NLP Parts Integration Resolve Inner Conflicts

[@DamonCart]

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[@DamonCart]

@Ace Adonis You're welcome.

[@belamithani1]

Thanks Gratitude 🙏

[@wigglwrrm]

This is the EXACT exercise I'm doing right now for my "live music perfomance" goals. Thank you!

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome.

[@tatianapouladian7901]

Great information. I have used this technique by brining the hands together, as you demonstrated. You are right, at times, the hands did not want to come together and that's where I was getting stuck! Eliciting the values are much better and I can see how it can make it more solid. Thank you for this and the 4-Part Videos.

[@DamonCart]

Glad it was helpful.

[@NathanSegal]

My number one problem has been dissociative amnesia. I just recovered my memories after 13 years. It's been extremely painful. I'm watching your video to integrate these parts. I want to integrate the amnesia so it never happens again. I want to create a safe space inside myself so I can take care of myself, regardless of what happens.

[@DamonCart]

Glad to hear that you're recovering your memories and working through this.

[@melissarose6901]

I made a lot of positive changes last year using NLP techniques, but I still sabotage myself with my writing career. I know it's what I want to do, but fear holds me back. Which is why I am here watching these videos lol

[@DamonCart]

Did you find this video helpful?

[@melissarose6901]

Life Mastery Gym yes

[@JoyJoy-ro1dv]

I recommend very much the book "The war of art" by Steven Pressfield. Also exists in audio book. Doesn't solve the problem fully but surely helps a lot. Good luck with your writing !

[@belamithani1]

Working on inner conflicts as shown in this . It's very powerful. My goal is working as NLP. practitioner.

[@rickboiardimindshiftingaca6975]

Great video, very helpful to clarify. I had someone do the parts integration and the Visual squash on me last week when I was getting my certification. I found it all very profound and intense.

[@wahidmehmood890]

Love you brother ❤

[@nickycastro2426]

Never mind, got my answer here!! Thank you!

[@inthevortex-de1rh]

Thank you very much. I want to get up at 6.00 Am every day but so far I can't keep it like that for a long time. The longest I was able to do it was 30 days in a row then the holidays came and I stayed late and I am waking up late again

[@DamonCart]

Perhaps you were being too rigid with yourself. Give yourself at least one day a week to sleep late and see how that goes.

[@treewx]

Thank you for this. Very helpful for me. Much Love!

[@DamonCart]

You are so welcome.

[@vbnprasad4806]

Very simple yet mind blowing

[@DamonCart]

Thank you for commenting.

[@margaridagouveia8066]

Thank you finally understood 😊 how to do this technique

[@DamonCart]

Good

[@emilycoulstonmusic]

wow this was amazing! really simplified the concept. thank you soo much!

[@DamonCart]

Glad it was helpful.

[@notallthatbad]

Hey Damon, Tremendously useful videos, thanks for all of the free teachings. Is there a resource where I can learn more about how to integrate? I get the structure, but not certain "how" to do it. I think you may have alluded to it being a bit more complicated than your explanation in this video, so curious if you had a more in-depth explanation in one of your courses. Willing to pay!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you. This video might help you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5-vqYSAar92qck

[@jomk5731]

Awesome technique! Thanks Damon.

[@DamonCart]

Any time!

[@johnalchin9175]

I always find excuses for not doing well in Network Marketing and I progressed so far in a training to become a weekly Share Trader, then I hit a hard part of the course, and give up.

[@strictlycoaching3793]

Your channel was inspiration for me to launch my own NLP coaching channel. 😊

[@DamonCart]

Best of luck to you!

[@DaleStricklandClark]

That really left me wanting. It kind of ended before we had a result.

[@DamonCart]

Did you do it?

[@stardavies6202]

Thank You Damon I would like your point of view on the following Sometimes when I speak with the procrastinator part or any (seemingly) negative part the bottom line is that it is "protecting the child" from some perceived threat etc so is wants to protect him/her from trouble or fear e.g. h/s was made to look a fool in sport etc so the part would not want h/h to exercise as it is protecting them from old emotional wounding & belief that exercise may lead to shame etc Once we have uncovered the shame we can reframe the scene etc How would you talk to this part??

[@DamonCart]

This sounds like it's more deeply rooted so a parts integration might not work. Especially when it comes to shame that occurred early in life, it usually takes ReImprinting to integrate the part. You can still try a parts integration. Welcome the part. Let the part know how old you are and let it know that you know that it's doing something positive for you. In addition to protection, ask the part, what is its positive intention for you? What does it want for you?

[@humanyoda]

Going to bed early has been a long-term goal of mine.

[@iampaulwadsworth]

Hey Damon. When I was taught the visual squash method a few years ago, I was told that the magic of it's success comes from the subconscious changes. And the visual element gets people out of their head, so to speak. The method you share here seems to be based on the conscious mind and actively thinking through the benefits and values to each. I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this and how it would create an internal shift for lasting change...

