My Wife Doesn't Appreciate My Sacrifices!

[@AfroMomVanlifing]

This man sounds exhausted. You can hear the pain in his voice.

[@amatthew3t259]

I've dealt with long commutes before, but this man is killing himself with that.

[@johnallen3497]

I couldn’t imagine two hours each way. That’s 1/6 of your day driving.

[@rory644]

Yep my commute is a 5 min walk i just watch all the cars going by me everyday with everydriver looking miserable and driving like a crazy person

[@summerdowlig]

Why does he has to man up she could move or women up for her husband?

[@amatthew3t259]

@@summerdowlig probably a religious bias. These guys view the man as the head of household and therefore hold the man responsible for almost all factors.

[@Mexicobeanpole]

@Heinrich Himmler The man is not the head of the family in a happy marriage. That’s a dictatorship. A great marriage is a partnership. A give and take. A team. Decisions being made together. A mutual respect. If you don’t respect the person, and their wants and needs, then you’ve married the wrong person.

[@Bradclone34]

Note to self: Being single is less stressful than in an unstable relationship.

[@lynnsalee8645]

@Bradclone34 you can say that again

[@datcatsavedme7071]

Love your profile picture 力

[@thelimey351]

Another example of why marriage is a s**t sandwich for men...

[@hurt1704]

Truth. It’s honestly taxing worrying about making someone happy all the time

[@ismailmarican8297]

Oh gosh, bravo.. well said brother!..

[@bkucenski]

No job is worth a two hour commute. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere, make a life where you live.

[@markg999]

Agree...what a waste of life in the car. One plus working from home now a year I like the extra time with the kids.

[@truman3004]

They should move Closer to the job! Not the other way!

[@bkucenski]

​@@truman3004 If they don't live two hours from a city center then there is no reason to move. Moving is expensive. You either have to rent your house or eat thousands of dollars in selling costs and pay to move all your stuff and uproot the kids from their school and friends. The wife also has a support structure where she's at so her parents can help take care of the kids which opens up her employment options. I didn't the hour and a half each way commute for a few years before I moved. But the kiddo's school was where I was moving to. As much as we moved around, she never changed schools. Maybe he just needs to get an Audible subscription or make better use of calling his wife and kids and talking to them while he drives until he sorts it out.

[@mph5896]

👍. No more than 20-30 min one way on an average day. Find a new job, or ...

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

@@bkucenski There are parts of the Bible you obviously never read and Dave is probably terrified to mention on his show.

[@RJRussoVids]

I’ve been there. John and Ken didn’t seem to get how hard this is for the caller. What really struck me is when the caller said that his wife wants to stay near “her family.” When two people get married and have kids that in itself is a family unit. Her husband should be more her family than anyone else but it doesn’t sound like his wife feels that way. Tough situation!

[@mattpalmq]

@The Ramsey Show-Highlights scammer

[@YanRAWR]

Thank you you helped him dodge a bullet!

[@anneshirley9560]

Exactly. He should be put first before anyone else. Sometimes my husband likes to get extra hours at his job, but to do that, he has to drive an hour there and an hour back. He gets paid for it, but he already works 12 hour days. I'm glad it's only a couple of times a year, but I worry about him the entire time. You'd think she would worry herself well? Not to mention that I would miss him like crazy!

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@PeteMD]

She sounds very selfish

[@swampcrawlerls1267]

This guy has slowly realized that he has become just a utility to this woman. He needs to leave, and if she is not seeing someone on the side it would be a suprise.

[@thelimey351]

Spot on. ✅

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

You don’t just leave your wife . But they do need help .

[@commandershepard9601]

@@rebeccaoprea9917 why not? Women seem to have little problem leaving their husband's..80 percent of divorces filed by women. Yay no fault divorce.

[@rdb0819]

He will never leave his wife. Most men don’t. It’s in our nature to protect and provide. A woman is ALWAYS about survival, first. Men have to unlearn the fairytales. Love will get you destroyed if you aren’t careful with how to use it

[@swampcrawlerls1267]

@@rebeccaoprea9917 My ex wife was more than willing to leave me when I had served my purpose, I was faithful even though things wernt great. But not her.

[@Libra8410]

Dr. John doesn't listen. First of all, they didn't even ask why his wife said no. He's not projecting; he's tried to talk to her already about it. Second of all, that's his business not a job. What will he do? Sell the business? This couple definitely needs marriage counseling but I wish some of the Ramsey personalities would listen more instead of just rushing people off the phone.

[@tommiller12345]

I am not a fan of Dr. John either. He doesn’t probe enough and gives shallow advice.

[@puclopuclik4108]

His advice is correct. He either looses the business or his marriage. That's the reality. You cannot force someone to move against their will.

[@analfistme69]

He's a simp

[@mr.beefythecarnivore6415]

​@@puclopuclik4108then he has a crap wife.

[@NaNa-lt1po]

Ah.. here we go... blame the man.. he has to move. While his wife does whatever she wants.

[@jengable4888]

I think one option should be that they relocate 30 minutes closer to his work. There are many options here, they just have to be open to suggestions.

