Amberlynn Reid You Don't Have to Die Fat

[@Cardioqueenmom]

“You can slip, but don’t slide” Is one of the best pieces of advice I got over my 135lb weightloss journey. I’ve kept it off for 3 years now thanks to it 😊

[@torreybonington2270]

This! I learned the hard way it's a lot easier to lose an extra five pounds than it is to lose an extra 170!

[@momomomo__]

it's such great advice. I've struggled with self harm and switching to that mentality helped a lot. I won't get into details, but my problem was that it wasn't with suicidal intent, I used it to numb my feelings and fuel my self hatred. i was aware of what I was doing and its consequences, so whenever I relapsed, it affirmed that i was this foul rotten person. it made me hate myself even more, increasing my need self harm. it felt addictive in a way and it created this horrible cycle I couldn't leave, because the all or nothing mentality makes you feel like a lost cause when you slip up. the mentality you're describing is what saved me I think. it keeps you accountable while also not pushing you into a cycle of self hatred that makes your problem worse. congrats on the weight loss btw, glad you're keeping it!

[@cierralowery7096]

All or nothing thinking is a common cognitive distortion. I think CBT talk therapy would be beneficial for her.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

Yep. Weight loss is not linear. It’s a trend line that goes up and down, with the long term goal being a downward trend over time. 📉

[@guardiansanimalrescuestate7289]

She can’t afford to slip either love from Kentucky Lesley and medical Service Dog Jake.

[@Sageddegas]

“I have tried everything under the sun” except be consistent

[@okaycola2]

As other people have stated, one must try something for longer than 24 hrs!!!!

[@19airaz]

Yeah, she's incredibly inconsistent.

[@Rubenesquebody]

She slips and she doesn’t come back. And that’s her main issue. She doesn’t get back on track, she falls into binge eating marathons instead

[@kelsotalkspodcast]

Yup everything except staying disciplined

[@MelancolieRen]

Can't afford the $1k a month on ozempic because it would cut into the $3k a month she needs for UberEATS 😮‍💨

[@luisataylor8089]

I thought this too

[@divatesteddivaapproved]

She seemed to be doing well on the Ozempic, too. And then she quit because of fear of gallstones? Or something that probably happens to 1 in 5,000 people. She loves the attention, it's a high for her. And it brings in money because people tune in to see what diet she is trying this week and how quickly she will say "This doesn't work." It's so predictable.

[@limlimainoue1131]

Since the Tammy Slaton transformation, i am adamant: no one is hopeless and doomed to stay obese.

[@felixthecat2786]

I am so proud of Tammy. I agree that no one is doomed to stay obese

[@Toastie19]

Same

[@itsjolly3581]

Tammy lost the weight after she got off the show and off social media that is probably what Amber needs.

[@kelsotalkspodcast]

SO TRUE

[@LimitLessLindy]

“I was just existing”… i resonate with this so much! I tried every diet, lap band surgery failure. 750+ lbs on my 50th birthday, one foot in the grave, feared my daughters would have no mother. That was my WHY! Down to 270 lbs and still going. I too had severe lipedema and Lympadema. It’s hard, but it can be managed by diet. I hope she can find her way… Xx

[@Xxxxxx19-p1c]

You are awesome!

[@Themelanger]

Hey, great work! Its hard to change your life around like that, but its worth it. You got this❤

[@moonshinedown2]

i wish my mother was like you. she's killing herself. she's 350+ pounds, completely sedentary (in a day she will walk to the bathroom, then to her chair once or twice. and nothing else.) she doesn't work, has 0 friends, and never leaves the house. the last time she left the house was for me to take her to the dentist 9 months ago. she almost exclusively eats takeout or pre-prepared frozen food. she has asthma and has hacking coughs constantly the entire day and through the night. last time she went to the doctor she was pre-diabetic and i'm shocked she's not fully diabetic. she had melanoma that i had to beg her to get removed and force her to go to the doctor for, she is lucky it didn't spread to other parts of her body. she was and still is a terrible parent and i resent her in many ways but i don't want her to kill herself. but i can't control her i have been on my own health journey for a while now. i want to be nothing like her. it is reassuring to see people that care enough about themselves and their kids to change their life like you. thank you

[@LimitLessLindy]

@@moonshinedown2 I am sorry to hear about your mum and understand how powerless you must feel. I do share my story in the hope I can inspire others who are lost that it’s not too late. I hope your mum can find her way soon Xx

[@AprilTheRockStar]

She knows that people don't mean eating an entire box of Hamburger Helper is a better choice because it's made at home, but we have to quibble over semantics to make yet another excuse for her to get takeout. THAT is what's so frustrating. She puts in more effort to not do the work than it would take to just do the freaking work.

[@glittery_cucumber]

She really does sound like an alcoholic... "Other people can have a couple drinks on Friday, so I should be able to as well!" In her mind, getting takeout is a normal part of life for everyone so she should be able to do it, too.

[@yamiasantana7531]

literally!!!

[@supererikman5331]

@@glittery_cucumber she doesnt understand that yes fit people may order take out or eat out but they dont do it as much as her and they dont eat the whole plate when they do.

[@grrt722]

Just like weight waychers does work for her because she eats all of her daily calories from her highest weight, and goes over the extra weekly calories...

[@CherrrrBear]

100%

[@olivialarson7716]

She doesn’t want to be uncomfortable. That’s what weight loss is, missing out on the fun outings and drinks and good food (not always but cutting back on eating out everyday). It sucks but it has to be more normal to not be able to do all those fun things if you truly want to lose weight.

[@thecrapartistx]

let's not forget that if you withhold self gratification it's more fulfilling when you get the reward in the end.

[@Rubenesquebody]

100%. Plus the truth that people not like to hear- you will be hungry. During weightloss there are moments when you will be hungry; when you need to shrink your stomach, stay within your calorie limit and it is fully uncomfortable. Ofc there are low calorie ways to keep you going, drinking loads of water, eating some low calorie foods or fruits etc but it doesn’t change the fact that it is uncomfortable. And it’s something one has to deal with if their goal is weightloss and I don’t think she is able to comprehend it

[@OpalLeigh]

“She doesn’t want to be uncomfortable” is the best summary of Amber’s weight issues I’ve ever seen. It’s her biggest coping mechanism, and when you lose that, you need something else to sooth you. There are healthy coping mechanisms out there, but she has to find what works for her and in the gap between “not binging” and “finding something new”, she would be uncomfortable.

