My Delusional Friend Is Mad At Me For Poisoning Her Dog But It's Not My Fault r/Relationships

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 1: "She said I obviously didn't care if her dog dies"....neither does she if she doesn't watch it to the point where she basically just shrugs when asked where it is, for all she knew it was, best case scenario, making its way to someone who would actually care about it

[@jettanyx1]

Where is your dog? 🤷‍♀️ playing in the street for all I care

[@WobblesandBean]

That's dog nutters for you. They're irresponsible af when it comes to their dogs, yet think everyone else is responsible for it.

[@GermanMae]

Like, I let my dog wander, but only when I know that the wander space is safe (read: doesn't have toxic plants and is fenced in)

[@XxTayC94xX]

For real. She was neglectful on top of why hasn't she taken the dog to the vet instead of asking op over and over what the dog ate? A vet could more than likely tell you what the dog ate and treat them for it.

[@katie6731]

​@@XxTayC94xX *Trigger warning! Discussion of vomit and of pets dying.* * * * * * I used to work in an emergency and specialty vet hospital. Over the years, I saw *way* too many pets die after coming into contact with something deadly. It can be the difference between life and death to tell the vet what the dog ate, and about how much. I'm not sure how the vet would be able to tell what the dog ate. Even if they gave the dog an emetic and a charcoal lavage (the usual protocol to start with), it's not always possible to identify partially-digested stomach contents. If the dog drank something, tore off pieces of petals or leaves, or ate something that dissolved in the stomach, it would be impossible to identify. Plus, everything comes back up covered in black slime, because of the charcoal. There's actually a poison hotline that vets can call for information on how to treat specific poison ingestions, as the treatment for one If the gardener put out rat poison, then the vet knows to give pupper a coagulant, as rat bait is an anti-coagulant. The dog could basically bleed to death internally if the doctor doesn't know that information. If the dog ate lillies, then the vet needs to carefully monitor the kidneys, because that's where the toxin does the most damage. The dog could have been bitten by something. Though, there's usually swelling at the site of the bite, making it more obvious that that's the problem. The doc would need to know what bit pupper, because some bites require antivenin, and some require supportive care. The dog could have an allergy to something non-poisonous, requiring antihistamines and close monitoring of swelling in the throat. If the dog didn't eat anything poisonous, but got cut on a thorn, or something, the pupper could have tetanus. Of the dogs who came in with tetanus, only one survived. That dog was with us for weeks in our quarantine area, because light and sound were incredibly painful to the pup. The bill was astronomical--about as much as a new, compact car--even after a massive discount. While the ex-friend was absolutely in the wrong for letting the dog roam, they wee doing the right thing by trying to find out what the pupper came into contact with. Though, the pictures OP sent should have made it obvious that it was impossible to identify what the dog ate or came into contact with.

[@Tijggie82]

Two reasons for covering up someone's face: to not see a face when using/assaulting someone (makes it easier to just see them as an object), and to make sure they won't be able to recognize you while you're assaulting them. Husband is so, so , SO problematic.

[@kyriacarica5862]

And now an extra 5,900+ people have heard about how much of an irresponsible dog owner she is. Hi, Suzanne! 😂

[@Movs.]

Everyone talking about the dog story, when the other stories are far more interesting and comment worthy.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

And like the self centered, negligent, and irresponsible person Suzanne is, she probably saw the post, ignored all the comments criticizing her for her actions and behavior, and is only mad that OP made her look bad and for airing their dirty laundry to the internet. She probably won’t take responsibility for what she did and she’ll continue to seethe and mald about OP and her audacity to have a garden or something.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

People like that always annoy me, no one made her look bad, she is bad, she sucks. If she wants people to have a better opinion of her then maybe she should consider not being a self absorbed jerk.

[@averycheesypotato]

Story 1- I doubt OP could even be in legal trouble. She didn’t poison the dog. Some dogs who are not raised right will literally eat anything, including rocks. The owner is 100% at fault, and could even be liable for property damage if OP so chooses. That “friend” shouldn’t be allowed to even own a dog, she is neglecting the animal’s well-being!

[@jespersschmidt]

No, in this case the owner of the property would be at fault and liable for any damages that would occur.

[@satansecretary665]

@@jespersschmidt but she was told not to bring the dog, was told to take the dog home, then she let the dog off its leash on her own instead of having control over her own animal at someone elses house after being told to leave. i dont think a judge would like that too much and demand to know why she brought the dog, wouldent take it home when told and then let it run loose like that.

[@jespersschmidt]

@@satansecretary665 Any decent attorney would make a case against the homeowner for neglect in small claims court for the medical bills inquired.

[@satansecretary665]

@@jespersschmidt well sure they can make the case but i really have a hard time believing they would win the case seeing as how she put her own dog in danger and ignored the homeowners requests.

[@zozocecp]

@@satansecretary665 Doubt they would win at all. They were told to leave and was therefore technically trespassing. The dog only got into anything because the owner wasn’t watching them! And there was definitely enough people there to say that as well. It’s like that lady with the small unleashed dog that got attacked by somebody’s bigger dog. Judge didn’t side with her because the other dog owner warned her multiple times to back off and her dog was unleashed and not in control

[@benjie128]

It's not babysitting when it's your kids. That's called parenting.

[@bcase5328]

Didn't the kids want to give Mom a card or something? Dad should have given a card and maybe a letter at the very least.

[@mariah4531]

​@@bcase5328Is it a thing now? When I was a child kids did cards and learned poems for mother's day at school, but adults didn't really celebrate it.

[@Movs.]

Oh he not only thinks it's babysitting, he thinks that's also a GIFT. This is so damn common with men it's not even funny anymore.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Gotta agree with the comments saying that it’s too convenient that the husband only remembers the part about him taking care of OP and not them doing the nasty. I’m certain the brother doesn’t know anything, he’s just one of those guys that are “protective” of their female relatives and don’t like it when they date or receive male attention.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

he seems to remember everything in extreme detail except the part where he assaulted her. which is incredibly convenient for him.

