Omoni Oboli about Early Marriage, Mummy's Boys & African Fertility Trends | Dear Ife series Podcast

[@theresanugbemado4464]

Omoni Oboli is so graceful. It’s amazing how she listened without reacting till Ife finished.

[@girlmellaceus]

Christians who know the Bible know that God loves adoption, He adopts us as His children!💖💖💖 The family need Stand of Fire tbh

[@girlmellaceus]

*Altar

[@roselynadesola566]

My respect for Omoli just went up ❤❤❤❤she is so beautiful and gracious

[@The_Cruise_Fam]

I strongly hate that word “Bastard child” An innocent child should never be referred to as a bastard because the “Bastard adults” who decided to procreate recklessly should be referred to as that. Not an innocent child, who had no choice in deciding to be born or not. And regarding to the topic, hmmm. If the girl wishes to have kids why not divorce and be able to have the freedom of having kids especially since the husband has made it clear that he’s okay being child-less. Also, since they’re not open to all other options. It only makes sense. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Good-luck in your decisions.❣️ A good fundamental rule of life is to always put yourself in someone’s shoes before making a feedback. Hence, my view on the topic. I too know myself. Anything stress has never been part of my name.

[@kemeamechi]

What's even the guarantee that this 20 years old doesn't have oligospermia, too? What about surrogacy? That's another option

[@ify4976]

You're 💯 right in everything you said

[@SolarinMorenikeji]

Omoni Oboli never disappoints, so graceful

[@isabellacharles3946]

Women should learn how not to interfere in their children's marriages. Well done Ife and Omoni👏

[@kessfofah7125]

If it is a deal breaker, let's break the deal!

[@chiamakaonwuagba8139]

Omoni is very eloquent and emotionally intelligent

[@okokonscholastica8871]

Emotionally intelligent 📌📍

[@Finestkivi]

Omoni Oboli is an elegant graceful Queen. She’s everything a lady should be.

[@christinaodiaka1118]

It's how sweet Omoni is, such a true sayer from a pure heart❤ Love you always ma'am

[@vivianreginalds]

Awww I enjoyed this episode. Thank you Omoni for gracing our screens ❤ Thank you Ife for being the realest ❤

[@oniyeluyetunde3019]

Take the crown Queen Omoni Oboli is so sweet ❤

[@ijeomanwichi1242]

Aunty Hilda is one amazing Veteran I loved her movies years back ❤

[@mtenzagh]

She can cry for Africa😂

[@obyokafor4763]

Omoni.....So intelligent, thoughtful 👌....It's important to always look at things from other people's perspectives. This simply eliminates being judgemental.

[@OghenekevweFavour-l8b]

OMONI OBOLI IS SO GRACEFUL, I MUSTR CONFESS

[@rashidatshatta4974]

Very interesting, I didn't want it to end. The man can still father a child if it's an oligospermia case,even in few azospermia cases they father children via IVF techniques(tissues can be taken from the mans testes and if successful sperm can be gotten) . The couple really need to speak with a Fertility expert.The husband is selfish for making such decision without speaking with his wife.Well done Ife!

[@Utosniche]

She already stated that they’ve had failed IVF cycles. These procedures are not black and white

[@DinmahMichael]

Omoni!!! Such beautiful eyes and composure, very demure and mindful. A queen I Stan!!❤

[@BenedictaAgida]

I love the point where she said at the end of the day, we have to be kind. That summarizes everything

[@kunmivicky1649]

This conversation is awesome! 🎉. I learned and unlearned alot.

[@victory_osas]

Omoni is so classic. Felt her facial reactions. Also, indeed the “abomination” situation looks very fishy.

[@Meesco]

This is soo educating. Beautiful woman sharing knowledge. Aunty just raised my love for her to another level. Grammar shop knockle...you over get wisdom.

[@marthaighomena893]

Best episode yet. Fully focused on addressing the issue honestly and freely. Well done

[@chiomaebirim7548]

This!