[@mordecaiissad8529]

I think that's somewhat uncharitable. I'm pretty sure she's damn near constantly uncomfortable, miserable even. At that mental point removing the one thing that gives you some relief is gonna be difficult as hell. Believing that it's possible to find other things to give you relief would be difficult in itself. It's a big reason why k believe she had little to no change of changing without in patient for years now. She's way too miserable and uncomfortable to add another thing that will make you feel your feelings and more uncomfortable on her own.

[@Xxxxxx19-p1c]

Exactly!!!

[@LifeAfterLosing]

I mean, she is not ready. I don’t see it. There is no fire, no anger, no drive. Those are the things you need to be successful long term.

[@nunya5057]

i agree she’s not ready and doesn’t want it bad enough. she keeps making all these “goals” but i can tell she’s comfortable where she is. i think at this stage only if she was given a diagnosis of “you’re gonna die in a month” will she change. she needs to be terrified unfortunately.

[@LifeAfterLosing]

@@nunya5057 something needs to snap in your brain. It’s hard to explain and if I could I would tell everyone how to do it. But there is a fire that starts and that fire is what keeps you going. You get addicted to it and then you start feeling good and looking good and it gets stronger.

[@nunya5057]

@@LifeAfterLosing i have experienced this snap too after binge eating for years. it’s interesting it hasn’t happened for her yet.

[@mordecaiissad8529]

​@@nunya5057I would appreciate your opinion on this. I think the "snap" never happens out of "bad" feelings, like fear. You don't really change out of fear, you change out of what you see on the other side, a different way. I experienced a snap with my anxiety. Now, I'm also prone to depression so I'm curious. I found out I was having high blood pressure because of my anxiety. It wasn't fear, or a health scare that got me. It was looking at it and kind of deciding this is not what's gonna take me out. Refusing to have this be the thing that gives me a heart attack or whatever. At the time I was having issues with my neighbours (nothing really serious) but it was sending my anxiety to the moon. I refused to have something like that to put me in a hospital. It didn't fix my anxiety magically, but it definitely gave it a good kick.

[@EpicHelios83]

No, when she said "...I hate food..." I felt that. It's not the food itself, though. It's the power food has over her. The addiction. It's literally like a drug addiction, and I'm dealing with that personally. The food is filling some sort of emotional or mental void. But I don't know if she's making real efforts to fix the problem. For myself, I'm starting Ozempic tomorrow morning. Also, I want to start therapy for my eating disorder, but I'm in the process of trying to see if my insurance will cover it. I was already shocked they approved the Ozempic. I know I have a lot of emotional issues making me overeat, stemming from my mom dying at a young age a few years ago, loosing a friend to self deletion, dealing with a leg injury that caused me to loose my job that I was at for almost 15 yrs. All of that happened within a 5 year period, so I know the stress is making me use food for comfort. I just need to find the right tools to help me NOT do that anymore. But back to Amberlynn, she's really gotta WANT to change and not sure if she tried therapy, but it might make a huge difference. I'm definitely doing it ASAP and she should too.

[@okaycola2]

Congratulations!! Happy birthday to mweeee

[@LifeAfterLosing]

Congrats man. I can tell by your post that you have it in you to beat this. If you ever need motivation or to vent, let me know!

[@hj7947]

I don’t know you-but I believe you are stronger than this challenge. A person doesn’t go through things as rough as you have without developing the strength to push through. You’ve done the hardest part-you sought answers and help. You saw a problem-acknowledged it and your part in it-and are now actively changing it. Good. On. You. I’m someone that lost 75ish pounds way back in 2016 and kept it off-if I can do it, I know that you can. I hope you can find coverage with regards to therapy. (No pressure, but if you mention gender/area, I’m happy to do some digging to find free or reduced cost options. I’ve got a bunch of resources for veterans regardless of location, and I’m happy to look for civilian-specific ones.) 🌸

[@Lilbitatatime]

Wow, what a climb you've had. I like to think the prize at the top of the mountain is the dedication you finally start giving yourself. Once you get there it's all down hill. The only thing it comes down then is, will I strap on my skates or wear "the wrong shoes". So congrats on all of it!!!! ✌🏻I love you.

[@janie567]

Thank you for sharing your story, i hope you get to where you need to be 🙏

[@native_saiyan]

I remember saying that same thing from the intro. At the very beginning of my fitness and wellness journey. "I dont want to D*e in my bed. Or even yet I don't want to D*e at young age." For reference. I was 674 lbs and bed bound. I am currently 451 lbs. I am living best life I can at my weight. Still losing weight. I'll get where I want. In time.

[@okaycola2]

Keep going!! You got this

[@jasonhsu4711]

Congratulations on losing 223 pounds! You didn't lose the weight of a small child. You lost the weight of a big, heavy man!

[@texaslyfer]

Slay queen

[@MyNameHere101]

Why do people think they need to censor in the KZbin comment section? Look: die, boobs, penis, sex, ass, damn, fuck. This isn't tiktok 😅

[@nude_cat_ellie7417]

So much progress already. I’m confident you will continue to improve, year over year.

[@ExtraHecticana]

She's truly delusional.... she really thinks she's "tried" everything.... to try something you need to give it more than 1 day

[@AF-gd7fh]

She can't stick to it BC of her addiction. That's not really her fault. She should get wls

[@inkyberries6455]

​@@AF-gd7fh If she can't stop eating bc of her addiction, shes not going to stop after wls.

[@taylorhillard4868]

​@@AF-gd7fh the solution to addiction is not to get a surgery that doesn't do anything to treat addiction, lol. Yes, she has food addiction. She needs to learn how to deal with that and break the cycle. WLS does nothing to help with that. In fact, it's actually kind of a requirement that you break food addiction in order to qualify for wls, otherwise you'll just end up with a post surgery rupture and end up in the emergency room. WLS can help deal with hunger. Food addiction has nothing to do with hunger. She eats because it's comfort, entertainment, a distraction. Just like any other addiction when you try to break away from it you are purposefully making yourself uncomfortable and denying yourself the thing that you'd normally fall on to get that comfort back. She needs therapy to develop proper coping mechanisms to help her when she can't use her dr*g of choice to comfort her. Wls doesn't help with any of that.

