My New Husband Doesn't Want To Pay For My Kid's College!

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[@SensSword]

Alternative title: my new husband doesn't want to pay for my old husband's kids.

[@MakiahRoam]

timmd909 Perfect

[@Thundarr995]

I don't blame the guy,I'd never marry a single mom though.

[@richardjet2]

Better title

[@ayeluru]

timmd909 😂😂

[@lafondawilliams]

Grown* kid college

[@Sonickrunch]

So she waited till her son was a senior to even start “saving” for his college? Ya this is 100% her issue

[@Eaglejake]

Sonic Krunch Happens all the time. Had 18 years to put money 💰 away. Same with Seniors complaining at 67 that they are on a fixed income. You had 45 working years to save properly for your retirement....now you complain you need more.

[@August-pg4zs]

Why does the kid even need to go to college? Unless it's STEM, the indoctrination is not worth it. That boy should learn a trade. Most guys I know who are electricians/plumbers/etc. are ready to retire in their mid-50s.

[@villeda7534]

@@August-pg4zs agree 👍

[@paperremix]

Indeed. I told my parents when I was 10 that they should have been saving for their retirement and my college and get their finances in order..... By the time I hit 18 they lost the house, had 0 savings period, and told me they didn't know what to do for my education. I looked at them with disappointment. I got a full ride scholarship. I have more savings then they do. They should have listened to me at 10 years old. To boot, they declared bankruptcy and still spend like they are in Congress. I just don't get it.

[@AB-ln6my]

August 123 that’s what cartons says who are lazy to get a degree

[@mokshavortice]

New husband is not responsible for your kids college, YOU are.

[@SM-4359]

Your kids are,get a job,that's like saying our parents can ask God to get us into heaven,nobody can do anything for you BUT YOU

[@mokshavortice]

shanise miguel Her mother can get a job to help, his real father can get a job to help him, his grandfather can chip in, he can get a part time job like I did. You must be a woman only them can feel entitled to others people money specially men but at the same time ignore their responsibilities and claim victim hood. Getting married DOES NOT entitle you to your partners every dollar.

[@angelikalaser7778]

It is not about tuition. If they are married they should not split the food and the electic bill. They should budget for everything together, yes even the kids college. Maybe it is like 8k a year, would you divorce over 8k?

[@mokshavortice]

Angelika Lirgendwas Didn’t you hear the call, she already had an agreement with the real father where she would pay for half the tuition. She had 7 years to figure out how to pay for it but now when it’s time to pay up she conveniently is out of work and with no savings. Why is so difficult about getting a job to pay for her adults kids college like agreed so that she can meet her obligations.

[@mokshavortice]

I wouldn’t divorce over 8k I would divorce over my partners failure to take responsibility for things we agreed if there a lack of reasonable effort.

[@BassPlayer60134]

Every time someone tries to convince me to date a divorced woman with kids I think of situations like this.

[@groofromtheup5719]

A woman with kids would have had to bring one heck of a lot more to the table than an unencumbered woman for me to nibble at that bait back when I was in the dating scene. Were I to re-enter at my age, childless pickins would be mighty slim, but I would 100% be sure to ask about their divorce decrees before getting too serious after listening to this.

[@ibobeko4309]

@@groofromtheup5719 A women with kids is nothing for me, i had once experienced a ex husband who is just a maniac, not only you have to see this guy every 2nd weekend, you have to also deal with his lawyer, divorced people are always fighting for money or for their ego. And then you have kids, it aint easy to build up relationship with kids, i mean i like kids but they were not mine. A women cant earn enough to get me through so much drama, it is impossible.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@ibobeko4309 well, I wasn't talking about just money when I said bring more to the table. I make enough to support a family on my own (who knows how that would play out after a divorce), but money is definitely part of the equation.

[@ntmn8444]

I feel the same way about divorced men and men with baby mamas.

[@kkrezagang4606]

Plus I ain’t want damaged goods

[@me_not_me]

He only makes $50k... and is paying for their household and support to his other kids! he doesn't actually make enough to pay anybody's tuition mathematically😑

[@burropoco]

2:18 notice that she doesn't actually know what he makes (she reckons about $55k). I reckon he makes more but his previous marriage has made him less trusting so he's not declaring it.

[@me_not_me]

@@burropoco Still...even if he's at $70K that's a squeeze. Partially supporting at least 5 people in Colorado is not cheap.

[@miguelbermudez5426]

It doesn't seem fair to ask a guy whose ex-wife is trying to take him to the cleaners again for even more $$ to pay for your son's education that *you agreed* to pay for. He has a father and 2 sets of grandparents to help.

[@RowneyPowers]

preach it. I make close to 40K a year, I couldn't imagine even making 60K and having to take care of myself, my wife, MY kids and HER kids, then pay them to go through turion. If he makes 60K after taxes that's 5K a month. That's really not that much, especially to be put through college. My wife has almost 18K in debt right now and I'm dying trying to help pay that off.

[@pmbarro]

Sounds more like, "I've been getting child support for years now from my previous marriage and now that's going to run out, I'm liable for my kids college but I really don't want to work. How can I convince my new sucker husband to pay for it?"

[@IamtheGL]

B🌋🌋 m

but shes a strong independent woman you guyyysss

[@MrVic820]

I Smell Fresh Cash That’s exactly what I heard too

[@joshuamclean4588]

I Smell Fresh Cash both been divorced for same number of years, I wonder… just wonder 🤔🤔🤔

[@CerronPritchett]

Arbor Borealis Bear lol they all are strong independent women that receive child support and alimony and govt assistance on top of that 😂 oh and be stay at home moms while they get another sucker to foot the bill.

