Narcissists use their Words vs Actions

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[@iceciusnorthwind9600]

Dealing with a BPD wife, and this rings so true there as well. So many times about to walk away, and get sucked right back in. ALWAYS look at their actions, not the lies that continue to roll effortlessly off their tongue. If there is any actual change, its very temporary as a means to pull you back in, but over time you will see that their actions prove they never actually meant it. You want so badly to believe them, but eventually they just make you a fool. 10:20 FTW

[@fruitypopwhickle6806]

Yep. Toxic people who say they're trying, but they're actually doing nothing. Just fucking around and wasting your time.

[@LS-wc5nw]

😂 Yes, and I knew exactly what was going on. “I love you, slap, I love you, slap.” Bait and switch/bait and switch/ bait and switch. I was ready for it…

[@1401chan]

I just blocked one of my best friends bc of this. Yes, he's a pwnpd, but very self aware and I care about him deeply. But after feeling like a ghost for 2 months I chose myself today. The old me would have kept asking questions etc. New me knew it was time to cut the chord. It sucks but I know I did the right thing.

[@cherrybacon3319]

Well done!!

[@courtneyawalsh]

His words & actions literally never matched.

[@courtneyawalsh]

I was right to doubt him…all along.

[@deb2319]

I find listening to narc. Videos so depressing but I am so appreciative that your out here selflessly servicing humanity. Grateful you are awareness and care now. Be WeLl. Peace To All.

[@courtneyawalsh]

Recently blocked a baby narc. He’s 28. I’m 51. It was strictly platonic but then he started getting a bit controlling. Nope. Not playing. I see red flags way earlier now. He just showed up at my work yesterday. I closed my office door. He left. Bizarre. But I’m glad to be mostly out of these dynamics now. Have an awesome therapist. Amazing friends. Wonderful clients. Life? Really does go on after narc abuse. Hope for us all.

[@courtneyawalsh]

Once he snapped: “Don’t you trust me?” Cringe. Nope. No, kid. No. I. Do. Not.

[@franciscoguevara9727]

When you start keeping boundaries and you see who respects them and your more connected to your authentic self you start well having better boundaries and feeling peoples energies also atleast that was the case for me. Because i was the child of a narc parent, and he was a raging narcisist , and I had to work on boundaries 10 years after i left that abusive home i finally started putting up boundaries and not supressing anymore, Gabor Mate talks about using your NO's finally, to what has become untolerable and abusive, and my body always felt angry or upset or shamed when someone disrespected me but after i left that home i used to tolerate because my narc parent groomed me, into accepting his abusse which is the MO of a narc. And i drank so much, i started expressing boundaries at 28 a little over 3 years ago in my job, and i felt freedom, victory, and my inner child got happy for protecting him and having his back, and expressing my feelings when stuff was untolerable. I started developing voice and boundaries, and more authenticity within myself, more expressiveness, less dependent on others and also choosing safe people to connect with and even then with safe people talking about things that come up in a relationship. When a person puts so much push back to talking about things that seem necesary to talk about and want to dismiss everything under the rug thats a red flag, and it doesnt feel safe!!! Or right, because i am in my authentic self, that can talk about these things and set boundaries and looks to connect with safe people. Being your authentic self, and staying true to your inners, having selfcompassion and healing and going on a healing process will literally make you a human lie detector, or narc detector cause now i see them easily thanks to my healing journey and staying true to me. And some things about healing are painful such as repeating some dynamics, and even being betrayed by codependents or empaths that aren't informed about narc abuse.And feeling some feelings, and breaking some trauma bonds are attachments that where false , maybe to narc systems.Where the system has a couple narcs , and a couple of empaths that arent informed so they get manipulated. Specially if im more advanced in my healing journey 3 years in , and i see the narcs easily but other people dont, but i still need attachment of course,so i try to attach to the healthier people there. And they turn out to get triangulated easily cause they dont understand narcs, that are liars and fakes, even if they put on a mask that they're "reformed", their abusive bullshit slips and their control. To anyone who is authentic, who sees them, who has good boundaries, who's informed about narc abuse!:. I realize i need to give myself more permission to leave groups like thee and get back out to life, no matter what empath they send to hoover me back in if ,the empath isnt informed about narc abuse and triangulated it isnt a real friend or connection. And since i have the awareness the integration the understanding and have stayed true to myself, and spoken about redflags when i see them or boundary issues and stay trued to my story, i can leave places like this. People who are enabling for narcs have a harder time. I thank God for the strength to stay true to myself, to keep healing, in this non-linear journey, and always stay in my dignity, as best as possible, when a narc is usually always trying to scapegoat me in some ways when they can't control me. And ive been able to call them out on what they're doing, because now apart from 2 years in healing trauma, my third year has been informed about narc abuse. God is so good that he helps the empaths genuinely looking for healing and to keep boundaries and stay true to themselves when these narcs are going to support groups to look like guru's and be in control, and they in denial about their - narcisism- while still being abusive. Thank you God for your justice, love , strength and compassion, and help in my healing journey , and staying true to myself and having self-compassion on myself.... Blessed are the meek!!!! ;) Jesus did nothing more than call out pharisees , the Holy Spirit is the most strong and wise Spirit, and a Spirit of love, truth and Justice....... karma comes to narcs, and they know it thats why they are so jealous, and they vibrate on jealously, recentment, hate, lies, phoneyness, entitlement, abuse, lack of empathy even in safe places............. God helps us heal, and start raising more awareness to stay true to ourselves about these unethical hipocritical contradictions!

