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[@stephlyndsey3932]

As a healthcare worker please be an advocate for yourself as a patient idgaf if it irritates the staff! If you don't like a nurse request another one PERIOD and if any attitude comes ask to speak to the nurse manager and file a report! Nurses are regular people that deserve to be held accountable when in the wrong!! Ok I'm done 🙃

[@wckd4u]

I want to tack onto this and say that you can threaten to go to the HR of the hospital. My mom did this once when i was a kid - I was born with a syndrome and often had doctors poking and prodding at me - and the department changed their act REAL FAST.

its impossible to have to do all that just coming out of major abdominal surgery. i know. it happened to me. i was abused. read above comment

[@gothicRaven16]

Yes I completely agree with this!! At the VA I had to advocate for my dad who had cancer of the esophagus and was undergoing chemo and radiation. He was not able to eat or drink much if any and the nurses overseeing him left him all weekend in extreme pain from severe dehydration. I all but led the doctor by the hand to my father explaining his situation. He received a life saving PICC line the same day and was finally able to get the correct amount of fluids to help flush out the chemo he was getting.

[@poppergurl]

I didn't realize you could do that! Thank you so much for that little piece of information. Every single doctor that I go to treats me like a POS because I have a history of addiction, but I've been in long term recovery for almost 7 years.

[@DrSimpleBeauty]

Thats good advice but poorly addressed to...in other words that advice is for the person who is with you. Its the husband’s job when a woman is in labor. He should have gotten a different nurse but of course I’m sure he’s polite and didn’t know that. I can relate because my ex husband didn’t fight for my comfort during our child’s birth.

[@InvisibleRen]

Most of your viewers are awesome but in case anyone comes in who doesn't know you or thinks they know everything (because these people almost always show up) lemme just say to them: YOUR BIRTH, YOUR DECISIONS. NOT YOUR BIRTH, NOT YOUR BUSINESS. ✌🏾 Be blessed.

[@ASightToSee_]

I was just thinking about how people become so desensitized in their work field, especially the health field

[@DubsTV93]

My nephew was just hit by a car last week. He's 17 and was left to die while he was walking to the bus stop for school. He has a TBI- He's confused and gets combative bc of course, he doesn't know what's going on. He kept ripping his sheets off in the hospital bed. His CNA came in the room and said, *_"Keep doing that and we will have to restrain you and we will see how you like THAT!"_* Like holy shit, he's not trying to make your day harder girl, he has a brain injury. Ffs, people are so stupid. She's in the wrong field. Once you lose compassion... Get another job!

[@DubsTV93]

@Stella S. No one works for free. But empathy, sympathy, & compassion is MUST to work in the medical field. I worked in a nursing home for 7 years. Never would I disrespect a patient or not listen to their complaint.

[@abigailb9144]

@Stella S. Lmao what money? She eas wrong, so SO wrong for that but aides dont make any type of money. But y'all are right anyways... Once you lose compassion ans empathy, its time for a break or a career change. Looking into that myself. I cant work in the ER if I've lost compassion. I care but getting over worked, punched, slapped, cursed at and otherwise abused by patients ans management just isnt for me anymore.

[@flakiiis0008]

Girl yes!!! My last Er visit I was in the worst pain of my life. Worse than labor and everyone that checked on my seem to not care and I got the feeling a few times like a couple of people were annoyed or acting like I was faking or over reacting. I was admitted and diagnosed with Crohn’s and in such a bad flare that the gastroenterologist said he could barely get in to see what was going on because I was so inflamed. Besides him and 1 medical assistant, who felt so bad that I couldn’t have my baby with me the whole stay, I just felt my presence was annoying to them. I pray my disease doesn’t ever put me back in the hospital.

[@byrd813]

That's what happens when these people just do it for money. Not love or passion.

[@meldorf03]

File a complaint when you're ready. No one is going to get fired unless they have had a substantial amount of complaints filed towards them. In that case, they should get fired and you will have done other women a service. I wish you and your family well. Please consider speaking to a therapist about this.

[@natanyaparsons8491]

If you decide to have another baby, I hope you are able to have a healing birth experience. I had a traumatic birth with my first son that ended in c-section, but I was able to have my healing vaginal birth with my second. It was everything I had hoped it would be. I went with a birthing center the second time and had a midwife and birthing doula. Don't let anyone let you think you're feelings aren't valid. You can be grateful for your beautiful baby and still dislike your birthing experience.

[@dinolemma]

I didn’t understand why people went to birthing centers until I gave birth in a hospital. Now I get it. I was considering that for my second as well.

[@staceyrussiantonian]

I gave birth to my first a month ago and had a home birth. Thankful to know how hospitals operate before I had a bad experience in a hospital. I actually had a surprise breech and thankfully was still able to give birth naturally at home. At a hospital it would have been an automatic c section. Sending best wishes to u Britney and hope you heal well.

[@fehyndana7725]

I always thought I would like to give birth in a birth house with midwife and doula instead of a hospital, your story encouraged me more! I‘m just a little scared of not having the option of an epidural 😬

[@staceyrussiantonian]

@@fehyndana7725 read ina mays guide to childbirth and watch positive home/birth center natural births. Tell yourself you can do it and other motivation positive affirmations. Those things really helped me. And remember home or birth center is a starting place. If there’s an emergency or you change your mind because u have a long birth and want epidural you can go to the hospital! Choosing the alternative does not mean you can’t change your mind and do hospital anyway.