[@smokin67dog]

If a man made this call he would get reamed. Deliver pizza, be an Uber driver, clean toilets with your tongue. whatever you have to do. MAN UP!!!! 😂

[@edgehodl4832]

I agree, this double standard makes me sick

[@pspspsp1010]

Michele Nichols seemed like a problem before the marriage.

[@Probonoman]

@@MicheleNichols2 its not his job to pay for someone else kid.

[@deynna45]

Bingo!!!!!

[@adrianfoca865]

Waldo Armijo exactly ...what does he tell her? you are not in your husbands business enough? and he acts like this marriage is gods holy water

[@hollowfragment237]

Imagine having parents pay for your tuition lol must be nice

[@drbenjaminstacker7744]

Imagine expecting someone that isn't even your parent pay your tuition. Sounds almost criminal wouldn't ya say.

[@heidithaw1072]

I knew my parents did not have it. They helped me as much as they could but I worked all the way through. I had some debt but not like now. I paid it back.

[@shortchubbyneckbeard1681]

Dr Benjamin Stacker Not really We ask young people we don’t even know to sacrifice their lives for us so that we can live our day to day ignorant bliss College is free in most of Europe and I’d bet $ none of them consider it criminal

[@drbenjaminstacker7744]

@@shortchubbyneckbeard1681 I've personally never asked anyone to do anything you just suggested. But I do know many men and women that CHOSE to make a career out of such things. Try again

[@issagarden]

Dr Benjamin Stacker my boyfriend had no problem helping his 2 step-children paying some of their college tuition.

[@rickwalker5203]

She had 7 years to save money!

[@patty109109]

Do the math and tell me how much she'd need to save per month to send her son to a state school in seven years (and very possible it's not close enough to live from home). Answer: Around $600-700/month. It's not easy for most.

[@pw5146]

@@patty109109 wellll then the child needs to go to a more affordable school where his mother isn't struggling to save for college. It's not hard

[@joshandrews8913]

@@patty109109 Get better at math. She only needed to provide half of it. Besides, she had longer than 7 years. That's just how long before the kid starts college. If he gets a 4 year degree, she really has 11 years to save up the money. You can maybe excuse her for not having *enough* saved up, but having absolutely NOTHING saved in that time is pitiful.

[@angelikalaser7778]

This sentence is correct for 90% of the callers 😂

[@patty109109]

@Anton Zuykov a state school is not an educational ferrari, so your analogy stretches too far. Most states don't even have bachelors' @ CC, so at the least there will still need to be a transfer to a state school after two years.

[@edgehodl4832]

So Dave's advice is this guy needs to provide for someone else's kid too, on top of providing for his kids? How about her ex husband takes on 100% responsibility for his kid? This advice is ridiculous

[@jenniferannfox2316]

I agree

[@waynekerr2472]

How about she pays her half like the court order says that she's known about for 7 years

[@multistack1502]

She should have been prepared. it’s been 7 freaking years

[@retiredmanager510]

How about she “Woman Up” and get to work. Those children will be 18 and ADULTS? She gave birth to them she needs to do her 1/2 not pawn it off on a SIMP.

[@verfed]

A man is never 100% responsible for his kids unless the woman dies. It's 50-50 all the way.

[@garronl.7989]

I'm not sure I disagree with the stepdad. He has biological children of his own hes financially obligated to support. He probably doesn't have enough to pay for hers and his.

[@justshady]

The new husband is in a world of hurt. Child support on one end, and a broke wife with a college kid on another.

[@multistack1502]

I would laugh in my wife’s face. Sorry! Don’t have the money!

[@xFLASHxSD]

then he shouldn't have married her to begin with. didn't he realize hat if he marries someone with a financial agreement, he too is responsible bcuz their income merges as a married couple.

[@jborrego2406]

An u know she not going to pay for his kids

[@sturmbreakers7817]

mike jones You know that applies to her and I doubt she even put that on the table. She can deliver pizzas 🍕 and do Uber as Dave always says! Next line of B S

[@SantoineBethel]

I’m not buying that “he’s your roommate” because the man refuses to pay for a kid that’s not his to go to college. SHE agreed to pay half of the expenses, and has conveniently unemployed when it’s time to pay. Where’s her savings? If a man called in with this situation, he would be destroyed by Dave. Hypocrite.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Santoine Bethel I have a feeling this is just the beginning of this drama. She called Dave. Now what’s the next step in her plan.

[@mahanaimrobles206]

Not trying to start a fight. But Dave always takes the woman’s side. Despite them being in the right or in the wrong.

[@SantoineBethel]

Nitrodan • That’s one of his most critical flaws. It’s not like they’re not supposed to be treated equal. I’ve listened to many of his calls and the women are the main ones spending.

[@swampcrawler4185]

@john Stetson Beta Dave.

[@angelikalaser7778]

No he always tells people to marry if they are cohibitating. And if you're married you have to share finances. I heard him telling women to go to work numerous times.

[@smhca]

New husband shouldnt of married this disaster

[@knowthyself8233]

True story

[@J88HNT]

The Red Pill man is alive and well

[@gennagresham3986]

He's the disaster with his own kids and going to court over them.

[@UltimatePiccolo]

@@gennagresham3986 if he's being taken to court, it usually means the mother is using the kids to extract money from him.

