My Daughter Invites My Ex-Husband's Mistress to Her Graduation Instead of Me When I Refused to...

[@mzmindmybizness]

Zoe is going to find out the hard way, when a door of opportunity closes it'll stay closed for a long time. Why she choose to be lenient on her dad and not her mother is beyond me

[@zoe9190]

Those doors have usually been covered in tonnes of concrete, never to be opened again. Kicking an opportunity door leads to it becoming a safe

[@dollyl5596]

The mistress was her father’s secretary for a decade possible she also got close to Zoe since childhood and Stan also could have involved Zoe during his affair like taking her on their dates or bonding time with just the three of them unknown to OP reason zoe seemed to not react big after the affair was revealed leading to the divorce

[@deborahbutcher3933]

​@@zoe9190 could also lead to a broken foot.

[@shayneya3808]

Money, Money, Money. Main cause greed

[@sadejones6657]

She thought that her mother would always love her no matter what she did and she felt like she was losing her dad so she worked and did what she thought would please him. This is a childs reasoning.

[@BluemoonLacrymosa]

Zoe is a piece of work. Stan cheated and is starting a new family. Instead of holding him responsible, she puts all the blame on the mom? She expects the mom to do everything to pay, is giving the father a pass, and totally flips out to go on a campaign to vilify the mom when she doesn’t get her way. That girl is wicked

[@belindaazunigacoleman2431]

Stan had a five-year affair which reflects poorly in trust, credibility honesty, dependability, and reliability. Morals and work ethics are deplorable. He has no loyalty no devotion. How could they expect him to run a run a company with integrity

[@MrFox-xr9cc]

Not to forget his missing leadership qualities. He couldn't even keep his daughter in check to the point of it physically affecting his pregnant wife, as well as hurting his fathers and exs reputation, to the point of it actually hurting the business too...

[@jyvben1520]

@@MrFox-xr9cc "in check" a 17 year old, good luck with that

[@MrFox-xr9cc]

@@jyvben1520 "In Check" not in the sense that she has to obey every word you say, but "In Check" in a way to prevent her from lashing out and hurting her whole family and owning up to it. Theres a difference between a rebellious teenager doing things you might not like, and a person actively hurting others.

[@Allie_phelps]

⁠@@MrFox-xr9ccexactly. Our daughter is now 20 years old and my husband and I still keep her in check. Keeping her respectful, responsible, and able to take accountability for her actions. It’s not about control, it’s about raising a good reliable, respectful, and responsible adult. So yes keeping a child “check in” is possible, it’s what the parents are willing to do to make them that way. That is what’s wrong with so many of the youth these days, parents give in to their child(ren), letting them get away with their awful behaviors and even rewarding it and now we have the youth we have, disrespectful , irresponsible, unreliable, and selfish children that thinks the world owes them something just for them “being them”. In other words “Zoe”

[@MrFox-xr9cc]

@@Allie_phelps To be fair, you have disrespectful, irresponsible and unreliable people in every generation, leading to parts of the next generation becoming the same. Been this way throughout history. Otherwise I agree with you.

[@virtualatheist]

Zoe has a history of shooting herself in the foot. I foresee a sad future for her.

[@RH-wg6mt]

It reads like Mark is the only adult who knows what he is doing.

[@marycarlin1911]

Nope, tell your ex-husband to pay for her college and tell your daughter to get a job and pay for herself

[@razofdead]

Now is unemployed and daugther at end get job…. So not good timming your suggestion

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@razofdeadI’m sure it was said before everything fell apart. Entitled people never see their downfall ahead of them!

[@XeniaMS-yv5fy]

Apart from the idiocy of keeping very valuable family heirlooms in a box in the attic…this story is the best advertisement for contraception that I‘ve heard in a while

[@marchellewilliams5945]

on both the daughter and the father, consequences for bad behavior

[@brendapisciotta4690]

Don't initiate a game of f*ck/f*ck with people who are able to wreck your life.

[@ssg1885]

How can someone take their father's and his mistress's instead of her own mother who raised her

[@raypelmer5013]

Mark is a legend

[@SWilliamsR]

Well, mom, you know not to give your daughter the Necklace. She will sell it right out of the gate.

