10 Questions Your Labor Nurse Wants You to Ask

[@Nurse_zabe]

If you feel like you may be stressed or triggered by the discussion of pregnancy and infant loss, please skip to 3:50 for the video. 💗

[@nikkibyrd343]

Nurse Zabe I am 34 weeks and I was not ready for that 😂 But you did an amazing job talking about it with compassion and love. Anyone who has you as a labor nurse is so lucky!

[@marisolheredia8353]

Thank you for showing your care and compassion for us moms that lost babies. I truly appreciate it. I lost my son to Potter Syndrome and had a missed miscarriage of twins and losing a bby is the hardest thing to go through. And it's tougher knowing you are unable to bring them home or for them to stay at home. But I have to say the nurses who took care of me and my husband were amazing and went above and beyond for both of us. We appreciated the nurses like you that show care and compassion during that tough time.❤️💙

[@andiceni24]

You have such a great big heart and such a therapeutic voice/choice of words when talking about such a difficult topic!

[@chasitymarie8994]

Nurse Zabe I’m 34 weeks with my rainbow baby. I’ve only been pregnant 3 times and my first two was missed miscarriages. I wish my OB who I’ve had for all three over the past year was this kind. He made me feel like none of my pregnancies or worries mattered which is why I no longer see him and transferred. He even tried to tell me it would be no big deal if I had my baby in the car on the way to see him and made jokes about babies dying. He never let me know my blood type and that I needed the rhogam shot until I brought it up. He just expected me to know things. So your videos have helped me know what to ask and what to expect because he never discussed anything with me. I love your videos and I’m so glad you make them!

[@katrgraves]

Maybe leave this in the description box too with a warning?

[@OSB911]

When I delivered my stillborn daughter, my labor nurse was absolutely amazing. She went above and beyond. When the photographer still had not shown up by that evening, she went home and got her camera, took pictures, and a few weeks later she gave us an envelope of the pictures she took, edited, and printed...all on her own dime and time. At such a very dark time in my life, she was a tremendous blessing. I will never forget her. ❤ Thank you, to all l&d nurses, who too many forget that they go through these sorrows with us.

[@hannahrose4266]

That's amazing. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure her act of kindness was a huge comfort to you. Praying for healing and light in your life. ❤️

[@brij5261]

I'm 16 weeks and have been feeling a strong connection to my pregnancy. I have fear and anxiety something bad will happen. I couldn't imagine experiencing what you went through.. I really couldn't and I'd personally like to give you the biggest hug. You'll always be the mother to that baby, don't forget that. Bless you x 🙏🏼

[@jaclyn4098]

I would definitely nominate that woman for a daisy award! What an incredible lady.

[@bellagrace3498]

The beginning of his hit me hard... I am pregnant for the 4th time and this is the furthest I haven’t gotten! 21 weeks today 💕 you are amazing for donating to the organization!

[@ViTheWay]

Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy, a happy and healthy baby, and a healthy and happy life. Congrats on getting over halfway! ❤️

[@threeoftrees9286]

Thank you for acknowledging pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. No one ever wants to talk about it and the loneliness and stigma are so damaging

[@caitcupples]

Definitely one example I want to mention for my best friend. She has a healthy 1.5 yr old son and she loves him to pieces but he was a twin! She had a early miscarriage and only lost one so he was her little miracle. She had miscarriages before so I always send encouraging words to her when she brings it up. 💙 thank you

[@SweetChaos01]

I have been pregnant 4 times and have never made it past 8 weeks. Thanks for acknowledging pregnancy and infant loss month. I am 1 in 4.

[@Nurse_zabe]

FightingThe GoodFight I am so sorry for your losses. 💗

[@iloveme0417]

I just gave birth to my sleeping daughter 10/9/19. She was only 26 weeks and absolutely beautiful. If it weren't for all the nurses and doctors who gave us their support and love throughout our hospital stay, we wouldn't be here today. Thank you to all the nurses around the world who go above and beyond for their patients.