[@PennyLynnBettorf]

She needs inpatient treatment. It's the only thing that is going to save her life

[@AF-gd7fh]

@@inkyberries6455 wls makes you stop. Millions of people with addictions have been successful. It also takes away your hunger hormone and at her size she will get the bypass which means malabsorption, so she can eat a larger number of calories and not gain weight.

[@thatblerdoverthereb9654]

Honestly a whole box of Hamburger helper made with 1lb of%90 lean beef, is probably 2k calories, but it's a lot of food. It will keep her full for hours, vs ordering 3-5 takeout meals a day probably about 10k calories.

[@ximar0ckstrx]

Her stomach is so stretched beyond that of a normal human. It wouldn't keep her full. But at her weight, she can eat 3000 calories a day and lose significant weight.

[@HelloNewMoon]

Any excuse. Any. She’ll eat hungry or not. Shes addicted to the life she leads of gluttony, laziness and greed. She cant stop eating whatever she wants, sleeping whenever she wants or buying whatever she wants. She will fight against anything that takes those elements away from her

[@yhdessayhtena]

​@@ximar0ckstrx High volume foods are the key. She could eat a huge amount of veggies but sadly she'd rather have anything else

[@boosqueezy2418]

alcohol is full of calories. she needs to stop drinking entirely.

[@akemifoxx2115]

Plus, it mess really bad her metabolism

[@ximar0ckstrx]

Exactly this. My sister and I both had WLS. I was able to lose the weight I needed and keep it off (so far) but my sister wasn't, despite having the surgery and a revision done. Why? Because she drinks. Every. Damn. Day. She would barely eat, but would drink an entire bottle of liquor. That was the difference. I actually feel like I eat a lot and she complains that it's not fair that I eat more than her but I still lost the weight and she didn't. But she drinks like a fish.

[@glittery_cucumber]

Not just the alcohol, but she prefers super sweet sugary cocktails that are easily 400 calories each

[@taylorbug9]

​@ximar0ckstrx has anyone called her out on it? She may be ignorant of how bad it is for her. I know that sounds dumb but some people don't know.

[@xxkitz]

@@taylorbug9They have called her out, but her excuse is, "I'm an adult and other adults drink too!!" 😒

[@Princess.McBetch]

24:30 "I never give up" except she had given up every. Single. Time. She starts these "challenges" and gets two days into them, one time she didn't even get a few hours in. She has so many people out there with the education and resources to help her, and would do it for near-free, but she just doesn't want to do it and will never do it. These temporary moments of clarity don't last long and it makes me sad, I want her to succeed. I want everyone in her position to succeed. I don't like her but if she could stop the shit and truly own up for her mistakes over the years I could see myself actually rooting for her

[@IAmContemporary]

The paradox with Amberlynn is that she takes herself too seriously without taking herself seriously enough. She treats every little thought or feeling as a fact or a sign or an excuse, when in reality it’s healthy to question yourself sometimes. And then on the other hand, she underestimates her own impact on her situation. It’s like she is simultaneously at mercy of the universe and the centre of it.

[@Nicole_cherise]

She needs to check into inpatient care there’s no other option left. Like fully give up control of everything she consumes if she wants to save her life. However ALR can’t stand losing control of her meals that’s why she quits every diet after 24 hours. The body is extremely resilient thus why she’s made it this long but I really don’t think she’s going to live to see 40. You can tell she’s rapidly becoming sicker and slower.

[@dawntodusk8903]

Shes had multiple health scares and hasnt changed, if that didnt do it nothing will

[@Miltonthemilkdud]

She hasn’t tried inpatient, she hasn’t tried weight loss surgery which she was approved for, she hasn’t stuck to a diet - she fails and throws a pity party. She should take accountability for what she’s done to be in the situation she is in and be honest with herself first. She is too comfortable blaming things other than herself for why she eats what she does when she could eat fruits and veggies all day but she doesn’t want to. She could but she doesn’t want to because if she wanted to enough she would.

[@brianawhittaker8152]

I agree with everything else you said and I don't wanna poke holes in your opinion but she was never approved for weight loss surgery. She lied about that bc she was embarrassed that they turned her away bc after her intake with the Dr they concluded that she wasn't ready to get the surgery. Her answers made it clear that she was not mentally prepared to stick to the diet that comes with it.

[@Miltonthemilkdud]

I chose to give ALR benefit of the doubt with the approval of WLS but it’s probably more likely she wasn’t approved as you said. Still to this day I think her not going through with WLS was a huge factor on why Jade/Feline left her.

[@Sageddegas]

She is just genuinely so delusional… she is not connected to reality. She contradicts herself CONSTANTLY she has NO real self awareness. “One thing about me is that I never give up” You give up CONSTANTLY Amber that’s literally the problem. You quit and start over. That’s not not giving up.

[@daver00lzd00d]

gorl you gotta say delulu like the cool 12 year olds do in lunch with HamberChyn

[@brianawhittaker8152]

@@daver00lzd00d To be fair I know some normal level headed ppl that say that lol. So it's not a character trait Amber just has no real personality so she copies everything she hears and sees that appeals to her.

[@daver00lzd00d]

@@brianawhittaker8152 anyone above the age of high schooler who seriously says "delulu" needs to grow up and get a grip. it should be embarrassing for them but they likely have no shame, like amber

[@aminamm3103]

I think it's cute John still thinks she can change.

[@x4trobin]

She has the ability to, but change happens when it’s wanted.

[@Jesse.D33]

⁠​⁠@@x4trobinthat’s what I was going to say. She can but the drama of will she or won’t she keeps her channel going for the most part but she would get a new audience if she really started changing and less hate.

[@tom1644x]

Anything is possible.

[@lisalarsen2384]

It’s a good talking point to the public

[@Dany_lop]

Honestly, lately she’s seems like she *has* changed. Not weight and habit wise, but this video is the most genuine i’ve ever heard her, and she’s been admitting her behaviors. Before she would absolutely gaslight viewers that it’s something/someone else’s fault that she gained weight. But hearing her admit her cycle was a first lol. I really think she is capable of change.