[@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678]

This is when you start looking for someone else in the family. Hopefully cousins etc who will honor love and cherish this item. My husband and I are in the middle of that His children will receive nothing from his families inheritance. No pieces of memorabilia etc. They have allowed their mother who refused to let him see his children for 14 years for no other reason other than they couldn't lie enough for her yet she destroyed all the truth that existed on the father's side lying to them about the child support medical dental etc denying that it even existed. They still side with their mother won't even let their father speak to them so we realize it would be foolish to give them things from his parents and grandparents. Since I had no children there is no one to inherit the heirlooms I inherited but luckily on my family's side my father has a wonderful family who will treasure the things I will be returning. They passed them around throughout the family at reunions and people go home and bring them back years later things don't go out of the family they stay within.

[@tadams827]

ALL actions have consequences/ramifications. Seed, Time & Harvest relate to everything. You reap what you sow.

[@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678]

Beautiful words. ❤

[@RedPanda74]

What the F was Zoe doing in the attic going through her mother’s things?

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

True, but I am honestly surprised Zoe even told her mother about finding it, instead of selling it behind her back!

[@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678]

Keeping a valuable heirloom in the attic bad part of the story but a lot of people do that. As a personal property appraiser yeah like antiques roadshow but I went to college for it I hate to tell you how many times we find valuable things in the worst places. A lot of jewelry coins etc just end up out in the trash because people don't know what they're looking at when they're cleaning out boxes and boxes of stuff that got sent to them or they took when someone died and never were looked at since it was packed up a century before. Although the internet has changed many things and people now know to look between the pages of books etc. It still happens. I know a friend who inherited her father's tribes wampum belts. Yeah, he was a Chief's son the last living chief & he didn't go back to where he comes from in the east. He didn't want to take over the tribe because he fell in love with a California girl during World War II and stayed in California. The tribe didn't know what to do because the items had always been handed down In the Chiefs family so they sent them out to her dad when the old chief died. Unfortunately When he died his family put the wampum belts in a closet! Wampum belts were literally the story of the tribes history being extended over time. There are people who spend their whole lives learning how to decipher these especially many people who went back to the tribes and got them to show what symbols meant. They are extremely valuable. These were just sitting in a closet so that a house cleaner was able to steal & sell them on the black market. My girlfriend said well we didn't know how important they were at the time. Oh yes you did. You just didn't care because it was your dad's past and he didn't show you that you should respect it. He wanted to be modern & European that's why he married a European woman and raised his children so they knew nothing about their past. He destroyed the history of his people. He should have never kept them. He should have sent them back or gave them to the local university for safety. Now they are in the hands of a private collector.

[@RedPanda74]

@Wow. You have too much time on your hands.

[@crankyoldwoman]

Mom, would be a fool to pay any portion of Zoe's tuition. Don't do anything for the hateful little brat.

[@slyph63]

Zoe is a brat and both parents are at fault. Mommy for spoiling her and daddy for dumping his daughter

[@dragonlady1360]

I have a masters and a doctors,I paid for myself. I worked and went to college at the same time.

[@dianecheney4141]

You should wear the necklace because as soon as you are gone, your daughter is going to get rid of it. It's the focus of her resentment

[@jacquelinemois]

Zoe has to prove she's changed and time will tell. She's a total brat. Hats off to Mark.

[@susannaseay4799]

"our relationship remains complicated"...NO KIDDING !!!

[@laurentucker7471]

"when he was about to become a father" like you have an adult daughter what

[@sadjaxx]

Mark is a grown man and he made his decision just as Stan has made his. Its not up to OP to convince him.

[@ifynwamma]

Story of entitlement at its BEST!. Hope Zoe has learnt her lesson.

[@bornontherimofchaos]

I wouldn't give her the necklace never.

[@koraXro]

Zoe is her father's daughter sadly

[@dianecheney4141]

Stan knows you have a chunk of money and a valuable necklace. Having a mistress is expensive and the gf is used to nicer things

[@Autumnfaery2003]

What a horrible daughter. She ruined all members of her family.

[@MizzShortai]

Id have said "thats rich coming from you. You didnt seem to care about family when you decided to sleep with a married man did you.?"

[@michelehofstetter4803]

There'd be absolutely NO money for Zoe from me. I don't fund people who treat me like shit - it's just a policy of mine. If she's okay with her cheating pos dad not contributing to her college, she'll be delighted with her mom following suit. Let her run to her father. I wonder how she'll feel when he lets her down. And he will. I just hope her mother turns her back on this young woman's ungrateful ass.