[@CC-mx6gd]

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love. ❤️

[@iloveme0417]

ChervonyC thank you so much💗

[@nebraska418]

I'm so sorry. I also had a 26 week stillbirth 4/5/18. Thankfully, I had a wonderful medical team as well. Sending love.

[@succubunnie]

I’m not pregnant or planning on getting pregnant for another 4 years. But I’m obsessed with your videos and I think it’s never too soon to learn. Keep it up!

[@kianad04]

38 weeks pregnant today and I’ve been binge watching your videos!!

[@ViTheWay]

girlie004 I’m 30 weeks, hope your baby arrived healthy!

[@beth90]

“Will the labor nurses be receptive to different pushing positions?” It’s very sad that we even have to ask this question 😔 In a normal, uncomplicated delivery a mom should always be allowed to push in whatever position feels right. I have a friend who recently gave birth, and while pushing she wanted to be on her hands & knees but the nurses told her no and pushed her back down when she tried to move, and then held her down so she couldn’t move at all the whole rest of delivery. It’s absolutely disgusting that women are sometimes treated like that. When hospital staff don’t let a woman trust her own body and do what feels natural.

[@TheRavensNest]

That is horrible! Poor woman!

[@Nurse_zabe]

It is sad that we have to ask this question. And I so feel for your friend. That is not appropriate for a nurse to do to any (but especially an unmedicated) woman!

[@carson551]

With my first I had to stay in an uncomfortable position to give birth as their hospital policy. I was unmediated. My hospital this time let’s any mom with out an epidural give birth how it feels natural whatever that position is. My advice is ask the hospital a head of time. Some hospitals even offer birth classes. I took one a couple months ago at the hospital I will deliver at. It was great because one of their l&d nurses taught it. She told us all of their policies, what to expect, things that could happen, how to know when your in labor, how to time contractions, what she and her coworkers will want you to know, questions they will ask you, I could easily ask any questions I had, and I got tour the hospital. I would check with the hospital you are delivering at and ask questions. See if they offer a birthing class. If they do, take it!

[@gabriellel4496]

Not Of This World do you have to pay for birthing classes?

[@carson551]

G L It was $15. So yes but it was worth it. Not all hospitals make you pay though. Just ask and see because every hospital is different.

[@rebeccaburson7242]

Regarding csection rates, it is important to review these with reference to "level" of hospital. High risk mamas might end up at a tertiary / level 4-5 hospital to manage risk and might also be more likely to need a csection. In these cases a high csection rate is more explainable and less worrisome.

[@Cabbage-dk6nu]

Seconded- the hospital right behind my house has the largest perinatal care department in the area. Many to most high-risk mamas in the county end up there, so yep, it has a much higher c section rate than other hospitals in the area!

[@laurenfox1899]

Thank you for donating to a wonderful organization. I recently began taking a medication that disrupted the effectiveness of my birth control UNEXPECTEDLY and experienced an early pregnancy loss. I can’t imagine the hurt felt by those who had truly bonded with their child when they experienced the loss. I’m sure these pictures are very meaningful and thank you again.

[@elizanimiranda4599]

Can you do a video about all the rumors that aren't true about epidural, labor, delivery, postpartum, induction, c-section etc.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Love this idea! Definitely going to do it!

[@marshamilke9093]

THANK YOU!!! I feel like October gets taken over by breast cancer awareness, a lot. I had four miscarriages, lost five babies altogether, and my wife and I are still trying to get our first healthy baby. ♥️♥️♥️💙💙

[@katiesims1710]

I’m trying to get pregnant again, after recently suffering a miscarriage. Your videos are such a great learning experience for me! I love them so much. Thank you for the information, I’m hoping that I’m able to use this knowledge someday.

