NOTHING IS GOING RIGHT... AND THATS OK

[@onlyme7950]

I think we need more Grandma. Funny smart and a lovely lady. How about Grandma's words of wisdom. 😁

[@patti9392]

I lost my grandma at 17. I wish I had her into my 30’s. 💔

[@bevtrue6937]

I sure miss my "NENE". Your grandma is awesome. I love her!! I lost my MOM when i was 19 and 7 mos pregnant with my first child. It will be really hard to have your mom be a grandmother all the way on the EAST COAST. Been there, done that, missed it all, three times. 😭

[@norellweiner3341]

I agree...Grandma is a hoot and I love seeing her!

[@jabberwock4924]

What happened to social distancing? I worry for Grandma and Grandpa.

[@RuthMtzFam]

Jabber Wocky goggle with some listerene, it will kill the Covid-19 and you won’t spread nothing!!

[@TheDawnofVanlife]

All scenes with Grandma = GOLD. Great new guest cast added to Trent & Allie, lol.

[@SarahGraymatter]

I realized I was pregnant with my first child when we were building a swimming hole and dam. My gut was stressing when I was lifting the stones in the water. Now I was in great shape as we had a masonry business and spent lots of time picking stones out of New England woods. When you get pregnant plan on NOT LIFTING for the first 10-15 weeks. The placenta is building a strong connection to the uterus. You don't want to stress that with heavy lifting

[@jHoveland]

“He who gripes at something gets NOTHING!” - Grandma! We need more of grandma!

[@dross24MA]

Thank you Grandma!

[@BookswithAmanda]

Trent's Grandma is pure GOLD. I love this lady!!!

[@miriamm3404]

So is mom Gloria! She says it like is. That also comes from years of nursing.

[@maryphillips3631]

I was pregnant when we built our house. I brought my first baby home it our new house. I was 24. The thing I’m worried about for you guys is that it will just be the two of you when you’re building your house. When we built our house my whole family came to our building site and worked for 2 weeks. We got all the outside walls up and the roof trusses and plywood on the roof. Then my husband and I took over the project. I really think you’re going to need help. You can’t raise walls with just 2 people. Kids change everything. Make sure you’re ready for the change. 😊

[@kareena3838]

Who wants to see more GRANDMA???

[@Jeni_Goci]

kaz bah she’s the cutest

[@elwood10198]

We ALL do.

[@Mandy_39]

Yes, I love grandma!

[@davidc6032]

Grandma brings the ruckus.

[@jdrcontent2922]

Me me me me me

[@jensmiles4miles329]

birds don't lay eggs till they have the nets built so enjoy building your nets together you can ruin your free time after lol

[@bettybanks9963]

You did ask...lol: WAIT on the kids, especially since you’re doing the house yourselves. Wait until you are finished with the house and moved in and the pandemic is over.

[@11354mary]

I agree 😘😉

[@38DigitalMarket]

Hold on the kids. Enjoy your time now, build your house, move in, get settled and then plan for the kids.

[@Cindy-bee]

I absolutely agree.

[@bevtrue6937]

Definitely agree. They take over your life. For 20+ years. Lots of time for them when you have already done everything else.

[@terrystobbart1348]

I’d say wait a wee bit but not too long. Plan to be pregnant during the winter. Heat won’t be a problem lol.

[@Swimdeep]

I too, concur.

[@pennylane36]

Bev True and sometimes it turns out a lot longer than 20 years. Especially when they make bad choices and things go south, wayyyy south

[@camigg683]

Wise advice from a loving Mom and gramma: Wait til your house is done. Kids are a blessing and bring so much joy but trust me, your lives will change 360o! :)

[@Quiltify]

One of my friends became pregnant just as they started building their house. She said it was terrible timing because she couldn't help as planned, so it was a huge burden on her husband and on the schedule and pocketbook. Also, we don't live in the 1950's, get life insurance on both of you. Trent is underestimating your value if he thinks only he needs the life insurance coverage.

[@StephnycC]

Janet Gorman Defnitely get life insurance on both of you! Speaking from experience, unfortunately, and so glad we had the insurance!

[@offairhead]

I don’t think he is intentionally underestimating her value, I think his thought was that he is expecting to work even if she dies but he doesn’t want her to be forced to work if he dies. …although yes, you definitely want to insure both.

[@ogfollower2178]

Get the house done first before children!

[@robertlaframboise5784]

I'm with Trent on this - build your house and then concentrate on building a family - good luck

[@batterbury4477]

wow so much baby talk! I have to say i'm more interested in how you two are setting -up to handle this construction. Can you show us the plot ( land) plan, and maybe get the architect to talk a little about the design? Does Allie have a construction "project book' with the plans, suppliers, timelines etc..? You going to set-up a nice campground at site? A good campground should be your get-away retreat from construction, I'd have small above ground pool and enclosed kennel run for Frank etc.. just for starters!

[@Marie-yx5ie]

Allie, I certainly would wait until the house is built before having a baby, sometimes it takes longer than you think to build your home.. Terry is a beautiful home for you Trent and Frank but it would be way to small in my opinion with all the equipment one has to have for a baby.. You will know what is right and when it is right for you both, the best of luck 🍀

[@cindystarling4774]

Allie, I would wait. Wait for the house to be finished, wait to see what happens with covid. One year will bring things more into focus I think. God Bless

[@mefford67]

*Married 11 years and had been told I could never carry a pregnancy because of a previously undetected congenital heart problem. We grieved and eventually became accepting that WE wouldn’t be parents. Well, somebody out in the universe has an excellent sense of humor because I DID become pregnant after a third and final heart procedure. Easiest pregnancy and delivery...* 🤷🏻‍♀️ *I remember panicking because we had finally accepted that we wouldn’t be parents and suddenly BOOM! I thought we couldn’t adjust to our new reality, but the moment that he was born he simply fit into our hearts and home.* ❤️ *Our son has been such a joy to us and we will forever be grateful that we were allowed to raise him.* *P.S. He’s now 21 years old and still a joy!* 😘

[@sunburn1013]

Heather Mefford that’s wonderful to hear and it has lifted my mood after a particularly trying day.

