My Crazy Mother Caused My Ex To Divorce Me But After 2 Years I Want Her Back r/Relationships

[@YuToobVideos]

FYI, I'm black and I've dated a couple of white girls. None of them realized that their parents were racist until they brought me home. The girls were shocked, saying things like "My parents always taught me that all people are equal and to never judge people by their color." I would just laugh and say "No one is racist until their kid brings home a black person" and laugh!😆😆

[@magnarcreed3801]

Did they drop their shit parents?

[@alaaesong164]

I found this one out the hard way about my mother. Couldn't put my finger on why she absolutely hated my ex who was mexican (he was very dark skin), she wouldn't tell me until I flat out asked if it was because of his skin colour and the look on her face told me everything I knew I needed to know. My sister brought home a light skin Japanese man, and she absolutely loved him, so I realised my ex was just "too dark" for her standards. One of the very man reasons I stopped speaking to her.

[@nkoistrash]

Im a black woman and literally same on the other side. Most white guys dont realize their parents are racist until they bring me home.

[@crazycatlady1425]

That's so sad

[@SuperPrettyPink101]

As if bigotry wasn't bad enough, they're hypocrites too! 🙄 preaching equality and then looking down on you, pathetic 😒

[@samalvarez8776]

I'm really glad that he realized it was his fault, not just his mother's.

[@GoldenLeafsMovies]

I couldn't go back, but maybe that's just me who thinks if I even slight someone I think they hate me and I have no redemption.

[@cyndyghost784]

With the Miscarriages... This is so similar to my mother in law... Except she told me if I had a baby it had to be for my sister-in-law because it better be a boy because my sister-in-law wanted a boy.... And it's even more screwed up than that. I had to have emergency surgery... So no other children for me other than my beautiful beautiful daughter.... Who is not my husband's child so is not her Grand... Much love everybody

[@WobblesandBean]

@@GoldenLeafsMovies I'm angry the ex went back to him. He didn't even cut contact with his mother! I guarantee you he will let her back in his life sooner or later, and his poor wife will suffer for it.

[@WobblesandBean]

@@cyndyghost784 Please tell me you left your husband. If he won't even cut off his wretched mother for the sake of you and his baby, he's not worth it.

[@thepragmaticexistentialist]

@@WobblesandBean I hope not.

[@thepragmaticexistentialist]

I'm glad he realized that he had to cut the apron strings to have a happy marriage. Too many people learn that truth far too late.

[@WobblesandBean]

He didn't cut them, though. He was still contacting her and s†upidly thought that was good enough. 🙄

[@notevenlistening6072]

I can't believe that mother in law. Who blames someone for a miscarriage? What level of non-education does a person have to have in order to think there is blame to assign in a miscarriage?

[@KaileyB616]

Well MIL seems like a racist, so she probably blames the wife because she isn't white.

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

That's what killed my relationship with my ex fiance. Except it wasn't his mom it was him. I got pregnant shortly after our son was born but lost it (I have a history of miscarriage... my Dr told me I was lucky to have our son... high risk pregnancy and he was premature) When I lost the pregnancy he called me a baby killer.... it really messed me up. But he's my ex now for a reason...

[@candypettynettie487]

You'd be surprised

[@notevenlistening6072]

@@candypettynettie487 I've heard of it in third world countries and among the otherwise mega religious, but that doesn't seem to apply here. Seemed out of place.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

@@nyxspiritsong5557 Well, regardless of what happened, congratz for your son! I bet he's a good kiddo. Also I'm sorry ya lost the baby. You ain't to blame, sister.

[@terryp2517]

Story 1: I am so glad to see a MIL story that turns out positive. He divorced, then went to work on himself and really set boundaries with his mother. I am very happy for OP and his soon to be wife! I really hope they live a happy and healthy life together. They definitely grew from this, but OP was willing to put in the work to make it different this time. That is the big difference between this and other stories I've seen

[@mongmanmarkyt2897]

I feel like what helped with this situation is that they both had lingering feelings for each other that couldn't be put to rest because of the circumstances of the split.