[@Trinabiss97]

Katie Sims Sending you love and baby dust as you try to conceive your rainbow baby. Ttc after miscarriages can be scary and emotional, but so so worth it (I had two miscarriages prior to having my daughter and then two more before conceiving my current pregnancy.) Thinking of you and your baby this October and sending so much love to you💗💙

[@britlynstrauss5777]

Katie Sims stay positive. We’re on number 4 and can just pray everyday we finally get blessed with a surviving child. Sending you all the baby dust and well wishes!!

[@Niccy26]

Lots of love to all of you that have experienced a loss. Your strength astounds me x

[@nicolenewton9858]

I lost my first baby at 7 weeks back in October. I appreciate the love and kindness for what you did for that organization. Its been pretty hard but now I'm 15 weeks pregnant with a baby girl.

[@tanyabarry5879]

My thoughts go out to all the mamas and dads that have gone through this loss ❤️ I am due now with my second but today my thoughts are with you 💕

[@ashleybaker2764]

I couldn’t love this channel anymore ❤️ I have some catching up to do because we just recently had a loss at 11 weeks 4 days but I think I’m starting to get to that “I’m ok” stage doctor says everything looks good and that we’re good to go so we’re hoping to start ttc next cycle please send all your best baby dust ☺️ virtual hugs to all mommies 🥰❤️❤️

[@Nurse_zabe]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you lot and lots of baby dust. 💗

[@britney5788]

Just had my baby boy a couple of days ago and I’m tuning in now to thank you for all the helpful information, inspiration, and encouragement your videos have given me. So thank you so so much for continuing your videos and specifically for this video to spread love and awareness. 💙

[@neb-roqket8739]

Thank you for the intro love! Ill be giving birth soon and as someone who lost before it makes me happy to carry my angel baby and my soon to be rainbow baby this month!

[@tayberjk2559]

Thank you for bringing light to pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. I feel like this is still such a taboo subject. I honestly had no idea how many women suffer from miscarriage until I had one myself.

[@jennileemills7254]

Thank you for acknowledging infant loss and miscarriage. It’s so important for women to talk about so they don’t feel so alone. I had a miscarriage earlier this year and am halfway through my pregnancy, so being able to talk through my worries with loved ones has lessened my anxiety. You’re not alone ladies; so share your stories if you can when you’re comfortable, you’ll feel so much better and you’re truly helping other women through their own pain x

[@vivianacora8724]

So sweet of you to donate to this noble cause

[@Trinabiss97]

Thank you so much for acknowledging Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. I’ve had four miscarriages and it’s still such a taboo subject even though so so many women go through it💗💙

[@mariahgina1224]

Just checked my hospital c-section rate 12%. That makes me feel good. Thank you I would have never thought to question that.

[@akc51385]

Thank you for making this video and bringing awareness to infant/miscarriage loss. When I was pregnant with my first, we were told at 19 weeks our son would not make it after being born. He had a rare kidney disorder called Bilateral Multicystic Displastic Kidney. He was taken at 37 weeks due to complications and survived 30 minutes. We were suppose to have a photographer come out to take pictures but they couldnt. luckily we had great nurses who took some for us.

[@texasmomma9180]

I’m 16 weeks today. My husband and I found out early that we are expecting. You’re videos are very helpful. Thank you 😊

[@Deseonfire]

Thank you for acknowledging October loss awareness

[@kaci406]

I was not emotionally ready for the beginning of this video 😭😭 my love goes out to all the mommas and daddies of angels ❤❤

[@jellybeankisser]

I HATE long videos, but no matter what length your video is, I am always sad to see it come to an end😊🙏🏽💗 You have such a nice, warm, welcoming personality and your videos are so so helpful. Thank you for making these videos for us mama's of every kind and phase of parenting.

[@TailerAnn]

So thankful I found your videos right around the same time I got pregnant. Gotta love when family trys telling you exactly how things are and that you have zero control over your body during labour and delivery. It is very reassuring watching your videos.

[@nomissgutierrez9218]

I am currently pregnant with my first baby and i love watching your videos. I feel so much more educated especially since i am a young mom.