[@edwardsilva895]

You're lucky and blessed

[@debibolocofsky6920]

Beautiful story. God is good.

[@thexxit]

Love it!

[@SummerWindnewleafbotanicacom]

Heather Mefford s

[@MrRobbie545]

As someone who has risen a family and is retired, my sage advice for you would be "begin with the end in mind" What do you want to do in life, where do you want to travel (if at all, given you have seen a lot!) What do you want to do to push you to be the best human being you want to be. Write it out, compare notes. Allie is correct about there is no "right time", however you do not want to bring a child into" this world at this time" for selfish reasons. Have a plan and work the plan. Agree with the plan together. Always have a plan "B" I personally would wait til the house is finished (stable platform) as so you have a base. Then you can grow like roots to a tree. Again my thoughts are with, timelines, financial pressures, health issues etc.., it is much easier when you have a solid place to come home to. Raising a child is not easy however it will change your life, and having a stable platform will make it that much easier. So much to look forward to. Be at peace with each other on the plan then execute together as one. One more thing is read a lot! Keep your health both physically and mentally. You two have a great foundation as husband and wife, work off that.

[@anitacorrigan532]

No more Starbucks

[@sharonwaltman5148]

“Raised” not not “risen”... picking up some of Trent’s making up words stuff... lol. Great advice though!

[@Mandy_39]

Definitely great advise!

[@talorrenea7735]

This is GOLD advice! Listen to them Allie and Trent!

[@exploreusabytexasstarmagaz7213]

Allie: I raised 5 children, all adopted. And, no time was the right or wrong time. I loved it and I didn't... but, those kids were placed in my life for a good reason and season. We made it work. However, with that being said... your Heart will tell you both when the time is right. Logically speaking... HOLD off as long as possible, until you are living in your new home, the baby's room is available, and the stress has passed. Building a home is way different than building a van or trailer. If you're pg... and can't help Trent with the building and he is worried about your condition... then that home is not going to go very well. So, as much as your fans would love to be 'god-parent-fans'... it may be a lot safer and logical to HOLD off ... Timing is everything... We love you both and your family up there. Praying for you daily. Blessings

[@allthingsgreenliving]

Totally agree!!

[@cindytargett]

Wow we adopted a child in our 40s we got her at 3 months not long after I had to go on chemo and it was hard would I do it again yes God gave us a gift 7years of her life I went through chemotherapy she's 24 and a very determined young woman God bless you and your family

[@ednaselm]

@@cindytargett So glad you are all doing well...Blessings continued on your and your family!

[@cindytargett]

God bless you as well stay strong with the Lord we pick up our crosses and follow Him not man.. Children always come at the right time Gods time amen

[@qigongmood]

Oh no! You need to get the house finished first!! Believe me, we started when the baby was 1 month old and I could not help with the build at all! And her dad missed out on so much! And, you will not get anough sleep and everything will take twice as long, atleast!

[@sharonc.cooper9367]

Wait until the house is complete. Not a good idea to be building while pregnant. Love you guys.

[@dianerizi9119]

I agree completely. It is nice to enjoy your pregnancy and limit the stress as much as possible. Building a house with no experience will be stressful for sure.

[@craigbrowning9448]

.. also the current political climate and it's ecological disaster (and if we can ever get a handle on it). People (especially in the US) in the Business and Political arena are more concerned about their Stock Portfolios than the Environment. Donald Trump and Nancy Pelosi are more concerned about their wealth and power than the condition of the world the rest of us live in.

[@raykemry954]

My wife never stoped for one day working . We built our house and had our kids with us every day. Keep them bizzy and they won't have time to go to town and become hoods.

[@lindyworthington1651]

Possible that she is already...lots of talk about it...

[@rosewardale381]

Watching your video's and you getting involved with your new home, I would wait. 😉 But your call😊 x

[@terryking6824]

3 kids here, 5 years apart each, you are 110% right Allie, never a best time, and kids adapt to anything! You can have them while in a van, sailboat, rich or poor. You will appreciate having more time with them when you get older and also appreciate the physicality you had when you were younger and could do more with them.

[@robinm.2246]

Children are a real blessing... having the house done before having a child, would give you time to focus on the pregnancy and not building. Also, doing construction while pregnant can be challenging.

[@JC-vj9to]

Exactly my thoughts! Good advice...

[@MegaBpop]

Awesome advice

[@diamondfire42]

Now, I don't have children, so take that for what it's worth. With everything you have going on, I would at least wait until the house is done. If you, Allie, are looking to be of help, I would wait. There may be morning sickness, there will be heavy lifting, strong smells, etc. You also might want to try for a spring baby, because this will be your first baby and winter in the mountains. I hope you are planning for a nursery and guest room for the family that will want to visit! Good luck and I can't wait to see the cabin build!

[@CarolCox211]

Totally agree.

[@plien2184]

Dear Allie, coz you were asking for advice, here is my thought: I would wait till you guys are more settled in your new house. Being pregnant, delivering a baby (and possibly breastfeed the baby) takes a lot of you and your body. (A LOT, don't underestimate this!) If you have the choice and patience, please wait a little longer. Now you can put all your energy and time in the project. When having a baby or being pregnant, it's not that easy. It will put more pressure on you guys and on the project. If I were you, I would fully enjoy spending all my time and energy in the new project of building new a property. Than fully enjoy it when starting a family 😉😊🍀🍀♥️♥️

[@norahofmans4280]

I concur. So hurry and finish up. Lol No, seriously, enjoy the moment your in. Make those beautiful memories. Kids will bring much to your life.

[@marzmontgomery]

Dear Allie, Plien is right, and that is when things are normal. The chances of a baby having some issue is greater than 1%. Well I'm here to represent that 1% I got pregnant, I got very ill, spent a lot of my pregnancy in the hospital, just to give birth to a son with multiple disabilities. I am SO GLAD I was done with school, my x had a very good job and it was still SO HARD. My airline pilot husband couldnt handle it and left. My son is 35 and it is still SO HARD EVERY DAY. The longest I've been away from him is 12 days ...in 35 years, once. They say when you have a baby, your life changes forever, and that is true in the best of circumstances, stack your odds, wait until you are settled.

