10 Things Your Labor Nurse Wants You to Know about Unmedicated Birth

[@kelseyjean4042]

"Contractions aren't stronger than me, they ARE me." I LOVE this.

[@mphomolapo1562]

@@Tatersthezebra88 That's unfortunate 😕 what happened? I was so "in the zone"/ one with myself 🤷‍♀ during labor I forgot to ask for pain relief until after C-section.

[@olgreg94]

I love it too, and I was able to deliver naturally.

[@janeicejeancharles7305]

Glitter&Coffee glvlvvm l l offload Jan. Exactly S Q

[@jenniferwallace8161]

Glitter&Coffee I watched A video from another gal who teaches labor classes at hospitals and she said that everyone has a different pain tolerance. Some people may want to have natural births but when they are that intense part of labor they change their minds and decide to have an epidural and it’s A-OK. Other people can tolerate the pain and can push through it. I was definitely one of those people who wanted a natural birth but in the end the pain was too much for me and the epidural was definitely a relief for me so that I could actually enjoy the birth. Of course epidurals have their own consequences and epidurals have stalled each of my births but in the long run everything worked out so I’m grateful.

[@alexissabbagh5974]

Jennifer Wallace I agree. I had an unmedicated labor and delivery with my youngest. I was good until transition. Fear set in and then the pain felt worse I was scared I couldn’t do it. I was exhausted didn’t feel I was pushing right. A few months later my husband told me he thought I was dying. I thought that was funny. I had no clue he was thinking that during delivery. Currently 36weeks now and trying my best to not be nervous because I can remember how my last labor felt. I’m going to try for I medicated again but I will accept pain medication if I need rest.

[@melissaostrihon1781]

My mantra was "millions of women for thousands of years."

[@fionafiona1146]

Awesome, you made it! Congratulations 🎊 They didn't all survive, evolution is iterative and "worse birth, better brain" got tested trough many gruesome situations in the last 200.000 years... where shorter gestation isn't viable either.

[@shabnamsaidzada6087]

That's beautiful and inspirational! Im 28 weeks, thanks for sharing!

[@powerfulstateofmind]

Mine is "my body was made to do this" 😁

[@TheHouseOffice]

Love it

[@PinkTikiria]

Mine was « this is just a phase, it will pass » it’s also my mantra for when the kids are making me crazy or the baby is making me sleep deprived 😅

[@adamandnoahsadventures621]

I would love a “what to do in the two weeks before your due date” video 😅😅

[@saeidkh1227]

Most important pack your hospital bag and get prepared or start walking and doing some really soft exercises.. :) congratulations ❤️

[@neoandlykkecat]

Great idea!

[@ashleycannon8707]

Madison Boemecke girl, yes! Somehow for every single solitary grand child my dad has predicted the CORRECT birthdate of ALL HIS ELEVEN grandchildren. My mother says it will be two weeks after we "cannot stand it one more day."

[@mphomolapo1562]

@@saeidkh1227 This! 👆👆👆 *Walk walk walk.* Even if it ends in surgery, please try to walk by the next day 👍

[@maiynnai]

Also, "What to do when your baby is 2 weeks late, OMG" bwahahah 🤣🤷🏻‍♂️

[@midwestbadger2503]

I delivered my baby 9 days ago without pain medication but I had to be induced. I definitely used "these contractions are not stronger than me, they are me." I also used "my body knows exactly what it is doing or my body is doing exactly what it should be doing" Definitely wouldn't have thought of those without this video. My contractions never got to the unbearable state, just uncomfortable like any other cramp. I pushed my baby out and I didn't even have a clue I was so focused on the push. My husband had to tap my shoulder and tell my our baby is in the doctors arms and I was like what?! It was such an amazing first labor and delivery experience. Thank you for these tips in this video!!

[@Megalizabeth9]

This is so encouraging!! Thanks for sharing your experience!!

[@MrEvldreamr]

awesome story

[@badgerlife9541]

Thanks for sharing! Hoping I can have the same experience :)

[@bloodybarnicles3605]

Not pregnant, don’t plan to be for a while, but if I had this woman as my nurse, I’d feel BEYOND comfortable 😭❤️

[@jelissabethflores9427]

Amber Lynn same!!

[@korynebeckett245]

I was thinking that too!

[@ThatPaliRN]

Gonna give birth soon lol I wish to have a nurse like her!

[@siancross8675]

Oh absolutely! I live in the UK and I soooo wish this lady could be my nurse too! ❤️☺️

[@xBelovedxMemoryx]

Hearing the "You can do this. Yes, you!" made me smile so big. It was a really big confidence booster for me!

[@mamabear9646]

Another good thing to remember is that pain is always scary until you're in it. Then you just deal with it how you deal with it.

[@brittanyboatwright248]

Everytime someone asks me my birth plan & I say “I want an unmedicated birth,” they laugh in my face & tell me that I’ll change my mind. SUPER frustrating to say the least. This video was refreshing and the boost of confidence I needed. Due in March!💙

[@tarabird7392]

Well?

[@emmajuneread8394]

You can tell she’s trying so hard to not say “your doctor may just have a golf game to get to... so ask if it’s actually needed or if you can continue laboring”

[@margaritadelarosa338]

It is possible!! I had my baby 3 month ago I was so scared of not knowing what it would feel like, hearing everyone saying that it is the worst pain ever, the scary stories about everyone's experience... yet I set my mind that I wanted to avoid getting an epidural and not gonna lie that was mainly because I'm such a wimp about needles 😂 Since I started my 3 trimester I began watching birthing videos and tips to tolerate pain. As soon as I started contractions I got scared, they weren't painful at all so I knew I had to get induced... as my contractions started getting stronger I still didn't feel the pain people would tell me about and I was scared because I thought I might not be progressing (my nurse or Drs didn't check my dilation until 10 pm since 5 am) by 11 I was getting strong contractions because it was time for me to push but my nurse said not to do it cause I wasn't dilated enough, which made me scared cause I thought that might be the pain everyone talked about but little did we know my baby's head was showing already 😂 and it was time to push... 15 mins later he was out! All I want to tell you mamas is to not be afraid! Every contraction means you're closer to meeting your baby and maybe that could work as motivation? Also everyone's experience is different, do not let the fear take over and just because you do decide to get an epidural doesn't mean you're weak! For some reason I was not able to walk around which I believe that it slowed down my progress but I did a lot of breathing and that's what got me through everything easier, I found the sound of his heart soothing and I would just focus on it while breathing. Try different positions, breathing techniques and focus points and trust me it will make everything better! Good luck to everyone having their babies soon, specially during this scary time... may God bless you and your journey! ♥️