[@DamonCart]

Interesting question. The way I show parts integration in this video is something that came out of trying to be more efficient with my clients. Both methods elicit values from the unconscious. The main difference from this method is I don't have the client put his or her hands out in front of them and bring the parts together. Instead I focus on getting agreement from both parts and recruit the part that was resisting to be a part of the change going forward by employing it. I've found that this is what the part wants, to play a roll in the process to insure its intention also gets fulfilled. The problem with the traditional visual squash is that you're slamming two parts together and hoping they sort it out between them. It may seem like magic when it works because it's a bit crude and haphazard. I prefer to be more certain that the parts have joined and are working together before moving forward. There's differing styles of NLP practitioners. Some people prefer the more precise method of eliciting necessary information from the unconscious (bringing unconscious information into consciousness), making precise changes, and then allowing it to slip back into unconsciousness. A great example of a model that fits this style is the Meta Model. Other practitioners prefer more the hypnosis/Milton Erickson way, which is to give direction to the unconscious and have faith that the unconscious will sort itself out or heal itself. The idea being that you want to disturb the unconscious as little as possible. A great model for this is obviously the Milton Model. There's no right or wrong way. It depends on what works best for you. I prefer precision and I prefer to shine conscious light on the unconscious and make changes until we get the desired result and then let it go back into unconsciousness. I don't like to guess or hope it worked. Some people are really good at working in the opposite style. Milton Erickson was obviously a master of this. It's just a difference in styles. Find what works best for you.

[@iampaulwadsworth]

@@DamonCart Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate it. I'm going to give this method a try, even on myself at first. It can feel quite uneasy using the visual squash when it sometimes feels forced. We live in a world where people are impatient and like things fast and with little effort. I think that's why hypnosis and Marisa Peers RTT are quite popular.

[@harshsingh21]

You are posting amazing content the best i have seen on KZbin!! I wish i could afford your coaching rightnow only but trying to do best of the resources i have!! Love from india!!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you for the kind words. I also do group coaching, which is much more affordable than one-on-one and still extremely powerful. From this channel to the services I offer, I try to make this as accessible as possible.

[@jjockocharonaldo]

Wow!. 7 levels deep excercize.

[@emmyn2060]

Hey, Damon! If I understand right we just need to find our higher values of parts without put them on our hands? I very like your method, without miracle, but thinking about our real intentions. I'm going to use this method. We don't need to ask someone about where is a part in your body, colour or size. Your method takes less time and more comfortable. Maybe you have some ideas about 6 step reframing? Thank you so much for sharing very great information! ♥️

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome. As far as 6 Step Reframing goes, like most NLP processes, the important thing is to practice it until you don't need to think about the steps anymore. It will become more natural and you won't have to consciously think about doing it. You'll naturally reframe.

[@emmyn2060]

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[@victoriavance7876]

Hey, where did you study in order to become a coach and make a living off this?

[@DamonCart]

There wasn't one place or one teacher. I did as many trainings as I could afford (and couldn't afford) and I practiced everyday. Eventually I got a mentor, which was unexpected but he was the one who really took me to the next level. Concurrently I learned about KZbin, how to make videos that get seen, and how to run an online business. I did trainings on all of these things.

[@Gabrielle937]

I must have missed something. What is the actual integration process when making the deal or compromise with the two parts?

[@DamonCart]

Finding a strategy that serves the values of each side.

[@bevnibbs9038]

Brilliant - thank you x

[@DamonCart]

You’re welcome

[@julierosie62]

I procrastinate on things that are fun though - it’s so bizarre, I don’t do things I enjoy and find all the ways to avoid them.

[@Bigdogiswolfing]

Quick question. I was practicing metaphors the other day and I noticed a very specific pattern with all the metaphors I wrote out. They all followed the theme of kind of being and outsider and having to prove myself or be better than everyone. It was kind of strange but after I did it, it made me realize that it is very true and explains a lot about my personality and thought processes. Anyway my question is how do I re write/change this story?

[@DamonCart]

What would the metaphor be like if you self-validated and that you're so secure with yourself that you never felt the need to prove yourself or be better than anyone else?

[@Bigdogiswolfing]

@@DamonCart Great point! I need to come up with new narrative/metaphor to identify with. Thanks for the reply.

[@defamationlaw]

Question - if NLP worked that easily then why was one of the co-founders overweight and allegedly had a drug problem for many years? Would not mind your honest opinion. I think congruity is important. Is it they did not want to change or the techniques did not work to solidy the change permanently? Would be interested in your honest thoughts on this.

