I HATE My Sister's Fiancee & That's The Reason I'm RSVP'ing 'No' To Their Wedding r/Relationships

[@marecort3697]

OMG-no wonder the keeps defending the parents. SHE’S THEIR CARETAKER AND STILL LIVES WITH THEM! She needs to get out and into therapy. NOW. Edit: she needs a NEW therapist. One outside of her small town.

[@ZombieSazza]

Realistically she also needs to leave that town and cut contact with her parents, they’re so controlling and have completely smothered her where she can’t breathe or think for herself. Poor lass doesn’t realise how bad her situation is.

[@agentzapdos4960]

That doesn't sound possible for her.

[@yeetnama9094]

Right, but yet again I just don't believe this story is real.

[@MountainPearls]

@@yeetnama9094I taught school for several years just out of college, I absolutely believe it. I saw it (parentification of kids/parents who manipulate kids well into their teenage and adulthood) multiple times in every class I taught (and saw it continue once they graduated…some of them are caretakers/send money to ‘parents’ and/or siblings still and absolutely do not see what their parents have done to them and/or what they are missing in life because their parents have warped them so badly. I’m from a small town and sometimes the Evangelicals with large families actually raise a kid, usually a daughter, to stay at home, help raise her younger siblings, never leave, and care for her parents instead of leave home/ go to college/marry and live their own life. ‘Stay at home daughter’ is actually a term they use).

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

@@yeetnama9094 this is what life in Appalachia is actually like. If they really practiced homeopathy and developed serious illnesses, they could be disabled from it.

[@Lillireify]

Story 1 is honestly heartbreaking. It was far easier for OP to villainize "the one that disrupted family" than seeing the disfunction she grew up in, simply because the disfunction was normal to her. People who come from normal, loving homes will never understand it. "How could you not know you grew up in abusive home?!" HOW TF WAS SHE SUPPOSED TO KNOW, since it's all she's ever known!

[@PaintSplashProductions]

I’m thankful I’ve read so many of these stories that I know a lot of the red flags in family and romantic relationships. I have a loving family but it’s good to know this stuff for the future

[@Lillireify]

@@PaintSplashProductions consider yourself lucky, but be aware - it's easy to spot bad behaviors in others, it's far harder to see how shitty you act :')

[@AntiSoraXVI]

She was 25 years old at the time of the post… she doesn’t have friends? She’s *never* seen anyone else and how their relationship with their family is? She *never* sat down and spoke to her sister as an adult? I can understand maybe not recognizing what exactly the issue was, but being 25 and not being mature enough to even discuss these feelings with your sister is insane to me

[@SunnyD74]

I’m the youngest of 4 kids: eldest bro, 59, second bro 57.5, sister 56, me 49. The eldest was bullied at school a lot, and went to boarding school at 16-18. He said a few years ago that he didn’t know how messed up our family was until he was getting to know his second wife’s family when he was about 43-45. He didn’t have friends whose family was a model for him. His first wife was abusive to him as well for the 20 years they were together. It’s amazing how much we just don’t recognize as not okay.

[@Lillireify]

@@AntiSoraXVI She claims she was bullied at school, got parentified and now is a caretaker for her parents, so... I highly doubt she's got many friends, if any. The sole fact that she was posting on reddit instead of talking to anyone in her circle also points towards her loneliness imo. Why would she talk to her sister, if so, which one? The one that escaped? OP would never be open to listen to what she had to say, in OP's eyes she was the reason for her failure. Seriously, I can't understand why people keep suggesting getting pointers from someone who (in someone's eyes) is the "source of all evil". It's as absurd as expecting abused one to talk to their abuser.

[@AnneOfKleeves]

A teenager wants to eat with her boyfriend a couple times a week, which is pretty normal, so her parents can’t seem to wash clothes or pack lunches anymore, and freak out so much they can’t help their child with homework??? And then everyone blames the teenager??? No wonder OP’s sister got out of there! Horrible, neglectful and abusive parents! No one stole her sister, she ran the duck away for very good reasons!

[@TiffWaffles]

I am willing to bet that the sister was the one looking after her younger siblings and just got tired of being the parent when she realised she was being parentified.

[@TrumpetsGalore4]

"My parents weren't abusive, but they were sometimes neglectful" Wait til OP learns that neglect IS abuse...

[@a.m.1528]

It also sounds like they refused to get OP's sister medical help due to religious reasons? That's 1000000% abuse.

