My Husband And I Are FIGHTING About The Way He's Helping His Brother's Ex-Girlfriend r/Relationships

[@faeangel7649]

Imagine having your life turned upside down by your significant other cheating Then immediately being the other woman for someone else's marriage

[@mbyerly9680]

Seeking revenge by hurting an innocent party shows the victim of the cheating is just as bad or worse.

[@mesiagamer5217]

Story 2: why is drunk BF better than sober BF?

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Agreed. :'D

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

I don't think drunk is better. He didn't really back her up. He just wanted to go home.

[@locusxe1411]

Yeah story 2 NTA- them being drunk isn’t an excuse. They were going toxic af and got kicked out. Your boyfriend agreed with you while drunk as well. And like you said, you left them at a bus stop. I would’ve kicked all of them out.

[@Ars-Nova258]

Story 2: Do not mock the ferryman when you need their boat. She was just reminding those girls that *she* was the one driving and put them in their place. NTA

[@drkatbun8566]

Story 1: tbh what brad did to her was crappy but she’s on the same boat now that she did it to the supposed family that’s she loves and supported her, I wouldn’t be surprised if brad and her cheated on each other but only brad said the truth. Regardless of how emotional you are feeling, a regular person doesn’t go for the their ex’s married brother. She upped brads crappy ways by starting an affair. Story 2: kinda ironic BF best friend cares more about ops safety (even if he’s a little into her) than ops actual boyfriend, also it’s a little deranged to constantly want two people to be together just cause. Also even if he wasn’t aware that the best friend’s gf was bringing her friend and something tells me he was aware, why didn’t he text op the moment she showed up? And it’s a festival, they might have been drunk but op didn’t dumped them in the middle of nowhere, it was a bus stop, they could have gotten an Uber if they didn’t want to wait, op went to get them at a 3am.

[@Latashaharris95]

I disagree thats so many boundaries he crossed sure its bad he cheated on her but her husband is cheating with her she needs to leave from the family of her ex nta i would make him choose

[@SherriLyle80s]

Story 1: Trickle truth. He kept out the real truth from you. Drop him.

[@lisakaz35]

How soon did y'all know the hubby was a cheater with Kelsey?

[@MsMookalate]

@@lisakaz35 the first red flag was when she started the list. I guess since she’s in the relationship so she brushed that off but two and three confirmed it. I was like “boo… they the new couple”. Your husband been trying to wait for the chance to be with her.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story 1 in the update, Opies deserves better, and the husband, in the ex sister in law deserve each other.

[@jazzyg7202]

Story one: op should have screenshot the text messages and pictures to husband parents and Brad. Story two: op needs to follow this saying " drunk minds speak sober thoughts".

[@pippo17173]

You didnt even need to read the whole 1st story to know the husband is flat out cheating. Kelsey sure showed she is not above on cheating herself.

[@ebagentj]

Story 1: OP's husband's family is going to have an interesting Thanksgiving (if they're in the US/Canada) with OP bringing along his new girlfriend he left his wife for, his brother's ex that he cheated on. Story 2: I feel like this is going to take a weird turn in a year or so where the guys are no longer friends and each are dating each other's ex-girlfriends.

[@shizukorosektk1107]

better yet, the ex bf relationship with the crazy girl goes sour, he breaks up with her then tries to come back to OP only to see her with his ex bff.

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Story 1: I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees Hubby prioritizing Kelsey over his family, but it's kind of creepy. She's in a vulnerable state and he's not acting like a big brother, he's acting like an opportunist. In fact, he's trying to cheat on his own family. I don't know if Kelsey realizes what he's doing or is blinded by her need for support, but this behavior is predatory and I hope OP outs him before she leaves.

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

Welp... they've been flirting and sending suggestive pics back and forth... seems like she's aware of what's happening and it's very possible that she's doing this for revenge and OP's husband is beyond willing.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 2) I agree with Markee. They brought it on theirselves. As far as your boyfriend, too many red flags. Don't let any of them lie, it was so a double date. I would not have went to get them. They got theirselves there, they can get home theirselves.