[@e.richardson4374]

I agree! It’s such a beautiful, yet physically and emotionally taxing experience. Wait until the house is done and maybe a few of your bucket list adventures before you start that journey.

[@tamicox990]

I disagree- there will never seem like a good time to have a baby. Have one when you feel you want one.

[@gloriajohnson5305]

Recommendation: If you are both building the home together, more stressful situations while pregnant. Safety concerns. Wait until you finish the house.

[@marirose756]

Hi Allie! I haven’t read any other comments so here’s my honest opinion abt when to have kids. Build the house FIRST & settle in to it. Major life changes-both good & bad-are extremely stressful & moving, never mind building a home are HUGE stressors. Pregnancy itself stirs up all kinds of emotions due to the hormonal changes you’ll be going through. And lifting things along with all the other physical labor involved is not good for a pregnant woman. God forbid you should miscarry & if that happens once it’s more likely to happen again. I’m not trying to frighten you just give you a reality check. One other thing: it wouldn’t be fair to the baby to start out a pregnancy & infancy now. You still have time & try to time it for springtime or autumn to avoid extreme temps or birthing stuck up on the mountain in 8’ of snow. As for life insurance, NOW is definitely the time to go for it; you each should have it & be sure you know the difference & pros/cons between whole life & term life. You can lock in really good affordable rates now til the end of your life. I waited til I was in my 50s so my premium is very high for a small benefit to my two daughters as beneficiaries. Plus I have health issues. I’m a grandmother so I know a lot about natural childbirth. Am also a holistic health counselor/specialist so know plenty about human development, stress, nutrition, herbalism, yoga, and stress relief. I also worked as a doula who helps couple’s develop their birthing plan so I know a lot about childbirth. Unfortunately I also know about learning things the hard way. The timing of having children isn’t something you want to learn the hard way. I’m extremely moved that you reached out to all of us to get our feedback. I hope this helps. I love you & Trent so much; you’re my cyber family (if you only knew how dear you both are to this grandmother). You’re building a life that I wished I’d had but things went terribly wrong for me til I found my soulmate in my 50s when we were both living w/severe chronic illnesses which btw will not stop us from laughing and definitely living vicariously through the 2 of you beautiful people. Keep on keeping it real & thnx for the unique sponsors. You’re the only channel I follow who mix them up a lot; I’m grateful for that. My husband says hello & sends his gratitude too. BTW, tell Trent to let you sleep in til 10am on a Sat while he goes & gets some milk from that adorable grandma or the store. 🤗🤣☀️🤟🏼

[@jaynet3261]

Wow. Very sage advice! Listen to her Allie, she’s giving it to you straight!

[@jillwklausen]

This is actually really good advice.

[@kathleenschaefer8208]

Jill Klausen the other thing you hadn't yet mentioned is her body adapting to living at a higher altitude. One's body has to adapt to less oxygen available.

[@tanyajohnston8262]

Agreed ! and wonderfully stated. I also am a grandmother and yes, best to wait until at least the stress of the house, high altitude and move is completed.

[@flymurakami]

One extra note on insurance from a former agent - buy term. Keep costs low, invest the savings, and you will not need any life insurance after the term is up.

[@atefamriche9531]

Trent, your grand parents are the sweetest treasure. Please pass along a very warm Hi to them (Allie please remind him). Allie, I agree with the previous few comments that I read about waiting until the house is done (or almost done). You are a great work partner to Trent and he will need a lot of help from your capable hands. BTW, your videos are now a whole event in my house. we sit down with a nice meal to watch our favorite couple's journey.

[@kf848_7]

I just had my son 2 months ago and I wanted to share some guidance... As for waiting - WAIT! Souly bc pregnancy effects every woman differently & for me, i was ABSOLUTELY EXHAUSTED, IN PAIN AND EXTREMELY NAUSEOUS EVERYDAY! The way I explain it to people is that the first trimester is exhaustion and nauseating and feels like it lasts 12 months , the 2nd trimester is a great time but happens in a blink of an eye and the third trimester youre a waddling giant who can't even physically roll over in bed, pees every 15 minutes (like UTI pees, all 1/2 pees) and is just physically exhausting. So if youre planning on building a house yourself DEFINITELY WAIT! As for timing of a baby my husband felt the same way, he wanted the perfect timing and was kind of scared to become a parent as well. As time went on he had finally said he was ready & now with our son here he says he cannot imagine his life without our son and says its the best decision he's ever made.

[@dibutler9151]

I'm one of those people who think folks should have kids as soon as possible, but in your circumstance of just starting an arduous build, my advice, (grandmother of 8), wait until you're at least midway or more. I am excited to see you guys have a family.

[@nancyloomis3046]

di butler That sounds sensible to me too. And with the first one, you never know how you’re gonna feel...morning sickness, fatigue, etc. But such a sweet thing to look forward too...and such great parents you’ll be.👍😄

[@scenographer1]

Wait. House building is stressful. Infants need calmness and happiness. Don’t compromise early development.

[@gypsymomma3470]

Absolutely wait until your in the house, as the Mother of five children, trust me especially since it's your first child. You'll be glad you have a comfortable home to be in for this huge life changing experience! 🙏✌

[@colleennobbs7218]

Yes, I agree with the other comments here: get your house completed. I’ve had two children. It’s good to be patient.

[@SFoureman]

Dinner looked A-MAZING!!! Wait to have kids after the build, especially if you're going to be doing the physical labor of the house yourselves. Unless of course, you have an announcement to make soon. Then: jump in the pile!

[@amydavis8548]

Take your time to enjoy each other. Having children is a full time job and building your home is going to be time consuming.

[@carolnicholls]

About starting a family, as a mother of 5 I can attest to the fact that you cannot predict how you will feel during pregnancy. If you want to physically help building your home you should probably wait until the heavy work is finished. That protects you, the child and provides a home to bring him home to. Love your videos and both of you.

[@darrell-jeanglover6807]

Did you sale the van in South America???????

[@treeartist2811]

@@darrell-jeanglover6807 maybe could use van as a nursery.

[@jeanner62901]

I agree

[@barbaramuzychka3836]

@@darrell-jeanglover6807 Did they sell their motorcycle in South America, also?