[@annaharral6785]

37 weeks and experiencing preeclampsia 😖 so scared but trying to stay strong for all the mamas out there who have gone through it, too! Stay strong mamas! 💜

[@TheTruthSeekerMe]

Wow I never would have thought of asking about the c section rate. The site you shared is so cool, I found the c section rate to be 25.6% at my hospital. Sounds quite high to me but compared to other hospitals in my area, it’s actually the lowest 😯 Thank you so much for making these videos, finally I found a relevant channel by a person who actually knows what they’re talking about 😄

[@britlynstrauss5777]

We lost our daughter Bristol to PPROM last May at 21 weeks, and had two subsequent miscarriages after and hearing that our Nurse Heidi probably carries a piece of us with her truly made me break down. I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant and stumbled onto your video and truly thank you for being so kind. I really needed to hear that and didn’t even know it. I’m so sorry for your loss and thank you for spreading awareness.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Aw, mama I am so sorry for your loss of Bristol. Praying and hoping that this pregnancy goes smoothly for you and you will hold your beautiful rainbow baby in your arms. 💗

[@els3823]

I lost my first pregnancy at 12 weeks and my third pregnancy at 7 weeks. I'm now so blessed to be a mommy to 3 beautiful girls (7, 4, and 6 months).Thanks for acknowledging an unthinkable loss/pain

[@livinglifechronically9365]

20 weeks 1 day pregnant with my first love your videos

[@Unseeliefox]

Thank you so so much for acknowledging pregnancy and infant loss. As a pregnant mom to an angel who was born at 34 weeks and 5 days with hydrops fetalis, I can both empathize with moms who have not suffered loss and become nervous around this time, and believe in the importance of awareness of advocacy for our community. Being made to suffer in silence for other people's comfort is not humane so it means a lot for you to speak up, and my heart goes out for you as well for your angel!

[@Nurse_zabe]

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. You should never have to suffer in silence for other people’s comfort. Praying for a beautiful VBAC delivery for you in March! 🌈 💗

[@katlyncabrera4098]

I have watched your channel for over a year now during my first pregnancy that ended in my babygirl becoming an angel at full term because of a cord accident and now I watch through our rainbow pregnancy with our second babygirl I am currently 23 weeks pregnant and I just want to thank you so so much for acknowledging us angel mamas and for touching on this topic! I absolutely love your channel and always get super excited when you post! Thanks so much for all you do! 💗🌈

[@Nurse_zabe]

Oh, mama. I am so sorry for the loss of you sweet baby girl. Hoping this pregnancy goes smoothly for both you and you baby, and you get to hold your beautiful rainbow baby in your arms in a few short months. 💗

[@jordzhi7084]

I’m having my first baby in March and have just discovered your channel. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge it makes me feel a lot less scared about all the big changes coming up 😁💕 #bindgewatching

[@AbstractlyDelen]

I love this channel. I haven’t had a baby, and it’ll be a few years before I do, but I love to learn everything I can so when the time comes I’ll know what questions to ask and what to do. Thank you for taking the time to educate us!!

[@kaitlynblagg6020]

I'll be 30 weeks pregnant the day after Christmas i love watching your videos

[@amberclippard8966]

That is so precious of you to donate ❤️

[@kimiarossi6]

Thank you for ALL of your videos!! I’m an expectant mother & your videos are amazingly helpful!! You have such a peaceful gentle speaking voice, amazing vocabulary & unwavering empathy & consideration 💗

[@kimiarossi6]

May I add - this is my 3rd pregnancy - I was 20 & 22 when I had my first daughters and now I’m 39 with a wonderful “surprise” third daughter on the way! I feel like I’ve forgotten SOOOOOO much since my first times AND my older age brings me additional worries and I’m obsessed with ALL of your videos!