[@britnicox3929]

It really is the people who say they “don’t want drama” who are always right there in the middle of it

[@owl7072]

Story 2: Wait wait wait so was bf just _sitting there_ and letting these little girls (I'd say worse but I don't want youtube to throw me into the void) insult Op? Right in front of him? In this economy? 💀 He only stepped in when they wouldn't get out of the car cause they were delaying him getting home, Op should have kicked him out as well 💀 And then he woke up and got mad at Op for not letting these (insert insult here) stay in her car? Still in this economy? Just throw the whole boyfriend away.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: NTA. 1) You agreed to pick up bf and his friend, not the two girls. 2) They attempted to call your bluff and dared you to drop them...too bad you weren't bluffing. 3) It's your car, and you have the right to not be insulted in it. 4) Being drunk does not give you a pass on being an AH. 5) You didn't "leave them in danger." You left them in a public place, with transportation, and *with a man!* 6) Your bf should be standing up for you to them, and insisting they apologize to YOU. Agree with the commenter that says they think the "revenge" was telling OP about hooking up with her bf.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

I find it a bit hilariously depressing that drunk boyfriend was better than not drunk boyfriend.

[@jeannieanonie7932]

Anyone bashing OP on reddit is so wrong. That girl needed to go. And it comes out that he is cheating with her. Good bye hubs.

[@teresayates8274]

Story no.1 I would not let her on vacation with us, and no late night drinking sessions. I wouldn't have a problem with her staying in touch, but I wouldn't want her in my house and with my husband constantly especially on vacation! She is an adult and has her own life, she needs to go live it.

[@DisneyChar]

S1. Tell the family everything, make sure brother in law is there, she is only a fraction of the problem, he chose her over his family and wife. S2. They put themselves in danger. Strong need to dump bf who took you on a 4 way date.

[@weezylone]

Being drunk doesn't change who you are. It just makes it harder to hide it.

[@raz7573]

Story 2. Not only would I’ve kicked the friends out of my car, I would (before breaking up with my boyfriend) I’d contact the girl that wants him, letting her know he’s now available. Then block the boyfriend on all platforms.

[@whitneybennett5076]

Kelsey and OP's hopefully soon-to-be-ex are monsters. I also wonder if OP's husband had feelings for her before Brad cheated and saw this as the perfect opportunity to swoop in and "rescue" Kelsey. That is, assuming they weren't fooling around before Brad's own cheating came to light. If so, that makes him even more disgusting. Not JUST because he cheated on OP, but he likely took advantage of someone who he knew was going through a really hard time. I know dealing with cheating and divorce on your partner's behalf is an awful thing to have to deal with, but now Kelsey's knowingly become the other woman to her former BIL and is no better than Brad. And people have to get over this notion that an emotional affair isn't as bad as a physical one.

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Last story: BF defenetly cheated on OP on that festival, either with the friend or with the girl the friend wanted to hook him up with.

[@Parasolhyena]

Or the boyfriend... I mean did you see how fast he dropped his gf when OP's boyfriend got mad at her.... I joke, I joke but yeah you're probably right

[@syd2001]

Story 2: if they are adult enough to get drunk than they are adult enough to make it on their own.

[@wafflestoast4546]

i wish there were laws that could get people arrested and charged for withholding information that could save an innocent person's life. the ex in story 2 is worse than the chick, he knew about the whole thing but said and did nothing. if he really didn't want drama, he'd have dealt with the situation looong before it got out of hand, like the second the chick opened her mouth about op. now he lost a great girlfriend, a friend and the girl he defended so hard will have a mark on her record.

[@TheNormExperience]

Story 2 - soooo OP reacted rationally in an irrational situation, only to find out that her instincts were scary spot-on with that person LITERALLY planning to do her harm, and the boyfriend wants HER to apologize?!? F that! He was aware they were literally planning to harm his girlfriend and he thought that was his girlfriends job to stop without even knowing about it??? Why is it the sane victim’s job to deal with ANY of this rather than the insane offender???

[@lolo_z]

It's an ex girlfriend not an ex wife with kids. What does Kelsey think? She should be the one to put a stop to this. She needs to move on from the ex and moving on should include staying away from this family. Your husband is acting suspicious, he cheated for sure.

[@browniewin4121]

1) It is questionable how much your husband is connecting with this girl. She needs to get a new life on her own outside of your family. Right now your husband is not treating you and your family not as a priority. I hate to say it, but the "I look at her like a little sister" might not be the case now or in future. OP, you are right, boundaries that shouldn't be are being crossed. NTA. He needs to stop being so entwined with her. After update: So sorry husband is being disloyal, cheating and lying to you, and that someone you considered a friend of the family was willing to go along with this and cheat with him. Your husband sucks and so does she. Get yourself a good attorney, this situation is beyond disgusting and you husband has shown he does not prioritize your family. 2) You were more than kind to drop them at a bus stop, you could have just kicked them to the curb on the spot immediately when they started insulting you. Shame on your boyfriend for expecting you to put up with this. NTA but everyone else is, worst of all your boyfriend who was basically on a double date, and is not falling on the right side of this. After update: Wow, what creeps. It's good you are seeing your boyfriend for who he truly is and are not considering staying with him if not for the lease. Please do make it a total break as soon as possible.

