My Husband Told Me He Would Break Up WIth Me If Either Of Us Was Infertile r/Relationships

[@libbert5757]

If you are concerned about infertility, why not get both of you checked out before you tie the knot. It's not cool to spring this on your partner after you are married.

[@ebifuon6776]

Its not just about the infertility its mostly that he would ditch her at the first sign of trouble. Like not being able to give bio children or having a serious health problem. Op is better off without a guy like that. I knew from age 12 that my chances of having a kid would be less then 5% and a lot of guys walked away from me cause of it. But I'm happier they did that then with what my aunt went through when her husband not only ditched her for having cancer but mocked her for not being able to have kids after treatment. She had been pregnant when she found out and was told if they didn't abort and start treatment neither would survive the next six months and the child wouldn't be developed enough to be premature. So she aborted went through the most aggressive treatment for her cancer but froze some of her eggs so she could still have a child in the future. But the guy still left so she is currently still single and saving for surrogate. She would rather go it alone then go through with someone that is not invested in the relationship

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Yeah, it's just completely foolish at best. You know you have this deal breaker, so you should be having it tested BEFORE being committed.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

@@ebifuon6776it sounds like he just really wants children. Most people that get married want children so it’s not abnormal.

[@slimecorn]

Yeah, that’s why you get tested if you desperately want children

[@taylorslade961]

You have missed the point.

[@stuffedninja1337]

“If you’re infertile, I’m breaking up with you. And if I’M infertile, I’m breaking up with ME!!”

[@vanguardangel6912]

This shouldn’t have made me laugh the way it did but goddamnit 😂

[@stuffedninja1337]

@@vanguardangel6912 I aim to please. =w=

[@velentr]

This made me wonder how prevalent _selfdelition_ is among infertile men. That got dark, I'm sorry.

[@eri-chan1943]

@@velentr 100% of self deleted men cannot have kids, therefore 100% of cannot have kids of self deleted men probably.

[@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas]

Lmao

[@jqdsilva]

If my partner said they would end the relationship if I was infertile, I would be like "Lemme save you the trouble: GOODBYE!"

[@imjustgonnasayit415]

Well, on the bright side, at least he was okay with her doing the same if he was infertile… A man of true equality 😂

[@Hiimreggie]

Yep

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

The fact is that this showed his priority is children. There’s nothing wrong with that. Women dump men all the time cause they don’t make enough money or the woman begins to make more money. If women can have standards that’s a dealbreaker then why can’t men? That’s hypocritical

[@slimecorn]

Then he needs to get tested

[@livingdeadgirl5360]

​@@Catherine.Dorian.1. Fertility is uncontrollable unlike finances. 2. It means he cares more about kids than he does about his own partner. She is essentially an incubator. I don't think anyone should be left for superficial reasons, and OP's boyfriend is weird.

[@amandasunshine2]

​@@Catherine.Dorian.no, it's not. Adoption, surrogacy, there are options. He's showing his priority is himself.

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

Landlady's boyfriend didn't want to look like a man baby by moving in with his parents, but then he moves in with OP, takes shameful advantage of her and acts like a man baby.

[@1tommyday]

My bf and I are past the point of having children, but we were thrown into a severe illness for 3 years. He not only didn't leave me, but he fully cared for me for 3 years. It was beyond horrendous. We're still together and I am much better. He doesn't seem like a strong person, but he is.

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

This is the kind of man OP needs, not the guy that isn't there for her and plans to leave her if she isn't perfectly fertile. You have a keeper.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: I heard this story before, still NTA. What does op have to apologize for? She rents out the building she owns. Meanwhile he lived in her building for free.

[@ADWebTV]

I do not understand how she is so ok with him freeloading

[@LovesGaming37]

Story one: I bet he wouldn't leave if he was infertile and would beg her to stay if it was only on him

[@kehindejohnson6286]

Except he said she could leave her if he was the one infertile.

[@Nevertoleave]

@@kehindejohnson6286 it’s called lying

[@dinodj5]

​@@Nevertoleaveyou don't know that though do you?

[@amemooress6291]

If my partner ever told me, "If you turn out to be infertile, I'd possibly leave you," I wouldnt make 'em wait. I'd end it then and there. If someone thinks your value begins and ends with making them children, they can gtfo.

[@actuallynotsteve]

Yeah that's like one of those things that after it was said, I'd just tilt my head for 15s, pack a bag, and just literally ghost them.

[@GLoLChibs]

How dare someone not stay with a partner that can't align with their goals. Are they supposed to stay and build resentment over not having kids like they planned or wanted, or spring it on you after the fact? Having or not having kids is an acceptable deal breaker. Has less to do with your value and more to do with goals.

[@bec1482]

@@GLoLChibs There are other ways are having kids though. Like they could adopt or even get a surrogate and their are other ways too so I don't really get why OPs husband would just ditch her like that if he found out she was infertile. But yeah just because someones infertile doesn't mean they can't have kids, there are a few ways around it now.

