This is What a Narcissist gets by leaving you Hanging

[@narcabusecoach]

Here is the link to all my best resources: beacons.ai/narcabusecoach/

[@traceywilliams5427]

True story I need help

[@rocksolid6494]

They leave you hanging when you need them, but bother you when you want to be left alone.

[@Tom-ig3li]

I was constantly told I was an over thinker. So much so I started to believe it. I called myself an over-thinker! They don’t want you to think too much because eventually you will figure out their BS like I did.

[@farhanah2244]

Thank you for this perspective!!

[@karlippo]

Same! He always said you think too much! Stop it and snapped his fingers…

[@debbievoss3496]

It's an old therapist's defense to ask a patient/client if they think they "overthink" things? It's just a ploy to unload their incompetence.

[@ugotnorizzgg]

THIS.

[@solidcatink]

This is EXACTLY what happened to me. I had never seen anything like it. Spent years studying, questioning, feeling extreme emotional pain. Never again! Danish, you are an amazing teacher, and I thank you!

[@basantidevi8185]

My ex narcissist husband had a very interesting way of dodging questions. I never ever got a question answered and was always kept in the dark. If at all if he answered it was deflected in such a way that the result was utter confusion. At that time I did not suspect that it was intentional. Now I can see through the sinister game plan.

[@marilynwhite2155]

You have an amazing ability to explain the narcissist in very clear terms. Every point you make is an " OMG " moment for me. You have made me see the light long after I had years of being with a narcissist and made me realise that I was not the crazy one. You have pinpointed every little detail about him. Thank you

[@lennie1703]

Oh my God, that is a chilling thought. I hadn't thought they were so deliberate and brutally precise in their cruelty. Nothing random or emotionally lashing out, as I had thought. That's why I excused them a thousand times.

[@MaryDunford]

Same. After finally recognizing the difference between knee-jerk reactions, and deliberate attempts to harm, appropriate responses make themselves apparent. It gets better. Their weapons are all dependent on others' lack of knowledge/ understanding.

[@larosavaladez.712]

I would spend just about all day everyday over thinking, thinking of ways I could catch or get proof of any thing but I went crazy knowing I had no way to because I was having trouble explaining to myself why and how I was feeling the way I was. Well I knew why but I had no exact details that seemed to make much sense to myself how can I even find anyone to try telling. I was/am going crazy all by myself. Everyday I don't ever get anything done and I'm so behind on everything possible and I canT find the time or energy to do any thing productive. I really want to do a lot of things but can't get any thing done. He is gone all day but seems to come home when ever I leave and how he knows when I leave the house is my question.. say I come home to the smell of fresh food just cooked amd a dirty plate in the sink and crumbs here and there in the kitchen but he says I'm crazy he never was at the house.. Some times I come home and he's running off back to work. Idk why things r always dug into and or things r down to the house that he says he never did and he knows nothing about but he never responds in a calm voice its always instantly defensive and agressive..

[@DeenanTheKemon1]

Same. I had been convinced she had "severe depression", when in reality she was just emotionally abusing me and robbing the light from the sun in my life on purpose.

[@paulnesbitt5665]

I won't be treated like this another day.no more.

[@dianaalyssa8726]

Feel like I was breadcrumbed in the past, to keep entangled.

[@Petra-r1c]

"There is no one at Home" 😊 I love this one ❤❤❤

[@lindadebenedetti5710]

So true and the damage is so severe. It's hard to believe that someone can be so cruel and unfeeling.

[@friendsfurrever3221]

Whenever I tell people about narcissistic, they don't understand, no one has even heard this word.

[@1Snow1132]

Bring it out.Tell them up you know.😊

[@BillieFitzgerald-gr5tj]

I totally have that same problem it is lonely I can't explain my pain to people even if I try they just don't get it I suffer in silence

[@one1nderer]

Thank you! That helps tremendously! It IS hard to move on, but after all I've been through with her, I don't see things being "fixed" to where I will ever have any peace from the wondering, worrying and rejections. Being alone is far better than the alternative cycle.

