Narcissists: How They ACT When You Know

[@amandacarr1501]

This literally just happened to me 22 days before Christmas. He went to work. He never came home after a year of me, forcing him to go to therapy. I guess he was just tired of holding the mask up because everything he did. I called him out on every behavior daily would tell him I was not gonna be his supply so he called his mommy and his mommy came and rescued him leaving me in our son completely financially, emotionally abandoned I overcame it Lee I continue to watch your videos daily. I am a thrived😊

[@Graycy808]

Its really nice having you around to confirm or to explain what exactly is going on with a narc! Why is my narc's girlfriend still calling me and accusing me of still hooking up with him when ive been no contact for almost 8 months now!! Ive told her that yeah he's probably cheating but just not with me. How is it im still a threat to her and why wont she do her homework and find out who his side peice really is? Its so aggravating!

[@MentalHealness]

It’s easy to put it on you

[@CowdreyPatrick-hf4vn]

It's called mirroring. The narc has no personality. They have to quizz you on a first date to find out what you like and then pretend to like those same things too. This is to rapidly get you to commit enough for them to drop their mask and stop the hard work they put in to trap you. Once you make sure that they live up to their future faking promises and ignore their attempt to guilt tripping you into doing for them, things they know they could do for themselves you see the black eyes and folded arms. This is when their unspeakable rage forces them to clear their mind if you. How dare you say no! The disappearance is just a trick to see if you give a damn and plead for their return. If they realise you can't be controlled they may use a 3rd party to destroy you from a distance if they can. They may reconsider or stalk you if your REPLACEMENT isn't as sweet as you. They hope to be able to dictate to you their terms for doing you a favour by coming back in your life and ALL the things you must SUBMIT to if you want to stop them from disappearing before you get back from work. One trick is to pretend while with you, that they've learned their lesson and when they THINK your guard is lowered they'll remove the mask to test if you'll put up with the bs instead of demanding they leave NOW. The reason they pretend to change for each victim is they must trick the person into believing THEY are a soulmate with the same likes as the NEXT person they meet and the person after that until the day they die. Their sad lives consist of never growing old with the same person or watching their kids grow up. Boredom keeps them hoping that within 6 months of meeting you, the grass might be greener with someone else. In the end they die alone with just the delusional memories of how great they thought THEY USED TO BE

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

Very true! I should have realised when he said he hated mushrooms on our first phone call, then when he noticed that I love them, he started asking me to cook them for him 😂 Now he's telling everyone he likes x y z which he never did, I did / do!! Can't even have his own interests 😒

[@Honeypepper.]

A narcissist cannot surprise anyone no matter what tricks, stunts or chameleon-like acts they pull. My thing is if that narc is not willingly participating in psychotherapy, they the same ole narcissist. They can't fool me. The only people the fooling are themselves and the new supply.

[@BEATZBYBLESSZONEOUTMUZIK]

BLA BLA BLA BOO BOO BOO B B B THAT YOUR SIGNATURE 😂🔥🎯💯

[@530butterfly]

😂 so true! I find myself saying it around the house now just random🤣

[@MentalHealness]

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[@PaolaTovar-lr4tb]

Mine completely ghosted me and blocked me after I confronted him and unmasked him. It's been 2 months, and he did not Hoover at all.

[@dumpmail-xz2qp]

in my case it was wild observing her slowly changing her personality and interests. She especially became dismissive when I was still dealing with the abuse from my narc mother and her star child son sabotaging my life. Its at that time I started to show more interest in learning about narcissists and compare those two and all their behavior to narcissism. I would off course share my thoughts to that friend so now it feels like she got cold feet as I was starting to figure her out and she put all her focus on the new supply. If I knew years earlier what narcissism really is, I would definitely change the dynamic between us and would avoid 10 years worth of damage that this lack of such knowledge caused me

[@CMackenzie-e5u]

I had to show a right pair of narcs that the jig was up and I was onto them all along. They thought I'd flown right into their spider's web but I ain't stupid. They underestimated me severely and overestimated themselves a whole lot. Big BIG mistake

[@MentalHealness]

🙏

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

I called my nex a narc when I kicked him out, and agreed to the police pressing charges, so I knew he'd never Hoover. He started posting (I blocked him, someone told me) talking about my hobbies and likes as his likes!! Whilst chasing his ex who was happily married 🙄 He took the kids places and got them nice stuff more in the few months after we split than the years we were together!! He took his new woman away now times in the last 2 years than ever with me in almost 16 years. He even took her, her kids and our kids to the holiday home I'd picked out for us to go to!! It's pathetic really

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

Wow? How long ago was that? Because I did that with my first husband and none of the restraining orders stuck. He didn't stop until he died eleven years after I had him removed. He also didn't get married again.

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

@LolaAileenVanslette I'm so sorry you went through that. The police did actually arrest my nex, he was on bail for over a year and conditions were he couldn't contact me except through the Our Family Wizard app about the children. He didn't want to risk losing his job, which would have been notified. That was far more important to him than harassing me luckily. Plus I think he may have had a woman on the side at the time, and very quickly took up with the current woman publicly.

[@jamesbohn5346]

When I left my ex, she went on the most vicious smear campaign and the next thing I know I'm being labeled as abusive & I have a hidden drug habit 🤦🏾

[@lislis9134]

I’m going through the same hell right now after 1 year of no contact. Apparently everything he did to me cheating & the abuse I did to him which is a flat out lie.

[@Itzanunnya2019]

"I see what you are". NO CONTACT. LIFETIME. ENJOYING MY LIFE, IN PEACE. ❤

[@donnadaniels5095]

Absolutely Every hurt person do not hurt people🤷🏽‍♀️

[@MentalHealness]

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[@fahimashuma]

They call you crazy and a psychopath. 😅

[@MentalHealness]

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[@MimiCoco-gt7zo]

Exactly all the time and your the villan of their story.

