How to Get People to Like You More: 5 More Secrets Revealed--for Coworkers and Classmates

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In today's effective communication skills training course online, communication skills expert keynote speaker Dan O'Connor discusses how to get people to like you more. He reveals five extremely important tips and amplifies on each one. If you are a woman in the workplace, or a man who considers himself "strong" and you believe that people don't like you because you "intimidate them" or you are too "straightforward," please consider these five secrets/principles. Be scarce; be quiet; work hard; be mysterious and most of all be kind. Are you all these things? Maybe you don't intimidate; maybe you alienate. #gettingpeopletolikeyou #freeonlinecommunicationtraining #howtogetpeopletolikeyou #professionalcommunicationtrainingonline
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The 5 secrets revealed in this effective communication skills video are:
:28 Be Scarce
2:41 Be Quiet
5:48 Work Hard
7:42: Be Mysterious
10:07 Be Kind
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[@TheWizardOfWords]

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[@aceofspace99]

My dad was a reasonably quiet man. He chatted with people about subjects that were interesting to him, but was otherwise quiet. After he died (too young) people often said of him, "Louie didn't say a lot, but when he did, it was always wise and worth hearing." That's a great legacy. I miss him. I want to be more like him in that way.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

That is indeed a legacy worthy of embracing, Ace.

[@KK-mc2hg]

Yes kindness and compassion.... it is soooo hard to find in people. I am kind and compassionate but not many people are drawn to me they mistake my kindness for a weakness and it is horrible. I speak my mind, I stand for what I believe in, but my heart is kind and I feel love for people. I don’t get it other than to accept that most people are harsh and hard.

[@sharralynnpiercewoolworth6358]

I have found this to be true for myself. I have been absolutely betrayed by so called friends too many times to count! It's as if they could find loyal people everyday! Almost like a nasty child screwing a good parent! They feel you're always around.!Take advantage? OMG!! That is when they're not stealing from you or stabbing you in the back! Take out the r in FRIENDS and what do you have?

[@kathrinjohnson2582]

Yep true

[@1Wendy_Woo]

Ditto. Same experiences. My heart hurts a lot. I have so much to give, wanting relationships, kind, compassionate and empathic, yet never acquire these relationships with others. Especially coworkers. Being a loner is well known to me. Sending support across the net. 🌿🕊️💕🌍 Peace and Love

[@Mel.U]

1. Be scarce don't make yourself too available don't always want to be s.een don't always be seen with group 2. Be quiet Don't give opinions too freely your opinions are valuable don't go giving them out for free but when you have an opinion be thoughtful about it 3. Work Hard don't let other person have to pick up slack; be somebody to do your work competently 4. Be mysterious showyour gifts when you rise to the occasion but don't try to "talk teach " people acting like you know more than them 5. Be kind

[@homoerotic85]

That is true but just make sure you keep being you and kind this world needs that from you! I have realized that it actually pisses people off when they see you are happy, or if your kind to people. They are so miserable themselves they want to bring you down to their level! That is just sick in my opinion. I have been very depressed before, so sad and miserable... But during that time I know how that feels to feel so bad, why I'm the world would I want any one else to feel the same, it makes no since to me. If anything I was nicer just because I know how it feels. You are definitely doing the right thing, their actions show everything you need to know about them-it's not you. You don't want people like that to be your friend anyways.

[@SydMountaineer]

Yes, it's true that people who are constantly talking, giving their opinion on everything are not taken as seriously. Even if the information they're giving is valuable, it's viewed as much less valuable when they're always giving it out. When you think about people you know that are like this, you understand it completely.

[@SydMountaineer]

Showing kindness & compassion in a situation where it's rare (like stockbroker job) shows major strength.

[@fosterjillian]

‘’There’s nothing more powerful than compassion and kindness”....yes!