[@jengable4888]

@@TheAck201 ..I am a woman, and I would agree. There is not enough known about this situation to provide advice. I think the listeners should hear both sides of the situation first before advice is provided. There can be a solution where there is EQUAL sacrifice on BOTH sides or a solution in which BOTH parties are satisfied.

[@jengable4888]

@@TheAck201 ...I do not know if it necessarily that, no offense, I tend to think that many do not hold the ideology that marriage is 50/50...give and take/compromise on both sides. Is his commute of two hours one way, so it is four hours a day or two hours total ? Either way, it adds to already long work day, however, there are solutions to his problem. People need to communicate and compromise.

[@jengable4888]

@@TheAck201 ..Yes ! The problem with analyzing and commenting on a ten minute phone call is that you are only getting one side of the story. We need to hear her side too, then offer solutions. 50/50...Agreed...- 👍

[@Grimmes12]

@@jengable4888 So easy to say that when the man is on the losing end, when women complain about their partners on those female talk shows nobody not even men say let's hear the other side of the story or all of this 50/50 bs.

[@rickmeeder4060]

The “Happy Wife, Happy Life” is a joke, it’s a mental prison.

[@Bradclone34]

That's why I'm never getting married.

[@markg999]

A guy gave me that advice when I got married....He was in a divorce years later.

[@leonardwalk5012]

It's valid advice as long as you got a good woman. A good woman that doesn't take advantage of the statement.

[@Bradclone34]

@@leonardwalk5012 Those kind of women are like unicorns nowadays. It's hard to find the right women like that yet I don't mind being single enjoying freedom without being cheated.

[@clwhite1127]

Take it from me...Don’t chase your wife’s elusive happiness. Every couple that I know that does this ends up with the wife still being unhappy or the couple is divorced. Just lead with with love.

[@kingrose1215]

Being on the same page with your partner is SO IMPORTANT

[@rdb0819]

Being on the same page with your partner does not always necessarily mean it’s working in the favor of both partners. However, I get what you mean 👍🏾

[@dabd8175]

Wow didnt kno that sherlock

[@alleyallen5537]

Y’all pretty much dismissed him 🙄

[@Bradclone34]

The only question is how?

[@crissieasmr7765]

Yeah, he said that she agreed to move when he started. That’s why he’s been commuting so much. The problem is that she doesn’t honor her agreements and is self-centered. She doesn’t empathize with the fact that he’s suffering for everyone’s benefit except his. You’re not going to have a meaningful negotiation with someone like this.

[@heatherstacy2976]

💯

[@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo8496]

Very well put.

[@angele4890]

We honestly don't know the whole story so I don't buy the whole selfish thing. We don't know if she has thought about this we don't know if this arrangement is beneficial because it should be to both because its his convenience as well so that makes him just as selfish. Lots of resentment can be created in both angles and for something like this to destroy a marriage is childish. She has good reasons and so does he. They need to both be open to meeting in the middle.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a traditional husband, but reject being a traditional wife. THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@-MakeItGood-]

Someone like this? You mean any woman ever?

[@investinstyle-financeinves1181]

This is the biggest challenge of any relationship...balancing the needs of your partner with your own needs and those of the other people close to you.

[@riverdaletales8457]

Eventually one of you will have to compromise too a certain degree. It’s only a matter of time.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@lifeonabudgetwithDee]

I don’t think this should fall all on him. His wife gave him the impression that they both agreed that they will move in some years once the business takes off. He is feeling like a fool because he trusted her and believed that he had her full support in the business adventure as he provide for their family. She need to keep her word to her husband and honor what they both a agreed on some years before the business was created. I understand where he is coming from. He is watching his wife have her cake and eat it too with no real sacrifice. This man feels abandoned and he doesn’t feel like his wife has his back as much as he has hers. Hey I could be wrong. But that’s what it seems like to me.

[@xyzsame4081]

He did not _say_ he provided - some businesses are not profitable in the first years, for all we know her job and income keeps them going. And she might have an interesting career going on too - one that SHE would have to sacrifice.

[@xyzsame4081]

That or she is selfish / adverse to change or has good reasons to stay. (elderly parent).

[@grungehamster8]

To be fair, he said the plan was to move the business. He didn't mention moving the family at that time. Plenty of people own businesses that are not located in the city where they live. I'm deeply curious why he can't or won't delegate any responsibilities to either allow him to work off-site or to work onsite fewer days per week or something. All i can think of is that maybe the business isn't profitable yet and his focus on "his hustle" as he called it is more of a point of pride than him martyring himself to provide for the family. I don't know the whole story, but that's the impression I have. I really hope they can reach a resolution

[@Ruben-lk3ld]

Facts

[@aleksandrac9335]

You have no idea if she agreed or not.

[@nobujak]

The caller deserves a better life. I feel for him.

[@aleksandrac9335]

No

[@Halgame99]

It is his own fault caring about what she thinks too much

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@summerdowlig]

He sounds tired on the phone don't wanna think how he sounds or looks in person.

[@randyjimenez3849]

Dude sounds drained af.

[@grizzlybear2702]

When your wife’s boyfriend appreciates you more then your own wife.

[@masonlee89]

You said what everyone on this comment section was thinking.

