Myka Stauffer Adoption Dissolution Analysis

[@zazac9447]

I can't believe that she actually went and look for a child with special needs and was surprised that they have special needs. On top of that, she had the nerve to act like she's the victim, not the child. smh

[@tranzco1173]

He WANTED to go back to China because he's a little Communist. He was badmouthing the USA, and was eating all the Danimals, with no respect for private property. 80 percent of the biological kids diet is Danimals based. Also, Huxley wasn't generating social media clicks, attracting corporate sponsors, nothing. Total dud. Their baby broker sourced a new baby from Moldova, arrives in 6 weeks. They are taking him on their next bi-monthly trip to Bali, should look great, very inspirational.

[@kdawg5427]

@@tranzco1173 looool dark!

[@dr.dermixgirlmd7479]

Hella dark...

[@evelynwaugh4053]

It wasn't a fun variety of special needs?

[@DeboraLingaSuriname]

@@tranzco1173 LMAO

[@brittzkrieg]

This was the calmest yet biggest burn I've ever seen. Masterful.

[@lorihoffman4281]

Yes, brilliant!

[@sabrinakrisb4672]

Very impressive use of rational thinking! Love it

[@JuuC]

Indeed!!! I really enjoyed watching this video

[@freyamariano106]

Spot on....

[@MystiDawn]

Dr. Grande is the master of calm and rational epic burns.

[@Reneeri]

it's not just SHE but THEY both are to blame it's not the MYKA situation it's the MYKA & JAMES situation.

[@LoXena]

@80% no, he's a grown adult, he knows perfectly what's wrong or good, he is perfectly responsible for his own decisions Nobody forced him.

[@Anonymous_P]

@80% are you a grown adult that will obey to anything that a woman tells you? well if so then that's both sad and problematic, get some therapy cause that's not normal and most people shouldn't just blindly obey anybody. If you are a grown woman and think that's how men are supposed to be then...get over yourself, you're not the center of the universe and nobody shoud obey you simply cause you are a woman, that's plain stupid and-ironically considering the video-kinda narcissistic.

[@LoXena]

@80% no an adult who is responsible for his actions

[@internaught1227]

Sure he shares some of the responsibility but its obvious she was the brains (or lack thereof) behind this endeavor.

[@death2poptarts]

@Casablanca Durant that's a real bummer, I just found him and thought this video was great, but obv noticed the blame pushed solely to myka

[@yhoshuagutierrez8390]

He dragged her to filth so eloquently and scientifically

[@MystiDawn]

He's so good at doing that.

[@claudialu]

She dragged herself alone. Heartless woman.

[@pamelaboswell9715]

@@claudialu The thing of it is, I believe she thinks she's a good person. They are deluded people.

[@yannybravo]

Das why im here

[@mleecthulhu]

Ikr.. beautifully done.

[@susanbaumann2199]

Myka deliberately sought out a “special needs” child, then proceeded to select the “type” she wanted, as if she was choosing sandwich ingredients or options on a car. Paraphrasing here, but apparently she wanted a child who wasn’t too difficult, but appeared difficult to others. She could then push her narrative of the virtuous, self-sacrificing mother without putting in too much effort. When things got tough, she bailed. Huxley was used as a prop to be monetized and exploited in her pursuit of “fame”, celebrity, attention and narcissistic supply. While his abandonment was horrible and traumatic, I also can’t see how being raised by someone so self-focused would be of benefit to him. My hope is that he finds new loving parents with the emotional bandwidth and empathy to welcome him permanently into their home and their lives. As a physically disabled adult, I find incidents like this particularly disturbing, and I hope that Huxley finds the happiness that he so deserves.

[@susanbaumann2199]

Rach I agree. I worry about how confused Huxley will be about all that is happening to him. He’s had so much to adjust to already, and now more circumstances to figure out. Hoping he doesn’t blame himself, but kids often do. You’re absolutely right that everyone on the disability spectrum is a challenge for parents and yes, ourselves, too, I’m just blown away by Myka’s audacity.

[@starseed6231]

Spot on 🖕

[@u731alikelly5]

I can’t agree more with your comment here @susan baumann - it’s genuinely tragic!

[@zenscout]

The 1st 'Tell' for me was when she picked a child by the photo, leads a malignant narcissistic path. When the reflection finally cracks...the NPD goes into survival mode. Mistakes will be made but covered with the NPD 'charm'. She's overwhelmed at this point...new baby, tarnished image and financially embarrassed from new house etc. Children Services should do wellness checks on the 'bio' children, Now.

[@susanbaumann2199]

ali kelly it’s just so sad. Imagine being four years old and having to process all of this...

[@Sara-jy2bt]

I was adopted, and trust me when I say, even if it happens when we are very young, we understand that we are being abandoned. We understand rejection. The damage that it can cause varies from individual to individual, but to know that this poor boy went through it TWICE now it absolutely heartbreaking. My heart goes out to that little boy.

[@arubagirl1976]

Thank you for sharing.

[@kitandrews8638]

I was adopted at 2 and was just diagnosed with adult R.A.D. (reactive attatchment disorder) caused by my adoption. I also have major depressive disorder, ocd, and adhd 😅

[@giomental]

You may have been rejected, but you were also chosen.

[@yourinnerlawyer4035]

Of course, he has been abandoned and devastated at least twice before age 5. Unbelievable how selfish people can be and get away with profiting off of children like this.

[@artyomarty391]

kids go through many terrible things in their lives, and just one of these is adoption. Stop playing the victim sara. Just because something is bad for the kid, doesnt mean everyone has to sacrifice their lives not to hurt the child

[@ruledbyvenus1859]

She returned the child, now she needs to return the money she made off of him.

[@dananguyen2388]

and demonetize those videos of him in it too

[@robyndawn]

Lose their platform and pay tje money made off of videos involving him to a trust for when hes an adult.

[@TahtahmesDiary]

This part. Especially as his videos were her most popular.

[@saffronhammer7714]

all of it. And put it in a trust fund for Huxley and for a team of lawyers to protect his best interests.

[@erikaportillo2265]

Exactly 👍

[@fatmael-nahry5742]

I feel like we need legislation that governs how minor children can be featured on social media. They are not old enough to understand the long-term implications and not old enough to consent.

[@jadeauburn9220]

I absolutely agree! it is sadly a minority of parents that keep their children's privacy in mind on social media. So many people, even those I thought would be smart about this, are sharing hundreds and thousands of pics and videos of their kids. I don't think they truly understand what they are doing. Legislation would perhaps help people understand that privacy belongs to everyone.

[@elinaq750]

Yes and in the entertainment industry there are such strict rules (trust fund for college, strict monitoring hours of “work” also with school and such!)

[@nochatter7134]

Exactly!! . Actress Eva Mendes doesn’t show her kids on social media. She said her kids never gave her a consent. I though that was the smartest thing by celebrity.

[@xdronxdronx]

Fatma El-Nahry agreed. I think the moment social media that they are featured on gets monetized in some way with the kids involved, there should be some kind of monitoring in place. Making KZbin videos for profit is not all that different from the entertainment industry in my eyes.

[@lorrainecoggins7391]

Yeah I'm still upset she uses her other kids for monetary gain

[@GoodPeopleGroup]

Absolutely against using any of your kids in social media, but especially adopted or special needs. Thanks for a great discussion on this disturbing case.

[@notbornagainbornright5046]

Yes and the narasistic aspect was so interesting

[@khloeknievel3874]

KZbin needs to demonetize any content featuring children under a certain age. Parents should be free to post videos with their kids as a hobby, but they shouldn't be dependent on them for an income. A lot of these parent vloggers seem like people who want to be famous but they don't really have the talent to achieve that on their own. So they use their children because cute kids are an easy way to gain a following. There definitely needs to be more regulation and oversight for children on this platform.

[@Boredchinchilla]

Khloe Knievel I totally agree with this. Parents can have a channel for themselves, then a family channel that is demonetized. There are too many parents doing messed up shit just for money, even the ones that seem to be pretty ok parents. April and Davey come to mind. They are not horrible parents, though a bit dumb at times, but now they are trying to up the ante by starting a “family band”. The time for that was when your kids were very little, when missing school and not being humiliated would not be an issue- you don’t force your kids to dress in silver lame’ when they are teenagers (not to mention the fact that they two oldest are going into high school and won’t have time for that shit). Then you’ve got families like 8 Passengers, who abuse their kids for views. That mother has major mental issues, and shouldn’t have any of her kids. They are living in isolation, no friends, and the mother goes out of her way to make life impossible, then brags about how she’s going to kick them out on their 18th bday. I doubt you will have to force them out, I’m sure they will flee as fast as they can at 18, if not earlier.

[@erinlikesacornishpasty4703]

Idk, I think they should just be in compliance with the law. I mean, there are already laws about how children should be protected in the entertainment industry and it's obvious that in many cases "family vlogging" is entertainment, so the children should have thier own bank accounts/trusts where the funds from that content go. That's all 🤷‍♀️.