[@taraarrington2285]

❤ this is how I feel about my mom. I'm so over her crazy making

[@alimccreery755]

If no ones home then let’s not knock on the door 😂😂😂😂

[@1Snow1132]

L.O.L I KNOW.THEM ULGY BIRDS.😅

[@carlaephraimprincess302]

I was in a relationship with one for thirteen years.. he cheated on me with a co worker that's married. And blamed me for everything that has happened.. when it comes to communication strictly about our kid. He still brings up things and the past and blames me why he did what he did. I'm happy I'm away from him but slowly picking up the pieces... I never knew how severe my situation was until I left him and reflected and look up narcissistic characteristics and discovered that I was in a relationship with one.. I thank God I was set free. God saw something in that man that I didn't . So I was set Free From him me and my son.

[@stargazer3887]

Wish you happiness, for you and your son! Be bold, stay safe!

[@carlaephraimprincess302]

@@stargazer3887 thank you!!

[@dianevitale1214]

The "mechanics" of this M.O. so well explained. I got this for 10 agonizing years. I cowered stuffing all inside. So is how he kept me on a string all those years. EVIL monster.

[@ladyvirgo013]

I thought i was in a marriage for 12 years but his brutal discard showed me exactly what he truly is....a malicious monster. So devastating

[@hkaurbagga7895]

When we are not willing to ask questions..or you can say we dont need any clarity..in other words we are not playing their games...they can never win...game over...

[@Jess-kn8vl]

Great point!

[@taraarrington2285]

Yeah the thing is they expect you to care but I just don't like to play these never-ending game so I really don't care

[@hkaurbagga7895]

@@taraarrington2285 just be emotionally numb..there condition would be like hitting their head against a wall..n bleeding..They make your heart bleeding ..now this is their turn to bleed..

[@taraarrington2285]

@@hkaurbagga7895 well in a lot of ways I don't really feel like there's anything more that these people could possibly do to me so I don't really care anymore honestly

[@hkaurbagga7895]

@@taraarrington2285 when nothing affects you..that is the day when you win... many many well wishes for your journey..go ehead..get success ..happiness..n live a good life..blessings ...

[@MzGumby02]

The car rides, and very important tasks...omg...they sabotage everything. I remember my NM trying to leave me on the interstate in Texas for her raging at me in the car. She's raged at me ever since I was a child. The car rides were always the worst, and she'd say I was ungrateful and disrespectful. I just got to an age where I was standing up to her abuse, and that infuriated her. The police, and court system was also weaponized against me. I've still yet to see a video about that issue.

[@LoveSource1111]

This is so true. Now, I'm stronger. When I have my baby, I can teach her things I never learned when I was young about "certain" personality types.

[@sitascott8446]

A new interpretation of the word, "amazing." When we had just gotten married, I remember telling his mother that I thought he was "amazing."

[@eleonorabartoli2225]

This needs to be taught in schools as part of relationship abuse prevention.

[@izawaniek2568]

This is so true. If you want to reclaim your peace , you have to leave the narcisistic maze. Thank you

[@alimccreery755]

I’ve learned what’s called indifference to their actions and what ever 👍

[@almawarner9325]

So true thank you for Passing it on the one Survival technique that Works. ❤❤❤

[@beauthentic7493]

Amazing explanation......My boss is just like this. People have actually died because of her. This evil is REAL....thankyou for your work Danish❤️

[@ilsellamas]

I picked up on a drug addiction being with my ex I found myself all alone fighting the addiction to this type of drug and now I’m cutting the addiction of the narcissistic ex! Family tells me I’m starting to look alive again 🤗

[@gigiarmany]

Gods strength to you👍🏾❤️⭐

[@jasminkaur9030]

Was it cocaine?