[@goreslashdow3813]

He also remembers bringing her home, but she said she woke up in the backseat of her car. So he took her back to her house and just... left her in the car? This unconscious, possibly drugged girl? I don't trust the husband at all.

[@owl7072]

​@GoreslashDOW not just in the backseat, but also covered completely, meaning anyone who looked in wouldn't know she was there, which is good in the sense of _other_ people possibly hurting her, but still begs the question of _why leave her there?_

[@goreslashdow3813]

@owl7072 That's a good point. I was always thinking of it as a privacy thing, but now it almost feels like hiding evidence. There was a theory that Rslash put forth in his video that the past times she blacked out was him drugging her and not being able to actually go through with it until the last time. And I don't know if this is something he said or something my brain just came up with, but what if him having the jacket over her head was to make it easier? Like, that way he doesn't have to see her face while he is assaulting her. And he just kept it there during everything and left it after.

[@owl7072]

​@@goreslashdow3813 that's what I was wondering as well when someone mentioned the jacket also possibly being a way to keep her from seeing him if she woke up 🤔

[@dragonrider1549]

Final Story - does no one else also find it suspicious that the husband also kept getting mad when someone said the daughter was his step-daughter? To me that screams that he knew she was his blood daughter.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 1 - NTA. If you don’t know what is in someone’s yard or a field, don’t bring your dog there and then get pissed at the owner. I feel bad for the dog to have a dogshit owner who doesn’t respect being told “no”. I would never blame someone for my irresponsibility if I wasn’t watching my dog and she got into something harmful for her, that’d be on me and I’d be wracked with guilt.

[@Rach420]

I listen to A LOT of horror & Reddit stories, but that story where the husband is her rapist is one of the darkest ones I've ever heard 😳😳😳 My heart goes out to that poor girl ~

[@kittikats]

I saw a worse one. It was from a different channel. A girl is pretty and popular at uni. Had a fiance and was religious. A guy in her class was into her and wouldn't take no for an answer. Girl goes to party and OP overhears OG (obsessed guy) say he plans to put something in girls drink. OP warns girl but since OP isn't popular or attractive (not sure OP was a guy or girl) girl doesn't hear them out. OG carries out his plan and for THREE DAYS repeatedly drugged her. Girl got pregnant, dumped and forced to marry OG. She did not do well and I believe ended herself a few years in. May have had another child with him. OG is now in a relationship with girls younger sister. That was the worse one I read

[@jboy804]

@@kittikats While it's possible it's true, that seems a bit farfetched, at least at the end. This honestly seems a bit out there and a bit on the nose on certain themes. Like the OP is not popular or attractive but is the good guy, and the victim is popular and attractive. Yet she is a dumbass which gets her world ruined when she doesn't listen to the good guy. Honestly sounds a bit like a possible incel spun story for attention. Has all the highlights: pretty girl ruined and her family ruined all cause they couldn't listen to the nice guy.

[@kittikats]

@jboy804 you think there aren't religions out there that would blame the girl and make everything that happened her fault? That the man wasn't hailed as some hero for putting up with a bad wife and mother and they're so glad he gets a second chance at happiness in their family? I believe the younger sister was at least 5 years younger so would not have the same perception of events as a sibling closer in age. Also I think the OP might have been a guy since it makes sense that if a random guy comes up to you and says "hey, someone's trying to spike your drink" you'd be put off by that.

[@jboy804]

@@kittikats Of course there are horrible religions that are incredible patriarchal, your preaching to the choir. The fact that OP claims she committed suicide would usually send off alarm bells as she didn't accidently die or have a disease. Of course religion again right, makes them complete sheep? Yes makes some sense in context of the story, but there is others things that are a bit fishy. If someone comes up to you and says someone is spiking your drink, I would expect them to be put off. Thus they would either leave or check their drinks like a hawk. Hell they may think the warner is going to do it. I mean did the OP just say well screw it and not watch out for her at all? Like OP knew it was going to happen and wasn't watching? I sure as hell would, I think most people with any conscious would. BTW how the hell does he know that the guy drugged the girl for three days?

[@Draggonny]

​@@kittikats A lot of England's colonies and former colonies are like that because it used to be a law in England that you could get out of a rape conviction by marrying the victim. That doesn't really narrow it down. America, India, China, Australia, parts of Africa and the Middle East. Old timey English people spread a lot of sexist bullshit around the world and a lot of countries are still trying to unlearn it.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, legally and morally, you told her not to bring the dog, she brought the dog, you told her it wasn't welcome, she didn't take it home, she sneaked the dog in, and then she let the dog run off and didn't watch it.

[@ItsYaBoiV]

I feel like story 2 is gonna turn really dark eventually. Seems way too convenient that OP kept passing out at the parties this guy also went to, then got date r*ped, and when it turns out she's pregnant he's right there to quickly play father, claiming the kid as his own "because he raised her" but I'm sure he knew. It's all just way too convenient and gives me major creep vibes.

[@hildajensen6263]

Yeah, I'm pretty sure this was a "baby-trap" situation. And I didn't even know men had that option. Unfortunately it also reminds me of the very religious kids attitude to partying when I was young. As soon as they had the opportunity, they acted completely irresponsible. Never prepare themselves with protection (or forms of contact that can't lead to pregnancy) but always jump on everything with a pulse, since they aren't sure when/if they can have it again. - And then act purer than snow Monday morning.....

[@bonmgarcia]

My heart kept sinking throughout this story. This guy is not a victim, it's all too convenient.. this is awful. He assaulted her, got her to stop paying, then manipulated her into a relationship. She married her r*pist.

[@dream6562]

They raped eachother, they were both drunk, you can't put sole blame on 1 party and not the other, also while not being consciously aware of what he did, him acting like this could be work of his subconscious knowing

[@bonmgarcia]

@@dream6562 load of bull

[@Project_KN1GHT]

@@dream6562… bro she was passed out??? She could not consent??? She was literally unconscious…

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

Hi, Suzanne! She doesn't get to fob off responsibility on OP for being a negligent dog owner. It's on her, 100%.