[@bec1482]

OPs husband seems to forget that being infertile doesn't necessarily mean you can't have kids. He seems to forget about adoption or surrogacy or the many other ways out there, maybe it would be more difficult but it's still possible to have kids even when infertile.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Nta op is an evil landlord taking advantage of people screwing them out of their hard-earned money but as long as she gives him 50% of it he'll overlooked it. Omg she did a great job seeing those red flags kicking him out

[@robertx8020]

At least know she is left with more money ;) And I hope the BF ends up with a real greedy landlord who takes him for every penny 🤣

[@addicted2mako]

It's scummy enough that the bf in story 2 is demanding OP give him half her money after leeching off her for months, but his trying to do so from atop a moral high horse is a whole new level of a-hole

[@marshawargo7238]

He thinks landlords are scummy because they give a product for money in return? But he should live in a house for free for no reason other than existing? Ask him if he's going halfsees paying for the freezer & property tax, city, state & federal!😂 What A Joker!

[@locusxe1411]

@@marshawargo7238I won’t lie there are definitely scummy landlords out there but that doesn’t go for every landlord. He’s just an ahole

[@mbyerly9680]

He was throwing poo at her to see what stuck.

[@dionysus_adores]

He's unhinged that guy is terrible. Way to insult your partner. News flash not all landlords are bad

[@LordGertz]

It's so much easier to be charitable/highly moralistic/etc. with other people's money. This was already a leeching loser, it's not that much of a stretch from leech to entitled leeched. Also a whole world of difference between a corporate landlord, a small time landlord and a landlord renting out part of their primary residence.

[@CatsOverBrats]

And this is why you should always have the talk about children in the future as soon as you start dating so you don't end up wasting each other's time and getting feelings invested only to have your heart broken because of something like this.

[@melodycollins8572]

Exactly. I’ve heard some people get freaked out about talking kids early in the relationship but I feel like it’s never too early when you’re looking for a lifetime partner. It’s an important discussion to have less you get years in or tie the knot before realizing you’re not compatible in family planning.

[@CatsOverBrats]

@@melodycollins8572 I told my husband within the first 14 days of dating that if children were ever a part of his future image, he should move on to another woman right away. Anyway, here we are 16 years later. Just us and two cats. I love him so much. ❤

[@Nevertoleave]

⁠@@melodycollins8572 and if you ask someone if they want kids or not and they freak out, they’re not someone your compatible with anyways.

[@damien678]

I don't even think she said she was childfree...she just said there's a *possibility* of her having fertility issues, and he wanted to bail because of that.

[@CensorshipVictim]

There are certain deal breakers that should be discussed early in a relationship like kids (want them or already have some), religion, and so on. People shouldn't wait until the engagement or marriage phase to have these discussions.

[@RaspberryHugs]

S2: yep he was in it for the money. that's why he exploded when she suggested giving half the money to a charity instead of to him. There was no way he could logically tell her no "Don't give it to charity. Give it to me!" without sounding just as money grubbing as he claimed she was and keeping some form of moral high ground. She called him out in a way he couldn't manipulate his way out of so he went with screaming guilt tactics at her.

[@1tommyday]

Story 2 He's not paying rent, but he now wants half your income from the rent? Please dump him now. This is completely unreasonable of him and he should get out. He did you a huge favor. Put his stuff outside and change all the locks. This guy cannot be trusted at all based on his behavior.

[@BlankPageEmperor1334]

(Story 2) Lol I heard this one on another channel, and there I attempted a class/relationship analysis (TL;DR the tenant is treated as a guest and housemate, not a paycheck/OP is basically the ultimate girlfriend in this economy; why complain?) But this time I feel like she /accidentally/ made the right choice by not telling her boyfriend she owned the house? It's weird that they moved in so fast and that she didn't explain the actual nature of her living arrangement, BUT that's how she found out what a piece of crap her BF is and could avoid wasting her time OR staying in a parasitic and even dangerous situation. Error: Success.

[@corlenajames1381]

Story 2: Idk why OP even tried to communicate with that boyfriend. Bump the whole "we need to talk if this relationship is going to work' stuff. I would've told that freeloader it was over the minute he made demands on my income & then gave me the silent treatment, lol.

[@Lillireify]

Story 1: so, she overlooked all the times he failed her during their relationship and only noticed it when he was directly cruel towards her? Come on.

[@MrJpaynebb]

That's why she should have broken up with him. Wanting to have children, biological children is a deal breaker for many people and I can't fault someone for that. You can ding someone though for not showing up for important events like funerals of close family members or friends when you have the time to do so or going with a partner to an important medical check up or procedure when you know they have a history of medical issues. They don't have to come to every funeral or appointment but at least be there for a few of them.

[@damien678]

Straw that broke the camel's back.

[@sketchiscribblr8285]

A lot of girls are conditioned to put their needs below those of others, or to be 'understanding' when others don't do the same for them in their times of need. It leads to women who put up with a loooot of neglect or lack of emotional availablity from their partners.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@sketchiscribblr8285 Everyone these days are slowly being conditioned to be servile people pleaser's.

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Story 1: If my partner waited that long to tell me about them having a deal breaker like that. I'd probably dump them for keeping that from me. How am i supposed to trust that my partner won't have other deal breakers that they've yet to tell me about, or they'll just come up with later.