[@shinettepietryga6971]

@Asian Mansplainer you should

[@Indiansmoke1]

Both son and mom get jobs to pay for it.. sorry hes not his son.

[@stephengalindo6340]

Education (college or trade school) is the kids responsibility, not the parents. So really the kid outta figure some of this out. However, Ramsey runs on biblical principles, and biblical marriage says the "2 become 1." How does the step dad being clear of financial obligation due to failed DNA test meet that standard?

[@Alakrit]

@@stephengalindo6340 it was a lot harder to get divorced in the old biblical days. Now about 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

[@stephengalindo6340]

@@Alakrit and water is wet, neither facts have any bearing on the question at hand

[@sethriggle1462]

How about the son pays for it by himself. His education his bills!

[@ChrisInvests]

I hope the son is working and putting money away for his own college, regardless 🤷‍♂️

[@dontreadmychanneldescripti7104]

He has school.

[@multistack1502]

I worked full time at In-N-Out Burger after school in high school, saved thousands.

[@Andjun5174]

@@dontreadmychanneldescripti7104 I never understood this there is 24 hour in a day and minus 7 for sleep and that leaves you with 17 another 9 for school goes down to 8 and studying for 2 and you are finally left with 6 hours and he can work for a minimum of 4 hours. This is on school days not to mention weekends oh God does he have time on his hand.

[@masterp443]

His parents are divorced and his mom is broke. He'll get Pell grants that'll cover the entirety of community college tuition. Then he can work part time to save money for university costs or to build up funds for an apartment/home/car to get away from his mom

[@SteelRhinoXpress]

Krish Ayaliya, school doesn't take up 16 hours a day, at least not in any school that i know of. You're acting like school consumes most of someones day. lol

[@mrjv750li]

That baby don’t look like me lol

[@NaturalElicia]

This is the reason why I always question the logic of marrying someone with a ready made family. You can’t truly combine both incomes because your still giving out to another household. The money isn’t truly jointed!

[@lisacox3750]

So true!!! A lot of people don't see it that way until after the fact.

[@PostByJuice]

I hate the "can't find a job" calls like lady go work at mcdonalds. Any income is better than no income.

[@NaturalElicia]

Juice yea I’ve done jobs that I never thought I’ll do. You have to eat!

[@urwifesmacho777]

People have too much pride and think jobs like fast food are degrading. They think they're Royalty 😂

[@Quanic2000]

I think gone are the days of single/divorced moms willing to do whatever it takes. I dated an older woman who when she got divorced never wanted to feel dependent on her ex. She grinded it out going to school to become a nurse, raised her kid during the day while working at night, and is now funding her kids college (with a little help from the kid himself because he earned scholarships and such). Today women want the right to be independent but not actually do the work to live independently.

[@bettysmith7045]

not really if you are collecting unemployment, and your previous job paid more than 11.00 an hour!

[@jasondeaver2117]

Not when your collecting unemployment and getting extension after extension just to chill

[@goldenheartOh]

What? At $55k a year AND fighting an ex wife in court constantly with kids, there IS NO money left over. How does this woman expect there to be any money for any kid's college???

[@swampcrawlerls1267]

Shelling out untold thousands for another man's mostly grown child is not most mens dream situation.

[@letsjazzitup]

Then should they marry a person with children?

[@JohnDoe-gc1kt]

@@letsjazzitup marrying them has nothing to do with college tuition. Tuition isnt a necessity for survival.

[@52andattitude48]

LetsJazzItUp It’s not about the children themselves. It’s just that they’ll be paying for the nearly grown child’s education and probably living expenses when they probably can’t afford to on one income, and with no plan or end in sight. That would be extremely worrying for anybody

[@Lady.Luck.]

Same goes for women who have an ex wife trying to bleed their new husband dry

[@davidmichaelseven]

If this was a business decision David would call this the stupidest idea he has ever ever heard

[@waynekerr2472]

She's a strong independent woman!

[@MrGrim-bl6nf]

I'm curious how many people will get it...

[@danielb3863]

@@MrGrim-bl6nf In this society, not many. Unfortunately people get dumber and slower by the day. Whether increasing lack of common sense, behind the wheel, money, avoiding needless problems, etc etc.

[@Vlfkfnejisjejrjtjrie]

Did you mean.."strong independent wahman?" 😂😂😂

[@adrianfoca865]

wayne kerr clearly she is

[@robertjohnson4401]

@@MrGrim-bl6nf Those that will get it understand irony.

[@Asterik103]

the more I watch these videos, the more I realize: never get married.

[@jrichieander6832]

Ramsey won’t even pay for his own kids college unless it’s under his terms but calls the next man a room mate lol

[@stephenshelton4267]

This is a perfect example of why men should never get married. She was looking for a wallet and not a husband.

[@adrianfoca865]

Stephen Shelton right.these used up women are always looking for a provider.

[@Quanic2000]

Exactly 👏

[@llallogen7380]

"Should never" get married because some, not all women, do this. Just make good decisions and don't marry someone like this. Spend years getting to know them, their ambitions, their financial plans before rushing into such a huge commitment. If I marry a deadbeat because I wasn't careful, that's in part on me for being stupid.

[@rachellockwood4762]

Found the incel

[@stephenshelton4267]

@@rachellockwood4762 Awl! Look at you using shaming language like a pro! Facts and logic are so passe! You go grrrl!

[@popz2049]

I can always to count on Dave to make the man in the situation responsible for the woman's problem.