[@nikiakbik5896]

I did it! Got pregnant when we were in the middle of building our house. 3200sf! Had a 3 year old in tow. Bought all fixtures, tubs and sinks, faucets, appliances etc! It was crazy and wonderful. Didn’t have parents or grandparents to help either. But being pregnant in winter is better than summer so you can think about that too. It’s a wonderful life! I enjoy watching you both. Your love, humor and friendship. You will make great parents whenever it happens. Health, love and blessings to you both!

[@ma1539ry]

Dear Allie, You never know how a pregnancy will effect you. Some people breeze right through and others are sick most of the time. Knowing how much work is ahead with the house build and how much of a help mate you are to Trent I would suggest you hold off until you are done. You want to be relaxed for this big project of childbirth. Good luck to you and Trent on what ever you decided. Children are the purpose of life.

[@maryphillips3631]

I totally agree.

[@joyceb5864]

I think Grandchildren are!!

[@brendag2891]

There is no good time to have a baby. I have 3 kids, I know. Whenever you want to have kids, it will all work out, I promise. Just consider Frank as your first kid. It like having Frank times 10. Also, Allie, being pregnant is so similar to how it feels going into a higher altitude. I am long time skier, and have skied and visited the Rockies. Your body will react similarly.

[@Swim136]

Your hubby has got to learn... he can’t control everything lol especially babies... a little Trent will teach him

[@sammarino9063]

I love Grandma and Grandpa, I could watch them all day. They are precious. So much love to them. I miss mine so badly, and they make that feeling go away for a minute. Sigh. Hugs to them both.

[@lauren2102]

Okay Allie, you asked, so here's my two cents. Think to yourself, "what if I make it past my first trimester of pregnancy, we' re so excited. I'm lifting heavy stuff. Maybe doing the usual busy, ongoing everything, but more than i should cuz i think im good scenarios and all of a sudden...pain, bleeding....". Forget the virus issue as that's always going to be here but the extra work during your build? I mean, do you want to risk it? Don't you want to enjoy your pregancy? What if you're one of those women who throw up during most of your pregnancy? You're gonna want to be able to "relax" whatever that is, but you know, there's a lot of what-ifs in everything. Forget about what I'm saying tho and go with that "woman's intuition" God gave us. Be well with your soul. Blessings.

[@kimturano8786]

I can’t imagine being pregnant and building a house. Tough decision for sure but I vote to wait. Get everything the way you want it because a baby takes up a lot of time! ❤️

[@barefootreba]

This is certainly true. A sweet baby does take up a lot of time and more so as they grow. You both have so much excitement and joy ahead of you to suck up and enjoy what you will be accomplishing day after day as you build your new home together. As you are building your home your also building your foundation of your future and deepening your love for each other as you advance in your plans of making your family. Time ,spend this precious time now growing with each other. Enjoy your build and all this free time you’ll have with each other. Love, play explore and do some more traveling later as you move into parenthood by surprise. Oh and I would definitely wait until this Covid-19 is out of sight .... just for the health of it for you all. This is a big worriment all by itself. I would worry a lol. Just say’n. I’m 63 and I love ❤️ you all very much and you make my heart sing you all truly do. In due time, the right time will just magically happen. For now have fun adding a nursery in your build . Let the excitement build! Much love and luck. I’m so excited and and happy for you both!! Give Frank a scratch for me.✌🏼

[@emanueladavis1885]

@@barefootreba I agree 100%

[@halledarjean5745]

Put a mask on around your grandparents! I see y'all not wearing a mask at the construction site when your talking to the workers. Better to be safe than sorry!!!

[@bubbafringman1864]

There's no evidence that masks help at all.

[@halledarjean5745]

@@bubbafringman1864 I was not addressing you, but thanks for the input lol

[@junepeirce278]

Halle, I agree with you. Firstly, there is evidence that wearing masks properly protects others and ourselves from spreading the virus. I think Trent and Allie may have forgotten because their grandparents are so darn cute. (No, not a good reason- but we're all human, right?) Hopefully, for their loved ones sakes, they will be more cautious in the future. Sadly, this is a weird time right now, but maybe thinking of others' wellbeing and protection is a good thing.

[@magealexstra]

also hand sanitizer when you take it off. i see you guys taking your masks off and immediately touching your face. makes me cringe...

[@magealexstra]

@@bubbafringman1864 you mean besides the years of medical use and scientific research? you're right we should all stop wearing masks because bubba here knows better. If you're wearing a bandanna then obviously that isn't going to help. But, to say there's no evidence that masks help. that's just willful stupidity.

[@michaelharris1455]

hey guys, looks like it was a great day, Frank sure seemed to be diggin' it, too! only because you asked; I'd say, get the house liveable first, then work on expanding the family. something you did NOT ask about, but want to prepare you for; the furnaces in these trailers (I live in a 20ft. Nomad) are horribly problematic, and they use an obscene amount of propane. I advise having a back-up, because they'll fail at the worst time. I use a Mr. Heater Buddy heater. Thanks for another great visit, always enjoy your videos!

[@classcrvlady7712]

I would postpone having a baby until the house is livable. What's another year. Plus the pandemic makes going to the hospital unwise.

[@batterbury4477]

here's link for youtubers with no experience who slowly learned how to build house themselves kzbin.info/www/bejne/oInGhZqDm8qpi5o

[@susansalinas8867]

No hospital. Get a doula

[@debjshea]

Having had babies in an unfinished house, I would most certainly recommend that you wait until your house is done.

[@glennasaum1211]

God is good Let God lead You praying blessings for You and Your New Home Gods blessings to You God bless

[@layzgamingfilms]

After finding out I was basically infertile at age 31 from "advanced maternal age" related causes, I basically never advise anyone to wait for the perfect time to have kids. BUT, with Covid going on, I'd avoid hospitals. AND once you have a baby, the progress you will be able to make on the house will be reduced by 2/3 at least. You think it will take one year and it will end up taking 3. One of you is going to be tethered to that baby basically 24x7 for at least 3 years (anyone who says they are productive when the baby naps is basically lying to you). And both of you will be so exhausted from constantly interrupted REM sleep that you cannot even imagine it right now. It is also possible that you would have a rough pregnancy and be unable to help with the house at all before the baby is born. Basically, remember this: anyone who talks about how productive they are with a baby in tow is either LYING to you (very, very common) or they are extraordinarily lucky. I vote for waiting a year.