[@dorky979]

I am currently pregnant with my first child. I enjoy reading and researching ALL aspects of life- its my personality- and I am planning on giving birth in a birthing center with a midwife as well. I have learned that Brittany's experience happens in one way or another often in hospitals.

[@BestFriendInYourThread]

It broke my heart to see how these events affected you. I'm so so sorry. I wish I could have hugged you everytime you tried to push past the painful memories to tell your story. You must have been terrified the further this went on. Bless your heart. I hope you never know such pain again. Watching this as an empath is tough but that moment when you said and then I heard my baby cry. 😭😭😭😭 That got me . It really got me.

[@elizabethmcgraw7612]

Me too! I cried with her

[@Uhohlisa]

Yeah this made me sick to watch. It's not okay

[@lynnpearson3566]

Oh my Lord, Brittany. I am genuinely sorry. I'm an NICU RN and although I don't work in Labour & Delivery persay, I do attend a lot of high risk deliveries and c sections. Believe me when I tell you, your birth experience was not within what is deemed "normal and expected" and was instead borderline barbaric. A HUGE red flag for me was when you spoke of having a full bladder and being unable to pee, and medical staff being remiss on doing anything about it.... even when mentioning to them it was causing you additional discomfort. They should of emptied your bladder via an "in and out" catheter. It is beyond risky and dangerous to allow a woman to labour with a full bladder. The risk of your bladder rupturing was huge. When you spoke of your bladder bleeding during your c-section, it makes me wonder if your bladder was not close to doing so. I am also a huge advocate of pain control. And although it was nobody's fault that the epidurals didn't work (it happens), to administer Pitocin without an epidural is horrendous. Probably some of the worst pain you could inflict on someone. Some may not agree with me, but to allow a woman to labour, with pitocin, with no pain control, while not progessing for almost 4 days straight is criminal (my opinion). It also increases the risk of placental and/or uterine abruption, which has the potential to be life threatening for both mom and baby. They should of done the c section a lot sooner than they did (again, my opinion). You are clearly traumatized. And your feelings are validated. Please be open to some counseling as PTSD is a real possibility... if it isn't affecting you already. You are a beast, Brittany 💪If going through all that didn't prove to you how strong you are, absolutely nothing will. Congratulations... Gia is beautiful (just like her momma). Take care of you ❤

[@t.a.mccurdy9122]

Thank you for your thoughtful and educated response, I'm an RN also and unfortunately went through a traumatic birth 13 years ago that ended with my infant passing and me going on dialysis. Brittany needs to definitely look into legal action for negligence.

[@MissLolo9324]

The whole time I was like damn this hospital needs a lawsuit for this.

[@TheBeanHome]

I was trying to do my birth epidural free and they knew it.. and not only gave me Pitocin but cranked it up to speed me up. ☹️ eventually i broke and asked come it and I had to be help still to get it in because of the waves of pain

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

I had pitocin and declined the epidural then at 6cms my water broke and the contractions got really intense and felt like my uterus was being electrocuted. I got up and they couldn't get a read on the baby's heart beat and then they put in a fetal scalp monitor and so because of all these things they told me I had to lay down and stay still so I told my husband I can't do that. I have to get the epidural because I cannot sit still with these. I thought it was just the pitocin. No. I ended up with a c-section with that birth and then went on to hate the epidural though mines worked fine though I did start feeling some pressure. Anyway, went on to have a vaginal birth and the same electric waves and intensity and I did not get the epidural. My next was another C-section before labor. Then my next was another vaginal birth and went into labor on my own and that was the most intense contractions ever. More than pitocin. I was shocked and it lasted longer. The pitocin first felt like period pains until 6cm. My other contractions were......labor is intense.

[@Crazychris-tel]

Barbaric says it all, same word I used when I watched my daughter give birth this year poor thing got all the way up to 10 cm and then they took her in for a C-section f****** assholes

[@madelinearnold-vasquez943]

It makes sense you were saying things you didn’t necessarily mean during labor, you were in extreme pain and probably sleep deprived. I’m so glad your baby is healthy. She’s beautiful like you 💚

[@Cocochantelle]

Your hair flourished during your pregnancy! You have that mama glow 🤱🏽 Edit: I’m so sorry that you experienced this. To literally be driven crazy by pain and not have anyone help you during labor, has to be the most psychologically trying thing a woman can go through. Labor is such a serious thing and so many medical professionals don’t take it seriously. Women literally die everyday giving birth. You had every right to be terrified.

[@savvysushi]

Ugh im so sorry you had this terrible experience. It really goes to show you that some people should not be in healthcare if they can’t empathize with their patients and truly care for them. Never accept that kind of treatment! As a nurse, we know who we work with and how their personalities can be and it’s not out of line to request not to have a terrible nurse again. So glad your baby is perfect and safe!

[@dinolemma]

I was in labor for three days and told the nurse I felt like I was going insane. My blood pressure went up and the nurses GOT MAD at me because I was in pain and denied me pain meds. I think it’s more work for them to watch you while you’re on meds so they don’t wanna do extra work. 97% of people I interacted with were nice. Thank God my doctor was right outside the door when I was ready to push. Birth is so traumatic. I was so happy to see that anesthesiologist too.