[@darcos7535]

I don't think that op is the sharpest tool in the shed

[@agentzapdos4960]

This story and my life are proof that people who can't afford to take care of themselves shouldn't have kids. The government should have an open, ongoing offer to everyone of like $10,000 if they volunteer for a vasectomy or tubal ligation.

[@Riftdancer527]

​@@agentzapdos4960shiit 10k for no kids!? I'd sign up with a quickness

[@robertx8020]

@@darcos7535 What do you expect when someone was brainwashed all of their life?

[@mrs.h2725]

Once OP in story 1 moves away from her parents and gets exposed to healthy relationships and boundaries, she’ll see her parents for the neglectful crappy ppl they are. I hope she does get away from them, cuz otherwise she’ll keep this toxic dynamic going with her future kids.

[@shamimtorang4390]

She won't. She said they are old and unable to work. They lost the first one so upped their game for the second one.

[@lynnw7155]

Geez; OP blames "Brooke" for everything that ever went wrong in her life. Mark "stole" Brooke from the family? Sounds like Brooke is lucky to escape that family. I wouldn't want OP at my wedding.

[@lynnw7155]

I have to wonder how old and needing care the parents really are. How old can they be if they have a 22 year-old daughter? I'm 67 and plan to be independent and functional for many more years. In any case, I will never depend on my children to be caregivers.

[@suem8591]

@lynnw7155 But yet Brooke has not looked up to see how OP is doing. She might have been traumatized but left her 2 siblings behind, this is most certainly the reason OP is hurt with Mark. OP has also been parenting her younger sibling and now her parents.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Right? How old can they be? I’m nearly middle-aged and my father is only now retired because he was basically forced out but he’s very active still and my mom would not receive elderly benefits from the government for several more years. I was not born when they were teenagers or anything. This sounds like typical behavior from an old-fashioned culture where they feel they own their kids. Poor OP points the finger at anyone but who is actually to blame. People move thousands of miles away from their family, often for no other reason than they have to get a job at the new location, OP doesn’t even understand her sister’s “crimes” are normal behavior. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@alicemoody6682]

Your infectious laughter has had me in stitches! Thank you for including the bloopers. They were gold!😂

[@femalepapyrus]

😆 🤣 😂 😹

[@Scarlett.Granger]

I mean it isn't even funny to me, but the way he's just DYING laughing😂

[@arianamariemajere1693]

I thought it was hilarious. Happens to me all the time.

[@AIBot929]

S1: Op sounds very young and has misplaced anger and is blaming Mark and Brooke for her parents short comings. Brooke was very parentified and probably wanted to escape, her wanting out is not Marks fault. All of the examples OP gave had nothing to do with Mark

[@Lillireify]

Well being raised by her sister was her normal, so how was she supposed to know that this really is abusive AF?

[@Kris-wo4pj]

​@@Lillireifyshe wont until she grows up, gets away from her terrible parents and got therapy.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Op isn’t the butthole

[@Lillireify]

@@Kris-wo4pj well, at least she found out that one part of her upbringing was not ok, hopefully she'll dig deeper into that.

[@wmdkitty]

No crap she's angry, her parental figure is basically abandoning her.

[@ZombieSazza]

OP grew up in an abusive home, that’s all she ever knew, and tbh I’m very sick and tired of seeing comments saying “how could you not know you were being abused” Because that’s all she ever knew, she never grew up in a normal household to understand what normality was supposed to be. When you’re being abused it’s incredibly hard to recognise you’re actually being abused, I say this as a child abuser survivor who didn’t properly recognise the abuse I went through until I went through a traumatic event that brought up repressed memories and I was forced to take an outside look at my childhood, teen years and young adult years. For example, every single birthday from 12ish my brother would scream in my face, violently assault me, harass me, call me all sorts of wonderful slurs, and make sure my day was as miserable as possible with the intention of breaking me down, so he could further harass me for crying. I didn’t recognise this as abuse until I was 22ish, and didn’t realise it was a PTSD trigger date until 25ish when being diagnosed with cPTSD. There’s loads more, anything from neglect from my mother, favouritism, bringing up my brother like he was my own child, caring for the entire household and not being able to attend school properly, my mother buying my brother alcohol from age 12, my brother violently beating me (sometimes leading to hospitalisation due to strangling or being made unconscious), my brother being encouraged to abuse me on behalf of my mother, theft, ableism, it goes on. I only understood I was MISERABLE growing up, was hyper vigilant, couldn’t trust anyone, have very few genuinely happy memories, and didn’t have any normal childhood experiences growing up, and I didn’t understand this was abuse, that this wasn’t normal, I just thought it was because my mother was stressed, because I had done something that made her want to unalive (she often told me I was the reason she had suicidal ideation), and because there weren’t any adult in my life who could step in and point out the abuse. My mothers sisters (my aunts) just told me I was “difficult” and “making her (mother) life hell” when all I wanted was my mothers love and approval, even if that meant being fully responsible for my violent brother when I was a child, so the few adults in my life turned a blind eye and never told me it wasn’t normal. So whenever I see folk complaining “how did OP not knowing she was being abused, is she stupid”, it’s genuinely exhausting. So many people in the comments have come from nice, relatively normal homes, or sheltered childhoods, they weren’t abused their whole life to the point it messed with your head, we never knew any better growing up, yet somehow that means everyone can lambast your in the comments and complain you’re somehow naive?!