[@katarinadooman577]

What if you are new to the job and just learning and the rest of your co workers think you are a hard worker and competent and one or two of your co workers are acting put out and rude because you are new and making mistakes because you are new? How do you handle the bully

[@surgicaltoolboxrnhealthbea3292]

I learned this very young. Hanging out too much with certain people they did not treat you the same. Especially guys for me. This was my teen and early 20’s. I hardly spoke but when I did everyone looked and listened.

[@isobelndoro]

I found Dan a day ago and I try to binge watch his videos whenever l can - Self-development in progress - thank you! Social Assertiveness is a challenge for me sometimes but you are pruning me.

[@surgicaltoolboxrnhealthbea3292]

Emotional IQ IS KEY. Bullies always hang themselves eventually.

[@JaymeeKay]

My notes for this episode. 1. Don't be too available. 2. Zip it. Your words and thoughts are valuable 🎉 don't just give them away. (DAN is a flipping genius) 3. Work hard. Nobody wants to do extra because you are a slacker. Get it together but I'm just talking to myself here. 4. Be mysterious but not in a creepy way. 😂 Use your talents unexpectedly. Show don't tell. Serve. 5. BE kind. 😊❤😊 Show love. Smile. Randomly hug people...no that's my advice, not Dans. Big hugs!!! Remember... Kindness=Desirable And everyone wants to be desirable! I ❤️ Dan.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I like your summary, Jamiekay; I just may steal it :)

[@leiasadi3150]

Asking them questions and Listening to them when they speak to you wins a special place.

[@samanthabarratt7518]

The opposite of weakness is LOVE. You hit the nail on the head!!

[@jennifermoran5489]

Been guilty of several of these, but I try every day to not do them even though sometimes I am just a passenger watching myself say odd things....Confusion is a general state of mind....

[@cynthiabolen6326]

Thank you for your insight. I so enjoy your humor sprinkled in here.

[@mayax27]

your videos are genuinely inspiring! thank you

[@TheWizardOfWords]

What an encouraging comment. Thank you mayax27. Dan

[@janeteddddd]

Super helpful... Thanks!

[@healthstartshere]

Thank you for making this Dan!!! This really helped me in the right moment🙏🏼🤗💕

[@samanthabarratt7518]

Yes, Yes, Yes. Especially being Kind...Thank you for your sharing Dan 🧡💖💚

[@Nina-sp1js]

Hi Dan! I'm really attracted to your philosophy in Communication training. I have just discovered your videos and they are life savers. I simply need to learn to be diplomatic, clear and direct communicator. Your sense of humor brightens my learning time. Value you bring to the table brightens my day and gives me hope. Being severely bullied at school made me deep scars and getting new job with few bullies in the mix is no picnic for me. I realised importance to master communication in this world. Sending you kind regards.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Nina, thank you so much for taking the time to write. Communication skills really can help you overcome the challenges you face--bullying, e.g. Keep mastering communication skills and when you're ready for the next step, go to danoconnortraining.com and check out Step Out of the Shadows and Speak. I have many courses, but that is definitely the one for you.

[@sagenosnibor9173]

I TRULY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS! they make me grin everytime :)☺

[@pumpkin_363]

I love this. Great advice!!

[@adamstubes]

U are so darn smart I wish all schools were required to include u in their curriculum, and all companies were required to have u teach employee behavior.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Well now, what a grand world THAT would be :)

[@cpaigemcd]

This is SUCH valuable information. I, personally, as someone who is AuDHD with trauma responses and coping/defense mechanisms designed around making myself not a threat, find it reeeeaaallly difficult to apply. If anyone has any tips on AuDHD NOT over sharing and talking too much…I would welcome any 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you, again, Mr. O’Connor 👍🏻

[@goodflowh]

Loved your tips! I wish I had seen it before.

[@tcshy1903]

I came across your videos yesterday! You already helped me handle a difficult co-worker! Thank you.