[@zero1188]

ramsey is simping again, he got that old school mentality and think women cant fend for themselves

[@letsjazzitup]

Why should a spouse fend for themselves in a marriage?

[@LorenzoETX903]

Simping hard smh

[@zero1188]

@@letsjazzitup you dont understand what i mean . its self explanatory

[@Andjun5174]

Yeah, they are "strong and independent women" but when it comes to money some really aren't that independent. Overall she had 7 years and needs to deal with it herself but, the guy that married a single mom had to know she would be a hassle. Keep on simping out there boys

[@zero1188]

@@ultratestosterone2983 by old school i meant is dave mentality is the man should always man up and take care of the woman mistakes and accept all responsibilities

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Smart ex-husband had his ex-wife all figured out. Now she’s the new husband problem.

[@vladamirkb1]

Kids work harder in school when they're paying for it them selves.

[@stevegrydzyn6038]

@Decon. Absolutely.

[@DoubleDogDare54]

My brother said the same thing. Made his four kids work from HS graduation until age 21, THEN they went off to college. They used their savings to pay for it and my brother paid for off campus housing.

[@Stillnapie]

That's an overly broad statement. I paid for my daughters college and she is very successful, great job, $100K salary. She is great with money and is very grateful for what her mother and I did for her. Her education is one of the best investment we have made, she is able to take complete care of herself and take on the word. One size does not fit all.

[@kerfalladioubate6663]

Stillnapie that’s a very rare situation but it can occur.

[@Stillnapie]

@@kerfalladioubate6663 I don't think it's that rare, we just hear more about the spoiled brats. Kids that do well are not an interesting story. And remember millennials make up pretty much the entire military.

[@leighlaj6914]

The kid can put himself through college. Get a job and start locally at a community college to decrease the cost. Financial aid should cover most if not all if the parents don't have much income. And the step father should not be held accountable for another man's child especially when he has his own kids to take care of.

[@mokshavortice]

Leighla J I would agree if it wasn’t for the fact that she made a promise. She should be held to the same standards that a man would follow through with your promise or go to jail like a man would.

[@leighlaj6914]

@@mokshavortice I get where you're coming from and agree to a point. Life is unpredictable though and unforseen hardships fall on all of us. My main thought overall is that the stepfather shouldn't have to contribute.

[@mokshavortice]

Leighla J I agree that life is unpredictable but did you know that If a man gets fired and can’t pay child support he goes to jail through not fault of his own, double standards are despicable.

[@leighlaj6914]

@@mokshavortice The double standard is ridiculous, I agree. In this case though, they didn't specify which college the child would attend when signing the agreement (I assume). So why not save everyone the expense and go the community college route for a year or two? It'll save dad a bit of money also.

[@mokshavortice]

Leighla J that’s for them to decide but if he chooses the expensive school she should still pay it.

[@yiliu5909]

This woman needs to freaking get a restaurant job, just do whatever, and pay for your freaking son.

[@jayh40515]

I get the feeling she don't want to work at all.

[@LorenzoETX903]

It's not her new husband job to help pay for her children college

[@randymorrison1761]

Yes it is

[@mokshavortice]

Randy Morrison NO ITS NOT, she had an agreement with her exhusband to pay half of the kid’s college

[@patriotgains7455]

@@randymorrison1761 Its his fault because he was dumb enough to marry a single mom that being said it's still not his kid.

[@multistack1502]

Marrying a single mom Isn’t an issue, but the fact she would even ask him is rediculas, dude makes 55k a year and probably pays a ton for his kids already. Time to be a big girl, obviously he’s already been taking care of you for 5 months.

[@sionel2604]

Randy Morrison no it’s not. His wife had an agreement with her ex husband about their child’s college expenses..

[@pw5146]

So in the 7 years she has been divorced, she is JUST NOW realizing that she can't afford to send her child to college? So she must've been living good and thinking "I'll worry about college later" and then when she got laid off suddenly she realizes she can't pay her half. Sounds a lot like HER fault and has nothing to do with her new husband anyway. How about this woman go deliver pizzas and sell everything in sight AND (gasp) tell her child to WORK so he can help out with his college expenses. Her new husband has no LEGAL obligation to help send her kids to college. That is beyond ridiculous

[@clair233]

It might be the new husband cant afford it

[@JohnDoe-gc1kt]

Exactly

[@justshady]

He makes 55k and his ex wife already bleeding him for child support. Now he has to help is unemployed "wife" and her son through college.

[@tanyaflemon1870]

The son should prepare for community college via a Pell grant and work part-time for books and supplies. $55 k from step daddy can hardly pay for all of this. Spending the first two years at community college can save a ton of dollars

[@retiredmanager510]

Tanya Flemon or do as many kids do, join the military and the GI bill can pay for college.

[@kenyonawilson4606]

@@retiredmanager510 amen!! That's what I did.

[@sglacf]

You are unemployed and worry how to pay for your adult son's college? Wow

[@muradbabaniyazov81]

Dave, I'm curious: if you got a call from a man who said he makes 55K a year, he has kids of his own to take care of, his ex-wife keeps dragging him to court, his new wife is unemployed....oh and she wants him to pay for her kid's college. What would you say to him?

[@ximkai8794]

Probably something like "man up, eat rice and beans, don't have a life so you can pay for college for someone else's kids."