[@dinolemma]

Sorry forgot to mention it was three days because of Pitocin and cervidil. I wasn’t progressing. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I feel like it’s pointless to have a birth plan because we are really not in control.

[@seacyren161]

@@dinolemma If I was crazy enough to kill those people for you, believe me I would. You poor thing, I am so so sorry! 3 damn says? Disgusting.

[@pm2886]

That's not why they "got mad at you".

[@dinolemma]

@@pm2886 yes it was. I work in healthcare and when I told the nurse I was in pain she got visibly and audibly annoyed and rolled her eyes. She ignored me until I said it again in front of the nurse supervisor. My pain was an inconvenience to her because she didn’t want to be bedside. The hospital apologized to me and when I had my second I did not have that experience. Do not make excuses for bad employees.

[@pm2886]

@@dinolemma Show me were I 'made excuses for bad employees'. Right ... you can't, because I didn't. I said nothing at all about the quality of the employee.

[@emmybear874]

The fact that you were basically awake for 48 hours stressed TF out could have put you into a mini psychotic break and caused you to become a little delusional. I'm so sorry you weren't treated with more care and happy you are safe and healthy now💖

[@caseyrozehnal3665]

If you can, find a doula or therapist that can help you through birth trauma. Having someone to talk to and validate your experience can do wonders for both you and your baby. Sending healing vibes to you and wishing nothing but the best to your beautiful family 🖤🖤🖤

[@1sweetpeach]

yes! A good postpartum doula could help unpack the trama. if you have another baby, maybe think about homebirth or a midwife at a birthing center. and you can have a VBAC too!

[@GabsterZ21]

Yes there’s many women that do womb healing. And womb massaging too. There’s so much to help heal this trauma

[@samanthatheowlbear2003]

I had a bad first birth experience too. It's glorious to talk about it in the past tense. Us women are tough, we persevere. When you're in pain and you feel like people don't believe you, it's the worst on top of everything else. I hope that nurse watches this and changes her behavior.

[@nyceexo53]

Same here, I feel like this happens a lot more than women talk about. I had a horrible first birth too. Same thing with nurses being bitchy and like I was an inconvenience. Telling me I'm overreacting with my pain, that I'm lying when I told them I'm pushing as hard as I possibly can. I'll never forget it and it actually made me want to go into nursing because I cannot believe these kinds of ppl would be nurses, especially in the maternity ward wtf?! I swear I felt like they were targeting me for some reason, they were acting like I stole their HS sweetheart lmao it was like nothing I've ever experienced in my life. Im not discounting that this probably happens to WOC more but I'm white and I really think this must be a pretty common thing for women all around after watching this video and reading these comments. WTF is going on guys?! This needs to be talked about and in the spotlight more, this is infuriating 😡 Brittany your baby is gorgeous!! So sorry you were subjected to all of this. I swore I would never give birth again but my second birth was like a dream, I think because I went in knowing what might happen and deciding that I wasn't gonna take any shit this time. The first time is such a whirlwind that you're questioning if it's even really happening or you're being paranoid, that's how they get away with it. Thankfully my second time I had the best nurse and my labor went so smoothly, in large part thanks to her making me feel relaxed enough to do what I came there to do. Sending love to you and your family, enjoy every second with her, she is such a beauty just like her strong ass mama ❤️

[@CassCraft08]

This broke my heart. I literally cried with you. I am so sorry this happened to you. You’re beautiful daughter has an incredible mother who went through pure hell to bring her into this world❤️

[@samantham.1807]

It’s been 3 years since I had my son and I’m still traumatized from it. I’ll never have another child because I’m just to scared to feel that pain. I believe I have PTSD from it. I also had my epidural ware off and the doctors didn’t believe me. And when I kept telling them it feels like I need to push the nurse to told me not to. My son is a blessing but I refuse to feel that pain again.

[@lb1203]

If you ever do decide to have another one maybe just go with a planned c-section. My sister in law went though an emergency one and a planned one and she said the planned one was just about as perfect a situation as she could imagine. Night and day difference. It doesn't make you any less of a mother to choose that route! and a planned one is far cheaper! haha

I had an emergency c section too, Mine was due to preeclampsia. It’s true all the nurses are not the same. Some are there because they really care and some are just there to clock in 🥴

[@peytonweb]

I am SO effing upset for her!!! There is NO EXCUSE for someof the things that happened to her, & the way she was "treated", rather, NEGLECTED!!🤬💔😭

[@131pinkbird]

I was in the psych ward for 2 months and boy do I agree that having a crappy nurse is the the toughest thing ❤️

[@HH-lr2zt]

Brittney and her baby are so pretty...I'm blown away. Like how could so much beauty exist in one frame?

[@shavonyawashington8353]

Brittney you need to report them to the medical board!

[@Eli-vk9sn]

I feel like that hospital shouldn’t even exist. This makes me so upset I’m sorry you had to go through this. I feel like my dad would have had everyone in that room fired. I really felt everything in this video. God bless you and your baby❤️

[@amiraaboelkhair164]

Yes this is unbelievable, I had c section twice and this uterine push happened just once or twice after delivery and after a while not immediately to the extent that she wakes up like that

[@whitney6506]

I went through a similar thing minus the c-section... I said I would never go the hospital route again! And I didn't, my next 3 were all born at home with my husband and sisters help and they have been the most beautiful experiences of our lives! It can absolutely be done. Modern ways of thinking make child birth way more traumatic than it really is...So happy for you and your family! Your daughter is Beautiful!