[@coppermoon4747]

Thank you! I'm so glad I found your channel and I truly enjoy your work!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're welcome Art. I hope you like and share to your heart's content. Dan

[@CompostWatcher]

I’m grateful that you gave away this information. Thank you

[@patriciacole8773]

Lol

[@sherriwagner9577]

Thank you for the input. It was exactly what I needed to hear today.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Happy to help, Sherri. Dan

[@karishort1891]

Your videos are invaluable ❤️

[@BeckBeckGo]

Dan: Don’t be too social. Me: done.

[@aderodriguez3481]

I love it, you always say thing amazingly great and I love your sense of humor! Always chuckling 😆 and laugh, when you add things with a sense of humor but course in a good way. You really nail it. Thanks

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks, Ade. Dan

[@ShiaGirl18]

Thank you for practical tips, Dan!

[@ShiaGirl18]

@Online Communication Skills Training Courses Thank you for liking my comment. I am watching one of your videos right now.

[@andrewc.2952]

What a fantastic topic. I always enjoy hearing input on this. Sometimes even simple things help a lot. Be yourself, take time to actually listen. Learn the names of people you work with. Build up others and don't blast out negativity. Own your mistakes and see to it that you resolve them and learn from it. One thing I've really really learned at my job now, don't kill yourself from too much overtime, sleep is such a big deal. Making sure you are rested will dramatically help you to think clearly and make better choices than when you're tired.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Totally agree with everything you've said, and how you said it.

[@jennihubby2877]

Thank you for this powerful and true message! I love your humor. And I especially appreciate your simple and deep message in the video. Keep up the great work!!!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you so much!

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

Totally awesome video.

[@terriensberg5487]

I love this presentation - so cute!

[@surgicaltoolboxrnhealthbea3292]

😂😂😂😂your doomed😂😂you crack me up. Thank you for the serotonin. Black navy, grey and beige!

[@Vangel366]

Thanks for the effort you put in to your explanation

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're welcome, Evangelos.

[@hollyleann1825]

Be Kind. ❤ it’s just so simple - thank you Dan I’m about to work at Whole Foods and I genuinely want to share kindness to the public.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

What a marvelous attitude! You know who you are and why you're here.

[@elizabethandiosa4579]

I love you. Lol😇❤️❤️.. I have been saying for a long time that "OUR WORLD NEEDS A COURSE IN KINDNESS". Of course we feel angry at injustice.

[@cobwebafternoon3737]

Great advice, Dan! 👍

[@RuthMetcalfRealtor]

Great advice! You are hilarious!!! 😂

[@arescue]

I love this channel.

[@moonhunter9993]

It's even worse now post-c... kindness is even rarer and more necessary now.

[@louisianaeu828]

Oh God I have hell work to do😱🤣🤣🤣love you thanks!

[@asstanley8438]

So true about taking a break from the coffee room. lol at the church/pew/app. I'm going to take myself off on a walk tomorrow.

[@thiery572]

Interesting advice.

[@maracaobomari]

I just love your videos

[@PsychokoreUndergroundRap]

Hey Dan.. thanks for the insight, even tho i work alone. I noticed you using alot more sound inputs. Bought a new video editing program? It seems like you have a lot of fun with it.. on the other hand i wouldnt overdue it.. it could take away the real message. I have an idea for you.. a "best of" from your older videos. There are defintely some dimes which had a positive influence on my social skills. I bet you can create a funny video out of that. And congrats on the 100k subs :-)

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Hmmm, a review of the oldies--something to think about! Thanks Psychokore. BTW--no new system--just a desire to augment the message a little--maybe more than a little? Anyway, message received, and thank you! Dan

[@Jpow915]

Hi Dan! Your videos have been inspiring and motivational to me. My relationships at work, at home, and with myself have greatly improved. These are great tips. I work in an office in which my only coworker is my boss. How do I get her to like me more?