[@crankyoldwoman]

Stan's mistress is a marriage wrecker, she has no say in anything.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

So you have raised a spoiled, selfish, little brat! What a heartless Bruja! You and your ex have a serious problem! Let Zoe stay with her dad! Your father in law is a good dude!Stand your ground! Resolve the issue? Or been resolved. Maybe not to their liking but resolved nonetheless

[@dejebony4614]

The moment when she wants a nd needs support I guarantee her father won't be there. But the fact the MISTRESS had audacity to text the mother/ex wife, mistress should never step out of bound like you didn't knowingly have an affair with this man for 5YEARS. Don't ever part your lips to speak to me about my child or anything else for that matter.

[@kesami123]

You are not entitled to your parents money.

[@dianesullivan1047]

If she had just taken out the loans when you croaked , she could’ve sold the necklace to pay off the loans and avoided all of this drama

[@MimiNwabuokuMD]

This girl, Zoe…🤦🏻‍♀️oh my sainted aunt. She has so much grace to spare for her cheating a$$ daddy but none for her momma. And why on earth is OP being expected to fix isht that she didn't break? Dafuque, Stan?

[@ma.stellatumlos8700]

Nope. Don't give her anything

[@daisysmum7336]

Good lord. How many of us paid for our educations? My parents had no money and all 4 kids were expected to pay for our own tuition, books and accommodation as we lived in a small town hundreds of miles from any post secondary education. We had scholarships and took out loans and we all worked in the summers and during the school year. Kids are too soft and do not understand responsibility.

[@suan1]

I think a majority of children dont get college money. Wild she expects money.

[@lesleygreen273]

Is Zoe on drugs? Her behaviour seems unhinged.

[@amalianurlatifah8703]

Or was it the result of evil whispers from her future stepmother?

[@caffinecircus]

Nope, no college money at all from me if that was my kid.

[@TacoCat_Fabio]

Half of the stories here are from kids describing how their parents never went to their school events and the other half is from parents missing said events and this is either aceptable or unaceptable depending on who is telling the story. You just need to read the comments

[@ednapuckett1042]

While Zoe has graduated from HS & entered college she is still technically a child. I blame her dad for a lot of what happened. I think he manipulated her spin out. I hope she’s able to become mentally centered soon. Basically, she had a nervous breakdown & spiraled.

[@dmoore8595]

The mistress had no right to give any input. She is the one who contributed to the Zoe's family being torn apart, by having an affair with a married man who already had a much older child. The entitled behavior coming from Zoe in most likely a indirect result of it. The mistress should have stayed out of the family in the first place.

[@claireleone]

Tell her to get a loan and work part time ...She's an entitled spoilt brat

[@likemarvelo]

Krakow in the background 😻

[@rosebelcaraang]

Daughter and father karma

[@barbarawissinger]

The story was lame, but thanks for the images from Kraków.

[@summerstorytrue]

I don't fund people w Let her run to her father. I wonder how she'll feel when he lets her down. And he will. I just hope her mother turns her back on this young woman's ungrateful ass.

[@crimsonjack8617]

But you KNEW about the recital.

[@jayking2228]

And sometimes plans don't go as expected, as long as she made the effort it should mean something

[@dekrus]

Wait so im confused... is mark her father-in-law or her stepfather of some kind? Im confused

[@RedditTales68]

That must be an incredibly painful experience to witness, especially during such a significant milestone for your daughter. It sounds like there may be unresolved feelings and tensions surrounding your family dynamics. It’s crucial to prioritize open communication with your daughter to express how her choice affects you, while also trying to understand her perspective. Navigating this situation with empathy on both sides might help mend some of the rifts

[@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678]

Think the family spoiled Zoe in a way they didn't realize making her feel like she was the perfect child. Also the girlfriend has manipulated Zoe exactly where she wants her making Zoe look like the piece of crap. When really the girlfriend's the one who's bad but I'm sure Zoe doesn't understand. Her father is the worst of them all because he's allowed all of this to go on because he's never wanted to be responsible and he had life-handed to him. When you give your business to your child it usually goes very bad They are usually spoiled rotten etc. It enthuses me when I see people as in my line of work I have to who their parent who started the company made the kids start out at the bottom and work their way up to be able to get the position they have those companies thrive progress and become the best The rest burn on the trash heap of nepotism. Children very often get manipulated by the type of mistress the woman is. Someone who hides within your own walls in your family and sleeps with your husband or wife doesn't look like an enemy to the kid. They look like you somehow failed in the relationship & oh poor parent they had to turn to someone else for solace. Zoe has always been manipulated very well. We have no idea how Stan and the mistress girlfriend now new mother manipulated Zoe when she lived at home with them all week long and only saw her mother on the weekends. Especially when you see that the girlfriend tried to make Mark feel guilty about not paying for Zoe's college but then right away oh I don't have that kind of money. No she married it. She stole it from the mother & from the grandfather by taking his son away from his marriage. Sounds like Zoe needed a wake up call as to what it takes to survive without extremely financially wealthy parents and support from them. The best people I've ever met working with have always been those who started with nothing and became something all on their own. It has amazed me throughout my lifetime would I have learned and the sadness people bring to themselves simply to their greed avarice nepotism and simply too big of an ego. Zoe was raised to think she was the perfect child the mother did not remarry or have other children. She never had to share thus expected that it would keep on going on for the rest of her life. Life isn't that easy.

