Narcissists who enable drug dependent victims

[@divinelightlounge]

This explains narc parents to a T...they try to keep you dependent on them and at home so they can abuse you, confuse you and undermine you. Oh and the virtue signaling it's the worse!!🤮I hope this message spreads far and wide and helps people break free from all these toxic relations! Great video Kevin, sums up so much! ✨✨✨

[@tiakennedy1681]

Finally, someone actually made this video. Many thanks 🙏

[@elizabethbettencourt1116]

Amen!

[@pameladiaz152]

Spot on!!! I am so glad you made this video… I had to get rid of toxic people to realize I am not depressed my anxiety isn’t as bad.. but it was always how it made them look.. love this!!

[@dictumfactum9468]

Fantastic topic. I knew at an early age there was something amiss. I left home at 17 already addicted. Never went back but my brother stayed and has nearly died in jails and hospitals. I got sober 35 years ago only because I left my narc father and never went back. This description fit him to a tee. Thank you for explaining the thoughts I've had my whole life.

[@Indy__isnt_it]

The "name calling" STICKS with you forever

[@salettamyers8845]

This video is the best you have made! 100% truth- 100% raw & real! Rips the band off off & pours direct healing medicine on! Absorb it warriors! Your next breath depends on it!💙

[@aseasonalname1421]

Not my parents, but my spouse. I could relate as I was an alcoholic for a good portion of my marriage. He always blamed my drinking but he was also a drinker. I quit drinking 5 years ago and he wasn’t exactly supportive. When I was sober 1 year he said congrats, I don’t understand why you would want to be sober but congrats. He continued to bring alcohol into the home every night and would drink. I did it one my own and he lost control of me. I am out of that house and almost divorced.

[@rturney6376]

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[@djnquire]

I've struggled with drug addiction all my life. From the very worst till now occasionally adderall to feel energized. But my narc ex would have no problem taking some here and there, but when we fought she'd tell me how bad I was for taking them

[@Shaz.D.74]

This is a great video Kevin and really resonates with me. When I had a breakdown aged 26, I was on medication and living at my parents home. My mum absolutely loved the control and the attention she was getting, I never felt she cared about me at all. Many years later after my marriage broke down, I looked up my old boyfriend. He had become a heroin addict and I helped him get clean. He lived with his mum and she was furious about my "interference". She had to get rid of me, and in the end I was glad to get out, the atmosphere there was so toxic it was unbelievable.

[@SMR8554]

Much needed conversation 💯

[@elisabethcharvet-fiedler1882]

I am dependent on several medications-for chronic pain, migraines, severe depression and anxiety, etc. I literally cannot function without them in this toxic environment. In fact, as soon as I cross the bridge, over the dam-4miles from home, I HAVE to take a Xanax. Not knowing what I am going to have to face, or hear, or deal with when I walk through the door, instantly starts a panic reaction in my body. I can’t breathe-and I feel as if I’ve been punched in the gut. A feeling of dread consumes me…..every single time. There’s no peace-no safe haven waiting for me. Desperately trying to find my way out-before it’s too late for me. 😢😢😢

[@rturney6376]

There is a book called The Body keeps Score 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Sending you love 💗 and light ☀️ 🌈

[@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe]

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[@bbbbbennyandthejets]

My revelation in 2022 came after I started praying for why I felt lonely despite having the company of my wife, our three children and nine precious grandchildren. I was promptly led on a journey with several odd occurrences leading to a Santa picture laying on my attic crawlspace floor next to a box with my mom's personal items that had been damaged by roofers 10 months previously. The picture was taken shortly after I was traumatized and it depicted my brother with a devious look on his face and our cousin who he abused sitting on Santa's lap, while I was standing in the forefront looking like my mind had just been blown. While Santa was giving my brother a dirty look. And the only relative who would tell me about what happened was my cousin, who said everyone was worried about me as I laid there bedridden for about two weeks after the incident.

[@rturney6376]

My dad use to raid my brother addicted to drugs brothers room before he went to work. He also use to punch holes in his condoms that he found in my brother’s room. Narcissistic parenting 101. My brother would wake up and rage at me for stealing his drugs (my dad took them not me) I spent much of my childhood hiding at the local library.📚 I love 💗 libraries and books and educating oneself!!! ❤❤❤❤ Thank you!!

[@jamesh8648]

Hi. I spent my teen years escaping to the library. Learned so much. Good times. Nothing to go home back to except abject misery. It's a no brainer. Blessings.

[@rturney6376]

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[@Michelle-z1x]

You too ❤ thank you for drifting a bit , I needed that Survivor by Mercy only .

[@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe]

Same.