[@SaltyCorpsman]

Haha, true. My gf husband is pretty cool too. 😂

[@orangutan-halibut-walrus]

These guys are offering very neutral advice, good professional advice. HOWEVER, I have no sympathy for the wife. I’ve been in a situation where my partner put their commute over my considerably longer commute and there was zero consideration of my commute and the burden on it. That relationship has since ended. Good luck to this caller, but sometimes human selfishness is too strong to overcome.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

I've seen this situation plenty times through the years. None ended well.

[@oldbloke204]

So re plan your lives so the commutes aren't necessary. I can't understand why so many people think that life is all about having to ruin decades of your lives to simply exist. Bs system if you think that this is how things should be. Look outside the box, there has to be a better way.

[@anneshirley9560]

I wish that they would have asked how much they both make, and which job would be easier to relocate. That's how I think most people would determine where they should be living. For my household, personally, my husband is the head of house, so I go where he goes, which, for me personally, is nice because that's something we don't have to argue about.

[@puclopuclik4108]

He had his business closer to his home. He moved it further. It was his choice. Dhe has her life in the place they live. Why he shouldn't change his job to be closer to home? Why she has to move and leave her support system?

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

Something tells me there’s more to this story. The average woman wouldn’t be cool with her husband commuting this much without the marriage effectively over. My money is that she has a side piece and is getting husbands money and fun times elsewhere. Expecting men to always bend to a woman’s desires is part of the reason our society is a giant mess. When this man moved, his family should’ve moved. He’s doing his part and providing.

[@xyzsame4081]

Or his biz is more dream than substance, she has a GOOD job and may provide the more steady income. And if it comes down to who has to give up their career it is either him or her. In his mind she has to yield. - She could be selfish with a job she can replicate easily in another place, but they did not ask.

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

@@xyzsame4081 I’m going to use some common sense here and assume a man that owns a business and has a family isn’t commuting that far for something that pays poorly. Most men aren’t that stupid. This leads me to believe he has been relegated to utility status by his wife. This happens to every man in marriage at some point. Just some of us figure it out sooner. The host’s take on this man’s struggles was terrible. It amounted to “‘man up.”

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a traditional husband, but reject being a traditional wife. THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

My husband and I share one thing we "appreciate" in each other that happened that day. This small communication has saved our marriage.

[@smokeyhat]

Dr. Deloni is spot on, “You’re a paycheck and a courier.” 1000% accurate, this guy is a tool a utility for his wife and nothing else. Poor guy.

[@xyzsame4081]

It would have been interesting what his income and prospects are from the biz (profitable ?) and what HER career and income is. Maybe she is selfish. Or maybe he takes for granted that she will sacrifice her career to make his easier (it depends what she is doing). But that a man wants to build a biz and has a dream does not mean HE will be able to provide or that it will ever work out. But even if it could be that her career is as interesting and as lucrative (for the time being) as his project.

[@anneshirley9560]

@@xyzsame4081 Thats what I was thinking! We don't know how much either of them make, and who could more easily transfer. Either way, one spouse is going to have to make a sacrifice. It seems like people on the Dave Ramsey channel are either pro-woman or pro-man, and take this channel way too seriously. We don't have enough info, but most people here act like they know exactly what's going on.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@puclopuclik4108]

​​@@xyzsame4081 Noone is selfish for wanting to keep one's support circle. Especially if your spouse has business and there has no time. We don't have information about their finances, but since he didn't mention financial struggle, it may not be the factor. We also don't have information why he moved his business elsewhere. He may have a dream, but he shouldn't expect everyone else to sacrifice their interests for him.

[@Mukation]

If she's not willing to move atleast halfway there, then she clearly doesn't find his job and well being that important. As the guys said... he's just a paycheck and she may very well be content with him being nothing but a paycheck.

[@apalmer5097]

My husband has a 2 hour total daily commute (there and back), but we live in timbuktu by choice. When we lived in the city, he was literally 10 mins from work & we ONLY moved that far because he was more than willing to do the commute to have property. She's selfish for not even considering moving because it's "inconvenient" for her. A long commute SUCKS for the person doing it, and that isn't something to be taken lightly.

[@puclopuclik4108]

What about him moving his business closer to home, or sell the business and get employed?

[@isaiahpotter8005]

I agree with everyone else, this advice kinda sucks

[@jusplay7309]

I agree man this has to be one of the most useless advice i have seen given on these segments.

[@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo8496]

Agree, this was one of the top worst segments. Ken needs to stick to career advice and not be on the show without Dave. And Delony was not really listening to this guy and was just trying to push him off the phone and into counseling. I would also love a 3 month update on this call. All the wives I know would do anything to get their husband out of that kind of commute. It's not even safe to be on the road that much, the chances to be in an accident increase dramatically.

[@astoldbynadia6310]

I agree. Dave would have asked the financial questions. Is his business successful ot is she the bread winner?

[@clericstorm2009]

They should have asked him how much each are making and future potential. If he is making a lot more money that can provide a better life for the family then it makes sense to push for a move.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@vaska1999]

​@@sethdavid2117 You keep saying that, but I very much doubt most women want "traditional" men. I do know that most of us want reliable, financially stable men who can support whatever children they may have in the marriage.

