about each other. Out of nowhere, they completely ditch you for a partner. I'm sorry but nothing justifies that. I mean, I get a partner is important and they eventually become your best friend, but it's not fair to someone who you were super close with to suddenly treat them like they're clingy just because they're acting the same as they had before you started dating. It actually sucks being in that position, because you essentially have to come to terms with the fact that you're not as important. And them wanting to hang out with couples, I mean, there might be more to that, but the way he said that, it's like he can't separate himself from his partner? I think that in itself is a problem. Why can't you be friends with someone without your girlfriend? Obviously, it escalated badly and I definitely don't agree with Jim's actions afterward, but seriously, it really hurts when you're suddenly not important to someone because they started dating. It shouldn't be a "who is more important", it should be a proper conversation. If you are the kind of person that ditches friends for dating, don't bother making close friends. Don't hurt someone because they're only a place holder for a partner.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Honestly, this sounds like 2 things: 1) the OP grew apart from Jim and 2) Jim totally pushed him away with his possessiveness. What kind of friend feels they have to force themselves on you? The baby holding situation was completely out of line.

[@jaimeebidwell9305]

@@Claudia-lq3ns I agree on both. I'm mostly saying if it was a sudden disengagement from the relationship without a proper conversation or at least an explanation, of course the ditches friend will continue to act as they had before. He likely was possessive, but again, if the conversation of "hey, I have a girlfriend now and while I do wanna hang out, I really want to focus on my relationship as well" doesn't happen, then not everyone can just "let go". It's pretty much ghosting. Hard to say exactly how this situation played out as I'm sure many details were left out... But I definitely think the OP was an asshole to some extent at the start of it all.

[@suspishfishy]

In that last story it mentioned that similar things have happened before meaning she's tired of his nonsense. Sounds like he's being a jerk tbh. I know what it's like to constantly be left out of stuff. Plus, 12 years and she's not considered family?! Probably best to leave

[@Joey15811]

As a single person, honestly friends in a couple should make time for single friends. However the stalker stuff... thats disturbing

[@rainbowunicorn709]

Story #5: He should not skip an event he wishes to attend just because his girlfriend wants to be a child. If anything, this should be an eye-opener for him. Either she's trying to manipulate him with the threat of ending the relationship or she's actually unhinged enough to want to end the relationship over something so trivial. Either way, red flags everywhere, and you shouldn't let other people control you regardless.

[@smellycryptid6446]

Yeah, except she's been accidentally left out of family plans his brother's girlfriend is invited to before, after a while it doesn't feel like an accident. If that was me I'd be upset, I'd be worried his family doesn't like me, which is a deal breaker, especially if ya partner is okay with his family excluding you. I don't think she's trying to control him, I think she wants her boyfriend to be considerate of her feelings.

[@arnav_singh2905]

@@smellycryptid6446 I agree

[@kaia7768]

The only reason I disagree is because she said this happens before. At some point he has to take initiative to include his girlfriend and family events considering they've been dating for 12 freaking years

[@kaia7768]

@@smellycryptid6446 I agree I do think it's a deal breaker

[@karenshort3880]

If it happens over and over again for the last 12 years. Yes, it can build up and make her drop the relationship. I would advise him to get into counseling. Not just with her but with your whole family.and see if they really doing things on purpose or just accidentally.

[@kinggrunka80]

The first story was to relatable

[@mihaionyx4603]

I swear i know for sure one day one of the antagonists of a story ate gonna find one about them and immediately complain "no i didnt! I was the controlled and calm one neh neh neh nehnehneh" *insert other complaining noises*

[@bludragon9323]

Bro idk how you guys don’t blow up or do sometimes you guys are better people than I am because at that first story I would’ve thrown hands and chewed her out

[@DoubleDipp]

3:46 If this was my mother I would’ve just said alright and hung up

[@TTVz3r0dead]

When her mom says if you ever raise your voice or disrespect me again I'm walking away I would've called her ass and said "walk the fuck away then" in a annoying ass smug voice😂😂😂😂

[@STARS048]

that mother in the first story....I'll get the clow make up for when she says "why don't my daughter talk to me?"

[@malcire]

1st OP: Tell your mom to leave you alone. Try to reconnect with your dad if you're so inclined. You shouldn't feel bad about cutting her out. She's abusive.

[@khalidhamad5286]

It's crazy that her mom think she controls her life

[@AlexEditsStuff]

Kinda funny how he is playing mobile games now.

[@mrkitty5449]

Omg! That's just like my mum! Do I have older siblings?

[@driagonatas]

#3 should definitely talk to their father first, while they may learn some things that they didn't want to know there is always the possibility that their parents are swingers. It's more common then people think.

[@AnimeGamer501st]

That's disgusting

[@NEOWORLDMAFIANEOMATRIX]

I enjoy the videos really do the only thing I don't like is how a person can give someone advise without hearing the other side of the story

[@ConnorElzaim]

"A part of myself tells me that I should feel bad, and what I am doing is wrong," that's the part that was raised to be codependent and rely on your mothers involvement, because you've never been allowed to have independence. Your mother lied when she believed it was her job to prepare you for the future, because she would never allow you to have the tools to operate as an individual.

