Narcissism: Evil In Action

Narcissism: Evil In Action

[@jasonuren3479]

Remind me to do a video on this. Overcoming anger after narcissistic abuse. External and internal potency.

[@TraumaPunksMamiMusic]

To overcome that anger it took me 3x the time the relationship itself lasted! Imagine this equasion with your mum or nan or dad or sis!... But I write this with a big smile nowadays and still working on properly loving myself and overcome self-love-deficit-disorder. Type 1 if you're with me, lol. ;) xoxo

[@SherryG370]

I'm working on "the anger" I have from 2 narcs damage. I had to give my anger to God. My anger included...hiring hookers, drugging and robbing. Lol true story. Sooo im learning how to cope.❤😮😊

[@RoseMary-gl4ee]

@@TraumaPunksMamiMusic 1

[@bewarefalsenonprofits]

The upside of anger is it gives you the energy to change. ⤴️

[@maureenbanks3702]

Anger prompts change. When the pain exceeds the payoff, we take action.

[@lorihall4018]

They ruin family relationships. I can't begin to say how destructive they are, It's devastating.

[@michelleknapp9176]

Being with a narcissist is def being with sheer evil. Anyone that purposely hurts you is EVIL. Simple as that

[@palapalak.8907]

Fact!

[@sadboi7537]

100%. It’s deviously deranged behavior. I experienced it first hand and am still working through the trauma from it.

[@Lizziethistle66]

I absolutely agree! After 38 yrs, my paramedic ex knows my chronic asthma, eczema, spinal injuries due to years of gymnastics and karate etc and before I got the police to him, woke me up and told me I'd done it now. I was going to come to a sad end and he'd make sure. Put off of the property, he has his new woman, health to work (I became too ill to work so he left me) and he won't help me pack all of the stuff in the house, knows I can't lift a coffee cup with left side, can't move scaffold or timber. My 2 yr divorce is up 2.8.24 and then he's taken so long to answer lawyers and ignore me that the judge can now put me out. Hes been an adulterer, controlled my teachers wages, holidayed eith other women the whole marriage. Ive lost everything and I'm attending the psych hospital for counselling. A rotten vile person. I'm glad I've lost him but he's bad! Damaged from childhood. He's like a child throwing the Teddy out and everything Richard has said -and he doesn't even know me- is true....they get much worse toward you when they end it with you. You're right. It's not normal fir someone to want to be so cruel.

[@hettykoster9447]

So true !! Evil in action !

[@123sanoon]

And enjoy it especially those who are the opposite of it 😢

[@more444store6]

They falsely accuse you, and then punish you.

[@dawnsites4232]

Yes, my son is going through this right now. It is the first time he has experienced evil and he is still in fright or flight mode for a few weeks. We realized she had planned these false accusations for a long while with the assistance of her family. The only thing he is guilty of is being too nice of a guy. We tried to warn him because we could see her Jezebel spirit from the beginning. She could care less about the harm she is causing anyone, especially their children. Hopefully, good will overcome evil and the courts will realize the truth. Please pray for him and their young children.

[@MM-kt4is]

​@@dawnsites4232🙏 May your son see the light and escape from the clutches of this evil woman.

[@SuzzannMacleod]

When my mother got Alzheimer's, my brother proceeded to slander my good name & hard won respect amongst my uncles, aunts & cousins (derived from my "misspent youth" told local police I was crazy, ( in a small town where I live & work) he had been sullying my name by telling b.s. lies thru my mothers latter years as well as general disrespect, denial of FACTS & outrageous reversals of TRUTH'S( in front of my only son.)..he laid this " bedrock of bullshit" as the foundation for his ultimate sister/brother betrayal ...so that when he & his c___ wife(a family law lawyer) suddenly replaced my mom's actual will & wishes w/ a fabricated one that...(Shocker!)..cut me off entirely...effectively embezzling her entire estate..he won't even give me some of the family photos or my personal property that he was storing for me...he lives in a LG. Beautiful home worth millions in the redwoods, near the beach ,& he & wife drive matching lux sports cars & regularily Do spendy vaycays in Hawaii... Meanwhile after losing many friends,fam. Fiance's, my dogs & my home I now live in a dust bowl on BLM Land in the desert w/ no elect./h20)a/c or enuff food or $ for gas,dmv fees, ins. While my stuffs rots in storage in contrast I had his back,dealt w/ his flaky girlfriends, lawyers, our mom & dad,, his customers, partners, roommates etc... & basically put my life & budding career on hold so I could do his bidding fly to his side for hearings out of state& many other tasks...I was the ONLY one who was there for him 24/7 while he spent 7&1/2 years in 3 prisons in 2 countries when he got out he said i was the only one in the world that he trusted..&that i was the only one who paid him back ...& That he'd always, in turn, have MY back always...(He failed to mention he'd have a dagger in it!)...🔪🪱😠🔪🔪🔪

[@theresahuk-vallarino6100]