[@lilfairykiki122]

Op should sue Suzanne for the property damage. Plants and landscaping ain’t cheap. I know i would.

[@owl7072]

I can confirm this. Just trying to get the grass to grow has been a hassle and an expensive one at that.

[@roelthas]

Yeah, there is no way the husband didn't knew he was the one that assaulted OP, but OP doesn't wants to face it.

[@Movs.]

Op was a child and was manipulated by him, didn't find out the truth for over 10 years and she has more kids with him. Stop blaming her. Sick of these stupid comments

[@kateemma22]

The gaslighting he's doing now is truly next level sociopath.

[@jboy804]

@@Movs. Here's the deal, if it was just her it would just be her life she was ruining. But she needs to wake up badly for her kids.

[@courtney.marlene]

There absolutely is a way. Multiple people from the party couldn't remember what happened that night. People spiking communal punch with things like GHB is more common than you might think.

[@jboy804]

@@courtney.marlene 1. She should at least ask others from that party to even prove the husband's primary assertion. How quickly she caved, I'm afraid she hasn't even done that. 2. There's one clear detail that is pretty damning. The jacket over her head when she woke up in her car. Why was it over her head (AKA face)? That's a rather common thing when raping someone unconscious either to help with the act as it dehumanizes them and/or out of guilt for the act. Either of which indicates conscious decision making regardless of drugs. Her being moved is solely from his story, AKA could be completely false as she has NO memory of it. She could have been raped in her car which would have been away from the party and witnesses. Or hell, he did wake up first, moved her, and then raped her in the car. Thus most of his story was true, and is assisting his lie. Honestly with the jacket over the head in her first post, it had to be rape :(

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2- I was hoping for an update on story 2, but that final update still unsettles me. Maybe he really doesn't remember and is telling the truth, but there's so much suspicious stuff here- why did he always insist on calling the daughter HIS daughter? Why does he only remember the hero bit of what happened that night? I don't know, I WANT it to be innocent, but it's a bit weird.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

For me memories often come as fragments. Once my brain has recorded something that memory is broken up like glass and the shards are scattered and if later enough fragments are found something can be remembered.

[@mattiekarwin3667]

I mean, the insisting on being called her dad actually sounds pretty normal for someone who presumed they were a stepdad. Frankly it'd make less sense if he knew and was getting upset at people about it.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

​@@fiyahquacker2835 it's exactly how my mom abused me. Each little thing on its own looks innocent enough, but when you add it all up.. there are too many creepy things going on. Too much smoke for there to be no fire. In rslash's video, he points out she mentions this has happened before, but that was the only time she was sore. What that sounds like is he was drugging her multiple times and only got the courage to.. do the deed that once. And then he started showing up after the baby was born? The baby he had to have known was his.. Idk, to me it looks like he wanted her, so he trapped her.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

​@@mattiekarwin3667 this is not true, a psychopath who repeatedly drugged a girl until he got the courage to actually assault her would absolutely insist everyone refer to his daughter as his. If he really went to all that trouble to make this child, then he would 1000% get upset any time someone didn't call her his daughter. It's an ego thing. I'm not saying this is what happened, I'm just saying that "this wouldn't be his reaction if it is what happened" isn't a good argument. It absolutely would be his reaction.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

@@mattiekarwin3667 I agree. I feel like there are lots of step-parents who claim a step-child is “their” child if they entered the child’s lift at an early enough age. That part, in and of itself, doesn’t really throw up any red flags for me.

[@Ospyro3em]

2 videos in one day? You're spoiling us, Markee!

[@ajarfullofjoy]

I love my dogs, but I don't bring them without express permission from wherever I'm going or from the ppl I'm going with. That friend is a bad dog owner. The dog is sick because of her. She's also a bad friend, guest,etc.

[@rubystone9074]

Something isn't right about story 2... Either the husband planned all of this like a legit sociopath, OPs brother knows something, or like some commentors pointed out, someone at the party spiked something and everybody remembers nothing. No matter the outcome, it's awful. However, a nagging part of me just knows the husband is hiding something... even after the truth came to light he mentioned "I saw you in a really bad state, cleaned you up, and brought you home hoping you wouldn't remember" (paraphrasing) That's not normal behavior in my opinion.... unless YOU KNOW you did something wrong, and are covering your tracks. Idk, It's just all sus. Op is the only person I feel sorry for. And her daughter.

[@DisneyChar]

Even spiked I would heavily side eye the purity ring virgin that remembers everything about saving her but nothing about impregnating her

[@zerobolt9506]

There's a theory in other video comments that someone spiked the drinks as not only OP & hubby, but others had the same problem of not remembering that night clearly

[@alosialee]

I listened to this story being read elsewhere and the full story states that she used to end up passed out at those parties often and woke up in similar ways. It wasn't until the last one where she woke up really sore that she stopped going to those parties, stopped having blackouts, and then later discovered she was pregnant. It sounds like she was drugged multiple times by this guy, and when he finally got the "courage" to follow through, and she stopped going out there, he started coming to her and found himself a father. It's pretty horrific to think about and I feel sorry for that girl and her children.

[@wmdkitty]

@@alosialee Yep. The dude is 100% a predator. I think it was awfully convenient that he tracked her down after she stopped partying.

[@ALLPANICNODISCO1999]

​@Zero Bolt but the 'others at that party also don't remember' info came from the husband. Op needs to contact other people (who were not the husband's friends) that where at that party cuz I wouldn't trust information that comes from the husband.

[@jboy804]

That husband straight up raped OP, and she is in hard denial. There is no way he could have gotten consent from her and clearly sexually assaulted her. So he was capable of sex, doesn't remember it, but remembers all the other things. Even if the punch or whatever was spiked that doesn't increase your urge to rape someone. You don't "accidently" have sex with an unconscious or nearly unconscious person. He took advantage then and now, what a psychopath. This is not only dark for her, but for her children. I can't imagine a man capable of all this won't have other hidden issues or at least be capable of other despicable things. I hate criticizing a rape victim especially in this case, but man she leaving the children in a lion's den. What boggles my mind is Reddit even giving ANY credence to husband's story. It's insane that one even called him a VICTIM in this circumstance. I'm sorry, who got drugged AND raped? That actually boils my blood honestly.