[@WadeAlma]

You ask them about it. Communication is key.

[@nousernamesarevalid]

I always talk to people who are engaged or work with engaged couples to have discussions about what the couple would do if they cannot have children. It can break a marriage if the couple is not on the same page.

[@hoper1294]

Despite all the negativity in these stories and reading them for so long, I love how Markee is still so positive and clearly enjoys his work. The bloopers are so cute ❤

[@kaylafuller8948]

When I met my husband I made it clear that there was a chance I couldn’t have another kid after a surgery I had when I was pregnant with my son. When we got serious and started trying for a baby and got negative test after negative test I started getting scared he would leave me. He kept reassuring me he wouldn’t. I gave birth to our only child together and number 5 between the both of us 10 months ago. She is a happy healthy baby. It was a huge fear of mine if he had said he wanted to leave if I couldn’t get pregnant again I would have left him right then and there

[@gcarr1089]

Last story - OP only has the ex's version of why he had to move out. If she is really interested she could ask his previous landlord about him. Bet he never paid his rent on time and was evicted. Definitely get new locks and cameras though the guy seems unhinged.

[@o0BlackSand0o]

Before we had our first, there was some worry I was infertile, especially after a year of trying to conceive. My husband knew there was a risk before marrying me and assured me we'd work it out. Kids were really important to both of us but my husband still chose to support me. We thankfully have 2 beautiful babies and I was assured there was no signs of issues for me. But if my husband had told me he would dump me if we couldn't conceive I'd have walked away

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1 NAH: having kids is a major deal breaker for a lot of relationships. At least the boyfriend was honest and upfront, but I agree that OP and her boyfriend should get tested ASAP, so that they are not wasting either of their time.

[@muhname6052]

There are 3 kinds of landlord. The slumlords, the corporations, and the individuals. Why can't some people understand this.

[@damien678]

And they all suck and contribute to why most young people can't realistically buy even their own first home...they just do this to varying degrees.

[@nilianstroy]

story 1... like in every similar story i've read/heard, op will end up having children and her ex will find out he's infertile and then expect her to take him back... can't wait for that update.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

Don't marry someone that would leave you if your infertile. Particularly if you're a woman it's a huge indicator of what they will do if your ever sick abandoned you. Much more common in men. Tere is also the issue they feel entitled to a biological child. What will they do to your possible kids if they are child free if they adopt or have step children. You should be with a partner that has the same level of commitment to you as you have to them otherwise it will be a one sided relationship you always giving more than you receive.

[@randomusername3873]

"Feel entitled to a biological child" This is pure insanity. People are allowed to want children. Nobody would ever dare to accuse a woman to feel entitled to a biological child

[@kehindejohnson6286]

@cheekyftoro8962 Absolutely nothing wrong with feeling "entitled to a biological child". That's literally human nature. Also, dealing with fertility vs other illnesses is not the same

[@cheekyftoro8962]

@@kehindejohnson6286 Something being human nature doesn't make it OK or a trait you would want in a partner. Jealousy greed and violence are also all part of human nature. Infertility is like any other health issue. It puts stress on the marriage. Ot requires understanding compromise and adjustment and sacrifice . If your not committed or invested enough in a partner to stick with them trough infertility compromise ajust and sacrifice. Then your probably not willing to do the same if they have other health issues.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

@@randomusername3873 I said particularly if your a woman not only if your a woman. I used the term partner not husdand. Because the same applies to all genders. I never said people aren't allowed to want children. Just that you shouldn't marry someone that would leave you if your infertile. Having biological children isn't the only way of getting a child. And wanting something is diffrent to sacrificing your relationship to have something.

[@damien678]

​@@randomusername3873 Many infertile people end up having kids. It is not the same thing as being sterile. OP wasn't even confirmed to be infertile. She just said fertility issues runs in her family.

[@league-of-shadows]

Story 1: OPs ex seems like the kinda guy who would run if his partner had a life threatening illness and needed him for care.

[@30WallEra]

Not so long ago, in my country, a single man without children had to pay additional tax.

[@user-blob]

That’s horrendous!

[@violacesario4389]

Story 2: There is a very real contingency of clueless people who have an irrational hatred of landlords - all landlords. These people believe that landlords shouldn't exist at all; and that renting out living spaces is not a valid method of making an income. I understand landlord-hatred - I've felt it myself - but where are those of us who can't afford or don't want to buy a home supposed to live without rented spaces? Some people just love expressing blind, blanket hatred without reason.

[@JodyBruchon]

They're often also self-proclaimed "socialists." The truth is that these people don't have things and resent those who do or they're upper middle class college kids who feel guilty for having things, so they "advocate" for people who they view as lesser than them, didn't ask for their "help," and do not want it.

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

It's unfortunate that there are so many bad landlords. Back in the day, I rented from some nasty ones, but also some good ones. It's great when you can rent part of a house from a like-minded person that you get along with. OP sounds like a perfect landlady!