[@null4177]

👏🏾

[@beautifulsoul7093]

Anesthesiologist almost killed me man, she shot fentanyl straight into my bloodstream vs my spine and I whited out after my heart rate shot up. Scary shit.

[@JJ-dt4ql]

Omg 😳

[@infinityx89]

Fentanyl can be administered straight into the bloodstream, actually...Maybe you mean the main anesthetic for epidurals? That can happen during test dose to verify it's in the correct position (which in your case it wasnt). Sorry you went through that experience, but glad youre well enough to write about it. Take care

[@beautifulsoul7093]

@@infinityx89 hey thanks for the kind words. 😊 It definitely wasn't a test dose. I wish it was the case. She seemed very flustered and panicked that I almost passed out and my heart felt like it was going to explode. I've had more than one kid previously and this time the epidural went wrong. it was very obvious. Fentanyl can go into the blood stream but fentanyl can also kill you quicky if the dose is too high or admistered incorrectly and I asked her what was in the epidural after and she told me mostly fentanyl. It was a scary experience but glad im okay.

[@beautifulsoul7093]

@@infinityx89and take care as well. 🙂

[@ravenwilson7979]

❤️ you’re here now, you survived!!! You have PTSD from the whole process. Don’t hesitate to look into counseling if you feel like you need it. ❤️

[@missladymo]

She’s absolutely beautiful Brittany!!!! Childbirth really shows how resilient and strong women truly are. I had preeclampsia and had to have an emergency c-section, 9 days before my due date. It wasn’t a great experience and that “massage” they give your stomach afterwards was traumatizing and beyond painful.

[@stephlyndsey3932]

I felt so bad when you posted that you had a c-section bc you were so transparent about not wanting one! Of course any child is a blessing but mothers have a right to feel some type of way about their birth and PP body and I hate when people act like it doesn't matter 😒

[@racheli2598]

Britney hang in there. These traumatic births are so hard especially when your hormones are all over from pregnancy and delivery. Just being honest it will probably be a long time until you are able to move past the emotional trauma you experienced from the birth. I had two c-sections and with my first he was taken away from me for four hours. With my second I lost so much blood and almost needed a transfusion but refused it. My daughter also had heart defects and was transferred to a children’s hospital within 24 hrs. It’s such a hard time especially when your expectations and dream of a blissful birth doesn’t happen. She’s here now and beautiful and one day your babies will be 13 and 10 like mine and you will have forgotten about the trauma to where it’s no longer raw and so painful as now🙏🏻

[@thatgirlbobbi1]

When you said the part about how black women are often mistreated and you were thinking was it happening to you. Been there before, So relatable. Side note: Baby girl is gorgeous, your hair is POPPIN.

[@candyluna2929]

Black women suffer during birth in the USA bc if racism? How do you explain the treatment they get in black countries?? Are they racist there too??

[@sarahmarie3317]

@@candyluna2929 girl look up the stats yourself. The evidence and statistics are there for anyone to view. Instead of doubting it exists because of your clear privilege doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Just because it isn’t relevant to you doesn’t mean it isn’t relevant and in FACT it should be relevant to all of us.

[@k.b2457]

@@candyluna2929 we are focused on the US lady. Ya know the place with one of the best healthcare systems around? It's most definitely due to racism and bias. It's happened to so many people including myself. I had my lasik eye surgeon hit me in the forehead because i couldn't refocus my sight onto the little green dot after literally going blind for a second. Unfortunately, with more serious procedures like child birth many black women don't make it out alive.

[@devingreen7809]

@@candyluna2929 They don’t suffer only because of racism but some of their suffering is exacerbated by racism. Statistics show that, in the US, black women are less likely to have their pain adequately managed compared to others. I’ve even seen textbooks claiming that Black people have thicker skin/don’t feel pain the same which has been scientifically proven to not be true. Mama Doctor Jones did a great video on this a while back

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

What modern textbooks have you seen with that in it?? In a hospital, all women are offered and pushed to have the epidural there is no other effective pain management so if that doesn't work then there's nothing else. She got the epidural four times, she was not mistreated or not believed at all. What she was was indoctrinated to believe she would be mistreated and even when she was not she believed she was. I have had five births, five children. The statistics do not give reasons, that's not how they work. Bringing up these from slavery and from the way way past is not relevant. You don't know why those disparities exist and in general pain management in hospitals is poor. After having babies they offer only certain medications to everyone, if those don't work maybe they would give you something more but the meds were not effective for me and I didn't realize it until my fourth. With my fifth I brought my own herbs. It's not as black and white as you think and unfortunately most of you are so ignorant, brainwashed, paranoid and inexperienced that you truly don't know what you are talking about and you don't listen to anyone who does. All races have been ignored by medical doctors, most women of all colors have horror stories about how they are treated. Look at the beginning of obstetric history in white hospitals, it was horrible. This is not an issue of color but one of gender. All of us women are at risk, all of us women can be horribly abused and mistreated and unheard at a very crucial and sensitive time in our lives. This issue very serious and it being made to only be about black women takes away from the real problem of the way women are treated in obstetrics.

[@baby5968]

What is wrong with this hospital? Can’t believe they left you in severe pain for two full days, pumped with pitocin, WTF 😳 I’d honestly consider filing a complaint and lawsuit for medical neglect.