[@sethdavid2117]

@@vaska1999 That is the literal definition of a Traditional Husband. Thank you. It’s simple You will: Cook, clean and sex. I will: Protect and provide.

[@Just_Hu]

Dave: ''Buy your girl a ring, but replace the diamond by a bean''.

[@LittleMopeHead]

Bean is too big. A grain of rice.

[@chernagast6754]

@@LittleMopeHead Nothing makes a woman more loyal and giving than a man who is openly defensive and suspicious of her from the start.

[@SUPAassassin098]

So if his wife is scared of moving and he wants to move we might as well call it even and do nothing and continue his dreadful commute which 100% will end in the divorce! Great idea, just be a big boy and put your feelings to the side for a minute (not like you’ve been doing this for so long already!)

[@b__w_4565]

@@saulgoodman2018 cute you think she works

[@amethyst4444]

Yea I didn’t completely agree with the advice given in this video....

[@senpai_dolph7873]

She doesn't work she does coaching and extra curriculars. But he owns his own business and is bread winner

[@Evil-Rod-Farva]

Agreed. This advice boiled down to “Man up and put your dreams aside. Your wife deserves happiness before you.” Men are expected to not only fall on a sword, but to enjoy it too. Normally I’m on board with Dr. D, but this was a terrible take.

[@Dre2011]

Can we get an update on this situation in three months? I’m interested to see how this turns out.

[@eprofessio]

My wife was a U.S. Army trial judge and I moved all over for her career and we agreed we could go to the Southwest when we retire. We recently retired and now the story is we have to go where her new job takes us.....even though we have a full military retirement. It can be very tiresome being married to an individual who is constantly setting you up for failure.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@Archangeldominius]

Yea those answers weren’t helpful at all.

[@leonardodakimchi]

If she only said "No" to a complicated work scenario NOT favorable for YOU, She holds all the cards and she knows it.

[@thelimey351]

These guys are so Blue-Pilled, the marriage is already over, the fact that she is happy to let him keep doing this without seeing it as unfair on him (and indeed trying to load more onto him!) shows that she doesn’t really give a s**t about him. She sees him as an ATM and a useful drone when she needs help - that’s it. 😐

[@achavez78]

Yep...this guy seems like a good guy, but he has overdose'd on the blue pill. This guy will see the inside of the family courtroom soon.

[@Erik_Swiger]

This channel is 100% blue pill. I like the financial advice, but the relationship advice is typically awful and penalizing for the man.

[@achavez78]

@@Erik_Swiger Dave is really outta touch in that aspect. He's from a different era. Before the rise of feminism, hypergamy, family court, and child support.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

@@achavez78 Dave also has a 10k square foot mansion and distance from his wife. Few have that luxury.

[@achavez78]

@@TheRichestMan-qs4gy nah... don't remember you bro. Who's this

[@rodrigobelinchon2982]

He needs to bring less money home and let the real situation surface .

[@VidaRebornLonewolf]

He said something that's key. Women never appreciate a man's grind. Women will wait for you at the finish line. They will not accompany a man through the struggles. A man's purpose is finding purpose in life, not getting married. When when you get married, it is not your responsibility to make someone happy. I feel for this guy. He is underappreciated and that's most men nowadays.

[@biellaspointofview2054]

Generalization much?

[@biellaspointofview2054]

@King Julien Sure..... Plenty of things women can complain about too

[@givemefreespeechyoutubehitlers]

"Women hang out at the finish line and f*** the winners"

[@blackjag121]

That is pretty sexist to say. Many women appreciate a man’s grind. Surround yourself with better women and stop generalizing us!!

[@VidaRebornLonewolf]

@@biellaspointofview2054 women will always find something to complaint about. Men find comfort in boring. Women never do.

[@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo8496]

Couldn't believe it when Ken said "Put your feelings aside..." !!!! Cringe! As tho that isn't what he's been doling this Whole Time!!! 🤬 Somtimes it's like their advice doesn't even match up with the person calling in! 😭

[@knownonsense2015]

You guys gotta talk it out and figure it out. Ken is right...you need some facts. Resentment is a road of no return. Once you get to that point, any relationship is over.

[@TableForOne2025]

This guy might need an exit plan if his wife doesn’t meet him halfway. It’s about compromise and it seems like she’s not willingly to do. He sounds tired and sad.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

Marriage contract will do that.

[@puclopuclik4108]

would you abandon your home, job, friend, family for someone who willingly moved his work further?

[@buffymcmuffin5361]

Time for a new wife. Doesn't sound like she cares about him.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

😂.

[@markg999]

Sell the business stay at home and let the wife work. There she gets to stay and work and you retire early.

[@mph5896]

Perfect idea

[@vaska1999]

She's already working as is.

[@Robert-ep7ps]

Dont let small minds control your life, future and wealth. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

[@tjnaples]

Better Bachelor vid topics are popping into my head.

[@livantarkovsky2007]

Thank you for saying that before me

[@tjnaples]

@@livantarkovsky2007 👊

[@stephenshelton4267]

Ssssssshocking.

[@Erik_Swiger]

She's a future Dating Profile of the Day.