[@Zoeyelizanelson]

Girl, I really needed to hear this! I don’t hear much about moms just plain being scared of the pain and that’s it. Thank you for the encouragement 🥰

[@LoveRachelXOXOXO]

My nurse, a very young lady just out of school was the most memorable part of my “precipitous”labor. Long story but I was already in L&D and getting discharged when my water suddenly broke and baby was born in a half hour. She suspected that baby was coming quickly when my water broke and I told her I had to use the bathroom. The resident doctor dismissed it and was hesitant to call the anesthesiologist because she didn’t think I was far enough in labor (my screams were seen as me being a drama queen). My nurse allowed me to squeeze her hands through the intense contractions since my husband wasn’t even there and I was not given an epidural. She called my OB in the middle of the night to rush in. I remember her putting a cold rag on my head. I just remember feeling terrible pain and feeling terrified and I’m so glad she was there for me.

[@Nurse_zabe]

So thankful you had such a great and caring nurse! 🙏🏻

[@emiileebee5579]

My first baby I didn't have an epidural because of the fear of it messing up my back ( my mother suffers reoccurring back pain after having multiple epidurals) I love the fact that I could get up and kinda walk off the pain and re position my self to find the best position for me. My mindset going into Labor (as weird as it sounds) was "I'm the oldest of 6 if my mum can do it 6 times I can do it I got this!" I 3nded up being in Labor for 10 hours total, most of which was at home, 3 hours of active Labor and only 1st degree tearing. Lots of love from Australia!

[@taiamalkata]

Warm Bath during most painful contractions is how I managed the pain before my water broke and was ready to go out and start pushing! Highly recommend it! While being in the bathtub my husband would put cold wet towel on my forehead between contractions, and during contractions he would pour warm water over me. Without this I think I would have given up and asked for an epidural. My nurse was amazing.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Sounds like you had a great support person and nurse. So glad you enjoyed the tub, it's one of my favorite places to labor 😊

[@taiamalkata]

@@Nurse_zabe Yeah, I was lucky. If all goes well I will ask for this method again with my second.

[@taiamalkata]

Athalie the Witch if it’s offered in the hospital and you have a bathtub in the room then go for it. I didn’t plan for it but I’m glad I did. With my second one my labor was so fast I had no time for that. 3 hours from start of contractions to birth. Good luck to you!

[@justineromero2156]

@@Nurse_zabe what if your water breaks in the tub. How do you know ?!

[@pretty5793]

Thank you for sharing this tip. I am so nervous because I can't have anyone other than my spouse during labor due to covid I was super tempted to go for epidural. But when time comes I will try a warm bath and hold off for as long as possible

[@haahhahhahahahah80]

Love your attitude towards labor and delivery. We need more nurses/ midwives like you! You are amazing!

[@theabstractsunflower7]

I really love that. “My contractions can’t be stronger than me, because they are me.” Putting it on my birth slogan list

[@Nurse_zabe]

My fav!

[@mandisa1054]

Same! 2 weeks away for me 😊

[@dianahuerta1213]

I’m 36 weeks about to be 37 and this is my first baby I was terrified until I watched all of your videos I feel much better about having this baby with no epidural 😊

[@hansolohansolo]

Diana Huerta update us on how it goes! Blessings to you!! 😊🎉

[@dianahuerta1213]

dano I will I’m currently 38 about to be 39 in two days ! So close 🤞🏻 but thank you 😊

[@Kaleysia]

I hope everything goes well for you and your baby!

[@dianahuerta1213]

Kaleysia thank you 😊

[@savannahrogers4788]

Have you had baby?! How did it go

[@destinyheath6583]

I just had my girl and went completely unmedicated and that shit is hard but it honestly wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I felt amazing after. The doctor and nurses bragged on me for how I handled it

[@babbydinobat]

Destiny Heath mine did the same..

[@veronicav575]

You go girl! Did it 3x myself, and about to do it again in 10 weeks. Getting ramped up!

[@feejan]

And then you actually forget the pain! I recall it was the worse pain I've ever felt BUT I can't remember the actual pain. All biologically designed so we have more babies! Haha

[@edvh88]

That’s awesome! You’re awesome!! Congrats on your daughter 💜

[@midwestbadger2503]

Yes! I remember the nurses said they were all talking about me because I didn't have any pain medication. The nurses said "it's so rare when don't have to call for an anesthesiologist for an epidural" Even my husband was shocked. He was like you didn't even scream or swear once 😂

[@laceyferrel8123]

I have heard people say "I can do ANYTHING for 1 minute" (1 minute being the time of a contraction)

[@Nurse_zabe]

So true!

[@rayy2670]

That, and "whatever happens, it's two days of my life at worst and then I have a baby, a whole new life created"

[@lindsayfriedrich4117]

Yes! This is what I’ve used with my births.

[@marnilaughman6615]

“Unnecessary intervention” is the name of the game and has been for as long as I have been alive. Most people treat birth as a medical procedure even though it is a natural process. Keep using this platform to educate and empower women who desire a natural or unmedicated birth story! I had unmedicated births with each of my three children. I was DETERMINED that is Mary could do it in an animal stable on hay, I could do it in a hospital bed on clean sheets 😂 I gave you a high five 🖐🏽 when you brought up cave women!! I still believe the birth process was the most spiritual experiences of my life! Our bodies are astonishing! 💙💗💙

[@tgrey4827]

Precious animals were kept in the bottom level of the home not outdoors. Mary did not give birth in a stable or in an inn it was just a family home. The guest room would have been too small to labor in The Holy family were offered the highest level of hospitality staying on the bottom floor of the home which had a manger for the animals who were brought in at night but was no barn/stable.