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

It’s pretty amazing how people can recommend therapy, meaning going to a professional whose whole training is to walk you through your issues so you realize just how bad your home life growing up was not only bad, but not your fault, and that your parents were toxic/abusive/neglectful….and then turn around and say how can you not realize that your home life was……. Really. Facepalm city!

[@johnbradbury8610]

there are lots of abused people who are well aware they were abused. Brooke was abused as well and she left

[@alice918852]

yup a lot of redditors are being purposely stupid

[@lina9535]

Some people notice and some don't.

[@HardlyBardly]

18:34 Markee losing it as best part of the video EDIT: We had bloopers! Made my day XD

[@ComaLies225]

I just heard it, I nearly died hahaha

[@Lillireify]

I need those bloopers. I'm so glad Markee is adding those bloopers!!

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

I've never heard the words "quinoa" or "pilaf" spoken so seductively, much less when put together! I hope I didn't wake my sleeping partner with my sudden gales of laughter!

[@lina9535]

Bruh, same. Except I don't care if I wake up my neighbour (thin walls, and it's 1.43am), because he woke me up last night at 2am, so it's justice 😂

[@Iflie]

Yeah the people really guessed the religious family. They do often put the raising of the kids onto the older female child and then seem to completely step out. Like you can't even wash your kids clothes? I bet they washed their own for all the work they were doing. Which somehow made them disabled as soon as child was old enough to take care of them. They can't be that old yet but she's the live in caretaker it seems and hasn't had time to get an education for herself yet.

[@diamcole]

Honestly, it’s very easy for people who grow up in healthy family dynamics to pretty quickly recognize abuse/negligence but it’s incredibly difficult when that’s your every day, all day. It takes time and often a lot of therapy to get to that place. I won’t judge OP for struggling to get there, not when I know firsthand how hellish that journey can be in the early days.

[@Lillireify]

Same. The lack of understanding from others that you didn't know you were abused is infuriating. How can you, since pain and hurt and pretending to others is all you were taught?

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Commenter above said the same thing. It’s like those occasional narrations asking for advice because partner A, who is LC/NC with their dumpster fire of a family/parents, having issues with partner B, who grew up in a functional family, and keeps trying to get A to Re-establish contact. They. Just. Don’t. Get. It.

[@carlrood4457]

When I read the part about a teenager missing family meals, I knew OP would be the AH. Thankfully, she was able to accept and apply much of the information.

[@J_Isak]

Story 1: As a middle sibling that was also parentafied it takes years sometimes a decade or 2 from deprograming yourself from being your parents #1 support system physically AND emotionally. Lots of time you are so parentafied that you end up raising your parent too. Just seeing that OP has seen the light and is on the same page as her siblings is Huge and shows she is on the right path. Her sisters will keep her on the path to recovery. A Sibling trauma bond is unbreakable.

[@taylorslade961]

Story 1: OP still has a long way to go. Its not even close to their responsibility to apologize for the actions (or inaction, in this case) of their parents. They should get into therapy of all kinds, individual and family with both Brooke and Mark.

[@SilverMKI]

Story 1: "I don't like that my sister is her own person and reacted to the overly controlling parents and I caused my own stress by getting overly involved and failed 4th grade and then my parents neglected me and my younger sister!"

[@InDeathWeLove]

It's sad how much abuse can twist people without them even realising it.

[@19nmiller1]

I love that you're in a silly goofy mood today. The laugh from the "clonking heads together" comment absolutely tickled me. And then the whole quinoa pilaf saga. Brilliant

[@GBunnyG]

Those bloopers 🤣🤣🤣 I had no idea what the community post was about, and that was totally worth the wait.

[@Music-Books]

A kid failing 4th grade is the parent's fault ..... Not Mark or the older sister.