[@lyabwukbalat6493]

Omoni has my heart... much love Ife for talking about the difficult things❤

[@simplyfruits59]

I just didn’t want this episode to end. Is it just me? 😊

[@angelaifenyinwa7887]

Even me too😅

[@Kdramaunni]

We should probably tell my mother too Let's have a round table meeting about it😢

[@Superb583]

I like the fact that you pointed this out " that we have to understand that people chose themselves first "

[@Bookconvos]

Lovely episode, Omoni is so wise ❤

[@sogbesandamilola2316]

I think the first question should be ‘what makes a child a BASTARD?’ If this definition is ‘a child who is not for the man of the house’, then I think the brother’s child will be equally A BASTARD. But a child should not be referred to as a bastard if both parties have a mutual agreement before the child is brought in. In my opinion, there is no abomination anywhere. They’re only trying to cover the shame in the family.

[@yvetteBAKERshow]

YAAAAAAAYYYYY!!! Madam 12:30 jollof rice inside new Benin market. With all the round about, shaki, kpomo, liver, Chai all wrapped in the moimoi leave. Omienmien of life😋😋😋

[@debbieihediwa]

Omoni was spot on with her comments..Well done Ife ❤❤

[@cesakanbi5154]

Mr man, you cannot bring a child into the world yet you call another child a bastard! Sis choose yourself in all of this. May God give you wisdom.

[@AfroPHBabe]

I'm so glued to this episode. First time watching dang ❤

[@leehays4015]

Love listening to Ife. I truly believe that men who listen to you will have emotional intelligence. Can you please start your own live dating show, you'll have lots of quality and educated people 😊😊. Help your sisters 😅

[@yomide_naturals]

Live dating show ke, that is a lot

[@njodzekanangsing3579]

I hope the person heard the questions raised at the end, very serious questions. Above all when in doubt, go to God and love yourself

[@chikaokeke5058]

My auntie Omoney is here💕

[@hoyinye_mayors]

Hi Ife, some tribe actually welcomes it. Especially Igbo but the cases I know are when the man dies without having children and then his brother sleeps with his wife to give birth to children for her late husband/brother. May be that’s what they want to do there.Either way, the Lady might have to pick her battle, get the sperm from the brother, leave the marriage, or remain childless. She has to choose herself because as we speak nobody there has her best interest at heart. I even feel that the brother-in-law might not be aware, you know how some families are controlling.

[@JaneIji]

Ma'am Omoni,I appreciate you this advice much love ma.

[@ussahdaniel942]

I just love Omoni. She's a sweet soul.

[@rubysPlaceOfTruth]

Ife , for them to all agree the brother donate sperm means they do not want the child tied to him and that validates the covenant they all entered, his manhood is the family wealth and they do not want any stranger to inherit it.

[@nomsobekee]

Another angle

[@RecipeswithHotBatter]

I thoroughly enjoyed watching this episode! Well done IFE! And oh! Omoni Oboli is beautiful and she's got such an interesting and honest mindset about the Mother-in-law/Daughter-in-law relationship. Here for it! ❤

[@ayothecari]

For my understanding and experience. The meddling of in-laws lies in the hand of their son or daughter. It’s what you allow or let out that people know. If you don’t bring people in your business, they won’t have the audacity to meddle. Couples need to learn to fix the cracks in their homes from the inside not outside.

[@cynthiachizaramnwachukwu2754]

You're so right

[@OluwadunsinO]

This is such a wholesome Conversation ❤❤❤

[@Priskarl]

I have heard a lot of that story, there is something about adopting a child with your whole heart that opens a woman’s womb, attracts more babies into the family.

[@callistaolebara34]

She should also be careful oo, let them not drug her and carry out their intention.

[@edimaisua9529]

Yes ooooooo...Very important

[@iamgloriakasi]

Catchy intro. Well done!

[@fransiscanwachukwu3672]

I love omonj listening to her is refreshing

[@kefaslora2958]

The new Benin story😂Uniben Alumni here❤️I could watch you talk all day, so refreshing

[@nomsobekee]

I love the way Omoni Oboli dissected the issue and used her experience to explain from her own perspective. If the table was turned, will the MIL be kind to her? I love this question Omoni raised. The man and his family are being selfish with their request. Let the woman ask the questions Omoni raised at the end and know if it's time to break the deal. Overall, the conversation was wholesome. ❤

[@adaezeikeri7329]

Perfect response ❤ omoni is wise

[@oyindamola231]

At the end of the day, the child will not be hers but the family child.