[@EmmaDeelight]

Amber is correct. It's not easy. That doesn't mean it's unachievable. After trauma, binge eating, and depression eating for 30 years, while being morbidly obese I made the decision to lose weight. I ate strictly under 1500 cal / 50g carbs daily, did 6 - 10k steps 5 times a week, and I lost 44kg. It was hard, I was hungry, and I was physically tired, but I didn't give up. I am now 42 and pregnant for the first time. My life has completely changed. I can't wait to get to my goal weight after my baby is born. If you're on the journey, stay strong and stay focused. It may take some time, but you will get there!

[@EmmaDeelight]

@mondaysjunk Thank you. This is something I am looking forward to as a parent. It took me far too long to learn how to be healthy, and it's something I can offer my bubba from day one. I hope you're having a fantastic year!!

[@laurelpowell8536]

This gives me some hope. I have had an eating disorder for 30years and am so scared I will never beat it. I am right at the top of normal weight range for my height so I don't have to lose much weight, but I have serious issues with bulimia, binging and restricting, and over exercising which all come together to make me seriously fucked up around food. I have osteoporosis and lost all my teeth, but haven't managed to get my shit together.

[@EmmaDeelight]

@laurelpowell8536 The only time your story is over is when you decide to stop trying. I didn't seek help for my issues, I just spent a long time working out why I had gotten to the place I had. Once I gained that understanding, it helped me to make the changes I needed. I felt overwhelmed, and a lot of the time, I felt like I was failing. I didn't give up, though. Celebrate your small successes and watch yourself wanting to achieve more. I wish you all the strength and courage you need to find success. Keep your chin up and keep moving forward. :)

[@yanazavgorodniy]

So true. You can’t have your cake and eat it too (at least when you’re first starting to lose weight.) I went from 250 to 135..ice cream was a huge trigger food for me. So guess what? I had to stop eating it because I knew it was one of the things that prevented me from losing weight. Now? Of course I can enjoy ice cream and it’s not on my mind 24/7. It takes a level of discipline but then there is so much freedom that comes with staying disciplined in the long run.

[@okaycola2]

📠 ice cream is a challenge for me but I feel I have mastered my cravings. Takes a LOT of effort

[@blaisenbuds5879]

@@okaycola2ice cream is a huge one for me Ben Jerry’s pint is like 1200 calories I would have one a night but that’ was stilll to much

[@jabrak1]

I'm glad she isn't delusional about health at every size. I got to told the same stuff, I was perfectly healthy, I just needed to lose weight. I quickly realized how wrong I was in college after I lost a ton of weight and seeing my life improve dramatically.

[@hairyfrankfurt]

She says she's tried everything under the sun.... No, she hasn't tried sticking to it.

[@Toastie19]

I used to say the same thing and was in Amberlynn’s position. The longest I stuck to something before was like two weeks. I have been keto for a little over two months now though so I’m glad I’ve done that.

[@filbert910]

She is literally the only thing standing in her own way

[@jok7548]

THIS!! I have recently lost a considerable amount of weight and the one thing that truly changed for me this time around was me realising that I am the only thing stopping me from achieving my goal.

[@sprig5173]

But she's thinking so clearly now! 😂

[@Ragewheel]

I see we've returned to stage 4, Manipulation, of the ALR cycle.

[@mariayoutubing]

The part about equating "living life = eating, takeout, drinking" really resonates. Before starting a consistent fitness habit, I used to think I'd be miserable because "those gym rats and healthy people never enjoy life" and I genuinely thought happiness wasn't possible without "allowing" myself to eat whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and that being fit = eating salads and being miserable. It was not until I got fitter and stronger slowly, started having new hobbies that required physical fitness (like dancing, which Amber also loves!) and having a social life that didn't revolve around food (traveling, playing with my nephews, doing sports together with a friend, go out for coffee instead of fast food, visit a bookstore with a friend) that I realized there is, indeed, so much more to life and I want to have it all...the takeout is absolutely secondary and if it stops existing, we'll be fine ❤

[@rozb554]

Well done you x

[@lisaschneider7493]

I’m 100% convinced she has created this circus not only for KZbin attention but so that either she’ll finally get on My 600 lb Life or TLC will give her a show. She does nothing to help herself and it’s all excuses. She said in the past she wouldn’t pay out of pocket for Ozempic (or similar) yet she spends a shit-ton of money on takeout multiple times a day. That was the excuse that convinced me that she does NOT want to lose weight ever, period. And would probably be ok with continuing to gain. As long as she can find someone to take care of her.

[@Sageddegas]

She claims TLC is constantly begging her to be on the show…. I think she’s delusional and a liar but that’s what she says

[@IxiaRayne]

@@Sageddegas nah the last time she mentioned it is true. There were ppl who got a message, in which they were asked for a way to contact ALR, so she’s not wrong that they think about her. I dunno tho if the reasoning for her not taking that chance / it falling through is true tho. She lied so much 🙃

[@Margatatials]

She is on her gotta make it look like I care about getting healthy to find a partner phase

[@JessBisme123]

Tlc was trying to reach out to her. At least, that's what the reaction channels were saying. They reached out to apathetic faxx and some other reaction channel to see if they knew a way to get in touch with amber to be on a new show featuring Dr. Now. But that was a few months ago. I've not heard anything since.

[@JessBisme123]

​@@IxiaRayneI don't think she'll do it because she can't control how they'll portray her, but knows it'll likely be badly. And also, idk if tlc will offer her enough money to give up her making youtube videos. She'd have to sign non disclosure agreements and it would really limit what she could do on her own channel.

[@jpelletier03]

Amber is exhausting to listen to . . .

[@trixiedoll4177]

Seriously! She talks and talks but says nothing...

[@sprig5173]

All those excuses for herself!

[@Rae_777]

“If losing weight was easy….” I know it’s controversial, but I got put on Ozempic for pancreatic insufficiency-- I was a mid-sized person, size 12; 165 lbs. I’m short, so I leveled out in the “normal” BMI range at 120 lbs. BMI is BS, but for reference. I had no interest or intention of losing weight, but obviously it happened effortlessly. I never believed in HAES necessarily, but I also didn’t think being 165 lbs was overweight or impacting my health. I can’t say I prefer the way I look thin-maybe I have to get used to it-but I feel A BILLION times better at 120 lbs, health wise, and tons of little health issues I would have thought were unrelated have resolved. I don’t have an ED, so I’m sure Ozempic is more difficult when you do, but I experienced no side effects, and didn’t try to lose weight. When I have tried to lose weight in the past, it’s been virtually impossible. She lost 16 pounds in 2 weeks on Ozempic, she can afford it, it’s BEYOND EASY. I’m so sad she won’t just use a painless resource that’s right in front of her.

