Narcissistic, Psychopathic, and Borderline Personalities : Key Differences

[@wasode20]

I'd love to hear your video on overlap between these types.Thanks!

[@khurramawan6338]

Dr Craig, you're doing great work by sharing your expertise on this important aspect. You're message should reach far and wide for people to avoid becoming victims. Abuse by people having PDs can potentially be life or sanity threatening for many victims. I'm one survivor healing but it's hard.

[@NAJAlliance]

Another excellent video! Very helpful. Thank you!

[@karengawin4529]

Love this content about the core conflicts!! This is fantastic info. Could you do a video on the overlap between borderline and covert narcissistic personality disorder, and how those in relationship with this type can cope? I was fascinated by the methods you explained in the Living Well podcast. Would love to know if/how empathy prompts can be used with co-occurring BPD & NPD. Thank you!

[@alisondunning7116]

Very helpful as I try to untangle these and understand what was driving my father. I now sense all 3 were in the mix. He was a vulnerable narcissist but had a huge need to control in addition to alternating between loving and loathing me.

[@donnamason6522]

Thank you so much. Succinct, non judgemental and to the point. This has helped me make sense of my own experiences

[@Bahamut616]

This topic is very very interesting but for me it is super hard to completely tell the difference between the narcissist and psychopath in the real world. I guess in a sense it doesn't matter from the point of view of trying to identify and disengage from either. Trying to differentiate if someone is flexing their comparitive "worth" or "power" in a relationship dynamic is a little tricky on the fly. I've seen people bring up the genetical component for certain forms of antisocial personality disorder quite often, I now just assume there is more than enough scientific evidence for this at this point. Borderline is the odd duck of the group to me, I get the impression it has more of a mirror relationship with narcissism and general extreme selfishness more than anything else. A sort of reactionary disorder. I would describe comorbidity between BPD and NPD as a Borderline "falling through the mirror". Again, just the general feelings/sharings of a rando human on the net, no science at all behind any of this, just personal stuff. And on a lighter note yes I quite like "through the looking glass" :)

[@bkpsly1]

OMG, all 3 of these sound like my husband. Is this possible?

[@CraigMalkin]

Absolutely

[@debracappiccille6485]

My daughter too. It’s terrifying.

[@kelsey1864]

Are these cumulative? Like if someone has co-occuring borderline and narcissism, could they then also have psychopathic traits? And does it have to be in that order?

[@jankucera8505]

narcissist - value psychopath - power borderline - closeness schizoid - safety

[@debracappiccille6485]

Please discuss overlap. Malignant narcissists, grandiose, covert, possible antisocial personality disorder. My daughter has traits of all. She is terrifying doing absolutely insane things. Is this possible?

[@cafonda5872]

If there is a God, I'll never understand why it chose to give humans emotions. It's exhausting trying to figure everyone else on top of figuring myself out.

[@jackiem9423]

Absolutely fascinating!

[@CraigMalkin]

Thanks!

[@taom9004]

Hmmmm. What about a person- asking for a friend - who up until around the age of 70 was able to hide her malignancy from the larger family behind a mask due to a genius IQ and charm, but is always the victim, sees every interaction as a potential threat, tries to control you and gets coldly enraged when you won't go along to get along, punishes you if you stick to your guns, refuses to let people get eggrolls when they are ordering Chinese and yells at your uncle if he demurs, suddenly stops seeing all her childhood friends, at 50, rescues people she perceives to be birds with broken wings to later discard them, rips you apart when your child is dying of cancer because you were no contact for a few days [stacking morphine to try to control his pain] or when you tell an old family friend and she sends cookies, and she demands you do something to address this injury: "They were CRUMBS! CRUMBS!!" is convinced her ex is plotting to murder her [45 years later] and treats all the adults around her like children, to be lectured. Did I mention controlling and punishing and getting worse with age? This is just a partial list, obviously.

[@kellyyork3898]

Narcissists will complain that your wallet looks too old and worn out…why can’t you ever dress well? You’re embarrassing him/her. A psychopath will steal your wallet, and throw you in the gutter in the process, and a borderline will attack you for not having her/his picture in your wallet.

[@teralecole316]

I’m not a psychologist but I was with someone who possessed all 3. The brain is powerful.

[@JoyLady-1966]

Dark Triad🤔

[@nerdsserverevengecolder..212]

very informative, I love learning!

[@gorunsko31]

An excellent lecture: clear explanation how the main features characterize 3 different types of personalities. And I get it now in real life situation making distinction between what is psychopathic what is borderline in the partner who also insists he is unique and therefore entitled to my services on the basis he is in control, he is the only one powerful. I stayed “powerless” to feel safe. I became smaller for safety, because I am an immigrant in his country, far away from my family, friends, from my roots. Wow! Just as I thought I learned enough to see myself vs him, I suspect now I am echoist with some borderline features. Not being like him was a moral superiority - the only “power” I had. Nope. It did not serve me well. Thank you 🙏 so much Dr. Malkin. If I can ignore the pain that comes from self awareness, it is a pleasure to be your student.

[@Belinda-nb3pm]

Hello Dr. Malkin, I just saw you with Dr. Carter. I tried to sign up for Therapy for over a year and again last week but it's so hard to navigate their website which makes me give up. I'm very picky about my Doctors and videos I watch and learn from. I have 3 Older Alcoholic multimillionaire step sisters who have been abusing me and my grown children for 40 years now. Two have passed but the last one keeps calling me drunk and sends the flying monkeys, still. This guy trapped me in his car for two hours and said "I just got out of the State Penitentiary." I've been homeless for 12 years now since Mom passed. Not that she helped me financially but emotionally she understood my side and gave me advice and mental and emotional support I'm in desperate need of this new technology and science driven Therapy. Who can you recommend. I'm on disability for depression and anxiety attacks and P.T.S.D. I'm willing to pay out of that check for online Therapy. Thank you, Belinda.

[@JoyLady-1966]

This was helpful 😊

[@drewjones1758]

Do you think it would be apt to say that someone could have borderline traits without having BPD in the same way that someone could have narcissistic traits but not have NPD?

[@CraigMalkin]

In fact we do in psychological assessment -frequently We just write in axis two, “borderline features”

[@philipk917]

Thank you!