[@dustinkingsbury5554]

I would fork the money out and pay for his college because I’m that amazing

[@JamesDIY]

Funny how people with money issues have the same-sounding voice lol

[@dontundra2259]

James DIY ha ha ha true

[@cerebralcaustic]

it's a psychological thing IMHO, they cause most of their own problems but can't see it or are in denial and feel all butthurt and victimized all the time. this lady sounds exactly like my sister in law.

[@davet9387]

I hate to disagree with Dave but the new husband has no obligation to pay for a kid's higher education when it's not his kid. He has his own to worry about. My question is why has she not been saving for this? The kid needs to work part time and go to community college for the first two years.

[@groofromtheup5719]

The agreement amounts to debt that was brought into the marriage. If she had CC debt when they married, he would be just as responsible for it.

[@davet9387]

@@groofromtheup5719 CCs are legal and enforceable contracts with the issuing institution, agreed to in writing before the cards are issued. I agree the new husband is co-responsible for those types of debts and if there is a default, they can go after both parties. If the new husband agreed to pay for her son's education prior to the marriage then she MAY have a case there was a verbal contract, but I don't recall her saying there was that discussion (i.e., he was unaware of any "promises" she may have made). In any event, try enforcing THAT in court. LOL. In my opinion, he's under no legal or moral obligation to pay for the boy's college. I know I wouldn't, although that's not to say I wouldn't work with him to find a way though that included him working and meeting certain performance measures.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@davet9387 it was in writing. It was part of the divorce decree. That is a legal binding contract. This is clearly her debt, but when they got married it became THEIR DEBT. If she doesn't pay up, she would be in contempt of court and could be thrown behind bars.

[@supermanprime1281]

That's the red pill way, simps only do what women want blue pill way.

[@bethanntay]

@@groofromtheup5719 he is not responsible for her children. He has his own to worry about. She had time to plan for this. I mean 7 years is plenty of time.

[@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123]

I wish there were more details ! I find it interesting that she agreed to pay 1/2 of the college 7 years ago but hasn’t saved for it ......?? Sounds like she needs more advice on money management and marriage !!!

[@insideoutsideupsidedown2218]

rnupnorthbrrr SM watch the kid get into harvard.....lol

[@sawtoothscream1521]

Sounds like she expected someone else to pay her agreement.

[@O-B1]

He has to pay for his own kids! He is tapped out and can’t afford anyone else’s kids. Wow

[@tomsassurance]

Colorado has 2% unemployment. Employers are standing in line to hire. She has not been looking for work.

[@TeinciLove]

As a woman I would never be comfortable relying on a spouse financially. I’m often surprised at how many women call into the show completely dependent on their husbands. I’m all for working together, but for that to happen you both have to have something to work with.

[@pearlsmith99]

TeinciLove exactly! I’m the same way. You need some kind of financial stability if things don’t work out. I don’t get how women just ride off a man.

[@dr.manhattan6669]

I know it doesn't seem that complicated lol.

[@patty109109]

Alimony exists for a reason. If guy is pulling big money and girl stays home looking after kids it's not likely, should they divorce, that she'll be able to jump back into a highly paid career. I do think it's always worth considering: what happens if divorce happens? Without strong alimony or job skills, etc. it can leave one spouse in the lurch.

[@Ferien7]

TeinciLove you’re missing the point

[@ShansShop]

If the man stayed home taking care of his offspring and the woman worked, she would be paying him alimony, upon divorce. But in the real world the man is above that, he wants to play, he has to pay. Children don't live off air and raising kids is a fulltime job.

[@Officialsearch21]

My parents are still together. None of them help me pay for college.

[@Mr_Magoo_]

Welcome to adulthood. You will be better off in the long run. Self made and independent.

[@patriotgains7455]

Respect!

[@arleneaugustahair8393]

Josue rodriguez exactly! I had to join the Army.

[@sethriggle1462]

Amen! That's how it should be done

[@mrfred1000]

@@arleneaugustahair8393 You didn't have to, but I get why you did. There's a lot of indoctrination around that subject.

[@chrisgunderson7959]

Not everyone needs to go to college! Edit: this woman is a big part of what's wrong with our self entitled society!

[@vicsosa5703]

Not my kid not my problem. Go after the dad and his family.

[@xyz987123abc]

Why go after the dad who agreed to pay HIS half while the mom just sits and cries she can't do what she told the judge she would? It sounds almost the mom should be held in contempt and jailed... See how fast she finds a job, any job.... Or finds a nearly free college where junior can work to pay as he does along... Student loans follow all till death... This is a divorce issue...

[@korn111685]

Dave put yourself in the new husbands shoes. He’s fighting his ex and trying to get on with his life. He’s not emotionally or financially ready to support his new wife’s adult son.

[@knowthyself8233]

Key words : adult son. Thank you!!!

[@BKBEDSTUY]

J Smith Dave’s too smart to do that haha

[@consumerdebtchitchat]

@@knowthyself8233 Agree "adult son"

[@Vydio]

@liz t Perhaps he's raising Cain about it because he doesn't feel she is doing her part to pay. How long has she been getting child support?

[@marcosmercedesn]

This new husband will walk away if she pushes him. He shall not be simped

[@aldoruiz5683]

People forget college is free in the US. It’s called the military!

[@misutasutanto6312]

Nothing is free buddy

[@michaelb.8953]

The emotionally weak and lazy need not apply. If this woman's son is anything like his mom he'll wash out in short order.

