From NLP Swish Pattern to Transforming Your Beliefs and Identity

[@DamonCart]

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[@Superstacco]

Very clearly and empathetically explained. I also want to comment that the production quality of your videos has improved substantially and I really appreciate what you're doing here.

[@DamonCart]

Thank you for the kind words.

[@HA-nice]

fantastic!!! powerful, powerful knowledge, you just handed the keys to complete and absolute liberation/freedom right here, my mind grabbed every word you said & I just can't stop smiling, I get it!!! thank you, thank you, thank you!!

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome! And thank you for the kind words.

[@vbnprasad4806]

Man you are simply generating the kind of person i always wanted to be and is inspiring, powerful and bang on.. something a powerful feeling i can feel while i am watching this video... thanks a ton!!

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome.

[@petrolene_performancecoach]

This is interesting. Self-concept is where I start with nearly all of my clients. It’s like the flag post on top of the mountain- otherwise they have no idea what they should aim for. And as we go through the journey, they clearly can see where the internal conflict comes from - when what they’re doing doesn’t match up with their values.

[@DamonCart]

Do you know the Self-Concept Model or do you use another identity based model?

[@stephen_101]

Steve was an incredible teacher and you are doing a fantastic job making sure his work lives on. Keep up the good work Damon, you are a fantastic teacher 👏.

[@DamonCart]

Thank you. Will do!

[@jennlong7123]

Awesome video! So glad I found your channel an hour ago, thanks for sharing this soooo much!

[@DamonCart]

My pleasure.

[@marjorie.gabriel]

Damon so many thanks for your gift and what you share .

[@DamonCart]

My pleasure

[@Diabetescankissit-jq2qw]

Just found you on KZbin and very glad I did. I am learning a lot. I hope to start Life Coaching within a year. Thanks for all your help!! 🎉

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome. Be sure to check out my demonstration videos and my live streams. I usually go live every other week.

[@EngagedWellBeing]

Great video! I'm in a year-long program now pursing a certification in NLP and this is very useful. Thanks for sharing!

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome. Who are you training with?

[@EngagedWellBeing]

@@DamonCart NAP leadership and coaching Academy created by Lisa Lieberman-Wang and Willard Barth. They both trained under Bandler, Grinder and heavily under Tony Robbins.

[@trendspeculator5516]

The way you put it all together, f#@ing AMAZING !!!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@synergy2222]

Very well stated! Steve and Connirae Andreas were my favorite NLP teachers!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@cindylarsen2115]

Amazing video! Thank you!!

[@DamonCart]

Glad you liked it.

[@at-last]

9:31 become before get

[@TheDatingDocTV]

My struggle is falling back to subtle overeating but at a writer’s block of what I want to be. Unsure I want a sports car or a big house as this feeds the ego which is in conflict of stoic ideals Ive embedded in me. Part of this for me is the journey of understanding money as an extension of influence and creativity instead of luxury chasing. Regardless great video as I work on the conscious becoming unconscious. Swear for a second you were about to say “be like water” 🤣

[@DamonCart]

Yes, definitely be like water ; ) When you're clear about your values, it usually clears this up.

[@Stevemind88]

Love your vids. Great content and value

[@DamonCart]

Glad you like them

[@fightbacktohealth9625]

Damon... this is so good

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@ismaielwaheed4300]

Thanks for the super clear explanation 👍Keep it up 👍

[@DamonCart]

You are welcome

[@micahstephenscoaching]

Should the image of the unwanted state be associated or dissociated?

[@DamonCart]

Unwanted should be associated and ideal self should be disassociated.

[@lazaruscomeforth7646]

Question: Could you please dedicate a video to giving an overview of NLP literature and how beginning and intermediate NLPers can better navigate this increasingly saturated market? What are musts to read, what are good, what are okay, and what to avoid? Good authors (I know you highly recommend Steve Andreas), medium recommended, and not recommended? What are core texts, what are good supplements, and what are distractions?

[@DamonCart]

Books are not a good way to learn NLP. The best way to learn NLP is to practice it. I give plenty on this channel for people to practice and I also provide trainings.