[@amyhogue9087]

Thank you for talking about pregnancy and infant loss Awareness. No one ever wants too and for the longest time I honestly thought I was alone and almost felt ashamed that it happened to me. I lost my sweet Myles james at 7 more pregnant and became I was a young mother 24 I wasn't treated so kind. But now I know it wasn't my fault and that I'm not alone.

[@Nurse_zabe]

💗💗💗

[@nenahawes2685]

I’m not pregnant and I don’t have children yet, but I like your videos. You give me a lot of useful information for when I do. Thank you.

[@ChokeOnaCookiex3]

I’ll be 23 next month and I’m pregnant with my first nugget, 12 weeks and 1 day today actually. I’m super excited but also super scared. Your videos have been really informative and I’ve been binge watching all day, thank you for your content. 🧡

[@Nurse_zabe]

Ashley Garcia thank you for watching! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

[@ChokeOnaCookiex3]

Nurse Zabe thank youuu 🧡

[@danacasal4285]

I just want to take a second to thank you for being such an amazing person and taking the time to make videos. I am currently pregnant with my second baby and I wish I would have had your videos with my first. You are truly helping moms!

[@sandfleababe8908]

I was a volunteer photographer and retouch artist for NILMDTS myself for years! Unfortunately, I was called to shoot for a fellow photographer who actually was the one who brought me into the volunteer organization ❤ Its a blessing for me as the photographer to be allowed into such a personal and vulnerable situation of a stranger. I highly recommend donating to this organization!!!

[@AudreyNguyenVlogs]

Love the re-branding!

[@Oddsocks99]

That's interesting about the nursery. I'm in the UK, and nowhere has a nursery. I had a very difficult delivery, and was in high dependency afterwards. Midwives lifted the baby for me, passed him to me for feeding and cuddles, dressed and changed him for me, but always in the same room as me. They were amazing.

[@emilylaurenjohnson]

My baby is due in February (it’s my first one) and this was super helpful! Love watching your videos 😊

[@rhiannabrard8121]

You’re so inspirational. Thank you for being an amazing nurse and always doing the most for your patients. You make me want to be a nurse someday

[@jackiesinger9932]

I'm so glad I found your channel. I'm 27 weeks pregnant with baby #3, it started as twins but we lost one around 8-9 weeks. Would you be willing to do a video on pregnancy and MAT, like a NAS education type video. I feel like so many people (myself included) are so uneducated when it comes to MAT and NAS and as someone who is going through this for the first time, its terrifying and we just want to do what's best for our babies and ourselves. I can understand if you don't want to do a video on such a controversial topic, but I'd love to hear a nurses input and tips on the matter 💜

[@ajmeeks7191]

Glad I chose the hospital I did... 😳 one of the two in town refused to report their numbers for the website you provided.

[@debraespinoza3462]

Thank you for these! I'm 5.5 mos and looking into birthing classes now. I'm definitely that girl that asks a million questions. Thank you for giving me a list! You're the best!

[@amylynn524]

Thank you for your compassionate intro. Fetal and infant loss needs to be talked about more so that women and their partners feel comfortable talking about it and getting support from their family and friends. As a postpartum nurse I also agree on your feelings about the well baby nursery for baby friendly hospitals 😉 Everyone benefits from a 2 hour power nap when you have reached complete exhaustion and are in the thick of cluster feeds on night 2

[@cherrypico3188]

Hi nurse Zabe! I am crazy about your videos and I am loving and benefiting from all your videos on a regular basis, thank you so much for doing what you do. I would like to request a video of "Things your labor nurse wants DAD to know", if you think you could do that. Keep up the great work! 💙

[@meg61288]

♡ Such a wonderful cause to donate to. Thank you for spreading awareness! ♡

[@amandab6034]

Megan Myer agreed!

[@krosa2471]

Such a fantastic video. I learned about you from Emily Noel here on YT. My brother is an ICU/ER nurse. I believe it is a calling to be a nurse esp any specialty nursing like labor/icu/er/cancer... I'm not a mom, and I had a complete hysterectomy at age 37. But I still love watching pregnancy videos. Love your channel.