[@dustinkingsbury5554]

Ableist

[@LG123ABC]

Gosh, maybe the kid will have to put off college for a couple of years and go out and get a JOB after high school? He could still live at home and save up a TON of money to help pay his own way through college instead of relying on his mom, dad and step-dad. What a concept!

[@Tony_Wes]

Or he can pay the other half with a job lol. If he goes to CC he could easily afford to pay the other half until mommy gets it together.

[@mokshavortice]

Blue pill thinking from a blue pilled man, never hold women accountable for anything and blame the closest man when things don’t go well for the women. She made a promise she should keep it, if she can’t she should go to jail like a man would.

[@paigebar1692]

How very boomer of you

[@LG123ABC]

@@paigebar1692 You mean successful? Sorry about that!

[@supermanprime1281]

He can join the army and earn money while getting free college and keeping america safe

[@Iceaxehikes]

Dave you are wrong. Why should the new husband pay for her rat children from her previous failed marriage? The right answer is the son goes and gets a job and pays for his own college. Surprised at you Dave.

[@KS-cl8br]

Don't be $tupid. Divorce decree says she and the boys father each have to pay half. She has a legal obligation. Her son doesn't have to pay. She can get a job or sell asserts or if she can get a loan from someone.

[@wolfofdubai]

I don't know if those questions are more related to money, or rather into relationship management.

[@shakemiz]

Definitely money. He has no obligation to pay for other people's kids.

[@MrAlexanderTheG8]

Long story short, never take on the responsibility of someone else's seeds. I speak from experience. My wife gets only $100 for child support from her Ex whilst I pay $600 to my Ex. What ends up happening is I take on most of the cost for everyone involved. My wife works, and we share a daughter, but man it ain't easy raising someone else's seeds, even from 4 years old. They will always respect you less and think their deadbeat dad is God's gift , even when you provided majority support. You live and you learn y'all!!!

[@retiredmanager510]

Whatever you do don’t get suckered into paying for the wedding. You’ll just be a wallet and a guest while her “real” dad walks her down the aisle.

[@MrAlexanderTheG8]

@@retiredmanager510 Thank God it is the daughter we share lol, my stepson however is all about Daddy, but I been more of a Dad to him than his biological father, but hey he's 18 soon so he can make his own way!!!

[@billvigus3719]

@@MrAlexanderTheG8 thank you for being a good dad to your step son. My step-dad raised me since I was an infant when my biological father abandoned me and my mom and sister and I love him as my only dad. I know it's not the same since your step son was older but one day he will be grateful to you and you did an amazing thing supporting a child that isn't your biological seed.

[@christopherjohnson8835]

H should go into the military he’s a man. He can get free college there

[@teeduck]

Her Husband makes 55k. With alimony and child support. They’re lucky they have food. Dave is crazy here.

[@miguelbermudez5426]

Food rations will disappear if the ex-wife gets more $$

[@Libra8410]

Dave said "I understand you have an agreement with your roommate" 😂 Its astounding how many people dont know how much their significant other makes...

[@nonono965]

ADDENDUM: he has no idea what I make, nor I him. And I dont care.

[@retiredmanager510]

I would never tell a girlfriend I’m dating or a spouse how much I make. Too many people see the amount you make as a goal to spend.

[@Libra8410]

@@retiredmanager510 then you're an idiot. When you're married your money is her money

[@nonono965]

Libra8410 is it now? That’s a pretty generalized statement. I can show you my account and I don’t take a dime from my partner. Moving on from the women bashers now........

[@mtbroca]

@@retiredmanager510 truth

[@retiredmanager510]

Coming up next. My husband won’t pay for my boyfriends children’s college. Dave well he married you, he should pay....😂

[@sturmbreakers7817]

I’m dead 😵 lol

[@pearlsswine]

Lolololollololollolololololololol.

[@adrianfoca865]

lolololol spot on

[@Letsbreal2023]

Wish my parents would've paid for my tuition. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@2003JrF4i]

I disagree 100% with Dave. Her new husband is already dealing with taking care of his own son and only making 55k. She should do the same.

[@pedrohernandez4971]

LEYKIS 101 Rules: - Never Ever Date/Marry a single mother!! - Never Ever Cohabitate with a single mother!!

[@paladintactical8250]

Truth, Leykis is the grandaddy of this....I will NEVER pay for another man's children...not my problem!

[@mr.worldfree3333]

Amen sir

[@axmed1987]

Hail Leykis the real father that we never had😭

[@llallogen7380]

@Brad Smith Or just make good decisions. If I marry a deadbeat dude, it's because I wasn't patient, was stupid, and didn't have high standards. Bother with the right women and don't be stupid, and you'll have a great life whether you marry or not.

[@theunfadeable60]

@@llallogen7380 Not getting married is a great decision. A man can still have a quality relationship with a woman without signing a contract between him, the woman and the state.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

No job, no money, no college. The kid needs to pay for it themself or find another way to get to college. Not going right after high school isn’t the end of the world. Get a trade, work your way up, decide on college later if that’s still what they want.

[@marcdonvito6485]

There's lots of houses out there needing new roofs.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

Marc Donvito my man. Exactly what I was thinking. Poor little me’s

[@lisacox3750]

We don't know the whole situation though. Maybe the son is cool with doing those things. He just may have expected the situation to be different since he was probably told for the past several years his parents would help him when he got to this point. Now, they are at this point and the situation has changed. It could be the Mom that is more upset about the situation than he is...you can't just assume the son is just some bratty kid. It could be the mom that is the real issue.