[@lazaruscomeforth7646]

@@DamonCart Thank you. Yes, that's becoming clearer as I learn more. My challenge so far is getting the big, middle, and little pictures/maps to cohere, like getting a map of the city and a map of the subway to work together. Naturally, this will take time. There are many techniques that seem to be needed, while others that seem to fold into other techniques or perhaps even are redundant in light of more fundamental techniques. Thanks so much for your content, it's helping a ton.

[@DamonCart]

@@lazaruscomeforth7646 I recommend not approaching NLP technique by technique. NLP is a model composed of many models. Approach learning NLP as learning a model rather than learning techniques and trying to put them all together.

[@marksgameoflife8446]

I wanted to learn nlp along time ago and I started watching your videos (along time ago.) And thought you did a great job teaching and explaining nlp. Then I went back to work and stop learning nlp. My question is, what video of yours should I start watching to start learning nlp from the beginning ,now that i have a lot time due to the pandemic and lockdowns. Can your show me in order the videos i should start watching? Thank you in advance.

[@DamonCart]

I understand where you're coming from. NLP is vast and it can be difficult to know where to start. My videos don't really have an order to them though. The best way to know where to start is to get clear about what you want from learning NLP. Feel free to comment here about what it is you want from learning NLP and I'll respond to you regarding the next steps.

[@marksgameoflife8446]

@Kelly Allen Thank You!

[@thoughtrebel]

Nothing but net!🏀

[@heronmontescrimson]

Good stuff .

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@hypnohayley]

Well done!

[@DamonCart]

Thank you.

[@RosePetal17]

Hi Nate, I finally saw this come through my inbox. Listening with great interest:). Nail biter over here ;-/

[@RennKirbyMitsubishi]

Love this. Many thx. 😊👍🇺🇸☘️

[@DamonCart]

You're welcome.

[@at-last]

3:12 pattern inspired model

[@successmindsetbyurban]

Hi Damon, thanks for your amazing videos. You do a great and thorough job with the swish pattern. I was also taught wrong. Would you say the swish pattern would work well for a person who gags every time they have to public speak? Obviously, instead they want to speak freely and confidently. Thank you.

[@DamonCart]

Yes, definitely, that would be a great example of something you could use the Swish Pattern for.

[@successmindsetbyurban]

@@DamonCart thank you so much! I am excited.

[@libechacos2378]

Is the swish pattern the right process to use to replace anger with poise?

[@DamonCart]

Give it a try and see what happens. If it works, then I suppose it is.

[@amitorgad]

if you could provide practical explained of how to do it tommorow morning, it will be highly appreciated, love your video's tho!

[@DamonCart]

Tomorrow morning? Interesting request.

[@marrrrrkie]

Hi Damon! :) Ive been watching your videos and they have helped me understand NLP techniques better. Thank you for sharing these! Does the swish technique also help with trying to diminish the effect of a certain negative experience with a more positive one? Or does this only work best for habit changing? Thanks!

[@DamonCart]

The Swish Pattern works best for anything that is compulsive, but feel free to experiment with it.

[@ShahabSheikhzadeh]

Where did you take your training, and were there other things that were improper that you've since learned about the proper way?

[@DamonCart]

I started at NLPU. I did their practitioner, master practitioner twice (I was a resource coach for the second one), and I did their trainer training. I did practitioner twice with the NLP Institute of California (once as a resource coach), as well as their hypnosis and master practitioner training. I did a training with Richard Bandler on hypnotic repatterning. I also did Connirae Andreas's Coming To Wholeness Training, which is what led me to meeting Steve Andreas who mentored me for years before he passed away. I also did Core Transformation with Mark Andreas and Metaphors of Movement. Other people I've trained with have been L. Michael Hall and Doug O'Brien. It seems like I'm forgetting a few but that's who comes to mind. There are too many things to mention that are being taught in NLP incorrectly. I've made several videos about them. Stick with the Andreas', my stuff, and John Grinder (he's difficult to deal with and to read and listen to but very accurate). Bandler is all over the place and hard to learn from but brilliant. I'm sure there are others out there who are really good. I just don't know them all.