[@lkey591]

You’re absolutely right.......there’s never a perfect time to have a baby but I think you’ll both be able to fully enjoy your first baby if the house is done first. But, either way, you’ll both be wonderful parents!! I can’t wait to see that. Trent, I LOVE how close you are with your grandparents! Your grandma is adorable ❤️

[@cheryldubois7517]

Hi 👋!!! I have to agree, you will only have one ☝️ first baby 👶🎉🥳👏🧚🙏💙, so have the house done and enjoy the heck out of being first time parents🥰♥️🤗💚👼🤟🌟!!!

[@chelebox1986]

I also agree. You never know how your body will respond to pregnancy. If you're constantly nauseous you're not going to want to build a house. When you move in to your house THAT'S when it's time to start building your family!

[@indie825]

I agree with you 1,000%.

[@rabbit_scribe]

"He who gripes of something gets nothing." Grandma wisdom ♥️👵♥️

[@ib14juli93]

I would wait untill everything is allmost ready, why, because you have no idea how your pregnacy will be, you may be sick for the first 4 months, you just don't know.

[@elwood10198]

Great answer. Also Allie, if Trent is giving the building project all his energy, then you can't expect him to have extra energy for extra support you may need. He will have plenty on his plate already. I'm not saying wait years, but I'd definitely wait until springtime 2021 to reconsider seriously. You may fall pregnant immediately, you may have twins. A building project and hospital appointments, pregnancy tiredness, morning sickness etc sounds like an exhausting combination to be avoided. I also meant to put about DIY fumes. Please remember never to breathe in chemical fumes from paint or similar products, particularly during the first trimester of a pregnancy.

[@sparkofhope-withkatrinadar8707]

Personally I would wait to have children until you have reached the part of the build called, “time to decorate”. Until then you will be pulling, lifting, pushing, moving things that might cause problems during pregnancy. Also the developing child will demand more energy from you than you suspect. Allie will get progressively more and more fatigued. Children are wonderful and I’m looking forward to watching that part of your journey....But.... finish the house first. You will want to put all your attention on the baby afterwards. That is my advice. Keep up the good work! I’m enjoying your videos!

[@maggieferrell4538]

Yes.... I do agree... plenty of time for baby making AFTER the work is done, then FUN begins 💕

[@bugzy_9198]

I agree with these comments. I was about to post the same comment. Wait until the house is done!

[@katesanders2219]

Agreed, agreed! There's no "right" time to have kids, but there are times when it would make things really difficult. Right now is one of those times if Allie is going to be helping with the construction!

[@StephanieJoRountree]

I totally agree, @Sparks of Hope! Also, consider enlarging the home to include another bedroom now, if you want children.

[@tinekejoldersma]

Sweet advice, life never works that way alas ;>D

[@JoeZyzyx]

Get some high temp shelf milk for making your latte's. When overseas, we raised our first born on it out of Germany, called Volmilch or maybe spelled a bit different. Here in the US it's called Parmalot. That way you don't even need to worry about having enough in the refrigerator, since until opened it can sit in a cabinet or other place to store it. Sadly, here in the states it's at a premium price, whereas overseas it's a lot cheaper compared to refrigerated milk. It's worth the cost & convenience for traveling though.

[@karissa586]

Or just have some shelf sustainable none dairy milk on hand. Then it isn’t contributing to animal cruelty and it doesn’t need to be refrigerated until it’s open. Plus using the different types can give slightly different flavors and give you more options. I love the coconut w/ vanilla in it. Almond gives it a certain taste that’s really nice. Soy is more basic like regular dairy milk and foams up really really well. Oat milk is usually nice and thick. Just some ideas : ). My favorite place for affordable shelf sustainable milks is Trader Joe’s.

[@msrhondakay5880]

I was very pregnant when biulding my "not" tiny house. We did it all ourselves. I must say people thought it was crazy when I was, hanging siding, insulating, doing Plumbing, standing interior walls, hanging drywall and painting, at 8 months along. It was the ultimate nesting keeping me going. You have a lot of work ahead. It is crazy, but doable. We lived in a travel trailer on our property why we were building. I had my daughter 3 weeks before we were complete. It was really nice to move into the house. In the end it's your decision. Nobody elses.

[@MegaBpop]

I agree. I was pregnant w/#3 and I injured my back . With a large move ahead, we were able to get help for months to come in and care for the other 2 small kids. It was doable but challenging.

[@orchidlife9482]

Allie is the best! As for a baby, I can’t imagine bringing a baby into the world right now. Enjoy marriage for a few years.

[@brendag2891]

Trent and Allie, I know you have over 3k comments already, but I strongly urge you to consider installing a compact, all in one, washer dryer. It will be a life saver during pregnancy and when you start your family. Plan out now, before the plumbing goes in. Make sure the space you install it is always above freezing. Dirty diapers stink, and Frank loves to roll in poop 💩. I am pretty sure he will enjoy ripping into used diapers and wipes. Whether you go cloth or disposable, or a combination, you need an airtight space for storing dirty diapers. It is like magic to run a load of cloth diapers and handkerchief wipes in an all in one. Push the buttons, and they are fresh and dry any time. Babies spit up, poop goes up the back of their onsies. It is so nice to have some re-usables for when you run out in the middle of a snow storm. Disposables are way easier, but again, where is your trash going to be where it wont stink up Terry and entice Frank? Get an all in one now, and you will always have a back up laundry, even after you get your new washer and dryer in the cabin built. I did this with my first child, and it was a lifesaver. Just think about how smelly the van got when one of you farted. Sorry that is gross, but things that smell awful are kind of my pet peeve. Also sorry to any guys reading this who have never had to live 24/7 with a newborn. I have had an all in one that fits under the counter for almost 20 years, and although it feels like a helicopter landing on the roof when it spins, it has been the best appliance I have ever bought. It will also save you from having to stock up on paper towel. You can use dish rags for drool cloths, spit up rags, diaper wipes, wiping up the floor when Frank gets into the trash, everything! A little bleach in the pre wash dispenser kills the germs, vinegar in the fabric softener takes the bleach smell away in the fabric. So my advice about building and starting a family is to think about how you plan to wash. Disposables don't burn in the wood stove. You will need garbage pick up, or Trent will have to fill the back of his pickup truck with diaper genie bags all winter and carry them to the dump. IMHO, it is never a bad idea to start with an all in one, and sometime in the future, upgrade to your dream laundry room, keeping the all in one so you can be your own laundry mat. Kids produce a lot of laundry!