[@WobblesandBean]

I'm not happy about it. She was better off staying away from him.

[@vidhead85]

@@WobblesandBean That's nice. I'm sure you just said that to be contrarian. Good Day

[@hardtogetnamehere]

@@WobblesandBean I’m sure that couples biggest concern is if you are happy with this. Your importance shouldn’t be understated.

[@fafalina56]

Dating or Hookup 101....neutral meeting ground for the first few times. That prevents having perfume stolen, or worse.

[@user-wh5fj6pj6m]

Didn’t she do that? 20:04

[@ErdriedDeirdre]

Hobo-sexual is the best description of someone I've ever seen.

[@emasters8619]

Yep. Instantly added this to my vocab. Called my brother and told him that he was hobosexual, then hung up real fast.

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 2- what kind of thought process does it take to convince yourself it’s ok to steal someone’s stuff? Because he’s bitter you have some expensive perfumes?! What?!

[@amandasunshine2]

And _then_ to text her for a second date?? The _audacity_ 😭

[@pippo17173]

People don't ever be in relationship where the partner is tied to abusive parents unless they have a massive spine.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: I need more updates lol. S2: WTELF? OP, I'd take it a step further and report him to his school board. If a *teacher* is stealing from his date, makes me wonder what sort of things are going missing from his students/classroom. Maybe it's me being jaded, but I also wonder what other questionable practices he might be employing.

[@susankaempfer8427]

And who wants a 41yo with no moral compass in charge of children?!

[@Penelope9441]

I survived abusive MILS (I had two mother in laws, equally vicious.) My enabling husband who refused to stand up to her was convinced by her to cheat on me and later divorce me. It sucks we got divorced and he often says he misses me, but I've moved on and I can't live that kind of unprivate life again.

[@hardtogetnamehere]

I have a JNMIL. She has tried all kinds of crap with us. I always shut her down. My husband always tells me to be nice to his mom. I’m never nasty unless she starts it. But when his mom pushes him about me, he always pushes back and shuts her down.

[@Penelope9441]

@@hardtogetnamehere I'm so sorry you have to deal, but I'm incredibly happy you have recognized your husband's ability to stand up for you. That's a rare treasure. My biggest issue was he flat out refused to confront his mother about her treatment of me. I didn't care that she didn't like me, but I cared that he validated her hatred by refusing to stand up for his wife. Good for you! That's a good sign of a strong couple.

[@itzlexxii]

OP’s wife deserves better, I know OP worked on himself but why did you allow your wife to deal with some much hate from the mom? Why did you only step up after the fact? She should find a man who stands up for up from the beginning. Not to “win her back”.

[@jemase7931]

It sounds like he was already starting to grow a spine and put boundaries on his mother when the divorce happened. That spine just didn't harden fast enough.

[@telinhajp]

It happened with me exactly 2 weeks ago. I met a guy and brought him to my place. *While I was in the bathroom, he stole all my money (~$70 today's US dollar exchange rate) in the wallet inside my purse!* I only realized the next day, when I opened my purse to confirm if the document I needed was there. The wallet was moved and it was partially opened. There was nothing in my place that said: "I'm rich, you can rob me,I won't miss it". I'm poor! I receive government assistance. I needed that money to eat! Damn! 😡

[@telinhajp]

@Gi Gi I wish! He blocked me on the messaging app. I reported him to the date site, but since I don't have any proof, they can't do anything. Same with the police. 😞

[@waterdragondelta]

i don’t know if you’d be comfortable with this, but if you’re on social media at all and have a picture of him, or a screenshot of his profile from anywhere share that shhh! with a big BEWARE preceding the warning. This is not a chill guy you can trust to pick you up for a date, this is a thief and an uninspired con artist :P

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

Damn, can you do anything about it?