[@ShahabSheikhzadeh]

@@DamonCart NLPU seems excellent. I really like Woodsmall's content and how he breaks down NLP concepts. I came across a INLPTA PDF but I can't seem to find the source. I think I'm going to go through your self concept soon. Look forward to working with You.

[@DamonCart]

@@ShahabSheikhzadeh I look forward to working with you too.

[@tjahangon7286]

Where's the model? Please explain more

[@DamonCart]

I'm not sure what you're asking. It's not a physical model.

[@gutuisgreat1]

Hay I have seen your Swish pattern and found the most interesting on youtube but I want to ask Can we use Swish Pattern for procrastination? if yes then how can you make a video on it? I didn't found any techniques for that. I am sure you will make a good one on it

[@DamonCart]

I've talked about procrastination in many of my videos. You can use the Swish Pattern for procrastination. You would do it the same way as swishing anything else, but if procrastination for you is not a compulsion, it might not work. Treat procrastination like resistance. Elicit the positive intent of procrastination and integrate it into whatever it is you're wanting to do that procrastination is keeping you from doing.

[@gutuisgreat1]

@@DamonCart thanks for your valuable reply can you suggest the video

[@marksgameoflife8446]

I wanted to learn NLP along time ago and started watching your videos and i though you did a great job of teaching and explaining NLP. Then I went back to work and had no time time to keep learning. Now that I have a lot of time to learn NLP again due to the pandemic and the lockdowns/shutdowns. What videos in order should i start watching to learn NLP from the beginning?

[@DamonCart]

At this point you should probably enroll in a training if you really want to learn it. Watching videos on KZbin is a great introduction to NLP but it's not enough to get the full benefit.

[@artofnavigation7784]

Great video & love any tips on how to boost sustainability when you use a model like this✨.. Will you be giving any more detail on how to implement the swish pattern with the self-concept model?

[@DamonCart]

Thank you. I'm not sure what you mean by sustainability. Do you mean how well the changes you make stick? For your second question, the Self-Concept Model is a model. The Swish Pattern is a technique or process. When I use Self-Concept it's for the purposes of transformation at the level of identity, which goes far beyond making a simple behavior change. The Swish Pattern is really about making a simple behavior change, but Steve Andreas realized that the reason why the process works so well is because it uses your self-concept. This was a clue that inspired him to create the model. So you don't implement the Swish Pattern in the Self-Concept Model necessarily, but they share a commonality, the generalization you create called self.

[@artofnavigation7784]

Yes by sustainability I meant how well the changes stick. Thanks for your explanation on how the Self-Concept Model and swish pattern tool share a commonality..

[@DamonCart]

@@artofnavigation7784 the only reason the changes won't stick is if there is any resistance that goes unaddressed. As long as you check congruence for any resistance and integrate the resistance if there is any, the changes will stick.

[@laik6250]

Thanks, good job :) Pls can u make video on congruent/incongruent communication?

[@DamonCart]

Tell me more specifics about what you would like to know from a video like that.

[@laik6250]

@@DamonCart Just knowing more... its pretty interresting when verbal and nonverbal messages are not alligned. U know, someone tell's "im kind person and nonverbally shakes head (like its not true)". Im also asking, because it is verry frequent in daily face to face communication. So, just knowing more about congruency/incongruency.

[@DamonCart]

@@laik6250 search Sensory Acuity and Calibration on my channel and you'll find some videos on this. Watch those and if you still have a question or you feel like you want more information let me know.

[@laik6250]

@@DamonCart Thanks :)

[@derekkhalil707]

Is a compulsion and a phobia the same, or just similar?.. was just thinking about this technique and the fast phobia process

[@DamonCart]

Similar process but different behavior. A compulsion can be for something like binge eating, binge drinking, simple habits, etc.; something you're compelled to do or compelled toward. A phobia is an overreaction to a threat that either isn't real or doesn't pose the risk or danger to justify the intensity of the reaction. Both are the result of being overly associated. Compulsions are usually an over-association in the present. Phobias are an over-association into a past traumatic experience.