[@Boredchinchilla]

Erin Christopherson the world of KZbin went so quickly from videos dorky teens made i their basements to million dollar venture that the legal entertainment world had not caught up

[@lidahall5928]

I agree. Children cannot, by definition, consent to having their childhood, even parts thereof, filmed for public dissemination from infancy until at least (perhaps) when they reach the age of 16-17, which is when adolescents are generally considered psychologically able to grant informed consent to medical procedures which are not required in an emergency setting and which will have long-lasting ramifications - at least by most jurisdictions. While I agree with a few other commenters that their rightful financial compensation should be considered a given, there are some things for which there does not exist enough money to ever repay someone who has not given their considered "okay" IMHO. Sheer human dignity is surely among them.

[@eggZ663]

Just look at the Daddy O Five fiasco. In fact I'd like to see the doc give his thoughts on that horrible lot

[@---ev6xm]

I'm glad you mentioned that people should stop including kids in their social media. People are using them for fame and it is disgusting

[@arthurborghese4872]

Exactly! It's one thing to post a family picture on social media every once in a while, but to intrude on so many aspects of your kids' lives and post it all online before they're old enough to consent to that kind of thing is insane to me.

[@tiffanysirattana]

I’m thinking about not putting my son in videos or limiting his presence. He has a rare syndrome where there’s not a lot of information on it and at first I wanted to show parts of his journey and raise awareness etc if anyone out there is curious and wanted an insight of what it’s like especially with his feeding issues, speech and development. When I tried to look up videos of others with the syndrome there wasn’t much. I never intend to use my child for fame and money but i’m just confused and afraid of what could happen if I continued to show parts of his journey online

[@---ev6xm]

@@tiffanysirattana That is a good point, your intentions are pure. I respect you.

[@daniella8400]

Agreed! Who is say the child want their life online forever! I’m an adult an I personally wouldn’t want that for myself! It’s selfish and greed on the parents behalf!

[@MarysMaamCave]

I was adopted at 10 days old in 1968 because my parents had tried for four years to have a baby and thought they could not. A year and a half later they had their first biological son, and their second son was born the next year. My mom did everything she could to make sure my brothers were turned against me, and it was clear I was in the way. She only wanted to read bedtime stories to them, only wanted to give affection to them and I do remember always trying to worm my way in and her getting pissy about it. From my first memories I knew I was an outsider in that family. From your videos and others like yours, I now know I was the family scapegoat. I was never told out right that they didn’t want me but when I was in fifth grade my mom didn’t know I was home and I heard her tell my dad that I ruined their family. I was not a bad kid and got straight A’s and spent most of my days playing in my room or reading. To know in fifth grade your parents think you ruin their entire lives is devastating. They never dissolved my adoption but I really think if there were no social consequences, they would’ve returned me once they had their own kids. My mother is appearance conscious and I was a very ugly baby and child, so maybe that’s why they didn’t like me. Or maybe because I was a girl. Or maybe because I wasn’t their biological kid. Or maybe because I was just born unloveable and wrong. To be rejected by two sets of parents, yet still being raised by one of the set of parents that don’t want you, I just can’t make people understand how that feels. hope that Poor child doesn’t ever realize really what has happened to him, but there’s no way that wont negatively affect him even with severe autism.

[@lonleykaterina8299]

Stop...your awesome! Love yourself!!!

[@cynthiathomas5605]

You can not choose your parents, or the other authority figures that come into you life as a child, but you can choose, as an adult, how you react to the negative influences in your childhood. You express your hurt very clearly, but you also express compassion for others. You are a growing, healing part of the human family. We all have something we have to heal, let us hope this little boy does as well as you.

[@BunnyEars357]

I’m so sorry about that. You are not unlovable, and your mother was so wrong for treating you like that. I hope you know that. I also hope and pray that things are better! God bless you! 💜💜💜

[@chenazi2]

I’m so very sorry you had to have that experience!!

[@wallflower8212]

Every child should be loved and I am so sorry you did not experience that. Your adoptive parents are monsters. I hope and pray you have created your own family of people who see your great value and show you big love.

[@mushiroom7711]

She WAS a registered nurse. She couldn't renew her license after assaulting a pregnant co-worker and making multiple medical errors, resulting in lawsuits.

[@Di_777]

WHAT?!?!?

[@miranduri]

WHAT?!!!

[@paengkeov1486]

Yeah, it’s on record!

[@3d-tischler100]

Thats true!!!

[@Thatsright-tr2ks]

Alma Miranda watch “without a crystal ball” her name is katie. She does a good job getting info on this couple

[@Megumi646]

Look, I kinda understand that there might have been conditions that were not mentioned. However, one of her videos she said she was fine with 99% of disorders because she was an RN. This lady is bananas.

[@cattievogelsong96]

She has a savior complex. I can’t stand her.

[@-MaryPoppins-]

She’s the ripest narcissistic banana, on the sweetest little narcissist tree 🤣🥴

[@tranzco1173]

One of the main problems is they wanted to use their social media income to go on a long vacation to Bali. Huxley, with his autism and brain tumor, wouldn't look very cool on the white sandy beaches. She WAS an RN, her license was revoked for beating up a pregnant patient. I couldn't make this up if I tried.

[@kathybee3151]

@TRANZCO , OMG! Beating up a pregnant patient? I hate to think what she could have done/did to Huxley if he was a problem

[@helleena19]

@@tranzco1173 a coworker not a patient, but still just as crazy

[@emilywilford1764]

Please edit title to: Myka AND James They were both his parents, they both abandoned him.

[@frida507]

Exactly! People talk like she's a single mom. She clearly is a horrible person but he can't be excused either.

[@britt8110]

Myka is the one who made this public by parading the kid all over the internet.

[@chriscarrot4389]

then avoiding explaining what happened with dissolving the adoption.. in guise of 'protecting her son's privacy.. wow. I think she believes her own delusion..

[@emilywilford1764]

@@britt8110 this is true, but if I was parading my daughter all over the internet my husband would step in and say something to me. Both parents are responsible for ensuring the child's safety. Especially if James knew what Mykas intentions were in adopting and filming him. I understand she was the one actively doing all this, but he passively played an equal part in the problem.

[@lobasuareznaveros232]

She is the narcissistic psychopath,he is suplement víctim! Lern victimology...

[@roverdover4449]

This is like a "Black Mirror" episode. Adopting, then returning, a child, because the numbers don't play out. Sometime truth is stranger than fiction (or worse in this case).

[@julieboolie4070]

Good idea for a story. So sad that it is true. Hope Huxley is ok. 😔

[@AzeKano]

2020 has been a black mirror season.

[@charnaeyoung9815]

What numbers though? She was making a profit! The least she could do was make sure he lived a secure and loving life. She ‘ain’t got no job!’ Plenty of parents have autistic children/children with a mental disability and deal with it and wish they had the money. She had is easy. All she had to do was BE THERE, PAY FOR A SITTER AT TIMES FROM THE MONEY SHE EARNED OFF OF HIM, and LOVE HIM. She is a narcissist but acts like a victim.

[@mj-yo7vt]

Absolutely

[@seaglass7375]

Life imitates art

[@elizabethfitchett]

My (adopted) sister lived with her first adoptive family for 2 years. They “rehomed” her. I am grateful she is with my family now and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. She has been through a lot but has said that she is so happy to be in the family that she is in. I’m hopeful that will be Huxley’s story as well.

[@wadisanaa]

yeah ….sometimes unfortunate things turn out for the better .

[@JoceEva]

This is nice and encouraging to hear.

[@diaryofanotdgirl89]

Best message I’ve seen on this subject 💕

[@nevaehb.4371]

May god bless your sister and your amazing family. I am so glad she is happy now.

[@donnackk5860]

Her biological children must be afraid that they’ll be “rehomed” if they don’t behave themselves what a way for them to live in fear.This entire situation is horrifying. It seems criminal to use this poor child for Popularity and financial gain then discard him because he is too challenged and he has used up his value.It’s more than disgusting!

[@cheriefrench6956]

My sibling adopted 2 boys who were half siblings in addition to her birth son. Difficult child had brain damage from prior abuse. Finally in early teens she returned the one to the court. The remaining boys had endured life with abuse from this 3rd child, and it was hard. Suddenly he was gone. Now the boys are finished high school. Both struggle with depression, and have no life goals. They are well behaved....but going nowhere fast. The discarded kid stayed in foster care until age 19, now he is off somewhere on his own. Poor choice to adopt in the first place, high risk kids she figured she could fix cuz she was a teacher. Once in, unwilling to adapt to child's social needs....and then discard. Damaged everyone involved. Better that boy was adopted by a less affluent family that would have kept him and made him feel part of a family.

[@thing1633]

I'm sorry but I think a Asian child just didn't fit in her American dream anymore. Shame on you both.