[@senpai_dolph7873]

Wojack

[@buffalo.blackk]

I don’t like the advice they gave. He has a whole entire business. And she has a job and is making so little that she needs to take on coaching, whatever that is, to supplement her income. If his business is worth $10M and she’s making $50K a year, it would be better to move, financially speaking.

[@joeyoest1105]

Not to mention that (from what he said) they discussed this years ago and came up with a gameplan. He's sacrificed for years to build this business and now she doesn't want to follow through.

[@xyzsame4081]

Coaching is a biz and can make good money (assuming she is the one giving the coaching, maybe she gets it). - I very much doubt his biz makes 10 millions, he would have mentioned that (he would have a chauffeur and be doing work in the car.

[@xyzsame4081]

And if she is making 50k - that may be more than he is bringing home, he does not specify if the biz is PROFITABLE so far.

[@joeyoest1105]

@@xyzsame4081 If his biz was making that much, he'd probably just sell it and semi-retire. There are good businesses that can bring in 100k-200k a year for the owner, but that can't really be sold because the owner is crucial to the business - that's what I'm guessing he has. The info given is only one side of the story, but if the business is worth a 4 hour a day commute for him for years, and is worth his current emotional state and strain on his marriage, it better be making him a good profit.

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

Let me guess: its the guys fault 🙄

[@cxkelley]

Yep, and he is being charged with doing all the work to change everything, including his selfish wife’s mindset.

[@DelaV3]

I work 52-64 hours a week. I moved closer to my wife's job because I'd rather it be me commuting. But my wife appreciates and understands this and considers it when making other choices daily. Marry a partner and you won't flinch to make sacrifices and will never have to ask to be appreciated.

[@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303]

Guaranteed you guys will end up divorced at some point.

[@superblump87]

@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 who hurt you?

[@thelimey351]

Sounds like she’s all appreciative whilst YOU are making all the sacrifices - don’t delude yourself.😐

[@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303]

@@superblump87 You did, Nate. You did.

[@evelandjd5111]

Yippee kai yeah.

[@kojack635]

Not worth getting married anymore. Better chance of winning the lottery than finding "the one".

[@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303]

Better chance in investing in high dividend stocks and you are almost guaranteed to cover bills.

[@auroramothergoddess]

But worth having kids either ..get those vasectomys young fellas

[@brianparrish4649]

I heard them say to this dude "put your feelings aside, you are her meal ticket and she needs to continue to believe this until you learn how to cope with what's wrong with you in a couples therapy session"

[@truman3004]

I am a female and if You are the bread winner, She needs to move closer to your job...

[@tommiller12345]

Thank you for saying that. I do think the hosts should have probed his job and hers to see who is the primary earner.

[@truman3004]

@@saulgoodman2018 Who is dismissing her job?? If He or She is the Bread winner, their job comes first...

[@truman3004]

@@saulgoodman2018 If his earnings support her and Their children, then his job takes presidence. Her family if with her Husband 1st. Not fair to him to not have quality time with his children also. No wonder he does not want to do anything on the weekend. He is Exhausted!!!

[@orangutan-halibut-walrus]

@@saulgoodman2018 i mean...this is dave ramsey's channel. dave usually gives financial advice. you're kind of being emotional about this. if one partner makes six figures and the other partner makes 20k a year, it makes financial sense to weigh the needs of the primary breadwinner first. and again, no one is saying you should dismiss the woman's needs. however, there is a sense based on the caller that the woman is not even opening the door to a compromise, we're not even talking about having her give up everything and move. also, again, according to the caller there was an agreement beforehand about moving potentially- so the wife is kind of reneging on their agreement which doesn't look great as a matter of credibility for the wife.

[@truman3004]

@@saulgoodman2018 Then you Obviously don't live in the Real world!

[@mmoye8640]

You must be on the same page when married. It's about compromise. Sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone.

[@fnordiumendures138]

The wife doesn't have to compromise or step anywhere, and she knows it.

[@auroramothergoddess]

Rather stay single

[@cardinal8268]

Once the deep resentment sets in you're in the danger zone.

[@edwardj.warden5072]

He gotta be a real man. A leader

[@Kanfachan]

Please, don’t be too specific your answer. Totally not cliched and generic at all

[@edwardj.warden5072]

Thanks

[@thejuliasaro]

Wow- I would never want my husband to commute like that. I could never watch him do that everyday.

[@PeteMD]

This is HORRIBLE advice. He has a bad wife, a selfish woman, and unsupportive partner. He needs to leave her ASAP.

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

0:39 did he say he has commuted e 800 thousand miles ?

[@KManHU]

He commutes between 800 to 1000 miles per week

[@nicholeknight1893]

Lol 😆I was thinking the same thing

[@catdancerskaleidoscopeofbo8496]

Yes, he said that! But I think he meant 800-1000 miles. 😂

[@jjtmmjjmm2113]

The guy literally sounds exhausted on the phone what a commute

[@cannednolan8194]

Stay out there for a couple days. Phone I’m tired of driving I’m staying here cause I have to get and up and do this. Make sure you do it when she has plans for you.

[@cannednolan8194]

@Heinrich Himmler should stick to work but if the marriage doesn’t work then he may play.