[@cherrybacon3319]

After so many fake promises and future faking I learnt to make alternative plans whenever he made arrangements or came up with ideas of what to do. He was very sneaky how he'd change ans I just went along with it it to see if he'd trip himself up. If he couldn't stick to arrangements in the past 4yrs he wasn't going to do it now. His actions never matched his words. 🍒

[@steviebarrios5137]

Omg yes you've explained it so well all he ever does is tell me he's trying all the time I'm trying to be a better dad I'm trying to treat you better I'm trying to help you out more omg wow such a good eye opener I held onto the try for so long...

[@rgch-raw729]

So true. The truth will set you free. Thank you

[@inhisservicegodis3287]

I WATCH YOU BEN, TO HELP ASSIST ON QUORA. THESE ARE CLASSES FOR ME. THANK YOU GOD FOR BEN. 🙏🙌💖

[@harmonyvaneaton4101]

Or which words, when their words aren't consistent and they say crazy things and then deny saying them?

[@chriscole5990]

You mean they say let me change the mask 🎭 right!

[@kylaren6337]

Vulnerable / covert / passive aggressive ones use their sneaky actions and not their words. So the victim winds up using their own value system on the narcissist.

[@michellem1361]

My narc ex NEVER said he would change or do better..he blamed me for him cheating and lying..right now we aren’t together but we continue to have a sexual relationship and its killing me…like that’s all Im worth to him😢 he still lies to me..definitely other women in his life…god please help me break this trauma bond or whatever keeps me from just walking away for good! 😩😩

[@steviebarrios5137]

Wow my story to with we still sleep with each other and the trauma bond is real

[@rebekahjette6304]

He will keep using you as long as you let him...

[@memes.1114]

Stop sleeping with him, and watch how much better you get.

[@lisaverner9402]

Do Narcissists ever have good intentions but bad communication skills? What's the best way to communicate honestly, safely & respectfully if dealing with a person who might be a Narcissist or who might have Narcissistic traits? Is it normal to cry after dealing with a person who has some Narcissistic qualities or am I crazy for being hurt by the similarities? Is me going low contact in those situations & using txt messages a solution or is that making me the Narcissistic one?

[@RawMotivations]

Thank you for your comment, i'll answer this in one of my videos, soon!

[@getemgotem1173]

🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟🤟

[@Md-rn6tg]

Do they become obsessive when you block them or not ?

[@wandafrazier5206]

Mine blocked me but when turned around and blocked him he stalked me everywhere.

[@Md-rn6tg]

@@wandafrazier5206 mine has been stalking for a year since I broke up and I’ve done no contact. In some videos they say it will make them give up so I was just curious

[@Md-rn6tg]

@@rdixon9557 same here. I guess that’s how you make them obsess 🤷🏻‍♀️ but he also obsessed when I grey rocked in the beginning of the break up

[@Md-rn6tg]

@@rdixon9557 absolutely! Just saw him looking for me on the streets again. I broke up 11 months ago and I’m still being stalked

[@wandafrazier5206]

@@Md-rn6tg Mine contacted me everywhere. Left voicemails on every phone. Texted work and home. Left notes on my car and my apartment door. Showed up at almost every gym I went to. It's been 9 months since I left. 2 attempts for a restraining order were denied by judges. It took 4 calls to the police. He finally grabbed me in a pool. I called the police. I insisted that I wanted him charged. He was eventually arrested. He was charged with battery. Now he is not legally allowed to contact me or come within range of me or my residence. He's still making the divorce process as difficult as possible. Acts like the victim. He has delayed the battery hearing once. I, still, look around me to be cautious. But, I am much less afraid.