[@Geraldine6131]

I just started a new job (barmaid) and in the beginning everyone was new so everyone was asking each other about each other so it was cool. Ive been here a month now and I haven't been able to connect with anyone. I feel like I'm already doing what you're suggesting but no results. I'm friendly, helpful, quiet, I'm trying to be confident, I ask people about themselves (since that's what they know most about) but nothing. I compliment them regularly on their clothes or hair or something, but no one ever compliments me. I don't need the compliments, but I've noticed they're all super positive with each other but not to me. No one seems to be striking up a conversation with me, but when I strike one up I get 1 answer and that's it. No follow up or conversation. I've also got one co-worker who is super condescending to me at work but not out of work. It makes working with her very stressful. I'm good at my job, I managed the last place I worked at (which I haven't told them because I don't want to sound like I think I'm superior) I know what I'm doing. I'm learning new things here and this girl knows them already and she answers my questions like they should be obvious to me, so now whenever I do anything, I'm doubting myself. I've tried everything I can think of. What do I do?

[@patriciacole8773]

My mom taught me it’s often jealousy…

[@evangeliakaratza-styliara4413]

Thanks....

[@dlon8899]

I've lied to myself, to not offend the other, or to seem kind. To be honestly courageous in my speech is my goal. Can I get a witness!?

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You can be courageous in your honesty while always remembering the principle that not everything in your head needs to come out your mouth. There is nothing wrong with kindness as a first principle.

[@rebekam9362]

Preach x2!

[@janetbaracree5752]

Ty! Timeless needs to be highlighted again much l

[@janetbaracree5752]

Much love to you!

[@bonniehoffman9346]

You're the best

[@celticqt22]

Oh not always. I keep my mouth shut don't run to the boss. Then repeatedly I have ended up being the one who gets written up. Bosses love to assume cause it's easier than looking at the situation. Seriously nearly every boss I have had does that to me. What the heck am I to do?

[@aniou8126]

Hi Dan - I love your vids and find them really helpful, I just subscribed. I’d like to ask how one should handle “delicate” situations, such as when you go out to dinner with new friends or acquaintances and everybody drinks except you, and then the bill comes and someone says, “Should we just split it? Is that okay with everyone?” I find it very difficult to be the douche who says “Um no, that’s not okay with me”, or even “well I didn’t have any drinks so I’ll just put in a few bucks less than you”. It always makes me feel petty so I don’t ever say anything, but then I feel upset about it later because I didn’t speak up lol. Is there a good way for a non-confrontational person to address this without having to take up drinking?! 😉

[@did4196]

Hi, I'm not Dan but I wanted to tell you what happened once I went out with a big group. I noticed one girl was not drinking but everyone else was. At the end of the night when the waiter came over with the check I noticed he gave her a separate check and one for all who were drinking. Everyone who drank split the check. I had a beer and had to pay over $20 but the girl that was not drinking paid her own bill. She must have discreetly asked for a separate bill for herself. When she got her check she just smiled and handed in her credit card. Everyone else was still trying to figure out how much they had to pay.

[@MK-ih6wp]

@@did4196 interesting story, thx for sharing

[@fazbell]

I've found that if you pass out fifty dollar bills, people will like you more.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

But not as much as the guy who passes out the hundreds . . . .

[@Babs33]

Fred Azbell 😂😂😂

[@fazbell]

Dan's advice works with NORMAL people. The problem is that the work force and some businesses (such as media) are populated by sociopaths.

[@OfftoShambala]

It’s good to be likable.

[@ty1480]

I had a job once where I was setting tables. I noticed that most of the glasses were dirty still. So I went about wiping them with a tea towel. My boss then told me of for taking too long. I explained but he didn't seem to care. So I started to just use whatever was there. Did I do the right thing? He never said anything more about it.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Victoria, you tried, and that's all you can do. You don't want to get fired for going the extra mile, although most bosses would be appreciative of such a thing. Since you can't go the extra mile in set-up, just do it with attitude--with a constant smile and willingness to serve the customer. Your boss clearly doesn't get it and that's SAD! DAN

[@moonhunter9993]

@@TheWizardOfWords good advice.

