No. 127 Witches: what do we do if we feel paralysed by depression?

This little talk (complete with Archie snoring and - briefly - with him having a nightmare under the table) is a response to a listener's question. What do we do if we feel so paralysed by depression that we cannot do the usual things we used to do e.g. ritual, spells etc., any more. Do we 'fake it until we make it'? Or what?
Here Tylluan offers a few thoughts and ideas about ways we can still try (and it will be difficult) and do a few small things on our path, things that are also part of our daily life so they will not put too much strain on us.
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[@katepennant5829]

Thank you for this... I've been suffering from depression for years. This is the best and most compassionate advice I have ever received. People don't understand faking it doesn't work or changing little things don't work. And I've found lots of people who tell me not to take meds. I do struggle with taking them, but I know they are important. This is wonderful wisdom and I greatly appreciate it. I will try to start incorporating this into my offering and path.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you Katie. I'm so glad you found the video helpful. Meds ARE important, but so is looking after yourself and being good to yourself. I do hope you feel much better soon. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@vivianp5962]

yes, depression can be very paralyzing in every aspect of your life. your right, don't fake it because, in the end you'll be disappointed with your self , then become even more depressed. there are days when I'm just happy because I had the strength to get up and make coffee , that was it for the day.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Yes, that is so true. Do what you can, not what you can't. And I hope it gets better for you soon. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@willowgrove631]

I know this is an old video, but I'm so glad I found it .... your kind advice is very timely and I appreciate it 💜

[@rosemarywillowherb9972]

Wise words I actually found my path when I was suffering from depression becoming a more spiritual person was the way forward for me and you are so right, just something small when that is all you can do is still doing something, moving forward to fighting your way out of it.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you - we often overlook the small things even when we feel well. When someone has depression then even these can often seem beyond them. I do hope you are feeling much better now and that your path ahead is full of blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@SureJan1969]

I have severe anxiety and depression. Thank you so very much for making this video. I can not express how very helpful it was

[@A.Hess7749]

Depression has no face…. It can happen to anyone, any time. Often described as one of life’s most challenging experiences. It can become an endless tunnel of despair, or a desolate landscape…. It is the executioner of happiness and life. I love what you had to say because it’s about small steps, and small accomplishments.

[@pinkpanda5696]

Cutest doggy snores ever!

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Archie could snore for Wales, I swear! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@AgathaVonKatt]

It is a damned hard path; I've been traveling it for 35 years. Hard for my family members, too. Thank you for this video. I don't fake anything well. BB 💜

[@tylluanpenry3233]

It's horrendous, both for those with depression and for those who live with (and love) them. Thank you for leaving feedback here. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@icykittenlunatic1122]

I am recently in a state of major depression and I resonate with your advice to my very core. You are very compassionate and knowledgeable in every vid that I have watched from you. I just wanted to say Thank you very much for your wisdom and guidance. Hope you have a great day.

[@cleverlettuce]

thank you so much for this video i have bpd and severe depression and this has helped to no end thank you

[@ladypenelope572]

Thank you, your compassion and overall vibe in this video is inspirational

[@RibbonRoulette]

I want to deeply thank you for your compassion and understanding. I have been binging your videos for a week or so now, and while I'm loving all of them so far, this one really hit me. I have struggled with depressive episodes throughout my life. I'm happy to say that it's slowly getting better. Episodes are shorter, and with much more time between. (Excluding most of 2020, of course.) But still, I get fearful of my next episode, or worried for others who may not have such a great support system as I do. Your message here is perfectly on point of what I needed to hear. So, truly, thank you so much for your wisdom and kindness, and taking the time to share it with others. To anyone else who may be struggling right now: Please remember to hydrate and your medication. Take it all one day at a time.

[@jmallicat]

As a witch that has a degree in Psychology what you say is good advice. One should love themselves for what they can do and not dwell on what they can't​. Any love that you show yourself is an offering to deity. Much love and bright blessings, Aistir

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you Aistir - that's wise advice. Sorry it's taken so long to reply to this, but I do appreciate your feedback. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@ashleyhayes727]

I am binge watching your videos. I am so, so glad I found you. ❤️

[@EnodiaBlack]

Thank you

[@faizaislam8245]

This is such an understanding and wise point of view. Thank you!