[@damien678]

Landlords don't actually contribute anything of worth and make others pay off their mortgages. Also, seeing homes as investment opportunities instead of somewhere to lay your head is how you end up with cities that have more empty homes than homeless people on their streets. Big landlords with multiple properties under their belts are also a massive reason why a lot of countries are in an affordable housing crisis. They bump up rent which bumps up real-estate prices. Their greed is why it's astronomically harder for many people to be able to buy their first home. I'm a part of the eldest of Gen Z, and I doubt I'll be able to realistically buy a small apartment - let alone a home big enough for a family. If landlords didn't exist, shit wouldn't be perfect, but there'd be a good chance homelessness wouldn't be so drastic, and more people would feel much more housing security, which is incredibly important for mental health. It is so incredibly unfair that landlords regularly take more than half of a person's paycheck (a person that has an actual job) while they do so comparatively little in comparison. Again, it's actually a favour to landlords to have renters live in the places as we tend to pay off their mortgages... If they're responsible with their money.

[@damien678]

Landlords are a massive reason why the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer.

[@JodyBruchon]

@@damien678 You have no idea what you're talking about. Landlords don't contribute anything, sure. Except going into debt to mortgage the property, paying the yearly taxes, fixing the plumbing, repairing or replacing appliances, fixing the HVAC when it fails, sometimes mowing the lawn and maintaining common areas for apartments and condos and subdivisions...oh yeah, and taking out a 30-year loan on a property so you can move out anytime you like with no obligation. Socialism is stupid. Grow up.

[@shadowkissed2370]

People need to understand 99.9% of the time that being infertile doesn't mean you can never have a baby. As long as you have a uterus and ovaries you can become pregnant and carry a baby. Infertile means it is going to be very hard for you to conceive and carry a baby.

[@quartzskull8772]

The definition of infertile is literally unable to reproduce

[@namename2040]

Story 1 People dont typically assume someone is infertile. OPs value isnt in their fertility. If the BF isnt scum he would love OP BUT having children is important and the inability to have them is possibly a no go for him.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

So he waits 3 years into marriage to tell her that?

[@jessig.6791]

​@@AngryReptileKeeper3 years into marriage? Its more of a red flag that she hasn't talked about her infertility to her boyfriend after 1.5 years. That even could be seen as leading on since this is a big issue around having kids.

[@paperkay]

Talking about kids, finances and in-laws is a MUST the moment things get serious with somebody. Want kids? Wanna share income? Would you ever have in-laws living with us? .... Stuff like that is too important, too intimate, and cannot be negotiated upon. Either both want kids or neither does. Either both agree to finance rules or it won't work. Either both let someone's widowed mother rule the kitchen, or nobody does. That's, like, a 5th date discussion. Not a year-and-a-half of the one-sided affair later discussion.

[@actuallynotsteve]

That comment around the 4min mark is spot on, what an amazing bit of knowledge

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

This must be "ahole boyfriend" day. I'm not even going to comment on story 2. Story 1. There are other options for OP. Adoption or surrogacy. I was a surrogate twice. The first couple the wife could not carry the baby to term. So, they harvested her eggs, fertilized them with the husband's sperm, then implanted them into my uterus. I was able to deliver twins (boy/girl) for them, and it felt amazing to help this couple out. If OP is infertile, then they can do the same process, only using a donor egg. I did this as well for my sister, and that experience was so much greater than my first time because I got to carry my niece for my sister. My niece is now 25, but she knew from the time she could remember that she came from one of my donated eggs. But, she has only ever treated me like an auntie, and she views only my sister as her mother (which is how it should be). My sister asked me if I would do it because she at least wanted to have some biological connection to the baby. The funny thing is, people always tell my sister how much her daughter looks like her, and if I am there we just smile at each other. Of course, my niece looks like my sister because she and I look a lot alike!

[@heatherdickau5335]

Last story is so typical of people's thought process today. Boyfriend hates land lords because they charge rent. ( He doesn't pay rent to OP) Finds out OP is the home owner and now he wants 1/2 the rent money. Wouldn't he be what he hates now?

[@thesewinggeekmiri9029]

lol, the bloopers are always a treat--thanks Markee!!

[@eph2vv89only1way]

When I was 16 a doctor told my mom that I was going deaf but there was a medication that would save my hearing but make me infertile (the doctor lost his license a few years later but we didn't know at the time that he was a quack). My mother left the choice up to me. She even said it would be understandable if I immediately got pregnant then took the medication after giving birth so I could have both. I totally respect her for respecting my choice like that. Anyway, I chose to go deaf because having kids when I was mentally and financially ready was more important to me than my hearing. That's how badly I wanted kids. But even then I would NEVER tell a partner I would dump him if one of us turned out to be infertile. You just don't do that to people you love, especially with alternatives available. For instance, when my brother's wife became infertile after a ruptured tubal pregnancy and the other tube turned out to have a 100% blockage they adopted my beautiful nephew. That's how you handle infertility if you want kids!

[@shellieburgoyne9555]

Story #1: Oop I support you 100% and you will find a partner who loves you no matter whether you can have children or not. I (54f)was adopted as a baby, as were my 2 older brothers…..no we are not blood related to each other. Unfortunately, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, which causes miscarriages and infertility. I (28f) got pregnant……I was 3 months along when I lost my daughter😞😪 Endometriosis is like having cancer……it’s a WHOLE body disease with chronic effing pain!! Ohhh….and fibromyalgia follows

[@Areebvh]

Welcome back markee!!! Missed you for the past week

[@walmart_is_a_cult]

"infertility runs in our family" I know what op is saying but it's still an eyebrow-raiser.