[@telinhajp]

@@waterdragondelta Unfortunately, I can't expose him on my socials because I live overseas by myself, and if my family knows I've been robbed, they'll be very worried about me. I live in Japan, one of the safest countries. That's why I didn't expect this at all. Though the guy wasn't Japanese, he was a foreigner. Still, I always leave my purse unattended in coffee shops and restaurants, nothing ever happened. That's why my family isn't worried about me. It's a safe country. What happened to me is very rare.

[@telinhajp]

@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 I wish I could, but I don't have any proof. And took just report to the police doesn't work in my favor. Where I live, women aren't supposed to bring guys home. So the police will judge me, for sure. 😞

[@porter0311]

Dude keeps trying to sneak in little bits of contact with his mom. He is gonna blow it again if he doesn't cut what's left of that damned cord.

[@D-Dollie]

Story 2: HE IS 41 and a TEACHER 🤦🏾‍♀️. I’m speechless 😶

[@fufufuaru]

"I was just overwhelmed by the life of abundance that you live and felt a bit bitter." I'm not rich or even middle class, but people with that attitude just gross me out.

[@kbf9644]

#1-It’s easier, and still accurate, to label OP’s mother as a bigot. She holds bigoted opinions. Her bigotry is not limited to a specific group. Not just various races but also identity and sexual orientation. Probably in other ways as well, such as class. It’s likely there just hasn’t been a situation yet that’s made her act out on it yet. So simply put she’s a bigot. And she’s awful. I wish you and your girlfriend the best.

[@tamaranicholson627]

So she was divorced at 22, married at 19, and they started dating when she was 18 at the oldest? and he was 26, 23, and 22 respectively? Something about that doesn't sit right with me, he had no business going after her in the first place- she was fresh out of highschool and only just legal enough to vote, if she wasn't 17 when they actually met, when they got together

[@twentyfiveyears5010]

Glad the story SEEMS to be heading for a happy ending but one big red flag is OP saying he is GOING to do this and GOING to do that about is relationship with his mom ("I PLAN on returning to NC after the phone call;" I am GOING to stop attending" family events). Maybe I should defer to his therapist's endorsement of this "Civil NC" but I believe you should never base a relationship on what someone is GOING to do, you have to base it on what they have a track record of actually DOING. IMHO, the wife needs to see like a year of OP successfully being NC with mom to move forward. Otherwise, he hasn't CUT the umbilical cord like he says, he has just squeezed it off and the toxicity has an opportunity to start flowing again. Easy to see if the issue were drugs or drinking or excessive gaming, or checking girls on Tinder, for example. A wife would be stupid to try to move ahead if OP said, "I have cut down and am GOING TO quit drugs, drinking, gaming, thirsting, etc." Nah. You show a history of HAVING STOPPED for like a year before even considering resuming a relationship.

[@catsncrows]

I have ditched and run after meeting parents. One guy's father married a much younger woman and went into a speech about how he wouldn't marry her "until she proved herself to him" whatever the living garbage that means. My boyfriend and I were pretty young and I didn't see him cutting contact anytime soon if ever. I was done

[@JulianGreystoke]

I stopped watching a different video to get my Markee fix!

[@rbux1636]

Same I was gonna watch a different video but I saw the title and had to click 😂

[@mercycunningham2813]

Hey Julian, seems like we have the same guilty pleasure. :) I stopped writting for the new video. Best of luck with Boots btw.

[@JulianGreystoke]

@@mercycunningham2813 huzzah! It's a great guilty pleasure!

[@aliciab8078]

Markee videos come out at the perfect time for me, on the weekends. this one came out at 10am (EST) and i'm just now settling in for my morning nap (I have nothing to do all day and got up at 7:45) and I can listen to him while I doze off and cuddle my dog, woohoo!

[@becauselifts9913]

Damn Markee, how dare you start with a wholesome and inspirational story! Drinking some water in response.

[@ladyv5655]

OP needs to leave his ex wife alone. Even if they are on good terms, they should both just move on. I would never get back with an ex, because there are always good reasons for a break up.

[@shells500tutubo]

Last story- I think the 41 year old teacher Tinder date checked the perfumes' cost and realized he committed a felony and confirmed it in a text message. THAT is why he stopped texting and just returned the perfumes.