[@DamonCart]

It's actually a great question and you're not the first to ask it. I too wondered about this at one time. I don't know the answer for certain but I will give you my theory. This is not something I think much about anymore because I know what NLP can and can't do and it delivers when I apply it appropriately. Change is nearly impossible unless you want it. What you value really doesn't change. How you go about getting what you want (or value) you can change more easily than most people think and this is what NLP is good for. Someone once asked Richard Bandler, the founder you're referring to in your question, why he was over weight and why didn't he just NLP himself into being healthier. His response was along the lines of I like eating junk food. This leads me to believe he places a higher value on food he likes than his health. I don't. I never have. Yet I have had unwanted weight gain in the past. I value being healthy and being slender so I used NLP to make changes and now it's on autopilot and I maintain outstanding health. Bandler had a drug problem. He got himself into a bad situation and had to go to trial for murder. He was acquitted. At that point he probably value is freedom, freedom from jail and freedom from addiction, so he straightened himself out. He also has had major health problems and was told he would never walk again. He's walking. Knowing Bandler (I don't know him personally) he probably believes he's smart enough to outsmart his body and make it live despite his weight. We can all be better and improve ourselves even when we're at the perfect weight and we're wildly successful. NLP can help you get there, but it still comes down to how much of it you want.

[@sunnybux]

I want to finish my book on depression.

[@Hossam.Abostate]

I sabotage relationships by running away or by over controlling the other person.

[@DamonCart]

What would you like to do instead?

[@Hossam.Abostate]

@@DamonCart Not to take it personally and become fearful, instead feel safe, normal, and then motivated and inspired to use whatever this conflict obstacle is to come up with a solution and a newer, better path. : )

[@DamonCart]

@@Hossam.Abostate what stops you?

[@Hossam.Abostate]

Fear. I can feel it in my head and neck : ))

[@DamonCart]

@@Hossam.Abostate find the positive intention (value) of the fear and integrate it into what you want.

[@kristymartinez5915]

I want to be able to be in a healthy, secure relationship.

[@supervixenxiii]

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[@JohnM...]

Absolutely no one procrastinates to have fun. When I procrastinate it's to relieve stress by avoiding the responsibility of studying something I think is going to be difficult, even though I WANT to learn it, and the possibility of having to mentally beat myself up if I ultimately fail at it, because criticism (even my own) is hurtful. AND THEN, because I procrastinate and don't get anything done, I beat myself up anyway. I can't see the positive intent in that.

[@DamonCart]

The positive intent behind procrastinating is to relieve stress. How is that not positive? Ask yourself, what does relieving stress do for you? Chunk up to higher values. Procrastination is just a strategy. When we consciously intend to relieve stress by taking a break, we don't judge it as procrastination. Relieving your stress will make you more productive. Beating yourself up is also a strategy. What is the positive intent? It's likely to get you to do the things you want to accomplish. Go deeper. What is important to you about that? Chunk up to a higher value and you will access better strategies to get yourself to do what you want to do without beating yourself up.

[@rashid1234ize]

I am yet to find single NLP practitioner teaches like Steve andreas or richard..

[@DamonCart]

They were/are unique.

[@rashid1234ize]

@@DamonCart I prefer steve andreas much better than richard when it comes to personal sessions as he was psychologist and knows how to connect,.listen, and hit the target at right time. I had seen many NLP practitioner are so excited to apply technique after technique and thereby very less results. the core principle of every Therapeutic intervention is connecting with client..A person who is not psychologist doesn't know how to do this better.. I had seen one after doing a demonstration with a audience on anxiety relieving with sub modalities changing and after the process he asked the subject "where is anxiety now" :( I just fond of reading steve raised question Sir your question is wrong as it is intellectual invitation to find anxiety again rather you should say "what you feel now" but the trainer got offended untill I showed him thats what steve Andreas said..

[@humanyoda]

Doesn't having to introduce "cheat days" into your life indicate that you don't enjoy eating healthfully and exercising? It would be cool to achieve enjoying those activities so that no "cheating" is desired.

[@DamonCart]

It depends on the person. For me having some days where I can enjoy food that I like but is not super healthy creates balance. Rather than deny yourself all pleasure, moderation is key to sustaining long term healthy habits.

[@humanyoda]

@@DamonCart, do you also enjoy eating healthful food?

[@DamonCart]

@@humanyoda definitely. And I also enjoy drinking wine and eating hamburgers so I moderate those.

[@_cr8ive_]

If our whole physiology is run by our subconscious belief systems . . . How do you know that you're not cheating yourself out of 5 days of fun and relaxing by eating "right" and exercising when people are gaining muscle and fitness just by meditating and visualizing it? Just like some are even reversing their age already? 🤔🤷🏼‍♂️

[@DamonCart]

I think our physiology is run by more than our belief systems. Which people are gaining muscle and fitness just by meditating and visualizing? So far, we can slow down the aging process. We've yet to be able to reverse aging.