@@dawnsites4232blessings and prayers for an earnest and just resolution. God is an inside job. Always ask for support as you are doing here. I am making strides in my lifelong trauma-induced dealings that keep me in my healing mode as well as helping others to take care as they heal themselves from deep hurts. God be with you and your family through it all. ❤🎚️🙏🏾

[@theresahuk-vallarino6100]

There is definitely lots of self-work ahead and it is all worth it. You can have OFF days, weeks, however with months you should seek guidance. An example is sleeping throughout the day. Activities and exercise help to increase serotonin levels. Nutrition is very important (I discovered this early in life through childhood PTSD: extended family manipulation, sibling physical and mental disabilities. Parent PTSD and their family abuse growing has spilled over to intergenerational trauma. Being more love into your love through deeds and acts. The child within is starving for love. As you help yourself, you are in better condition to live in self-respect and are independent in your sense of direction and purpose. Please try different approaches to find out what works for you. For me an eclectic approach by tapping into nutrition, creative pursuits to develop skills has made all the difference. Live your passion as you grow. Laugh, love and live your best life! ❤🎉🎚️🙏🏾🤣🎁🧸🎈

[@evgeniamartinova2866]

If you found this guy today and you are binge watching his work thumbs up this comment 😢😮🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Lion-rf8xi]

It's too much to try and figure out makes my head hurt to try and think like they do.

[@tempestous-i3k]

@@Lion-rf8xi but once you are in a place to figure it all out you can put thst aside and start working out what you need to fix your bad brain and fancy new corrupted programming. That's where I am now. Won't say its easy but you learn what they are, why and how, and you can stop thinking about that stuff. I do think it's important to get the number of the truck that hit you as long you don't stay there and get stuck thinking about it. Part of what is lonely-making is that no one will get it and you know why, they behave snd think so ass backward to those of us who aren't twisted like that. That said I needed to understand also because I came out of it fractured and a bit narccy, a thing I came to understand from Mr Grannon. Was healing but like a broken bone not set.

[@jacquelinegarvie800]

The narcissist detests self confidence in another

[@Positively46]

100%

[@ChristineMeyer-hs9rg]

They detest laughter joy and happiness too - any positive emotions has to be snuffed out.

[@user-co5yp2jr8n]

They are sad weak children in adult body.

[@mightymouse1005]

ACUALLY, they LOVE a self confident person because it's a challenge to strip them of it.....

[@mightymouse1005]

​@@ChristineMeyer-hs9rgthey love the challenge of taking a happy, laughing and confident person so they set the goals of stripping them of it.... I was very happy, confident, always dancing and singing before the narcissist. I think they're drawn to that joy because they never had it....but, because they're incapable of real joy and confidence, they quickly dispise it and have to destroy it in you.....I never had confidence issues. I'm not particularly special but was comfortable with myself regardless....

[@MarciaSantos-ox1fk]

I hope someone reads this. Your entire LIFE will (not may) be destroyed if you enter into, and remain, in any relationship with a Narcissist. When my ex-narc’s mask fell off on New Year’s Eve, my life totally changed and the abuse intensified 100 fold. I made the tragic mistake of taking him back after a tearful apology. It got worse. He strangled me and almost killed me. 4 weeks later he trashed my house after I told him the relationship was over. He refused to leave my house so I called the cops to take him out. I haven’t seen or heard from him since. I blocked him all around and cut off all possible lines of communication. It has taken me MONTHS to heal, and I was almost in financial ruin bc of him. Take head, the narc’s primary goal is to destroy you. Stay strong and don’t let them win this spiritual warfare. Thank god I was strong enough to rescue myself and get out of this massively toxic and dangerous situation.

[@Lizziethistle66]

Thank you so much fir posting this. I am not happy you've gone through what you have but it's good to know that our experiences...from miles apart from each other, are very similar

[@lggig534]

What a horrible lesson to learn. Heartbreaking 💔!!! It took me a threat of my life too, and I, and my kids ran for our lives at the end.

[@cathleenburton-noble418]

Eventually my soon to-be-ex husband tried to shove me from a moving car, because I wouldn't put his name on my home. GET OUT!

[@BNyaB]

😳😳😳​@@cathleenburton-noble418

[@SherryG370]

Im with ya girl....I almost lost my life. Hands around my throat, looking me in the eyes...saying, "you're going to die today bitch".

[@justinebrink4056]

It definitely triggered a mothering instinct in me which made it much more difficult to leave

[@jackiepowell7513]

Having no kids, the nurturing nature is a detriment. I channel to working in helping field.

[@ladyvirgo013]

Me too but I've been free for almost a year

[@steadypace1262]

Narcissist's encourage you into having a mothering instinct so they can turn around and punish you for that. Narcissists are emotionally immature and you can feel like you have a juvenile delinquent on your hands.🤷‍♀️

[@ladyvirgo013]

@@steadypace1262 so true

[@justinebrink4056]

@@steadypace1262 Oh yes, I know all about that. Spent 2 years with a delinquent of that nature. In my honest opinion I also believe they have a spiritual issue.