[@graceignatius906]

Exactly not hers but the family

[@MiracleTemiagin]

Exactly, like wtf

[@dorcasaliyu9250]

Exactly

[@hannahubaba1700]

Omoni is so wise and graceful ❤❤a very beautiful woman inside and out ❤

[@adeola_olamy]

There’s a Korean-American blogger here on KZbin, Megan Moon. She developed ovarian failure at the age of 20, which rendered her infertile. Subsequently, she got married later in life and wanted to have children later on in life. He sister donated her eggs and was fertilized using her husband’s sperm and they have two beautiful twin children, a boy and a girl. They were very open about the process and made videos about it. What am I trying to say? I don’t know but take what you want from it.

[@patriciaawele1367]

An African will not see it same way, the man will turn around to and marry the wife sister that's the African mentality

[@cinematicshowtv9529]

The sister will still look at the child as her child they will be time in the child’s life where she will be told who are real mom is 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@isi4502]

​@@patriciaawele1367exactly 😂...one day the brother will come and claim his son

[@Baby_Sheila]

Asin ehnnn. I seriously don’t see anything wrong in using the brother’s sperm o. I’ll prefer that to a stranger sef.

[@maureenoguntade]

Africans are different from Asians. The African mentality and thought process will scatter things later in future. That junior brother that is claim now may become a problem tomorrow and the marriage may not even be able to stand.m the fall out. The best is for the later to move on with her life. The covenant of life is greater than the covenant f marriage. Also, if tables were turned the man will never agree.

[@ibiwariamabibi7252]

Omoni is so smart

[@TheSistas]

Mother in-laws, please stay away from your children's affairs. Whenever they seek your opinion, sometimes, leave them to decide. These children weren't there when you made decisions with your husbands. African MILs Sha. Thank God for my parents oOoOO... Wetin concern my mama with daughter in-law. She no kuku send any of us... It's your life. As far as you both are happy. She is happy too

[@elizabethdabiri734]

Hmmm.....then if in future the young boy doesnt have a child, he will come for his child with his older brother.. God forbid bad thing o!

[@Peculiar-we7oj]

This is the issue! And the matter go long. The pikin sef fo wan mad, because the kind confusion wey go dey ehn

[@gloryakute5124]

Two beautiful women 😍😍. I enjoyed everything about this conversation.

[@ogechieze7962]

The baby is now child to the donor and nephew/niece to the 'father' .. that's so weird.. how is this even up for discussion?? My goodness.. I feel really bad for the woman.. the man should have just let the matter remain with jus he and his wife.. everyone would just see she's pregnant and do not have to know the details... Omo!

[@stitchesspeaks]

That kind of man won’t be able to keep that kind of secret arrangement within himself and his wife oo he go still tell his mama

[@yomide_naturals]

16:50 is how everyone else should be reasoning but no, we don't put ourselves in others shoe.

[@graceuwaga]

I agree with how Omoni summarized this, in addition : Standing on existing protocols of ‘curing madness with more madness ‘ ……invite your family during the conversation. No be only u get ‘family’ 🙄🙄

[@ijeomanwichi1242]

Big Sis Omoni is right.Mothers should be open to treat their daughter in laws the way they would have loved to be treated. By the way,the 20year old younger brother would one day request for his son. Moreso, if the child grows up to find out the truth of his real father,he will never forgive his mother for agreeing to this disgusting arrangement that was imposed on her years earlier.By then all the family explanation to the boy will not get his forgiveness. Men should be kind to their wife's feelings about what is acceptable and comfortable to them . If it was the wife that had the fertility issue,her husband family will not even be nice to her if decides to get an egg donor from a sibling.

[@onyinyeenyinna5104]

Lovely advice for omoni👏👏👏

[@AdejareAminatAbiola]

Things women go through all in the name of marriage 😢 it is well

[@mimscreation7187]

Well said Omoni❤️

[@kessfofah7125]

Abeg? She no get family? Abi no be person pikin dem marry? Abi nah buy dem buy am. Involve your family too Sis!

[@patriciaawele1367]

Exactly. Why don't she involve her family too.

[@yomide_naturals]

I don't understand why narratives like this doesn't show that the female families are involved in their lives just like the man's family is so involved

[@patrickkiral8423]

I just tire ooo some women act as if they picked them from under the rock. If my husband involves his family, I will go and call my family too since its now an extended family problem.