[@dayc801]

Omg yes cosmic goo!

[@1Wendy_Woo]

LOL ~ Our dress code is black, navy or gray. [Funeral Home] And yes, there's plenty of in house nonsense to deal with. I always notice who I have to pick up the slack for. It's funny who gets away with slacking and who doesn't. I won't age discriminate because I have seen 1 young person taking duties seriously while another young person is not. And the same with the older (70's) employees. Not sure how much the boss notices though because she has a FULL plate. "Best succotash ever" 😄 Love all these tips!

[@freevideos051]

Be your true self

[@rozinajamil-peelvirtualele5244]

Can you teach the communication skills required for teachers in a school setting please?

[@tariksebbah393]

I think you're totally right, but how about friends ?

[@bonniehoffman9346]

I like to talk to people that resonate with me and agree with what I'm saying if they don't I don't have time for him I'm just that way cuz I know myself and I have a good idea about feeling things home cuz I'm a superimpath I used to wear a black but found out that it attracts a lot of negative energy so I just wanted to share that so I started wearing white and different colors but I can't really say that it makes that much difference I'll have to keep experimenting until I come up with a conclusion that I really feel good about the resonates with myself whoops I said I oh well this is going to take some practice can't wait to get some more of your work and purchasing some of your work that you have I think this is going to be a go-getter for me

[@cherylbarnes919]

Hi, I very much love and appreciate your content and style!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏 I don't drive a Nissan, Toyota, or a Honda, however, I do wear lots of black and navy. Are you serious about what you said regarding wearing these colors or is this a joke? If you are serious, please enlighten me. Thank you!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Just kind of serious :)

[@cherylbarnes919]

@@TheWizardOfWords Haha Thank you! I'll get right to work on that. Haha Love it!

[@licksnkicks1166]

Don’t get me wrong I am a loyal fan but really don’t care who likes me or doesn’t at work. Been there 12 years. I am very respectful and extremely courteous. I do my job, do whatever needs to be done and always give my boss 100%. I usually work on my own. I get more done rather then having to babysit my coworkers, especially the youngsters who have NO work ethic! And then…I go home.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Totally agree, LNK. In no way am I advocating that people at work should be your "friends." However--some people find that if they are actively disliked, their work is sabotaged. There is a certain level of "like" that is healthy in the workplace, so that people are comfortable working together. It's all about the work :)

[@robinhensley6228]

I’ve been a nurse in the same unit for 20 years and have successfully held various positions. I have always communicated mostly to advocate for patients. Now, no one wants to face or admit to or even fix errors or failures to deliver good care. Now they want me to keep quiet. From top down, telling me to not notice. To be PC. I can’t do it. It’s to undo what I am and what I stand for. It’s about looking good on paper blaming patients for being non compliant. I’m struggling.

[@cangrejitamiry]

I'm confused. Is this a situation where you want to be liked ??

[@mandyinseattle]

Send an anonymous whistle blowing letter? That's too bad that's happening in your workplace.

[@moonhunter9993]

The PC part makes me worried that you're actually r@cially profiling low performance...

[@celineliao3833]

thumbs up

[@homoerotic85]

I have never seen a rounded floor before!? Is that what it is or is it a green backdrop to cover the wall? It's interesting.

[@bonniehoffman9346]

Well talking about competence I'm not competent with people that are bossy and rude and demanding I like to put other people down you know they'll narcissist personalities so with that said I do nice things for people and I'm very capable and I'm very helpful when I am asked to do something I am very very reliable that's what we want is reliable I don't think there's anyone in this world that can say they want people to be more reliable and loyal so I'm reliable and I'm loyal and if people ask me to do something kind for them and to help them out then I give it my all

[@katarinatibai8396]

Kindmess and compassion - 👍- total agree - bat with carfully observe the people araund you - to not end up as a narc snack. There are many humsn predators amongh us. So be awere all you nice, kind and compassionated people.