[@Schquirl]

4:30 There is no choice. Evil is evil. It is right to leave. It is my duty. THANK YOU 😢

[@rozalina531]

Amen 💕 🙏🏻 💕

[@CaliDreaming98]

Amen..."you can know evil by its effects." ❤

[@user-hk3hm8om3m]

Don’t know how I’ve made it to 70 with 50+ years having been married to a Narcissist. Living is hard. But have refound the truth💖

[@1001Stars]

congratulations🎉 You have come so far! I am also grateful to have realized the truth about my marriage to a narsasist

[@christinedriscoll6425]

I am 67. I'm literally going crazy trying to stay No Contact from my ex. I don't know how I'm going to cope with this. Are you still with your narcissist?

[@user-hk3hm8om3m]

@@christinedriscoll6425 no. I left him a year ago. I can’t go no contact. We have children and grandchildren together. Or finances are so in twined and we own multiple properties together that we need to keep repaired until they can be sold. I also have great health insurance and am getting one paycheck of his per month. We go back and forth on divorce but I’d like to hold off until he retires because of benefits. He’s had a woman for two years. I just hate trying to deal with him and around her. It will be over someday. Try to Yellow rock him Pleasant but no more information about my life than possible

[@1001Stars]

@christinedriscoll6425 We were separated for several years but I wanted to see my kids again and accepted his promise that we would see a therapist.. but it was a lie and he is even more abusive than before when I left him If you are separated, you don't know how lucky you are. The struggles of being alone are are a blessing compared to living with the narc. Just remember to love yourself and do all the things that make you happy every day. Spend time outdoors every day also listen to the music that makes you happy. Sending you loving hugs

[@1001Stars]

@christinedriscoll6425 1 more important thing.. if the narcissist is harassing you, tell them that you have had enough and email you only. I had to do that because he would call me every day and yell at me. It was the most beautiful thing to ignore all calls and finally have some peace

[@claudiasbarra1044]

Thank you Richard, I completely agree with all that. How couldn't I see that it began with " he must be my soulmade, such a gift from God " and it ended in becoming a hobby psychologist in personality disorders and trauma release

[@CH-in8dm]

Perfectly said 👏

[@yvonneb-t3d]

I did the exact same thing.

[@claudiasbarra1044]

@@yvonneb-t3d like Richard said:" they want us to feel like if they were our soulmade .It's part of the abuse .They made us drunk with fake love ,they hypnotised us. Without believing that....they have no chance to devalue abd torture us later. This is pure evil. I wish you much courage and real love. I wish you that you can feel you worth they stole from you. You deserve so much better. 💞💙❤️

[@yvonneb-t3d]

@@claudiasbarra1044 it's been 4 years this month since he left. I still watch Richard to learn and heal.

[@claudiasbarra1044]

​@@yvonneb-t3d you are doing good. Richard has really a lot of very helpful and good courses....and his coaches are super. I found him and his courses after I made a terrible decision looking desperately for help and chose a german specialist coach for victims of narcisstic abuse and she was a narcissist too. I was so traumabonded to her. Then I have lost my trust again. But I had to heal ,so I found Richard and his course "breaking the Traumabond" really saved my life....with the cptsd course (how to manage flashbacks )I began with this 2 courses. I wish you so much good in your life and the courage, the consistency, the intent to love yourself enough to heal yourself. You are worthy.

[@janinejansevanvuuren7954]

The worst part is that they mess with your head and you end up being so defeated that you can't see a way out because you can't think logically. You are also so disempowered and guilt ridden and your confidence has been eroded so much that you simply don't think that you will be able to leave. 10 years in narc marriage and 15 years in mega toxic workplace with narcs. Eventually escaped from both but it took YEARS to find the courage to leave and even longer to get to a place of healing where I can start seeing the sunshine again.

[@mightymouse1005]

On average, it take 7 attempts to leave.....it doesn't matter how long it takes or how many times you try.....it matters that you Got OUT......awesome job and I respect your strength

[@INFJ-Ray]

I outright refuse to accept their disagreeable ways & will always completely ignore them...

[@gigiarmany4332]

Amen

[@mightymouse1005]

Hey, im an INFJ as well

[@INFJ-Ray]

@@mightymouse1005 Hi buddy, haha that's cool! 😎 we are rare

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

I could literally listen to this man speak all day. He has the most calming voice on the planet.

[@juliechurley2716]

Yes! He manages to soothe you while telling the brutal truth

[@mandymckeown8625]

Having a narcissistic mother who is a monster and going no contact I was left with an anxiety disorder . I now maintain healthy boundaries . And my motto is if someone makes you feel bad stay away from them period .recognising the red flags early on is important and get to know people really well in all situations will help you . Put yourself first .