[@ASmith-jn7kf]

What medical neglect?? There is nothing else they can do for pain or are you saying they should performed the C-section once they realized it didn't work??

[@kcmarie3774]

I tell you us women are amazing to be able to bring a life into this world. These men could never go through labor. You are a warrior! She is absolutely precious! My delivery was horrendous it gave me PTSD to be honest but my daughter was worth every bit of it!

[@debh3404]

Welcome to the world of medical professional gaslighting and trauma. I’m so sorry. Your story reminds me of my hysterectomy story. 9 years later I still can’t tell the story. I’m so sorry that you got absolutely HEARTLESS medical care and support. Huge hugs Mama 🤗

[@unsolicitedopinions7769]

I’m pregnant now but this is definitely something I needed to watch. Black women having complications during childbirth is such a real disparity in healthcare and this needs to be discussed. Thank God for the nurses and professionals that actually took your pain and their jobs seriously. ♥️♥️♥️

[@Latte-girly90]

Have you thought about home birth with a doula? I'm a black woman and once I heard about the racism that's in a lot of hospitals I started researching other options. I was shocked to find out how much better it is to deliver outside of a hospital.

[@unsolicitedopinions7769]

@@Latte-girly90 I have but considering the doula isn’t covered by insurance and I have to have a c section anyways, I’m probably having a hospital birth unless something changes. My doctor and her staff are awesome though thankfully.

[@trevnti]

It's probably not racism, it's just insensitive. My auntie (bi racial) went though the same thing with black nurses, some just don't actually emphasize or care, just there to get the baby out and bounce. Especialy since many are dealing with multiple patients, especially if it's in a full hospital.

[@unsolicitedopinions7769]

@@trevnti maybe or maybe not in isolated cases. But racial bias in medicine has been thoroughly researched and even dated back to when female slaves were subjected to experiments because “black women don’t feel pain”. Even now, there are doctors that have admitted in medical journals that they think or have thought their black female patients were exaggerating pain. Of course there’s insensitivity but the racial disparity factor is there.

[@trevnti]

@@unsolicitedopinions7769 Racial bias exists, but it's not everywhere. That's all i'm saying when so many people claim it's racism when Britney could pretty easily pass for white. Medicine until recently has been experimental and not only blacks were subjected to it. They use to use chainsaws on women to cut their pelvis open etc. I just like to view things in more rounded vs everything is racially based. If we ignore that many people in this field are just insensitive & just deem all as racist then nothing gets solved.

[@9188jenni]

I freaking hate the hospital system.

[@nic8798]

I'm pregnant right now. Due in February. I dont want to hear negative, but I also want to be prepared for every situation.. So clicking off isnt an option lol!!

[@lb1203]

Hang in there! I don't know if it will help you to hear but I had a great birth experience. They don't all end like this, but I agree it is a good idea to hear all the different ways things can go and try to prepare yourself mentally. If you don't completely LOVE your doctor/midwife then find another one! ask around and check reviews for the hospital you plan on going to. Because let me tell ya, that makes all the difference in the world. I went with a midwife that works with the hospital system, so I got the best of both worlds. Check if there's a practice like that in your area!

[@nic8798]

@@lb1203 Thank you for the advice hon. I appreciate it. 😊 I actually love my doctor. He is great. He is very well known in my area. With lots of experience delivering babys. He is actually the top rated OB for my area. I trust he would do his very best for both me and my baby boy. 🙂 Very glad to have him as my dr.. but I do like information and like to see the good and bad that can happen. Expecially since I'm wanting an all natural birth.. I'm hoping I can anyhow. 😊

[@camillefaith2005]

Congrats!! Hope everything goes well.

[@nic8798]

@@camillefaith2005 Thank You!! Me to. 🙂🤞

[@lighteninggazelle816]

From one mom to another, I am already tearing up just hearing you say you sat for 2 hours with pitocin like that. I could tell from the way your story was going that you were on Pitocin before you even said it. SO SAD 😭 wish I could come scrub your bathrooms for you and bring you fresh ice water while you snuggle your precious sweetheart. Edit: omg it got worse as i kept listening!!!!!!!😭😭😭 you poor soul!!!

[@RaelynnG]

Oh my goodness! That is medical malpractice! What in the world! They are not supposed to leave any part of the catheter in! That can cause long term damage! I would file a complaint. Seriously. This whole situation is ridiculous!

[@kathrynvincent1563]

I remember before you posted Gia’s first pictures I was praying for you since you were having trouble going into labor. Gia is beautiful!

[@NaomiSwanson]

My epidural wore off too before I gave birth. That pain was more than I could handle, it’s so hard to describe!!

[@nannagvva2811]

I had an emergency c-section too and I have to say that not having the birth you planned and not receiving your baby as you expected is sad. And is totally valid to grieve that loss. I'm sorry you had to go through that painful experience. I didn't have anything specifically traumatic but it was a lonely experience, and had to work with the feelings of "failing my baby" for not being able to birth him the natural way. This is why I say this tol you: you did everything you could for your baby, you did your best and now she is with you to love 💘 and protect. Im sending my best energy to you and your beautiful baby.