[@madgevanness4011]

2: as a landlord, you have expenses: taxes, utilities, repairs and maintenance. Maybe you’re living close to free, maybe not, but his insistence on getting the money himself instead of donating it to a charity for housing assistance proves his selfishness.

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

It can't be easy to be a responsible landlord. Sounds like a headache. There are plenty of slumlords around, so the good landlords are appreciated!

[@damien678]

Fack off, you know us renters are doing you a favour by giving you a hefty chunk of our actually hard-earned money while you lay on your arse, twiddling your thumbs most of the time.

[@robertx8020]

@@user-kl8lo6rj5i There are also some terrible tenants ..get a few of those in a row and most landlords will think twice about being 'nice' One of my 'landlord'' friends got scammed 3x and now he doubled the rate just to fill the gaps ..I understand where he is comming from even when I feel sorry for any tenant of good will

[@madgevanness4011]

On 2nd thought, maybe she should list out the expenses for the building, prorate for the rental, subtract from the rent and give him half the difference. Then kick him out. Educate, then eliminate to be somebody else’s problem.

[@pixiegirl131415]

Story 2: who wants to bet that the problems her ex had with his landlord were entirely his fault. Landlords are allowed to raise rent because of things like inflation and market prices. He sounds like somebody who just gets annoyed that he has to pay for anything. I would give pretty good odds that he maybe did not pay like he was supposed to, and got evicted.

[@robertx8020]

He's one of those ppl who dislike landlords (because they make money) but would be p*ssed of when ppl expect HIM to work for free

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

S1: Who the hell waits until they've been married for 3 years to tell their partner that infertility is a deal breaker? So much for "in sickness and in health, for better or worse" and all that jazz, eh? Look, folks: I don't care how much someone wants kids. Unless you've talked and agreed before hand, bailing on your partner because they can't reproduce is dirty. You're telling them that hypothetical people (kids) who don't even exist yet are more important to you than they are, and that you only see them as a means to an end (having kids). Furthermore, someone who is so uncommitted that they would abandon their partner over infertility (which can happen to anyone at any time) will just as easily abandon them the moment become seriously ill, disabled, etc. You'll never be able to count on someone like that when you need them most.

[@WadeAlma]

Bs. If someone can’t have kids with you and you want kids then don’t waste your fertile years with someone who can’t give you kids. It only makes you resent your partner. It’s called a dealbreaker. People can have whatever dealbreaker they want. If your partner has untreatable HIV would you be wrong to leave them? No. Because that effects every facet of your life. Sex is now a no go. Kids? Nope. These are big things that make up a relationship. Women will leave an infertile man. An infertile man may have kids when they’re 60. But a woman will only be able to have healthy kids up until around 50. That’s a lot of time.

[@driversuz44]

Story 2: OP offloaded quite the nutcase. Bet there's more to the story about his previous landlord, as well as (ahem) one or two other stories he's told her.

[@kdhebskh]

STORY 2: The moocher boyfriend pretend to be angry so he can demand rental income money

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

No problem. Get fertility tested both of you. Boyfriend has thrown down the gauntlet. You might want to reconsider marrying this guy. Sounds like he is looking for an out. He has shown you who he is. Believe him. You are not a match

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

He may as well have told her that he only views her as a means to an end for having kids.

[@frozenheart7133]

Story 2: at first I agreed with OP, then I agreed with the BF because I'd be pissed if I was dating a cop when I didn't know I was dating a cop. I'm fundamentally opposed to his choice of profession. Then the BF asked for part of the money he's fundamentally opposed to?? Omg, he's a terrible human being. Also, you should probably let people know what you do for a living in case they could not be in a relationship with a professional of that kind.

[@damien678]

Yeah...this. Although, I don't need nor want to always be morally virtuous, but being with a landlord would skeeve me out too much, and being with a cop is WAY too much of a risk to ever be worth it (they would, likewise, ick me out too much, too)

[@artwithandrea4953]

I asked my husband before we married if he’d be open to adoption if we could not have bio kids. He said after a couple years of trying and exploring other options, he’d be good adopting children no matter who was unable to reproduce. That made me feel better knowing he’d still be with me. We are currently pregnant with our first baby.

[@MsWitchlight]

Where do you all live that 500 is enough for rent for a 4 bedroom with bath and kitchen in a house??? I need to move there immediately

[@carlrood4457]

Should have presented him with the bill for the freezer, along with the tax bill and asked him for half

[@risingrat5491]

It’s ok to realise that some things are important to you, cos you never really thought about them before being asked about them. But backpedal on those things when confronted.. that’s a no no. There should be a conversation and honest discussion about what you gonna do now, but he decided to lie. What he did was “I want to have bio kids, but I’m gonna use you and waist your time so I could be comfortable, until you are no longer comfortable”. Disgusting

[@analisaacosta974]

Great way to start off my morning!