[@cb9825]

He knew they were expensive from the beginning, that's why he stole them. Cheap perfumes would't enrage him about op's wealth.

[@ItsTheBaroness]

He is Mr Darci, he realised he did the wrong thing and fixed it, not to get the girl but to be a good man. They deserve happiness

[@shellchenonceau6987]

Per exposure of an Ast.principal & teacher at Trinity school in CT, for decades, grade school kids were "trained" to believe all wealth is "selfish", & now those kids are PURPOSEFULLY hired as teachers of new kids. Sad.

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 “I was mad that you’re rich so I stole your stuff” Like… dude. That’s fucked up.

[@JohannaNazareen1225]

Trust me, if he didn't let it happend his mother wouldn't do it. "And a man shall leave his mother and father and he will go with his wife and the two of them shall be one" You dont allow that crap and that's it! You mustn't just let someone do this. Even if they're your mother. It is one to respect your parents and love them. But to let her do this, noooo!

[@Cattat2goddess]

Last story... dude stole $1,200 in perfume & he's a 41 year old teacher!?! Wtaf!

[@sarahraisingmyvoice]

Story 2-call his school district!! He admitted to stealing 1200$ worth of possession IN WRITING. Teachers are undoubtedly underpaid, but that guy should not be sculpting young minds. He seems like the sort who’d go through their jacket pockets to steal lunch money while they’re in PE.

[@yolandamartin4756]

Tender date most likely took the perfumes that were still full to sell, if she keeps letting that looser thief in her home he is going to clean her out.

[@ria2sweet]

Happy OP is not a momma's boy anymore.

[@yamairad1]

Mom is only psycho if OP is in a relationship. If he's single she has no issues not talking to him.

[@mrjohnthedestroyer]

For the life of me I can't understand how people never set boundaries on their parents & keep them out of their married lives. It's usually the men that can't control their mothers. That was the love of your life & you did nothing & lost her

[@DisneyChar]

You downplayed your part a lot for welcoming NC mother into your house to attack your wife. Sad ending, he's going to manipulate his nieces/nephews into manipulating his siblings instead of just speaking to them.

[@hothotheat3000]

You’re asking a prisoner of war to return to the camp with only the promise of her captors that things will be different.

[@risingrat5491]

What is wrong with coffee and walks? Just don’t let the walk end up in your apartment on the first date, that’s all🤷🏻‍♀️

[@KaileyB616]

Jeez I don't think he could possibly say "lmao" any more than he did

[@rmhartman]

Three perfumes for TWELVE HUNDRED DOLLARS?!?!?!?

[@shellchenonceau6987]

I believe we choose narc parents as a challenge to stand strong & handle (or go NC with) people like them. Carrie KOHAN's book in her NDE explains it extremely well.

[@ttrev007]

I don't see the problem with coffee dates. why commit to meeting someone for a full dinner until you know their is a possibility something is there. I would not want to be stuck for a full dinner with a dud. coffee leave a quick escape route

[@audreynothepburn7663]

I somehow got a Reddit ad and the Steveo and Ryan Reynolds ad. Dky but it’s awesome!

[@jemase7931]

The perfume lady. Yes, this is your fault. Why did you bring some stranger you barely knew into your home? Why did you hop right into bed with him? This is not safe. You should know better.

[@carlrood4457]

It's a good thing he told her how he felt. Trying the friends route with how he feels would have been awkward at best and damaging at worst. Asking her out was the honest move and she was free to tell him how she feels too. I'm guessing his brother probably clued her in that he was still in love.

[@maeberriepie]

There are so many closet racists. I felt absolutely sick finding out that the only reason my best friends father let me (a little black girl) around her was because I only had sisters and my mom was "one of the good ones" . No risk of his daughter mixing with a black boy ya know. Found this out after 20 years of friendship when she let it slip. How many racists do I have in my life that just believe I'm one of the good ones. I hate all of it.

[@elsaflood6393]

S2. No matter how desperate you are, never ever bring a stranger to your home. Don't you watch CI on TV?