[@bricksloth6920]

It's not a dickish move to decline an invitation if you're too in your feels to behave yourself at a wedding, but you blaming your feelings on your sister and her fiance is quite dickish.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

It sounds like the parents were using the older sister for childcare and were mistreating the sister. That's why the she ran and the OP ended up having to take care of their younger sister more. The parents are probably making backhanded jabs at Brooke when the they're around, that might be why the sisters fiancee gets mad at them and kicks them out of the house often.

[@nonamenoface3654]

​@@untitled-gv3qp "This meal taste great for someone who is rarely home." or "The house is spotless, not surprised with you two constantly off somewhere." Did I reenact the parents good?

[@untitled-gv3qp]

@@nonamenoface3654 Yeah, it'd probably be some bs like that. The type that just barely counts as a "compliment". And it's something the OP would definitely overlook because she still can't admit to herself that her parents are just bad people.

[@Lillireify]

@@untitled-gv3qp well I'm not sure if they still are, they definitely were. And I'd give OP time, it is extremely hard to drastically change the optic on your parents, when their abusive behavior is still normalized in your mind. It's also world shattering, and she'll probably try to jump trough many mental hoops only to delay that feeling.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

@@Lillireify The OP thinks they've changed but the OP didn't even know about some of their beliefs that the sister was arguing with them about. Im not trying to insult the OP here I'm just saying that she turned a blind eye to a lot of things growing up so she didn't have to deal with the idea that her and her siblings were being abused. And it's understandable because she was a kid but it also means that the OP isn't an unbiased source of info about her parents. I'd be more inclined to believe that the parents either hide a lot of their negative traits from the OP since they need her to take care of them, or the OP has gotten used to ignoring or downplaying what they say. It's unlikely that the parents have changed much considering the OP is still the only one who can stand them. Everyone else ran and the sisters fiancee has to throw them out everytime the sister gives them a chance and invites them over. The little sister still loves them but even she's unwilling to do more than send over some money every so often.

[@ellieguerra536]

The bloopers showed the absolutely adorable side of Markee and I'm here for it

[@katiecakesl4691]

Story 2: OP's family is inconsiderate. My best friend has medical related food restrictions. One year she was alone for thanksgiving. My family not only invited her over, but my dad went out of his way to cook food specifically to match what she could eat. He had less than 24 hours to prepare for her and still was insistent that she have foods she could eat. If you care, you ask, you remember, you make accommodations. If OPs mom has memory issues, she needs to put the food restrictions on a big sign on the fridge to remind her. Being courteous is really not that hard.

[@enibeni2071]

From a religious perspective, she made the correct decision. Kosher (juddahism) and Halal (islam) are two different things. They have their own rules and there are many rules. For example, jewish people have "two kitchens". They have pans, knives, soap...for preparing food that contains meat.....and they have other pans, other knives, other soap...for preparing food that contains milk.

[@lorifiedler13]

Eat Veggie. It won't kill anyone for 1 meal. It just means they won't have to eat veg the next day. 🙄

[@vlionheart]

This is way beyond YTA or NTA, this is about someone that is in dire need of therapy but never got the help they needed. Also the parents are big AHs, don't neglect your kids.

[@league-of-shadows]

Agreed. I don't see OP as an asshole at all. She was abused more so than her other sisters and just has zero frame of reference on how things really should be.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

“Dumb and dumber 2: Jesus boogaloo” that set me off😂

[@tinak2576]

Part one I wanted to scream at the OP. however, as the updates kept coming I was more irritated that no one thought she deserved the time and space to wipe the cobwebs from her eyes and realize the depth of the parents manipulation. She’s had a lifetime of conditioning and brainwashing at these parents hands. She can’t get out of the fog in an instant like everyone seems to think she should just be able to. I have hope that the OP will pull the curtains back on these parents and leave them to care for themselves eventually.

[@Lillireify]

Most people don't come from abusive homes, or are not healed enough from their own trauma to give others the time they need to deprogram themselves. It's also reddit, it's very black and white, and giving someone grace is the last thing on their minds 😂😂

[@thundercatmeg631]

Markeeeee! Your channel recently showed up in my suggestions,honestly I’ve binged while doing other activities,I’m so excited that new uploads are still happening,your personality and side stories make all the difference from other channels. Thank you for the material and the hard work you’ve put into making this community great. Subscribing for always, nothing but love and light to you doll. Kick it in the ass !!