[@trinijay4256]

Totally agree. He’s manipulating and lying to op

[@jboy804]

@@trinijay4256 So, other's have also mentioned about the jacket over the head in her first post when she woke up in her car, which clinches it for me that it was rape. She was likely raped in her own car and the jacket used to dehumanize her during the rape or for some sense of guilt. The car was away from the party and witnesses. He may even be telling a half-truth to make it more believable. Maybe he did move her unconscious body to the car when he woke up but doesn't mention what he did to her then still unconscious body. It may not have even been planned but a spur of the moment action when he realized his chance. Who knows?

[@tinyl9599]

Man she does make it sound like that, but part of me is on the fence. I know I used to drink with my husband, get shit faced, black out , and look and act completely normal. However, the next day I wouldn't remember like 80% of my night so my husband would fill me in. I'd always ask him, "wow did I seem drunk and stupid," and he would tell me no I'd walk and talk fine. I did that many times and we were intimate many times while we were both wasted, but he remembered it. If someone did drug the drinks there is no telling how they would act. They knew each other and were already comfortable around each other..i think it is possible they hooked up in the moment and didn't remember it. If she was thankful he was taking care of her ( plus being out of it ) they got in that mood I could see it. She has been with him a decent amount of time and has never had any indication he is a bad person . The jacket on her face could have been a drunken/ drugged moment. I've gotten cold many times while drunk and ended up covered up with clothing on my face, feet, etc. This of course is just one view or possibility. The other one is a sick an disturbed one if he wasn't wasted and did fully take advantage of her. If they were both drugged and both wanted to hook up in that state and didn't remember that is messed up, because he does sound like a sicko when he might be a good guy. I just think if he was a weirdo once she found out about the DNA she would have started thinking about all the strange things. Then been like whoa he is a creep and left him . Instead she took time, thought about it, and said he was amazing and she loved him. He agreed to counseling, offered to take DNA ( not knowing she already had), and he gave her space when she asked. It just doesn't really sound like he is a psycho.. That's what makes me think it was a really bad night that turned into something good, and maybe it was the ppl who drugged everyone's fault not theirs. If it was ecstasy that makes u very touchy/ loving and u want to be intimate on plus alcohol bad mix. Which could be why nobody remembered what happened. Who knows but none of us have experienced it to say she is leaving her child in the lion's den I think isn't fair because we don't know either of them. Sry long rant of u read all of this.

[@jboy804]

@@tinyl9599 Few Things: 1. He claims he was conscious when moving her, yet she had a jacket over her head when she woke up in her car. Does not look good. 2. Why would he be that worried? He has a decent enough cover story when she overly trusts him. 3. She literally is in denial mode right now (AKA I was happy just a while ago want to keep that desperately mode), she ain't reliable to remember any creepy out of place things. 4. While coincidences happen, there are way too many here to not likely be contrived. He disappears after the party but reappears when she needed him most, wow super coincidence! So happens to be his kid too, doesn't that beat all.

[@brainfluidZ]

Story 3 is so terrifying. How is this woman not realizing that if you are drunk, blacked out, can’t remember ANYTHING that happened & find out you’re pregnant months later means that somebody raped you. This so-called “loving person” is the person who raped you. I’m just really wondering how she didn’t put the pieces together when he would get defensive over her being his daughter & her looking exactly like him & probably many other things. “I’m his dream girl” it’s just a disgusting comment to me considering what he did to you when you were passed out. He knows what he did. He “knows in his heart he wouldn’t do that to you” yet he did lmao. With that paternity test there is now scientific evidence that he did that to you. It’s pretty convenient he doesn’t remember what happened yet he remembered enough to continue to lie to you for years. Also, Alcohol is very well known to make people black out & not remember anything. Everyone knows that. It can also be accidental as teenagers don’t rlly know their limits yet. I can promise they were most likely binge drinking. That is very common for teenagers to do.

[@oeurydice]

What gets me about the mother's day story is that the OP just seemed to expect his wife to know that him taking on her responsibilities for the time she was away was her gift without talking to her about it beforehand. I don't want to undermine the extra work he took on, but that comes off as pretty spiteful towards his wife - like he wanted to punish her for going on the trip. And how hard would it have been to do a little something just to let her know she is appreciated? A wee bunch of flowers? Maybe make some handmade cards with the kids? Doesn't need to be extravagant, just some acknowledgement of the day.

[@Movs.]

That's not extra work, that's basic parenting. And it's obvious SHE is the one doing the extra work. Not him. OP is the type of guy to get laid and say that's his wife's birthday present. Hope she divorces his dumbazz.

[@rangeraero]

Story 2: This might not be popular to say, but I'd like to remind everyone that certain drugs, like rohypnol, erase short term memory. Combine that with being blackout drunk and it is possible that OP's husband doesn't remember. It is possible that his memory resumes from the time he woke up. This is a very messed up situation, that I don't envy them having to go through.

[@AnymousScreams]

I really want the OP that got SA'd to leave her husband and get full custody of the kids, including the new baby. I don't think he's telling the truth, and that her brother knows something. The trust is gone anyway between her and her husband. Plus, the fact that her mother used the "just say this so people don't call you a bad name" felt more like the mother's reputation than OP's. Maybe no one mentioned it then for OP's first baby, but OP coild just say she really doesn't want to talk about it. That would send the message and no one blames anyone but the one who hurt her that way.

[@duboisstewart8265]

I love how Op in the second story draws the line at saying "more than 2 kids" for too many details when she's literally writing such a specific story to her already lol. Also, we can do math:one out of wedlock, another after dating, and one more after marriage:woah! that equals 3! 😂

[@kjarllan7097]

i would says she have a twin for the last pregnancy. a third is "classic". With 3 and 4 at the same time, with all the thing before, it became more obvious at who she can be.