[@Itzanunnya2019]

Meth use/abuse MANIFESTS the personality traits!! Paranoia, delusions, etc, it's so creepy to watch GAP dismantle himself...... sad.

[@narelleking9040]

This resonates and helps so much to hear it explained like this. Thank you

[@anneofgreengables1619]

The maze analogy is spot-on. You find yourself going round and round in a loop, nothing is ever resolved. It's like being stuck in crazy town!

[@llkellenba]

Love the “see you soon” “we’ll have to….” “let’s get together” etc etc etc. absolutely REFUSING to commit to a specific date, time, place. Any attempt to arrange specifics is met with word salad confusion talk about their convoluted schedules OR with radio silence. If I don’t respond often get some message around why I didn’t communicate or general excuses about how busy they or sick or whatever lame reason they’ve not shown up. I just refuse to play but it’s still frustrating and messy plus pretty exhausting even attempting to avoid their games and mess.

[@anisabutler9021]

Thank you Danish U are 100 % correct

[@nemani3]

Danish, you captured it all so perfectly with your word pictures... It hurts, but it's all true. Thank you for posting!!! 🙏🏻

[@susanfromthemountains1754]

Yes, this is exactly how it is. Thank you for your help.

[@kayinatkidunya]

I just want to say may ALLAH bless you danish ALLAH Apko Zariya banaye Aisy Hazaron Logoon Say Mushkilen Door Kerny Ka Narcissistic Abuse Is The Worst Kind Of Abuse Ever It Leaves People Broken Hurt Confused Physically Mentally Drained Scared For Ever GodBless You😢❤

[@dannyyorri2345]

Thanks!

[@GeridaMoolman]

I am eternally grateful for your videos - 2 years of intense suffering under a textbook narcisist . God bless you and everyone who went through THIS HELL.

[@ginaalesha2]

Danish, since you are making us aware of their dark tactics, they no longer have the power over us! Thank you so much!❤

[@ryanunderwood5465]

A narcissist gets a reservation to the deepest, darkest, depths of the ETERNAL PIT OF HELL! Hope it was worth it✌️❤️

[@ryanunderwood5465]

Reserved and Sealed! I promise you, watch carefully 😇

[@almawarner9325]

Your the only one that has explained the situation so I could Understand it. Thank You so very much. 😂you helped me save my Sanity. No one is doing Like you. ❤❌💯

[@sawdustadikt979]

This was constant from my mother and father as well as other family members. As I got to the point of being able to predict it with certainty, I also could see the intentionality of them doing things to positively reward me for coming in closer to them. What really gets me was the amount of effort expended in this on their end, towards me to hurt me, but zero effort taken to do a damn thing positive, for themselves or anyone else. You articulated the methodology of abandonment in its many forms, used like a tool for sake manipulation, usually for mere vanity. I see it more in my interactions with people all the time now. My guard goes up on the rare occasion someone wants to “help” or do something “nice”. It makes me so sad to have to think, what are they really up to? Is this what it appears to be? Are they knowingly doing this with a unwritten contract that they will expect me to uphold when they spring it on me at their convenience or are they blind to their own actions?

[@Greenwings701]

Yes, if you're hesitating to accept a favor, treating at dinner, etc., go with the hesitation.

[@joannahuc1318]

I stopped believing empty promises from my family of origin long time ago. I don’t buy into their BS any more. Now, they need me more than I need them. Oh well. They better find another sucker. Thank you for all your work.

[@Hopper11]

You are awesome Danish. I love the way you explain things.. It is enlightening and saving my life. Thank you

[@kalkhan816]

This was amazing explanation, I hope so many people get this, thanks for sharing this video

[@leticiamilo4387]

Thanks Danish!❤⚘ Learning with your videos!😊

[@P4melaMasters]

It's funny as now I'm aware of such behaviours it's so easy to see. After a few calls or interactions I can see them now. Watch out because they realise people are getting clued up. So out of the blue,they will say that they are an Empath. They will say it multiple times

[@rosagoglia4649]

Thank you for exposure and clarity, because I I could have written a book about, myself!