[@oliviaksiag6163]

I've read stories the same as the first one from the perspective of that oldest sibling, somehow the younger kids always manage to blame the OP once they break free because now the other siblings need to take on responsibilities that never should have been the oldest sibling's. It's honestly terrifying, and it sounds like the comments on the Reddit post woke up the OP.

[@littleylvis]

Markee's laugh is always so wholesome ❤️

[@lindah3803]

The bloopers are golden. Markee,you are a gem.

[@LunaP1]

Markee stopping in the middle of the story with his comments always makes me laugh.😂😂😂😂😂

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

I got a kick out of Markee looking up how to pronounce pilaf but not elote as well. 🤣 Your laughter throughout the stories today were great, lol!

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Story 1: I wonder what makes the children think they'll get ANYTHING left to them by their neglectful evangelical parents? They're likely to either declare the house to be sold and the money donated to the church...or for the whole house and their worldly possessions to be donated to the church. They need to have a backup plan and not count on that nest egg.

[@wendybarber4386]

Story 2 - I know I'm a little late with this, but I always figure that the food served as part of a celebration for a person or people (ie: weddings, anniversaries, birthdays) should reflect the people being celebrated. So, short of accommodations for allergies or other food sensitivities, if the person or people being celebrated are committed to a certain diet, be that vegan, Jewish, keto, or something else, the menu should reflect that. I think that allows the guests to bond with the celebrants more.

[@angeliquemosley5072]

Markee.."Not me wanting to smash my head into the wall reading that comment. Oh my God." 😂😂😂😂 The sarcasm. Phew...😂😂😂😂

[@kristinachin8384]

The blooper and laughter made the video 100x better 😂

[@ComaLies225]

Story 1: doesn’t sound like Mark did anything wrong, rather the family is the issue and Brooke distanced herself for her mental and physical self. Also, blaming Mark for repeating a grade and looking disheveled is not his problem. Where were the parents in all of this????

[@tooblessed8815]

This right here!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

OP never had parents. OP has an egg and sperm donor.

[@anwarpine6797]

Yes it sounds like she was so young when it started, she basically got brainwashed by her parents blaming mark when it was actually the fault of the parents

[@MrMykeel]

Story 1 - the parents are the issue and OP is horrible to blame hwr sister Brooke. Brooke should go no contact with her family. Goodluck to her.

[@wishflowerhill5068]

Oh my goodness, your laugh in the bloopers gave me the giggles! 😂 Thanks for the mood lifter! 😊

[@hyzenthlayrose2176]

I love when Markee laughs during stories lol

[@devchekhov7512]

Nothing like misplaced anger for maximum carnage :(

[@tessaritter5339]

My mil was shocked when my husband and I told her that we plan to offer a vegan option at our wedding buffet because we want to invite vegan friends. She instantly said she wouldn't come to our wedding if we didn't "make it the right way". Some people have very strange feelings about vegan or vegetarian food. I don't get it.

[@geminiblue]

I NEVER really got the hate. Vegans food is literally just vegetables😂😂. Even if you like it meat, surely you can skip it for just ONE meal🥴🥴

[@robertx8020]

Please tell me your parents either changed their minds or didn't come but that you DIDN'T give in!

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@geminiblueAnd tessa above said that they were offering a vegan OPTION, meaning that it was one among many. There were going to be meat dishes, just not ONLY meat dishes. If I remember correctly, there was even a Reddit narration about that. The family was going apeshiite because bride and groom were going to have SOME vegan dishes included, but not the whole banquet.

[@tessaritter5339]

@@robertx8020 we didn't give in, they did came and didn't complain after the first argument. Our vegan friends where very thankful for the vegan roasted lentils and the vegan cupcakes. We also had meat steaks. All food was delicious. 😁

[@tessaritter5339]

@@GrumpyOldFart2 yes. I think this is a common argument between generations. Some older people tend to think of food without meat as something that represents poverty. So they would be ashamed to serve guests vegan or vegetarian food. That doesn't make sense today. At least not in my culture. But it is in this peoples heads.

[@ondank]

Story 1 : I had the exact same reaction to the exact same reaction to the bit where OP is told not to defend them and then IMMEDIATELY DEFENDS THEM

[@BubblyTeatime]

Story 1 she wouldn't be the asshole for declining the invite as she just doesn't want to go, but her reason for not wanting to....needs to be ran by a therapist and release all the baggage of resentment she's hoarded for so many years....

[@Lqtech00]

I missed your hearing your commentary while reading the stories and comments. Please keep it up.