[@Topher1286]

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question. I am very happy to say that I am indeed on meds now and they seem to be doing the trick. The past three days have been the best I've had in a very long time, and while I still feel lacking in motivation to do formal ritual, I do try to see everything I do as an offering and everything I have as a blessing. It really does help once you stop punishing yourself for not succeeding the way you think you ought to be. I hope everybody else who suffers from this dreadful condition finds the light within themselves. Thank you again. Blessed be. :)

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Topher, I am so glad you found it helpful and it was my pleasure to make this video. As you can see from the other comments here, it is a widespread problem and you really aren't alone. I do hope things get much better for you very soon. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@XxfreyaxXx]

Thank you so much for doing what you do. Your videos help me so much with depression and anxiety while also being a witch dealing with those things. Your wisdom and kindness means a lot 🌻💖💕

[@fluffyrainbowclouds3399]

Thank you for this. I didn’t know how much I needed to hear this.

[@enchantedpathstarot1013]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

[@CorpseBride64]

Such an important topic. I am one of those people who lives with depression, and social anxiety. It is an accepted part of who I am. After many, many years I am now finally able to share my struggle with certain family, and friends. I am blessed to have 3 outstanding physician's who are part of my care team. We really are a team, they are there for me, and have helped me identify triggers, and deal with them. I want anyone reading this to know, that you can live a very full, happy life even with these troubles. Not only that, but you will be stronger because of them. I believe it also makes you a much more compassionate person.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

I think one's chances of surviving and doing well even with depression depends upon the support they have, both from family and the medical profession. And of course it also depends on how quickly support can be put in place. Often people don't admit even to themselves how ill they are, and it does make it more difficult then. But I am really glad to read your post, because it does show that it can be overcome. I hope you continue to do well, and have a very full and blessed life. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@Scentyland]

This is such great wise words. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@gwendalynep2795]

I needed this so badly right now. I was taking a break from the little bit of school work I have gotten done today hating myself for not getting more done because I would have gotten more done on a normal day. Thank you so much. I also love to hear that a witch is ok saying that taking meds are a part of taking care of yourself, I used to hate the idea of them, but I know they help. Thank you again!

[@virginiamott9923]

Wonderful message, thank you for this.

[@MagickalMermaid]

Archie!! 😂 You both brought a smile to my face ❤️

[@pixxa37]

Thank you for the kind words and sound advice, Tylluan. Depression is a mean condition, and it makes it so hard to love ourselves. Paralysing is the right word. Small tasks and chores become enormous and I've experienced frustration and self loathing for not being able to accomplish even the simplest of them. Baby steps and loads of hope are my tools when I go through the worst days. Still working on self acceptance... For me that's the hardest part.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

You're very welcome, pixxa. As you say, depression is a very mean condition. But it's very important to be good to yourself, and understanding. Not many people - especially those who are unhelpful to those who have it - would have the strength to deal with it on a daily basis. I hope your path gets easier soon. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@honeybuns7071]

Thank you so much for this, I am extremely grateful 💕💕

[@ScowlingWolf]

thank you and Archie

[@tylluanpenry3233]

You're very welcome. Archie has a loud snore and gets a lot of vivid dreams at the moment! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@DenaJaq]

Good practical nuturing and very necessary advise! Archie is so cute? He snores like a dragon! LOL!

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you! Yes, Archie is definitely cute, and now you come to mention it, he does sound like a dragon, doesn't he? Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@CherryBerry48]

yes always wise and helpful words, and i never looked at it that way, but as always thank you for these words to help me get a better start on my daily activities! blessings to you!!

[@tylluanpenry3233]

You're very welcome, Cherrylin and I'm really pleased you find it helpful. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@m.pixley8413]

I have found that a sun lamp for 30 minutes each morning helps me a lot. Especially living in Rochester, NY one of the top ten overcast cities in the US. The only other way I could possibly remedy myself without my sunlamp would be to live outside year round :)

[@Ninjahound1000]

Thank you so much for this video. As a new witch who struggles with mental illness, I feel down on myself a lot of the time because I feel I'm not doing enough "witchy" things or that I procrastinate on them etc etc. because of what I'm going through. I feel down on myself that I'm not "pushing" myself. But you're totally right , what you are saying here. I'm going to not be so hard on myself and remember that there is magick in me and in everything I do. And the universe understands. Thank you for the vid

[@bluecaster]

Tylluan such a wise woman. Many Blessings.