[@juanitoloc9378]

Thank you. I had my Narc baby momma not show up with my baby. Didn't answer my calls then a few days later saying ain't nobody thinking about you. Knowing it was my birthday.

[@leviwhite3553]

The only true way of leaving and staying gone is actually doing it and sticking to it. No amount of videos or people telling you otherwise will help in the end. It comes from within yourself and your resistance to yourself.

[@AnaSilva-to1sy]

the only way to deal with a Narcissist is to put God first in your life, and to know that impossible things are God specialty, the Bible says: Great peace have they, and nothing shall offend them

[@hetalsandeepjst3814]

Danish sir your words are more clear and pure, but ur intense are much more pureer n deeper.. ur tone itself reveals of saving thousands of lives now from your videoes..lots n lots of blessing to you sir!!! God bless you!!!

[@siber1297]

God bring your explanation in my life,....you help me so , so much. I m so grateful for your teachings Danish . Thank you !

[@scleo1959]

Great video, Danish. So many helpful points in this one. Always like your work. Thank you.

[@princesscarlet1]

Thank you . Spot on as always!

[@rapstar4575]

End the relationship. Only way to win ❤

[@friendsfurrever3221]

So great Danish!!!your observation is very very good

[@Joyfulsurviver]

Great video❤

[@jennyc153]

Your amazing Danish! I have learned so much from your videos. God put you in your abusive family for a reason. You are helping so many people with all you have learned in life. Thankful for you. I pray you are abundantly blessed. 🙏

[@user-vo4fw4ok3b]

Thanks a lot Danish. You keep on clearing our ambiguities in the relationship the moment we get entrapped again in the abusive cycle.

[@LoveSource1111]

Love your videos!

[@sbabitha]

Thank you for ur amazing explanation from your words I am recovering from a nasistic person god have send u to recover people from NPD

[@kathleen6088]

Best description of the left hanging dynamic I have heard or coined.

[@quimninja]

Well explained! ❤

[@EvaCFricke]

They want you to chase them only to get nothing at the end of it. Wow. So cruel.

[@sindhugireesan5515]

Years before I stopped asking about anything to my narc,and he used it very well,now from the videos I know what was that

[@MohitSharms-k8u]

I am always terrified of the thought whether am I a narcissist.

[@mizkaponi4853]

Its getting bad out here when it come to ppl. Its like, u can tell the difference between the ppl that's tryna grow and humble themselves and the "others" 😒 and you are spot on as usual danish!

[@michelleelfazzate178]

Danish without your channel I'm not sure what would of happened to me,my doctor referred me to mental health in which I have to wait 1 year and now I know I am not mental I am 2 months on from him and very slowly getting better he has also been arrested by the police on bail for stalking when I finished with him,I now have to make myself very strong if it goes to court and I have to face him

[@michelleelfazzate178]

@@jbrown2908 thank you 🥰

[@pepperjonesugoChristian]

Thanks, Danish, for the resources link. Your information is so helpful that I’ve printed and shared.

[@ugotnorizzgg]

This video opened my eyes. Now I feel very confident about myself. Thank you so much for saving my time, if it was not this video I would have thought I was the wrong one all this time. THANK YOU SO MUCH. I AM CONVINCED MY ANGELS BROUGHT ME HERE.

[@yvettemprimus8665]

❤THAT WAS AWESOME DANISH ❤GREAT VIDEO ❤WELL DONE

[@friendsfurrever3221]

Yes I am confused Manu times in my relationship 😢

[@kkkidslearning701]

Excellent videos 200% relatable I m a mother of four need more advises....

[@joycealphonso3402]

So peaceful advice. I have seen so many videos on narcissist behaviour and it is good, but your videos are just superb, there's so much of clarity in your talking, straight from your heart and it's so real. God bless you DB

[@reikilady771]

You are the best Danish! I appreciate all your videos!