[@smartgirl909]

I did it! I did it in April. I was not graceful either. I only was able to do it, because my L&D nurse talked me through it. At 10cm I broke down, and she got me through it.

[@shaunagoodridge2432]

Way to go! Learning that this is what I needed. I broke down at 9.5 cm because I still hadn't been admitted and had no idea I was that far along. I was just miserable and still in triage lol. Congrats on your new babe!!

[@Jameshasblueprint]

The champ😊🙌🙌🙌🙌☝👏👏👏

[@annak804]

smartgirl909 glad you got support it is hard done it twice myself going to be doing it again in awhile pregnant again found out last month

[@laurenj432]

I’m a teenager, and don’t plan on having a baby for some time, but I love your videos😂 I feel like I’m so educated from watching you, and once I do decide to have a baby, I’ll be prepared😎

[@MilenaM]

Lauren J same!

[@HackerActivist]

Things I wish someone would have told me: 1. Morning sickness can happen anytime not just morning-and it can be continuous 2. You may feel like your vagina is being electrocuted in the second trimester it's called lightening vagina. Frozen condoms are the cure 3. Maternity clothes you can buy whenever. I bought bras really early on and pants. Maternity underwear is expensive but will grow with you before and after pregnancy 4. You will most likely have to buy a second set of maternity clothes in the last 2 months 5. Google what to expect at prental apts before prental.

[@annak804]

Lauren J glad you are getting prepared

[@laurenj432]

Goo gle Thank you for that advice! I’m not sure yet if I’m going to adopt, or not when I’m finally an adult because I’m super scared of morning sickness and tearing

[@HackerActivist]

@@laurenj432 honestly I was scared as well. They will give you medicine to stop the morning sickness. Most people will stop getting sick after it. A select few like me puked the entire pregnancy. But it's not like puking when you have the flu. It's more of just an a shick upchuck of food. Way more pleasant and bearable.

[@peacedarlynn]

Im not even pregnant but i want to be prepared if i ever do get pregnant bc i want a natural birth. Thank you for your videos! They’re very helpful!!

[@dawnforlife]

"Your own bed, your own home, your own germs." LMAO! Not even pregnant but watching this 😆

[@kimbo3468]

Best place to be AT HOME

[@lakegirl116]

When I found out I was pregnant my mom asked if I was going to get an epidural and automatically I said "uhh YEAH!" But then I thought about it and asked myself why that was my immediate response. I'm so into natural everything why wouldn't I want my child's birth natural? So I did the research, meditation, yoga, lots of walking, etc to help keep my body in shape for it. I took the classes at the hospital etc. I was in labor for 13 hours. I pushed for 2 hours (good grief). And I managed it all without an epidural! 💪🏼 It's definitely like nothing I've ever felt before but not bad. I'd do it 100 times over!

[@Nurse_zabe]

You are a rock star, mama! Way to go! 💪💗

[@feejan]

It is a natural response for a western world woman to answer yes to the drugs when asked like that because we are taught to fear the pain of childbirth and told we can't handle the pain. Even though all women over time before these drugs existed did it without them. Our maternity industry needs to change and relent power of childbirth BACK to women. It is all about controlling women.

[@PhuzBee]

I was 2 months out of 17 years old when I had my first, and a month shy of 21 years old with my second, both were unmediated beyond the IV meds to take the edge off, and honestly, that was enough. I felt everything and it was so empowering (and just to be clear, I'm not some yoga and kale super mommy, I was an anxious, and low self esteemed coward) and I blocked everything out and just focused on my body and what I was feeling. Both of my labors were only a few hours long, 0 complications, my second son shot out like a rocket at 9lbs 6.5oz, yay! I'm not saying this is a guarantee for everyone else, or even anyone else, but I wanted to give an encouraging unmedicated birth story. You couldn't pay me to get an epidural, just for the pure joy of feeling my baby leaving my body. It's magic. Pure magic. ✨😍✨

[@Nurse_zabe]

Way to go, mama! 💪💗

[@CityKanin]

Congratulations! You are a strong double mom :)

[@rayy2670]

Ooooh you are right. I remember it feeling amazing. Giving birth is so cool.

[@143CHANTAL]

Aw thanks for sharing! 😍

[@kaylapoolexo]

I just turned 18 last month and I’m almost 18 weeks pregnant with my little boy and I really wanna do this. Like I have such low self esteem and everything and I really want to feel everything with this.

[@Athelrose]

"back in the days of adam" is quite how I choose to assess the necessity of most things.

[@SocialBurrito3]

😂😂😂 Same, thankfully I wasn't born then, I would not have survived being born myself lol. So someday if I can have kids, I will need all the drugs and a C-section cause I have heart issues.

[@ashleychilders9540]

I just had an accidental unmediated birth this afternoon it was so hard but so worth it

[@gingersnap3684]

congratulations on your new little one! boy or girl?

[@ashleychilders9540]

Thank you! Girl🥰

[@BH-el4rs]

Wow! Congrats!! That’s so great. What was the worst part for you?

[@folklorelover13]

this afternoon???? CONGRATULATIONS 🥰

[@Nurse_zabe]

Way to go!! 💪💪

[@isahelgenberger695]

I’m just sad this whole covid19 thing ruined the baby classes I was taking at the hospital to know the ins & outs about having a baby & giving birth. Now I just use youtube & the books they gave us to look over ugh. The class was fun! I learned a lot. I’m now 4 weeks or less away from having my daughter & I’m not as nervous, because I trust my body cuz it really is made to do this. But thank you for helping us out! 💓

[@msaijay1153]

How did it go?

[@MrEvldreamr]

how did the birth go?

