My Sister Is Bullying My Son Openly, Now I'm Going To Skip Her Wedding r/Relationships

[@drawingdame7718]

“I don’t have time for this drama” Ma’am you CAUSED the drama????

[@gwdzee]

She said that because she was losing the argument.

[@simonmanley9245]

When people want to dismiss the feelings of others, they frame it as "drama".

[@RMH92]

Imagine having beef with a LITERAL CHILD.

[@petitmains]

It was the perfect time to use the Happy Gilmore technique. Splash yourself down and declare it cool as hell. Grandma can chime in with "If peeing your pants is cool consider me Miles Davis/_insert other cool celebrity _"

[@RMH92]

@@petitmains Oh totally! I would piss myself right there in front of everyone in solidarity for the little man! Screw that sister fr

[@dre1978]

Parents need to realize kids don't see it as "staying calm for him", they see it as you not standing up for them. Op should've flat out told the sister they were leaving cause of her NOT because Liam was upset

[@dream6562]

People with the family harmony were most likely raised with people with a similar mindset and most likely made to do a similar choice involving themselves

[@ComaLies225]

I mean regardless of Liam’s medical condition, it’s still CRUEL to make fun of a seven year old, a child who’s still learning and trying to adapt to this world. Jane can kick rocks Jane is

[@myounakami]

And pound some sand while she's at it.

[@freedomcat]

kick rocks without shoes on.

[@skylarfulton1314]

Why is this grown woman attacking a 7 year old like this?!

[@ladyv5655]

Because she's a mean and unhappy person who thinks that tearing other people down will build her up. I don't have a lot of confidence that her marriage will last, assuming that it even takes place.

[@pippo17173]

​@@ladyv5655 with how she is acting, I hope the groom ain't a doormat that gets walked on.

[@livewellwitheds6885]

ableism

[@jasontheultimatewizard4043]

It's likely she's one of those people who believe that you have full control of your disabilities or are faking them. 100% guaranteed she does not believe the boy has a medical condition based on the fact that she believes he can though it up and hold it in.

[@skylarfulton1314]

@@davidlionheart2438 I know people are evil. Typically, no matter how stupid, there is a reason someone would do this: jealousy, projection, envy, hatred, etc. Even Serial Killers have justifications (to them) for why they do it. Wanting to know why, doesn’t make me naive.

[@WGottefried]

I snort-laughed at Markee's "aww when is his baby due" 😅

[@Markee]

I couldn’t help myself

[@sandracopenhaver3230]

What real world does she live in? In the real world people don't make fun of people with a medical conditions even if it's a child in the real world that's especially if it's a child

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

I’d say she’s a very unhappy person who feels better about herself by putting others done. It’s the only thing that makes sense to me given that she was literally bullying a child

[@MrJpaynebb]

In the real world some people do bully others with medical issues. In the real world people aren't always good or nice to each other, even family. It's sad, sucks and is unfortunate but this does happen. What OP finally did by standing up for her son and herself is how you deal with a bully. She called them out and then took 1 of 2 usual routes. 1st is to confront them which may or may not become physical. She picked #2. That's were she no longer wants to interact with the bully but makes it clear to everyone including the bully and their supporters exactly why she's no longer going to deal with her crap. Glad OP didn't stay silent but said her peace and made it clear that her sister IS the problem.

[@squirrel670]

​@@MrJpaynebb obviously people bully others but in general it's distasteful to do so in particular openly and especially shameful and disgusting to target a child who is expected not to be exposed to "real world" anything because they're innocent.

[@marshawargo7238]

As Soon as Jane started in about OP not coming to her wedding, OP Should have said that Jane needs to toughin up! It's Just a wedding, not like it's a medical condition or something important😂!!! OP needs to keep her son away from Jane & anyone who sides with her😢!!!

[@DocKrazy]

​@@MrJpaynebbi have to second this. The "real world" is incredibly ableist and most people refuse to be normal about people with medical (or for that matter mental) conditions. So it's a good thing OP is advocating for her child. It's a touch battle.

[@gailwarnock2764]

She isn't going to off herself she is gaslighting them she is a narcissist and she is playing your parents like a fiddle.