[@ivorynk752]

The polite kids at a diner story?

[@tiryaclearsong421]

​@@kjarllan7097 And pregnant with the fifth.

[@KazumiKiguma]

Bro that "Social Club" would've been a godsend for me growing up.

[@cloudstalker8956]

i don't believe the dog suddenly behaved like this, she obviously doesn't care about her pet.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story three: OP...watching the kids is not a gift. It's a responsibility. *Where's your gift, man?* It doesn't even have to be as expensive as the trip. Just something thoughtful and meaningful. :'D

[@robertx8020]

I wonder how much OP's wife takes care of the kids? I bet that would cover father's day, his birtday, and xmass So OP should not expect any gifts on those days

[@KJ-sp9jq]

S3: He definitely raped her. Each update makes it sound more and more like he knew what happened. Even in the beginning she mentions how he "always corrects people and says she is his daughter". I'm convinced he knew the whole time. Of course I could be completely wrong but that's how the story reads to me so far. S4: Watching your kids isn't a gift, its called parenting. As a father I believe watching my child is my responsibility.

[@artemishallihan8973]

I love dogs and have a dog I wish I could bring everywhere but I know that's not feasible. Also I physically cringed at friend's response to "where's your dog?" I can't stand owners who don't care to keep their dogs properly supervised

[@ArthropodJay]

Story 2 really rubbed me the wrong way.

[@kat1722]

I have 3 dogs, and am from a family with lots of dogs. NEVER let your dogs free roam places you don’t know, or isn’t welcome. If I visit someone else’s garden (with an invite) I keep my dogs on lead or follow them around to make sure they don’t get into mischief

[@LilFeralGangrel]

paternity story: I'm sorry but I don't believe him. I don't believe that it was an accident, I don't believe that he doesn't remember, I don't believe he's innocent. What a bunch of bullshit. Edit: does this woman not understand how dangerous this man is? what about her children?

[@averycheesypotato]

She likely doesn’t believe he would do anything to the children because they are his, and he’s never hurt them before. She does need to leave and get them out of there, it just hasn’t sunk in yet. I hope she & her children get away safely

[@dominicwehrmann8515]

When a woman gets blackout drunk it’s bad, but a man can’t?

[@DisneyChar]

I was willing to believe people blackout until we got to the part of him "saving himself for marriage"

[@LilFeralGangrel]

@@dominicwehrmann8515 he raped a minor as a legal adult. he remembers.

[@maryjanedodo]

​@@dominicwehrmann8515 his recollections of the night & paternity = wasn't blackout drunk. Pretty rare for men to have their drinks spiked & get r@ped also - very common for younger women though. Plus their whole courtship story is very suspicious.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: NTA. Op told her ‘friend’ that her dog wasn’t allowed at the party. When she arrived, op again that the dog wasn’t welcomed. Op’s ‘friend’ is a negligent dog owner.

[@mkaverage1791]

For all you know, the dog could have eaten a spider or a wasp that stung it.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1 is so heartbreaking. That poor pup had a terrible owner! It is no one elses fault except the owner. OP is 100% NTA. Some people have no business having pets.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - NTA The friend was told not to bring the dog, was univited to the party for bringing the dog, left the dog unleashed and unsupervised, and allowed the dog to ruin OP’s property. I think OP has full recourse to charge that friend for damages

[@littlegalaxy5240]

Story 1: our family has lots of dogs (7 now) if we’re told to not bring them we don’t. When we do bring them they stay on the leash, if your dog eats something and you don’t know what it is you have to take it to the vet or make the dog throw up. When you get a dog you have to know what they can and can’t have if they are around something they can’t eat watch them.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Hi Suzanne Kindly don’t get another dog if this is how you take care of them. First, the dog was not invited or welcome. Second, you didn’t keep an eye on it. Third, you took it off the leash which gave it free roam. This was the ball you dropped. Majorly.

[@glitchyglitchy3925]

Story 1: I feel bad for the dog. That girl is not a good pet owner. Does OP really not know what's in their garden, though? Unless they have a huge farm or something that's kind of baffling. Story 3: I've seen this story before. With every update, I'm even more convinced he raped her that night. He remembered. He knew her daughter was also his daughter. OP is in denial. Understandable, but dangerous. If she won't accept the truth, there's nothing anyone can do for her.

[@justaperson4656]

They might just not be good with plant id. I don't have a massive farm or anything like that, but I usually get plant names from the seed packets or pots they come in. My father bought a purple flower a few years back, he was abusive so I didn't bother to care about its id. Half a decade later and him in jail, I get curious. It took me seven years to figure out its a Dutch iris.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "You clearly don't care if he dies!" Girl it's YOUR dog and YOU weren't watching him. You don't get to blame others for your dog being sick when you weren't even paying attention to a point he managed to tear apart a garden that you knew he wasn't even allowed to be in, and eat shit before he was found.

[@nataliebateman1151]

The kids on the second one are so wholesome. Honestly, they're so sweet

[@ElleriaZer]

Hi Suzanne, you're the one responsible for your dog! And it would not surprise me at all if the dog got sick from eating potatoes. The green parts are, in fact, toxic. And once the tubers are sprouting in the ground, they also start producing toxins.

[@amemooress6291]

Story 1 - OP didn't do anything wrong, but the dog didn't either. It was just being a dog with a crap owner. I feel so bad for the poor thing.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story: 1 NTA Op told her to get the dog out of her property and it's not allowed.

[@Vipre-]

I'll assume story one is from the UK, because why not. Where I grew up, not the UK, showing up with the pet when specifically told no pets then refusing to leave after explicitly being told to is enough to constitute trespassing. Toss on destruction of property for extra measure and she deserves to be an ex-friend.

[@lenlewis76]

Story 1: OP should also be careful what they say to the dog owner. Don’t admit to any wrongdoing, she could use that against you.