[@carolroberts4614]

Crazy isn't it? I thought that was the biggest rule in the days of Lonely Hearts and dating agencies! Don't let them know where you live!

[@ajb7530]

1st story, OP should move to the UK and start a life with his ex wife there

[@Jrskeetpro]

If he’s a teacher, send them the text messages!

[@philomenaquinn1158]

Last Story He probably steals from every woman he hooks up with,it could be your jewellery or cash meet tinder dates in cafes in public and always give the address of where you are stay in public and don't bring them home on the first date ,that way they don't know where you live and other public places

[@cheekyweb8055]

I can’t wait for the October update 😭😭😭

[@teenalot1235]

I stan OP's Girlfriend 👑

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee hope your weekend is going well 👍 Have a good night 🌉 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Holy crap and that dude is a school teacher. You know who is impressed by designers perfume? Young girls! Too knive to know that if it is not in the box it is used. This dude is a predator. Teaching and stealing bad enough. But what he stole…. Thank the Lord she has no young daughter living at her house. I would report the theft to the police. I think this is a way he can bribe girls that they are special. Images not realizing a necklace or bracelet has gone missing ! I don’t think it is for other women who would question lack of a proper or unused box. I from my personal experience am thinking she is going to see this dudes name in the news. And Not for anything good.

[@ljh5141]

I truly wish OP and Ms. OP, all the happiness and strength. I do hope that they end up back together and are really happy. We can live vicariously through their happiness, and if we could, we would run interference to keep MIL far away.😉😉😉❤❤❤❤👍❤👍👍👍

[@G14-Classified]

My family said they were ok with mixed race, however when I started to see someone who was black they weren’t to happy

[@vickimoss1943]

Happy Sunday, Markee! 😊

[@kegsyk8499]

17:59 heck yesssss

[@mikef2811]

S1: That is what happens when you are a momma's boy.

[@lynsthoughts3576]

YOU LET A STRANGER IN YOUR HOUSE??? WHAT THE FUCK?

[@stacia8057]

Curious if the expensive perfume was in the background of any tinder pics.

[@heydaddy2471]

I'm so happy for op

[@Blackfox_Kitsune]

gods it sounds like me and my Ex, only we have moved on from each other.

[@potatoempress5731]

Yeesh I wish I can just treat $1200 as a laughable situation like Story 2 OP >_>

[@robinoconnor553]

On the second story, why is no one mentioning that apparently OP slept with this guy after their first date? You barely meet someone and you bring them home??? No duh he was trouble. She's very lucky he only stole perfumes.

[@j_g9109]

That’s not what happened though. 20:03 “After a few dates we ended up at my apartment.” Even if was the first date (although it wasn’t), why _would_ anyone mention it lol. Oh no! People in their late 30s/early 40s had sex on the first date! 😱

[@bobbidarroch5527]

Love it when it's time for my Markee fix😅

[@middi6]

To be fair it could have been a lot worse given some of the tinder horror story's out their you got of easy not that that's any consolation maby try some actual dating sights rather then hook up sights like tinder

[@boneymeroney2674]

Good morning all.

[@amandaarcher7919]

I was hoping the Ex would show up with a boyfriend or a fiancee and OP to feel miserable 😈

[@babamoeensam7.1.14]

1st story, i 100% knew the ex was black long b4 he say it

[@anonymousyoutuber1405]

1st story: op is immediately the ahole for having outdoor cats.

[@jake8748]

I don't think they were outdoor cats, seeing as he was getting them inside. To me sounds more like just letting them have a run in the sun and eat some grass etc. Atleast that's what our 3 cats get to do. They have a short run when we can watch them or while we are doing things outside etc.

[@taylorwashington7682]

Wtf does that have to do with anything? He's an AH for his mom sure but your talking about stuff that doesn't mean anything to the story

[@carolroberts4614]

What's wrong with cats being outside?