[@indulgent_pooch]

I used to have a very similar condition and bed wet until I was 14, when I had a surgery to fix it. I know just how soul crushing all the ridicule is, waking up to a warm wet bed, knowing you'll have to wash your sheets again and hope you wash the smell out of your skin so no one teases you at school. Sitting in class hoping you can hold it long enough and in a Lowkey panic. Going down to change at the nurse's office multiple times in a week. It's brutal. That aunt is just evil

[@indulgent_pooch]

I showered as soon as I was able but I often didn't notice it had happened until I'd been sleeping in the puddle for several hours probably, so the scent was a little hard to get out of my skin.

[@gryphenicedancer8796]

Condolences, that had to be rough. Glad you were able to get it solved with medical intervention!

[@clockwork3494]

Sorry you went through that. I really feel bad for people that have/had issues with incontinence like that, as sometimes it can even be a sign of something bigger or in some incredibly rare cases it's just outright untreatable. I competely understand it'd be embarrassing, but it is a really serious medical condition too and I think more people need to be understanding and sympathetic of that. The aunt is such a jerk, it's bad enough when kids bully one another, but a full grown woman bullying a 7 year old for a medical condition? I don't think she mentally matured past 13 if she thinks that's "normal"

[@thebladeofchaos]

Story 1: 'my dad is caught in thre middle' you mean between an asshole and a good person? I think the obvious choice is evident....

[@pippo17173]

Guess we know who made the sister that way. How interesting since it's usually the opposite with the mon favoring their daughter.

[@Chreative427]

Story1 - YTA, why would you stay calm and passive with somebody verbally abusing your son about his medical condition?

[@jr5557]

Exactly like when she came over with a attitude asking why I'm leaving "because I don't want you around my child" she says she wanted to stay calm for him but all he sees is him mom not standing up for him

[@pippo17173]

​@jr5557 I'll give op some excuse on the fact that op was growing up accepting this normal until a nuclear slap in the face on reality. Ya op should of saw what this really is but I can get it.

[@Siinwu]

not to mention the decades of others Jane abused and OP just sat there...

[@sacrilegedoculus]

S1 - I can imagine this rude sister ranting about OP being 'boy mom' and cruel sister to her. Totally zero self awareness.

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

People need to stop taking sides in wedding dramas. If someone does not attend a wedding, the bride and groom may or may not be upset or offended, but that is between them and the person rejecting the invitation. It is not a call to arms for the rest of the family to take sides.

[@champslim]

Story 1: Your sister is a terrible person! Stop trying to explain to her.

[@helianabanes4875]

This applies to story 2, as well. Hahahaha

[@lauriemeyer7030]

If any family member says you should go, tell them I will not support anyone who hurts my son. Keep the peace/she's your sister/it's not important...BS If Jane is present, I do not attend!

[@tinamarisia123]

Tell jane you are not going and if she says anything. Tell her and family you were only saying the truth in response to her/ your sisters behaviour and as your sister said grow up and deal with it. No sorrys required..to your sister or family...

[@LanaiHaselton]

Omg! Jane is such a snatch! I have a daughter born with a birth defect that caused her to have accidents too when she couldn’t get to a bathroom fast enough. In school she had a teacher like Jane who would purposely not let my daughter go to the bathroom. She had an accident in class and the teacher humiliated her in front of the whole class,pointing at her and yelling.Then made her sit in her wet clothes until the end of the day which caused a horrible rash and infection. After I was done with the principal and school board,she was fired. She will never teach again. My daughter was humiliated and scarred by this incident and refused to go back to school. She was 5 years old! How can anyone treat a child with a medical condition do this to a child! Just sick.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Five? A lot of five year olds have accidents. That teacher should have been understanding and caring, not a bully.

[@gryphenicedancer8796]

Wow, bullies like that certainly have no business being around Kindergarten age children in ANY capacity. Absolutely not as a teacher! Good for you nailing that c-you-next-tuesday and getting her fired and banned from teaching 🎉🎉

[@petitmains]

Just know *none* of the other teachers like that one and probably make her life hell whenever they can because they have to deal with the fallout of kids who don't even have base level trust in their teachers by 1st grade because they watched a kindergarten teacher or young grade teacher act like Trunchbull.