[@GS-st9ns]

So the net of it, is for us to just hit the Subscribe button thumbs up, share, like, watch the entire commercial and then step off 😂

[@theapocilip]

I've been doing it all wrong :'(

[@JesusSaves77799]

Hi great video! I really loved it. I loved how you said to be a hard worker, competent, scarce, and most importantly, kind. But I was confused what you meant about people not working hard driving Nissans, Toyota’s or Honda’s and wearing black, navy or gray? I don’t understand that? A lot of suits are black or navy? I know really hard workers who drive Hondas, for example? I found the comment to be a little hurtful, unless it was a joke? Thanks!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Some humor there, GG. I was referring to one of my personality-type videos. Having said that, please know that I drive a Honda and wear whatever color suits my mood. And my favorite go-to shirt is black; my favorite suit is black; and . . . need I go on?

[@JesusSaves77799]

@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you Dan! I’m just revising my comment here. I didn’t know the reference that you were referring to in another one of your videos. Thanks for clarifying that. I will have to see if I can find the video. Thanks for posting the examples of what you personally drive and like to wear as well. You don’t have to go on, I just wasn’t sure of the initial reference so I thought that you were stereotyping people who drove or wore certain things. Thanks for telling me that that’s not what you meant. God bless you! 🙏

[@justanothersherlockian7058]

You have a great sense of humour🤣

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Love. We all need one, don't we? Was it Twain who said "The most lost day of all is the day on which we do not laugh"?

[@justanothersherlockian7058]

@@TheWizardOfWords I found the quote: "The most wasted day of all is that on which we have not laughed", by Nicolas Chamfort, but I may or may not have looked hard enough :)

[@yeseniasplace]

Love

[@velindamagos341]

Not him listing qualities of an incompetent worker that I have. 🤣 For the record I am a hard worker and proud that I got promoted to corporate. I will continue to rock my dark colors and drive my Nissan Altima. 😂

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

The advice in this video is oversimplified. I learned that you cannot make people like you. People are not going to like you just because you work hard. Sometimes when you work hard, employers push you even harder now. Then coworkers are to going to hate your guts because they have to harder now. Some jobs that I had, I worked hard for nothing. The employer still found a way and reason to get rid of me. I learned that people in general are lazy. They do not like working. Most of my coworkers were lazy bastards. Now about being nice. Being kind and nice does not make people like you. Being nice just makes life more pleasing, avoids conflicts, and helps make people get along with each other. People getting along with each other depends upon mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation. You can throw in good manners, courtesy, and being considerate. Those things must exist or else you will not get along. Notice that I said 'get along' and not 'people are going to like you', 'people are going to want to be with you' or 'somebody will want to marry you.' There were many times in my past, I did huge favors for people, gave them gifts for certain occasions, and extended every possible courtesy and they still did not think of me as a friend. They did not reciprocate. They were not there for me in my darkest moments. They were not even that nice to me. That's the thanks I get? That means all my good actions got me absolutely nowhere. I saw a case on Judge Judy that a lot of people can learn a lesson from. It was a case of a guy who had a house for rent. He rented the house to this woman. He liked her, so he gave her cheap rent and bought her two big-screen TVs for her to enjoy while living there. He started hitting on her and she rebuffed him. Then she found a boyfriend and the boyfriend moved in with her. That made the landlord very angry. Now, he jacked up the rent. Soon afterwards, she moved out and took the two TVs with her. He was suing her because the TVs were not gifts. They were just there for her to enjoy while living there. Look what happened. He gave her cheap and two big-screen TVs and she still was not interested in him. I do not believe in love. I believe all relationships are simply personal investments. I think everybody should read the book, How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie. There is a lot of valuable information in there about human nature. Unfortunately, life is not like those children's fairy tales or those stupid Hollywood sitcoms. Life is cruel to a lot of people and a lot of people have to learn to live with life's disappointments. The more I get to know people, the more I come to the realization that being alone is not so bad after all.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

bmo, you don't believe in love; you think being alone is not so bad. You've made your choices.