[@vaska1999]

​@@cannednolan8194 If his marriage doesn't work, he should get a divorce and then do whatever he likes.

[@trippin9298]

I think more questions should have been asked. How much does she make? What's their household income? Did they agree to move if things went as planned and now she doesn't want to? How old are the kids? Does she want to wait until they're grown before moving? What does she do? How likely is it for her to find a job if they move? Does she need or want to work? Answers to these questions would've allowed a clearer picture to be painted.

[@markg999]

Yes he said the plan was to move if successful now she doesnt want to honor that.

[@trippin9298]

@@markg999 well that's a problem. However, more questions should've been asked before advising.

[@martinguy7609]

"Your marriage is in trouble trouble just give in and let her dictate your life".

[@tortoisehead30]

This is the definition of marriage. Guys, pay attention to what you are in for.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@Usboys71]

@@sethdavid2117going through that at this moment. 27 years of marriage ready to let go

[@sethdavid2117]

@@Usboys71 damn! Good luck man. I’ve been for 10yrs and trying to get her to take more care of the home. Just lazy AF. Most women are just so lazy these days. I work too hard. I want a real woman who can take care of me.

[@Usboys71]

@@sethdavid2117 mines use to until she started being influenced by her miserable friends. A hard working man gets little to no respect these days

[@Usboys71]

Thanks

[@1jw298]

When did a finance show turn into an Oprah and dr Phil show?

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

More money. Money is everything.

[@notanotherone5564]

When the data shows that we click on this content more often.

[@cp0cp927]

First of all Compare who makes the most money and who's job has the best future for your family. Once you figure that out make the necessary moves to be closer to that. Second of all. In a relationship especially a marriage neither side has the right to flat out say no without a discussion. Compromises must be made. You can only say yes or meet the other person half way.

[@ashley9603]

I told my fiance I was at my breaking point with my drive across state lines to go to work. The traffic was awful and I needed to move closer. He sold his house and we bought one together 🥰 and I'm not even the money maker in the relationship (he works in Philly so PA or NJ worked for him, maybe a slightly longer commute moving to NJ)

[@cutehumor]

you bought a house with your roommate. You should have gotten married first.

[@dedalliance1]

@@cutehumor Okay 1834.

[@orangutan-halibut-walrus]

@@dedalliance1 cutehumor is just repeating what dave says all the time. dave and his followers are largely christian so it's not unusual to see on this channel.

[@ashley9603]

They would have had a real breakdown if I told them he was only my boyfriend when we bought it 😱

[@dedalliance1]

@@ashley9603 Yeah people are special these days. Obviously getting married is legally a good protection if you were to ever separate you can actually have say in what happens with the house. But being married doesn't guarantee you're going to stay together or make good decisions and not being married doesn't guarantee the opposite. If you're committed to your partner and to making it work that's all that really matters.

[@djee02]

My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.

[@wizbreezy6551]

Wow, same thing happened to me and my wife 🤣🤣🤣

[@rachelgooden9981]

There was no advice here! I feel for this guy.

[@wolftribe66]

This is the default state of society isn't it? Men are expected to grind and sacrifice to provide for .

[@b__w_4565]

@Johnny Five with all of his money however the gel that works! Lol

[@orangutan-halibut-walrus]

@Johnny Five yes so it would be in the best interest of the man to bear this out and deal with his commute or find a mechanical solution for his commute such as finding a proxy/working remotely/etc. such a thing is difficult to manage i know, but divorce would not be on the table if i were the man, the costs of divorce run extremely high for a man. this is why marriage is a decision that must be made with significant time and be given significant weight when you're the man. the person you marry can make or break your future.

[@jbone79]

If she made the agreement to move and now she is going back on that agreement, that's the point he is making and they did not address. This is why I got a divorce, wife made agreements she did not honor, that's irresponsible and it is also a break of commitment. It's a form of infidelity if you ask me.

[@kevinbatz9048]

“Women don’t care about men’s struggles; they stand at the finish line and pick the winners” ~Richard Cooper, Entrepreneurs in Cars. Probably not an original quote from him but check out the channel. This caller’s “hey honey can we think about moving?” is going to kill his relationship. Tell your wife “hey honey, I’ve found a place closer to work. We’re moving. Start packing up.”

[@christopherharris3229]

This. ☝️💯

[@rory644]

Well why would they pick the losers such a dumb thing to say.... Not only men who struggle

[@Denniss7420]

@@rory644 Not true. The problem comes when they All believe that they deserve the guy who is a Perfect 10. Look in the mirror and quit Lying to yourself.

[@rogergelwicks4684]

Expertly handled call. Beautiful.

[@hurt1704]

Thanks for the relationship advice. Coming from a broken home myself, I try to take in all I can from the information you all put out.

[@BassickSounds1]

this is horrible advice ...

[@hurt1704]

BassickSounds1 what was horrible about it? They told him to sit her down and talk to her. Explained what she may be feeling etc. i don’t see the problem

[@jaybrook07]

Call back when Dave's on to get some real advice

[@jbone79]

Exactly!!!

[@jeanlenor1858]

Women want a lot of money but still want you to come home early.