[@klumzi]

Already given birth 3 days ago to my second child. This video just popped up and I'm like what the heck let's check it out. Really wish I could have watched this before I had my first. These are great info. I opted for the epidural during my first not knowing much at all about how it would effect the whole thing. I've always regretted it. So when my second birth came around I was more determined to go without it. And I did it!!! It was an entirely different experience to be able to feel everything. It was painful but manageable, breathing techniques and screaming sure helped a lot but having a good mind set goes a long way. She is right, you can do it!!! Let your body do what it needs to do don't numb the feeling because it will just make the process harder. With out that numbing feeling I was intuned with what my body needed to do. Like pushing. With the epidural I didn't know when I really needed to push or if I'm making any progress. Had to rely on my nurse most of the time to tell me what's going on. I was able to feel that urge to push and I was able to deliver my son a whole lot faster than my first child. It was more rewarding in the end too. Labor with the epidural lasted 26 hours and without the epidural it lasted only 4. They said having a second child would be easier but I do believe going without the epidural made it go faster.

[@apulley1540]

Did it 3 times and about to do it again! Funny thing, the nurses last time said to me " let us know when to get that epidural for ya." I was like " I'm not getting one" They said "ok well just let us know when" I was so furious with them assuming that I couldnt do it! Well showed them wrong! They apologized after! Every mama can! ❤

[@jennlynn212]

a pulley that could be looked at from a perspective that maybe they were trying to make you stronger because you had motivation to prove them wrong haha. It’s like how high end designer stores are actually trained to be dismissive to people that don’t “look rich” because it makes the person want to spend a lot there to prove to the employees being rude that they can afford to!

[@tabithawallen7716]

My last birth was less than 2 hours and 4 hours after birth, I was up, had been to the bathroom, BEGGING for a shower and it totally freaked them out. They see prob 3-4 natural births a year and they had no idea how to deal with me walking around, eating, no sleep.

[@HeatherFragglehead]

“You can do this.” My labor nurse said this to me when I had my son five days ago. I’d planned on having an epidural, but there was no time for any kind of pain management. I so badly needed to hear that, she was amazing. Good labor nurses can make all the difference in delivery, especially when things don’t go to plan.

[@leenaparsons9876]

Thank you for being so positive about this. When I say I want to do it unmedicated I some times get really discouraging reactions as if it’s a really far-fetched goal, but I don’t understand why. It felt really good just to hear you say “you can do it” because I literally just feel like I don’t want the interventions. They don’t appeal to me. I find it disempowering when people are so skeptics of this.

[@gracegreen1828]

I am 17 weeks pregnant with my first baby and the thought of labor, delivery, epidurals, c-sections, natural births, IV's, etc is all so overwhelming. Your videos are so informative and make me feel a lot better about the whole ordeal. I hope when the time comes my labor and delivery nurse is as cool as you.

[@shadygirlxoxo]

I really like how you talked about limiting cervix checks. I was induced at 39weeks 2 days because my husband was deploying in 24 hours. I got discouraged because I was at 3cms all day, & I worried that my husband would have to leave before the birth, or I'd need a c-section. But after the ob broke my water, I went from 3cms to 10cms in about an hour!

[@stefanielozinski]

Adding my two cents in regard to when to go to the hospital - do not be afraid to go if your gut feeling is telling you to, especially if that feeling is persisting. I just had my second child 7 weeks ago, and though my birth was overall fine with no complications for me or baby, I deeply regret waiting to go to the hospital against my own judgement (my midwife encouraged me to wait and see and I felt bad about pestering her in the middle of the night, so I listened). I was only having contractions 5-6 minutes apart and I had only been 2cm dilated a few hours prior, so on paper it wasn’t time to go. However, the pain was INTENSE. Like as intense as the final parts of my labor with my first child. I wanted to just be in the hospital and be ready to go, but I didn’t feel confident in myself to just go anyway. Especially since it was my second birth without pain meds, I should have known, lol. All’s well that ends well, but I literally went from 5 mins apart to barely 2 minutes apart in one contraction, the pain was so bad I started to full on panic. Instead of just being in the hospital ready to go, I was at home with my husband who had never even seen a birth, feeling my daughters head pressing downward big time. I was wondering how the hell I would be able to instruct my husband to help me if I had to have her right then and there, and st the time it felt like a real possibility. I had him call an ambulance, my midwife met us at the hospital and I had to hold in pushing while I waited for my husband to arrive! NEVER AGAIN. I agree entirely with this video, 150%, but please don’t go against your instincts because you don’t want to inconvenience others. It’s their job! You’re the one having a baby! Looking back now my daughter’s birth is definitely a story to tell but at the time I just felt shocked, scared, and frankly traumatized. It went better than my first labor physically (no tearing and much shorter!! Woo!) but the psychological impact is no joke. I had basically convinced myself I was still pretty early on (because that’s what it should have been on paper) so it was extremely hard to mentally prepare to be pushing 30 minutes later.

[@joannediaz8978]

I've had 3 unmedicated births. First birth was 6 hrs long, second birth was 2 hrs long, and my 3 was an hour. So with my fourth I'm hoping I just make it to the hospital! Not worried about pain management just wanna make there in time😬😂

[@kayladepouw9231]

That's what I'm hoping with the one I'm currently pregnant with. That I just make ot to the hospital. My hospital is 43 minutes away. My 1st was born an hour and 43 minutes after my water broke, my 2nd was born an hour and 13 minites after my water broke, and, if the pattern continues that way, I'll give birth at home or in the car because they'll be born in 43 minutes. And I don't feel my early labor contractions AT ALL. I only start feeling things after my water breaks. 😅

[@mrs.hatfield1451]

I just had my fourth, 3 of 4 unmedicated and all mine are 30- 45 mins once my waters break. I super regret my one epidural and it was after going completely natural with my first.

[@negautrunks]

Lol and my mom was in active labor with me for 78 unmedicated hours lol 😂 I'm so sure I'm going to be in labor for days!

[@tabithawallen7716]

My first was under 5, my second less than 2. I live 45m from my birthing hospital so I just hope to make it as well lol

[@tabithawallen7716]

Kayla DePouw same here. I was diagnosed with silent labor with my second- my contractions were off the charts but I was sleeping through them.