[@aria_ish119]

the health system in Jamaica is a little different but currently 13 weeks and 2 days and enjoying all your knowledge

[@lizmoore852]

I truly appreciate your genuine love & respect ♥️♥️♥️

[@Leah-lw2tj]

This has been an eye opener. I know about the hospital I’m going to has a max of 4 visitors and the main support person is in charge of rotating each visitor out one at a time. Everything else I’m gonna have to ask my midwife.

[@amandab6034]

Good info... this is the great short list of things to know about what your options are so you are empowered to have birth as close to your wishes as possible

[@chocobear7851]

Hi Nurse Zabe, I commented on another video when I was 14 weeks or so. Just wanted to say hello and I turned 30 weeks this week! I am still watching your videos 😊 we are doing well, and it's a boy!!💙

[@Nurse_zabe]

Congrats on being in the home stretch and finding out your having a boy. Boys are so, so sweet! Thanks for watching!

[@jenayayounger5909]

I was so happy asking my Obgyn if I decided to get an epidural if I had to push on my back, and she told me their hospital policy is no pushing on your back.

[@MrsWill-wd3mb]

This is such a great video. The hospital where I delivered my son had a high rate but my delivering doctor still tried everything he could before going to a c section. It did have an entire IBCLC unit so at least one was on the floor during work hours and all nurses had extra training. The hospital I'm looking into for when #2 comes along is VBAC friendly and has nitrous oxide which are huge factors for me. They also are friendly for midwives, doulas, etc.

[@mtb337]

Thank you Zabe ❤ Pregnancy & Infant Loss really does happen to so many.

[@maryugh5744]

Love your videos ❤️ can you make a video on circumcision for baby boys I’m so lost on the subject and I am having one very soon and would like to know if you have any knowledge on that 🙏 please and thank you for all the info 🤗

[@victoriarussell4745]

"what your labor nurse wants you to know about circumcision" that's a great idea.

[@ojiverdeconfleco]

As someone who lives in a part of the world where circumcision is not at all common, I can tell you that it is an unnecessary procedure and absolutely nothing changes regarding quality of life for the child/man. Actually, the foreskin is there for a good reason: to protect the gland. Just learn how to retract it a bit for cleaning when they are older.

[@victoriarussell4745]

@@ojiverdeconfleco I'd love to hear both sides, just out of curiosity. That is great information though. Thank you!

[@lwouldsetmyselfonfireforyou]

I have a perfect video for you! kzbin.info/www/bejne/fHTYqmRsaNiliMU I promise you it’s worth the watch.

[@LadyBlush]

@@ojiverdeconfleco I agree! Completely unnecessary :(

[@marybreen1530]

Thank you for providing so much helpful information! It’s so nice to hear it from a nurse 💜

[@soph7676]

I wish I had known these things when I had my first born, my 6yr old son. I was rushed into an emergency c-section & had many complications, too much air was pushed into his lungs & his right lung was punctured & he had to resuscitated, among other issues. My son was rushed to a NICU about an hour away & I was unable to be transported with him, so we were separated the 1st week of his life & he spent 28 days in the NICU

[@AnnaRvlogs]

The hospital I delivered at was a ta women's Pavillion where it is attached to the main hospital but it is in its own building with its own entrance you go through. Also, they do not have a nursery for little ones to go in so the babies do roam with you in your room. My little one was born almost a month early with my water breaking at home so after birth, he was whisked away to NICU. But after some time of recovering in my delivery room right before settling into my recovery room I was able to do an hour skin to skin in the nicu. It was a hard time but I got through it and now we make up for it all the time just bonding and kissing all the time. A healthy 21 month old boy.

[@raeanna451]

And looked up both the hospitals in my area that I can deliver at on LeapFrog group and they both declined to respond to the rate of cesarean sections. That makes me feel great....