[@demonheart13]

Wow, dude was a fracking idiot. He assaulted the girl he liked and instead of owning up to what might have happened he took steps to hide what he obviously knew he did or he wouldn't have hid it. I feel so bad for OP and I hope her brother didn't know what husband did at the party and that's the real reason he cut off communication.

[@reshawshid]

Just going to explain this a bit. Yes, due to how bizarrely the mind works, it is very possible that OP's husband did indeed remember helping her and not having s*x with her. My friend and I had been drugged before at a bar by the bartender and it weird things to our brains. I was lucky in that I always keep a backpack with me, and had water to dilute the drug immediately and could drive us home, but my friend was not as lucky (neither of us realized we were drugged until much later, I just thought I was tired and the alcohol was having too much effect, so made sure I could drive by chugging water). There were parts of my friend that were there and those that weren't. Thinking back to that, I could absolutely see him consciously trying to help an incapacitated woman out of danger, but then also having the subconscious follow-through of the whole "damsel in distress" fantasy and... yeah. Sexuality is quite easily activated in a subconscious state. Hence morning wood, wet dreams, etc., and a drug designed to put someone in that exact state is obviously going to increase the likelihood. Basically, he remembers the "saving", because it was done as a conscious action, and doesn't remember the r*pe, because it was done subconsciously as a sort of follow-through. Drugs do weird things to your mind.

[@bec1482]

NTA for story 1. Dog owners like suzanne really annoy me. I have a dog and see this sort of irresponsible behaviour all the time when I take my dog on walks.... dogs will appear out of nowhere with no owner in sight and it's quite worrying because I don't know these dogs, I don't know if they are aggressive or will attack my dog if we go closer... they could be friendly but I don't know that. You can never be too careful because I've had other dogs which were not on a lead come up and attack my dog in the past so now everytime I see a dog off lead and with no owner it puts me on edge and I fear for me and my dogs safety. But these owners, they are either on their phone or talking to other people and their dogs are completely out of sight. They just don't care, you wouldn't do that to a child so why do they think its acceptable to do that with a dog is beyond me. You need to keep your eyes on them at all times because anything could happen. They are not only putting other people and there dogs in danger but their own dogs too. The dog could wander off the field and go onto a busy road (which has happened multple times) or the dog could go up to another dog who isn't so friendly and end up getting bitten or worse or even be taken by thieves... there's a lot of people around who steal dogs. If you're not looking and the dogs out of sight, they could quite easily be taken, especially a small dog... But these people don't think of that and the dangers they put their dog and other dogs in, just no consideration.

[@Devoughn]

Story 3 has a lot more going on and for like 2 months we’ve been telling her to be cautious of him

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 3 I heard this one before. Weather he remembers or not he still r@ped you.I still feel like you should leave.

[@lifewithlee6298]

Yeah , I saw a law and order SVU on a woman who found out she married her rappest. She kicked him in the balls ⚽️ ⚽️

[@dustyrose192]

thats story 2

[@MrGavintron]

OMG right? The update is so much denial. The girl is so damaged.

[@nutritionnut3975]

It’s not necessarily rape if they both don’t remember. You could just as easily claim she raped him. But that doesn’t jive with most people’s sensitivities. She could have initiated we don’t know.

[@averycheesypotato]

@@nutritionnut3975She woke up hurt & with a jacket thrown over her face. You’re really going to claim whoever did that was the injured party? She was also underage, and he admits he remembers being around her. He’s just claiming he was being nice to her- he’s lying

[@jvangriend560]

Mother's day story - regardless of wife, trip, and parental responsibilities...doesn't sound like OP put anything in to the trip (planning/finance), but even so a card and maybe simple flowers would show that he's still thinking of her. I almost imagine worst case, wife comes home from a long trip in a "special" day for OP to be chilling with the kids and is nonchalantly like "welcome home babe. Took care of the kids, no issues, happy you're back." Then goes back to watching the tv. On a day the wife was likely pampered by others, but still missing her spouse and kids at home for them to treat it like any other day. Where's the "special" show of appreciation by OP and kids? Maybe no wonder mom took a trip away from family...? We could speculate a lot of things based on limited details and general summaries, but people we consider special/close in our lives still want to be shown they are special and appreciated. OP not going out of their way to clearly show that and assuming taking care of the kids was "enough" makes him AH-ish. They should look into their love languages and adjust appropriately.

[@maurer3d]

Last Story: Tough call with the details given. Leaning YTA. If he had planned and paid for the trip as a gift, then I would say NTA.

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 1: It doesn't sound as though the dog gets properly fed as well. My dogs will dig and tear up soil like a tractor, but they will not eat random things.

[@rorimorgant.williams6647]

If multiple people are drugged the time the drug takes to take effect depends on how much they took and their weight. That is why an anesthesiologist asks how much you weigh, I asked at my last surgery.

[@justaperson4656]

Yeah but note that the husband remembered, therefore couldn't have been drugged. Op said they'd blacked out the same as this before, and I assume blacking out drunk is different from blacking out drugged, so that implies op had been drugged in the same fashion before. There was no mention of the friends or anyone else blacking out either. You cannot tell me he was sober enough to cover her and her face, put her in the back of the car, and drive that car to her house (she woke up at home), but not sober enough to remember any of that. It just doesn't happen. He drugged her, repeatedly, and he covered her face so that if she did come around, she wouldn't id him. He knows exactly what he did. Other comments have even speculated that he did it to trap her; she has the kid, he steps up and takes care of it, solidifying him as a hero in her eyes so that he can manupulate her and gets the chance to date her. He is a scumbag.

[@rorimorgant.williams6647]

@@justaperson4656 I believe it stated that there were other people at the party that were drugged and of course this is years later so there is no way to know what drug was used so no way to know what other effects it would have besides memory loss. There is an anesthesia drug that they used that caused horrific hallucinations for the 20 - 30 seconds before I went under, terrified screaming hallucinations but give me an anti-anxiety medication before it I’m fine.