[@user-lr7dk7mt2w]

@@carolroberts4614 some people think you shouldn't own cats if you let them outside and even look at it as abuse I prefer indoor cats but these type of people don't take the cats needs or the owners into account There are situations where the cat won't or can't stay inside your house but you could still be doing your best to take care of them

[@carterpitbull7366]

@@carolroberts4614 outdoors cats have a drastically reduced lifespan because they’re constantly hit by cars, eaten by coyotes, killed by sick people etc. they also decimate local wildlife populations and are causing species of birds to dwindle in numbers. if you want them outside get a catio.

[@Takeoverartist1987]

" this relationship wasn't beneficial for her anymore" thats all i needed to hear. she never looked at the relationship correctly. op is wasting his time with her.

[@CC-bn2ws]

I don't see the 2nd marriage lasting either.... If it even happens. He was "whipped" to his mom, and replaced mom with his ex for whom he is "whipped" to. Ex will get bored with it.

[@smoggy6849]

Low effort dates = Low value man? LMAO

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Well, yeah. No effort is embarrassing

[@smoggy6849]

@Gi Gi I said LOW effort mate I get it's a case-to-case thing, but do girls realistically expect a fancy, and probably expensive, dinner date when you both havent even decided if you two are compatible Edit: Im a bit retarded replying to the wrong person

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 2: Geeze!!! She took a tinder date back to her place? Wow! The life of a middle aged carousel rider! She's lucky CSI personnel are not taking photos of her lifeless body. Absolutely stupid!

[@TallLady123]

Sorry to be that name dick, but if this is in America then then name Bianca is most likely pronounced Be-AUN-ka. Ive noticed a few foreigne reddit reading channels pronounce the name like the way you do and, well yeah. Love your work and Im a big fan.

[@marciaashby9763]

I came Early 🖤, hope you doing good Markee 🙂

[@WobblesandBean]

LOL I have no sympathy for insufferable Mama's Boys. None. You did this to yourself OP, and now you get to live with the consequences. ETA: Yeeeaaahhhhh no. That poor woman is better off without you. You didn't even cut contact with your wretched mother! Also, you were 22 when you got together, she was 18. That's gross.

[@larag3747]

Good morning Markee, hope you're doing fine

[@Voodoomaria]

Story #1 So, the TOTAL stranger OP hooked up with through a dating app robbed her. What is that phrase I keep hearing? "Shocked Pikachu Face"? I was raised by older people, and my views are coloured by that upbringing, so when I hear about all these On-Line dating services, my mind IMMEDIATELY goes to the model established in my mind harkening back to the decades before computers. Many years ago, before computers and the Internet they had what were called Dating services, Matrimonial agencies, and "Lonely Hearts Clubs" [No, it Wasn't just a silly Beatles song lyric, it was an actual thing]. These services were never very well thought of. Although representing themselves as devoted to bringing hearts together and giving love a helping hand, they were the last resort of the desperate in a world where not being married was considered abnormal and borderline scandalous. There were of course the shy and the socially awkward trying to make romantic connections, but there were also the Cheating spouses seeking a hook-up, Con artists and thieves looking for a mark, Broke and Indolent men and women looking for a Sugar Daddy/Mama, or a seat on the gravy train, Homosexuals looking for a disguise [This in a time where homosexuality was still a crime in many jurisdictions, The world HAS changed], Many of the agencies were fronts for prostitution, or citizenship scams or worse. In general, there was so much baggage attached to the whole operation that they had a bad reputation, and people resorting to one were looked down on as pathetic losers. These days when i read about the relationship nightmares that seem to come out of the Internet equivalent, I wonder if there REALLY has been any change, or if these operations are STILL worthy of the reputation their paper, Brick, and Mortar ancestors established. Of course these days, the dating scene is so hazardous, ANYONE offering a "Safe" alternative will attract followers. Personally I see NOTHING safe about hooking up with a Net-Stranger. At least the old services, the legit ones, made a pretense at screening applicants.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Consenting to hook up with someone is not consenting to be robbed. A lot of the time hook-ups go fine. It's a personality defect of the person who did something crappy, not the fact that two fully grown humans decided to do the horizontal monster mash.