[@_Mamimi]

She was on it like a year ago and lost a ton of weight, then she quit cuz her gallbladder soooooo.

[@ximar0ckstrx]

Ozempic works exactly the same for everyone. Amber took herself off Ozempic because she missed being able to binge. She would vape CBD and pop Delta 8 like they were tic-tacs to be able to binge because of how Ozempic cuts your appetite

[@ximar0ckstrx]

​@_Mamimi that was just another b.s. excuse she used.

[@uponthebay]

I u 7 ooh

[@powderandpaint14]

I do think she would be an ideal candidate for one of the weight loss medications like Ozempic. Maybe she ask needs to carry on with therapy for her BED at the same time.

[@boosqueezy2418]

it’s a matter of maturity, and she doesn’t have it

[@boosqueezy2418]

i don’t think she will ever get it together. sadly.

[@RachelReduces]

I was in tears watching this. I think ALR is still quite delulu. I think her trying to justify partying for a week goes against everything else she's talking about wanting in this video. She has to understand sacrifice and longer term patience and will power is needed. Watching her has become jarring, but it's difficult to turn away, because I truly still have hope for her. I've seen people in her situation and worse turn things around 😔

[@cuttiegrl159]

A note about cooking at home. It can help you to form better habits in the beginning even if you are eating the same calories or even more than your fast food. I've gotten this point across to my sister who would eat out for 3 meals a day 5 to 6 days a week. I am proud of her for making her frozen chicken nuggets and fries at home in the air fryer instead of running through a drive thru. ( 9 times out of 10, she'd order a burger with the nuggets at the drive thru) little by little you make healthier swaps. Frozen nuggets and fries for panko breaded nuggets to grilled chicken. Frozen fries to homemade fries to a small baked potato. While your at it, throw a bag for frozen broccoli in the microwave to keep you more full! Next thing you know, your the picture of heath. lol but seriously, that is what I did in the beginning (I used to eat out 3 to 4 times a week) and now I only feel the need to eat out once or twice a month when i'm going out with friends. I'm down 52lbs since last June! Yes it can be annoying and mentally draining to think about your weight and food every day but the way I see it, at my current size I'd have been thinking about it anyways. Think of it as studying for a test, once you pass (goal weight/healthy weight) you no longer need to study daily. Every night before bed I watch/listen to one of John's videos, a healthy grocery haul or a WIEIAD video to keep me motivated. There's nothing wrong with taking a few years to be "obsessed" with getting healthy. (the right way that is) I could go on all day but this comment is long enough. Thanks for another solid video John, much appreciated!

[@CarlosRomeroFilosofia]

Such a good advice. Small, progressive, consistent changes is where it's at!

[@auroraasleep]

I swear my way through this (*&%^&&* diet every time I go on it because it costs a lot and it takes forever to make so I can't do other things, but. BUT. It does get easier. I get into the flow of cooking an extra freezer meal, or prepping this one thing ahead, or remember that this or that is easier if I do it this other way. Small incremental changes are easy; big sudden changes are more difficult.

[@TryingNotToPanic]

She's accepted her fate. She just has to make money to keep up her addiction. Until the bitter end...

[@retired-internet-troll]

“I never give up” dawg you never really try LOL

[@nybrite46]

She is an active addict who has absolutely NO desire to recover. People please stop supporting her addiction.

[@sparklinginfinity2887]

She literally said “it’s just water weight”

[@GabbyBeyer]

The thing is, she makes such vague goals. “Make better choices”…what better choices? She has to hone in on something or else she’s never going to succeed. Just focus on one thing at a time, make sure you do it well, and then add another thing.

[@saramoffatt5987]

She says "There's so many things you can cook at home that are just as bad as take out" The thing is with cooking at home, you 100% know what's in the meal that YOU are making and YOU are 100% in control of how healthy it is.

[@XxHessxX7]

Man you are speaking facts!! She needs to take in all of the advice and knowledge that you are giving her rather than feeling attacked by it.

[@Solitaire427]

When your 54, a 30 year old guy is the young guy lol

[@auroraasleep]

Speaking as a mid-40's person, you can get away with just about any crazy thing in your 20's. Your 30's health issues start to catch up a little, but you have warning and time to turn it around hopefully. 40's are like the Wham Hammer of health problems where all those bills come due. Reflux, joint pain, heart problems, diabetes, etc. etc. all just queue up like "hi! we're here now! We're moving in and not paying rent, it'll be super special!" and then you play the med game. And if you haven't lost/gained the weight /kicked the bad whatever-it-is, all the issues come home to roost. Zero stars, do not recommend. My 50-something friends with poor health are dying or having heart attacks. It's frustrating, but yes, just keep plugging away at it.

[@Hayakoneko]

When she says 'I have tried everything' what she's really saying is 'I've tried all of the shortcuts'. It's difficult to admit to yourself that there is NO shortcut for weight loss. It's like going to university. It'll take YEARS. It can't be done in a week. She needs hobbies and to maybe learn something. She keeps eating because she's all alone in an apartment and is probably bored out of her mind. Imagine if she actually went to school or maybe learned to knit or paint. Something that takes time and would be also interesting to show off. If she became more mobile, she could go to the gym. That's even more time off from just sitting there and eating.

[@kenshinnotifani]

That was something that always bothered me when I was actively losing weight for health reasons: the people in my life would ask me what I was doing to lose weight with such excitement, then I would tell them and their excitement would just evaporate. Some even looked downright disappointed or even vaguely angry when I said "eat less, eat better, no soda, no bread, run for 30 minutes 3 to 5 times a week." It took me a while to understand (I was hurt and angry at first), but they wanted to know what my "magic pill" was. They expected me to talk about the grapefruit diet or keto or something.