[@thecelticcrone7927]

I can See WHY OP’s Dad divorced her Narcissistic TOXIC Mom!!! She should absolutely Go NO Contact FOREVER!!!

[@AaronGaming1066]

Story 1: these parents need to chill. good on op for getting out of there. a wise man once said: _"Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child."_ Story 2: jim is not okay. Story 3: ops dad is most likely trying to cheat or at least get a one night stand

[@Ulysses-xl4pv]

The first story, Run! Run and never look back if she wants to act like that with your life she isn’t a mother.

[@juliane.mfarias9285]

2. His friend seems to be very lonely

[@ImmortalPlayer42069]

I have to say, the second story is quite a complex one. In my personal opinion your significant other always comes first, but I also think you shouldn't drop a friend simply because they are single. Of course the rest of the story proved as to why he was a terrible friend, no matter how jealous or annoyed you get at a friend having a girlfriend you should never take it that far. But there is a feeling that If OP had handled the friend better and not tried to ditch him in favor of his other friends then it could have turned out differently. I say this because I had a similar experience, a very good friend of mine tried to convince me in hanging out with him more than friend 2 because he wouldn't fit well in our group. I consider trust and loyalty to be a big factor in a friendship so him asking me to do this was like stabbing one of our long time friends in the back. Either way that second story hit home, but it is important to remember that no matter how bad it can get you never take it that far.

[@Tigers_and_Tarot]

My mom would hurt my feeling so badly, that I would sob. "I wish you were prettier, you're so dumb, no man will ever love you, you would be a terrible mom" etc. Then she told me stop being so dramatic and get over it. And she never alologizes for anything. Ever.

[@maryjane4432]

I think living together before marriage is important. You don’t know someone till you live with them

[@wastherewhenigotthere1267]

Your vid’s make me happy yo

[@Nigama_2003]

OP, you did the right thing by deciding to move with your dad because your mom treats you like a puppet. Controlling you and not allowing you to express your feelings. No parent should ever treat their child like how your mother treats you. I hope you go to the therapy and heal from the mental scar your mom has left you and it's best if you cut your mother off of your life.

[@ravenseesall2319]

Oh Jim who hurt you so bad depressed you so much that you lashed out so badly. I am glad he got help tho

[@Shikaschima]

God, this mother thinks she owns her daughter like a puppet.

[@aquariancat7010]

OP, do what you need to do for yourself, and don't be afraid to make decisions that are good for you. However, I would advise you to keep the doors of communication with your mom open. Just remind her afterward when she starts in that you're there for a nice visit and not her opinions and that disrespect of your decisions only pushes you away. If she starts in on the whole "I need to live my life for me" or " I need to do what makes me happy", just agree with her...."as you should." Good luck luck!

[@stephencunniffe823]

Man how did he not tell Jim had mental problems. Like he was clearly suffering and instead of telling him to get help you jump ship.

[@Paupau-s9l]

I woul have gotten a restraini g order if i had a friend like jim

[@andreakilpatrick8866]

Thanks!

[@bunuelodqeso]

As for the last one, I don't think the guy shouldn't go to the event to spend time with his GF. She's blowing it out of proportion and it's a family thing. He doesn't need to let down his family just to please a girl.

[@gracehalpape3021]

The Mother: If you ever hang up on me agai- *Hangs up*

[@wolfbyteblair3672]

Story 2 my mom used to have a saying she used on people like that guy. She would have told him "well, you can get glad in the same pants you got mad in"

[@micahh9351]

At this point, let her disown you. Don't deal with that toxicity anymore. Someone once said, every child deserves parents, but not all parents deserve a child. I don't think every parent is like this, I wouldn't have my family any other way. But this is just abuse. Get out of that life.

[@toad0720]

Classic abuser tactics. Separating the victim from other avenues of support.

[@Skaiserus]

For the second story, I dont think that the guy shouldnt go and spend time with his girlfriend instead. he should be able to go without consequences. Theyre in a relationship and best case scenario, they have their entire lives ahead of them. You only have so much time with your parents.

[@AnimeGamer501st]

My mother explained to me once you get a significant other or you're married or both and all that jazz that your friends who you spent a lot of time with and may have spent your entire childhood with are to be cut out and your significant other becomes your best friend that's just how relationships work and I told her that that's insane and that you should be able to spend time with those who you've called your friends or best friends as well with your significant other I understand where the original posters friend was coming from I was in similar situations as he was my brother from another mother was having double dates with a co-worker of ours and didn't invite me because I am not in a relationship it did hurt and it gave me a little bit of anxiety but I swallowed my pride and now I'm still friends with a man but his ex-girlfriend dumped him for trailer trash who by the way was the cause of the falling out that we had with one of our mutual friend all because he burped too loud honestly screw that ex of his and I hope she gets an STD

[@ralphramirez1979]

I put up with parents family bullshit for 45yrs. I haven't see or talk to them in 5 yrs. I'm happy