[@disneymama3162]

My epidural fell out of my back or something halfway through the night when I was in labor and my nurse refused to believe me. I was hysterical crying and My mom and sister marched down to the nurses station and DEMANDED answers. Got a new epidural and a new nurse who was a god sent. I did end up having a c section (my choice before it became an emergency) Shaking is totally normal. It’s so cold and you have so much adrenaline. I threw up all over the nurses shoes too. I’m so sorry you had to go through all this. Take it easy! C section recovery is no joke. She is beautiful though! ❤️

[@simoneamalfi3875]

Brittney, I went thru a very traumatic birth as well, the difference was that my kid got stuck and wouldn't come out. I hated all of the doctors and nurses, the only person who was sympathetic was the anesthesiologist. It was the most horrible experience I've had. It's been 3 years now and I still cry every time I talk about it. The way child birth is done here in the US is horrendous. I'm sorry you had to go thru that. I We need to come up with different procedures that take the well being of the mother in consideration as well.

[@blackcatspat]

You poor poor thing. You poor woman. I am so sorry this happened to you. You are healing from so much. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself about breastfeeding or anything like that. You do what you need to heal and have joy.

[@Journeylivin]

I just saw your update that you are pregnant again. I hope this time you have a better delivery

[@spaceonion4126]

I think mama doctor jones needs to react to this video. Sorry you went through this, sounds awful. I have never had surgery either and I too would be terrified. I do think it is possible some of the staff had a racial bias. I hope you are able to heal physically and emotionally from this.

[@worshipcatalyst1]

MDJ would be wonderful since she actually acknowledges the racial disparities in healthcare and emphasizes with her patients to the best of her ability.

[@worshipcatalyst1]

Empathizes*

[@HH-lr2zt]

MDJ would do a great job explaining the medical science side of Brittney's story.

[@trevnti]

It's probably not racism, it's just insensitive. My auntie (bi racial) went though the same thing with black nurses, some just don't actually emphasize or care, just there to get the baby out and bounce. Especialy since many are dealing with multiple patients, especially if it's in a full hospital.

[@bethanycoleman426]

@@trevnti You don't know what it wasn't. You weren't there.

[@brookiieepoohh]

I stayed with my mother during her hysterectomy at the hospital a month ago because I know how some nurses are, the second I left (because they don’t allow people to spend the night even though I was her only visitor) a new nurse came on the shift and was POCKETING my moms pain medication!!!! She was in so much pain in the middle of the night she called me on the verge of tears, she was throwing up because the pain she was in. I’m so sorry you had a traumatic birth experience, I am sending so much love your way. That nurse that was neglecting you needs to be fired.

[@uschilou]

WTF!!! That is seriously absurd!! Wow. Evil, vile people

[@suzannethompson9261]

I remember the times before epidurals.. I thought I could handle pain well and then I realized what pain really was. It helps when you learn relaxation and breathing techniques. I knew what to expect for my other 3 kids

[@scabiesandrabies]

I had the same experience in the hospital when I had surgery as a child and I am not black. They brushed off my extreme pain and I'm pretty sure they didn't really give me anything but they said they gave me the same strength medication they give to pregnant women. Some hospitals are just terrible and the people who work there are psychopaths.

[@poppergurl]

Girl, im with you! I gave birth 21 years ago and it was so traumatic. I was 19 so they purposefully (in my opinion) wouldn't give me an epidural. I felt all of it. I was pushing for like 8+ hours.

[@lizr4076]

I'm so sorry. I had a traumatic labor and delivery that ended up c- section as well. I have diagnosed PTSD from it now, and I'm so scared to get pregnant again. My baby also had terrible colic, so it took me a long time to bond to her

[@youheartmel]

Lots of cesarean babies have colic. Look into a chiropractor, they can help heal your little one.

[@13kubby]

I am currently a nursing student going into the L&D field and I am so incredibly sorry you experienced individuals who made you feel unheard. I’m crying with you. I couldn’t imagine going through all that you did. You’re a strong momma and I’m proud that you shared your story. I promise to you and every momma and family that I care for to show them the best care and love during their stay. It really helps me as a student understand the needs of a mother and the family beyond what the text books say. You’re so brave ❤️❤️

[@wendysykes608]

Checking in to see if you are OK? Hope you are well and just taking a break ❤️

[@ashleighwilson2023]

It’s so unfortunate when doctors and nurses still don’t believe that black women are in pain when they say they are.

[@Cyr530]

True , but the worst treatment that I’ve received have been from black nurses and dental hygienists and I’m black and about Brittany’s complexion so I wonder if that nurse was black.

[@stephlyndsey3932]

I hate to say it but.... Nurses look at you as another number... 1 more patient before they can go home... No matter what race you are. Its ashame but its the truth.

[@brittnaywarfel6198]

Yes! The mortality rate of black women giving birth in hospitals is alarming.

[@InfintelygratefulCC]

That’s exactly what it was, I would love to know the main demographic of patients in the hospital

[@trae4529]

I don’t think doctors and nurses believe women- period. I had my kids in a military hospital and there was every combination of races possible between the healthcare workers and patients-- they didn’t listen to anybody.