[@soothebells]

Thank you for your wisdom. I really needed this message today. And the puppy snores were also so cute

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Glad you found it helpful! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@susanbuckminster282]

Thank you!

[@Tracylindilou]

That was a wonderful video!

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@ReticentSparrow]

This provided something helpful to me that I didn't expect to find. Thanks.

[@claracruz7986]

Thank you, this was very kind and soothing.. im considering turning it to my alarm clock

[@sapientia_potentia_est4388]

Intro made me subscribe instantly lol

[@jilldodgson6087]

thank you, you are a sweet soul & are always so generous with your wise sage words

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you, that's very kind. I feel it's really important to reach out to people who seem to be left behind sometimes, and depression is so dreadfully misunderstood that it needed, I felt, to be addressed. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@MandyMoon999]

Thank you

[@annphillips6088]

Thank you.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

You're welcome. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@nicholereid4283]

Thank you for posting this!

[@lorethsj]

Thanks for your opinion. Depression is so hard to discuss because there are so many various forms. Clinical or manic depression VS "I'm having a bad day, week or month" are SO different. Here in the states it is very misunderstood. If someone is "paralyzed by depression" I would strongly advise to seek medical advise and Witch their way through along side the advice of a professional. Blessings !

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you Shawn. There are indeed many different forms of depression and it is so sad that it is not better understood. I hope that changes for the better soon. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@TheBlazad]

Thankyou

[@sarahsheets5958]

Thankyou for this. My daughter age six almost died was on ventilator for 5 days she is ok now but got home after battle of my life to eviction notice have a month to get out. No money I'm tired depressed

[@NotSoCrazyNinja]

My experience tells me that nine times out of ten, if you are depressed, it's either a medical issue or a negative entity manipulating you. For example, I once had an infection that I was unaware of. It wore my body down and I became sluggish and got behind on things and it triggered depression, which lasted a good few weeks before I realized I had an infection that was out of control and got some antibiotics. As the antibiotics began to work, I began feeling a lot better and after a few days, I no longer was depressed. Nutrition could play a role as well because if you don't get adequate nutrition, your body will suffer and for some people (like me), feeling rotten for an extended period of time can trigger depression. There have also been times I realized there was a negative entity manipulating me (feeding off me) to be depressed. These entities usually didn't only use depression, they also used fear, worry, anxiety, depression, and dark thoughts. They would influence me to be more interested in dark topics which eventually led to dark thoughts, which also helped feed it. Once you realize the cause of your depression, if you can realize it, then you can do something about it to get it resolved. Not everyone is the same, but this is my experience. Another thing that helps me is to focus on the positive things in your life. There is always something positive in your life. The more positive things you focus on, the more positive your mindset will become, and the harder it will be to remain in a state of depression.

[@LivetheLight]

This is great! Thank you for speaking about this in a practical, honest way. Love your videos =)

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you! I'm so glad you like it. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@allenarust4152]

I suffer with it from time to time..but doing better. Great video :-)

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Glad you liked the video and very pleased to hear that you're doing better. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@tanachke]

Thank you for this video🖤

[@alwayselvisaron]

Thank you for this.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

You're welcome! Glad you like it. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@TheWhytchInTheShadows]

Great topic and video! I remember when I was deep in my depression. I had to do a lot of the same things that you mentioned. Is Archie alright? Blessed Be darling!