[@robertx8020]

STORY 2: YTA ...for not kicking your BF out too as he seems to agree with both girls But seriously NTA ofc Are all your friends to terrible? Did your BF tried to stop those girls?

[@jkim010100]

People that say they are not sure what to do often mean I know what I need to do, I just don't want to do it. People need to stop pretending they don't have a choice. Not doing anything is a choice. Staying is a choice. Not breaking up is a choice. They just don't want to do it.

[@jodycotton9454]

OP only messed up by not putting all 4 out of her car. OP's boyfriend is the bigger AH. What a jerk to be mad at OP after she was insulted by STBEXBF in her car after a double date.

[@LaunchPadMcQuack4Hire]

"start divorce proceedings now." 😂

[@tonypraf8641]

Perfect timing, thanks Markee!

[@tonypraf8641]

I just realized that this commend sounds like a bot lmao. No I'm a real person

[@evellior]

Story 2 EDIT: The context of the bus stop being in a populated area and the city being on the lookout to take care of festival goers changes things. I originally said after kicking them out they should have waited to see they got another ride safely or something before leaving; risking their safety as punishment would be an asshole thing to do.

[@javontebrown2099]

My grandma used to say a drunk man tells no tell

[@damien678]

Story 1: imma just assume Brad has a 'sister kink'

[@tesscheer]

Story 1 I think her husband is having an affair with her!!!!

[@Heartana]

Story 2: when I get drunk or stoned (weed’s legal where I live) I typically just become insanely quiet because I know if I say something stupid (it’s usually something totally random and funny and my family and bf bug me about it when I’m sober) it’ll bite me in the ass in the morning if I know that and I’m still plastered then these people do too but just don’t care

[@nightdweller6446]

st1 theres a point where the ex becomes actually ex. Whats in it for the husband with all this "support"? maybe I'm extremely cynical, but this is a red flag. Why didnt he attend the hospital with his WIFE? update: Bingo 2nd NTA and drunk BF is better than sober BF. those b's got the repercussions of their trash behaviour. There were 3 of them at the bus stop. Reconsider the relationship in view of his sober behaviour.

[@ianmitchell3725]

What is with this preoccupation of families all going on vacation together and celebrating all the major holidays as a group 🤔 can't you live your own lives . Weird .

[@joanwilloughby1617]

Sounds more like husband_and Kelsy are having an affair.

[@baileymae4547]

Just started re watching your videos, what happened to the facecam and the live videos? Still absolutely love your videos!

[@mirashadowdance]

The story abt the husband cheating with the ex fiancé of his brother …. I think the ex fiancé was really vulnerable. She’s still wrong for getting in that situation but the husband is just so predator for that

[@donnaprudente4359]

HATE stories without ending. Divorce no divorce

[@shadowkissed2370]

Story 1- your husband is trying to be a 'white knight' and that can go terribly terribly wrong.

[@northeastoperations]

Why don't women get shit for liking older men? How old do you have to be to take responsibility for your actions? She's 27. Do women need to be 30 to like older men?

[@jillimi]

Oh Mark, can you put the write thing on the lower part, so we can see the cute puppies while listening you? 🤭

[@muhname6052]

Story One: even with the update who cares how the BIL feels about seeing the woman he cheated on? Like he cheated he should feel bad. Honestly who cares about Brad's feelings? Dude cheated on his wife. How do you raise two sons like this? One cheated on his wife and the other one cheated on his wife with the first ones ex wife.

[@mr.monotone1908]

If Markee replies to this comment. I would be happy.

[@Markee]

howdy :)

[@mr.monotone1908]

@@Markee :D

[@Sami19837]

I know you want more clicks but I hate the shorts. Don’t destroy the quality of your page.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

👋👋👋

[@vampire9545]

ESH for 1st story. Pretty sure I'd ditch vacation for a staycation 😆 but not lie about it

[@belalugosisdead4444]

How the hell does op suck when she's the one being cheated on? The husband is staying home to be with his affair partner, which is super different than avoiding a vacation because you'd rather relax at home