[@AshLoRo]

It should be Criminal.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

Maybe the younger ones who don't understand the situation would. I once babysat a child whose half-sister was re-homed (their mother signed away custody to her bio father). The kid was acting like a brat as always and I was tempted to tell him he'd be sent away too if he wasn't good. ...But restrained myself bc that would've been such a terrible thing to say. Not sure if he remembers his half sister either.

[@alexanderh9878]

Oh no, the other children know they won't be rehomed. . They understand that that new toy, I mean adopted child, was a prop in the show.

[@synnocide]

“The question wasn’t did she fail as a mathematician - I already knew the answer to that question.” - Dr. SAVAGE 😂

[@kellyleigh6393]

I feel like that whole section of the video talking about her incorrect wording along with the statement you mentioned is the best burn I've ever heard and said to elegantly 👏

[@laureljade3476]

she's the accountant for bernie madoff.

[@just.jaimie.]

Kelly Leigh hilarious 😂 🤣

[@marsukarhu9477]

Hah! I was laughing out loud! These very dry gems are always well hidden in the message, so you better not close your ears for a second or you'll miss the bit :D

[@tiffaroni239]

That comment had me rolling 😂😂

[@ggreen5943]

People shouldn't be putting their children on youtube, period.

[@gwakon]

my sentiments EXACTLY.

[@paolamh876]

Totally agreed

[@s0lastsummer7]

Amen. Children cannot give informed consent to being put in videos that will exist FOREVER online. Can you imagine being in high school in about 5-10 years and all the crap they're going to find about each other online....I wouldn't have survived high school if the internet was as complex as it is now. Literally, I would've killed myself to escape that kind of bully heaven. Being a teen sucks! Why are parents making it even harder for them? 😟 I hope huxley is with people who will be smart enough to change his name -- as unfortunate as it is that he has already had this done to him once already. He needs that clean slate.

[@bonniebeams504]

Your decision. Don't watch them then. Just because you wouldn't do it doesn't mean its wrong. So tired of the mentality of it's my way or its wrong. If you don't like something don't watch it. Period.

[@Jsmny44]

I agree with you,yesss

[@jwsuicides8095]

The moment someone defines themselves as a 'social influencer' I run away.

[@Bold11x]

@Siobhan Fogarty Yes its like someone coming out and proudly stating "I'm a sociopath". Social Media has made mental illness a fad.

[@PepeDeezNutz]

I met someone that told me that and I had to walk away

[@tarantellalarouge7632]

when I was younger I was told that I should avoid being influenced by others ! apparently this world has changed

[@lindalund9621]

Yes

[@chrisdooley6468]

So on point. I also find it very odd that within two days of giving up the child they were in Bali on vacation posting bikini pics and enjoying themselves. I guess that speaks to the narcissism viewpoint as well. I think she definitely has some issues and isn’t being forthright

[@samantha5600]

Yes it does! They don't care if anything they are super relieved. Can only imagine their private conversations. Actions always speak louder than words.

[@TahtahmesDiary]

The resources part is especially upsetting. They have the means to the best of care and Drs, could hire 24/7 nannys, could have been the best parents anyone ever saw. They chose not to.

[@LPetal86]

I can't see the adoption dissolution as anything more than they decided Huxley was inconvenient and didn't want him anymore. I hope Huxley is living with people who can love him for who he is right now.

[@cattievogelsong96]

Lotus Petal Inconvenience. I can not believe these people where able to adopt. I hope get gets all the help and care he needs.

[@tayjay1164]

Also Myka is a RN and said she was completely confident to take care of Huxley.

[@candyluna2929]

@@tayjay1164 which is completely bullshit. If she has NEVER worked with ppl that have mental illness, she had no business adopting a child with special needs. Being a nurse doesn't matter.

[@BicheBug1996]

Exactly all that money they made they could have hired help to deal with him

[@kathleenyoung8916]

I can’t even imagine what was going on behind closed doors.

[@AnimalsMatterMorally]

Giving up Huxley was actually probably the best thing for him, since those parents were not dedicated enough to care for him properly. Thinking of all the children stuck with narcissistic parents and the damage to their emotional growth.......Huxley has enough to deal with. The sad thing is he may not ever be able to communicate how the rejection felt. Let's hope that being so young when it happened, he might not remember it much later on.

[@Elkycreates]

Live CrueltyFree Now he is better off without a doubt. Who wants to be brought up by narcissists?

[@lovestonedgold1504]

I say good riddance to that vile woman. I hope Hux is in a better home with all the love and patience his little heart desires.

[@floriannaramirez394]

Absolutely! Couldn't agree more.

[@Ridiculi]

He'll remember, but yes, he's better off.

[@katiemac4290]

Should have left him in china with the foster family that actually loved him and he was close to. She is disgusting.

[@daniellebennett1381]

She's posted videos of his 'meltdowns' as evidence and they're just a small child stimming and trying to be alone because of over stimulation. I've worked with so many children with more 'severe' 'tantrums' and their parents would never consider abandoning them.

[@cocoaocean]

Poor child😔🦋

[@HexagonNightmare]

Amen. I've dealt with worse thankfully infrequently. Never once thought of sending them away though I definitely thought I wasn't going to be strong enough to survive. My kids are mostly grown now n aside from an occasional tantrum with the oldest, the worst we have to help them through is tourettes (youngest). My children and my dogs (also special needs) are my life's biggest blessings. I hope this child finds a real family.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

I work at a coffeeshop and one customer came in with a child who was having a meltdown. I didn't know it was a meltdown though, until she told me he had autism and was upset his jacket was on wrong. I must admit, I'd assumed he was just a little kid being a brat and wondered why she wasn't disciplining him for making a scene in public before finding out he was special needs. Tantrums and meltdowns look a lot alike but I guess an autistic meltdown is supposed to be handled much differently.

[@cicibelarus1916]

None of his “tantrums” that she showed were actual tantrums. I wish I could have taken him 💔

[@samanthapurdy2053]

He wasn't even throwing tantrums he was just silently crying. I hate that woman.

[@seariakett4209]

Is this *"mother"* planning on giving up her *biological* children when they become too difficult and are no longer providing good *"optics"?* 🤬

[@saharaalberto4057]

Possibly she will send them to boarding school? That's what they did in the old days when children became inconvenient!

[@Em_Elizabeth]

How absurd, of course she isn't. She gave the boy away because he was Both disabled and biologically not her own. If one of her own were disabled, she may have invested more money into therapy. (Judging by how she favored her own.) If he were neurotypical, she would have committed to the adoption. It looks like both factors, being adopted and disabled were the motivating reasons.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

@@saharaalberto4057 I know people who still send their kids to boarding school. But it's bc their private school of choice is out of state. My brother and I nearly got shipped to one. ...Before our mom decided to drop everything and move closer to the school.

[@wasteddemise2286]

Yessir!!

[@lonewolflife6938]

Emma Loura she would do that to her own children but that could be their view of it as their age and the trauma could follow them as they grow up

[@audrey.c1]

Lol the way she said she found Huxley his "forever home" def sounds like adopting a pet. It's probably cause she got a new baby and decided that Huxley wasn't valuable anymore

[@angelareese390]

My thoughts EXACTLY

[@NiceBitch]

yes . its so sad

[@vanillapop6425]

When i fist hear the story i was thinking it was about a pet😦 this i so heart breaking, just imagine when this poor boy will see how his 1fts familly treat him

[@shaleamontanez4591]

I heard it was because he originally was diagnosed with a brain tumor that was supposedly going to kill him. But it didnt and now they're upset they had to make a long term investment instead of a short term death. Not sure if there's any facts to support this it was in a comment thread but interesting to think about

[@aprilshamel]

There's a video where she tried to give him a toy on his "gotcha day" and it reminds me so much of the way pet rescuers talk.

[@mistameanor1]

My dude is cranking out content. Go, Doc, go!

[@shhsydney]

He’s on fire

[@darrellcovello7917]

I'm lovin it

[@user-xf3cn4ds5y]

Does he have ad sense turned on??? I never get ads but he works so hard I want to support him

[@MolyBDenum-lh3wy]

@@user-xf3cn4ds5y definitely! He deserves it!

[@anonymousmedusa]

I don't think he sleeps. Thank goodness. LoL

[@mamajacquelinebts9776]

She actually asked on twitter "what disability is easy to cope with" because she planed on getting another child through the adoption process, and this was whilst she still had Huxley. More than likely to take them and get rid of Huxley but still have a child she could make money of of. She and her husband are so selfish and never deserved that sweet little soul! I hope he is in a happy healthy inviroment with people who will always put his needs first! You shouldn't have showed her selfish face, it makes me sick.

[@lonewolflife6938]

It’s rumored that they were really looking for a child that would soon die so they could capitalize on the loss. Yikes.

[@mamajacquelinebts9776]

@@lonewolflife6938 horrendous isn't it 😢

[@hannahw6561]

This is legal trafficking if you ask me.