[@bbbbbennyandthejets]

I was like a soldier fighting a 12 year battle without any support during my abusive childhood. My perilous journey through life began when I was traumatized at 3 years old. Then I shared a bedroom with my abuser until my family moved away from the shit-show my mom's large refugee family put on every night for the poor people across the street. The only medical care I ever received was emergency care by young nurse who happened to be renting our rear apartment for the summer. The trauma effected my brain cortex, leaving me unable to connect to the web of human interaction, and unable to express myself as I navigated through a raging twelve year narcissistic emotional storm. I felt alone even though I grew up with sixteen children. My brother also targeted a cousin who ended up a janitor and an out patient at a mental health center. While his sibling heads the microbiology department at a prominent N.E. medical center. And then 10 years later, I had to navigate another raging emotional storm when I was targeted by a real life cartel connected Scarface. Who promptly split up my wife's 6 sisters. The three who became his flying monkeys all have substance abuse issues along with their children.

[@rturney6376]

I can relate 😢

[@valerieseals329]

You got this one right! I don't have time to tell the whole story right now, but I've seen this exact thing - to the point where someone actually died.

[@bbbbbennyandthejets]

So many painful repressed memories from my early childhood came out as if the incidents just happened after I was told my brother traumatized me when I was 3 years old

[@arianasha]

GO KEVIN STRAIGHT THROUGH I LOVE IT ! I see how focused and present you are.. WELL DONE ! These experiences certainly make you rock solid clearly and unwavering! BRILLIANT !

[@curiousone6435]

Oh man, Kevin, this hurt so much but it’s an important topic some of the experts have not addressed. Mad credit to you for taking this on. This triggers a lot of people for various reasons. I am an addict (still to alcohol and cigarettes, occasionally weed when my dad will be kind enough to drive me to the dispensary after taking away my vehicle. I live in the desert and my small city doesn’t have a great transportation infrastructure). My mom was addicted to gambling to cope with the emptiness and abuse she incurred from my dad, which I only began to understand after she died. He told me my whole life I was crazy, my mom was crazy. The system supports this stuff often with punitive measures in so-called ‘behavioral health,’ perpetuating the abuse and alienation. The pharmaceutical drugs, forced time in facilities, and ostracism due to YOUR problem just adds to the pressure and isolation. Super traumatic. I’m right to worry my drinking will kill me. I have no healthcare anyway and my dad has got me isolated and dependent on him. I am 45 this year, used to make 6 figures at a time, and graduated top of my college class in my late 20s after dropping out of high school due to being bullied. That’s when the addiction started and it’s not over because I don’t see how to escape. I tried to taper down recently, dependent on my dad to deliver the alcohol I wanted to cut down on. He brought me a bottle opener, as if to suggest,’ I know you’re going to fail.’ [And I want you to.] I am not religious and somewhat judged by family which includes religious clergy. However, I have found a lot of wisdom in the book of Job. I like tarot, as well, and ponder cards like Strength, Temperance, and the Devil while struggling with this alone. Dude, this is one of the most powerful videos you’ve done - you are killing it lately when I tune in. Thank you so much for speaking power to truth. I’ve got tons of numbers to call on a carousel but finding help feels impossible after years of pursuing leads to try to escape and heal. All I do is get shamed, wear myself out, and am patronizing-ly lectured about ‘coping.’ That is ALL I know. Healthy relationships don’t encourage you to shut up and ‘cope.’

[@rturney6376]

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[@djnquire]

She'd also advocate for me to get back on depression meds

[@mikesmith6594]

This video resinates thanks Kevin! I feel stuck in the relationship with my my narcissistic father.

[@helenwashington6212]

Amen , I said to some people a while ago that if they get delivered they will shut down systems .

[@salettamyers8845]

I got off the hamster wheel & pray someday my adult kids will see the truth but as adults they make their own choices- they chose to stay with the toxic one💔 They have zero control of me- i see right through them💪👊👊

[@rturney6376]

I am sorry 😢

[@emmahayesz]

Excellent as always. I can relate. I'm a Mum who was abused by my ex husband and got onto pills then met the next guy. I'm recently narc free and almost med free nearly 6 years on. So grateful for life now after going through the most severe akathisia. Narcs paled in comparison to that medication induced hell. Thank you for all the amazing information and insight 😊

[@rturney6376]

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[@Tammy_4]

I was in an out patient rehab my councilor had a PhD in psychology. She had two may 3min conversations with my mother. Before I graduated she came to me over some step work and said, your son's showing alcoholic behavior and your mom is going to sabotage your recover.y. I had thought so so many times she wanted me to drink. Yeah she was a narrasstic. Taking a good hard look back, she sabotaged alot of my teens and early 20s. They are very very dangerous people.