[@LanaiHaselton]

@@petitmains this was almost 40 years ago and really made my daughter hate going to school. She was bullied by other kids for years after this incident and finally dropped out in 8th grade because of the bullying and the school ignored her complaints and told her to buck up and just ignore them. Several girls cornered her on her way home and beat her black and blue and targeted her kidneys to do as much damage as possible to her. She required another surgery to repair the damage they did to her. The police and school did absolutely nothing. It didn’t happen on school property and the police said it’s just kids being kids. We tried transferring her to another school but they wouldn’t let us. She’s now a wonderful woman who has three adult children and her first grandchild and has worked for the same company for over 25 years.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

A "snatch"? That must not mean where you live the same thing it does where I live.

[@annvassallo2604]

It annoys me to no end when people say "We're pregnant". WE are most certainly not pregnant.

[@TruckWick]

That's not depression. Thats a sociopath that masked with depression because they learned they wont be held accountable for their actions. The second their control slips they claim suicidal. She sounds like someone who would make a baby cry just to get a dopamine hit out of it.

[@katarinatibai8396]

💯💯💯this

[@Mimpetel]

My youngest sister is scary like this. She’s under 18 and under therapy and they’re not going to diagnose her while under 18 but her words are concerning. The stuff she’s come out with is creepy

[@rhiannoncarney9380]

Story 1: NTA, even if op's son didn't have a medical condition that's no excuse for humiliating a child!! FYI, I wet the bed until I hit puberty and NOBODY EVER made me feel bad about it!! Now, at the age of 40, I occasionally still have accidents!!

[@petitmains]

Bodies gonna do body stuff! I'm glad you had a healthy and happy environment to handle your body doing its thang! It's what everyone deserves!

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - I hope Jane doesn't have any children of her own. Imagine the long term emotional damage of being raised by someone like that! I'm glad OP has come to realize that she needs to take real action about this.

[@poohbear4515]

S1: If it wasn’t the first time she made Liam cry, then why the hell would you allow him to be around her again?? A grown ass woman bullied a seven year old in tears and has also verbally attacked others especially her family. Kay…OP, I’m gonna say this with what little care I have. Grow a damn spine, and stop letting your son be near this womanchild!!! Also, ‘family harmony’ apparently means a family member can be cruel to a small child because they are unable to keep from wetting themselves?

[@catsncrows]

S1 Adult bullies that pick on children are every inch of ridiculous cowards and I question their emotional maturity, it's amazing how many people walk the earth still arrested in elementary or middle school. Ugh

[@kanelovec4315]

S2. They need for her to look at herself. She blaming others for her lack of "growth" and "achievements." She has to get out and do things. She cant let her "depression" be a get out of jail card. She has to get out, get a job, a hobby, and talk to people not a therapist/family. If she see her every achievement as less than her sister's so she has to hurt her sister to make it even.

[@MrJpaynebb]

She's 28 so if their parents still want to coddle her, not check with her therapist(if she still has one), and indulge her behavior that's on them. OP is a wife and soon to be mom whose focus and priority needs to be her family that she is creating. Sister has shown herself to be a threat to OP's pregnancy which means she's out. No meeting the baby after the birth, no visits, no gifts from her. Nothing until OP is shown proof sister has taken steps to get better. If their parents object or try to bring sister along they can join her on that banned list.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

Story 1: protect your child. Always ridiculous when family & friends tell the non- AH to not rock the boat, apologize for the family dynamics etc instead of telling the AH to apologize. If op did go to the wedding with her son & he had an accident Jane would have went nuclear and blamed him for ‘ruining’ her wedding. She’s a terrible person and a worse aunt. Jane & any family member who agrees with her can GTFO too.

[@hagnat]

story 2... this is what happens when people let their Intrusive Thoughts come out of their mouth most people have intrusive / destructive / evil thoughts, but it takes no effort to silence these thoughts through a filter and proceed to continue being a decent human being some people. like OP's sister, do not have a good enough filter, and suddenly _"hey, i wonder what happens if i set your hair on fire"_

[@martil.9058]

I don't have such monstrous thoughts mate, I don't think many ppl does. Now i m scared 😅

[@ndawn90]

