Your Past and Future Relationships EXPLAINED

Romantic relationships with intimate partners (significant others) are comprised of three components:
I. Mate Selection (Choice)
II. Relationship Model or Hypothesis
III. Termination Triggers
Mate selection is critical, of course, but even more important is to ensure compatibility between the mate selected and the model of relationship one has in mind. There are as many types of relationships as there are couples and one would do well to define precisely how one would like to live her life with her spouse. An open marriage calls for one kind of partner and a traditional one calls for another. Mismatches between the personality, character, and temperament of the members of the couple and the relationship model they have adopted are often the main fount of trouble, gnawing at the foundations and leading to the disintegration of the pair.
Yet, even when one's mate, partner, or spouse has been selected with care to perfectly fit the relationship one has in mind -- some relationships crumble. This is because the members of the couple have disparate "termination triggers" and abandonment anxiety thresholds. Insecurities, fears, and codependence often rise to the surface and lead to self-defeating behaviors, such as preemptive abandonment ("I will walk away before he does.")
Romantic, intimate relationships are comprised of various dimensions, functions, and axes. Deconstruct your past relationships in order to avoid mistakes in future ones.

[@rebecca_stone]

Perfect timing! For some of us, after several loops around hell's highway, this pragmatic approach is just what the doctor ordered.

[@Stella-u7n5m]

Please don't ask yourself over and over again (that circle without ANY satisfying outcome what so ever) what you should or could have done differently: it's just a waiste of energy wich you should better give to yourself! You do NOT exist for the narcissist, keep that in mind for your own sake; mentally, physicly and spiritually! Keep listening to Sam's video's...they have saved me, and are saving me still in not making the wrong choices..being a prey for the predator!

[@BentonMacdonald]

My first impression of this video is that this is an extremely informative, comprehensive, and valuable framework for assessment. The reward articulated at the end of this video for the discipline of executing this approach compels. Thank you for sharing. 😀

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Thank you

[@critter_paws]

Ohhhh man. I already knew and still didn't know. I have told people a story for 2 decades from my fav book, EINSTEIN'S DREAMS by physicist Alan Lightman. I tell it during particular types of relationship issues as a philosophical thought experiment. I won't tell the story here, each chapter in the book stands alone and I found this one online a while back or at least a chunk of it. I call it the Red Hat story. If anyone decides to look it up, a man on a balcony sees the wind blowing a hat off of a woman on the street below. That should be enough to go off of.

[@critter_paws]

!!! Searched for link, saw that in 2020 there was an off Broadway musical based off of the book😱😱🤗🤯 This little theatrical comment isn't relevant to the video. I apologize for that and would still type/post again. I'm lonely figuring out and working on my crap relational blueprint 🤷 I'm being social rn