[@alisonmercer5946]

@@hannahw6561 nailed it, exactly what it is.

[@sophiagonzales8974]

Stupid people if I was given away I’d fear for my life

[@karend169]

A 4 year old tells their parents, that he would be happy living with other people. Really???

[@cattievogelsong96]

karend169 It is kind of questionable. I don’t know what to make of that. She seems ego driven enough to lie to safe face. But maybe it is true and she is humbly trying to help him.

[@candyluna2929]

He is a genius. She never said that (sarc)

[@melmelhodgepodge3800]

And you're telling me a four and half year old child used sign language to say this 'emotionally' to her. It's BS and she's honestly an awful person due to what she has done and is STILL monetizing the videos including Huxley.

[@nancydrew1965]

Maybe he said I hate you Mommy. That's plausible. 🤷‍♀️

[@bubzi91]

Don’t forget ...A four year old with Autism that does not speak🤦🏽‍♀️... they are a piece of work.

[@marthasalter405]

1. don't let the dad off the hook, 2. I hope someone advocates for the child to get the YT revenue he generated for this family back to him, 3. I feel sorry not only for the adopted child but for the remainder of her children in the home.

[@ThissIssMyUsername]

Agreed. Seems like the “mom” is getting all the heat and the “dad” is going unnoticed. Both have failed at being parents.

[@DaRkHoRsE-_-]

YES Huxley needs representation and all monetary funds gained from his involvement!

[@biancadesousa]

They’re only bringing up her because she’s the face of the youtube channel. If it was called “Myka and James” and he was in the videos all the time he would be in it. Calm down. We already know he is involved and just as guilty but because she’s the face she’ll get the backlash. Just like that scandal where all those parents were paying for their kids to get into college. There were two couples who got the most shit because they were the most famous.

[@blueshoes915]

Yes, yes, and yes!

[@b64771]

The dad is a beta

[@plasticdevil3]

I've said this before: KZbin should have a guideline concerning kids in family channels. Like blurring their faces if they are under a certain age or limiting how much of the video is about the child or has the kid in it. The parents will have to suddenly become very interesting or find another gimmick to keep that money coming lol

[@Cristina-vb8dl]

They should be just banned. One thing is to post a funny episode happened and another is to keep their live traced by the internet. It's so damn sick on many levels.

[@alisonmercer5946]

Yea. Itseems like child trafficking. And people who think they are against trafficking watch it. It's all just bizarre to me. And no I wouldn't say everyone showing their child online is trafficking but look at this one. They Bought a child to make moneypff of, Made loads of money off of the child and got rid of child when child wasn't convenient anymore. Human trafficking, in the open , with a big audience. Omg. I remember that they (law makers) Shut down back page , screwed over consenting adults, made laws that don't help one bit that have been shown to be more harmful than helpful . Start a charity (which is predatory) but people think it's great, that's all about saving the children,right! and saving adults from that terrible life and boom Make loads of money that way. Where are all of the saved people. Look Into any anti sex trafficking charity and you will find they helped nobody. I think there are groups that help but the anti sex work ones , not just anti trafficking but anti sex work ones , those are the bunk ones, those are the ones that pray on peoples empathy and actually make money off of trafficking . They make up stats that cannot be backed up , they have nobody to say yeah , this group helped me out, they try to silence anyone who can tell truth and show that their stats are bunk and show real ways to slow down trafficking. I saw some stuff and read some online articles, did a deep dive awhile ago (with out backing it up nobody should really believe me, either. And i don't know right now all of the places I read about these lying charities) and found out how unhelpful and hysterical these anti sex work save the children charities are. And now I need to cleanse my brain , I wish I hadn't thought of this stuff. Its not happy LA LA LA subjects the dr talks about but my going down a rabbit hole , it's really not healthy and I need to stop. I can't stop the predatory charities, or any of the bad things I'm talking about so its not like I'm doing any good by writing about it. I don't think you have to do good with writing anything but I'm personally wtf am I doing? The darkness is too much. it's just a bad place for my head so I should stop. There are good things to look at , shit i gotta get done and it's summer out , and most importantly this is really not good for my brain right now so I'm done with learning about this dark stuff for awhile.

[@mellie4174]

I disagree. Some kids and parents do this as a family project and love it! I've seen some channels where it was the kids idea and the parents didn't want them on social media alone so they did it together!

[@sophiagonzales8974]

@@mellie4174 But if the child grows older and doesn’t want to do the channel what will happened next?

[@catherinesayle9827]

Myka is the one that called it rehoming. Her critics are using the word that THEY used.

[@tyeishaleisure]

And rehoming is an actual thing. It’s basically child trafficking. It’s illegal. It’sdone underground, and there’sno guarantee that the child is safe. The procedure bypasses the legal vetting process. If you want to know more, watch without a crystal ball’s latest live stream. She has been covering this case and goes into a lot of detail about the rehoming process. It’s actually disturbing.

[@KMP4444]

@@tyeishaleisure Yes I saw that. I guess other vloggers are involved it is VERY disturbing KZbin needs to do something ASAP also they are going to try and use her husbands channel so Katie suggested we find out who his sponsors are.

[@madreep]

Rehoming is very real. It's a term used when placing an adopted child from overseas with a nee new family . It I'd not legal. The Hague convention states that internationally adopted children must be returned to the country of origin if the family cannot keep him.

[@tranzco1173]

@@tyeishaleisure Yes. There was an article in Tbe Atlantic "The Dark World of Child Trafficking in China". Organ harvesting. The police are involved today, so it should get interesting.

[@nosirsirsa4741]

Where exactly did Myka use the word "rehoming" herself? I can't find any evidence for that. Just asking for clarification, of cource her not using the term does not make their actions any less appaling.

[@mayrawellington1130]

I’ve never heard of this woman. So sad that she exploited this child in this way. As a mother of a son with autism I can honestly say the amount of patience, love and understanding needed is huge. It has paid off immensely! He’s an amazing young man now!❤️ Thanks Dr. Grande ! You’re on a roll 💕

[@Cuzjudd]

You are a great parent!

[@wadisanaa]

@@sirennoir258 when the going gets tough, you the tough gets going and not throw in the towel like some A**wipes .

[@ElysianFeilds93]

@@sirennoir258 If I may (respectfully) ask, what do you mean by she "didn't want to do anything?"

[@millisagable1318]

It's worse then you think. I was a long time subbie and now I'm not

[@mayrawellington1130]

Brit Giv I understand your journey. When my son was growing up and going through difficulties, even when I was so upset and frustrated, I tried to stay cognizant of the fact that he did not choose his situation. I always wished I could be in his brain for a while. Your unconditional love is everything she has. 💕 It’s impossible to imagine life without these beautiful beings who teach us so much .

[@pjskywalker2457]

This hits home for me. I was adopted at 3 months because of the social system that looked down on single mothers who wanted to raise their illegitimate child in the mid fifties. I don’t blame my biological mother, she didn’t want to give me up. But the mom that I got was very narcissistic and when I was six years old, was taken back to social court to be given back. At the time I seemed uncontrollable to my adopted parents and it was obvious to my mother that I wasn’t the kind of child she had hoped for. Growing up in this environment really did a number on me that lasted well into my adulthood. I had low self esteem, abandonment issues and was very insecure. Not many people wanted to be around me because I had made a fantasy environment because I was afraid of the real life that I had been given. When my son was 10 years old, he began to exhibit similarities in his behavior that I remember doing and felt very protective of him but I didn’t want him to feel like I had felt. His 5th grade teacher was so helpful to what she thought was going on with Matthew. She suggested that I take him to a children’s counselor, as she recognized his behavior to be identical to what she had experienced teaching for 15 years....I kind of blew her off because to me, Matthew was just like me and I didn’t want him to be placed under scrutiny and grow to feel like I had thought of myself....we weren’t bad kids like people like to label us.....we just had similar social quirks. On that day, Matthew and I both received our diagnosis.....we both had ADHD. I was so relieved that I could put a name to what I had been going through as a child and I gathered up the lists of book titles that his Dr. Had given me to read. It was like this huge weight came off of my shoulders and I cried for nearly an hour knowing that with me as Matthew’s mom, having gone through the negative of being a child who lived with the knowledge of being unacceptable as a child, I knew that Matthew would never feel this way. He was so smart and lovingly. He was given Aderall and everything turned around for him. He graduated Med School and now has a practice in Children’s Psychology. I am so very proud of him and how he turned a disability into a gift, which a person with ADHD can often do using creativity and intelligence as the up side of the condition he was given.

[@Chakura]

The only good thing is that the state is actually investigating this

[@gloworm1822]

I thought the Adoption process was already extremely difficult. What else can be done to protect these vulnerable children from predators like Myka who used him for her own profit!

[@MagisterialVoyager]

Good to hear! :)

[@thewilliamsfamilyest]

@@gloworm1822 well said .I totally agree with you. And she cant just put him somewhere else

[@Em_Elizabeth]

Is the child still legally under her guardianship?

