My kids survived a school shooting-here's how we dealt with it | Nick Cavuoto | TEDxOldHickory

[@iamnotjared]

I appreciate your vulnerability to share this story. How you managed to get through it, the speech and the event, I'll never know.

[@loriwilliams-bender7006]

Nick, What I really appreciate here was the idea of taking that breath, and deciding to define the moment as the outcome you desired, and living in that outcome, rather than getting hysterical and emotionallly worried about what "could have" happened (before knowing what actually happened.) By staying in that I believe positively in the outcome I want/expect mind set, you provided emotional strength to your wife, stability and calmness to your son when you saw him, rather than a frantic meet up, (which could have set him further off in a scary moment, ie, like that parental gasp when a preschool or toddler child falls, which causes them to cry and question what should be hurting, when without the parental gasp, they would have gotten back up, brushed themselves off, and gotten back into play) and, I am assuming, the quiet peace your leadership brought to the school community in a time of turmoil. I am thinking now of times where I became frantic in my worry of "what ifs" rather than having this kind of mind set, and see how that "what if this happens, how awful will it be" mind set did not help any situation, where a positive outcome belief attitude would have. Also, I can see that if a negative outcome would have happened in said circumstance, there would have been time to deal with it then, at that moment, by only burdening myself with it, rather than everyone around me I shared my fear with. IF it happened, deal with the negative ramifications when you know there will be negative ramifications, rather than the entire time, thinking it might happen. This is a lot to chew on. I think I need to make some changes. Thank you for sharing. Great example, and so happy your children are OK.

[@Fathema018]

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[@JoelEvan]

good job NIck, this was powerful, wow

[@jacobsaudible]

Nick, I love you bro!

[@allaboutspanishforbb]

yes, and the implications are that maybe all victims of gun violence should THINK positive and the world will be s better place? Is this the way you are protecting your children and your children's future children? Positive thinking????? is that all??

[@philindeblanc]

The fact is that an armed society is a safe society, so I think its best to be heavily armed or at least have a neighbor who is.

[@jpuc5568]

@@philindeblancdepends on the area for some places this works for some it doesn’t there is no way to fully know unless people want to try it which will never happen.

[@philindeblanc]

@@jpuc5568 In my many years of experience, in the worst of places, MOST people are good.

[@TaraLaFonGooch]

I am so inspired by this talk! Well done!!

[@doggytheanarchist7876]

But how do you get there, when your life experience has shown you, that it's not fine, that it won't end well, that the kids in fact are not alright? How tf do you get to trust the universe? Or anything really?

[@Lovcavs]

Living in fear doesn't help the situation either. It's better to stay positive than to let those negative thoughts in.

[@e2728]

I agree

[@IMeanMachine101]

the only belief I have is that my time is limited everything else is out of my control all I can do is act upon the situation that is put Infront of me may that be a good or bad outcome.

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[@kislyjdozhdik1618]

+1

[@Emily-qb7vz]

Pretty sure he meant 2023 not 2013

[@alexandraalvarezconejo3628]

"Choose a belief that will anchor you"

[@celestialcircledance]

I can hold on to hope but I think I'm too much of a realist to believe in a positive outcome that might not materialize . What's more interesting is how kids can go to school everyday knowing that they might be killed and how their parents allow it . Kids are not soldiers going off to war and shouldn't be made to assume the same burden . Unfortunately most people probably can't afford to homeschool or lack the teaching skills but it makes a good case for those who can .

[@TobeOnwura]

In summary, my children got lucky and it turned out it was my positive words that did the miracle... And may be the parents whose kids didn't get so lucky should learn to be more positive... Nice. Message received. Sounds a lot like the kind of testimony you here in Nigerian churches.

[@e2728]

That’s amazing❤

[@TobeOnwura]

@@e2728 🤗

[@caspers4077]

You COMPLETELY missed the point... This isn't about just 'being positive' after a horrible experience, his point is to realise the mindset you are in as a result of that experience. You can either let it define you, or it can set a foundation for a path to healing. He didn't say his positive thoughts did the miracle, he said that his positive thoughts game him an anchor to prevent himself from letting the negative mindset define him. You might want to listen again. Best regards.

[@TobeOnwura]

@@caspers4077 okay. Thanks for clarifying that. It just came across to me that way at first though.