[@user-zv9no2my6j]

I will never understand why they break the water so often. the bladder with the water inside is there for a reason and breaks from alone at the right moment (which is when the head comes out it can be opened or after the baby dived out inside of it and surrounded by it it can be opened. seriously, like cats do often. the baby floats much easier out if still surrounded by it.) this way of unnecessarily breaking it, it just sets an unusual shock to the body. and: It makes the birth way more painful. I read nurses and doctors do that in general to get the birth done faster, because like this the hospital saves time and money, if it's over faster. not caring how much more painful it is for the mother. and in many cases it leads to this, way more trauma than necessary. there's - as far as I know - no other motive or reason behind breaking the water than speeding up the process for the staff. and if it often leads to 2 day labour and C-section - which the hospital gets way more money for.. this makes it all suspicious and not trustworthy. how is it legal they don't have to at least explain what breaking the water entails and get proper consent for that? there need to be better laws to improve this issue. it's way too common and shady.

[@WellBeing999]

It starts the chain for a c-$ection, that’s why

[@saraafshan6377]

so true ...hats off to your explanation

[@BecomeALovelyWoman]

This broke my heart, I’m sorry you went through this horrible and painful experience 😿

[@yes_hunny]

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, I would literally cry the whole time! When my mom was in labor, the umbilical cord got wrapped around my neck so tight that it literally stopped my heartbeat and the doctors told my mother that I was dead and that she would have to give birth to a dead baby, I can't imagine what she must have felt like. This experience just shows how strong you are and I hope you will get past this trauma and watch your daughter grow up beautifully ❤

[@nickomie]

I just had my baby on the 12th and my experience was almost identical. I'm so sorry that you went through that. I'm also traumatized.

[@zacriana]

This was exactly like my first baby delivery. I wanted to die. Sorry you went through this too 🖤🖤🖤

[@desireymorris2889]

I’d like to say thank you for being brave enough to share your story. I just seen a dateline special and African American women are four times more likely to die in child birth and one of the factors was due to doctors and nurses not taking their concerns seriously when they are telling them they are in pain. My husband and I are trying for our first and your story really solidified for me that when my day comes both me and my husband need to be sure to advocate. So again... thank you so much for sharing your story. Best to you and your family ❤️❤️❤️.

[@InvisibleRen]

Those nurses that treated you well deserve the world! It's so important to have supportive staff around, especially when you're going through a nightmare.

[@JediBunny]

Welcome beautiful baby! Sending you both so so so much Love and Light ✨💖✨ Thank you so much for sharing this with us - a really important topic and your authenticity and honesty is immeasurably valuable ☀️

[@aaliyah7361]

I was literally crying with you the whole video. I am so sorry for this terrible experience! You are so strong. That hospital or nurse needs to be reported! I’m going to be honest this makes me terrified as a black women to give my trust to nurses and hospitals do not believe our pain.

Omg she is so precious!!! 😍🥰

[@Annakayforever]

Couldn’t wait for this video! We are glad to see you doing well, your baby girl is beautiful ❤️ I’ve been in tears watching & listening to this

[@nasayjones3056]

She’s gorgeous!!! 🥰 Congratulations Brit I’m due February 13 wish me luck! 🤞🏾🙏🏾❤️

[@TheLazyhomesteader]

You should have NEVER had to explain a literal single thing to anyone... that’s a bunch of BS and you need to give the hospital a bad review. I’m so sorry that happened to you! ❤️

[@MimiIman]

Congratulations, she is adorable 🥰, I know things didn’t go planned but glad she was delivered safely and you both are ok.

[@FashionFarfalla]

You're so strong, and I was crying at parts of your story. What a beautiful baby! God bless

[@nataliaz.4285]

I’m so sorry Brittney! I never knew the body could reject an epidural, so scary. I’m glad your baby is smiling and she’s ok! Maybe they held back on the fourth epidural for toxicity reasons. I hope you’re enjoying being a mom! Congratulations 🤍

[@Naistov]

The way Brittney looks at her precious, gorgeous babyyy.🤗❤❤❤

[@RaelaKelsey]

Brittney, you are so so strong! Thank you for sharing your story with us. Baby girl is absolutely beautiful 💖

[@jenniferwise4860]

Awww, Brittney, bless you. This touched my heart. I feel for you girl. You're a strong lady!

[@peytonweb]

HOW do I say this...I know that I don't know you personally, & I have never given birth, but I feel for you SO MUCH RIGHT NOW!!!💔😭 I am LIVID for how you were treated by the "bad" nurses & other personnel! I have burst into tears so many times during this video that I lost count. OMG, I am SO FREAKING SORRY that you went through this awful experience!!! I don't have any more words...truly. I'm just SO happy that you have your beautiful baby & your beautiful life after going through that HELL on Earth!!! God bless you & your baby & husband; I am going to be praying for healing of your trauma, both physical AND emotional!!!🙏❤🙏👶🏾💝

[@EmGrace4012]

You could have reported that nurse and you would’ve been 100% in the right to do so. I’m so sorry you went through all of this.

[@dinolemma]

There’s some awful (non compassionate) nurses out there for sure 💯

[@coffeepandacat]

She still can report her

[@charlotterose4705]

I’m so happy you and baby girl got through this experience healthy 💖 you are an inspiration to Mommas everywhere. I hope you’re doing well now ✨

[@NYCbabyJes]

Where'd you go?

[@RebeccaO619]

Oh my god I cried along with you! This sounds so traumatizing Britney. I’m sorry you went through all that pain. It almost sounds like malpractice to be completely honest? And this situation that could potentially cause PTSD on top of the being postpartum, is very serious. I’ve never had a child so I don’t know but just listening to you, these are the thoughts coming to my head. You’re baby is beautiful and you look great. Sending so much healing love to you. I would’ve called my mom too!