[@aprilshamel]

@@gloworm1822 I hope the people involved in the adoption process are starting understand narcissism, how rampant it runs among people seeking to adopt, and how to screen for it. It sucks to feel like a byproduct from a failed project.

[@feelingbetternaturally1099]

My mother disowned me. Rejection and abandonment by the mother leaves a wound that causes a lifetime of suffering and takes a long time and a lot of effort to heal.

[@savetrump1088]

My dad did that to me. You are better off.

[@nancyjones6780]

💜💜HUGS💜💜

[@jukienebog6947]

I can’t imagine how that would feel, and as a mother I can’t Imagine ever doing that. I’m sorry this happened to you. Virtual hug.

[@polly6336]

Much love to you and I relate. I have asked Dr. Grande to address childhood abandonment issues in a separate video.

[@barbaragremaud3499]

I both love and feel as if I can hardly stand my mom. I can relate to the feelings of rejection and abandonment - so very painful and emotionally consuming 😢.

[@Yossepphie]

I love how you're such a threat to these channels, I bet there's so many just praying you won't do a video on them. Power to you Dr Grande, one of the best channels!

[@-MaryPoppins-]

He was incredible with his sign language, signing things most kids won’t be able to until we’ll into their tens-teens. He clearly struggled with overstimulation and other typical autism symptoms, yet he was constantly trying to please his “parents”, followed directions well, and tried desperately to fit in with his siblings. She can try as hard as she wishes to tell the world a four year old nonverbal autistic boy SIGNED he wanted to be ripped form the only family he’s ever known, but anyone with half a brain would shut that crap down in seconds. Of course he wanted nothing to do with that witch. He’s autistic, not brain dead. Poor baby now has to live with all of the pain she pushed upon him. And I say she, because SHE is the one who initiated this whole adoption scheme. The husband’s a piece of dog poop on a shoe, but he didn’t come out running about how much he wants to adopt 🙄

[@leaveitayy6246]

Exactly, on the slim chance Huxley expressed an interest in moving out then one would have to wonder why their child would choose strangers over them. She is completely demonic.

[@mariomoreno3565]

She duct taped the kids thumb to prevent him from sucking on it. My family just used lime on our kids thumb to prevent them from sucking on it. So simple, no need for any crazy measures but this woman is just ridiculous and I feel bad for her biological kids.

[@joytoyouandme4593]

mario moreno - The ridiculous thing is that all of their children sucked their thumbs at one point. Radly who isn’t much older than Huxley; was a thumb sucker until giving it up this past year. Huxley is not the same emotional and mental age as his physical age. What’s the big deal if he sucks his thumb. It is a manner of stemming or self soothing, which is a common in autism. Another you tuber who has autistic children who were biting and hitting themselves, introduced their child to a pacifier, their child was already 5 when they adopted. So why not get yourself informed about put the tools available to help your child cope with their disability. Myka and James don’t appear to have done this in order to help Huxley or have his best interest at heart. The two vacations they took since adopting Huxley to the south seas, would have easily paid for them to attend classes on parenting autistic children, and paid for home care, and for Huxley to have a top rated therapist. This later seemed important to Myka, who complained about how expensive Huxley’s therapy was at $500 a month, so down graded to a cheaper one. All while she keeps redecorating her $700,000 home, buying super expensive foods and visiting the juice bar on the regular. Besides children who are disabled qualify for assistance from social services, and their therapy is typically covered by medical insurance. Based on the fact that James is an engineer he most likely earns well over six figures a year. I live in Seattle near Boeing and know what I come experienced engineers make. They are not poor. My heart is absolutely broken for Huxley. If I wasn’t in my sixties I would honestly adopt him.

[@mariomoreno3565]

@@joytoyouandme4593 that woman is just a narcissist just like u described and my family is from Guatemala so we dont got crazy money to send kids to doctors n shit. Point is no circumstances require you to abuse your children. So sad

[@Angelina_Rose]

I feel the same way. The trauma she created for this kid but also her biological children. Myka and her husband are pathological.

[@lostinpa-dadenduro7555]

I was adopted. I was difficult. I’m glad I didn’t get returned. Maybe it’s best thing long term for the kid in this situation. She was making money off this.

[@savetrump1088]

My friend adopted a baby that ended up having autism. They love that boy so much. If it wasn't for them who knows what would have happened to him. He is big now and their greatest joy.

[@MiuMiu-dq6xt]

Um, she wasn't making money off this!!! There would be no amount anyway that would make you want to take on these needs...

[@marmadukescarlet7791]

Miu Miu the fact that she showed his little thumb taped with duct tape on video is a clear indication of how clueless she really is. She obviously has no empathy for Huxley. Terrible situation but Huxley is better off out of there.

[@criznueve]

She did make money off of him. Look into Without a crystal ball. Her YT does an in-depth history of the Stauffer incl interviewing neighbors and looking into their financial history before adopting. They went from 4K followers to 200k immediately after adopting Huxley. Her husband Stauffer garage also profited by association with Myka’s lifestyle blog. They also got tons of endorsement because of him. It’s already proven per YT algorithm top two things that gets viewers and monies are 1) white family adopting overseas preferably Christian denomination 2) newly pregnant mom They did their homework prior to this. Just look into their timeline history

[@sahtification]

They never treatened you with that? I was adopted and this was constantly on my childhood

[@JanetEsq]

As the mother of a special needs adult child, I can tell you that raising him has been brutal. But children, of all abilities, are human beings not fashion accessories. They don't come with a warranty. This woman is vile.

[@dianacassinelli3600]

You are a loving mother...

[@LaMaestra2102]

This is such a hard subject to think about and even to talk about. I have an adopted daughter who was diagnosed with BPD and certainly has a nice side order of narcissism. She brings me all kinds of problems, but she also brings me a ton of joy and laughter. I cannot imagine giving her away. It would be like giving a piece of myself away. And I'm not a hero, I'm just a mother. I think people adopt kids to complete some kind of picture sometimes. And when the glass across the picture cracks a little they just farm out the problem or get rid of them somehow. It's my opinion that people shouldn't adopt unless they are very clear that it is to help mold a young human being or a little baby into a fine adult and that it's really not about them. And although this one made me cry, I still thank you for it Dr G.👏 😢

[@Ad-Lo]

@Poppy Fields I think you are a hero.

[@Faythe98]

As a daughter with BPD this warms my heart

[@goldengiven]

Your daughter is super fortunate to have someone who both loves her and takes the time to understand her.

[@nanyanguo1]

@@ashbur-hugs you cant even tell she is only exaggerating the situation to absolve herself. After all she has been caught lying on other things n self contradicting herself many times. Even assuming it wasnt an exaggeration shifting the blame onto the child with special needs n developmental delay is not alright It is not something she diddnt have the resources to get the help he needed if she really loves him

[@keelyjohnston19]

@@ashbur-hugs then they should have delt with it better. My son would attack my daughter viciously. I came up with different solutions to find one that helped I did not give up my child. They now are the best of friends.

[@anonymousmedusa]

I've never heard of this woman but found the subject interesting as my parents fostered 5 children. I look back and feel so bad for these children because my mom was most likely mentally ill and adding to the family didn't improve her mental health or ours for that matter. The last boy ran away because she was so mean to him. Really he was the brave one.

[@TahtahmesDiary]

I try and tell people to stop glorifying those who collect kids because they clearly cannot serve all of them. Sadly, they are seen as heroes and uplifted despsite so many having issues and not actually helping the kids.

[@brandiguarino1778]

Thank you for sharing.

[@rishaa682]

wow, that is so gross

[@emmaphilo4049]

@@TahtahmesDiary I agree! We should ask ourselves questions as to why sometimes!

[@denamullen340]

Anonymous Medusa Omg... that’s heartbreaking

[@robertosantos-vx6pn]

She adopted him believing he had a terminal disease, and after finding out it wasnt she decided it was too much work. She is despicable.

[@Serenade2461]

She wanted to play "the grieving mother" for the rest of her life instead of "the loving mother" for the rest of his.

[@Janis.7-]

@@Serenade2461 so true

[@michellelively202]

She thought he would die. She was in this for the views and money. She wanted a funeral. She was a brain tumor nurse. She knew.

[@michellelively202]

Bingo. She uses words for life - not actions. Total narc.

[@unicornenthusiast]

Poor Huxley, he already had a hard start to life. I have no words for it.

[@shivalishankersharma1562]

An influencer's life is fuelled by attention. ( And clout). They want more and more -likes, sponsorships, subscribers, followers, etc. They are the most hollow people around. They do everything for social media. Eating, clothing, helping people. I have seen this so much i stopped following toxic influencers. I am so happy i found your channel. Such powerful insight. Respects to your analysis.

[@geslinam9703]

Yet this woman has over 600,000 followers. I wonder if she had more followers before this happened, or if she has lost any.