[@justaperson4656]

@@rorimorgant.williams6647 the husband stated other people forgot that night, not blacked out. He's an unreliable narrator though, I'm not trusting him on it

[@GermanMae]

I had a friend that was roofied, and she described her memory as "spot on, gone, spotty" so him "not remembering" traumatizing her, but remembering being the hero is really sketchy...

[@HaizeyWings]

Story 1: Yet another story to add to my long list of why it should be required by law to have a background check, classes, and certificate, before being allowed to own a dog

[@velentr]

First story. That _'friend'_ sounds like the type that would pick up someone else's gun after being told "don't touch that", point it at their dog, _pull the trigger_ and *then* blame the owner of the gun for all of it.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1- NTA, she was told the dog wasn’t welcomed and let it loose on OP’s property without knowing if it was safe or not!

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

story 1: dog-owners like this make me so angry--you NEED to watch your pet! They are YOUR responsibility, and it's what you signed up for when you adopted them! dogs literally have no idea what they should or shouldn't eat. Case in point: my puppy tried to eat a rhubarb leaf straight from the potted plant the other night -_-. Luckily we pulled him away in time. Granted, 1 small leaf probably wouldn't have been enough to kill him, but it *definitely* would have made him very sick (thanks oxalic acid). Dogs are like infants/ toddlers: if they don't know what it is, and/or it smells nice, it goes into the mouth. Hell, it's not just dogs, cats do this too!

[@riverjbleu]

That dog needs a better owner, poor baby.

[@bong_water]

5:50 nta for the situation but who… doesn’t know what’s in their garden? like at all 😭

[@alanorear1019]

Everyone is thinking the worst of the husband but maybe he is being honest. I used to drink heavily and while never accused of anything bad there were times I don’t remember and friends had to tell me what I did, luckily it was always something funny or stupid but I still don’t remember.

[@jboy804]

Well, guess your lucky that you don't feel like suddenly raping someone while drunk, cause guess what, you would have still raped them, morally and legally. The OP didn't say she had any feelings towards the guy, so one of the times she blacks out she decides to have sex with him? Leading to the one scenario that almost seems like they raped each other equally drunk? Considering she was a 15 year old female and him a 17 year old male, I heavily doubt that they were equally impaired. He literally has EVERY reason to be lying. The chances of everything lining up that he didn't rape her is extremely low.

[@monsecookies-u7x]

Depending on where OP1 lives, she has no legal responsibility, dogs might be seen as family but in the eyes of the law dogs are property. It wasn’t stolen, attacked, held hostage nor anything else. The moment OP said the dog wasn’t welcome, it was trespassing on the property and therefore OP can’t be held liable. No court would take that matter seriously unless OPs ahole friend lied under oath when filing which is illegal.

[@christineharris2302]

The Mother's Day story is kind of like the dancing bear story.You're not surprised at how well the bear dances, you're surprised at the fact that it does it at all.

[@HZ-fg9sf]

I am hoping story 3 is just a dark writing exercise... To be in denial that you got roofied, sa'ed and then married your assaulter, had more relations and children with them.... 🤢 1 year later, that post and account has no further updates unfortunately so what a terrible ending.

[@TheSwagger81]

Story 1: not only is OP not the AHole, OP should send the bill for the damage to her garden

[@animatorstanley]

I have a dog I take almost everywhere, she's a service dog for my panic attacks but I still don't take her to places like theaters, restaurants, etc. I also watch her like a hawk to make sure she doesn't eat anything that will make her sick, bc I love her. OP is NTA theu told the friend no dog, amd her dog wasa service dog.

[@nadirimyers6643]

Story 2: I remember a day I was chilling in my car before work and this bunch of boys that was bout 12-14 came up to me and started chatting with me ( don’t ask me why… idk lol) and they asked me where I worked and I said the melting pot and they was like they were gonna come for chocolate… I few weeks later they actually did and were so nice. I gave them extra dippers. And when they left one of my coworkers said they asked how to tip so they made sure they was tipping me right. It was cute lol

[@beccaf262]

Gotta disagree that young people are the worst to serve in a restaurant situation. At least in my experience and other wait staff I know the biggest issue we had was older people thinking we were little more than servants and they treated us as such

[@theresaschuebel5151]

The story about the waitress and the kids I wanted to add that if you teach your kids right they will do it right. I have worked in the fast food industry so my girls have always known how to act in restaurants

[@ten5h1]

Story 1: I can just see it if the ex-friend tried to sue. She would be laughed out of court! “Let me get this straight… you were told not to bring the dog, but you brought the dog. You were told to remove the dog, but you hung around. Not only that, but you let your dog run off without a leash so the dog got into OP’s garden. And you want OP to pay for YOUR negligence?”

[@kecward78]

Story 1: HORRIBLE pet parent. Story 2: I would sus the husband EXCEPT for 1 line... They both recall that many people at that party couldn't remember what happened the night before. Someone was roofying everyone - in the punch/drinks/whatever. I was at a college party where I saw a female friend in distress. I got her out of there and the next morning she didn't remember anything... including me getting her home. Found out a couple weeks later several women from the party had charges brought against the guys (frat). Months later that frat was kicked out of greek system. Story 3: OP is an AH and a sexist moron. If you significant other matter in the least, you should ALWAYS do something special. Watching the kids is NOT special.

[@zerobolt9506]

Same & I'm also curious about OP's brother in this, somethings not right about his behavior.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Oh my God was it OPs brother who drugged the party!? It would explain why he just out of the blue started hating his best friend when they got togeather. OP said they were twins so the perfect age to be "young and dumb"

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

This might be an unpopular thought but if it is true that “a lot of people don’t remember that party” it’s possible that a communal drink (punch or beer keg) was roofied. It’s an unfortunately common occurrence

[@jboy804]

It's also steeped in rape apologia since in most circumstances as the male needs to perform a lot more during the act than the woman. AKA at the minimum, the man needs to be much more conscious than the woman for the performative act of sex to occur. Also most seem to skip over the jacket over her head in the first post. A clear sign of guilt or dehumanizing her during the act. You don't do that if you don't remember or hell just did it (I theorize he may have did it after the move and just told a half truth).