[@Relatable_444]

Love the content

[@AlexEditsStuff]

I like everyones comments.🎉

[@zacpace8430]

I love this channel

[@SketchrA]

You want to be a independent adult?! NO YOU CANT YOU WILL BE UNDER MY RULE AS LONG AS YOU ARE ALIVE

[@riguero7602]

Holy crap this just reminded me of my mom

[@allenfox7186]

First story, get out of there ASAP!! Anyone that controlling is extremely toxic, I would have moved out a long time ago. Second story: If he ever shown glimpses of his clingyness after therapy then I will not keep in touch with him. This is serious case of becoming a stocker situation. Third story: I would have confronted the dad about the messages, depending on his answer tell the mom. I have zero tolerance for cheating and this definitely has red flags that are raised. Fourth story: if she makes you happy, then ignore what everyone else says. Your happiness is what matters. Who knows maybe they turn around. Last story: I’m going to address the people who have a negative aspect of dating over 12 years. I had a friend who dated a chick since they were in middle school all the way up till college, they were ended up breaking up after 12 years of dating (good riddance because she was a control freak and extremely manipulative and took all of his time from friends and family, and gaslights if she doesn’t get her way). Anyway, if spending time with family and her not tagging along is a dealbreaker then it’s time to let her go or take a break and really examine your relationship before going through with the breakup. Has she interjected in any other aspect of your life, or have your friends and family noticed that your personality changed for the worst and vise versa while your with her? I digress, at the end of the day are you happy with her I do mean really happy, if so then see if she is interested in moving to the next step if not then its time to let go.

[@beasty909]

reckon mommy wanted OP to splt up so she could have him...? /: what a karen, poor OP.

[@maryjane4432]

They have been together for twelve years and not married, she needs to run

[@kurtphinney6158]

Holy hell this sounds like my fiancè's mother, I personally hate her guts due to her manipulative and abusive attitude.

[@ArtsyLili]

"That's his business, You're my Business." Nah that's a deal breaker for me and actually one of the most fucked up things I heard in my entire life Move out of there girl. Block the mother's phone number. That mother is not capable of controlling you, especially since you're an adult.

[@sandrasausville9103]

There should be a place to lock up these entitled parents who think they can control everything in their child's life. Mom needs to get a life wake up to reality that she is just traumatizing her daughter. Jim needs a girlfriend or just stop being so jealous about your relationship. He's definitely a clingy and creepy guy. Therapy might be a option for him

[@Ayaforshort]

Doctors: if they both make good money. She needs to commit to moving to the town, find a place to live *on her own then,* after a longer period of daring then they can marry. She needs to prove she can uproot her life and find a new job. Not quit her job and just instantly stop working and just start having kids, Dude is so worried about losing an attractive female, that he isn't thinking logically. It's kind of pathetic. He refuses to consider the idea that he might be missing something or that there might actually be something wrong with her, and that is how you get played.

[@Grubby-d8r]

"I love you more than I love myself" I get that you want to protect your child but LET THEM BE INDEPENDANT IF THEY DO SOMETHING WRONG TELL THEM IT'S WRONG BUT DON'T GO OUT SAYING THAT EVERYTHING THAT YOU DISAPPROVE OF IS RIGHT AND THEY SHOULD BE FOLLOWING AN INDEPENDANT CHILD WITH A SUPPORTING FAMILY IS THE BEST WAY IN MOST CASES. From what I heard the child is nearing the end of highschool that is a time where the child needs to independant or else college will probably not go out well for the child.

[@McKaylaGamez]

TLDW; Mom doesn’t approve of daughter’s boyfriend. Controlling type of Mom. During Christmas Mom yells at daughter for opening a present from the aunt. Mom makes fun of her. Mom calls and asks if daughter is gonna take her advice, daughter says no and Mom yells to the point of daughter crying. Cousin finds out and yells at Mom. Daughter is gonna sneak away to her Dad’s house once she’s out of college.

[@dat49]

Story #5: I can’t believe the OP does not get why she feels that way. It’s a big deal because it tells her that you are not serious about her. Bro, didn’t even ask if she could go, smh. What the OP and the reader doesn’t understand is that this is not the 1st time something like this has happened, the OP literally confirmed this 17:27. Bro, 12 years and you didn’t think of her. Yes, this is a relationship killer to me.

[@DOGGIE_D]

Hi Connor pugs, great video from am I the jerk

[@shadowthedarkshadow6960]

Honestly I feel the first story a lot My second cousin in my side now I told her yesterday and she's pissed and is helping me out in whatever way she can I feel no fear to tell her I'm 20 turning 21 this year for context I can't get a job either

[@missamanda2703]

Op 1. Needs to send mom to be Jim's mom in story 2.

[@Electricpuppet]

shes thinking about your job when older so much that she pushed your mental needs out

[@melizacastro4083]

Get a restraining order.

[@jakevex4198]

Now I might be wrong but there might be an update for a story one what I can remember is that she went no contact with her mom and moved in with her boyfriend not sure if the dad got involved but I believe he may have