[@hollibee78]

I’ve never heard anyone so calm with so many sick burns

[@sashas8526]

I’m adopted and didn’t have a stable home till I was around 4! I suffer even from this day as a full grown adult from anxiety and abandonment issues! I can’t imagine what this little boy will have to deal with for the rest of his life because of what these people have done! Are we really supposed to buy that as a 4 year old Huxley wanted to go to a new home!!? Disgusting!

[@tranzco1173]

He is from China, has autism, AND a brain tumor. They adopted him because "she is a nurse" but she was a nurse for like a month, and then had her license revoked for beating up a pregnant woman. I couldn't make this up.

[@barbibutton9619]

Because it was friends if hers, he might have wanted to spend the night or something. The couple is pregnant and not sure they want or can keep him forever

[@j.o.w.4099]

@@tranzco1173 Do you have a link regarding the incident? I searched for it and could only find that her nurse license expired in 2013 and was not renewed. But it was a quick search so it's easily possible that I missed it.

[@freereinartstudio1463]

What a heartbreak! I also wonder what message this gives to her other kids? It would have to cause the other kids to feel insecure.

[@circedelune]

Sasha S I have four children. At one time or another (usually after being scolded for something) more than one has said they wanted to live with someone else. I didn’t pack up their belongings and send them off to grandma’s or dad’s or wherever. They are my children, my heart, and my responsibility. We belong to each other. It is so wrong to adopt a child and then toss them out when the going gets hard.

[@briesthoughts2261]

It seems like Myka wanted to project a certain type of lifestyle and when it got difficult they gave the child back. Very narcissistic.

[@captainofmysoul6525]

I agree with your comment. I find the timing very convenient for them as they were planning a vacation. I am extremely saddened by the news. Huxley had improved so much. He is/was not the same child that they initial adopted. I hope Hux does not regress.

[@vianjelos]

This was further proven when she put her other kids back in public school. I guess she couldnt handle home schooling them either even without Huxley around.

[@hjc9114]

This is the calmest I've ever been when listening to such a terrible situation

[@saramayzu]

There was a clip where she talked about how she imagined he would just be "this cute shy little guy who just wanted to be cuddled all the time" like, wtf? If you read anything about autism you would know that's not how it works. The language she uses really sounds like she's talking about a pet, it's so bizarre and disgusting. I don't like to judge mother's because I feel like they already get so much shit they don't deserve, but this one and her husband are terrible for what they did. Probably it's better for the kid to be rid of them but it'll definitely cause trauma bc he's become attached to them. Just a terrible terrible situation 😢💔

[@debofChrist]

That is my concern for the young child. He was very attached to his foster family & they loved him. A video talked about when he was 1st adopted he would separate himself & rock back & forth. The poor child was traumatized & he is again. This is terrible. I pray some relief finally comes with a FINAL home for him. It is a horrible situation. I also hope families continue to adopt & dont get discouraged from this. It is a very difficult & expensive process. It is a commitment & I commend the parents that adopt children & the children that adopt them as parents, siblings, etc. It can be a wonderful experience. Blessings

[@user-od8eq8bd1g]

They can be like that. Not in a entirely normal way but a lot of kids with autism really want a lot of touch and like to climb on people. It’s usually very one sided though, they won’t pat you on the head or do any of those other small caring gestures kids do though.

[@miniskirt9738]

Debra Magee you say foster family but they are not a foster family, they are an adoptive family, which means they decided to take that permanently as their own child. Whilst a foster family is temporary. They have no excuses.

[@MaresBarres]

@@miniskirt9738 I think the comment is talking about his foster family in China. Supposedly they were loving towards.

[@WarandFlame]

That's text book narcissistic. She wanted him as a prop to give her love and admiration. She realized it was real work. Does she think we are stupid? What doctor would be like Yeah give up your child. Your not good enough? There is schools and therapists. What doctor would say that? Insane

[@itssonam6538]

Q:When does a child express his desire to be around other people??? A:When he is scared of his parents !!!

[@Elkycreates]

I don’t think she’s bright enough to realise how much she and her husband have exposed themselves. That little boy must have experienced abuse at the hands of these people before they gave him up.

[@lindawilliams747]

@@Elkycreates she is definitely not bright, but worse, she is cruel without the seeming ability to learn from her actions.

[@nevaehb.4371]

@@Elkycreates Didn't they tape this hands together to stop him from sucking his thumbs...no wonder he was acting out.

[@breephoenix111]

@@nevaehb.4371 they taped his thumb and hand with duct tape to stop him sucking his thumb....she is a total nut.

[@Godzilla-ls9iq]

I can't imagine what he has gone through...the other children need to be questioned without them around.

[@alcyonae]

“I’m not sure what she meant by the word ‘never’, perhaps the word she was looking for was ‘definitely’.” DAMN.

[@cindylepley206]

What about the dad? She didn't make these decisions on her own.

[@coolcat6341]

He is her bitch,,, watch Without Crystal Ball,,, she shed more light

[@kristinadorsett1673]

This^ why is it all on the mom? Was the dad given a “get out of KZbin jail free” card?

[@nancyjones6780]

Well , he shed a few tears in the reveal video so he's off the hook. Note my sarcasm

[@karenvincent5202]

@@nancyjones6780, those fake tears by both of them made me sick.

[@maryjaneerardfineartllc4979]

Right on.

[@TahtahmesDiary]

SO glad you are doing this, I'm a transracial adoptee and this made me livid. I have a lot of issues with the types of people who adopt kids of color to profit off them, be it for money on KZbin or kudos at church.

[@TahtahmesDiary]

@Suspicious Ned Flanders EXACTLY like them. IDK Brad's excuse besides he most likely loves the attention, but Jolie has specifically noted that she adopts as some sort of penance to the universe for all the abortions she had in her early career. It made me so mad, like girl get your abortions and leave foreign kids out of it!!! Many of these transracial adoptive parents (and those who adopt 4+ kids) are self centered and narcissistic, just thinking about themselves, their souls, their money, their needs etc.

[@Solunatic02]

Tahtahme's Diary It’s weird to me. I knew a girl who was adopting a child from Africa to replace her stillborn child. It was God’s plan for her to do it. I went off on her. Child is not a replacement for your trauma. Therapy is okay.

[@evelynwaugh4053]

@Suspicious Ned Flanders and Madonna

[@polly6336]

@@evelynwaugh4053 yes I was about to mention Madonna. Her BAME children always seemed more like accessories than anything else.

[@TahtahmesDiary]

@@Solunatic02 Yes! I get REALLY upset at people burdening adoptees with their womb problems. These people need therapy and instead they burden adoptees with their selfish needs and expectations. Adoptees have to grow up understanding their purpose in life IS their parents need for something usually beyond their control. Sadly most people sympathize with the mom and let them start these abusive cycles.

[@adrianomaly1760]

Thank you for covering this so well. As an autistic adult, this situation saddened me greatly.

[@tonichan89]

Doc's been getting sassy lately and this is sass PEAK

[@MolyBDenum-lh3wy]

I just go around liking all the comments that mention his sass...

[@b.maliboo9453]

Love it SO much!

[@MissOrchid12]

Oddivia It's personality leakage lol

[@Daavlot]

Myka: "Never imagine your life without that child." Dr Grande: "I am not sure what she meant by the word never, perhaps the word she was looking for was definitely." Dr Grande is a hidden stand up comedy talent? :D

[@bougie749]

HahHahhha he was spot on!

[@carolmooney822]

I totally agree. . He's dry sense of humor is amazing.

[@janelle009]

Yes he has a very dry sense of humor 😆

[@yashargolestani]

500%, she failed as a mathematician too.

[@xeokym223]

I love dry humor 😄

[@Dominiqueuqinimod]

I love you 😂 The amount of honesty and professionalism here is awesome, and you even threw some very diplomatic shade. Big ups, doc!

[@ybrueckner5589]

Maybe the doctor who tried to warn her picked up on her personality and her status as a KZbinr as a recipe for disaster. Definitely (!!) If she found a special needs worker (or parent of a grown child with ASD)to take care of him, only then could she truthfully say she found someone more qualified. Thanks for tackling this one Dr. Grande! You open more eyes every day🥴👀. I’m sure I’m not the only one waiting excitedly for you to click over to 300k subscribers!

[@annemiekvdbos]

Yesss!!👏👏

[@kentuckylady2990]

They went to Bali after he was rehomed. She has lied numerous times. What I want to know did Huxley get his share of the money earned. They duct taped his thumb to keep him from sucking his thumb,. Huxley had no choice. A more suitable care giver!!! They did this for the money.