[@katheysmith7591]

Why would you put this ad in the middle of the story? It makes me Lois interest in the story.

[@tatiaromero]

I'm curious, any proof this was legit tiktok viral? Lol

[@Fcutdlady]

Unless stan has done something dumb at work, you can't fire him just because he acts entitled at home. He could sue for unfair dissmissal .

[@ladylily]

Difficult to begin with how wrong you are with that momentous ignorance.

[@kcainmv]

If they're in the U.S, plenty of states are"at-will" and you can be fired for whatever (minus protected items like gender, race, etc.).

[@Tim85-y2q]

The one issue I take with this is to point out that to Zoe that woman is not "her father's mistress" but rather her stepmother. That's not an excuse to be hurtful, but it's unrealistic for OP to assume Zoe will have no relationship with her. It seems like at least part of this drama is the fact that OP is upset that her daughter doesn't share her own bitterness about the breakdown of OP's marriage.

[@RedPanda74]

No she’s not. They are not married.

[@chriswayne5703]

She is the mistress tho...she was seeing a married man for years,that's a mistress. She ain't wrong

[@Tim85-y2q]

Perhaps not legally but for all intents and purposes it sounds like they very much do have a daughter/stepmother relationship.

[@Tim85-y2q]

She was but things have grown beyond that and now she's "dad's new partner".

[@beagle_is_my_boss1402]

Grandfather is cold-blooded and that's why he raised a bastard of a son who cheated on his marriage and got his mistres pregnant and coerced his daughter into being evil

[@paulamoore1822]

Abortion should not be the reason you vote for someone

[@alphaq3368]

Mark is a piece of crap for firing his son

[@MrFox-xr9cc]

Why? Zoe, and by extension stan, hurt his and his ex DiLs reputation to the point of it being hurtful to the business. If Stan can't even keep his daughter in check, how do you expect him to perform in a position of power?

[@MrFox-xr9cc]

But why? I thought it was personally reasonable. No leadership qualities, weak character,...

[@raypelmer5013]

Y’all this was written by Stan himself

[@jayking2228]

Nah Stan's ward publicly defamed mark, and when brought to his attention he refused to put a stop to it

[@MrFox-xr9cc]

@@jayking2228 Also the fact, that it had to be brought to his attention... Apparently it was the talk of the town and even hurting the company... The audacity that he even had to be told to do something...

[@shadowgirl8038]

These Asian folks need Jesus. If the daughter is taking responsibility and showing remorse, ... How do you not forgive your own child??

[@marchellewilliams5945]

forgiveness does not mean forget... you can forgive and not give her all of the entitlements she wants. when you do wrong there is always consequences and sometimes that does not mean still giving all the child wants. she was out of line

[@nt0020]

Self serving request for forgiveness is not really remorse for being a selfish spoiled brat. Reality needs to bite her in the butt. Having 50% was better than nothing and more than most get.... prove your worth. Work hard, try to be a much better person than the entitled one you are now

[@Anotherhandle_name]

You can forgive a child, of course. But she had shown time and time again she is a spoiled, ungrateful, entitled brat who thinks the world revolves around her. She needs to work in the real world and make something of herself, by herself. If you give her back everything that is terrible parenting. She sounds like an awful daughter who got used to daddy’s money. Those type of people are truly the worst

[@jayking2228]

You Jesus folk need a backbone, disrespect should never be tolerated, neither should racism.

[@aleksandarvil5718]

The World's Smallest Violins 👌🎻👌🎻👌🎻👌 for Zoe 😂😂😂 OP & Mark = NTAs 💯🦾 👍🔥 Mark = Based Red-Pilled MVP CHAD 💯🦾🤩🥲👍