[@caitlinserviss]

I need a compilation of videos, or clips where Markee loses his shit laughing, holy Hell. Abrupt, I'm here for it. I love all your videos man, I miss seeing your amazing face in videos, but I love your reactions in the audio if that's all I can get. Brightens my day dude, thank you so much!

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

First op is gonna be back in about… maybe a year or two. She’s only just started to wake up to what’s really going on, but there’s so much more to unfortunately be enlightened to before she reallt gets it.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Also Markee and the fuckin’ quinoa 😂

[@laurameier7069]

I dunno why, but all I can think about is Mom and Dad on the living room couch, feeding each other quinoa pilaf. Wait, Mom is wearing my clothes...what!? No!

[@arroweyne]

@markee having bloopers of your giggles is fun. You should do more blooper reels at the end of your vids. 😂

[@Davtwan]

Considering OP was 18, I can understand why she fell for her parents’ Koolaid; she didn’t have someone like Brooke.

[@jewlzcraig-leaves597]

Lmao at quinoa/pilaf. As an Aussie, you’ll know exactly what I mean when I say “You dag!” 😂

[@AlbinoFlowers]

Can we all agree we need more stories that make Markee laugh cuz dude ur laugh is so infectious. My ribs aCHE now xD

[@saniwa655]

On the vegetarian wedding reception story - my first thought is "your wedding, your menu", but then i also have another thought: a close relative of mine has to prioritize eating meat, fish and charcuterie along with bread and absolutely eat as little vegetables as possible because of real health reasons, certified by specialist doctors. were this relative to be at a reception with a menu like the one exemplified, they'd either eat close to nothing or, if they ate, then they'd be ill for several days afterwards, maybe suffer from harder complications too. so, as the bride makes sure to follow everyone's dietary restrictions, I'd suggest the bride also makes sure the isn't anyone who, like my relative, because of real health reasons, needs to eat some meat and/or fish and can't make do with just veggies, even for just one meal.

[@madihaq2252]

*WE NEED MORE BLOOPERS* 😂 Oh they were brilliant!

[@lunalight4226]

Those bloopers where hilarious🤣

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Story 1: OP never had parents. Only a Sperm and Egg donor.

[@silverkeys-nv2kj]

Love the bloopers section Markee! Mark Narrations also sounded like he had a bit of a giggle at quinoa pilaf in his recording of that story :D

[@taylorslade961]

Story 2: This reminds me of the story with the OP and her family were all vegan and her fiance and his family were having a meltdown over the vegan options on the wedding menu. They wanted to remove them and stick OPs family with only a couple of sides. It was a huge fight and I'm p sure OP ended up calling off the relationship.

[@vanzy01]

That was all about power and control 😢

[@der23]

Yo i need more videos with Markee dying of laughter 😂

[@TheKingOfRuckus]

"Why is that so funny?" *cartoonish laughter* 😂😂😂

[@melissawittman]

The most fun was the end when you got the giggles! It was contagious! 🤣

[@artygirl66]

The wedding menu story, nta, and honestly, the menu sounds pretty nice, and some I've never tried sound yummy af. It's your and your fiancé wedding so if they can't stand eating some veggies for a meal, they're on the same level as toddlers being introduced veggies for the first time. I'd just say, eat it or don't, but I don't want to hear about it. Also, I say this as a non vegan/vegetarian lol. I like a little of everything besides tree nuts because of allergies, so I'll try anything once otherwise.

[@ComaLies225]

I’m a hardcore meat eater and the menu sounds pretty good! Besides the Quinoa (seriously, screw that bird food) everything else sounds nutritious and delicious

[@mikaq19]

Even if some people desperately want meat, surely they can suck it up and just get a burger on the way home. I never understood these no meat at a wedding stories. It shouldn’t be an issue.

[@GLoLChibs]

Eh, if you like your guests have options for them. That's like telling vegetarians and vegans they are toddlers for not eating non-vegetarian/vegans food when that's all that is available. They're all lifestyle choices, none deserve more accommodation than the others.

[@flamelily2086]

My only problem with vegetarians is that they expect meat eaters to cater to them but they are not prepared to cater for meat eaters!

[@tessaritter5339]

​@@flamelily2086Do you eat meat 3 times a day 7 times a week in your normal days? Do you know the reasons why most vegetarians choose to be vegetarians?

[@coreymartin6486]

Op acts like it's Brooke's fault that she had to take care of Jeannie growing up, like making breakfast. Uh no.....Where's her parents? That's their responsibility.