[@melissaockey1346]

Oh thats so cruel! I remember being traumatised by having my hand bandaged with a sock over it in the middle of summer so I couldn’t suck my thumb. I was four and ill never forget the agony

[@Lyssa0095]

@@protectyourself33 hahahha yes!! I feel the same as you

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Also he used sign language so it meant he couldn’t “speak” and she wrote about her husband got annoyed with him watching them while they eat (anxiety about food is common due to their previous experience of food deprivation. Many of his “meltdowns” were because she denied him food - a kid who had probably felt hungry his entire life and she deems it him being naughty. So sad.

[@bellagrace9812]

Like there is something wrong with a child sucking their thumb. Its no different than carrying a blanket or toy around for comfort.

[@protectyourself33]

@Redwood Rebelgirl O NO....are you triggered? Do you need a safe space? Because I can tell you one thing, the KZbin comment section is not a safe space. Now go find a nice quiet corner to sit while rocking back and forth and sucking your thumb with your binky. The adults are talking.

[@8bitdaydreams]

She needs to give back the money and apologize for giving him that name to the beautiful little boy

[@BlackSwanSibyl]

I was thinking the same - isn’t that the name of the narcissist antagonist in the “Elmo in Grouchland” movie?

[@pats8219]

My narcissistic ex-husband loved being in public with our twin daughters (lots of attention) but pretty much ignored them in private.

[@LizbetPCB]

💔

[@wheatstonebridge]

Wow

[@annemiekvdbos]

Omg😪😟 I'm so sorry!

[@fashiharz8584]

I'm glad he's your ex.

[@mayas8360]

That's ugly

[@nancyfarkas3592]

She also claimed when she was told NOT to adopt him she said "I would NEVER return my child" yet she did!

[@truthmerchant1]

Narcissists say whatever suits their purpose in the moment. Truth is irrelevant to them.

[@u731alikelly5]

Dr Grande - you made a fair and non biased view on the situation with this family. Refreshingly done without the need for blatant ‘put downs’ or judgemental name calling. WELL DONE 👍👏🏼

[@briant7265]

You know what she never said in that video? "I feel terrible that we couldn't meet his needs." Nope. Bunch of fake tears and how hard it was, for her and hubby. Never cared about the kid. He was just an ornament. I'd like to know what the other four think about whether she is now a better mother.

[@Lolz172]

Apparently a lot of dumb-dumbs still support them anyway. LOL

[@floridagirl386]

NOPE! that would mean actually taking some responsibilities... She is not capable of

[@sparklebox11]

So obviously self pity tears

[@olivialeigh5359]

I hope her biological kids give her hell when they become teenagers. Actually...I’m certain they will. Teens are razor sharp. They’ll know what a narcissistic piece of shit their mother is. The dad just looks like there’s nobody home.

[@Godzilla-ls9iq]

She never once admitted that she make a mistake. Wouldn't make it right but it would not be as offensive as the other arguments she has made.

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

I think it's astounding that they would openly say that _experts told them this would be better_ - when really all that says is that it's a character issue, not anything else; they have more resources than most parents with special needs children... if an expert tells you that, in spite of having a large amount of resources for a special needs child, you're not a good fit... that kinda means you're trash to the child (for lack of a better term). It's hard for all parents with special needs kids. The difference is LOVE.

[@ArdenBijou]

That’s what I find baffling. I had my son at 19 and he’s autistic. Talk about struggle and lack of money for lots of things. I busted my ass and he’s a well adjusted 14 year old. He has his moments but he’s perfectly fine for the most part. It takes time, patience and love. She has none of that.

[@kathleentyler4125]

This is beyond disturbing to me. This female wanted to spend money, not time. Is it true that after this child was given away they went on vacation in Bali? KZbin should shut them down. I feel sorry for the other children. This will affect them for the rest of their lives.

[@mercedes_420]

ArdenBijou thank u for being an incredible person... i agree that what this woman did is heartless but unfortunately it seems like most ppl would take the easy way out so i hafta commend u for doing the right thing... i’m sure just having ur son is rewarding enough but it’s still nice to know not everyone is so cold, so thx again for being awesome 🥰

[@lalanaturale]

If they cared about what experts said they wouldn’t have adopted him because doctors to them he was serve and they probably wouldn’t be able to handle it 10 months before she adopted him.

[@cbufffly]

Maybe the 'experts' WERE thinking about Huxley's best interests ... getting him out of his "parents" care.

[@melissapage4086]

I've heard an even more disturbing theory that they thought he had a brain tumor and adopted him thinking he would pass and they would get tons of views and sympathy for it. Then they found out he was going to live and need long-term care and they had no plans to do that. Either way, sick individuals to adopt a child for clout.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Yes usually just suggesting that would seem obscene but after listening to them it’s not beyond possible.

[@sandig621]

No words😢

[@froonamission1013]

Dr. Grande is the most reasonable person on KZbin.

[@sciencecompliance235]

lol ikr?

[@thatsfunny2051]

She's not simply a failure as a mother, she's a failure as a human being.

[@DalCecilRuno]

Exactly! That's what I said too.

[@djr6876]

Reminds me of the movie Child of Rage, based on a true story. Only in that situation the adoptive parents kept the child, although they did struggle with the decision. The adoptive parents knew nothing of the Childs highly abusive background or her propensity to violence. When it was no longer safe for them to keep her in the home they had her placed in a facility with highly trained doctors and teachers. The adoptive parents continued to maintain their parental rights and involvement with the child. Understandably, over the years, the child did become attached to the doctor and saw them as more of a parent figure than the adoptive parents .This was not an issue however , getting the child healthy was the priority.. Through intense therapy the child did grow up to be a remarkably fit and loving person. A success story. Bottom line, Once you adopt a child, they are yours. Period!

[@leviblevins513]

I watched her early interviews. They're actually on KZbin. The little girl calmly described the horrific physical and sexual abuse she inflicted on her baby brother. She was 4 and 5 at the time. She herself had been repeatedly and brutally rapped and sodomized by her father that continued from infancy until she was 3. The abuse she endured was heartbreaking. But those parents had to protect their other children. They had no choice. She abused the baby and she expressed her violent sexual fantasies towards the baby including strangling him to death. That situation is totally different. She needed years of intense inpatient therapy to rebuild trust and the ability to empathizes with others. I wonder how many violent sexual predators are sitting in jail who experienced the same horrific abuse as babies and toddlers but never got help. It's absolutely heartbreaking to think about.

[@beththomas681]

Do some more research on that situation? There is a lot of controversy of the methods used by her doctor.

[@carolinecardwell2163]

You just professionally and calmly, w/ evidence, ripped these KZbinrs a new one and it was glorious

[@maggiepyper2505]

I wouldn't give up my dog after having her for 3 years.....disgusting human beings.

[@user-ux7yg2ch6i]

I was thinking the same thing.

[@JaZmine147]

I wouldn't give up a reptile that doesn't even recognize who the fuck I am. Commitment and responsibility are two values a lot of people never even heard of.

[@maggiepyper2505]

@@JaZmine147 I am just glad that there are still some normal decent people out there like yourself

[@MiniMeags]

I wouldn’t give my dog up no matter how long I’ve had them.

[@Maura237]

I am literally allergic to my cat. My nose always gets closed off if I lie down and I have bronchitis because of this. Also, (viral) colds tend to hit me *extremely* hard. And I STILL don't arrange for another familie to take him. Because I love him and he is part of my family. If we had known, we probably wouldn't have adopted him, but now that we have (and love!) him, I can't just send him away.

[@nikitajanei102]

I can't imagine life without my 15 year old daughter who is on the spectrum. She is a true gift to me. I love everything that makes her 'her'. I often wish that her life was easier and more kinder for her than what it is sometimes but I could never imagine any version of a world for me that didn't have her in it as my daughter. This poor little boy. My heart breaks for him. He must feel terribly confused and angry and hurt. I hope he finds the time and space that he needs in a loving stable nurturing home to be able to heal and learn what it is like to feel unconditional love from a parent.

[@nevaehb.4371]

You really are an angel-mommy. Thank god there are moms like you.

[@Zerin666]

I just hope his first few years memories are quite low as I couldn't remember most stuff until I was six

[@hollywood4223]

The Stauffers should pay a compensation to Huxley at least half a million dollars

[@natalielinden]

They should give a significant portion of everything made off of the videos as soon as he's mentioned.

[@kasairan8492]

They should give him every penny made off him. All the money they made off the adoption videos.

[@PRDreams]

They should be made to pay child support according to their income and a lump sum, according to their income, during the adoption until they publicly accepted what happened. That money earned is partly his.

[@Poodlemama1234]

Don’t be so stupid. Any money made is by people like you subscribing and watching the vlogs. Any money they made would have been hugely over taken by the money they had to pay for Huxley’s medical and therapy needs.

[@deadtonk5527]

They also should refund everyone who donated for them to be able to adopt. This people must feel terrible about what happened too. They have been used and abused too, they are mad.