​@@martil.9058It's actually extremely common, especially for people with mental health disorders like anxiety, depression, OCD, etc. Studies have shown that over 90% of the population reports having an intrusive thought at some point during their lifetime. They aren't always so violent or directed towards other people, sometimes they are just like, "What if I jumped down the stairs?" or "What if I trip with a knife in my hand and accidentally stab myself?" There's nothing to be scared about with it, though, because these aren't conscious thoughts. They are "intrusive" specifically *BECAUSE* the person having these thoughts doesn't want to have them and would never, ever act on them. That's part of what makes those thoughts so upsetting for the person having them, because they are so out of their normal thoughts and beliefs. They almost feel like they are coming from a completely different person. Like, imagine you're just going through your day, and all of the sudden someone whispers in your ear, "What if you drove your car off the road?" You wouldn't actually do it, you would think, "Where is that coming from? Why would you say that? Obviously I'm not going to do that." That's what intrusive thoughts are like.

[@TheOtherSideoftheLookingGlass]

Story 1: ETA. Jane is the AH for obvious reasons, but hearing how utterly clueless and lenient OP is about her sister's entitled, nasty, narcissistic behavior made me want to rip my hair out! You can't reason with people who do unreasonable things! That's basic common sense. OP isn't the A**hole for not attending the wedding, but she is for letting her sister's bullying get this far out of hand and being so meek about her own son being humiliated for a damn medical condition. She really needs to get a spine and put Jane in her place for at least her own son's sake. Edit after update: Glad the Reddit comments made her wake up and she's cutting off Jane and the crappy relatives who were on Jane's side.

[@paperkay]

Breaks my heart OP doesn't see her sister has been doing it to her all their lives and OP has become so accustomed to that family's "normal" , she only sees it now that it's her kid.

[@TheNormExperience]

“How can do many people forgive her behavior?” You’d be amazed what not having a diagnosis allows people to do/get away with. No matter the seriousness of your symptoms, no matter how sick you look or not, no matter how many doctors you visit. Without an official diagnosis there are always people who want to blame YOU for the issue instead of your body because they don’t believe medical science can’t figure it out. At least, they don’t believe it until they end up in the hospital and in and out of doctors offices for a few months dealing with the migraine of boomeranging through our medical system just trying to get a straightforward answer.

[@leelourose2503]

S1.. so sister dearest has bullied her son time and again and she kept putting him in her cross hairs so she could keep having fun bullying him. For that and the fact OP doubts going NC with her child's abuser makes her the AH. OP's son will remember every word and when older realize how the sisters feelings mattered more time and again.

[@leelourose2503]

S2.. OMG the woman is psychotic for thinking about it, let alone saying it. OP, needs to keep themselves and their family the hell away from that woman.

[@StubbyandShifu]

She took care of her son and put everyone siding with her sister on no contact.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1-He’s 7 and has a medical issue, and even if it was just an accident, HE’S 7! What kind of monster bullies their 7 yo nephew? 2- WTF! I get having intrusive thoughts, but why would you say them out loud?

[@heathermiller5765]

Story 1: my thoughts EXACTLY. What a horrible woman 😲

[@ndawn90]

I've said intrusive thoughts out loud a few times before, *BUT* I almost immediately say something like, "I didn't mean that, that was an intrusive thought." Also, I would hope that my other behavior outside of those few events would demonstrate to people that I would never act on such a thought, and I would make an effort to apologize and make up for it if my saying something like that made someone feel uncomfortable. OP's sister did none of that, and it sounds like she has a history that warrants distance, regardless of this one comment.

[@jaycehoward2771]

Defending your children from someone who hurts them and bullies them makes you never the AH in my book. I will defend my son with my life if he is being hurt or bullied.

[@calmingvoice8646]

No adult who would bully a child can be made to see why bullying a child is wrong.

[@TheVeggiekat]

People underestimate how many parents would be ok with their child being bullied. Jane will probably be her child’s first bully and use the excuse of it’s a tough world and she’s toughening them up.

[@drhacknslashzombietimelord6768]

My late little brother had control issues due to diabetic neuropathy, and would frequently have accidents, and he was in his 20's. He had to wear Depends, or similar adult products, and would have to carry a few extra with him whenever out, as he would have frequent accidents if he was out and not in very close proximity to a bathroom. And, I was seriously very over protective of him, and would open a whole galaxy of pain on those who made fun of him for it. If I was in OP's place, after. I got done with "Jane", she would either have to postpone the wedding to get extreme facial reconstructive surgery, or, just wear a very thick veil throughout the whole day, wedding, reception, photos to hide what I did to her. Hey, actions have consequences.