[@TheMechanicj]

@@lisacox3750 your kids should know thier parents financial situation at 16 my kids will know where we as a family stand on money and if it’s bad they will be working through college it’s that simple keeping ur kids out of the loop makes them financially irresponsible grow up parent them kids but as a man noooooo way am I paying another mans kid to go to college maybe if I married a widowed veteran and I raised the kid but running in on a teenage son of a deadbeat dad nooooooo way

[@TheMechanicj]

@diane Taylor it’s the American way high schools brainwashing kids taking out all the vocational classes for the university path that is so much better 20 years ago in East Tennessee they dropped the automotive and carpentry classes on my high school but they have no vocational classes now

[@jmw1982blue]

How about kids work, and pay their way through college... WORK IS NOT A DIRTY WORD!!!

[@dr.manhattan6669]

If every kid did this collage wouldn't be as expensive either.

[@daisy8284]

Bastiavolpaine hey grandpa, college doesn’t cost a thousand dollars a semester like it did back in your day. Now it’s more like forty grand a year. You think little Jimmy can make that delivering pizzas at eighteen years old while attending classes full-time? Bet you’d have little Jimmy paying for his own apartment at that age too. School + living expenses = probably seventy grand a year. You think an eighteen year old can pay for that yearly? I’m all for hard work as I work 60+ hours a week, but you old boomers are so out of touch with reality.

[@sethriggle1462]

Amen!

[@kabloosh699]

@@daisy8284 earn scholarships and work for a company that provides tuition assistance. There is options are out there. You can't be relying even on your parents to ensure your future.

[@wadechilds6671]

@@daisy8284 Hey, Zoomer. That's a great entitlement attitude you have there. If little Jimmy can't afford the $150K-$200K for a largely useless diploma, he shouldn't be going to college anyway. Personally, I'd love to drive a Lambo and live in a mansion, but I can't afford it so I don't. I also don't get offended when no one shows up to hand those things to me on a silver platter and ask if there's anything else I want.

[@dr.manhattan6669]

What wrong with Dave.This was horrible advice.

[@LillyAnnHouston]

I got a job, I paid for my college, I paid off my student loans. I’m debt free including home. Never been to Disney Land and I’m okay.

[@joesillamanrs7189]

Uncle Sam will pay for your college if you give him 4 years of military service!

[@robbanks4356]

You can sign up 3 or 2 years and even get the gi bill.

[@cynthiagraham4046]

McDonalds is always hiring.

[@jayh40515]

Not good enough for her, she wants a job where she is paid to do no work at all. Oh wait, that's why she got remarried....

[@tadpoppin4817]

She keeps saying new husband... How many husband's has she had? Court ordered her. To Pay half. I don't see why she would even consider making him pay for her kids.

[@jbsnyder1736]

This is exactly why I will NEVER get remarried ....

[@RM-yn1kz]

Amen

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

JB Snyder Chance of divorce just went up to 80%.

[@RafaelHernandez-zz2jm]

You never found the right one !

[@YouTubeDeletesComments]

Funny her unemployment is running out when the Kid is going to College. You mean when the Child Support is running out?

[@scheenekendrick9009]

I don't blame him. Not his responsibility 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ripwins]

So glad I watch "married with children" growing up. Thank you Al Bundy

[@davidmichaelseven]

Does Dave ever admit he is wrong on anything this might be a good place to start? I would have more respect if he did

[@OliveOyl12590]

Dave is a simp. In his brain, women can do no wrong in this world but a man has to cake for everyone around him.

[@donnaphen503]

His ego prevents that from ever happening. I can't believe the advice he gave this gal. AND, to insult her new husband by calling him a Room mate "cuz he won't pony up money for her kid is rather insulting. The guy makes 55K and is paying for his own kids. Funny how Dave never asked her what her job entailed. Also, I don't believe she's been activiely looking for work as long as the free unemployment checks keep coming. I guess I could fill the screen with more words, but too frustrated to continue. I think you've guesed that I was in a divorce with 3 kids back in 1980! LOL

[@GHOSTINPLAINSIGHT]

Mistake #1: Marrying a divorcee. Mistake #2: Marrying a divorcee. Mistake #3: Marrying a divorcee. Not paying for another mans progeny to go to college, priceless!

[@milleniumann28]

Lady your kids dont need higher education to be successful!!!! I turned a snap on tool box and cdl into a successful small business with a 10th grade education level.

[@BG-gr6vc]

The husband already is helping her, he’s paying for most of the bills now as she isn’t working, but he should not have to pay for her kids education when he has his own kids to already take care of. Her ex should be bearing that burden as it’s his child.

[@Lady.Luck.]

It should be between the mother and biological father in my opinion. This is not something the new husband agreed to. How do we even know he plans to pay for his kids colleges? Some parents do not do that. Mine didn't.

[@cardo1111]

I like when he turns the caller off and delivers his response.

[@NotQuiteEpic]

That's usually when he give a super generic marriage response that doesn't actually help. This video is one of those.

[@pearlsswine]

@@NotQuiteEpic It's incredibly bad advice and would only ever build resentment and hostility. Dave Ramsey obviously lives in a bubble if he thinks a man is going to use his limited income on someone else's adult children.

[@CallHerCassie]

Don’t pay for kids college.

[@hillary96renteria82]

Unfortunately, she and her ex are legally bound to splitting the costs 50/50. The only thing she can do now is speak directly to her son and make him aware of the situation, so that he can choose a college that wont beak the bank or work his but off filling out scholarships

[@waynekerr2472]

Especially if they aren't your kids

[@cohenfromdiscord2551]

I think this a poor statement. I think it is better to speak to your kids to understand the total cost of their college.