[@bradygreenberg6482]

Those bloopers were the thing I needed today to get motivated 😭

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

And as for the parents: It's not a matter of resources, as OP alludes to in one of her edits. OP's parents should've been dealing with OP's academic problems; OP's parents should've been getting Jenny up for school, dressing her and making her lunch - not OP (what was she at the time, eight??)

[@maxinemyers9215]

Thanks for the bumping heads and the laughter 😄

[@seahorse82]

Can’t comment on the stories but this had me laughing. Love the out takes at the end 😂😂😂😂😂😂❤

[@CaulkMongler]

Story 1: jeez the family on this one. The parents are absent and the *one* sibling who kept it together is shamed because she no longer wants to be the parent.

[@Jrskeetpro]

“Many tasty mains”… proceeds to describe nothing but sides 😂

[@tamsel814]

So far it seems like Brooke was just a rebellious teenager (with a bf) that the parents were unable to deal with. If op wants to blame anyone it should be the parents, not the sisters boyfriend. Edit 1: I'm halfway through now and while op seems to partly understand the issue she still doesn't seem to fully grasp the severity of it. Edit 2: I have finished this story now and op still does not seem to get it.

[@Callimo]

Well, OP seems to come from a religious background, and was more than likely socialized along with her sisters to be always loving, always forgiving, and to always honor one's parents. Tropes that tend to be pushed on AFAB kids the most. I'm glad OP woke up to a lot a ridiculousness going on in her family, but at least she has a support network.

[@Lillireify]

It can take years to understand and unpack how messed up her upbringing was. I still discover new layers of shit from my past, even though I'm 33, and my childhood was not nearly as abusive as OP's.

[@projectjupiter5523]

​@@Callimoyou're absolutely right in addition, the parents' brainwashing also extends to the duty of all kids to repay their parents for giving birth to and raising them and the fact that all girls/women/AFAB/femme people are required to spend their entire lives taking care of the home and children, (even if said home and children should be the responsibility of their parents) instead of making the 'selfish' choice to pursue a life of their own

[@InDeathWeLove]

Yeah I suspect they are still being used as the caregiver for the strangely both long term illness parents now. She is even delaying her own education for her parents situation. The whole situation is still very sus and she is ignoring that the abusive behaviour is still ongoing.

[@oreolover9321]

I know it's sad and frustrating l!!! I really hope she keeps her sister in her life because as long as she still keeps a relationship with her parents I'm not sure her future is going to be okay. She is going to be burnt out

[@yukineko5613]

I just love hearing you laugh so honestly about the smallest of things. Also great video as always 😊

[@InDeathWeLove]

S1) It's rare when just everyone completely agrees on what is going on in a story despite OP not being able to see it at all until heavily convinced on it. It's sad when kids are abused at such young ages they don't even have a clue. Oldest sister got lucky and found a boyfriend that cared enough to get her out of that situation. Second sister unfortunately didn't and had to find out many years later.

[@sinbingaming4419]

I hate how people (namely that first comment) in the comments of story 1 just. Insulted a clearly abused/neglected person. Like she didn't realize it wasn't Mark's fault until she was an adult- she was a kid with trauma. Get your head out of your ass about it. Good lord.

[@LaQuandrae]

She 25 years old holding a grudge against someone who literally didn't do anything wrong

[@Lillireify]

Well people tend to not understand that when dysfunction is your normal it's impossible to see that dysfunction. She obviously should have gotten epiphany out of nowhere! 🤦‍♀️

[@Lillireify]

​@@LaQuandraeand how should she get that insight when all she was taught is that OP's sister is "the bad guy"?

[@LaQuandrae]

@@Lillireify idk actually talk to her sister? Speak to her younger sister. Like if she blames the sister okay she a little bit less wrong but still wrong. But she blaming someone who literally did nothing wrong

[@Lillireify]

@@LaQuandrae in a normal world she IS blaming someone who did nothing wrong, and I can agree on that. BUT IT IS NOT HER WORLD! Dysfunction IS her normal, this is ALL SHE KNOWS and you're essentially expecting her to get an insight from a person she blames for everything (and I can guarantee you OP wouldn't have listened to her) or expect that younger sister, who from all we know could have shared OP's view, magically knew that their upbringing was not normal. So... Where should she had gotten the knowledge that her view is not ok??

[@miminana-hd6nf]

OMG, OP get out, get out now. I picked up, immediately that Brooke was parentified and OP stepped into those shoes when she was not old enough to. Jenny smartened up and is keeping her distance. OP, your parents are awful, and neglected your sisters, and you, growing up. You owe them nothing. They are playing you, they can take care of themselves. Get out now, live your life. I say this as a parent, take care of yourself.