[@Voodoomaria]

@@Resilient_Sage88 When one engages in high risk behaviour, one should not be surprised that it comes back to bite you. Even in relationships that start after long acquaintance can go terribly wrong, see the Cheating Reddits for confirmation of that, But there are risks, then there are unnecessary risks. If someone you've known for years can betray you, how much MORE risk is there in opening your home and your self up to a TOTAL STRANGER? She brought home a respectable seeming man and got robbed of $1200 in perfumes. What if it were jewellery? Personal or banking documents? and those are just the MATERIAL risks. But then, these operations have been happening since the Victorian era, so it's unlikely people are suddenly going to wake up to the risks and stop, BUT they should ALWAYS be aware that the risks are there, and like the Idiot who cripples themselves, or worse trying to do a stunt for TikTok, I have no sympathy for people who are effectively victims of their own inadvisable conduct.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

@@Voodoomaria Bruh you are victim blaming. Your long-winded diatribe is just word salad for 'Hook-up culture bad' nobody goes into a person to person interaction thinking "Oh yeah this person is gonna betray/Rob me." Get real dude.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

I grew up in the 80's and 90's raised by late-baby boomer parents with a lot of influence from my grandparents on both sides. My observations are much the same as yours. I remember the "personal ads" in the local newspaper, and to most people, they were the butt of jokes because they were known to be shady dealings and a good way to get yourself into some trouble. Dating apps are no different than the things you mentioned. Just a modern paint job on the same old concept- same sh!t, different era. I firmly believe that if we'd had the technology back then, we'd be seeing the exact same results. You're right that they're no good. They're predominately about having casual sex with total strangers which, while I don't have a moral problem with it, I do take offense on a pragmatic level. The number of problems such indulgences invite into one's life is long. Unwanted pregnancy, disease, violence, theft, stalkers, child support, jilted lovers, angry partners, jealousy and assorted flavors of psychological and emotional damage. I can't fathom why anyone would want to incur so much risk just for an orgasm. Then there's the risk of death on top of it all. Murderous psychos gravitate towards whatever provides them easy access to victims. Meeting randos on a dating app is very good way to end up on the local news after some poor hiker and his dog find your chopped-up remains in a state park some years later. Furthermore, I think that the culture these apps have helped create has been absolutely terrible for male/female relations, and for people's views on romantic relationships. The bad experiences people have through these apps are leaving them bitter and disillusioned with the opposite sex, and I don't like what I see it fueling. But it's not shocking when one considers the sort of individuals dating apps are most likely to attract- people who are impulsive, reckless, irresponsible, desperate, shallow, judgment-impaired, oversexed, disloyal/unfaithful or have less-than-good intentions. Frankly, I consider the use of the apps to be high-risk, self-destructive behavior simply because of the things I've laid out above. There are some people who are looking for genuine, committed relationship, but I tell them that it's like looking for a spouse in a brothel in the bad part of town in the middle of the night. Even when I was single, I wouldn't use dating apps. I was never so unhappy with my own company that I felt I should wade into the toxic cesspit that is online dating.

[@Voodoomaria]

@@AngryReptileKeeper Chuckling to myself, Finally, someone who types as much as I do. I think we can both sum it up by the old carnival barker's call; "Ya Pays your money, Ya takes yer chances" Not a chance i would ever consider taking, I have to much dignity and self respect.

[@NecroticMaster]

Low effort dates attract low value men? That's laughable. Why should a man ever wine and dine you when all it takes is a few coffees and walks for you to invite a stranger into your home and lay on your back?

[@HisShadowX]

Story 2: The Lady hit the wall and got divorced and now she’s shocked people are stealing from her and only get sex and leave. That wall when you hit it is hard that’s why you know you stay with the person who loved you and accepted you as you were falling apart. You deserve your fate

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

Somebody's a bitter, lonely meninist.

[@alexius23]

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[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

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[@missflowerpower8724]

What an AWESOME love story in story 1 ❤️❤️❤️🥲❤️❤️❤️