[@peterford5644]

First story: Jane made my child cry with her bullying. Her funeral will be on Sunday. It will be a closed casket due to the grievous nature of her injuries.

[@cherryrosy]

Story 2: I have OCD and therefore intrusive thoughts. They’re the kind of thing like.. where you dont actually want to do it. it’s like the cartoon devil on your shoulder trying to convince you you’re a bad person by telling you to do your worst fears. you dont ACTUALLY do that or want to because it’s what youre AFRAID of. Therefore most people with intrusive thoughts don’t tell anyone the details because if people dont understand what intrusive thoughts are, they can assume you’re a bad person. What the sister said is horrific and probably not an intrusive thought.

[@WPFLAWLESS]

I thought the same thing, but the fact that she's specifically blaming op for her mental problems tells me that she's not trying and or has bigger problems that op should definitely worry.

[@cherryrosy]

@@WPFLAWLESS its even scarier that she is blaming OP. If shes having these urges to hurt OP and people around him thats really dangerous. Seems like she has some sorta fixation on him fr

[@TheBre1491]

I also have OCD, anxiety and depression. My OCD is not the repetitive actions, but not being able to stop thinking about something. I sometimes have a really mean intrusive thought. And I feel horrible for it. I absolutely fixate on them 🤣. Which probably causes more of those intrusive thoughts. I have never blurted them out. When my depression is bad, I sometimes am more grumpy, but I still don’t blurt out intrusive thoughts. 🤷‍♀️I’m still aware that they are intrusive thoughts and not meant to be anything more than that. I agree that I don’t think this was an intrusive thought for the sister.

[@kathyjones1078]

I guess today’s message is: get away from your sister!

[@JaneDoe1812]

OP was being so mature in the first story. Jane was being an infant by attacking a kid like that.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

My ex goes to therapy to get pitty & admiration, not to heal. I'm guessing that's what the sister could be doing as well.

[@WoodlandT]

The whole way through story 2 I was thinking the sister needs to be evaluated by a specialist in personality disorders. Depression and anxiety can go along with PDs because of the deep dissatisfaction one might feel as a result of not being able to create the sort of life and relationships we want. That type of depression and anxiety will not respond to treatment without treating the PD first. The fact that sister threatens self harm, is manipulative, says inappropriate things, is unable to maintain long term relationships etc could suggest exactly what Op got around to, BPD. But it really takes a specialist to diagnose properly

[@hothotheat3000]

Jane wants OP there because her absence will be questioned and Jane will have to tell people why OP isn’t there. Bullying a child with a medical condition? Let’s see how that goes over at the reception.

[@goreslashdow3813]

Wow, Jane really needs to toughen up. This is the real world, the family can't keep coddling her.

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

Oh my god, I have MDD and GAD and I have never told ANYONE I wanted to punch them. My intrusive thoughts are not ones about harming other people, they're more like "Drive through the guardrail and into the creek" or "run in front of that garbage truck." Depression and anxiety don't make people violent, she's just a horrible person.

[@heathermiller5765]

My gosh, her own nephew. I can't imagine doing that to my nephew or nieces, or my brother or his gf doing that to my daughter, who is also 7. Unbelievable smh Also what real world? He's just a kid rn 🤨

[@ajasmith643]

HOW DID SHE LET HER TOUCH HER AFTER THAT COMMENT!!!!!

[@Zxgrhexbj]

No you didn’t add a “eeewwwuuh brother” 😂😂😂😂

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: OP wbta if she keeps her sister in Liam's life. He doesn't need that crap. Update: I'm wondering if the cousins Liam loves to see are Jane's kids. I hope there's a way to set up play dates so he can see the family without Jane. Story 2: I can't believe they stayed in the house. Tell the therapist so it can be addressed in therapy.

[@carlosrobledo6714]

You have no clue how much these videos help to get through tasks during the day, thanks man!

[@mulqueen2023]

Markee saying "Aww whens his baby due?" Had me cackling. Cause I really hate when people say 'we're pregnant'. I'm like, uhhh only one of you is pregnant. Like it's a sort of shared experience but also not really. The husband or wife simply has to tolerate a pregnant partner and making accomodations. They're not getting medical issues, swollen feet and sickness, and all the other pregnancy symptoms.