[@gabbriellaschwarz5452]

Same here! I'm so nervous now. The hospital 35 minutes away has a 26% so if when I call the hospital 5 minutes away and they refuse to tell me the rate... I'm just gonna make my husband drive us a half hour. Stupid of them to not disclose something so important.

[@alyssaward1298]

Love the donation idea for this month! Thanks for the video 💕

[@beba7672]

Awesome video! I went to LeapFrog and apparently all of my local hospitals declined to report. Not sure if that should be concerning or not 🙁

[@user-fv3cp6ce4v]

First of all-- I LOVE your videos! You are amazing and I wish you could be my l and d nurse! I have to say, though, that the information on how to "choose" a hospital doesn't apply to everyone. For many of us in the US we don't have any options. We have to go to the hospital that our insurance allows us to go to. For me that is a very small rural hospital with poor care, a bad reputation, and a history of disciplinary action against many of the doctors and nurses who practice there. My own OB is great, and if he is the doctor on call I will be very comfortable there. I'd just like to point out that choosing the best available healthcare is not an option for many of us. My only recommendation is to have a bulldog of a support person to stand up for you. I absolutely adore Nurse Zabe (and the new name!) and I wish all l and d nurses were like you!

[@Nurse_zabe]

Ugh, that is so frustrating about not being able to choose. Insurance sucks. Agree about having a great support person! Thanks so much for watching!

[@thebrowncountertop]

Can you please do a video on membrane sweeps?!?!! I’m having mine done next Friday and the information out there from professionals seems to be super limited.

[@sophiapilchr9342]

ur videos are so wholesome and lovely and even me who’s no where near pregnancy i really appreciate everything you do and say ❤️🥰

[@beautywearsboots6458]

Can you please do a video discussing the different options for pain control?

[@nitole12]

Can you do a 10 things about induction? 😊

[@Nurse_zabe]

Yes! This one is a big video since there are so many different ways and policies in different hospitals. Trying to make things as general as possible

[@erikaburbaite9910]

I had a miscarriage one year ago and now few weeks ago I had a stillborn of my baby girl Abigail xxx

[@Niccy26]

I'm so sorry xxx

[@erikaburbaite9910]

@@Niccy26 it's the hardest thing what's happened to me and everything what I want is just my baby xxx

[@Niccy26]

@@erikaburbaite9910 I can't imagine how you feel. Make sure you keep talking, don't suffer alone. Lots of love

[@erikaburbaite9910]

@@Niccy26 Thank you very much x

[@kiarra.o]

Hello. Can you make a video on your experience becoming a labor and delivery nurse? How you chose your field, what school(s) you went to, the credentials, etc... Thank you!

[@MamaD_and_Family]

Thanks for this video! I'm switching to a new doctor and hospital and going on my hospital labor/delivery tour in a couple weeks and it's nice to have some ideas what to ask!!

[@staceyplaysthebassey]

Smart move on changing your channel name! You have excellent content, and I think this will help draw more people to it.

[@katebrotherton2946]

You always have such great advice! Thank you

[@alishajennings2013]

Your intro made me tear up. I have lost 3 babies but all in the 1st trimester. I had some terrible bleeding with my 1st in 2014 and had to go to the ER for an injection to slow the bleeding. But the ultrasound tech was so nice. She gave me a new gown and helped me clean up and put a new sheet on the bed. I kept apologizing bc I was bleeding everywhere during the ultrasound and I felt bad that she had to clean it up. But she was so incredibly nice and sweet. I know I made my er nurse uncomfortable bc she was very obviously pregnant and I know she was trying to be considerate of me and my feelings. I feel bad that she was uncomfortable, I wish she could've read my mind and known that I was happy for her and not upset by her being pregnant at all. My other miscarriage was in December 2018 and my 3rd was actually a couple of months ago. I am 18 weeks pregnant with a little boy but I was pregnant with identical twin boys and lost one in the first trimester. My best friend was 18 weeks pregnant when she delivered her daughter who had passed away at 15 weeks. The hospital cremated all the babies and the parents could either get the ashes back or if they chose not to then the hospital has an angel in the local cemetery where they spread the ashes. I am a nurse and I used to want to be an l&d nurse bc most of the time it's pretty happy. But I have a soft spot for all children and I'm not sure I would be a good nurse during the hard times. I'd prob cry just as much or more than the parents. But at least I know my limitations.