[@superzuperduper]

You need to show grandpa and grandma more often, they are wonderful.

[@Dehuismus]

I'm with Trent on this. My mom had me, 32 years ago, when they were renovating their house. My mom had to walk with her big belly over the crossbeams to lay their floor on the grond floor. Also my dad had to fix the shower on the day my mom went into labor. So that my mom could have a shower after birth. They had to do so many things on the days before i was born and construction didn't stop after that. They didn't think they would get so fast pregnant. Just a month after buying their house my mom was. It wasn't a project they could finish in 9 months. And when you have a baby... Your whole life and energy change. Think about having a cry baby the whole night. All your hormones that are flowing and not always making it easy, and besides a good pregnancy... You can also have complications or time to physicaly get back to normal. And... You offcourse want to have enough time to enjoy and spend time with your baby and each other :)

[@hindmansr]

"Making the decision to have a child - it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body." Elizabeth Stone

[@deborahsmith9232]

Your build will be stressful enough so wait at least a year after the house is finished. Then GO for it!😀😀speaking from experience.

[@danholiday987]

Finish the house first, then you can enjoy the house and a baby at the same time. mommy, daddy,and the baby can all bond at the same time. I also think its better for the baby and reduces stress from all sides. Been there done that!

[@markhep]

Love it guys. I am a builder and the hardest thing is getting out of the ground. You feel like you going backwards when you go down. But when you hit ground level that's when you see the magic happing 👍👍👍

[@tommearns9309]

Wait for kids until your home is done. You 2 have to much going on you don't need the stress of being with pregnant during the building . Relax and enjoy building your home then the time will feel right. Bless you both 🙏❤

[@vamosimborabr]

You’re right Allie, there is never the right time, however, having said that, you are gonna have to put in a lot of hard work and heavy lifting during the build, if you’re pregnant that won’t be possible, maybe just wait until most of the house is built and than go for it, love you guys!!

[@dianebinns9905]

You couldn't have said it better!

[@lorirugato6463]

Agree!

[@markedfortime]

Pretty much what I was going to say. When my wife became pregnant, she ended up having a horrible pregnancy. Not likely this will happen, but theres always a risk. That said, if Allie will be framing and climbing ladders, you might want to push it off unless you have more friends who can help.

[@tirwin4033]

Bless your hearts! You have so much to learn yet about construction! When you take over, with your limited experience, you will trip over many ways to lose your schedule. Even really experienced builders run into challenges, but experience helps you anticipate and adjust more readily. Keep practicing patience - and look online for some scheduling advice. If you haven't already done so, identify contractors you will need and check on their availability going forward. Also, verify timelines for all materials you plan to use so you can order, purchase and schedule deliveries accordingly. All of this will help you plan a schedule you have a better chanceof achieving. Good luck!

[@mysteryachiever]

Good point about the timelines. The pandemic has disrupted a lot of supply chains. And thinks like forest fires and hurricanes can as well. All that destruction/re-construction sucks up the available supply of plywood, etc.

[@ErnestODell]

It seems like the consensus on having kids is: wait. However... if they come into your life before you finish the house, don't look at it as an "accident". Kids are not accidents: they're blessings and they can always grow up learning from you two, and helping you build your lives into the future. Just remember: whether it's you, or kids, each one of you is a WINNER. You won the race with over a half million other spermatozoa to become the unique person you are, inhabiting that "sack of skin" that you wear. No one else in the history of mankind has ever had your fingerprints, nor will they ever. Put your unique stamp of identity on your life and be fruitful... and multiply. You don't know how much you have been a blessing and an encouragement to us senior citizens. P.S. I just love your grandma. She's awesome and has a quick sense of humor.

[@lynnmazalewski2766]

Wait till home is finshed, seems like your his helper in building ur home, if u get pregnant there s a strong possibility u would not feel up to helping😶

[@deborahkelly1489]

Ernest ODell, I love your comments. I couldn’t have said it better. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Children are indeed blessings.

[@A.Nozzlin]

They got paid a shitload of monry to talk about that, But in general I do agree.

[@jocichon2922]

What kind of sun screen and proof do you use and does it smell good?

[@jocichon2922]

Beautiful trial walk

[@cleovivas]

Dear Allie: Take one thing at a time. Once the house is finished (and probably the pandemic will be over too), then focus on the baby. You don't know what type of pregnancy you are going to have. God forbid but what if you have to be resting for the whole pregnancy? Also, there is the money factor. Building a house is expensive, even a tiny house. There are always surprises like the problem you had with the water that translates into more money. Babies are also expensive and you have to rethink your budget. Take your time. You are still young, but hey if the baby comes earlier welcome and God bless that beautiful girl (or boy) with red and curly hair

[@marierush7943]

I agree with you. All 3 of my pregnancies i had morning noon and night sickness for 9 months. I couldn't do much without being in the bathroon . But now mine are 30 , 27 , 16 and i don't regret it.

[@faithrada]

Agreed.. never assume a pregnancy is going to go smoothly. I ended up being bed ridden for 7 months and could not even pick up a gallon of milk. We ended up A-ok... with a healthy 10+ lb baby boy (after an emergency caesarean)... but the idea of a magical 'home birth' would have been the death of both of us. Never assume that things will go according to plan. 😳

[@kronajarro7274]

Cleo Vivas beutifull advice I agreed with you

[@marierush7943]

@@faithrada all 3 of mine were 9 pounds and c-section. You just never know with pregnancies .