[@ghoullovinbutch]

Sorry, I hate landlords as much as the next guy, but saying you hate landlords and then demanding half the rent money makes him a landlord too.

[@jmac5951]

Unpopular opinion. It is a good thing for you to know this about his needs. It is actually better that he told this--finding out later would be so much worse.

[@cjmchugh6917]

The blooper was exactly what we needed as a palate cleanser after those a-holes, tbh.

[@revposton]

Love your work kiddo

[@Snoopysnoopy255]

2nd story it’s a hose with basement suite not a building.

[@Ginamm13579]

He wants 1/2 so he can pay half the property taxes and insurance ect…..

[@MusicGirl881]

Story 2: NTA and I hope afterwards OP went and changed the locks for the building and installed cameras if she didn’t have any. The ex is a man child and gold digger with a now bruised ego and I wouldn’t put it past him to try and come back and mess with or try and destroy parts of the building or harass the tenants and spread lies about the building so that OP losses business.

[@faceofvision]

It's honestly annoying when channels like this change the title of the story when naming the video and making a thumbnail, like since when "a boyfriend" means "a husband" 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@LostCause-69]

Love with conditions isn't love. Also he could very well cheat on Op with someone who could give him kids. She is saving herself a lot of heartache by breaking up now.

[@alexiosblake9804]

Don't be naive. Love and relationsships always comes with conditions, we just like to hide them under the cover of boundaries.

[@ManyMonstersMedia]

if Chewbacca lives on Endor you must acquit!

[@HealingSpectrumIntuition]

Leave him immediately! He does not love you, he sees you as disposable.

[@MrAlwaysOnTen]

Having families are important to both genders, if you can’t have children or your partner can’t and don’t want to adopt then end the relationship. Simple

[@tashantimothy6180]

Dawg when I heard the bloopers 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 IT DOES NOT MAKE SENSE 😭😭😭😭 bring back that South Park

[@willemakit]

Story 1: There is a condition on every relationship. She did him a favor.

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

If that was a condition to the relationship,*he* should have told her earlier instead of 1.5 years after getting serious. Not only that he shouldn't have heavily backtracked. If he can't communicate like a proper adult, he did her a massive favor.

[@willemakit]

@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat there you go. Saying he can't communicate like an adult. This is one person's account. You don't know how he communicated and if he has never brought this topic up before. Maybe she just didn't remember, or you know how women always like to get their way, she just didn't care to remember.

[@memyselfandi7782]

I’m sorry story 2: WHAT THE HELL id kick him out immediately

[@CrystalBruen]

Omg 😂🤣😂🤣 you sound like Cartman at the very end

[@maxinemyers9215]

Welcome back Markee!

[@STnSHtube]

That sign off…

[@alyzu4755]

Story 2: WHAAAAAAT?!?!?!? NTA.

[@Justaperson354]

In sickness and in health…if you don’t think your partner can keep that very basic vow, don’t get flipping married!! Dear lord! Why do people not have any standards? They act like that men and women are in short supply. There’s millions of potential partners out there so why settle on a dud? He is acting like a jerk so why give your life to such a loser?

[@WadeAlma]

If she can’t have kids then he shouldn’t waste his time on her. But infertile doesn’t mean sterile.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one ok you have only been together for 1.5 years, he wants kids it’s a huge thing for him. That is fine, why stay together? Just move on, get checked out both of you since kids that important. I understand he wants kids why stay when he can’t have his life fulfilled in this way. People have different hopes and dreams. Every relationship has needs that need to be met. You want him miserable forever because he doesn’t get his family? You want to waste 15 years on him?

[@juliearmfield2634]

Exactly people have different dreams and needs for their future. Not everyone is compatible these two may be so it's best that they separate and not waste any more time

[@NinjaNanya]

I strongly disagree with "it's stupid to tell them about infertility being a deal breaker". If having Bio kids with your partner is important to you it's not stupid to tell them, it's the right thing to do as soon as you know that fact. I struggle to see how saying this is "demanding a woman's Uterus" it's saying "Hey these are my life plans. If that doesn't work let's break up." Now admittedly this Boyfriend sounds like trouble with his backtracking and like he didn't do it because it was the right thing, but honestly what's so wrong with being upfront and honest about what you want and making sure you and you're partner are on the same page? Lying is not the answer he needs to be finding someone who's goals match his or if none can be found figuring out enjoying the single life. Note my strong opinion aside I still love you Markee you're absolutely wonderful sorry if this message comes off too strong

[@cornbread12987]

In sickness and in health

[@eph2vv89only1way]

I totally believe that op wasn't out to "take people's money", but even if s/he was, who cares? There is nothing wrong with making a living by being a landlord as long as you aren't a slumlord. I have had some scummy landlords, including one who made me feel like I was in a psycho thriller movie. But that is no excuse to hate all landlords. A friend of mine is a landlord who has had scummy tenants. She doesn't hate all tenants because of it. Like all other groups of people, both sides have both good and bad. I'm wondering if the BF's real issue wasn't a power issue. When he thought op was a tenant he figured that they were either equals or he was superior to him/her. But once s/he was a landlord that meant s/he had some independence and he hated that. If this is the case, it was a red flag for future abuse

[@boneymeroney2674]

How in the hell did OP not see the red flags glowing around her EX bf? 😮

[@carolroberts4614]

It's not easy to see things clearly when you're in the middle of a situation!