[@Nurse_zabe]

LifeAsA Jennings I am so sorry for your losses, but thankful you had such a wonderful caretaking in the ultrasound tech. Praying for a healthy delivery of your rainbow baby 💗🌈

[@trinalenay3525]

i wish i had asked/known some of these things before picking my OB/where i deliver. i love my doctors and i trust them but this is good information. i especially wish i had known to ask about the NICU level.

[@whitneynicoleleonard6204]

I was just curious on how you become a labor and delivery nurse? how much school what all did you have to do to become one basically? maybe ypu can do a video on it!

[@Nurse_zabe]

WhitneyNicole Leonard620 that one is on the works, I promise!

[@ByAvrilRayne]

We delivered at a baby friendly hospital and it was terrible. I didn’t feel I was getting her enough milk trying to breastfeed. They refused to allow me to give her formula and tried to guilt me for even talking about it. Turns out she can’t get a good latch because of my cursed tiny nipples and was not getting enough. Definitely will be doing it different with baby number 2

[@clothyoriginal]

Having 3 people in the room sounds amazing! Where I'm from we're only allowed 1 so thats obviously usually your husband or partner so we can't have doulas present 😟 though on the other hand I could see my mother in law trying to fight her way in and I wouldn't be comfortable with that, I also wouldn't be comfortable telling her to get out either. We also don't have nurseries anymore unless there is something wrong. I feel terrible for the ones who've had a c section, their husbands are gone home (dads can't stay at night) and they're left with this little baby to care for when they can't even move. I've seen some nice midwives though take them into the office for a few hours and care for them if they aren't too busy. It's always interesting seeing the differences in countries, some I prefer here others I don't. The biggest one being nowhere for the dads to stay, our hospitals were all built in the time of birth being a woman only thing and the men waited downstairs so the rooms are pretty small.

[@Legal.Knievel]

My hospital was 1 person, regardless of vaginal or c-section (but 0 for me, since I had to go under general anesthesia) and a limit of 2 (plus your partner) in postpartum.

[@magickaldust1213]

Love the new channel name and I think it's amazing you are making a donation 🧡

[@erinistheawesomest]

In some birth and delivery videos I've seen on youtube, the hospital doesn't allow the labouring mother to eat while there so maybe also ask about that.

[@evaelfje1]

Really appreciate your videos. Watching from the Netherlands.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Thanks for watching!

[@edoremus01]

On the flip side of the support person limit, moms can ask medical staff to turn away visitors if you only want one person...

[@odeliahirshberg6705]

Love your channel! maybe you can make a similar video about what a twin mama should ask? :)

[@momtoanangelboytwinsdogsan1731]

Rip angel babies. I myself had three miscarriages. Now i have 3 IVF children. My first born son is almost 2 and my boy/girl twins are 3 weeks old. It was a long journey to get my rainbow 🌈 babies. But with god anything is possible.

[@agallups]

I lost my first baby October 11 last year in my first trimester. Tiny or otherwise that baby means the world to me. I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy due December 3rd. I am both ecstatic and terrified simultaneously.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Mama, I am so sorry for your loss. Hoping for a smooth and easy delivery for you and your sweet boy. It's normal to be terrified of new things, but I promise you got this! 💗

[@agallups]

@@Nurse_zabe Thank you so much! I am so happy I found your videos. I know I am delivering at the best hospital in GA and I am confident my L&D nurses will be as compassionate as you are.

[@raybaby5810]

My husband and his first baby momma had a still birth he gets so worried when we get close to dilivory with our kids it's really hard on him and she is very much here to him and his family acts like she never existed just because she never took a breath