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you - I'm glad that others view my approach in the same way. Yes, Archie is fine, he just dreams a lot! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@Anna-jr8gu]

❤️

[@samanthawinspear6348]

I love your Videos that's is all I have to say :) X

[@lovehopehope8238]

You know this means a lot to me BC I been fighting with depression, for along time in tell I found my path that I'm on now but first I had to forgive myself from my past I had to feel the pain on my own then it help me .move on if that help anyone or make any sense at all

[@tylluanpenry3233]

The important thing is that it makes sense to you. And that having understood what you have been through you are feeling well enough to function reasonably well. Depression makes the easiest path so hard. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@perculiar_daughter]

Thank you for another lovely insightful and very valid viewpoint on depression ( That snoring is the most delightful sound) I wanted to ask, could you at some point (if you havent already) help me understand why it is that some magickal healing/help work I do, works for some people, and not for others? Is this down to the powerful path of their own destiny, which magickal intention/spells can never change? Or is it about their own deep thoughts/feelings/fears about the outcome that actually works against the magickal intentions? Thank you Tylluan, bright blessings xx

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Yes, of course. I have done a video about why spells work sometimes and not others, but I'll put your query on my list for the next batch of videos. Glad you found this one helpful! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@angelaarango2721]

Is there a spell jar we can use for depression

[@vivianp5962]

Question-Do you think you can accidentally manifest something bad upon your self during your depression state? I keep thinking for about 1.5 yrs. something bad over & over again, now i think its going to come true.

[@tuesdayg7030]

I have no family, have looked after myself since i was 13, I'm legally blind getting more blind as every year passes and theres nothing that can be done about it. My child got taken away as a baby because they be;lieved i was unable to raise him so blind and alone. These are the things making me depressed. I cant get a proper job besides SW because of my blindness. IDK what I am supposed to do. Most days i cannot find the energy to make myself food or clean up from the day before. I have absolutely no one. No matter how much journaling or sitting in my garden or anything else i canot connect to my craft anymore, or to anything, i really need help

[@jessicawhite8861]

Hello if you need real and sure solutions, I can refer you to the man that worked for me

[@glebolkhovsky2531]

Awesome video! Thank you. :) I can't exactly say I'm depressed. I extremely miss a friend. A friend I used to talk with a lot. I can't go back to talking with her, it happened this way. For now I allow myself to miss her. Yet how do I get rid of it? It makes doing things (anything really) a lot harder.

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you Gleb. And I'm really sorry that you are missing someone like that. Missing someone so deeply must feel like some of your insides have been torn away. I hope it gets better soon and that even if you cannot go back to how things were, that at least you are able to deal with it in a way that comforts you. You can always contact me on PF. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@glebolkhovsky2531]

Thank you. :) Can I write to you in facebook?

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Gleb Olkhovsky Yes of course!

[@gladyslopez6439]

Hi my name is Gladys I want to know what's going on with my life I don't know what to do some things I feel like I'm mad something save your leg down crying I don't know what is going on I think somebody's doing which crowd or blow spells I can feel something is wrong with me because sometimes I can tell by reading people

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Please don't jump to the conclusion that you are being hexed. It is really quite unlikely. But if you feel uncomfortable in a psychic sense, begin with cleansing and setting up shields and wards to protect yourself. Go to the doctor and make sure that your physical health is okay. That's really important. And if you already have meds to take, do make sure you're taking them. Blessings, Tylluan :-)'

[@anothergypsysoul1701]

💜💜💜💜

[@tylluanpenry3233]

Thank you! Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@babysmile8225]

Thank you for this video i need help my baby mom can get up the bed like araund 11:45 she was filling bad and trowing up and now she is in the doctors can it be a spell plz help

[@tylluanpenry3233]

I doubt this is due to any spell and from the sound of things, really the best place is at the doctors. Hope she feels better soon. Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@babysmile8225]

She is feeling better but I feel someone is doing something wrong is there a way you could help me

[@tylluanpenry3233]

I'm glad to hear she's feeling better. But why do you feel someone is doing something wrong? Blessings, Tylluan :-)

[@babysmile8225]

she's not being the same person she is really stressful and screems for everything you tried to talk to her and she just Smiles or looks at you and just saying no like if she is going through a lot she wasn't like that she has like this for the past 3-4 months we dont go sleep together we don't have a conversation no more she don't even care what happens with the family no more everything's out of the door please help and it's not the same in the bed

[@babysmile8225]

We are going throw alot plz help

[@fossilizeddinonuggets6226]

Thank you

[@lovehopehope8238]

❤

[@emilytronnes8350]

Thank you

[@tylluanpenry3233]

You're welcome, Emily! Glad you like it. Blessings, Tylluan :-)