[@JRStar-t3e]

Danish, the way you deliver the information is so easy to understand and very absorbable. Thank you so much for your channel. You have helped me immensely 🙏

[@HectorKom-cg5if]

Thank you bashir. You are kind wise and your devotion to help your subscriber are always entertaining.

[@briannaholmes5728]

Got up this morning with these questions, and they were just answered. Currently going through this as I'm typing this. Great video!

[@DanOperiano-ei7ni]

Very informative !

[@anitapushkarna5032]

So true Amazing

[@arungautam3454]

Hi Danish. Your videos give me so much power. I am in a three month relationship. The girl turned out to be every word you say. But thankfully I came across your videos and I am able to cope up.

[@nandini2999]

Thank god for danish.

[@kateroth7154]

This is a great video.

[@Namanknocks]

Your videos are so deep. Ankho me aansu aa gaye😭

[@ryanunderwood5465]

LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL!

[@ryanunderwood5465]

True love is not a game.

[@lisacarr5889]

This is my life and I’m filled w anger

[@lisacarr5889]

@@jbrown2908 will be soon but can’t yet due to economic and work constraints

[@terriarnold4364]

Thank Danish,for sharing important information.🙏

[@anithag161]

I would say in 1 sentence you are my Angel

[@friendsfurrever3221]

Yes,they are like that

[@gouthamisirigiri3293]

Thankyou

[@narcabusecoach]

Welcome

[@msnorway79]

So people in normal relationship dont act like that ? I feel so unsure of whats ok and not😢

[@annekerotterdam7499]

A personality disorder is not normal.

[@marianmorrisseyridiculous2900]

😢

[@kaja231]

So great video, thanks

[@jijimol6935]

Thank u sir💐 my exit window is open . Your video is very clearly understand.iam waiting for next vedio❤

[@yetibluedog]

The irony of being raised with both N parents, I didnt get to expand beyond their control. I like the insight to why, I find it horrible at the same time. 🤷‍♀ What am I meant to do with this information. I feel defeated, Im left looking for a point to my endurance. Im in my mid 50's, no husband, no children, there isnt a place for me in society. Was it all for nothing 🤔🤷‍♀

[@minefirst]

Thank you

[@friendsfurrever3221]

How could I prove to others ,this type of persons are rare, people are not aware about these traits of natciscism

[@kkkidslearning701]

Being a mother of four and having a partner like it... What should be the next approach for me to save my kids from such a toxic disease?

[@annekerotterdam7499]

leave!

[@marianmorrisseyridiculous2900]

Get out, they are already damaged

[@bronwynsimons7028]

Thank you again Danesh for your invaluable input , as always Since I've discovered what I'm dealing with, I don't ask why anymore 📌 But while I was ignorant about narcissm I always asked him Why Why do you hurt me so bad and so often Why do you do what you do so easily, without blinking and without remorse Why Why Why...? And if I was lucky I'd get "I dunno" All the other times A blank stare or stonewalling and zero response for weeks,mor even months, if need be Until I just start being nice to him again, to end the Ice cold silence That's mostly been my "kept hanging" Status More often than I'd like to remember But with all the knowledge I've gained these past few months I need no more explanations, while I plan my exit I know what I'm dealing with now My great escape is in progress... if he doesn't discard me before that happens?

[@maryharris7828]

Hi Danish,there are tons of people living in Apartment buildings.Can you talk about narc are here too,& tell people the games they play(landlords/tenants). We can't just KEEP running & moving($).Thank you!

[@HuricaneChampagne]

❤

[@Chamsmad]

👏👏👏

[@jayashreethakkar7783]

Danish Sir I humbly request please make few videos on thoughts and what narcissists go through when they are left alone or abandoned by victims or not satisfied with new supplies or wife / husband...they might have some attachments to atleast 1 victim among the many do they miss that person?? Do they try to reclaim them... Please🙏🏻