[@MissTRayne]

Had a breakdown over isolation and gaslighting. The utter loneliness of being alone with him; the emotional / mental abuse almost destroyed me. Finally- I can leave in 178 days. Counting down the days. The prospect of a healthy escape- not the self destructive escape I’ve lived for too long- keeps me somewhat sane. I did stupid things to emotionally survive. I thought if I made myself stupider -literally-by doing things I won’t say, I could endure. Lost my identity. Became a ghost to myself. Invisible. 😢 I’m not special. There is nothing but pain NOTHING BUT PAIN in a toxic relationship. Thank you Richard. You have been my only friend in the darkest of days these past few years. I have taken your courses and found my feet to stand up on -and walk away. 178 days. I hope to see everyone on the road to freedom.

[@nadegenazaire4356]

How many have you trapped and enslaved abroad before seeing them on the freedom road ? Let me guess. Can't be the same profile as those that were only poor on surface. Have to be the real ones.

[@jacquelinegarvie800]

The narcissist doesn't have the natural gift of caring and sharing. Everyone is a potential threat and they defend themselves to the bitter end.

[@mtsb557]

You need not care and share to be a worthy human being. Not hurting others out of selfish reasons or carelessness is enough. ❤

[@HamletsMill1969]

Richard, listen, “they will be known by their fruits.” You’ve been teaching us for a long simultaneously while “healing” your trauma along with us. The gem is “mental clarity” over time. This video is YOUR FRUIT! Your fruit from your hard work daily is by your, all your actions on self-love, taking care to put your attention on YOU. Richard, you’re like a whole ORCHARD OF FRUIT! That’s good video content: our own fruit of mental clarity!! ikr, that’s what we all lost and can now regain !! You did,…brilliantly and we can too!!❤

[@lo-ul8nq]

I been a Christian for over 10 years now, i know my worth and values. I know if someone is in the spirit or not.

[@SweetSweetFireOfLove]

“Just a guy in socks who hasn’t grown up , who is pretty selfish, and a dick”😂💯🤣. 29:40 Spot on hilarious, and TRUE, Richard Grannon.

[@estelled389]

It's been a hell on earth. My God how can one human being do this to another human being. Evil 😈 beyond another level. This man has broken 💔 me. Thank you for this video today 💜 u may have saved my life . Bless you.

[@christineanderson4794]

A good description from Richard to wake us up: "What was the point of having your liver picked out by a hawk forever?" Exactly!! Thank you for today, found it really helpful.

[@markcostley9612]

You stop attracting Narcs when you no longer need to be validated by others

[@jams9705]

Self Love = the loss of codependency

[@keiheaherakiwi1611]

So right once I stopped that, I found independence and began attracting a more respectful man, whom I’ve married, God is good thank you universe

[@MrAlexH1991]

The ironic thing about this comment is that the reason narcs are the way that they are is because they need constant validation.

[@EmberAsh]

​@@MrAlexH1991Well, you'll just have to take this like as I'm giving it regardless. 😊

[@techjunkie68smusicandtech56]

Exactly!

[@eleanormcdonald615]

I have been around this type of evil most of my life. Family members, in my workplace. I think not knowing what it was in my family, I just accepted it as a normalcy. It never felt good but I just accepted that there's something wrong with me as for the reason that I was the "one" their darts were aimed at. In the workplace , I am a NPD magnet it seems. It's draining mentally, having people attack you for no reason. All you're doing is being kind and respectful..What you get in return is ridicule, humiliation,and horrible smear campaigns that make you feel hopeless because you can't defend yourself. People who enjoy inflicting pain on others who has done absolutely nothing wrong to deserve the treatment are pure evil. They set out to destroy your very soul.

[@pandorasullivan777]

Yes, this sounds like my life. My sibling first, then my ex, then my place of work, now my family members ex. They have all stolen great amounts of money, slandered, taken my home, my job, you name it, they are evil to the core. May God Bless you each day to overcome these people. The Bible says ‘we tread on scorpions’. 💪🤺⚔️ Their end is coming.

[@RoseMary-gl4ee]

I’m aware of my attachment to my narcissist. I envy how comfortable he is in his own skin, meanwhile in my childhood I was entirely dissociated because of pain/trauma. I am starved of my need to be seen and upheld This shhh*** hurts, I’ll get out

[@mightymouse1005]

They're not comfortable in their skin, they're very insecure and have to pretend. I'm short and don't have an ideal figure or perfect face, rarely wear makeup or do my hair...my smile is crooked because half my face droops a little and I wear glasses. That's said...im quite comfortable with how I look. I will spend 24/7 with me for my entire life so, it's important to like myself

[@Victoria-gq8gt]

I have free floating anxiety with a Sociopath... yes, he wants me to experience suffering constantly. He's told me this, and that he's going to exact revenge' because I asked one question about finances. The sentence contained about 15 delicately and much thought over words, expressed in a humbled manner. I had to ask the question as it affected my disabled daughters future security. 😢

[@tinafitzpatrick2437]

Your daughter will never have a future security with a narcissist. Yes you will be punished if you ask any questions about finances or anything else. They want to control everything. Don’t ever believe he is thinking about your daughters future financial security. Narcissist only think of them selfs

[@brightstar4321]

Dream the way out.. it takes steel and it takes grit. ~RVG 🥳

[@Somebodysomewheresometime]

13 years of hell - 12 free🎉 lost my home, children, “friends”, life as i knew it. But I’m still here and I’m free and aware! Knowing what we know, it’s impossible not see the govt is doing the same exact things- can’t get away from these demons

[@nadegenazaire4356]

If the govt is doing the same exact thing as you had in your marriage, it is probably because probably they don't want you to loose what you had before, as you wrote, the 13 years of hell, children, home, life as you know it, your friends. Courage, the Bible says "a true friend loves at whatever the time and in the bad time, shows himself o herself as brother or a sister". In my case I can Thank God, I don't have family in the govt cause I would fear they want 13 more hell for me. Thank God !