[@RosePetal17]

How does one with ADD do this? I have listened and tried various things to bring peace of mind, but my mind gets jumbled up after a while of trying to create structure or when trying to schedule time for self care or personal development. I remember to do something important or helpful one day, then completely forget about it the next day.

[@DamonCart]

Have you tried scheduling and calendaring working on yourself?

[@l.ferrer7923]

Hi, Damon... ‘just wondering here, did you actually get to train with the original creators of NLP, Dr. Bandler or Dr. Grinder?

[@DamonCart]

I have trained with Bandler for one training. I started with Robert Dilts and Judith DeLozier who were two of the original developers with Grinder and Bandler. Judy was married to Grinder. I've also bumped into Grinder because we both live in Santa Cruz and have exchanged emails with him (that didn't go well). Overall though, the core of what I know comes from being mentored by Steve Andreas. In my opinion, he was the greatest NLPer even better than the founders.

[@l.ferrer7923]

Life Mastery Gym * Ahh, ‘got ya. Do you see the irony in Grinder’s claim to founding NLP, the ultimate communications module in the world, and yet everyone seems to get “divorced” from him rather quickly? That includes Bandler. 😂 Oh, some people are “email-dominant” in distant communication style, like me, and some are not... understandably. 😊 I am NLP-certfied via Bandler. Perhaps you could put me in your emails list? Stardust7va at gmail. Thanks, Damon. Keep up the great work! 👍

[@DamonCart]

@@l.ferrer7923 yes I've recognized the irony and decided to go with other teachers. Steve Andreas was quite different than those two. To get my emails and free newsletter go here: www.lifemasterygym.com/

[@manidas4789]

Damon, for any change that needs to take place, initially it has to take place at the conscious level, before it gets into our unconscious level.. Isn't it?

[@DamonCart]

It's actually the opposite. Your unconscious makes up more of your mind than your conscious does. Your conscious awareness is probably about 20% of your total mental capacity. Think of your conscious mind as the captain of an enormous ship that take many people to run it. Changing course depends on the conscious decision of the captain, but it really can only happen by the actions of the crew (unconscious). You can change and not even be consciously aware of it. Have you ever had more than one person comment that something about you has changed until finally you became aware of the change?

[@manidas4789]

Damon... Agreed. The change occurs at unconscious level. Now consider an example. I had a weight issue. My weight kept increasing till I felt it would just explode. Then in 2018, I made a conscious effort to do research, and planned a program of my own. Within a year I lost 16kg. Yes.. The change went in to unconscious level that I am very much aware of my eating pattern. At the same time, I had a target of 10kg more, but past one and half years, my weight has stalled as I have not given " Concious" Effort to stick to my plan. I agree for any change, it has to be in the unconscious level... But how do I do it? If I do the swish method, seeing myself as confident, persistent, have integrity towards any work that I uptake... How will that image of mine help me not to go for that chocolate, until I make a concious effort not to touch it? This is where my confusion lies

[@DamonCart]

@@manidas4789 You can do the Swish Pattern for this. The compulsion image would be the moment you feel that you can't resist the chocolate. Then you swish the image replacing it with the ideal you. The result that the Swish Pattern creates becomes more powerful when it is unconscious because you don't have to consciously negotiate about whether or not to eat the chocolate. The ideal image of yourself unconsciously directs you toward wanting to become the ideal you rather than eat chocolate. The Swish Pattern is an amazing quick fix. Though it is considered a piece of identity work, it's tiny compared to the work we do with Steve Andreas' Self-Concept Model. The Swish Pattern will not solve everything, but anything can be resolved with enough work on your Self-Concept because your reality is a product of your Self-Concept.

[@manidas4789]

Damon...i understand. I will definitely do it. Being an NLP trainee I have to master it myself first. Thanks for your patience and consideration to address each of the queries. In fact I am reading The new technology of achievement by Steve Andreas. What a wonderful read! It's wonderful to be connected with one of his pupils. Thank you 🙏

[@jayakalra5130]

Can you stop person smoking against his wish?