[@anie8148]

You remind me of Drew Barrymore

[@cheyennefreeman4144]

Omg right

[@christineroy9288]

I’ve worked so damn hard for an unmedicated birth...sometimes it doesn’t work and it’s ok. I’ve been induced with hormones on a Wednesday night, labor started on Thursday morning but stopped, so I had to be induced with Pitocin in the early afternoon. Finally the contractions were back and my doula helped me a lot dealing with the excruciating pain for most of the rest of the day and night. Unfortunately, despite my strong will, the pain got so intense, (we were now Friday very early morning), I asked how much I was dilated so I can motivate myself, but I got told I wasn’t even dilated at 2. I couldn’t possibly stand another 10hours of this so I asked for the epidural after another hour of suffering. A good thing to know is that you can actually have a “lighter” epidural so you can still feel the contractions (it was like 70% less painful) and still feel the baby while pushing. So at least I wasn’t numb and could easily use my muscles.

[@rebeccaramos3246]

No shame in getting an epidural even if that wasn't in your original birth plan. Besides, pitocin is the devila cocktail. That mess will make your labor really intense without letting up.

[@bellerosberg8155]

Hearing you say "You can do this, yes you pregnant momma watching this" make me emotional, i agreed with my head and and "Thank you Nurse Zabe". My heart just melted with emotions

[@ninawernick6501]

I had an absolutely lovely planned elective C-section. It was calm, under control, I was comfortable, and the medical people were great, caring and respectful. And yet, I love these videos. My labour nurse was wonderful, we ran into each other today and literally seven and a half months later she recognised me, greeted my baby by name. Thank you for what you do - education wise, and in your medical practice. Thank you also for being clear that we're all mothers, we're all amazing... it's nice to hear :)

[@britney5788]

These videos could not have come at a better time for me. I’m about 26 weeks but totally undecided on my birth plan. Thank you so much for all this information!! “You are amazing.” Made my pregnant self cry. Haha

[@tweetysixteen]

I'm 26 weeks pregnant too! The emotions are so real!! Haha😊

[@saratrev11]

22 weeks and I’ve been crying all day haha😭

[@skybrewer37]

Im 29 weeks and undecided too im scared 😩

[@britney5788]

Sky Brewer Well, I hope these videos help you overcome your fears. Nerves are natural but try not to psyche yourself out- your brain is very powerful. If you start your labor in fear then I think you aren’t giving yourself a fair chance. Watching videos and educating yourself is a great start! You will be perfect and strong no doubt, have faith in your gorgeous female body and strength!

[@skybrewer37]

No matter what pain i go through in life...be it emotional or physical...i want to look back on this and know i am stronger than any amount of pain!

[@lakeviawilcher3610]

Can you give tips on how to prepare for an unmedicated birth ie exercises, body strengthening, breathing etc.

[@MarissaMJArt]

LaKevia Wilcher prenatal yoga for sure

[@tabithawallen7716]

That’s different for everyone. Whatever makes you calm and comfortable now will def help.

[@mixddelicious5636]

i can not stress the importance of doing your research from a legitimate source.. i labored at home, then went in, but still delivered naturally.. it was an amazing experience and the after effect is even better. you feel this type of proud feeling. This time i plan on doing unassisted home delivery

[@5dfeminine]

I’m very passionate about having my future children without an epidural if possible. My mom gave birth to my brother and I both unmedicated. When I was born, I came out in the breached position and inhaled a bunch of fluids. I had to kick and fight my way out of the birth canal. The doctor told my mom after I survived that it probably helped my chances of survival that I wasn’t exposed to the epidural medication, which probably would have sedated me and kept me from fighting my way out. I also 100% agree with the fact that we are literally made to give birth NATURALLY! We really don’t need all that pain medication. I’m not pregnant and never have been, but I like to learn for the future. Thanks for another super informative video!

[@choosnau]

I'm a FTM and want to go unmedicated. I LOVE how you started this with "you can do it!". I haven't had any other video exclaim such positivity and certainty.

[@Nurse_zabe]

💗💪🏼

[@betsymurchison914]

I can't tell you how much I appreciate this video. I'm 33 weeks pregnant, and have been stressing about a birth plan, but watching your videos has made me feel more empowered to make an informed decision and know that it will be ok no matter what I decide

[@bonnie7577]

I’ve been enjoying watching your videos. I am currently pregnant with our 8th child. I never had a birth plan, I never really put too much thought into what I will bring to the hospital. With that said I can’t believe it took me so long to actually educate myself about certain things that have become so important to me. My first 6 deliveries I had epidural. My last my 7th was all natural. My nurses didn’t believe I was truly was in labor! I wasn’t even fully admitted and my doctor walked in and they asked him why he was there so soon and he answered bc she delivers fast. I don’t know what happened but they had checked me so many times to the point I said stop touching me. It hurt so bad! Long story short I was 10 centimeters dilated. With all that said and done I was SO proud of myself for going through that naturally.After watching some of your videos and vlogs I know for sure I don’t want my water broke and I don’t want to be checked more than absolutely necessary. I almost fell for the fancy labor gowns and some other things and then I realized… who am I kidding! I don’t need those things. Thanks for all the tips!

[@Megalizabeth9]

I wish more people were like you! I'm getting to where I wont even share that in want an unmedicated birth. People are SO opinionated and it's so frustrating to feel enthusiastic about unmedicated, doing what my body was meant to do only to be shot down by the girl that hates pain and has to tell you her full epidural story and give you no encouragement whatsoever. Praying I get a nurse like you!!

[@psychopsilocybin00]

My mom did it naturally with all 5 of us.... and she wanted more kids after that. I’m due with my first in May. I was set on an epidural but now I’m shifting towards a natural birth. Videos like this help a lot. I will always be looking into hypno birthing

[@starseed5738]

Your videos are so extremely informative and empowering. I'm currently 35 weeks pregnant, unplanned pregnancy in the middle of a pandemic after quitting my job a year ago. It has been a rough year and at times very scary, especially when I think about labor & delivery. After every video I feel more prepared not only for the process, but to also be my own advocate. Thank you so much.

[@TheLuneflower]

Thank you so much for making these videos. I’ll be 5 months pregnant next month with my first, and I’ve been watching your videos for about a week now. I feel so much better about choosing not to have an epidural and I hope I stay this confident especially when the time comes. I’ll definitely take these tips into consideration.