[@chellotrevino7323]

Projection😂😂

[@pinkiepromise242]

Dont tell them I told him everything makes sense now it all makes sense they will create a new mask and personality to keep you around especially if they can't replace you right away .. 😢

[@MentalHealness]

😢

[@HeyYou-fyp]

If you decide to leave a narcissist, when they don't want you to, they can be very deadly. They are not only manipulating, but they are also very calculating as well. Since they do not really care for you, or about you, they can hurt you so easily. Once their tricks no longer work, and you see them for who they are, some want to hurt you so that you do not EXPOSE them. If you are no longer complying with their needs, they consider you disposable.

[@donnadaniels5095]

Keep it HOT LEE🔥🔥🔥🔥🍕

[@MentalHealness]

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[@susannjenga7974]

Keep doing the good work. You've taught me a lot... Be blessed!

[@MentalHealness]

Thanks, you too!

[@Annie-ol3jx]

Game over for them and they know it's time to move on but before they do,they will act the fool!! BIG MAD because they got caught!

[@WhineyOne]

My exnarc doesn't know that I know. I would never tell him.

[@MentalHealness]

🙏

[@Merbella]

Right! Much safer for you. Just make an exit plan.

[@vivianperdue4329]

I told mine so he wouldn't come back .he doesn't know me like I didn't know him

[@pinkiepromise242]

I actually want him to find Someone who doesn't know what i know he's great in love bombing but now that it doesn't work I'd rather see him with someone he can Fantasy with.. i can't trust his long term changes... i don't want anything i just want him to move on with someone who is a more ideal partner

[@donnadaniels5095]

I Ghosted 👻 My whole entire EX narcissistic family ,to Show them now it feel When they have been doing This to others People😂

[@MentalHealness]

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[@ericwegner3781]

Wait, that's what you nasty look is! I've been wondering what that look was about lol Thanks for do these videos!!!

[@MentalHealness]

No problem!!

[@donnadaniels5095]

LEE❤ you our 1 of the best, empowering soul🙏🏽✊🏼

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@margaretpeery9926]

Embarrassed. My ex DIL removed our toddler granddaughter from our care because l asked for an emergency care form for the child. She said her pediatrician said it was not needed in a health emergency. That's her thing - that may be dangerous for my child and I'm not changing, so I'll lie. This was one month after my son died in our home. I wanted peace of mind. No idea what she needs. She's kept this child grieving her daddy and her two other people who loved her deeply. It's been four months and she has no concerns for the child. Ugh.

[@MentalHealness]

Oh my goodness

[@JacquildaGaynor]

God BLESS you 😇

[@MentalHealness]

God bless you as well

[@amandacarr1501]

My ex was diagnosed as unspecified because he had traits of antisocial, narcissism and BPD

[@MentalHealness]

Oh my

[@1976smb]

Can NPD's be sentimental?

[@colibri7-m1h]

I think they get sentimental and have nostalgia mixed with selfpity..

[@MentalHealness]

I would think it’s possible

[@donnadaniels5095]

And Do not tell Then what You're gonna do just do it Moving silence🤫🤐

[@MentalHealness]

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[@pnolia7393]

Off and on relationship with a child. She has 1 baby daddy which was the 1st he got married while we were together and then brought our son into the world. Fast Forward today been off and on still. This was the 3rd holiday season in a row that she came up with a last second excuse. The last one that did it for me was when she sent me a picture at the club ( Girls Night Out ) and another with her lying down on the sidewalk past midnight and she sprained her ankle but claimed she broke it…. Plus she put me on child support and I have no rights to my child besides visitations and I honestly cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen my son I know it was no more than 70 times throughout his LIFE! But Baby Daddy #1 gets treated like a God. WTH IS GOING ON BRUH?! I did no contact plenty of times but she’s cooked now I have a new place. A new number, a new car and I NEVER EXPERIENCED THIS MUCH PEACE IN MY LIFETIME AND IM NOT GOING BACK. This is literally what she asked for and I rolled with it dealt with it and now that sidewalk can have the whole family. 29 days no contact. I hope they good though God wish em’ well. 🚪

[@TheAmazingRandy]

Good to know

[@MentalHealness]

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[@katherineemery789]

Chameleon cheeks 😂♥️

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@NORELLEiam]

Hello! Sorry I’m new here and you may have addressed this already, but what made you change for your current relationship?

[@LisaSteward-m4e]

Im not confused at all its actually funny to see what he comes out with.. He's not happy that i told him I Don t want him anymore.. They have no personality. Just boring assholes.

[@Nicole-h2v]

Wither they crash out or pretend to be on their best behavior until they hoover you again. It's a constant cycle😂

[@MentalHealness]

😆

[@Mochi-fc6uy]

One time he said " i can go to any extent" , does he mean divorce me? Hurt me? Kill me? Or put me in jail?

[@donnadaniels5095]

Thank you for saying that LEE,❤ never say what A narcissist won't do Please🙏🏽

[@MentalHealness]

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[@jamescliffrd3694]

If they don't change it up after revealing you know, are they hoping for a reverse discard or calling your bluff?

[@MentalHealness]

It really depends.

[@CatzBell]

I'm glad I never fell for hoover bait or jealousy tactics.

[@CatzBell]

Or the fake crying with no tears lol

[@MentalHealness]

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[@marilynmonheaux]

Lee why your thumbnail look like “Narc To The Future” 😂

[@MentalHealness]

😂

[@chellotrevino7323]

No men can have bpd too😂😂😂 lol