[@notevenlistening6072]

Damn, I went to like it after the end bit, but already had! 😂

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - Read between the lines I interpreted "I'm 95 percent sure I won't leave you if you're infertile" to "I won't leave you because I can always knock up a side chick/get knocked up and pose my affair child as our baby" because tragically that scenario happens too often. Story 2 - him: All landlords care about is money!! Also him: lives rent free and only pays 50 percent for groceries and demands a cut of the rent money op is collecting from the tenants. Boy, bye. ✋ The dick can't be that good.

[@becauselifts9913]

Cheers Markee

[@telinhajp]

Heeeeey!!! You're back, Markee!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@laurawilliams1090]

Wanting children is a big deal, and hence a potential partner not being able to have them or not wanting them is an obvious dealbreaker. My take on it was always that I would not marry a man whom I knew to be infertile, but if we found out after we married then so be it - it would not be fair to leave him in those circumstances. In sickness and in health and all that. I had this conversation several times with my husband in the years before we married and it never made either of us remotely insecure - we were just being honest about how much having a family meant to us. The woman sounds a bit drippy tbh and the bloke is probably better off without her.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

First! Have a great day everyone!

[@gabinathan5499]

OP'S BOY-FRIEND IS THE A -HOLE DEMANDING A SHARE OF THE RENT MONEY OP MAKES HE HAS NO RIGHT TO IT. THE MAN.IS HER BOY-FRIEND,NOT FIANCE/ HUSBAND.

[@theScytheofGod]

Life is conditional. Don't get it twisted.

[@jamiehorne1173]

Hey, people bought house if you don't want to rent. Then shut up aboit paying rent that pay the water the gas the power the land tax. Landlord food and help take of the family. It their job. No money no food forntheir kids. Apartment are not free and house you still have to pay and life not free. Rent go up when bill like power, water and gas goes up. Damage the apartment means that you still have to pay.

[@poetryqn]

Story 2: Projection much?

[@donniejefferson9554]

I seriously don't get why its so shocking to people on here that infertility could be a deal breaker. Most people want kids. A person who can't have kids isn’t a good partner for someone who wants kids. That doesn't mean anything is wrong with someone who is infertile. It just means the two aren't a good match.

[@damien678]

Infertile =/= sterile. Many infertile people have kids. Infertility just means it's hard to conceive, not that it can't happen.

[@lynnw7155]

Story 1: I hate that people have to get comments from Reddit, family, friends, and therapist to decide to end a relationship. OP is the only one who knows what's right for her. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think everyone else has any business being involved in my relationship.

[@alexshaw8167]

It’s about getting the perspective of a stranger. When you’re in the situation it’s hard to see it for what it is.

[@videofan1010]

Then don't ask someone outside of your relationship for advice... When you post people will be honest (or delusional)...

[@merrybright5732]

It becomes everyone’s business when you post your relationship problems on a public forum. No one is stalking them just to randomly spring comments on them about their relationship

[@YellaBellaReno]

You hate it when people turn to reddit, friends, family, AND therapists for help? Who do you turn to when you’re in a bad situation?

[@Wh00000]

Have you never asked anyone for advice on anything in your life? Yes, your relationship is your business, but sometimes an outside perspective is helpful. It's not crazy to ask someone for advice. Maybe asking Reddit is sometimes, because Reddit is often a mass of idiots, but this person also asked trusted friends and her therapist, a person whose job is giving advice.

[@steveon104]

saying that op bf is showing his "true colors" is an overreaction... people should date at least 6 years and at one point towards to beginning someone should let their partners know that upfront... i personally hate kids

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

"people should date at least 6 years" Dear god, this! My partner and I knew each other for 6 years before we started a relationship. We both know exactly where the other stands on kids. He like kids, but doesn't want any of his own. Like you, I detest the buggers, and I got myself fixed years ago.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

Why would you tell a boyfriend about properties that you own? It’s none of his business. Kick him out. He has no business yelling at OP. He hasn’t paid a dime in RENT !!!! Boyfriend is a jerk. Boyfriend has been benefiting from a free place to live. Congratulations, boyfriend trashed you and called you evil then asked for 50% of the money. What a prize. Boyfriend is an AH. Do not tell your future boyfriend about your property either.

[@PaulaSB12]

What’s wrong with a man who wants kids?

[@luciferandassociates9255]

Something about them not being able to have one on their own so they shouldn't be pushing it on women or leaving women who doesn't want or can't have them. I don't know. My husband wanted kids, so did I. We have kids now.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

Nothing what's wrong in this story is he only sees biological children as worth wile that he would abandon his partner over being infertile it says a lot particularly of a man. Men are more likely to divorce their sick or injured spouse than woman and this is a huge indicator that this guy gets out and looks for green pastures if things get hard. It also shows he is not committed to her on the level or any partner on the level she is committed to a partner. So the relationship will be more one sided her always giving more than she recives. What hapoenes if they have the biological kids he feels entitled to will he feel entitled to biological grand kids. What will he do if any possible kids are child free adopt or have step kids. By now means do I think parents should love their children unconditionally but he has already shown that he is only capable of loving and valuing a child on the condition they are biologically his. What other conditions does he have for loving or wanting a child must they be straight a certain gender healthy .