[@davidakaloganfreeman7418]

Imagine that... Yep grew up in that insanity.. went to drugs when I was young cuz I knew there was something wrong in our family system .. didn't know what.. u have given me a frame work for the emotional abuse and emotional neglect that created the feelings of guilt , shame and inadequacy and low sense of self and feelings of being unloved and only supported to do the things my narcissistic adopted mother wanted me to fullfil in life. And Christian religion was the framework ...no problem w christ.. but have seen horrible things done in the name of Jesus and in the end I look like the crazy one being angry, and reacting from the trauma and abuse..cycling thru stoholm syndrome w the "christian church"

[@allysonwhite5004]

That's what happened to me..went to psychiatrist..he put me on Xanax..guess with my addictive personality..I got hooked for 10 years..clean 13

[@curiousone6435]

Benzodiazepines are so dangerous. Credit to you for defeating that demon - it’s not easy. 👊

[@rturney6376]

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[@AnaSilva-to1sy]

Yes, the parents of the Narcissist didn't think how scarred their would be, because of their mistreatment of their child, and that those memories will be with them for life.

[@elizabethbettencourt1116]

This word needs to be spread. I was there for years and out of the systemic system. Make you feel bad and enabling! Yes! Thank God for helping me out of this unhealthy life! Amen, its so sad all the systems to hold people down.

[@patriciamckenna9284]

Excellent, Kevin!!! 🙏

[@bbbbbennyandthejets]

I met my beautiful wife and her 6 sisters in her special family when a cousin picked me up after school for the first time ever, right after I attempted suicide and was still thinking about how to kill myself on my next try. And for ten years I felt like I was living in heaven on earth.

[@kim_possible1974]

My ex was like this. Told Dr’s I had BPD. Never diagnosed with it, but because I got addicted to prescription pain meds, I wasn’t credible. He did everything possible to make it worse. Give me other drugs I didn’t ask for, would keep my medications locked up (take them himself) and then accuse me of taking them..putting me into deliberate withdrawal. This would go on every other month or so for years. And then would shame and verbally abuse me for it. It was 15 years of hell. I got clean for good 3 years after I left the marriage. 🤷‍♀️

[@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe]

There are no Meds for BPD actually, BPD needs Trauma Therapy. And perhaps DBT in Order to learn to regulate the Intense Emotions and learn healthy Boundaries also to have and to get and SelfReflection without Guilt or Shame

[@amandahingle2286]

I wish I could get my life straightened after dealing with this

[@rturney6376]

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[@Michael-v2d]

This is an excellent video. I went through the same thing with my abuser.

[@Ann-hj7vl]

I'm trying to get off all my meds. My doctor agreed with me. Slowly going off of them. Amen

[@heidipucci9078]

So happy to have found your channel❤ thank you

[@bbbbbennyandthejets]

I watched it play out with three of my wife's 6 sisters who became the narc's flying monkeys, along with a brother-in-law who also was a sneaky covert narc. They all still live on the same block where they grew up. The saddest part is that their children also have substance abuse issues. There was a fourth sister, the youngest who had been a flying monkey and after my mother-in-law passed away at 51, the environment became so toxic that they welcomed a weirdo into the family who married her and then sexually abused the narc's son. So the special family was more after they had helped pulled me back from the brink of oblivion after enduring 12 years of narcissistic abuse by my psychotic older brother, who I recently learned nearly killed me when I was 3 years old.

[@Ann-hj7vl]

You speak the truth.

[@NifftyMelinoë]

Years ago I discovered this topic in M Scott Peck's People of the Lie. Dark stuff. Still vitally necessary to keep in mind. As always, thank-you Kevin

[@rturney6376]

Great 👍 video!!!

[@djnquire]

Good tool for flying monkeys

[@koolbeans8292]

Bingo!

[@ThomasWBaldwin]

Sober 15 years

[@joannturi3968]

Sometimes you cannot stop an oncoming train. I lost my 31 year old cousin to heroine. He did listen to me and agree to go to rehab. Needless to say his mother has been bitter towards me ever since. Nobody knows what's going on in someone's head, it can be accidentally, but deep down if it's going to happen it will. Warnings, being brought back to life by the shot, etc., etc. That person is weak and if all avenues have been exhausted, why say why? It's a personal decision by that individual, weak or not.

[@peachesandpoets]

Yup. Ex friend enabled my alcoholism.