[@p-h-a-n-t-o-m]

amberlynn saying she “never gives up” is rich

[@amybrown8305]

I lost 120 lbs , I rarely eat out or get delivery. It's too expensive and there are so few healthy choices. When you cook at home, you know exactly whats in your food. You set the limitations on yourself. Just because you can eat something, doesn't mean you should. I definitely feel for her situation. That was my hardest issue, believing it was unfair for others to eat what I can't. You're right, once you drop some weight, you'll realize there is so much more to life than the limited pleasure that food gives . As someone who is over 50 now, health concerns will definitely catch up with you.

[@foxlancaster4044]

First of all, good for you. 120# is a literal s-ton of weight, and you did it. Also, eating real food at home is truly the key to maintaining. I eat out 3-4 times per YEAR, not per DAY.

[@boosqueezy2418]

can she do inpatient? that might be what she needs

[@slyfoxxx666]

she acts like people haven’t been suggesting this for years tbh, I don’t think she will ever consider that as an option

[@jaimereynolds258]

She won't ever do it. She doesn't like being told what to do, like a child.

[@paula-yx4dm]

She would never allow anyone to control what she does and eats. So inpatient wouldn't work at all for her.

[@TryingNotToPanic]

Lol she can't afford it cuz she needs fast food 3 times a day delivered via Uber eats. Jk she just doesn't want to change. Period

[@Sageddegas]

She literally has said she is scared because they’re “going to starve her” 💀 she could not eat for a month and still have 100s of pounds to lose….

[@sabrinastratton1991]

You give her too many chances. She doesnt want to change.

[@Kickingitwithkeila]

I feel like this pep talk was for me! lol thank you 🙏🏾

[@Apl_tree]

She will try anything but therapy 😂

[@violettefemme21]

She needs to get into therapy, take it seriously, and do the work. Nothing will change until she does that.

[@babs075]

I quit drinking 12 years ago. Cold turkey but I needed to do it. I have been totally successful. I have played with the same 15-20 lbs since then. Up then down and back again. My sugar cravings went off the chart after I quit drinking so now I'm going to get a grip on this once and for all. I'm in my 60s, I have a bad knee, no choice. You have to want it. You have to want it so bad that it needs to consume you. You need to realize you have an addiction and in my mind, it needs to be treated as such. If you don't want to go through surgery, then get support, get help, get therapy, go to a nutritionist and make this your number one priority and find an AA meeting for your drinking. You may need to wean yourself from these foods that you are addicted to but you can do it! I know this is hard. You know how much work it will be and it is daunting to you. You don't really want to go through this, you just want to be thinner. Yes, it is hard work. Quitting drinking was the hardest thing I've done. Now, I am aware of every single bite I eat. I write it all down. You can only do one day at a time. Don't look at the big picture right now. Just do one day at a time............. try and get through each day.

[@-cMc-]

515 lb and we are back at the beginning. Like the start of the month

[@rozb554]

Hello, it's ready 😂

[@Sun-nn]

It’s just water weight though 😂😂

[@Official_Talonz]

This video was so needed in my life. I’m 338 pounds right now and everything you talked about in felt like it was something I needed to hear. Amberlynn is very relatable, this is a dark place to be stuck at.

[@SageeBabyy]

You speak nothing but facts! you are so underrated you are stern but compassionate well spoken and intelligent I wish she would listen to you if she doesn’t listen to anyone else

[@Determined-Dani]

I truly don't think Amberlynn will change if unless she steps away from the internet for a good long while. That will never happen.

[@fluffydogchannel]

just remember that her morbid obesity caused her cancer. she had to have her uterus removed. and THAT wasn't enough of a wake up call. she is beyond help.

[@bunnylimon]

I'm done with Amberlynn, she's not gonna change.

[@amayalaurenb]

I come and go from this channel but I really like your take in this video!!(nothing personal lol just algorithm) you are so kind and supportive and honest so fresh to hear💗 thank you!

[@alyssacadrian]

My job requires me to travel every other week for work. I fly out at the beginning of the week, pick up my work vehicle, and then drive long distances. Most of my days tend to be 10-12+ hours, I stay in a different hotel every night, and most don’t have kitchenettes. I literally have to eat out. I still managed to lose 32 pounds in 8 months last year, while having this job. And at the beginning of that year, I was actually working more than every other week. What did I do? I tracked everything I ate and I tried to get movement in when I could(walking on hotel treadmills). I also made a rule for myself that I don’t eat out at all while I’m at home, unless it’s for a special occasion or to grab lunch with my dad or a friend. Other than those occasional occurrences, I cook all my meals at home. Because when I’m at home and not working, I have no excuse. I have plenty of time to grocery shop, meal prep, and cook. I also go to yoga classes regularly and take 3-6 mile walks anytime weather permits. It took effort, and I still track what I eat now that I’m in maintenance, but it wasn’t even all that hard. I just had to force myself to do it and I was finally able to form the habits I needed to lose the weight. I went from 167 pounds to 135. I’m 5’7 and almost 27 years old. Amber can do this. But she constantly makes excuses to justify giving into her addiction. There’s no good reason why she can’t make a grocery list for healthy meals, stick to only buying what is on that list, and make herself cook those meals. She can even do a meal delivery service. I do EveryPlate for 3 of my meals a week. We chose the “nutrish & delish” option so it chooses meals under 650 calories usually. I also choose to save some extra calories in order to have bigger dinners sometimes. Sorry for the book, but she is seriously frustrating. I completely understand getting in your own way. But you have got to get it together, gorl.

[@TheMuirite]

What do you do when you’re on the road for work? At this point, I’m gone for about three weeks out of a month and the hotels that they have a stay and have no kitchenette . I’m really trying and I need help

[@julianlaresch6266]

For me, the most frustrating thing is that I might have to continue tracking my food religiously for the rest of my life. If I don't, I will fill up on carbs and alcohol and not get enough protein to feel satiated on a maintenance/weight loss diet. It feels disordered but I genuinely need to lose the weight and this is the only way

[@slaygirlbossyasss1127]

John this has nothing to do with the video, but the reason I started watching your videos was because of the times Amberlynn would mention you in her videos! (this was years ago) I always appreciate how kind and compassionate, yet honest you are when making videos on her and it’s just really nice.

