Myths Surrounding Borderline Personality Disorder

Dr. Frank Yeomans discusses myths surround borderline personality disorder

[@wordivore]

I like that he uses the word 'condition' rather than the word 'disorder'. At 1:51.

[@Eclectifying]

In other words, see them as human beings. Yes.

[@EDarien]

In other words hold them accountable, yes.

[@mohacs1000]

Not acting instantly on impulsive urges is starting to pay off for me. Life is not great but it is much less chaotic. I was lucky enough to have Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which has really helped and there are some good books out there. Thanks for an optimistic video.

[@RainFall2112]

+Stuart Little Use this logic "When you're right, you gain a little. When you're wrong you destroy lives"

[@Barbbfly]

GREAT !! WHAT ARE SOME OF THE GOOD BOOKS OUT THERE sorry oops caps i like ''the angry heart '' by santaro .

[@nefelibata4190]

do you feel you are getting better or worse with age? or early to tell?

[@santalucida9035]

some books name please🙏

[@amritasikdar]

I love his soothing voice..

[@janethomas78]

this man knows what he is talking about-- and is helpful, very helpful! Thanks!

[@drina4706]

Thank you for stating the truth about BPD!!! A lot of clinicians and laypeople believe that people with BPD are like demons. That is not the case. And as you stated it is a spectrum. Thank you for giving people with BPD hope!!!

[@RethinkBPD]

I'm glad that the interview with Frank Yeomans was helpful. It certainly is my hope that the videos here will not only educate us but make us feel a sense of empowerment over our disorder. Speaking with him gave me so much hope for us living with BPD. Wishing you well on your journey and thanks so much for your comment!

[@wendi2819]

I've felt shamed-based my whole life just from the diagnosis alone. It's hard to overcome being more ashamed of the diagnosis than the disorder. Finding these KZbin communities has helped!🙏🏼

[@godisnotinvisible]

Thank you so much for posting. Watching these videos gives me hope, and that's something us BPD-ers are not naturally good at feeling :)

[@dawnellafreeman4860]

Just something that helped me a lot is the Myers Briggs ( most commonly used personality test). This helped me to see myself clearly for the first time ever... Over this last year I have a stable sound sense of self.... It's very empowering , brings much self knowlledge and the clarity to see others realistically ..understanding all the different thinking styles help defeat ridgidity

[@saramarvulli6917]

What's your personality type? :)

[@marijajuresic2157]

@@saramarvulli6917 I am a campaigner, you?

[@carlasullivan3637]

My shrink is in his 70's and doesn't even believe in BPD. This is common and is a problem. I quit him.

[@samar7151]

Spectrum is exactly it.

[@hippydoom2287]

It's so true. I think especially if parents never expect a child to stop acting out that could cause someone to grow up and think that they can't control themselves especially when the parents were the triggers to begin with.

[@andreluquini]

This attitude applies to so many conditions in Medicine, if not all! Health care professionals, do not let your biases make your patients become disabled people by default. First, do no harm. Visualize their potential, communicate realistic hope. This also aligns with a famous speech by Viktor Frankl. Doctors’ words (just like parents’ remarks or judges’ sentences) are the most impactful medicine.

[@christinaescajeda1901]

Yes see them as human beings 💞

[@powerfuless]

In DBT they call this not “Fragilizing” the client, perpetuating the idea that they can’t do what needs to be done. Impulsivity is described as a “skills deficit” not as not being able to “muster self control.”

[@saje463]

It is so frustrating watching these videos. Treatment for BPD is close to non-existent outside major cities. Geography determines your quality of life. Clinicians and therapists have little if any training even though the incidence of BPD is greater than schizophrenia and Bi-Polar combined. State professional standards boards are a joke when therapists do exactly as he described; reject the positive focus on the negative, exit patient care because of "difficulties", and do zero to transition client to new therapist or shrink.

[@powerfuless]

Try affording it in major cities. Yeomans charges $250 per session and TFP is twice weekly for two years. You do the math!

[@Nesqira]

hes right about sufferers having some control over their impulses

[@BBFCCO733]

I wish mot people would think like you. Seeing others at their full potential, looking past their disabilities. Then people with BPD would have better support in this world. Many people hook into the negative and see us for our weaknesses instead of our strengths.

[@catherineleon2307]

His view always gives me hope!

[@raskolnikov1461]

Amazing. At first obvious. But suddenly it makes so much sense to me. Thank you so much. Love and Respect from Russia ❤

[@waterbabe759]

This is correct thankyou Dr Yeomans.