[@luxsend575]

You are the most sound and clear voice on the topic of NPD recovery. Thank you so much

[@brightstar4321]

Yesterday is but today's memory, and tomorrow is today's dream. ~K. Gibran

[@angelablaney4575]

After 6 months of leaving narc, saw him today for first time since. I just walked past, head held high. He looked totally different. Hair lot longer, a beard, scruffy. So different. Oh well. I loved him good. Strange that i just started feeling quite well, and then there narc was, in my town when he had moved 3 miles away! Love to all survivors here♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@chocolatecookie8571]

He didn´t wanted to be recognized, but he failed 🤣

[@Schquirl]

5:25 me sitting here waiting for him to change and pleading for him to change hasn't worked nor will it. That is enough.

[@sasjayum5168]

I witnessed pure evil in the narcissist I was dealing with I even said something about him being human and he immediately let me know that he was not human he said he came from the sun, he was perfectly serious. Being a empath I felt there was no love and no compassion in this person, I also had a vision of flames. I was truly dealing with a demon.

[@robynmarler1951]

Wow.

[@FleurBatten]

Yes I experienced same he believed he was from the arinaki.. had a higher calling and can manifest his children to earth .. even voice would change demonic when raging

[@lillyrose2514]

​@@FleurBattenyes, the voice change is frightening

[@theresalennon4048]

The most evil person I have met , had me over a barrel but when all said and done best thing that happened to me cause I’ll never tolerate abuse like that again and I needed to learn the hard way as I had attracted toxic people all my life and now at 50 I’m free from them all , nobody should put up with this Abuse

[@vevans777]

I heard a profound interview with Sinead O'Connor who described "anger is like a fist full of tears". So beautiful and true, 'Anger is an energy' is something to remember as a means of directing the energy constructively.

[@elyse-cathrinebisson2787]

I think the best part of releasing the narcissistic abuse is that I get to control what I eat. He used to push sugar on me and it hurt my health. He would tell me that he would change me for a Chinese girl and would obsess with black women.

[@lo-ul8nq]

Jesus is our hope, dont forget your first love. Jesus loves you

[@morgana4075]

I would say, due to my admittedly low self-worth, that I always felt my partner had this 'evil', but I was a bit blinded to it when it came to myself. It wasn't until I witnessed how he treated others that I fully understood it.. aggressive (scary) road rage, throwing tantrums in the supermarket (so loud that people would stare.. it was mortifying).. throwing years-long friends away over something little.. telling me he made his own mother cry because "she cooked my hamburger wrong." If you can't first-hand accept the 'evil' of these people... pay attention to how they treat others.

[@nalayini1504]

Yesss the thing about not using moral relativism because then the narc can justify anything!! I needed to hear this!! 🙏🏽

[@PixieCropCircleDuster]

Sometimes the nature of evil is so deceptive it's not evil in the traditional sense....and it can & will break you/tear you down when you need & others need you at the top of your game...just to target the vulnerable, they like low hanging fruit & easy targets & if I think about that " floppy moral boundaries" become more rigid pretty fast. Because the low hanging fruit are the vulnerable our constitution/laws attempt to protect. It's really serious. Thanks for slap upright Richard 🧡

[@Sharronmodu]

Definitely agree : I’ve lost years & now building boundaries and a way to break away & rebuild - “fragmented” as you said !! Hard to function !

[@Mag-Ruith]

"free floating anxiety... sense of dread and confusion... " exactly this! all the time. "that you will have lost something you cannot ever regain". These feelings nail it. I drove myself mad for years trying to earn the attention back, to figure what I had done wrong to be discarded, the grief of silent treatments sent me to a break down, I believed for years I was the loser reject, and it was only when I extracted (with help from non narc friends) that I saw the person I was inside the narc dynamic was not even my true self. I went through so long wondering who the hell I am, what do I even like to do or think? what are my own thoughts? Please see Richard's talks with Mark Vicente (and his ideas on splitting your personality), the interviews with Vicente are spot on, the most relief I have felt in years. Thankful for you, Richard and anyone reading this, please don't give up on yourself, you are not crazy, if you are here, you're in company of ones like you, You are not alone ! x

[@Vic-Meow]

It's all good but the last 15 minutes or so is golden content. One must save one's self. Thank you, Richard

[@ginafarley6190]

Thank you, Richard! Here’s to walking over the hot coals, even when we don’t want to.

