Dealing with Fear in Open Relationships

[@quadsman11]

Thanks for doing this video ! I think fear is the no.1 motivator for NOT pursuing the open relationship you both thought you wanted in the first place ! Then, just when you both thought you worked through that original fear, in comes that next wave of fear yet again ! Occasionally, when we don't actually talk it through, it becomes easier to just not pursue that next step in the relationship dynamic ! Talking about the fear, is the absolute only way to get past that fear, and not have it control you, or limit your relationship !

[@maxashish]

Hey my dear love John and Jackie I love you both from heart......Your voice and energetic help me to motivate myself in this stressful world., .. One day I will definitely meet you.. Take care my love ❤❤❤ 😊

[@Mrchingchingdingding]

Hey John and Jackie! I'm reaching out to you on here because I've been a subscriber of your channel for awhile and really enjoy the way you address very specific relationship topics. I'm 25 in a 3 yr relationship with the love of my life, 22, and this past Dec. I suggested she go out to her friend's coworker to do the deed without me. I had hoped it would open up the door to swinging and experiences with other women or couples in general, if she ended up liking it. Long story short, we had a cataclysmic fight when she came home too tired to reciprocate my excitement and certain promises that were made were not upheld. The fights that ensued in the following weeks really revealed a lot of my weaknesses as a partner and set us on a better path forward. I still have that kink tho, and I've always been the more sexually adventurous of the two. My question is that given that we like this dynamic and both are now more comfortable with exploring it further when we regain our intimacy, I feel like due to her natural extroversion, social dancing lifestyle, and being a woman more generally I feel afraid that there will be an imbalance in the number of these experiences she has alone, and those that I can enjoy alone or together. I am an introvert and very loyal, we want a monogamish relstionship where sex is the only door we open to others, and I'm uncertain that she'll understand how hard it is for me as a man to find the opportunity to engage in casual sex with women who, at least in our society, commonly treat sex as a gift to romantic partners exclusively. I imagine if I actively pursued any number of women I'd create those opportunities, but we don't want an open relationship where we share our emotional selves with others. I've told her my concerns and she seems to understand my point about the respective differences in accessibility to casual sex that men face and I anticipate leading to an imbalance of experiences, and she told me she'd actively try to arrange something with the women she meets when we get to a place where she feels secure with me again. But am I the only guy who feels this way? I'd love to hear about each of your views to the idea of keeping things balanced sexually so that neither partner feels left out or as an inferior sexual being in a relationship where it may be easier for one partner to arrange those experiences for themselves. I know some women may feel similarly and that I may be brushing with a broad stroke when I chalk it up to gender, but even casual dating apps show men women are far more closed off to strictly sexual relationships than men who often have to pursue them aggressively. I don't want to close this door for us, resent her, or cause her to resent me for asking for her help. But I don't want to be overly accomodating to her sexual needs, now that she knows what a thrill it can be, when I have yet to experience things myself. I just don't want to feel like I'm participating in something unfair. Could you please do a video to help me understand how Jackie would respond to you John, hypothetically? And how you might do the same John, if Jackie came to you with a concern like this? Thank you!

[@openlove101]

You do bring up some great points and yes, we agree, a video on the subject would be valuable. Thanks for sharing.

[@Mrchingchingdingding]

@@openlove101 Thanks so much guys! 🙏

[@cyberbro071]

Open for married couples without children?

[@allizaib1823]

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