[@auroramothergoddess]

Men want a hot wife AND to be their mommy and care take after them AND to raise the kids and deal with everything involving them AND they need to work because losers are too broke they can’t provide nor protect AND want to control women as if they are a pet AND have the AUDACITY to be disrespectful and unappreciative. Women are better off single than to get with losers. And what happens when they leave this losers they are so weak they can’t handle it and they k1ll her every single week theirs a news story on women and children who have gone missing, rpd, murdered at the hands of a MAN

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

@@auroramothergoddess You must have smacked that wall pretty hard.

[@phish_1]

My husband’s work colleague is like this! His wife is sick so he abandoned her to find someone else! His children would hate him forever in leaving their mother for a mistress!!!!

[@Allergic2broke]

Maybe she likes him being gone that long....

[@ronharmsen8466]

I think a lot of us men have sacrificed long commutes for the betterment of the family. We only heard one side, but it sounds like he has gone above and beyond. The advice given from the young guys with less life experience was off on this call. Sorry fellas. But the wife needs to cut the cord and work as a team with her husband as he's been building his family business.

[@VoixduQuotidien]

As a women, this is not fair for the husband, poor guy👍

[@VoixduQuotidien]

@@saulgoodman2018 I do not understand your point? This man should not have to commute that far for work.

[@orangutan-halibut-walrus]

fairness is the correct question here. compromise is part of the solution, but compromise requires the sacrifice of BOTH not just one. that is the point @saul goodman is missing.

[@xyzsame4081]

he says he built a biz - not that it is successful or reliable. He also does not specifiy HER career, income or prospects, she is obviously still doing some kind of education. Is it the type of job she could easily get elsewhere ? Who provides more income and how secure is his project ?

[@penttimuhli9442]

@@saulgoodman2018 No she doesn't have to. She can find a new job when they move

[@VoixduQuotidien]

@@saulgoodman2018 they should compromise, this is what mariage is about

[@fbhaze7446]

She has a local boyfriend that she see's while the husband is spending hours a week commuting. That's why she doesn't want to move.

[@masonlee89]

Sounds like a lot of women these days. Zero awareness to what the husband is sacrificing for the family every single day.

[@pieceoflintifoundonthefloo554]

I just want to say that even though I agree with a lot of people in the comment section, I will say that my wife is a beautiful woman from South America and she is very good at keeping things fair. She does chores without being told, she works hard, and I work hard also, I do chores without being asked also. I never thought a girl like her would exist but I found her overseas and she is an angel. I am not saying that all western woman are bad, but I am saying that maybe a lot have been diluted by feminism, and all these other ‘progressive’ movements over the years in our country. I think finding a good woman can greatly enhance your quality of life. If you cannot find her here, I would strongly recommend looking overseas, especially at non-first world countries where society hasn’t really been ‘westernized’ yet. A good wife is actually a helper, and a best friend. It does make me happier man than when I was single. But just absolutely make sure she is a good one or you WILL regret it.

[@rdb0819]

You are spot on 🙏🏾

[@markg999]

My wife is pretty amazing and hard working and she is not from the US as well but the Philippines. I agree while there are good women in the US they are extremely tough to find and most aren't I would say "marriage " material.

[@Alan1234x]

Excellent advice! Better than any psychology host could have given.

[@ryugurena3327]

Hey man, chin up! I'm sure your wife's boyfriend appreciates you!

[@Sappmattnyc]

100%

[@leonardodakimchi]

Oh dayummmm

[@inthebooks3947]

Yeah she’s getting piped

[@myagentmarco]

I can't really say much without having all the details, but if the husband is going out making money and driving two hours for a commute, why isn't the wife helping? Sounds like she is focused more on her world and extracurriculars. On the flip, he has to initiate the conversation and figure out how to make it work. Marriages don't work without compromise. Maybe he can't work that job he has or maybe she can't take on so many extracurriculars. Either way, it's up to them to make the home work and right now it sounds like it needs help.

[@xyzsame4081]

She works and it could be a good career. with a more steady income than he has so far.

[@newlife45692]

I'm completely on board that a man should value there wives opinion BUT at the end of the day your the man your the leader and need stick with what's going to be best for the family. If a man doesn't have good qualities to lead then he shouldn't get married or be with a woman who is non submissive.

[@auroramothergoddess]

Why would a woman be a submissive to a man whose an idiot

[@newlife45692]

@@auroramothergoddess exactly why would she?. I guess you couldn't understand or read when I said if a man doesn't have good leadership skills and qualities that he shouldn't get married and if he does then he should be with s submissive woman.

[@BenjesBride]

Yep "Where you go I'll go. Where you stay I'll stay."

[@frankiesmom8478]

I think the main reason why I have a happy marriage is because both of us put the other person first. Both of us our very in tune and considerate of each other

[@jengable4888]

I would agree ! They need to see an unbiased third party ( Counselor) who can listen to both sides objectively and perhaps talk with them regarding possible solutions. Perhaps one option may be that they move 30 minutes closer to his work, either she or someone else drives the kids to the same school ( if that is possible -depending on the school) , maybe he can telecommute a few times a week to alleviate the stress of travelling, they could also hire a caregiver/nanny to assist with errands/driving children, there are many options...they just have to work through it.