[@TreasureForeverOfficial]

Nissan Toyota’s and Honda’s are affordable cars? I feel like I’m missing something there.

[@mandyford7357]

couldn't help but notice you have the Wizard of Oz in many of your videos, any relation to Des O'Connor?

[@TheWizardOfWords]

No, I don't know Des O'Connor. Somebody gave me that poster and I liked it. I'm afraid you won't see it in newer videos because I redesigned my office--but you'd see it if you stopped in for a visit. :) :)

[@scrambler008]

@DanOcannor Dan I need your help! I have a huge problem, I felt you just mentioned me in this video. I have a 14 yrs and a 7 yrs old Toyota. And I wear Gray, Black and Navy Blue alternately at work and at home :(

[@TheWizardOfWords]

OMIGOD, seek help immediately. Start with the nearest clothing store and car dealerships :)

[@HeavenlyLights]

Where I presently live people always WANT something from me. It is annoying. How do I get this to stop?

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Tell them no.

[@elainedoremus2688]

I'm one of those customers who doesn't give a darn if there are one or two products left. That tactic does zero for me. I'm extremely frugal, so I'll either do without for the time being or find a substitute product.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Hard to relate to that. For example, on her tombstone my mother wants her grandson (my nephew Eamon) to have the following engraved. "Grandma was many things, but she was NOT penurious. I hope he remembers because she'll come back to haunt him if he doesn't.

[@TF80s]

I'm still confused as to how to show kindness and compassion without making yourself look like a Mother Teresa wannabe..some people have a naturally kindhearted nature but not me so I always look and feel so fake when I'm trying to be nice and everyone around me resents it but I don't know how to come across more genuine.

[@lifebydesign9435]

It's living in the moment. Finding out what they actually need not want! Most importantly listen and look for patterns. Don't do shit to always release tension between you another. It escalates a situation and it's normal to feel negative from time to time. Stress can be healthy. It's not always being right but doing the right thing.

[@mitraskolander9085]

I have a question about being a Slacker. Does it Mean you have to be great at your job/competent or does it Mean you have to be trying your best/good attitude?

[@mitraskolander9085]

Cause you can try really Hard but not be good at the job... 🤷‍♀️

[@TheWizardOfWords]

A slacker is not someone who tries and sometimes comes up short. A slacker is someone who does not try, and who is lazy. A slacker CHOOSES not to carry his/her weight. It is more about effort than about attitude. Having said that, if you are NOT competent at your job, despite trying, you are perhaps in the wrong field and should consider a change.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

True, Minnie, and if that happens consistently, I would recommend looking for a new job--but NOT because you are a slacker. You need a job that you can perform competently; we all do. :)

[@trishawallingsford4146]

Omg!!! Call me out!!! Toyota ❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

:) :) :)

[@acoustic4037]

Yes Dan! I used to give people $700.00 hvac service calls for free, as goodwill. I discovered they placed a value to my skills and time based on the price...nothing. So how do you bless those in need of a break? All I know is, very very few times in 40 years has anyone helped me out to such a degree.

[@christinebeames2311]

acoustic4037 yes , I ran a friend around in my car ,shopping hostpital doctors , relatives ,etc for 20 years , looking back now , I can see she took it all for granted and gave very little in the way of time or effort back to me , she is now an ex friend , I had enough ,

[@patriciacole8773]

It’s on the heavenly records tho…

[@7777Cheri]

😂😂😂❤

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

I suppose Jennifer Lopez got married several times, because she's a dear, sweet person. Her super sexy looks had nothing to do with it.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Jennifer Lopez' marriages may or may not have had anything to do with being liked, bmo. The same applies to her divorces.

[@rachel9725]

Dan must have been reading Harry Potter.