[@chocolatecookie8571]

Perfectly said.

[@aussiehillbilly]

its coming up to 8years of living on the outside. its dawning on me that i will be solo for the rest of my life. Im planning a hermit future Friends are saying one day you will meet someone etc, ive told them im actively knocking back dates lol. they don't understand and never will.

[@Zalathor]

I completely understand you, I am also intentionally not interested.

[@lyndkent-cl2oe]

Exactly same position & length of time...The realisation of years of this abuse has caused such distrust!....Wish you well...x

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

5 years for me. Not interested at all. It's even worse now IMHO.

[@aussiehillbilly]

@@Andrea-HeIsKing i didnt think tinder or bumble could get worse. IT GOT WORSE

[@CAGIOBOOKKEEPING]

I feel the same. I have zero interest in dating anyone. Going into my second year, just the thought of sharing my space is a loud negative. Opening to someone new, I feel like I might be jaded. Questioning everything. I still don't trust myself.

[@LoraineMayes]

Bravo. I appreciate you, your character, and your wisdom. You're helping me move through the tunnel and into the light.

[@jeffreypmitchell]

Hey Richard, I really appreciate your video coaching and especially how you connect and have Sam Vaknin on some of your videos. You and he have helped me become healthier and free and much more me and individuated. Thanks Mate!

[@Sharronmodu]

Wow!! You’re on fire!! Mystic 🧙 biscuit!! Yep true ! Got to visualise and take action to NEW LIFE….. love it!

[@jeffwilliams7054]

Thank you Richard for posting this even thought you are very busy with so much outreach to help others, may God Almighty and all the goodness in the universe bless you and strengthen you🙏

[@user-kh7py7cn8s]

Richard U r amazing!!!..full package strong intelligent good-looking ... And much more too ... congratulations 🎉

[@anniec516]

Richard: I have watched several of your videos lately. This video is most excelent. Your words are truly golden! Thank you!

[@nufe]

Richard is completely genuine and speaks his truth as someone with lived experience. One of the smartest men on youtube with superb insight into the male condition.

[@designoergosum]

I love your sincerety and authenticity, many thanks for sharing, it's helpful, therapeutic, enlightening in sone areas, many thanks

[@nufe]

I love you Richard. You speak your truth and you don't sugar-coat it. What you see is what you get. Many people with lived experience need people like you to articulate what we have gone through. We just want some understanding. We don't want you to fix us with medication or whatever. Let us talk. Open up a dialogue. Skills not pills.

[@kerrybodeau7875]

You are so intelligent and absolutely funny, while educating! TY!

[@evelyngarrison6007]

Wish I could have been here for the live. Life changing and life affirming words as always. Too much to say. I've been dreaming my life away, so I felt drawn to this...I know it takes an iron will. Some days I feel almost led --this was one of those days. But you, Richard, we see you do it all. I know it can't be done for me, but...what a shining example you've set. I'll make something out of this...I will.

[@customera7945]

My biggest shortcoming has always been overlooking faults and forgiving quickly and completely. Yup, I'm a prime target for these evil people.

[@NattyBulk24]

Moral relativity .. great description for what they do. I have my first session tomorrow, I’ve come a fair way since trying to forget the shared fantasy. I have some recurring anxiety but it’s all about me now😅 As in why and how I let this happen. Not why they done it. I know why it really is that simple,, as nothing else makes sense.

[@TheWorldTeacher]

EVERYTHING is relative. 🙄

[@dariabondavalli4070]

Thanks for this clarification, I will make this my mantra "keep it simple".

[@bibbedyboo3532]

Dude you are freaking amazing on this topic. You and romani have helped me more than anyone

[@pamme777]

I was dying when you brought up the Joker. The narcissistic friend that I used to play video games with had the joker as his avatar.

[@mmeqrage8572]

Born in a partially narzissistic family, I repeated the whole thing over and over again. I endet up broke and broken again and again. But I got up again and again - just to stumble into the same thing again. When it comes to the perception of evil, there is this one thing, that I keep repeating: I just can't believe how bad it is, until it is proven to me. My mind just cannot accept how evil "loved ones" can get. Interestingly enough I react quite clear, when I perceive someone else in a toxic situation and I sure can be of help, if someone wants to be helped. But for myself I keep repeating this disbelieve and the impression, that I overreact at times. Well, overreaction may happen, when someone REALLY wants to destroy, if not kill you, right? It is such a weird feeling. Got pretty old that way and always got out in time. But I wouldn't recommend anyone to do the same thing. It is really dangerous - believe it or not. The good thing about it is: you gain a lot of experience about how hypnosis works in yourself and how to use it in order to survive. Best regards from Germany and thanks for your work!