[@queenofdahouse1591]

@@TobeOnwuraRespect for your polite reply.

[@MDAlamin-my4lz]

I' m from Bangladesh Kishorganj bhairab bro

[@IMeanMachine101]

I dont know I like ted but this seems meh I mean we are chemically wired with emotions to enable us to make the best decision to survive or continue the human race yes this has become more complex with the evolution of mankind but lets be honest without those emotions we would become instinct I dont think its a bad thing to be scared or whatever emotion your are feeling I think your body learns and reacts and trys to predict based of previous emotions.

[@MDAlamin-my4lz]

Where are you from?

[@IMeanMachine101]

​@@MDAlamin-my4lzearth apparently 😂

[@612DwarfAvenue]

Emotions are not there to make the best decisions, they're there to be commonly-applicable modifiers due to accidental success from their decisions. They're responses and configurations from millennia of evolution in the wild, while our modern sensibilities of civilization as we might call them are pretty recent in the grand scheme of things (and oftentimes are no less just responses and configurations, given we still can't all agree on stuff). Fear can have its uses, yes, but it has many cases where it's more harmful than not, and that's why being able to control it is extremely important, just like with rage or any other such state of high emotional arousal. Letting your emotions run wild historically and presently tends to get you into more bad situations.

[@valeriedjabri2222]

Glad your child is OK. Sure hope is important, but honnestly think positive will not save your life in front of a psycho believing that destruction is the solution. Believe against believe, it's delusional.

[@shinebiskrma1220]

I'm from🇳🇵🇳🇵 npl Brother❤❤

[@JK_JK_JK_JK]

👍 Common Sense Gun Laws!!! 👍

[@Basillio11]

Are already in place…

[@doggytheanarchist7876]

Just any gun laws would do at this point. And some cop accountability, no more qualified immunity. Getting cops out of schools, would also be a good start to make things safer for the kids. This is all so bleak and horrible.

[@DATNIGGA653]

Username checks out

[@meanderinoranges]

The common sense of which people? The ones who don't trust the government to keep us safe, or the ones who delusionally want to trust the government with our safety? Because I don't trust the "common sense" of people who want to throw our rights away.

[@philindeblanc]

I love the sarcastic original comment claiming "common sense g un la ws", LOL ! Most people know that a a r-m ed so c iety is a s -afe so c^ie ty. (If you dont even know why I type this way, if its effective half the time, its because your thinking has been programmed by ce- n-s or s- hip. I'm trying to help you see some cracks in that tight system you are under)

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you share !Most controll and care for children,...❤😍🫠🌍

[@kathypapineau8679]

False Flags

[@philindeblanc]

A lot of these are, pretty sad to where we have come in shaping society. There is a channel that shows court hearings that go bad or have some disruption that they make videos from, and there were a couple I watched, and there is so much wrong with what is recorded that looks very "surreal"(unreal), that I am not sure if any but a few, and very unstable mental occurrences have actually taken place.

[@greg8938]

🤡

[@jacksonh2083]

⁠@@philindeblanchave you considered that perhaps your sources spread blatant propaganda? You think whole towns are in on this? Whole families that include people from other states or even countries? Mass killings are uncommon but not as common as you want them to be because you fear potential gun restriction implications, so you either have to reevaluate your stance there or deny mass killings. It’s called being biased, my friend. Rather than considering gun restrictions maybe emphasize with the victims or actually track the cases. Lots of publicly available footage, including stuff afterwards involving court rooms, interrogations, the families, people from the cities, etc. Next time something like this happens go on snapchat in the area and see what actual citizens are posting because it supports the occurrence of a mass killing

[@philindeblanc]

So sad that some of these shootings are completely fab - ri-- cat--ed from test drill footage and then used as news footage, so I feel bad for those who are real victims.

[@jacksonh2083]

Source? Evidence? Justify that please

[@greg8938]

😂🤡

[@greg8938]

@@jacksonh2083don’t question the chief inspector of the tin foil hat brigade.

[@Kerrviii]

I started to wonder the same thing… if the government was scaring us on purpose until I met an actual school shooting survivor. People are nuts.

[@greg8938]

@@Kerrviii 346 school shootings in the US last year and 13 so far this year.