[@Mr_Magoo_]

@@hillary96renteria82 Unless the agreement states the amount or specific college. She could pay 1/2 of community college. Certainly not a private one.

[@hillary96renteria82]

@@Mr_Magoo_ that's what I'm saying. she needs to sit down and talk to her son. I've met too many people who didn't even think twice about the cost of university because "their parents were taking care of it'

[@2legit2Kwit]

Dave’s eyes.... I can read his mind. “Beans and Rice..... rice and beans”.... lol

[@L228A]

Why doesn’t she marry the Armed Forces, they’ll pay for her son’s college and they’ll give him a place to stay, a monthly allowance, and real life training.

[@brandonrides8953]

She's a strong independent woman, she can figure it out.

[@stevelangstroth5833]

@brandon It was a sarcastic joke (turning radical feminists back onto themselves).

[@stevelangstroth5833]

It's OK. I got your joke. ;-)

[@stevelangstroth5833]

@brandon That's true. Hyperbole in a text is way worse, though. Nobody EVER gets hyperbole in a text.

[@MrGuy-xx7ss]

I have a stepson and I told my wife we will save for his college. We have 14k saved. He’s 9 so we have 9 to 10 years I would like him to take a year break and travel with a budget that we plan on giving. His father doesn’t want to pay for his school he said let him figure it out. She should have had this conversation with her new husbands when they first got married.

[@Schoondogg]

So she has been leeching off this guy for 7 months and now wants him to pay for her adult child’s college? I think I know why ex husband divorced her, she’s nuts!

[@jonessmith9769]

She is a SINKING ship Financially. Husband needs to cut the anchor and sail on if she tries to pull him under.

[@AStanton1966]

I was finding it hard to believe that she couldn't find a job in this low-employment market. Then she said the operative words: "she collecting unemployment."

[@1redrubberball]

I have read and heard repeatedly that, on average, UC recipient's don't get serious about finding new employment until 5 weeks before it runs out.

[@Ant0417]

So what has SHE been doing the past 2 decades to save for her kid’s college?! It’s not the new husband’s responsibility to step in and pay for her kids to go to college. Sorry hun, your remarriage plan didn’t work.

[@rexcatston8412]

Here are the options available. 1. You pay for your own kids college 2. Your ex pays for his own kids college 3. You and your ex pay for your kids college 4. Your kid pays for his own college 5. You, your ex and your son pay for his college That is all. She called Dave for his advice because she knew he'd agree with her because he's soft on married women with these sorts of issues.

[@gangatalishis]

I wouldn't either, that's not my kid and not my obligation. She should take it up with her ex husband not her current.

[@Ethiodawg]

Dave throwing shade!!! He said, “your roommate” 😂😂😂

[@XailensWorld]

😂😂😂😂 i caught that too

[@mattenderle1766]

She needs to go drive for Lyft, uber, doordash, ubereats, Grubhub. Go out there and get it!

[@silverltc2729]

Why should he? Let them pay for themselves.

[@donaldraya]

I helped my ex wife with her kids for 8 years what was my reward well some great advice to all never marry a single mother with a bunch of ex's

[@Bob-pd8qz]

Donald Raya you sound like a loser.

[@jborrego2406]

Not the Government so be happy he was used

[@donaldraya]

@@Bob-pd8qz yep a big loser

[@papasmurf5431]

@@Bob-pd8qz stupid kid. Just take his advice don't be rude. Could happen to you

[@donaldraya]

@@papasmurf5431 I don't regret my marriage but I regret not being taught what marriage really is about as to so many people these days

[@kashfortheking]

Don’t see this one changing. Best thing is to tell the child to go into the Service and pay for his own education.

[@edwardbarraza4848]

Dont marry a single mother lol

[@jacobtanner6868]

Quit getting remarried people. It's always a train wreck.

[@ChristianLove7]

Jacob Tanner The only way I would get remarried would be because my one and only spouse passed away and my new husband would have no debt and no children period!

[@grayandgray]

No, the new husband is off the hook. They followed Dave's pre-marriage advice by getting organized about money and their kids BEFORE they got married. She had seven years to save and it sounds like she has zero ready on that obligation. On a side note, the new husband might not share the philosophy that parents pay for kids college anyway....

[@Quanic2000]

This is the responsibility of the wife and ex husband, not the obligation on the new husbands.

[@diannam8796]

Normally I agree with Dave but not in this instance.

[@OliveOyl12590]

There's nothing "normal" about Dave.

[@jimziemer474]

I understand why the finances are separate and it makes sense in this situation. Her kids are hers and his kids are his. I think this is another case where Dave is wrong.

[@MrYort13]

Um why does anyone have to pay for the kids college? He can make over a 100K in a trade school or even join army. See issue solved.

[@connorgurgone345]

Oh I think after 5 years he could make 250k

[@bmassche]

Never shack up and never raise someone else's kid... much simpler life...

[@stephielynn]

She needs to have someone look at her resume. Colorado's economy is booming-

[@michaelb.8953]

Exactly and yet after FIVE months she hasn't even had a single bite for even an interview in the best economy this country has seen in 50 years. She's toying with people close to her. Her plan is to have her current husband pay for her half of her son's education and then walk out. Too bad we never get follow up with these calls, but I guarantee you this isn't going to end well.