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

In my case w dealing w toxic ppl .. after a while you have to look in the mirror and wonder why I’m attracting toxic ppl , I’m married to c narc 45 yrs .. how I survive his family cult , is to have the most shallow convo w these creatures .. gray rock and silence is golden or the DEEP method w them look these techniques up . Have a narc free day 💜

[@Sharronmodu]

Thanks rich 🎉. You’ve helped me to fully realise I’m with someone unwell (spiteful) & shows NPD type behaviour. Prefer to see it as trauma unhealed, but it’s So exhausting being in same space, need to do your course !! Both!!

[@marylind1144]

In regards to the repetition thing, before I became more healed, I didn’t realize, my response to childhood trauma was I didn’t carry myself with confidence and, frankly, I was a bit weird with social awkwardness so healthier people weren’t attracted to me, but I was prime narc bait. I would go years between caustic boyfriends to heal up. I would get lonely and even though on some level I knew the new guy presenting himself to me wasn’t a good fit, I would date him anyway to not be lonely. I was pretty much invisible to the “normal” folk. Once I healed up some more and gained some. Self esteem and self worth and became okay being alone, I present more healed which brought healed people into my life. Also, because I was finally at peace being alone, I was able to say, “No” to narcs who showed up and didn’t try to cure some kind of bone crushing loneliness. I’m 57. It took me 30 plus years to finally see I was a narc magnet because of me. It wasn’t some kind of curse or rough magic.

[@donnadwarika6370]

Knowledge leads you upward thank you Richard for helping me understand❤.Now see the clearer picture..

[@martyrose]

This was perfect! I needed a good Richard fix!❤

[@Sharronmodu]

Thanks for sharing honestly & your living proof there’s a way back from the ABYSS ! (Will take a look 👀 at yr new courses)!

[@christinacutlass1694]

Richard, could you possibly make a video to encourage people like myself, who have stayed in abusive relationships because there was no financial way out due to disabilities of health and chronic pain. Now I’m dying of an incurable cancer, dependent on him for any medical care… I’m having to stick to the script until I die….BUT, I love others, and have been brave and honest with myself and others. While I have never found the love I yearned for, I have LOVED. ITS VERY DIFFICULT to pretend, but it is an act of self love at this point… can you give any support for those of similar circumstances?

[@Sharronmodu]

Internal potency 👍🏼 “letting go of the spaghetti 🍝 mind!” Good boundaries & recognising those traits and minding the RED FLAGS! 🚩 you can move on ! Yes! 🙏🏼 thanks R

[@jans724]

Very good point: "Don't fall to moral relativism! Call evil what it is!"

[@TheWorldTeacher]

EVERYTHING is relative. 🙄

[@RoseMary-gl4ee]

Thank you for your explanation of external/internal potency

[@dw4956]

Prof Sam Vaknin has a very good video wherein he explains the clear diffrence between people with NPD and PPD.

[@bittu-kd7zy]

Richard, I was introduced to narcissism after I got married. It was an arranged marriage. It slowly showed up in ways I could not have imagined. I didn't choose my spouse. But it's been 26 years. I want to leave him soon. My son is 19 and I love him a lot. He suffered in this marriage I couldn't protect him as much I wanted to.

[@celladoor_uk]

“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them. - Matthew 7:15-20

[@TraumaPunksMamiMusic]

I just recommended your channel to someone who "wants" to work on their empathy, teheeeeeeeee. Recommended Sam and Tudor as well loooool! So good to see and hear you after quite a few years....! Thanks once again for being you and being here, to me, especially back in 2016! Be well, RG. xoxo

[@elkiesavage6038]

You are the absolute best in this area. The best. You are so clear and concise. You are making a huge impact in this field and the world. Thank you for what you do.

[@1001Stars]

Love your sense of humor 🤣 Yes lets all be strong 💪

[@francaise]

So wise, your time in looking at this has given you another true answer, opposites don’t attract.! I swear we need like minded people to be with.

[@mattoth6617]

I’m a 34m and I was single for five years after a hard break up at 28. Last year I met a girl in her early 30’s. First person I let close to me in 5 years. Right away gave me a sob story and told me her mother was abusive and had BPD ( I don’t think she knew I was well versed in PD’s) and that her ex husband was diagnosed with NPD. She would do inappropriate things and act stupid about it when confronted. Got super upset and we broke up because I put laundry in the washer before bringing her up her keys. Last straw was she got mad I went to the gym when she wanted my attention so she ignored me and hung out with some other men and then posted a thirst trap on IG two days after that. She couldn’t understand why I broke up with her. Had dinner with her one more time a month after that and I said F it and asked since all these people have been diagnosed with PD’s and she’s been in a lot of therapy, had she ever been diagnosed with a PD? Maybe this would answer some things. She looked absolutely shocked and appalled. Like I removed her skin. Her reaction to that question was everything. Never talked to her again. You just need strong boundaries. If you aren’t being treated well then leave. No questions about it.

[@mtsb557]

Anger is the mask of sadness..... such truth

[@hettykoster9447]

So it is !!