[@jr5557]

Idk I don't mind it when couples say we're pregnant as long as the pregnant person is the one using that language. Like yes the other person's body is not growing the baby but they are going through something. I recently watched a interview of a man whose girlfriend died during childbirth and he spoke about during the pregnancy he felt like "who cares about me" and that made it really hard for him when the mother passed and he had a hard time connecting with the people around him. It's not the same level but I think downplaying the part the non pregnant partner plays is wrong

[@carolroberts4614]

That's one of my pet hates too!

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

​@@carolroberts4614 Why?

[@carolroberts4614]

Because it's wrong! A man cannot be pregnant, and they're just trying to be cute! Why not just say we're expecting a baby?

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@carolroberts4614 How is it "wrong?" It takes two to conceive. It is a team effort. The Mother carries the child till birth, the Father protects and provides for the Mother and child to be. Neither role is lesser, or greater, than the other.

[@Kzinix]

Great comments on story 1. So, so true. And wow, 'Sometimes doing the right thing is a lonely path' really hits home.

[@JMac7395]

STORY 2: I grew up with a sister who developed some mental & emotional issues. I also was depressed for several years & have recently come out of it. A few things I've noticed growing up with a sibling that has mental issues. #1 Parents who have kids with issues usually default to coddling from childhood through adulthood. Because they either don't know how to help them or don't want to deal with their negative behavior. #2 At some point, individuals with mental or emotional issues become self-aware. They realize that they can use their issues to excuse & hide behind when displaying any negative behavior, even if it's not caused by their condition(s). I think OP's sister has been 100% self-aware for years. I think she hasn't actually spoken to a psychiatrist in a very long time.

[@ASmK9412]

Should of told Jane she needs to toughen up and relize that her wedding means northing to her.

[@TaraYourArmOff]

Not all parents care when their children are suicidal, when I told my Mom I was suicidal she rolled her eyes and told me to get over it because everyone is sad

[@CyndiRoberts-m4s]

Hey Markee still here after years of listening thanks for the great stories!

[@ceceelizabeth527]

This is so sweet

[@tkmax2119]

Story one, YTA for not standing up for your son sooner

[@mandalorianhunter1]

Both these OPs are related to horrible people it's so sad

[@poohbear4515]

Not to mention both of these OP’s are doormats. Second isn’t as bad as the first, but OP in the second one should’ve kept herself far away from sister’s parents considering they will never, ever do anything to help their ‘sad widdle baby gwirl’. Now bringing a baby in, she NEEDS to open her eyes and realize how unsafe both sister, and sister’s parents are. And yes, I kept saying “sister’s parents” because they’re no longer OP’s if they only care about one daughter over the other.

[@mandalorianhunter1]

@@poohbear4515 agreed

[@asmolpeach]

I had a aunt who hated me -a pre diagnosed high functioning autistic child- she had to say something about everything even though I was a very quiet kid and generally would suffer alone vs ask for help. This lady had to harp on everything till one day she said something that had be just snap in the family gathering and it's torn sides since. Hate the bully.

[@hellokitty11432]

NTA, why subject your child to such vile behavior? Especially from someone old enough to know better.

[@stephjovi]

Where is that care for family harmony when she's cruel to her nephew

[@Rando1624]

Damn mark is psychic how he know we would watch this from the bathroom.

[@velentr]

If Jane is such a fan of _"just telling the truth"_ maybe OP could have done so at her wedding reception; "Good luck with the marriage, I'd hold of on having kids though, seeing as my 'dear' sister has a habbit of bullying children with physical disabilities and seems to take delight in causing them emotional damage- as she has done so for yeas, even when fully informed of her _nephew's_ medical condition. Cheers for the newly wed couple, im sure ille see all of you at her next one."

[@jewlzcraig-leaves597]

Stick with it. Everybody already knows she’s a horrible person. Look after and advocate for your son. Much love to him

[@davidransom4476]

Story 1: OP is correct in all but one thing. Being a parent isn't about letting the kids do what they want. Liam has a medical problem, but doesn't like to wear what he needs to. The parent's job is to get him to wear it. Then he won't have these incidents like he is. How would OP like it if he soaked someone's furniture cushion and it couldn't be replaced or cleaned? Ready to buy a new couch for someone? Be a parent and make Liam wear what he needs to. If OP had done that, this entire story wouldn't have happened, she'd have needed some other incident to cut off the abusive sister. Still, OP should send her sister a skateboard helmet for a wedding present. Include a note: Life's tough, wear this.