[@kelsolokey]

ya and if you get pregnant Trent will accuse you of doing on purpose to get out working on the cabin, don't give him the ammunition.

[@emanueladavis1885]

One thing at a time, you are young, enjoy each other for awhile because when kids come life becomes very hectic..lol

[@ariadne3756]

As a mother of four I can attest to the fact that you have no way of knowing how you will feel when pregnant, I had one that was smooth sailing all the way, yet another that I was sick from morning to night. That being said, it’s of course your choice but I’d be getting that house built first. I wish you the best either way and will definitely be excited to see any addition to your family. 🙏

[@moniquevelasco20]

Patience guys, you’ll get there soon!!! Your grandmother is the best, she’s adorable.🤗😘🌼

[@JT-if2qh]

Your grandparents are so adorable. I miss my grandparents so much. Thanks for sharing yours with us!!

[@CK-831]

Hey Allie - wait until the house is almost complete so that you can REST during your pregnancy, if needed or necessary...get the hard bumps out of the way, first. ;)

[@vicki4849]

I want Trent to make the old computer connection sound again, lol. Wait on the babies till you have the house established, pregnancy and house building would not be a good combo! You guys are great!

[@Ver0_Cat]

My eyes tear up each time I see Trent's grandparents. I miss my grandparents. I wish them good health!!!

[@davehigginson5976]

You probably should wait until the house is near completion and not a minute longer.

[@mmclaughlin006]

Your Grandparents are absolutely the cutest people I've ever seen, love seeing them in the videos!

[@sher_3771]

My advice is, wait till the house is done. You don't know what kind of complications could arise & you don't want to go through that while trying to build a house yourself. I never expected to be violently ill from morning till night for all 9 months, but I was. Even if you just have "normal" morning sickness that usually lasts at least 12 weeks & there are other "normal" symptoms you'll be dealing with in a cold camper with too small a fridge to keep anything you might suddenly be craving. (Cravings are POWERFUL & can make you crazy, lol!)

[@angievandermeer2230]

I had that same mentality as you to just go for it (we´re talking 30 years ago). If I had it to do over again, I would definetely have the house built before children just so that you can focus on them instead of building. You´ll enjoy the experience of motherhood much more having your home done before having children. Either way you decide, children are a blessing and I support your decision. It´s your life, do what makes you happy.

[@nancyd.1379]

There is no “right” time! Our first was a whoopsie, husband graduating from college the same month I figured out something was “brewing”! It all worked out, we have a little girl who is a hoot! Go for it!!!!!!!!

[@samanthabissonette5006]

Your grandparents are absolutely a blessing 😭😭

[@Yorkiemom-j1r]

These times are SO uncertain. Enjoy your time together and wait a couple years. I was married 7 years before kids and they were the BEST times. I love my kids, but my husband and I treasured the 'pre-kids' times, saved some money, and travelled.

[@faithhealz8556]

Honey, you guys are young enough that you don't need to rush the baby thing. Enjoy your first year of marriage and get your house built! Love you both!

[@lorelaigilmore813]

Good point

[@rgold02]

Go for it! Children bring such pain and joy! They are a true blessing. You both will adjust and adapt accordingly.

[@earthlovingmomma1703]

You're right. Life will always be chaotic. There is never a "perfect time" to have a baby. However, from personal experience from a mom of 3. Wait a little bit. Build your cabin. Get at least half way settled. Also, just take some time to enjoy each other as husband and wife. My husband and I were married in Oct and pregnant by Jan. While I would do it all over again, I do wish we had taken more time as newly weds to just be us. Either way, y'all will be fantastic parents.

[@Garrett9339]

100% this

[@lyndad1255]

Wait till finished - you don’t know how your body will respond re morning sickness etc

[@ndrose]

Never a right time. I was a kid when my parents built our house. They are some of my favorite memories. Living in a house with only stud walls & a ladder instead of stairs. My brothers birthday party when we didn’t have a kitchen sink yet do mom made lemonade in the tub.

[@barbarashock529]

You made a promise to Trent you'd help him build this house. You won't be near as much help if you are pregnant. There's plenty of time for that. Enjoy being a new wife for a while first. That's important.

[@warrenjones3022]

YOU HAVE A COOL GRANDMA. SHE IS SO FUNNY

[@gailday7566]

At 65 with plenty of unplanned moments in life that I’ve worked through, the stress of too many irons in the fire can distract you from the joy, peace and gentleness of choosing to keep life simple. From this side of life, waiting one year for baby to come will keep life simpler while focused on the home. You’re young and energetic and you can handle it, but why choose more stress if you can wait a short time and be fully present when babies come.

[@a.reinard8545]

Trent & Allie, I've been watching you guys for about a year now and you've been an inspiration to me. Over the past year, I've also watched many other KZbin videos on related subjects but have never subscribed to any. Today, I made the decision to subscribe because your content brings a bright spot to my day and because of Trent's Grandmother who reminds me of my grandmother (Sweet with a dash of feisty). I started a van build back in April and it's taking way longer than anticipated but I'm excited about the possibilities. Thank you for all you do. Be well and keep bringing joy to the earth. AM

[@waynemartin4881]

Plenty of time for Kids, get everything sorted first, enjoy it for a year then re visit the topic. Best of Luck. X

[@marilynk30]

Allie your exactly right! Your never truly ready! And it hardly ever goes as planned!

[@katielay3288]

Kid are a big step. Your life will change. You have lots of time so I would take time. Get the house built first.

[@daviddoherty1262]

And finish your travels in South America

[@LivingtheIrony]

Allie, you’re right, there never is a perfect time, I agree completely, However speaking as a former Postpartum Doula, be aware the first four months can be exhausting.

[@brendalee97]

I would wait till your house is done then focus on having your family addition and enjoy time with all these projects 😀😀🥰

[@L1feWithEm]

Video is 26 minutes Baby talk 10 seconds 99% of comments: WAIT TIL HOUSE IS DONE TO HAVE BABY! I agree, wait til house is at least mostly done. ♡ baby will come ♡

[@brendag2891]

When you have a baby, you need a quiet place at night so Trent can get some sleep. Pipes will freeze and roads will be impassable at times on the mountain. How far are you from the Dr and hospital? You will need a washing machine and dryer. Newborns go through 10 diapers per day. Cloth or disposable? You will need someplace to wash everything, and a store close by. Sort out the plumbing and insulation and the wood stove. Heating is a lot of work.