[@thechrystalsakeju]

Aura for aura 😂😂

[@yomide_naturals]

@@patrickkiral8423 then let there be a family meeting and my mother or dad can decide for me too since the husband's mum is deciding for him

[@nwidamelizabeth568]

Ife...u have said it all. If it was the woman ,will he say that?

[@utibeikoiwak6785]

Let’s break the deal Biko😂

[@yomide_naturals]

Grandmother to be 🤔 That means this video has been shot a long time ago. I hope the woman has sorted herself out of that miserable family 😢

[@hopepeace8060]

My grandma told us a story about her neighbour, whose husband could not father a child. It was agreed by the family that his cousin get the wife pregnant. She had two children for her husband thru his cousin

[@akudechinwe9916]

Emotional intelligence 👌👌👌

[@fowokemiadeniji1710]

15:19 I genuinely think that the reason the mother in law hasn't interfered so far is because her son is the one with the challenge and if it was the other way around, she would be a whole lot more vocal. Especially because she knows she has her son tied to her apron string.

[@NkemUmezinne]

The fact that the man has low sperm count doesn’t mean he can’t father a child. Her husband’s sperm can still be used for IVF. Oligospermia( low sperm count) means the woman may not be able to get pregnant the natural way because biologically there’s a sperm count needed for conception to be achieved naturally. Also there are certain drugs, vitamins, fruits that her husband can take to boost his sperm count. He should abstain from excessive drinking of alcohol and maintain a healthy lifestyle. She should never use her husband’s brother as a sperm donor.

[@The_Cruise_Fam]

And you think a man such as him will be open to IVF?

[@valeriemartins8878]

​@@The_Cruise_Fam when the brother donates sperm is it not still going to be aided medically to become a baby either through IVF or Intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI). Same thing so they can use the man's sperm through IVF

[@Somianibaby]

But she said that they’ve had several failed IVF’s .

[@omoladefolorunsho2047]

I have heard numerous stories of women using their sisters' eggs because of fertility issues, i just want to know if Omoni and Ife will have the same view if it was the husband having issues with the wife about not wanting her sister's eggs. Yes questions must be asked with regards to abomination. But if women openly talk about using their sisters and even mums as egg donors why is it wrong for the man to get sperms from his brother. I love your pod, Ife.

[@The_Cruise_Fam]

Speaking for me. I will not use anyone related to me by blood eggs/surrogate etc. In fact, I will want the person unknown and quite far distance from me. Yeah, I’m weird like that and in the worst case scenario if there’s nothing, I will gladly remain childless.

[@onozarecomfort9566]

It's all about ownership. I donated the sperm coming from someone close is disheartening

[@chidyrosetta9692]

If they agreed to use it, then it's not a problem. If you dont agree and someone is forcing you, that's where the problem is

[@iswisanonymously7088]

Love the intro!

[@WeAreOneFamily-w9d]

Joseph adopted Jesus. Imagine marrying a virgin and he was always excited about their wedding and making beautiful babies. My 20 year old daughter is from my ex, and I remember when her boyfriend called me and asked if we are my and her grandparents house. The phone was on speaker. My mother in-law almost cried with joy simply because his granddaughter's boyfriend refers to them as grandparents. My husband adopted her when she turned 18 and they are all happy to see that she carries their names. I couldn't give my husband a child because of an enlarged uterus which led to a heavy monthly cycle that made me just do a partial hysterectomy. My ovaries and cervix are still intact. I still ovulate but no periods. My daughter doesn't even want to see her biological father who is Jamaican and my husband is German. Europeans don't care whether a child is biologically theirs or not

[@reghaaghogho4791]

23:35 people have to be kind. Be kind.

[@patternstylelagos6519]

There could be a terrible fall out in the future. The younger brother can claim that child is his for some reasons that we may not be able to imagine now. Also, the child may jokingly hear from a member of the family that his father is not his father. There could be so many scenarios in the far future.

[@badataiwo3984]

The moment the son gets married, some mothers automatically feel like the wife is going to change him. The truth is so many men can’t stand up to their mothers and sisters when they are maltreated their wives and I think it’s very bad. Mothers should learn to take a step backward when it comes to their sons marriages .