[@nikkibyrd343]

Blanca Carr me too!! Good luck momma :)

[@meganwarrick3673]

I’m 5 months pregnant now! I agree though was so nervous about labour and these videos are helping so much!

[@mphomolapo1562]

You REALLY can do it! I had no complications & labor helped me feel closer to my baby and my body. Ended up in a C-section, but that time spent laboring was NOT wasted 💕 She's 1yr old today & I love her just the same as the day she was born 😄 *Tip: Labor is painful but not suffering.* If you feel what you can describe as suffering (like, your heart hurts. trust me you'll know). Then ask for some relief. Baby's gonna come out today even if you take nap and some IV-meds or epidural. Stay blessed 🎁🎉

[@Nurse_zabe]

Blanca Carr you got this, mama! 💪🏼💗

[@Chels444]

I just love this. I’m pregnant with my second. My first was an induction and now that I know so much more of what to expect and watching this gives me hope that this time I can go unmedicated or at least avoiding pitocin this time. I wish my nurses were as hands on and helpful as you are! Thank you!! ❤️

[@chenesteenkamp3405]

All I’m thinking throughout this video is “I hope I get a nurse like her” !!! Love your videos and taking your advice !! ♥️♥️🔥🔥

[@meghynmcdonald5939]

I need a nurse like you in my life when I give birth! Your videos truly are helping me to feel less nervous about what’s to come. I’ll be 13 weeks tomorrow. ❤️

[@pretty5793]

I am pregnant and praying I have a nurse like you. I am going to watch this during my labor again. Hopefully, your advice will help me go unmedicated!

[@MissyMurders]

Thank you, i can't say it enough! With how much flack some mama's get because they ended up having a c-section, i love to hear the positivity from someone who knows what the heck they're taking about! Much love- a c-section mama!

[@Nurse_zabe]

💗💗

[@sofi.sowavy6222]

Thank you for these! I am due in 2 weeks and they are so informative. 😊

[@saeidkh1227]

SAME! Congratulations ❤️😍

[@Nurse_zabe]

Thanks for watching! Wishing you a safe and healthy delivery!

[@emochick22134]

I watched this multiple times in my pregnancy and it really helped with my unmedicated birth! Thankfully I had AMAZING nurses who helped me through everything and helped me to relax when I thought I couldn’t do it anymore. Started having contractions 7pm Friday and had him 3:20am on Sunday!

[@Nurse_zabe]

Rock on, mama! It sounds like you did some hard work and had the birth you hoped for. Way to go!

[@Aliyahdk]

I'm so happy I found your channel! I'm 20 weeks with my first baby, and am a person that likes to have as much information possible! Your videos have really helped me in this journey and figuring out what kind of birth plan I want to have. THANK YOU!

[@molecularbandit]

I had an unmedicated birth with my first child last week. I was 4-5cm dialated 2 weeks before my due date, then 5-6 the next week, and then when I went in the day before my due date I was 6-7cm. I wasnt feeling like I was in labor at all though. I would just feel contractions sporadically throughout those 2 weeks but they were never painful or consistant or remotely close together. My obgyn constuled with another doc and said even though I was a day before my due date they didnt want me to keep walking around so far along so they broke my water to induce me that day. I figured my labor wouldn't be very long so I opted not to deal with the epidural for what I figured would only be a few hours of pain (I also have scoliosis which i was told could hinder the epidural). I was right and they broke my water at 12:45pm and my daughter was born at 8:30pm. It took about 2 hours for my contractions to really get going so I had a very short labor for it being my first. I did sustain a 4th degree tear though because her hand was next to her face and she was facing forward. But they didnt need any tools to get her out so she was 100% fine. And side note- I'm 8 days out now and my stitches and pain are soooooo much better. The first poo was scary because i just thought of all the stitches and damage and was afraid going would make my healing worse but I just took it easy and it was fine.

[@itecblogger]

I've had 2 babies and getting prepared to give birth to number 3. Your videos are amazing. Very helpful.

[@BrownieBrown97]

Watching your videos have honestly made me feel more informed and not as scared as I used to feel watching other videos

[@allieduncan5883]

I’m 22 weeks and 4 days pregnant, I want to do it naturally, I’m also very nervous but mostly excited to meet our little girl. Thank you for this video I feel a lot better about going through with it

[@neoandlykkecat]

I will never be able to have kids on my own. But I love your videos. You are so sweet. I would love to have you as my nurse every time I have to go to the hospital. Hugs from Norway.

[@alexisweaver9066]

I'm going to have my first baby in November and this video is helping so much. Everyone is telling me that I won't be able to have an unmedicated birth because it will be too hard but I don't believe that. I'm sure these tips are really going to help. Thank you so much.

[@stacilucas4217]

You make me want to be a labor nurse Haha. Seriously everyone needs a sweet, understanding nurse like you, especially in the most scary moments! You're great

[@CityKanin]

Staci Lucas Go for it! We need more humane and graceful midwives :)

[@amandaleighbump2161]

So helpful and encouraging! I'm a second time mom, but since I had a scheduled induction with an epidural last time, I feel like a first time mama in many ways. I had wanted to avoid an epidural the last time around and my induction was so easy (only cytotec needed with no pitocin) that I know I could have easily done without that epidural with a more positive mindset. I needed someone to tell me that the extra monitors didn't require me to labor on my back in the bed, but I didn't realize this and felt defeated and like I wasn't allowed to move. This attitude led me to giving up on the labor tools I had been practicing through pregnancy and consenting to an epidural that I didn't actually want out of a sense of frustration. It wasn't an entirely negative experience and I had my beautiful baby at the end, but I'm determined to do things differently this time. I've realized that the number one thing I need to do differently is to communicate more, especially with the labor and delivery nurses! This is one major reason I have chosen to hire a doula; I tend to comply with what I assume other people want to do, and I internalized a lot during labor. I know I will likely need someone to speak for me during labor or to remind me to speak for myself.

[@bobbiecook6067]

I start fertility treatments next month and I’m so excited for this blessing. Watching your videos are teaching me so much, I don’t know many people who have had children in the last few years and I know nobody who has had a natural birth. I really want to have a natural birth but everybody tells me I will change my mind but we’ll see where I go!