[@gabinathan5499]

WELL DONE OP FOR SWITCHING TO SUPER MAMA BEAR MODE TO DEFEND YOUR SON LIAM

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

Story 1: Jane's got that serious "button up buttercup" & "tough it out cub scout" mentality. "You're ruining my day!" No sweetheart she's walking away from a petulant adult toddler who thinks it's okay to shame an actual CHILD for a medical condition. And of course other family members are going to say "let it go for FaMiLy" No, what if it was YOUR child? Would you take the Elsa route? I don't think so. ALSO the fact that Jane's always been like this & the family has just... done nothing & said nothing. As if it's the "well you know her" excuse. Nope. Bye Jane. Story 2: A 28 year old woman telling her pregnant sister "eww" looking disgusted by her belly, poking her belly & wanting to PUNCH her in the stomach?! Are we sure she's 28?!? She sounds more like a 12 year old! AND SHE'S BLAMING HER MENTAL ILLNESS!? "She has made my parents feel like I need to be responsible for her mental health & happiness" AWW HELL NAH!! After years I learned that I am NOT responsible for anyone's happiness but my own. It's why I slightly distanced myself from my best friend. Her happiness is on her & no one else.

[@kaneki18-d1t4]

I can't get over the fact you told us to flush our toilets regularly and with a straight face even 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ajeff7171]

How did he know that I was pooping?! Lmao 😂

[@christophercarson6634]

Because you stink...

[@pinkgoblin5815]

2nd Story: Therapy and mental health resources are useless and a waste of time for people who do not want to get better and don’t see anything wrong with their behavior. Cut contact, avoid her, and move on with your life. You don’t need the drama and stress when you’re pregnant and about to enter parenthood. This is not your problem to deal with as much as it sucks to see your sister be like this. Pick your battles. Your baby and family is more important.

[@robertx8020]

This And ppl who say "just get her another therapist? How would that work if she doesn't want to be helped?

[@9r7g5h]

I grew up with a medical condition that often made me sick. I'd be shaking, puking, feeling like I was freezing in the 80 degree heat, and my dad would just tell me to "toughen up" because, at that young age, I didn't have the words to say how much pain I was in. All I could say over and over and over again was "My tummy hurts." I couldn't explain that eating food felt like swallowing a knife, that I could maybe keep down half a meal a day, that as I got older my friends brought me pain killers in exchange for me doing their hw so I could get through school. I almost died at 19, when my internal organs were so riddled with holes things just gave out. I'm alive now, but it was years of pain and healing and I still have lifelong symptoms and internal scar tissue. The phrase "toughen up" is banned in the family, and my parents still talk about how guilty they feel. We're keeping a close eye on my niece, just in case. OP isn't the AH at /all/. Letting they kind of bs around any child, but especially children with medical conditions, is just awful.

[@livewellwitheds6885]

damn, is this the evil sister episode???

[@delilah1096]

'Alright call me out right? I didn't ask for the personal attack' markee your commentary is golden 😂😂😂

[@LT_Fates4228]

YAY MARKEE happy to hear you

[@teddychu1177]

*sploosh* Toilet Flushed! :D Also... why TF do brides toss out "Ruining my day" accusations like dollar store candy?

[@Luve2020]

I litterally stopped chewing and stared at my phone when the title was read about the belly punching.

[@ScarletASV]

I wanna cry for Liam, poor child.

[@ManyMonstersMedia]

'in the real world' we dont harass ppl with incontinence!!!!!! like the normal thing to do is to act like you didnt notice and let them go take care of it in private not publicly shame them!!!!

[@heatherdickau5335]

Last story- is she really going to therapy? Or is she on internet forums that help her push her agenda of minulpating the people around her.

[@robertx8020]

You can't force het into therapy (unofrtunatelly) so does it matter?

[@heatherdickau5335]

@robertx8020 her parents need to call police the next time, she threatens to off herself. They can put her into a 72-hour hold. They are letting her manipulate them.