[@InDeathWeLove]

Yeah the fact that everything fell apart the moment Brooke was not present 2-3 afternoons a week was rather telling about her being responsible for way more things than a child should. Unfortunately she doesn't seem to realise that the parents abuse on her is still ongoing with how she is taking care of the mysteriously long term ill parents that got ill right around the same time forcing her to put off on furthering her education to continue caring for them instead.

[@ladyofthelake93]

"Dumb and dumber 2: The Jesus Bugaloo" killed me 😂😂😂

[@gigga143]

S2: To me as a wedding guest I wouldn’t say anything obviously cause it’s your wedding and you can serve what you want but I know I’d feel hungry and then know I’d have to eat before the wedding of after. Sorry but none of what was described sounded good to me as a main dish. I need a little meat for a meal to be satisfying but it’s not an AH question imo. NTAH, but I’d have to really like someone to show up to a wedding where I knew I’d be hungry all night lol

[@atqmra13]

Wish you would do more bloopers. Your laugh is infectious

[@codex_jinora]

Rumor has it that if you say quinoa 3 times, markee will pin you as he dies of laughter. Quinoa quinoa quinoa

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Yes another certified banger! Unfortunately if OP smartens up and realizes what her parents are doing she will hate them.

[@timbit8670]

😂😂 thanks Markee for the bloopers because had me laughing at work

[@Lillireify]

THOSE BLOOPERS KILLED ME, I NEED MORE

[@hoper1294]

We need more bloopers! You have the most contagious laugh lol

[@ZombieSazza]

_quinoa_ Bro I demand MORE BLOOPERS

[@Emmie.the.Kraken11]

Listening to the bloopers and OMG you have such a cute laugh!! 😂😂

[@deballen7031]

Hi. Thanks for this, great stories, updates and laughs.😊

[@luckyrobinshomestead]

Story about wedding food: I am allergic to lectins, which means I can't eat beans or lentils. I am allergic to soy, which means I can't have edamame, tofu, tempeh, or miso. I can't have gluten, so that leaves out bread and most grains. I could eat cheese, nuts, fruits, and veggies, but I'd have to hope they weren't contaminated with an allergen. But I am diabetic, so without a serious protein at my meal I would have some issues. So yes, you should offer a chicken option, even if it is just a large chicken Caesar salad, dressing on the side, and maybe offer 3 dressing choices, like 1000 Island and Italian in case people don't like Caesar dressing, but like everything else.

[@persephoneszeliga]

Hearing you laugh at the clonking of the heads had me cracking up🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@TheNekoMimiGamer]

Markee I've seen a lot of your videos, but I've never heard you laugh as hard as you did in this one! It makes me want to laugh too!

[@kaicolt1509]

I like when you leave in your reactions in the recordings, like the laugh and pilaf(sp?) Correction lol

[@alicewilloughby4318]

2:34 - I'd like to know more about Mark glaring at the parents and suddenly announcing that it was time for him and Brooke to go. Were the parents, perhaps, taking nasty, passive-aggressive snipes at Brooke? Trying to make her feel guilty for getting out from under their thumbs and living her own life?

[@ArthropodJay]

markee losing his shit about clonking heads together made me laugh too

[@VHFonFire]

Your bloopers at the end are hilarious! “~qUiNa pIlAf!~”

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Markee absolutely losing his shit in this one is hilarious. You have a great laugh, my dude! 😁😄

[@kaitlynhall2112]

Loving Markee bursting out laughing and there extra commentary!

[@youngcanuck5397]

Story 1: sounds like the sister distancing herself from this family is probably a good thing

[@AprilSunshine]

"I can't get over quinoa pilaf!" 🤣 Never change, Markee.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

It pisses me off when people pretend they're incapable of having a meal without meat.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I feel so sorry for OP 1, but at least it sounds like she's on the right path now.

[@yef122]

Omg Markee's laugh at the end of the first story 😂😅

[@Project_KN1GHT]

Last story: as soon as I read that both brides were okay with it, that’s all I needed to hear. Nta. Your wedding, your rules.

[@robertx8020]

THIS And have read (and withnessed ) some insane 'rules to attend a wedding' this one doesn't even make the list and if this was the 'biggest problem' then there was no real problem at all!

[@suem8591]

I don't know many blaming OP for her reactions, I think although they are misguided they are normal. Brooke left her 2 siblings behind knowing they would suffer too, so yeah even though she had it hard, OP is now parenting her parents after parenting the youngest sibling. So who had it harder I wonder?