[@chickenkorma3163]

Story 1: Could have been potatoes as they contain alkaloids.

[@hubbachubba1]

Story 1: I LOVE my dogs. I have 3. If I even want to take them to someone’s home, I ask first. I also supervise them to ensure that they don’t get into anything or pee/poop. 1 grape can cause serious illness or even kill a small dog. What type of dog owner behaves the way OP’s ex friend behaves? It’s 100% dog owner’s fault. Totally irresponsible.

[@embluvya]

Why did she need to bring the dog so badly when she wasn't even interested paying attention to it while she was there

[@Veteransmoker]

What a horrible Dog Owner.

[@wyvern723]

OP told their friend that the dog isn't welcome. The dog is clearly badly trained, given that it ripped up the garden. It's not OP's fault. The friend is not a good friend. Too bad that the dog is suffering for a bad owner.

[@yestliherrera4707]

Story 1, I take my dogs everywhere they're allowed. But I keep them on leash directly next to me. If they're not allowed we don't go simple. Op isn't at fault in any way shape or form. I only feel bad for the innocent pup 🐶

[@threeducks157]

Im a 60% share holder of a private school, aforementioned school has similar programs. The senior class gets taken to a Michelin star restaurant every year. They are the most well behaved pareons ever (I know most patrons I own the restaurant) unfortunately not everyone can attend our school as its a school for the gifted and there are tests that students need to pass them to qualify.

[@emmuli1999]

Story 3: I know they are not super reliable, but I would have insisted a polygraph test

[@jboy804]

If they are truly a psychopath, they may even believe what they say is true. Hell, everything after the fact could be true and he just has convince himself that he doesn't remember. He would literally just need to convince himself of that one thing.

[@gailwarnock2764]

Never assume anything because nine times out of ten you will be wrong . I think the spiking of the drinks is the most likely as that’s the stupid things kids do thinking they are funny .

[@mywingsareyours]

I think ppl are being a bit silly about OP's husband. OP can easily check and see if other ppl really DID have memory issues regarding the party. Also, idk why ppl are saying its weird he doesn't remember everything -- the only parts he remembers are at the very end of the night where he was sobering up, which isn't uncommon already with just blacking out. Add to that potentially drugs, which specifically can cause issues with memory, and it makes sense to me how he remembers only chunks and only of the end of the night. Everyone keeps saying he remembers it in graphic detail but i wouldnt even say that, just that he remembers some of the events. If they were both drugged, they could have literally had "consensual" (realistically neither of then could actually consent) sex and forgotten about it. The was she was found would make sense considering she was being taken home by a guy who himself was coming down off drugs/alcohol (if you've ever seen a totally wasted person trying to babysit another person, its a mess). Idk I think theres potentially too much to say he is for sure guilty or for sure innocent. Even ppl saying "what are the odds she blacked out at multiple parties???" Is kinda dumb lol. She was getting wasted with the same group of ppl. In HS my ex also got black out drunk with our friends at parties. And if one of their friends was into spiking shit, they very likely did it more than once. Back then, at least where i am, that wasbt a super unusual thing to happen at parties esp with a heavy party crowd. Shit got spiked a lot

[@justaperson4656]

Ops friend clearly doesn't care about the dog considering how she reacted. No leash, negligence through not watching, and worse of all: not trained. I have an outdoor cat who is _trained!_ She knows what she can't eat. I have very dangerous plants, like anthuriums (which cause anaphylaxis in humans and domestic pets) and she know damn well not to go near them. She doesn't take food from plates. She doesn't even eat the potted cat grass because she knows pot means no. You should not have a pet if you cannot train it, because if you cannot train it you cannot correctly care for it or keep it safe.

[@abbie_joan]

story 2: brother probably didn't like them getting married because he was already suspicious about the husband's intentions and probably saw some similarities that she didn't and was probably suspicious about why he was acting so father like even before they were romantically involved

[@kateemma22]

I love my cats which is why I wouldn't take them with me to work because I work in a busy city centre where they could get scared and run into traffic and die. It's called 'being a decent pet parent'.

[@Lionwoman]

Story 1: she's a bad and negligent dog owner and shouldn't have pets for hers and others pets sake. For people like her I lost beloved pets.

[@bloodlos]

I don’t think legally op in Story one is in any trouble. The told the owner multiple times to remove the dog from the property. The owner then let the dog of the leash. That’s neglect.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👋 Hope you are having a good week. Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP is NTA. If the "friend" brought over a child, OP might be liable for injuries to the child being on their property, but this was a dog. Dogs are seen as property legally So the "friend" brought over property without permission and was expressly tresspassed by OP. The "friend" continued to defy OP's wishes and allowed her property to damage OP's property. OP should take pictures and have the gardener make an itemized list of all damages and costs to fix everything. Then OP countersues if the "friend" tries to take OP to court for medical bills due to Fido's conditions caused by its owner's neglect.

[@Davtwan]

I would have been petty and reported her to the right channels to make sure she’s banned from adoption centers in the area. Some people do _not_ deserve animals.

[@ondank]

Story 2 - OP is nuts. Absolutely in dream land

[@bilbybloom]

My dogs are out of my sight for 2 seconds and I'm suspicious lol ex friend clearly doesn't love her dog that much

[@littlepeeper9223]

I just love storytime with Markee 🙂

[@rosaazure]

Dog story - nevermind the cats or the dog eating something he shouldn't, taking the dog off leash means that the dog can take a poop anywhere for guests can step on. Taking the dog off leash was stupid and rude.

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 2: my high school math teacher taught us how to balance a check book, even told us the normal classes don't get that kind of teaching. was in special ed. the kind that most teachers put misbehaving kids in with the learning disabilities kids. i have the latter. yes it screwed up my learning having kids screaming who were just in there for being bad story 4: yta at least get her a damn card

[@austinbuscaglia8705]

Story one, not technically the idiot, but like she could've pretended to care a little bit.