[@kesleynienaber8485]

My fingers and toes are crossed for you! Good luck x

[@AllySunne]

Could you do a video (if you haven't already, sadly haven't had time to check through your whole video library haha) about myths you've heard about pregnancy, labor, delivery, etc and debunking them?

[@Nurse_zabe]

I haven't done that yet. What a good idea!

[@RoseVampireGirl4]

This helps me so much, im currently trying for a baby , and i wanted to get a jumpstart on learning everything. I truly want to have a home unmedicated birth.

[@sherryc6878]

35 weeks here. This video came at the right time. ❤

[@tyonnaxo9256]

I get induced Friday this helps a lot because I am going completely natural

[@princessbitchess]

Omg good luck let's us know how it goes 🤗

[@jennyhuante6599]

Tyonna Xo good luck 🍀 I’m getting induced tomorrow💙😊

[@ninabirdd]

Good luck ❤️

[@valek7700]

Ask for soft induction, if that's something the hospital can do and if everybody's health allows it. You should increase it though, if it's to weak.

[@cynthiatownsend6186]

You can do this momma!! I had an unexpected induction, but stuck to my plan of no epidural. It’s tough, but doable. You got this!! (Obviously if you choose to get an epidural then that’s ok too!) You’re going to be holding your baby soon!❤️

[@SenecaRed]

I’m due in 2 weeks and I’m really wanting to have an unmedicated birth. The mantra tip was quite helpful. In my mind I can see myself being very focused during labor, I just hope that’s how I’ll really be when the time comes. Thanks sharing this!!! Your videos have really helped me and been beneficial. I’m going to watch the labor support video with my husband so he has an idea of what to do/expect.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Aw, good luck! Thanks so much for watching!

[@danielat1420]

my advice to any first time mamma who wants to labor and deliver without any medication, have your support person be firm on your behalf until you always get what you want because i got zero of the things i asked for and stated in my birth plan. My husband and i took the birthing class at the very hospital i delivered at and i was promised so many things that i got none of and frankly, i’m still upset about it even 14 months later. I was told i would have the option to have portable monitors so i wouldn’t be tied up to the wall, that didn’t happen, apparently according to the nurse i had “no one else is giving them up at this time” 3 hours after i kept asking for one. I couldn’t walk around the hallways like i was told i could, i couldn’t get in the already filled bath tub (which at home helped me tremendously and was looking forward to continuing my labor in the hospital bath tub), my nurse didn’t offer me any kind of laboring advice or different positions to try nor did she ever mention that i could be unhooked from the stationary wall monitor for a while every hour so i could walk around or get in the tub. During the birthing class i was told not to bring in my own exercise ball or peanut because they had plenty and would lend me one to use in labor.... then the midwife on call that was present during the pushing time, she made me start pushing early, at 9.5 cm, now i realize it might not seem like a big deal but to me it was, i pushed for 2.5 hours until she threatened with a c section which freaked me out enough to give one final push and finally my son was born. Then she cut the cord after a couple of minutes after i told her twice to wait until it stopped pulsing, she tossed my son almost over my shoulder and i could hardly see him not to mention he couldn’t find my breast. I have no idea who stitched me up or how many i received, no introduction or explanation even though i was fully alert and aware of the entire room (it took 4 months for my body to heal and the stitches to dissolve). I’m sharing my story to inform other moms of what can happen if you’re “nice” but not firm. And for any mommas out there considering the epidural as their main way of pain management, i ended up taking it after laboring in one spot for 6 hours-on the floor clutching my shoe!-i still experienced some pain toward the end before i started pushing which for me felt like intense menstrual cramping, also when my son came out i felt everything-the ring of fire does not get numbed by the epidural. So just be informed that even a perfectly executed epidural like the one i received will still leave you experiencing some pain, but at least it won’t be in addition to all the laboring pain. In conclusion, don’t believe everything the staff may tell you, always be clear and firm with exactly what you want because it’s your labor and your birth experience and you deserve to receive what you want! ❤️

[@sydlant]

I loved this video! My first labor was completely unmedicated because I followed all of the tips you brought up. I'm hoping to do the same with the pregnancy, but your videos remind me that it doesn't matter how I end up laboring and bringing my child into the world. It matters that I feel supported and comfortable with my decisions. Keep making amazing videos like this!

[@zahraab4099]

I love the way she concluded the video with such sweet encouraging words....🙂👍

[@Nurse_zabe]

💗💗

[@PaigeWonTheGame]

I've been thinking about planning on an unmedicated birth for my second baby in a few years and only a minute into this video I felt so confident that I can!! My first went super easy with the epidural and I feel like it could be harder but I want to see what my body is capable of!

[@stylemeblacknwhite2888]

I’m a CAPPA doula and Lamaze childbirth educator and currently expecting my first baby. I was blown away by this video - so much good information. I especially enjoyed hearing you discuss tip number six as it’s not something I hear discussed nearly enough. Thank you for this lovely content. I also appreciated your conclusion about all mothers being amazing for whatever way they deliver. Sending you much love.

[@beegodslight3224]

I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first and planning on an unmedicated birth. Thank you for this video!

[@ChaoticAeris]

I prepared so much for my unmedicated first birth. I managed it well until my water broke and I hit transition around 8 cm. I couldn't keep myself calm anymore with the increased pain, and after 30 more minutes I gave in and got an epidural. 45 minutes later I delivered, so I'm sure I could have made it unmedicated with reassurance. I'm 36 weeks with baby 2 now, and I'm hoping to make it unmedicated this time.

[@LouisaKorkieZA]

Great video. I didn't have an epidural and would go the unmedicated route again. Loved that I could walk and have a shower after I had skin to skin and also definitely agree on going to a birthing class. It was so helpful and informative plus we knew exactly when to go into the hospital. The midwife had so many tips and tricks that I didn't see online.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Love, love, love birthing classes! 💗

[@deannawhite8027]

Really really wanting to go natural and this helped me even more! Thank you for these videos! Very helpful! Heard too many scary things about epidural. I’d rather have some pain then not be in control of my body or risk back pain for the rest of my life

[@baconettam.8122]

She seems like the nicest person. Thanks for the awesome video.