[@rothbj1]

No Dave. This is like tuning into the Dukes of Hazzard and getting a Coy and Vance episode

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

c'MON, THE WIFE HAS SOMEONE ON THE SIDE IN THAT LOCATION.

[@SantaBarbaraAlberto]

The only person that has to appreciate your sacrifices is you. Works best when wife and children do but it does not always works that way. Thankfulness or Gratefulness are not always existence and should not be expected. My lesson learned is that do not underestimate the ability of someone else selfishness behavior.

[@Dre2011]

I’d put the family first but the wife would have to understand this may mean a change in life style may come with the career move. Also, who lets their spouse drive 4hrs a day for work?? There are some other underneath issues

[@andrew8168]

Sounds like her boyfriend lives near by and doesn't want to leave him.

[@Luffa187]

The way the wife is acting is a major red flag. I would end this marriage so fast. After getting married some women see it as a green light to start disrespecting, criticizing and nagging their man constantly because they know they can get away with it because the man is trapped in a marriage with kids. If your girlfriends is changing behavior for the worse after getting married you need to get out. It's better for the kids to have divorced parents than suffering parents.

[@engalvan]

You are definitely not a marriage counselor. You’re probably single as well. Not your choice either.

[@Luffa187]

@@engalvan That's an appeal to authority fallacy. Just because I'm not a marriage counselor doesn't mean that I'm wrong. It's really weird that you are trying to speculate about my life when you don't know anything about me. I'm not saying that marriage counseling is useless either, but in a lot of cases it's just bright as day that the people involved should not be married. Counseling is great for minor issues, but this woman has no respect for her husband (assuming the details he provided is true). I hear so many stories about people having regrets in regards to not divorcing sooner. If I was this man I would end this really quickly and find someone else who show me the respect I deserve.

[@engalvan]

Keep trying to convince yourself you deserve anything more than you have. Most people who have nothing blame others and try to convince themselves they are not at fault. Good luck buddy.

[@Luffa187]

@@engalvan It's called standards. Maybe you should get some. I strive for excellence in all areas of my life, including relationships.

[@AA-dy5fx]

Marriage matters the most in any person life .As a astrologer I predicts charts for many clients I know it's hard to cope up with marriage problems sometimes but Communication is the best solution .You both Partner have respect , trust and love for each other then no problem is big enough .Hope this Couple will have good life ahead with their kids nd family. My Good wishes with both of them❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏

[@runningdebate2670]

Always the man's fault.....

[@jeffdorris5321]

Nice work 🎆🌠✨

[@joeplem5329]

Nothing more than a ATM to her..

[@brandonwinter1456]

Sounds like the wife’s umbilical cord wasn’t separated at birth. Poor guy

[@TheCamigurl]

I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily that. Having family around you is incredibly importantly, and well as extremely helpful when you have kids. It’s hard enough as it is and not having any additional help makes it even harder.

[@auroramothergoddess]

Pretty simple he either stays and puts up with it for the rest of his life or moves on to better woman ... stop making things complicated

[@RuthAnnNordin]

Wow. Never in a million years would I do what this wife is doing. If he's the main provider, she needs to pick up and move. She can always visit her family.

[@sethdavid2117]

Women want a TRADITIONAL husband, but reject being a TRADITIONAL wife. 🤨 THAT’S THE PROBLEM!!

[@Loruca]

One question that wasn't addressed: when he decided to move his business so far away, did they discuss the ramifications and what ifs, and did they come to some sort of agreement? I would like to know her side of the story. Getting only his side makes her sound like a selfish brat, but he is suggesting a huge upheaval for her. He does have my sympathy, though. that kind of commute would kill me.

[@SoTrue144]

Red Pill...

[@mr.e5791]

Leave her. Come get this red pill, I got you.

[@VidaRebornLonewolf]

Amen, brother!

[@superblump87]

Who hurt you?

[@mr.e5791]

@@superblump87 your momma

[@superblump87]

@@mr.e5791 lol ok morpheus

[@joelbellJB]

These two literally gave the worst advice, they didn’t help him at all. The one guy told him to basically “man up stop complaining!” And the other guy told him to pick which one he wants, marriage or your business you started. This will further compound his problems, he will have even more resentment towards his wife after this. He ONCE AGAIN has to sacrifice his wants and needs for her, and she still doesn’t acknowledge his sacrifices. It’s literally only a 2 hour drive and she can’t meet halfway!?? What’s so important about the house? Can the kids not go to another school or something? She has to see her family everyday at a moment’s notice? All these things can still happen if they moved 45 minutes or an hour closer to his business. This marriage WILL fail and they should’ve told him to start preparing for that. I thought this show was about “being real” and “learning the hard truth about life and finances” The reality is that 50% of marriages fail and my opinion is the other 50% that remain married are miserable.

[@glodaily]

They could have gave better advice. The wife sounds like she doesn’t care about his well being and their marriage.

[@cherkkiable]

We don't know the whe story...

[@Grimmes12]

This poor guy needs to develop Alpha Male mentality because right now his wife running the show and she despises his Beta Male tendencies. I was him I will keep his job because getting a lesser paying job is only going to make things worse all around.