[@Sana-gq9ow]

Omg congrats Brit. I haven’t saw you in over a decade and omg co grata girl!

[@nudebout]

You are so brave and transparent. I wish you a smooth recovery and I am so sorry that it was so difficult. Sending you lots of love.

[@karliesky4342]

Hope your doing well! I miss your uploads 😢

[@BlairWaldorf2013]

Girl...see this is WHY I don’t know if babies are in the cards for me. I have the same problem that my metabolism just dilutes ANY medicine. Even for my teeth 🦷 they would give me the laughing gas to just do my cleanings. Like birth is just....... You MADE IT....the beautiful girl is here and you did what no one but a woman can do.

[@shyb7847]

Exactly. I was adopted and there are plenty of children who need adopted. I don't want to go through labor AT ALL.

[@Latte-girly90]

You can birth children without medicine at all. Yes it's hard but lots of things in life are hard.

[@seacyren161]

@@Latte-girly90 That....isn't reassuring at all. Not even in the slightest.

[@WellBeing999]

@@seacyren161 right lol

[@labornurse]

A good anesthesiologist can numb you almost totally, as long as you don't have some contraindication like scoliosis or extreme bleeding disorders. Sometimes obesity can make it hard to place an epidural correctly, as well. You can also have iv medicine and laughing gas.

[@JustJali]

My goodness you went through a lot. Poor thing. So happy you and your beautiful baby are safe ♥️

[@daughterofzion9017]

Sorry you went through that and I commend you for having the courage to speak on something this personal. Transparency can help someone else and also help in your healing. Hope you start feeling much better..peace and love, God bless!❤️

[@sonjaxo17]

I'm so sorry you had this horrible experience. It's even worse when you think about the many many times you tried to explain your pain but felt you weren't heard. ❤

[@GreignGreign]

Aww Brit I’m so sorry your experience was so traumatic. 🥺 Im over here crying with you..wish I could give you a hug. I’m glad you and baby are ok.Don’t go back to that hospital omg.

[@mimi674]

omg!!! girl hope you are feeling better!

[@gerrimiller3491]

Congratulations to baby cakes💕I'm a nurse and i know how you must have felt. God helped you out of that experience and now your beautiful baby girl is here😊 you are a strong and lovely momma

[@doves750]

What a beautiful baby girl Brittney. Am so sorry to hear you suffered so much.

[@sonias9722]

I literally thought about you like 30 mins before this video. The Baby is amazing

[@Chilaquiles-jz7vm]

I’m shook , you’re the strongest woman I know right now. Congrats, sending much love 💕

[@frangipanigirlcz]

Brittney, this is so heartbreaking to watch and I’m so sorry you had to go through this. It is clear to see just how much this has affected you and I hope you get some professional guidance to heal from the experience. You deserve so much support and love

[@mommabear2118]

My epidural didn't work either. Not at all and my doctor actually accused me of being a drug addict because of it! I was in so much pain I begged for a c-section but it was to late. My doctor was a bi**h even the nurses were rolling their eyes at her. Every time I tell my story I cry too. It was truly traumatic. I had to get a blood transfusion. I'm sorry you had to go through all of that 😔

[@lucevrd7848]

oh she's cute. cute cute cute. Congratulation ! oh and by the way, she's really cute.

[@steffnite8908]

CONGRATS BABES OMG SO HAPPY FOR YOU MAY GOD BE WITH YOUUUUU

[@lynnleigha580]

Awe, congratulations!! She's beautiful! Good job mommy

[@CadisEtramaDiRaizelHexion]

Birthing seems such a hard and painful task for the body and mind! I admire all mothers out there you are freaking heroes!

[@summergoddess11]

I had a traumatic birth with my first so I feel you on so many emotional levels, I cry with you on this video. It’s been 5 years since that birth and I STILL cry thinking of it! for me I had an emergency c section that had to be done so fast that I was cut with no pain meds so I felt it all before being put under general - horrific. The blessing was that they managed to save my baby but it’s very traumatic. I had to have another c section with my second- totally different experience! 💗

[@lotus_flower2001]

They should of done the general first >:( That anesthesiologist was shit.

[@joannediaz8978]

Same thing happened to my sister. They lost my niece's heartbeat and cut her vertically before any anesthesia. She felt it. Later her doctor said he didn't know why she was crying because they saved her baby and needs to get over it. She suffered from severe PPD and had PTSD. I cried when she told me what happened to her.

[@klash9393]

OMG! SHES THE CUTEST! ❤️ And you look gorgeous girl!

[@MsRHM]

You’re so brave for sharing this with us. Thank you so much and we’re soo glad you and your beautiful baby are okay 🤍

[@c.j.5671]

I’m so sorry this happened to you, Britney. I was tearing up as you spoke. Hope that you are able to find healing🙏🏾. Medical racism / negligence is a serious issue, and am glad that policies are being put in place with new administration to prevent similar birthing experiences. Nonetheless, sending love & light to you and baby Gia !✨💖

[@Rose-qj6eq]

That is one of the prettiest new babies I’ve ever seen. Y’all know they be looking kinda sus the first couple of months in.

[@fooloo993]

😂😂😂

[@youheartmel]

🤣

[@curlwhurl8054]

A sus baby reading your comment: 👁👄👁