[@robertx8020]

@@heatherdickau5335 Depends on where they live but sure that COULD be an option ..but even then she needs to be willing to change

[@colezy14]

What! Aunt Jane is a mother!!?? Wow

[@BriannaWeldon]

I kind of doubt the sister will be very interested in the child once it’s born. They seem like they are taking away access as a punishment, an affront. They should definitely protect themselves from her though.

[@beccaf262]

I was a kid who had kidney and bladder issues from birth with still persistent issues as an adult. That response would’ve completely destroyed any of my progress. My mum would and did go to war with anyone that pulled that sort of thing. I had a teacher that bullied me over my issues and it made it 1000% times worse.

[@vanguardangel6912]

Urinary incontinance can happen to anyone at any age for a variety of reasons. From menopause, from psychological reasons, to cancer, to just having a weak bladder. Shaming someone for that is sickening

[@kiradynrhiode2231]

The (Better Help) sponsorship fakeout genuinely had me for a second. XD

[@sharonannrowland5783]

I bet the family members she blocked all had to throw furnishings away after a visit

[@ellaj.659]

Yet it still isn't an excuse to bully a child.

[@OdditieseClubMagazine]

@@ellaj.659 face palm

[@malakitimes3125]

Story 2 don't allow these people around her baby. EVER!

[@dorothyj1304]

Sending ❤ love to you 🎉 Great appreciation for your work ❤🎉🎉

[@simonmanley9245]

In terms of family members wanting you to "keep the peace", recognise they're interested in order, not justice and don't actually care about whether you or your son are happy, just so long as it isn't something that they have to deal with.

[@whattheelle360]

When I was a girl, my aunt got pregnant with her husband. I was disgusted as that meant they were doing “it”. So gross 🤮 🤣

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Oh Markee, trying to get that delicious sponsorship from a certain counselling company I see. 😂

[@rachaeldumas7432]

Eventually, Markee will tell us to steam clean our couches. Lol.

[@Markee]

Maybe I should

[@maximman19]

It’s honestly fairly common with boys his age. It could be a medical condition. But most of the time boys just get really excited while playing with friends, especially ones they haven’t seen in a while, and sometimes forget they need to go the bathroom until it’s too late. I’ve seen it happen with 2 of my nephews, and even my 3yr old son had issues with “blockages” because he had a bad experience with a large expulsion once. They will grow out of it eventually. It’s simple enough to quietly remind him to use the restroom. You can even come up with a secret code word or phrase so you don’t call him out on it. This is one of the few times a parent can tell someone without kids that they don’t know what they are talking about.

[@TessuDraws]

I think the "it wasn't traumatic" commenter completely missed what OP said. OP said that FORCEFULLY admitting her sister would be traumatic. The commenter admitted themselves in. That's completely different.

[@jewlzcraig-leaves597]

I reckon if there’s no way to contact her therapist I suspect there isn’t one 😒very scary. Congratulations of your baby. Stay safe.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

Story 2 It wasn't the context that had me most worried it was the poking of OPs belly immediately after saying she wanted to punch it! If someone said to me that they wanted to punch me in the face and then started poking it I'd be thinking I'm getting punched in the face in the next couple of seconds.

[@lina9535]

Story 2: with her repeated threats of SH, call the cops and pull the old 5051 (or is it 5150?) on her.

[@gabrielaubry1334]

It’s an objective fact that if Liam didn’t have that condition with his bladder, Jane will hunt for any other reason to put down and humiliate the young child.

[@eikomi]

I'm crying at your reaction to story 2 title 😭

[@samanthavereen3926]

If you can, on the day of the wedding, you and your son take a nice trip and enjoy yourselves

[@MysticalBlueRse]

A person might not be able to get things from the sister’s therapist, but they CAN talk to her therapist about things she has said/done. This is collateral information, and while you might not see/hear about what the therapist does with that info due to patient privacy laws/standards, the therapist has this info to speak with their patient on and can possibly offer the family a safety plan due to the comments and discomfort they cause

[@CrazyJodice]

Story2 : get the hell out of there and never go back.

[@annamarczuk2030]

I like how yoy ended the last story with sone worda about a possible positive outcone in the future :)

[@jpbaley2016]

S1 - public humiliation goes both ways.