[@DamonCart]

Probably not.

[@jayakalra5130]

How to encourage the person to stop smoking.

[@DamonCart]

@@jayakalra5130 they first have to want to quit. If they don't want to it's not going to happen. Elicit their values for quitting. Get them to become clear about why they want to quit. Try the Swish Pattern as well.

[@jayakalra5130]

@@DamonCart I tried doing but he is not ready to listen. he says I will quit with my will power. He tried earlier but couldn't succeed. not ready to do any pattern. If there is any metaphor you suggest to encourage to quit.

[@DamonCart]

@@jayakalra5130 you can't make people quit. Will power is limited. When it doesn't work for him ask him to try your way or say it's from someone else. He might have an aversion to taking advice from you.

[@zakyvids6566]

Hey there, considering that Many people are doing the swish pattern in a somewhat incorrect fashion, how about this ? Do you mind creating a guided swish pattern type video whereby people can follow you doing it, that would In my opinion clear the confusion people like me have whilst following swish pattern as well as people who are new to NLP which I believe are quite a lot judging by the comments section. Let me know what you think Damon

[@DamonCart]

Would a demonstration help?

[@zakyvids6566]

Life Mastery Gym while a demonstration can be good option , it is actually much productive to have a guided session that way Anyone who seems to be struggling can get a much better ideas

[@mkhodary100]

@life Mastery gym I have been practicing swish patterns with my clients, and it was a game-changer. On the other hand, it did nothing to me. I have a compulsive, destructive behavior of pulling my hair for the last 20 years, and I couldn't give it up. I found it challenging to practice swish patterns in my self as I found it difficult to visualize (i know that might be a limiting belief) and go through the steps do you have any advice for me? i keep asking myself what the reason for this self-sabotaging behavior? still no clue please help

[@DamonCart]

In general it's easier to have someone guide you through a process than to apply it to yourself. I wonder if this might work better as a kinesthetic Swish. What triggers you to pull your hair? Think about the last time you did it and trace backwards until you find the very moment when you felt compelled to pull your hair. What happened right then? What did you see, hear, and feel? That's your compulsion reference. Swish that down or away while you swish up an ideal image of yourself not doing any particular behavior and not in any particular context. You might try coming up with an ideal kinesthetic like something tactile and/or proprioceptive that feels like you've already solved this issue in place of the ideal image. Let me know how it goes.

[@mkhodary100]

@@DamonCart I'm grateful for your prompt response you are one of the best, generous coaches and mentors out there such a GEM! I start pulling my hair before sleeping or talking on the phone or writing an e-mail. Mostly, when I'm bored, so caught in the moment or anxious and I just like how my bald spot feels (weird right?) at the same time I feel guilty and curse myself while doing it cuz i know I will cry once I look at myself in the mirror. I'm sure this self-sabotaging behavior is coming from deep believe about my self-image, would you agree? the question of how can perform a kinesthetic swish

[@ronengreen7210]

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[@JohnM...]

I procrastinate to a HUGE degree in almost everything except behaviours that give me instant gratification and keep me 'away' from my poor opinion of myself. It's like my mind does'nt even conceive of delayed gratification.

[@DamonCart]

Change it.

[@שאולחייםקורמן]

לסיכום: התמונה המייטבית מחליפה את ההתנהגות הלא רצויה. התמונה המייטיבית אינה פעולה ספציפית ומצומצמת (כי תפוח או סלט או זמן לספורט לא תמיד אפשרי). לכן תמונה מיטבית- איך אני רוצה להרגיש או להראות. זו התמונה שתחליף וגם תשפיע על הדברים האחרים שהאדם שואף אליהם.

[@DamonCart]

Yes

[@marksgameoflife8446]

Sorry for the double post,when i pressed the comment button my comment disappeared so i wrote again.

[@DamonCart]

No worries.

[@binatalkar6584]

You are speaking so much but not saying anything🙃

[@DamonCart]

Perhaps you're not listening.