[@ronniesal7436]

I believe that the people who get to find a clinician or therapist like this doctor are very lucky. I have never been that lucky. I got diagnosed with BPD after two adult very traumatic "moments", and after an knitial diagnose of schizophrenia, just because I reported malignant psychological abuse in my laboral space. All my therapist did was beguilting me and ghosting. Even worse he shared personal information of mine with gjird parties, violating all confidentiality rules. And the psychiatrist took me, but with a great deal of concern not even allowing sesions in his office, only online!

[@wendi2819]

I'm so sorry this mistreatment happened. Please know this says nothing about you but alot about people you had turned to for help. I hope you found some good support.

[@AM-cf6fx]

Yes sometimes you can go through the urge without acting on it but not in distressful times

[@sabelafidalgo3023]

Thank you

[@katladyfromtheNetherlands]

there is a difference between coddling and responsability. Nobody lacks any selfcontrol.

[@TomeRodrigo]

Have someone tried to scan borderline brains, especially the prefrontal cortex and orbitofrontal cortex? There is definitely a problem to control impulses and these parts of the brain are responsible for impulse control I believe so. Also, have someone compared the brains of strong addicts and borderlines? Are there any similarities in the brain matter in certain parts that are responsible for impulse control? Of course, borderline can start to learn to control very strong impulses, they just need to believe it that there is a chance to do it. Slowly slowly the neocortex will take over the reptilian and emotional brain turmoil which created its own entities.

[@revathysarath2617]

Iam bpd patient help me to get rid of it plsss its killing me

[@harlequin75]

Do you have any videos or links to resources that can help loved ones learn to work with individuals with BPD?

[@alady2you62]

@ Meloo olo, I believe the question harlequin75 was asking was directed at Amanda Wang, the person who posted this video. Just sayin...

[@reaseAable]

Right on the mark...I have to cope with these types who have chose to use this method of dealing with life, and I start with my belief that they can exercise self-control and just need to try, step by step. Also when they see they cannot get the response they want from me, they leave me alone

[@noctemaeternam8376]

So sad; while maybe not zero on all things; some moments are zero. Wish he would have addressed how we are misjudged as all being hateful abusers :/ bah

[@takebackyourlife3852]

for me the lack of control is sometimes eating and masturbation :(

[@hashirfazal4256]

Yes but the thing is my passion

[@kerryevans7793]

I got the label an completly freaked out almost psycosis i think for 11 months complet utter anxiety guilt deppression shame shell of myself i was frighterned to death of words bpd . For some reason i googled it an first thing i seen is women with bpd drown kids in bath oh no fucken hell . I joined fb group they were showing photos of self harm . One women said she felt like just listerning to the voices omg . Then being as anxious as i was i started to think my intrusive thoughts were voices . Bloody psyc told me i could slip into psycosis an see or hear things . He said my fears were dellousions . I felt totally out controll had to make my husband leave his job to be with me 24/7to protect me from me . The psyc eventually called me eupt . Which again made me question myself second 3rd 4th guess myself check in on every emiotion wondering if its normal or not or unstable . The fact i suffer from what ifs what if i hear a voice what if i hurt someone i love . Fact he called me eupt made me feel 100 worse . I kept asking why u calling me it . But his reply was what served e well when young dosnt now . Previous past 20 years . Ive had anxiety Panic dissorder Pnd Tsd Ocd . Now this man see me for 3 half hours asked 2 questions do i ever what to be anybody else . An what mh has my mum got . Well he calls me bpd . Im only just starting to step out the darkness from trauma he causes .and feel bit more like me . Even if i had it i need to remember im still me . And 3 silobilis or 4 .wont make me into a mass murder or lunatic

[@hashirfazal4256]

Yur honest

[@nefelibata4190]

a bpd patient just said symtoms mostly gets worse wirh age??

[@nefelibata4190]

with*

[@theRealCrazyOne]

For that individual, it may be true, but for the group of people with BPD, on average, symptoms tend to mellow out with age.

[@bebeezra]

Symptoms morph. Some get worst. Some improve. The greatest advantage of age is understanding & insight into the condition. That alone is half the battle.

[@le_th_]

They need to grow up...stop parentifying those around them...stop expecting others to take care of them and ADULT at the age-appropriate level they should be at in life. People with BPD want a perfect-parent. They need to become their own parent and stop projecting that demand onto others.

[@guyphilbert598]

In other words, if you love the people you are abusing, you'll at least try.

[@user-vm1qr5cv9i]

:D

[@hashirfazal4256]

Islam

[@ST-yc7uj]

Full of sociopaths and narcissists and borderlines

[@annekerotterdam7499]

Fraude!