[@djnquire]

It's hard to believe I'm still alive actually

[@rturney6376]

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[@rturney6376]

Will you do a video on the book 📚 The Body Keeps Score, please 🙏!!! So Important

[@JakeHoegger]

Let's see.to be honest I'm an alcoholic /addict. Being stalked by my former supervisor, whom supplied me the drugs he sales, .what a dirty trick .I'm lost,un employed, and want to be better.please pray for me and i will pay it forward and pray for thise who prey on the mentally ill,elderly out there.that they may find help for themselves..

[@adambutler4237]

A wish comes with counter, Be careful what you wish for, a grand wish has a great cost.

[@rturney6376]

There is a good book called the The Family Crucible

[@c.h.5998]

I was a healthy person, confidant, loving life. Until him. Now im anxious. All week end everything was fine, calm. Then sunday night i was watching a movie, commented on the characters part. I got an instant explotion,he was defending his long dead mother. My heart almost exploded, it was a instant attack on me, that was sensless..i ignored him. Tried to shut it out.. This morning he was ok, then again he exploded on me. My heart started racing, i started shaking.every time i spoke his rage grew.accusations started flying.lies and ugliness towards me that i dont deserve. I told him to get out, im still trying to calm myself. I explain being around him like living in a washing machine, that suddenky hits the spin cycle..im left shattered. Each tirade adds fuel to his next. He is like a mama bear that attacks while you are strolling through the woods.. Its insanity.and ive lost my emotionsl and physical health to this. I have depression, anxiety and constantly fight the unworthiness he tries to impose on me. Nacissists are monsters.

[@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe]

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[@Danny.Murillo]

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[@dashabateman4409]

Yeah, I know my father was AA bit of enough. And he used to pull his weed around.a My mom had a huge pair of honkers. They were absolutely massive. They were big honkers, Hong Kong. They were really good. They would hang from her hooters.

[@dawnysmitty]

How do I make an appointment?

[@CrazyTimesEh]

Check out under the video description, Dawny. Click on the link there. I'm thinking of making an appointment too.

[@divinelightlounge]

The link is under the video, it takes you to the website which I used to book

[@allysonwhite5004]

I became free when I got off all drugs..bad one.. the looney ones..that make you more Looney 😮😮😮

[@SageZane]

sometimes when a narcissists is constantly acting like they can understand you its very useful to put something like this on, sure I can understand what your saying, but lets say you thought you were reading my mind, well, you may have noticed that I didn't say a thing, why does that fact have to say anything about anybody, if you could just see the look on your face.........So........phoneys........hmmmmmm????????

[@bonnybillups]

And alcohol

[@SuperReasonabledoubt]

Easier to control a drug addict

[@SageZane]

Are narcissists all that bad? Sure they'll lie to your face anytime anyplace but they were just in the right place at the right time, they just want to know the pleasure right? Just don't tell me you can read minds.

[@theauthenticself]

Sorry to say but I'm the Only one who is not Addicted in my family and also in my married family! I'm NOT Lookin for Attention or "to control" I Don't "Feel Sorry" for them & IT IS ROUGH ON THE SOBER PERSON! I Live It! I Also Have Trauma & Choose NOT to Use!

[@salettamyers8845]

@@theauthenticself I have a half sister addicted to herion- we lived the same life & chose separate paths- she has the degree & a pillow of shame i would never want to lay my head on- I pray for her deliverance but have very strong boundaries against her- both deceased parents 8 months apart are a testimony to her wrong doings😪😪

[@nhopkins1979]

You missed the point

[@rturney6376]

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[@ljsunshine1232]

Sounds like you might be a narcissist. “I don’t feel sorry for them” “it’s rough on the sober person”. Those are both really self centred statements. It shows little concern for anyone but yourself which is what narcissism is essentially.

[@AnaSilva-to1sy]

You say: even Jesus left His mom, this is an awful comparison, because you yourself said that 'nobody is Jesus', in one of you video's and Jesus' mother knew He was Jesus from birth, and being divine she knew He had to leave her one day from His birth. Mary knew she was going to serve God: Luke 1:26-28 & 31-32 Now in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent by God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David. The virgin's name was Mary. And having come in, the angel said to her, 'Rejoice, highly favored one, the Lord is with you; And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call call His name JESUS. He will be great, and will be called the SON OF THE HIGHEST

[@HoneyComb323]

This title is kind of misleading. The actual information didn't come until 10 minutes in a 15 minute video. Wish you could have delved deeper and a clear situation or analogy that could be relatable

[@sonjabrady1032]

I AGREE 💯 PERCENT WITH THIS.DISFUNCTIONL GETS DISFUNCFUCHANALL HOW EVER U SPELL IT I HEARD ABOUT THIS IN SCHOOL IN THE 1975