[@siancross8675]

I’ve only recently found your videos and I love you already. ‘ “....even if you had a c section, you are amazing too. You are enough and you are amazing.” That got me. You’re so lovely and wonderful at explaining all of this, I’m not even pregnant yet and I would love to have you as my nurse. 🤗❤️

[@makaylawoody2459]

Saving this for motivation when I’m in labor. Such an educated, born to be nurse♥️

[@_miao5825]

20weeks here, i will shoot for natural birth but with epidural. My period cramps were painful to handle already so I don’t think i will be able to handle labor without pain medication. Strong mama to whom went without! Applause 👏

[@caitlinbeam2542]

You are so informative and kind! Thank you for sharing your knowledge 😊

[@Nurse_zabe]

Thanks for watching!

[@MissMeganMarie99]

I would LOVE a video for people who are interested in being a l&d nurse. How did you do it? The pros and cons?

[@0Alwina0]

A mantra was huge for me. I envisioned water ebbing and flowing with contractions and told myself " The pain is temporary , I can get thru this contraction, I am getting closer to seeing my baby" I was so focused that I didn't hear anything around me. I did do a low moan during contractions to help relax.

[@itzesmi]

1st baby: 12hrs of labor from 3cm progressing one cm each hour and getting stuck at 9cm for HOURS and then being offered epidural at 9 1/2 cm. Of course as a mom in distress I took it. Pushed for ever. Had an episiotomy done on me. 2nd Baby: 3 1/2hours. From 0cm to 10cm. Low amniotic fluid, had to be induced. Within 2 hours my water broke. It was INTENSE. I tore upwards. Both experiences were vastly different and painful of course. I'm pregnant with baby #3 and I'm praying I get something in between.

[@WickedGeekz]

i didn’t realize how much i needed this video, but i’m due in late August & its my first so i’m anxious. this helps a lot, especially because i’m young (20) & not as educated on birth as i would like to be. your videos are always a positive light about labor and i thank you so much for that.

[@skybrewer37]

Im due early september... I wish you many days with air conditioning!!! lol

[@leahevans2545]

katrina lomberk I turned 20 a week ago and am due on August 2nd. I’m also trying to educate myself and relieve some anxiety. I’m sure it will be difficult but we got this. Women are amazing and strong so just know that you’ll make it through this even if it’s tough 💪🏼 Also, it doesn’t make you any less of a super hero if you decide to use medication to ease the pain so don’t feel bad if that’s what you decide to do. Wishing you a safe and pleasant delivery! Good luck!

[@WickedGeekz]

Leah Evans i hear you!! & same to you! i’ve chosen to go all natural because i’m just one of those people that hates taking any type of meds unless they’re absolutely necessary & also don’t want long existing back pains from an epidural that all of my friends got. 😬😬 if i need it, i’ll definitely get it, but i’m trying to stick true to my non medicated plan!

[@courtneytroutman6390]

Thank you so much for the way you talk about unmedicated and epidural deliveries both as legit options for labor. I really wanted to go unmedicated with my first baby, but fatigue got the better of me. I've watched a lot of your videos throughout my second pregnancy and there were a number of things you said that really stuck with me - the encouragement that a second baby may come faster and so unmedicated labor might be more attainable. The mantras of 'my labor can't be stronger than me it is me', the story of your nurse telling you that the epidural was an option but that you didn't HAVE to have it - I was fortunate enough to have a labor nurse who gave me the same encouragement! This second birth I was able to labor and deliver without an epidural - and I'm super thankful for that. But I'm also super thankful to be told that both deliveries were legitimately amazing and beautiful. Thank you for your message of validation of everyone's birth stories!

[@mimad57]

An unmedicated birth was the hardest thing I have ever done. The pressure, pain and exhaustion was so incredibly overwhelming but I would (and will) do it again. I felt so strong and thankful. It is 100% achievable.

[@OSB911]

How would you like to spend Christmas in Colorado? I'll provide room and board, you just have to attend my birth.

[@sharhondareynolds8548]

yes omg ‼️❤️

[@laceyjones4732]

Currently watching your videos even though it's 2 in the morning 😂 I'll be 37 weeks on Tuesday with my first and I plan on going natural but everyone keeps telling me I can't do it. You're giving me hope though. I pray I can get through it 🤞❤

[@Nurse_zabe]

You CAN do this. 💗

[@johannav48]

OMG!!!! Thank you sooo much!!! I’m 33 weeks pregnant and this is my first child and I’m saying that I don’t want the epidural because I know that I can do it, I know it will be hard but I'm made for this and none of my family believe me, they say that I’m gonna ask and I’m like where is the support 🙄. But thank you so much for those words!! ❤️

[@freedomflowsred]

Johanna Marte my friends and family say the same thing! We got this !

[@TaeTheMom]

You So Supportive . I Watched So Many Of Your Videos In The Last 2-3 Days And All The Information You Give Is Really Helping Me Know What’s To Come . Nobody Even Tried To Tell Me A Piece Of Information On What To Expect .

[@pinkyswear3481]

I have 3 kids and my last one I didn’t use the epidural ( I didn’t have time) and I’m truly amazed how well my body did all by itself! Your body knows what it has to do.. Trust yourself , Trust your body. It’s a experience you won’t regret

[@emilyhenry1637]

Thank you so much for calling it “unmedicated birth” and not “natural birth”. Now I’ve never had a baby but I feel that all birth (but especially all vaginal birth) is “natural” because your baby was made (by nature) to eventually come out of you and be birthed, whether that be with medication, without medication, or a c-section. I feel calling unmedicated birth “natural” is implying that any other form of giving birth is unnatural and so it is bad. This is very much shame-based language and can make cause some people to feel that they didn’t do it “right” because they used medication or needed a c-section. I really appreciate how you emphasized that however a person gives birth, they are amazing for growing a human and bringing a new life into the world!

[@cheyanneballard9716]

Really wish all nurses and doctors were like you