[@TheWorldTeacher]

Sings: “It ain’t necessarily so...” 🎤

[@stellap7624]

That mixed bag of why the Narcissist is still in my life. Yes, I'm scared of the consequences if I cut him off. I'm also scared of what I will lose. But is he evil. Yes, most definitely. He is like his Master, Satan, who has the ability to keep transforming himself into an Angel of light. I feel only God can help me to be free of him completely. And that's what I'm praying for. Before recent times, I was financially dependent upon him. He was well aware of this, and monopolized on it. Educating myself with videos like this one have helped me so much on my journey to finally be free. And not just off him but of others in the future. I have been a Narc magnet in the past, unfortunately. The comment below is helpful I always needed validation of others, and that's where the Narcissist came in with 'love bombing'. I'm learning not to not need validation from any other person, but fully realize that my validation comes from God and Faith in Christ.

[@Sharronmodu]

Journey back to authentic self …. Farm sounds good!! 👍🏼 🎉 it

[@huldaherna3935]

Always, every time you deliver. Honest discussion.

[@Su_aSponte]

The concept of keeping a standard of moral relativism was really helpful. It’s so maddening the blaming and circular reasoning and just trying to jump off that horror-go-round when you can’t get your footing. The manliness and confidence and rule breaking too. Definitely sucked me in. We started talking romantically just as the Pandy started. It felt safe to be with him then. It feels considerably less safe four years in when all of the supports have been kicked out from under me as fast as I can build them…it’s about as fun and comforting as a carnival in an earthquake…

[@Sharronmodu]

“Chanting” can be potent tool (but only with solid realistic determination) vision of what you want & need : anger can be a good tool when I channel It to PASSION (for me own life )

[@MeanEileen916]

I was in the hospital for 3 months after a stroke and a 10 day coma. I called him from my hospital bed, to wish him Happy New Year, she made sure I heard her in the background, and he hung up on me. I was devastated.

[@skyeblu817]

@MeanEileen916 Well now. We lose everything and everybody to the point that they are the only one to reach out to when lonely in hospital or/and it's a holiday. It's like putting my hand out to thank the viper that's not going to harm me again. But it fangs my gnarly hand again . Its deformed even worse. I understand. Hope you are in a better spot than myself. See he's my neighbor his door is ten feet away. His violent tormented big strong lady supply is twenty feet away. And yes sometimes I acquiesce. From fear. And my face is messed up from the last ambush. And I'm pushing 60 years. Now I just used your comment to attempt reality. Do not mention the police nor shelters. Been down that road of the charmer charming the police, paramedics etc. I am the crazy. Yet I've never harmed him and I'm greatly harmed. If the police ...you must see... decide from the get go you are the neurotic. ...And if they wrongfully arrest you because of his charm and your Hysteria. You cannot rely on police again.They need to stick to their narrative. And I would also like to say I've had two quality therapists out of twelve. Sink or swim I'm going to swim. Richard Grannon. You are a great person.

[@mjm5081]

Richard, as always, thank you for sharing your wisdom, experience, expertise, and not a little humor! In addition, thank you for helping me keep what bit of sanity I have left! Hope you feel better(I put a good word in with the big guy 🙏)

[@emmacook8710]

I’ve definitely firmed up my moral floppy bits! I love that Richard delivers such emotive issues with hilarious little one liners.

[@olgabalakshina1410]

so true, assoon as you build back your life, you forget about an nArcssole. My ex was surprised how I stopped paying attention, and I was busy getting married to a good man, having twins, moving, buying a place tolive... I became too busy getting happy

[@katarinajacobs7809]

Because I loves myself without validation from others I jus have hopes in putting a stop to these innocent children

[@megminor13]

Yeah, I keep getting into relationship with toxic people. I thought I worked on my childhood. I was in a good place 10 yrs ago and I was getting my life together I thought. I feel like I've been brainwashed.

[@warmwelkom]

A bad guy will protect you against another bad guy. I never knew I could lose myself. James Bond is the attractive hero, but if you look at the facts, he kills and fucks around, I wonder do the girls comply? Well I grew up with this 😂. Thank you for your honesty. Yes, be with my feelings 🙏 and keeping my boundaries.

[@user-jm6ds5dz3t]

You’re right on point every time Richard

[@cynthiathomas5754]

I like the humor. So keep up the good work!

[@frugalissima2930]

I know it's time to leave because I find myself acting badly because I can't trust him. Been here before and don't want to go through it again. I hate what I've become. I am constantly anxious and I want my peace of mind back.

[@tatacardona3271]

Thank you Richard, hi U.G Rose, I hope you are both safe and sound! It is like I comeback to your content to see where I am in my processes. Just last week I was safe enough in a level where my sadness was able to visit me externally. ❤️

[@meebrosnan4854]

Yes binge watching 💯🙏

[@veronicajohnson5863]

Thankyou and God Bless you for sharing, it helps me to stay strong!

[@Joyce-jr1zc]

The first 8 minutes is life changing, thank you

[@amybreunig1214]

Going back isn't the answer. Kniwing how to move forward with all you know now, in peace is the answer. As Aerosmith said in their song "Dream On." Find out what balances you. Remove what you don't want and add what you do want. Release the things and people that don't bring you joy.