[@OhWell307]

You don't have to eat chicken broccoli and rice and salad to be healthy. She has no excuse to not cook her meals other than being lazy. Why is the first thing that comes to mind hamburger helper? You would think she would be sick of hearing herself say the same crap for years.

[@nunya5057]

i know it’s almost confusing how big she is. i feel like sometimes i eat as badly as she shows and i’m a healthy weight

[@tkh525]

@@nunya5057she doesn’t show everything she eats…

[@dfuk66]

She eats bad twice or three times a day not once a week or "sometimes"

[@SonarTheBat]

Why is she acting like ordering McDonald's or eating a whole box of Hamburger Helper are the only two options?

[@aproch02]

Right? Order a salad instead of ramen. Make stir fry at home instead of ordering a "bowl". It doesn't have to be boiled chicken and steamed broccoli.

[@ramiebecker1]

Y'all, let me just share that Overeaters Anonymous is powerful, life-changing program. As a member of OA and AA, I can honestly attest that it has given me life truly worth living. But first I had to admit powerlessness. It feels like AmberLynn is having a moment of clarity - the horrible realization that "one is too many, a thousand is never enough." There is hope. I have recovered from a deadly combo of alcoholism and diabulimia, and I have been able to develop a healthy relationship with food, establish a regular exercise routine, and manage my Type 1 diabetes. But I couldn't do it alone. I really appreciate Jon for being a voice of moderation, compassion, integrity and truth!

[@Th3h3kka]

Inpatient eating disorder treatment.

[@Monica-ew1kt]

The one thing she didn't try. Edit : well there are multiple things she didn't try but this is the one I think that would benefit her the most

[@TheBriar_123]

She won’t heed anyone’s advice.

[@biggooeyyy]

usually happens, shit hits the fan and they blame you 😛

[@aproch02]

I am 240-245 pounds. Spent 1 week in Punta Cana in November and 4 days in Puerto Rico in January. Both times I came home losing weight. I didn't think about my weight the entire time, but I ate good food that was also healthy and moved way more than when I'm home. Everyone can still go out and have fun without eating like garbage. Even for alcohol I stick to low carb options, nothing with juice or soda as a mixer, and usually vodka with water or seltzer. Some small changes can make a big difference.

[@Rubenesquebody]

You mentioned extremely important thing here and I always repeat it myself when it comes to her- she has no self-soothing skills. She self soothes by eating. So when she ‚fails’ her diet and eats too much she goes onto this binging mode as an escape from guilt and self hatred she feels. That’s so important to develop coping skills to get up after you fail and keep going. To not dismiss everything because of one mistake. And that’s something I learned in CBT and she definitely should go back to therapy. And I can’t understand why she isn’t.

[@abbyleemillerswig]

i'm assuming by "i hate food" she means it in a way of "I hate how much I love it"

[@autumnkolk5825]

"the only way to fail is to stop trying" is the one getting me through tbh. because even when i am not 100% on track, as long as i keep going & trust the process, i believe i wont fail

[@christalcavanaugh]

I would LOVE to watch someone like Amber get locked in a house with only healthy foods and active options for entertainment for like a month and see if they can maintain the “I’ve tried everything and nothing works” narrative

[@christinerodriguez3976]

The problem is because it takes work to get and stay fit. Many people do not want to take the time to do that. For me however, it is completely worth it. It affects so much how you feel mentally and physically and it is something that i love.

[@joanneshaw3071]

I have a huge poster in my office and it says “look after your heart” do these body positive people have any idea the absolute hell they are putting their heart through? Had a patient in this morning, he was huge. He’s living on borrowed time. Doesn’t matter if you love the way you look being overweight, you will die if you don’t loose weight.

[@lorinadenewhite]

Great commentary. Exceptional

[@NoNameNumberTwo]

It’s heartwarming that you are still willing to help her. I hope that she sees this video and takes you up on your offer. She is not too far gone, and she can still change.

[@Dr3Mc3Ninja]

She is addicted to so much. Food, relationships, shopping, and spending money in general. She lies to everyone and herself.

[@kaylenn52090]

Me and my boyfriend noticed we felt bleh and sluggish when we got really busy and didn't have time to cook and ate out all the time. Now that the holidays are over and we have time to cook, we feel like ourselves again and like we got back on track. I've lost alot weight and we are both trying to eat cleaner and healthier. So we only eat out if necessary. We try to keep food in the fridge that we can make at home.

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

One of the hardest things I had to discover as an adult is that not everyone will have a happy ending. 😢 I feel that, for those of us super fat, you need to get at a certain mental state to be able to lose massive amounts of weight. And it is not necessary that we get to that state in this life. 😢 There are people who were never able to give up the vices which were destroying their lives. Why can't we be those people? 😢

[@GabriellaLascano]

Losing weight is a full time job

[@RachelReduces]

👏🥰

[@Cashbrook20]

She needs to set SPECIFIC goals. Something she can track and feel good about achieving. "I need to make better decisions" is not trackable or measurable. I am going to cook dinner 3x this week is a goal. John mentions the meal delivery service, this would be a game changer. She doesn't have to do the actual prep and cooking, just needs to take it out of the freezer and heat.

[@jessicaroberts9756]

She could hire a private chef for the amount of money she spends on take out. Smh

[@wideride8320]

A private chef can't make decisions for you. Her drive to eat how she eats won't go away because someone else fixes her dinner.

[@DjAngelKandi]

and i’m pretty sure she’ll order take out to feel better after the rant. 😂

[@iheartavocado1158]

She’s a full blown addict and this is just part of the continuing cycle of the addiction. Saying this as someone else who struggles with the cycle too.

[@ahlove094]

We would respect her more if she actually just admit the truth she is content, happy with her lifestyle and doesn't want to change. The only reason she is mentioning weight loss is for money. She just wants people's sympathy bone and feel bad for her. If she really wants to get better GO TO IN PATIENT REHAB AND STOP EATING TAKEOUT JUNK FOOD, DRINKING, AND SMOKING!

[@cynthialandrau2500]

Love this video. Your advice to her is on point. I had VSG 3 years ago, and have been maintaining my 125lb weight loss since then. YOU WILL ALWAYS SLIP UP. It’s a part of being human. You just have to not let that slip up deter your whole journey. If she doesn’t learn that lesson, she will never be able to successfully lose and keep off the weight.