[@rukiattyson9172]

I really enjoyed this episode 😁

[@nnegeraldine8485]

Why not use father inlaw, pé, that is also uour blood! Do not allow the family you are from, dictate the family you are creating 😡😡😡😡

[@Scilla005]

Oligospermia is a health issue that can be reversed if the underlying issue is understood and treated. If not, he can still father a child with Oligospermia through IUI or IVF knowing fully well that he is opposed to adoption. Having is child using his brother's sperm is going overboard.

[@ahudaddy0953]

Traditionally with Jews and the igbo culture back before civilization, this could have been right especially if the man in question was deceased! But I don't know I don't know! It's so weird! The 20 year old brother who is to become the donor, how will he even feel later? I think it shouldn't be done for the complications that be,biko! It's too complicated for everyone! The biological father/uncle,the children;when they grow up, the woman,the father....pele my dear! It's a Do-not-venture area

[@bolanlesoares2514]

Very sensitive issue ! If the couple don't beef up communication and transparency, the marriage will fall apart

[@ayanfeoluwaa.a]

Please invite Bimbo Ademoye 🙏🏿😭😭😭

[@keepingupwithbridgetsuoyo]

This Ife ehnnnn😂😂😂😂😂 it’s her reaction for me🤣🤣🤣

[@DayoA1]

I don't think the mother in law was the problem. The husband was too cowardly to tell her himself. Plus,he is very self centered, he would prefer to remain childless? He just made that decision on his own without consulting his wife(the other person that decision would affect!)

[@ChimezirimOkolinta]

I love you Omoni❤❤❤❤❤

[@nerissanicholas411]

The lady is the one doing the family a favor, so it should be on her terms and not that of the family. This is pure injustice and manipulation. The lady should get a donor and ignore them, they should tell the world the baby is from a donor, then she should tell the world. Yeye people

[@Trendybites-o3m]

In conclusion marry someone that is not selfish/ self centered.

[@preciousjewel7426]

This is the most important part for me, maybe she really doesn’t know the husband/family she got married to/into…sis plix walk and don’t look back. It’s deeper than you know or will ever know…e no clear

[@Superb583]

Omoni Oboli a young grandmom

[@Rebel_Leader7]

I feel couples are quick to turn to assisted reproductive procedures without trying to nurture and heal their reproductive health. Oligospermia does not automatically mean infertility. It is low sperm count/low quality male specimen which can be improved upon to help men get their wives pregnant. Proper nutrition, weight loss, stress reduction, rest/rejuvenation and strategically planned intercourse can help couples conceive when they have conditions such Oligospermia, PCOS etc.

[@stephaniecole8048]

Plot twist: The husband's brother also has low sperm count and then MIL suggests you use the FIL's sperm 😂😂😂. Mad people! Adoption will hinder his health and wealth? The sperm health is already bad sooooo might as adopt. What sane man even goes to tell his family he is planning to use a sperm bank? The family has been calm for 11 years because they have known their son is the problem. If you check now his dad had the same issue and his uncle is actually his dad.

[@MaryNSilasN]

😂😂😂 my thought too

[@buchiokwuofu151]

Where can i watch wife on strike one and 2 please.

[@preciousmaduforo982]

Prime video

[@buchiokwuofu151]

Thank you

[@ruthezinne8776]

Omoni❤

[@YOU_CanBeProductive]

Awwwn, I attended Uniben too❤❤❤

[@lawaladesewa2367]

Maybe the husband did a ritual with his sperm and his mom knows abt the ritual

[@Helen.k.ktabi7806]

No one is considering the child mental health, When he grows up to find out that his uncle is actually his dad and his dad is actually his uncle. The child will suffer more.😢

[@firdawsalaga3919]

Love eeettttt!

[@momentswithdeee]

Option 1: speak with her husband and express herself and disappointed with all these “setup” and her willingness to having a child by a donor and not her brother-in-law. If after everything, he doesn’t see reasons and she wants the marriage so badly, then Option 2 kicks in. Option 2: She should agree with them and collect the sperm but go ahead to use sperm from the sperm bank. That’s way, everybody is happy and if brother wants to move mad in future, we blow everything open and I choose me as you have and always chose yourself

[@FattuJabbie]

Yes ohhh I no Benin very well new Benin market