[@annemiekvdbos]

"If this is better, what were they like before🤔?" 🤣🤣🤣 I love how you roast people so subtle and calm! Thank you for talking about all kinds of current situations in the news and from yt. In the midst of all kind of opinions and heated discussions, you feel like an oasis of calm during all the shouting! I love how you analyze a situation and look at it from different angles. Big fan from the Netherlands!👋

[@annemiekvdbos]

@Aurora Ahww thank you that's so sweet!

[@luli237]

i love the calm and colected RAGE in your voice. you professionally owned their behinds with this video, great job!

[@Elsisalittleconcerned]

This is so sassy, I’m living for it. Really though, as a Chinese adoptee myself, I can’t imagine my parents giving me back for my issues-especially after three years. Myka never really loved that poor child. Loved hearing this insight.

[@janakakumara3836]

These "Hot" KZbinrs are the ugliest of people, if you could only see their hearts.

[@helena3631]

its also for money including the fake breakups i think its hillarious and sad

[@majesticmelloww]

Not all! Some hot people are good people. I myself have been called "hot" before, but it would sadden me if someone assumed I was evil because of it .. but yes this myka chick seems to be artificial

[@OG-TGabe2010]

Actually, Myka looks like she might have had Bell’s Palsy at one time.

[@rachelk2457]

Yep on the inside they are rotten and full of worms. Their insides remind me of a large painting that was once at Chicago Art museum.

[@annagitana1]

@princess hannah, you’re seeing her soul.

[@marymitchell1329]

Thank you. Finally, a calm, compassionate, reasonable analysis of this tragic scenario. My heart breaks for Huxley, who was exploited & tossed aside. He needs love, understanding, nurturing, inclusivity, (& they owe him a whole lot of money). I hope & pray he gets all of that & more.

[@marytheresel795]

Dr. Grande, this is a thought-provoking discussion of a very disturbing case. You bring up a lot of interesting points. I appreciate your humor! Though I don’t mean to judge, I admit I have some strong feelings about the abandonment of a child.

[@kathleenmoraes8635]

This was the most polite & educated DRAG, and I’m here for it.

[@tarabradley2066]

Right?? Loving it.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

True. A lot of other commentators tend to sensationalize it a bit.

[@Red_Groke_plans]

This is just so sad. I have a kid with a severe form of Autism and I would give anything if my child could sign or communicate as Huxley did. He made such enormous progress and you could see from the videos that he adored them and was attached to the family. That's just such a betrayal. I cannot imagine a scenario where a non-verbal child can SIGN such a complex concept as "I want to be adopted by another family", as she claims it. This is just an obvious lie. I also feel sorry for their biological kids. Imagine growing in a family that got rid of your brother for not flushing a toilet, biting or something similar. The horror of thinking every moment that your parents might be discussing right now how to "re-home" you. I wouldn't be surprised if they start using it as a tactic to make their biological kids stop misbehaving.

[@journeythruwords4619]

When virtue signalling no longer produces, the narcissist throws you away.

[@protectyourself33]

Democrats and the black vote.

[@azariazulu]

protect yourself Here we go 🙄

[@MsMdip]

Those lifestyle and family channels that regularly exploit the children really grind my gears. A snapshot of your child giggling with your cat is one thing, putting out content featuring your children every day is quite another.

[@juliabelmonte5653]

I feel this way too! How much can children really consent to be putting in a video! When they get older, who knows how they'll feel about it? Plus you're essentially opening the kids up to dealing with critisim/ wide spread recognition at a young age 😬

[@ArdenBijou]

Yes all these vlog families really irk me. Anytime I get a recommendation for one, I click “not interested” and let them know I don’t like it. These children have no choice. It’s bad enough parents plaster every second of the kids life on social media, now you want their day to day to be seen by everyone???

[@annemiekvdbos]

Totally agree!! For example, Colleen Ballinger she has been vlogging for years about her private life. That was fine, all adults consented. But now she has a son, and is still doing the same thing, the difference is now that there's a child in the picture who can't give consent. I don't know, it's like a lot of people are embarrassed if a baby or child photo of them is being showed during a birthday party or whatever. How must it feel when these children are older and yt is filled with your childhood and there is nothing you can do, because once on the internet something will never really disappear ever. Just wondering..

[@marymckenna6482]

Yes! And aren't you getting tired of seeing children "suddenly and unexpectedly" appear in an adult's video? "Oh! Where did you come from! Mommy is filming!" Happens once, it's cute. Happens over and over, you know it's rigged. The children are being used and someday they will know it.

[@anzy93]

I can’t help but wonder, if she made a same decision if her biological child was the one had an autism, not Huxley, would she get rid of the biological child? Because if not, then she discriminated Huxley because he was adopted... sorry just throwing a hypothetical thought.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

She gave Huxley away because he was both biologically not hers And special needs. If one of her own were special needs, she probably would have invested more into therapy for them.

[@thelauravuitton1150]

Absolutely YES!!!!! Dr. Grande, you are providing the best scientifically informed insider look on the best, most relevant topics!!! I stan!!!! 💯💯💯💯

[@monicawhite1030]

Qqq1

[@vegasgirl3538]

Me too! I love how he's so professional but throws major shade at the same time.

[@thelauravuitton1150]

VegasGirl35 Exactly!!!! 🌴🌴🌴😂😂😂

[@mgal6234]

OMG I was hoping and wondering if you would react to this situation. Just started watching and THANK YOU in advance. That little boy just breaks my heart...he always seemed so attached to Mykha in the videos. It just kills me. 😔

[@mgal6234]

cassl14 He definitely is better off but it will affect him tremendously to have been discarded that way. I only just heard of this, too, so I went back and watched Myka’s old videos and you can see how he is SO attached to her. She even complains about it a few times, like saying he “follows her around all the time” and in another video her young daughter says, “we should give Huxley back!” With a grin on her face. She overheard her parents saying that, I guarantee it. I hope the little guy is okay.

[@larrenlistens]

This is the best breakdown of the situation that I've heard since this mess started. Thank you Dr. Grande!

[@scoompythedog7002]

My favorite part of all of the Dr.'s videos is his dry sense of humor that catches you off guard and you find yourself laughing in the middle of these pretty serious situations.

[@shystudyspy]

I love your stern, serious, educational commentary mixed with a little bit of sass here and there. Awesome.

[@amycb2014]

"What is best for the child." Exactly Dr Grande.

[@yvonnemclaughlin4324]

I quit watching them several years ago when she called her husband a Man-child. (I’ve not seen him stand up for himself .) 😔 Because I’m a wife, mother, grandma and retired elementary teacher I can see she is not a truthful person.

[@sueteff807]

Perhaps the word she was looking for was "definitely". Your dry humor is unbelievably amusing. Thank you

[@OK-kf7bf]

I agree haha, loved the dry humor in this video. It made me cackle

[@lilystonne4108]

Dr. Grande’s criticisms are so polite, humorous and biting all at the same time. I really like the swipe at Myka’s math skills.

[@resourcedragon]

It was Stauffer herself who referred to the adoption dissolution as "rehoming" and sending the child to his "new forever home".

[@CatrionaCharles]

Yes, "forever home" is something you say about adopting cats and dogs. Not children.

[@cierahowell8653]

She thinks of him as a pet

[@olivialeigh5359]

@@CatrionaCharles I absolutely lose my shit when someone gives up their dog or cat. So...you can imagine how I’m feeling right now. I am on a whole other level with this.

[@Boredchinchilla]

She had him for YEARS!!! They didn’t have him for a month or two, try their best and realize that he needed more help than they could afford to give, allowing him to be adopted by a wealthier family who could afford full time care and schooling. Her $600 bracelet, vacation at the Four Seasons Bali and $1500 purse could pay for full time care for him for a very long time. They were told he was “brain damaged” and she said God had chosen her to be his mother no matter what, that he was hers like her other kids (though she didn’t ducttape her bio kids thumbs when they sucked them, she praised their thumb sucking and posted photos about how cute it was). I sure hope that the “new mommy” comes after her for the money that Huxley should have earned while bumping “old mommy’s” profit margin. Though maybe she should keep that for therapy for her remaining kids, considering one day they had a brother and the next day they didn’t (the one son is very close in age to Huxley, and they were often dressed identical in photos).

[@CatrionaCharles]

@@olivialeigh5359 Absolutely! I know how you feel.

[@rick3747]

53y Aspie who was abadoned and neglected by "parents." The pain has subsided somewhat...... I have done my best with what I have..... This young boy was used and tossed to the curb like trash. I hope he gets that money he earned and a real caring family!

[@mpatongutierrez]

I have a son with autism and, even though everyday is a challenge and I can end the day in tears, it is really rewarding for all the family to see the advances and progress he is making, he is realising about all his achievements and thanks me and his dad for being there for him unconditionally. We are always there for our children, no matter how difficult it can get, but I love them more than anything because they are my life.

[@summysum959]

I was hoping you’d cover this. This situation is devastating and I feel so sick knowing I once supported Myka Stauffer. I hope Huxley is doing better wherever he is now. 😥