[@nightdan7096]

@@brendag2891 And lightning can strike your foot when you're walking and you can trip and break your neck on the way to the bathroom. You people talk like kids are a freakin curse or something, they aren't! So basically if you have kids your life automatically sucks, right, so wait until later because somehow that will make it better.

[@plien2184]

@@nightdan7096 looks like you got struck by lightning dude. Take it easy and read carefully. You put words down she never wrote 🤷‍♀️ No one says kids are a curse. But if you have the choice and patience to wait a little longer, it would be a wise decision to do for everyone ♥️✌️

[@elwood10198]

@@brendag2891 The most sensible comment I've read, in response to this video.

[@brendag2891]

@@elwood10198 Right, thank you. I actually have 3 kids and know from experience that a baby becomes your life. In the best, most loving way. But you need to be prepared. My first pregnancy I was on bedrest, and the worst part of that is I couldn't DO all the things I needed and wanted to do. When he was born he was a poor sleeper, and his schedule became mine. I slept when he slept. There was no time to do big projects that require being your own contractor. The focus just shifted. It is the most wonderful experience in the world, but you have to know your limits. Terry is not well insulated, and it will be cold and snowy in the winter. Allie has been living in a van, but in warm climates. I am a skier, I work outside in the snow. Sometimes my water bottle freezes. And the nicest part is coming home, lighting a fire in the wood stove, and drawing a hot bath. Pregnancy changes your body, you have new sensitivities. Your awareness grows, your capacity to love and nurture expands. I had Covid in March, and it is really hard to get a "normal" Dr appointment these days. All our hospitals and Dr offices and clinics have all these Covid protocols, and most appointments are via video. I actually bought a washer and dryer when my first was born. And had central air installed. That saved me in the heat! Last year I bought a 4 wheel drive truck and snowplow. I taught myself how to plow. Trent hasn't spent a winter remotely and gotten a routine down for managing snow yet. They will learn by experience. Allie is helping Trent build. She loves to decorate (pillows! Paint!) They will need spaces they can turn off a light, have some quiet, store diapers, a car seat, and so on. I hav an RV and have camped with babies. It can be done, but living all winter on a mountain is a steep learning curve. They won't just be out of milk, they will experience drain lines freezing, getting snowed in, and need to learn how to manage all of it. And stay warm. There is no good time to have a baby. But Allie is asking for our experiences so she can learn from them, and be better prepared. And for them, there might be a BETTER time to have a baby. They are trying to look at things from as many angles as possible. That's all. The glass is half full.

[@o0Theresa0o]

Wait until the house is done. Pregnancy is a real burden when you're trying to build stuff.

[@Mindy56743]

Go for it.. we had 3 and very little money. It was crazy and looking back I am still glad we did it. Frank looks so happy. What a beautiful place for a hike.

[@vanesOnYT]

i'd wait to fully enjoy the pregnancy..Plus, if you're the helping hand building your house, you won't be able to..

[@lindathelondonb9504]

I was pregnant with #3 when we put a large addition on our home. Was fine - seriously - she could handle it if needed.......just saying........

[@dcw626364]

@@lindathelondonb9504 Yup, She's a young healthy woman!

[@catherinenelson4162]

@@dcw626364 , even if she's young and healthy, that doesn't preclude thing's that can go wrong. Building from scratch at 8,000 + feet, with less oxygen in the air at that altitude, plus steep slopes, and more possibility for a fall, waiting would be wise.

[@catherinenelson4162]

@@lindathelondonb9504 Not the same, though, Linda. This would be Allie's first, not third. And although each pregnancy is different, you still had a 66% idea of what to expect with your pregnancy. Not so for Allie. Plus, were you building at an extremely high elevation? Winter will be here for Trent and Allie in two months. That's what happens at 8,000 feet. Winter, with snow, lasts until April. Sometimes longer. Then there are car accidents on black ice at those high elevations. Even for the best of drivers. There are falls, on the ice, or when shoveling snow, partially due to the steep terrain. If the house was already built, those factors would be hard enough. But to be able to do the building together? Can you see that happening without putting the inborn child at risk, given the steepness of the property?

[@heatherclayton-callaghan4270]

@@catherinenelson4162 blimey you must be fun to live with!!! NOT !!! there's always a few of the " glass half empty" types ..... glad I'm not one of them 😃

[@dbrickner5292]

There is always time for kids. get yourselves set up in your new home.

[@toddramsay977]

After you get the concrete poured, usually the city or county requires an inspection of the basement and footing. That can take up to a month to get done. Most of the time it is 2 weeks.

[@margaretpage57]

Your right there is never a good time but, you plan on doing some very very difficult work in the next few months and there is alot of stress involved in house building. It might be best to wait till the house is closer to being done. But that's just my opinion! Good luck and you two would make a very very cute baby!

[@AndrosIslandZ]

Having a child is tough on the body, Allie. You feel like you can do anything at your age, but I don't think you can grow a child and build a house simultaneously without risking damage to both the child and yourself. It's not the fact you'll be beyond busy, it's the physical toll that both will take. And maybe don't be in such a hurry to end your honeymoon. Although you will surprise yourself with how deeply you can love when you have a child, it will consume your romantic life for about twenty years :) Do you know what most parents do on 'date night' when they have a sitter? They freaking sleep! haha

[@LianeSpicer]

I endorse this message.

[@bowlaroma103]

I completely agree there is never a right perfect time to have children you just make it work

[@sharonstuebi8181]

Ooooo you know I tried so hard to have kids. Lost 13.....one lived. Hence the reason i still collect kids and grandkids EVERY chance I get! Becauae your building the house yourself and timetables NEVER cooperate i would wait till the house is finished. It takes incredible energy to produce that baby to term and knowing you ,you will want to be mindfully present for each stage. It goes by so quickly!!! These are such uncertain times. Dont rush it. Be fully present and things will work out. And you know I need another grandkid!!! Much love from Peru! The castle has a second story roof!!!