[@shyshannon7180]

[@kathrinjohnson2582]

No thanks. Those simpletons at my place take way to much interest in me as it is. Maybe I should start sacking off 🤔🙁🤪

[@bonniehoffman9346]

Starbucks my favorite place that's where I go get away from older cuckoo lotsas

[@OneironauticalOne]

Whats funny is our Toddler-In-Chief does the exact opposite of all of these things :D.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Let's see, if I agree am I being political or would I simply be in agreement that the INDIVIDUAL in question does not communicate mindfully in any meaningful sense???? :) Dan

[@OneironauticalOne]

Sorry yes this individual, outside of politics, could benefit from your courses.

[@lisajones1140]

OneironauticalOne I find listening to the Chiefs full daily activities and full speeches, he is quite kind and funny. The White House --on you tube basically shows his activities of the day. He is not a polished communicator, but is gets things done and a lot of people that actually know him, like him. Again, listening to his full activities, instead of the clips on mainstream media, may change your opinion of him. He has a good sense of humor. He is not perfect. But he is our president and deserves respect.

[@OneironauticalOne]

Don't get me wrong he knows how to work a crowd. However there is a difference between inspiring people and working them into a fervor. He constantly speaks purposefully with disgust inducing triggers like "swamp, coward, rapists, murderers". He uses this and many other tactics to make his base act on emotion rather than logic. This is a common tactic of dictators and other fascist governments to bolster fear and action. Even if we make it out of his presidency without World War 3, I despise his rhetoric.

[@mandyinseattle]

@@OneironauticalOne I'm not sure anything or anybody could reach him at this point.

[@jamiekrista]

Dan, a couple of things. Love your videos and have learned a lot however I have to point out a few disturbing things. First of all, you say that you are not political, yet you bring up world leaders and clearly have a liberal slant in your opinions that are not necessarily shared. If the opposite of strength is love, then our current leader who you are clearly referring to has been strong enough to withstand lies, cheating and slander and still is the voice of unborn babies and the American people. No matter what is thrown at him, he comes back swinging in defense of his mission. Just look at the unemployment rate. Look at the lines and any Trump rally that has ever been held as people wrap around the block and stadiums are packed to the rafters. Secondly, I think you should save the word crucifixion for someone who’s actually been crucified, on a cross. None of the people in your audience have been anything close to crucified and, out of respect, that word should be reserved for those who have suffered crucifixion.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Jamie, the fact that I am not political does not mean I won't comment on public individuals whose communication and personal style I view as destructive and divisive. The fact that I am not political means simply that I don't care what party such people represent. "Party" is irrelevant to me, but "people" are relevant. Reprehensible is reprehensible, and I don't alter my presentations based on whether or not my views will be popular or will either win or lose subscribers. In my work I make no attempt to walk down the middle of the road. There are enough people in this world back-peddling and equivocating to gain popularity, and I don't want to walk with them. As I've stated before, Jamie, I am neither political nor religious (defined as being a member of a particular religion). This is not to say I don't espouse spirituality; I do. As to crucifixion, it is a word that immediately evokes suffering and I use it for its power, not for its religious implications. If you can come up with a more powerful word, I'll consider using it going forward. I hope I've answered your questions, Jamie, if not your concerns. Dan

[@jamiekrista]

Thanks for your response:) your awesome overall body of work is certainly worth a few cringy comments and certainly pretty common place considering the media (and Hollywood) has a big voice, despite being in the minority compared with American citizens who chose this man to be our leader in the first place, just as he is, and continue to support him to this day. Thanks for all your do😁

[@fazbell]

@@TheWizardOfWords Just one MORE reason to like this channel. I really think there are some workplaces that even you couldn't deal with effectively, but in most normal situations, the advice is excellent. I hope you get filthy rich.

[@mandyinseattle]

I don't believe separating families and keeping babies in cages and letting them die is kind or compassionate or something any leader should aim to do, nor is threatening and calling names and lying and cheating on your taxes leadership qualities. And that hair.... Dan, you are spot on about threats