[@laurenleslie1080]

I think that she felt fulfillment because she was doing something. I think she would feel so much happier if she had a job/purpose/focus on something other than herself.

[@carebeargamingandmore3754]

I have never related to ALR more than when she said that the thing that has kept her alive is going to be the thing that kills her. That's a powerful statement. I hope she takes that to heart. I hope ALR does succeed! Through all of what she has done or not done, I am rooting for her.

[@Edgygranola]

I love that you are so vocal about wanting her to succeed no matter how FRUSTRATING it is to watch her sometimes. I think most of her viewers that tune in each week want her to succeed but get frustrated she is stuck in the cycle and does nothing through it.

[@AbandonedOnes]

Thank you for speaking directly to amber. I want to do it so badly but I don't know how to reach her personally you have a great platform I'm sure she'll see this

[@MelikaAsadzadeh]

In my experience, dieting never works for long-term weight loss. You get to the size you are because you are doing so many things wrong in your day-to-day life. So if you want to lose weight and keep it off, you literally have to change your lifestyle and it has to be something that you can keep doing basically for the rest of your life. Good changes don't happen overnight, You have to learn to keep at it and do a little bit every day. For me the most important thing I had to learn was, you eat to live, you don't live to eat!

[@CitizenCardigan]

She can’t even go a month without going off track. The key is consistency. I started watching John two years ago and he had such good advice. I found my TDEE and have been staying at a 300 calorie deficit. To date I have lost 90 pounds and I am now 70 years old. I sometimes go weeks without the scale budging but I don’t give up. I track what I eat daily and that shows me how I can improve. Amberlynn wants instant gratification in everything. She won’t lose 300 pounds overnight, it will take time. It’s a lifestyle change. Not a fad diet.

[@tchaikca]

She can’t go a WEEK . She also needs to be GIVEN a track to be on-at the moment she’s just doing random crap from TikTok, and justifying takeout any way she can. She needs professional help.

[@Cathmoytura]

9:03 Some of us probably make fat reduction and muscle gain look easier than it is for us. I think we found the formula that works for us and keep at it. For me, it's fastidious food/exercise journaling and daily weigh-ins. If I'm weighing myself every morning (watching the trends) and writing down everything I eat, I'm in great shape. I stop doing those two things and I gain 70 pounds in no time. People who don't know that express opinions that staying in shape is so easy for me.

[@electrodynamicorb6548]

10 years and no progress = no f’s given from me

[@tarapizzimenti946]

I think at the core of it she needs to believe that she deserves to feel better but as long as she is more focused on her videos than herself it will be hard for her to get there.

[@JRenaeK]

i'm so happy that you touched on the real reason people are frustrated with her when she talks like this. she has INFINITE resources to help herself and she just chooses not to take them. i'm 160 lbs now and would like to get my last stubborn 20lbs off and have been talking abt how i wish i had the time and money for a PT/nutritionist or something. it's frustrating to see amber who has all the time in the world and money as well not taking the opportunity to help herself. i would do that in a heartbeat if i were her!!!

[@ogtink]

It amazes me how some parents can look at their over weight child(ren) and not think that there might be some sort of problem going on with them. Whether that be mental or emotional issues, low activity, or what have you. Obesity and being over weight needs to be fixed as early on as possible. I find myself wishing someone had l cared about my weight before it came down to me growing up and caring about me enough to make a change. I was just telling my dad yesterday if he remembers allowing me to have 2 footlong subs for dinner some nights back in high school. He seemed kind of embarrassed that he let me eat that much so I just left it alone. But his solution to my weight is too just stop eating and that shows me that he still doesn't care about my health like he should as a parent. He'd rather me become anorexic than to slowly build a healthy lifestyle that will last and keep me healthy. I just don't understand.

[@allison493]

While I truly appreciate the bombastic side-eye, I genuinely think she is being honest about "hating food". It seems akin to an addict who needs/loves something but is also resentful of what it has done to them. So maybe it's more resent than hate, but I can understand why she feels that way. She seems to have genuine remorse for what she's done to her body but until she can repair her relationship with food I'm not sure she will ever be successful.

[@gints2766]

The hardest thing about the health journey is knowing how long the journey is. You have to become comfortable with discomfort and change, and for a long time. The feeling of “I’m already so far gone why bother” is so loud, “it’s so hard I want to stop”. But once you realize that it WILL take time and it WILL be hard and you fight for it anyway, and you realize that discipline is the greatest motivator, it starts to feel possible. you realize the only thing stopping you is yourself giving up. If you can commit your mind not to give up, you can do it. And you’re the only one who can commit yourself to that mindset. If you’re sick of starting over, stop giving up. And come up with ways to make it easier, but it will still be hard. I’ve still never lost more than 25lbs in one attempt, I’m there right now, down 25, 80 to go. End even this journey feels so so long, it’s been 6 months, so I can’t imagine how intimidating it must feel for Amber. (Who am I to talk since I haven’t succeeded, but still I hope she’s coming to the mindset soon.)

[@LifeAfterLosing]

Thank you!!! This 100%. If you aren’t ready for that, you won’t be successful. I tell people all the time. It’s literally, blood, sweat, and tears.

[@griftygrowshappy1706]

Brave of u to offer help yet again

[@user-iq4jj4ur4y]

She has all the resources to lose weight and still chooses not to. She must not want it bad enough to put in the work.

[@Angus-Johnson-8334]

Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life.

[@zen_ccg]

Loneliness kills people. I think she's very lonely and has been trying to use Vlogging as a way of getting social connection. She's not had the chance to learn that you can engage in social activities that don't involve food. She's bored, lonely, and doesn't know what to do with her life. It's sad, and I truly hope she works to improve herself

[@godingamer5086]

I went from 250 pounds to 158 in a year, after 10 years i still weight 158. The process was hard but totally worth it. I am a completly regular guy, nothing special about me, i just had the will and informed myself. One thing that helped me big time was really looking into my habits because i was making very little progress at the beginning of my journey, then i realized that i was consuming more than a 1000 calories a day just in drinks! It doesnt matter if soft drinks are "low sugar" or "diet" they are still not good, energy drinks, artificial juices, shakes, starbucks, etc, stay away from all that! It looks like Amber has a ton of these habits that summed up just make it literally impossible to drop the weight.