[@randomusername3873]

​@@luciferandassociates9255"they shoudn't leave women who don 't want them" You realize how insane this is

[@user-kl8lo6rj5i]

Nothing at all. It's great that he wants kids, it's that he's quick to say he would leave OP over fertility issues, without even giving it a thought. A more thoughtful partner might have said that he really does want a family, and asked her how she felt about it before making such a statement. If issues come up, those issues need to be looked at and alternatives explored. It sounds like OP's boyfriend just wants what he wants and OP is expected to hand it to him without any effort or concern taken on his part. This guy may want kids, but it doesn't sound like he is ready for the responsibility just yet.

[@luciferandassociates9255]

@@randomusername3873 I never said it wasn't, I only gave the answer I commonly hear from redditors.

[@NerdilyDone]

Story 1: Why are so many commentors upset about someone wanting children? It's a normal dealbreaker for couples, even where fertility issues aren't involved. NAH.

[@mbyerly9680]

The idea of "infertility running in a family" is kind of funny. Those with the dominate gene or whatever causes it don't reproduce. Any man who wants a woman examined for infertility before marriage would have to be tested first. Fair is fair.

[@averycheesypotato]

Firstly, it’s not as simple as dominant genes always winning out. And even if someone can get pregnant, that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Infertility can run in a family. The real issue is the boyfriend who values OP solely based on her ability to provide children for him, rather than actually seeing her as a partner who is in it for the long haul

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

@@averycheesypotato "The real issue is the boyfriend who values OP solely based on her ability to provide children for him" This. He only sees her as a means to an end.

[@damien678]

​@@averycheesypotato Miscarriage runs in my family, which is tragic, and makes me want to get pregnant even less than before (I'm FtM)

[@averycheesypotato]

@@damien678 It’s entirely your choice if going that route is worth it for you or not. You won’t necessarily have as hard a time as your parents or grandparents if you do, and knowing an issue runs in your family can also help you prepare to deal with it, open up treatment options. Or you might decide to either not be a parent, or have children who are adopted… all possibilities, all valid choices that don’t affect a person’s value overall

[@damien678]

@@averycheesypotato I feel most keen about being a foster guardian. Helping kids in need while their parents/guardians pull themselves together so they can be reunited sounds very nice and rewarding. Of course, I'm describing the ideal for fostering as a model, some adults don't end up being able to get their act together. But, I like the idea of helping out kids and their families in that way.

[@Takeoverartist1987]

Imagine holding someone wanting children against them. If a woman said “ if we aren’t working towards marriage then I’m out” no one would have blinked an eye. But somehow this dude is bad for it?

[@randomusername3873]

Funny because the "children are a massive choice" is always the go to talking point I guess fathers are not important 😂

[@Takeoverartist1987]

@@randomusername3873 they never are in todays society. We are just to be there to provide. No opinions. No choices. Just “man up” and take it

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

​@@Takeoverartist1987 You just paraphrased the inequality that women have suffered. Things are changing and you are coming across as rather upset about it, given your hyperbole.

[@Takeoverartist1987]

@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement so you’re openly saying this is just payback and malicious? Nice…

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@Takeoverartist1987 No, you are saying that. I'm saying that "men" who get up in arms when women actually stand up for themselves and their needs like it's some kind of affront to a man's rights, is rather damning and very telling of one's character.

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

🦐

[@Obiwantuan]

Story 1: 'She deserves better" Um why? Why didn't she tell him from the first date she might be infertile? They both sort of suck here, due to lack of communication about what they both want.

[@Nevertoleave]

Why didn’t he say from the first date he was only capable of shallowing loving children he shares dna with?

[@Obiwantuan]

@@Nevertoleave That's why I feel they both suck. She knew infertility was a very real possibility and he wants kids. They should of discussed all this instead of waiting 1.5 years.

[@nathankennedy3290]

Men are entitled to the right to father children and to leave a woman who cannot bear children. Women leave their husband's all the time for being nothing but bored

[@davec8787]

Story #1. For thousands of years men an women have been coupling up to have children. There is a bond between them that the man will provide and protect the woman during pregnancy and child rearing. While the woman accepts that protection in lieu of providing children to the man to further HIS legacy. If a woman or man can't conceive children then you can't blame or shame the other partner for leaving.

[@averycheesypotato]

If that’s how you feel, lay it on the table on the first date. You probably won’t get many second dates (if any), but you owe that honesty to anyone who would invest time in you.

[@quartzskull8772]

Get your ass back to the 60s

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

You damn well can blame or shame them when they only bring up this deal breaker AFTER marrying/committing to the other person. If it was that goddamned important to him, he should have brought it up long before he even _thought_ making a bunch of promises (vows) to her.

[@damien678]

There's a lot of ways to further a legacy without having bio kids lol.