Our IVF Transfer Failed...

[@ThePasinis]

Thank you all so much. Everyone is so kind. I just want to clarify because it is confusing in the video, that I wasn't apologizing to Alessio because I felt that I had failed him or that the failed transfer was my fault. I was apologizing because he had not wanted to take the test in that moment, but I did. So, when it came up negative, I was worried he wasn't ready to process those emotions like I was. I was apologizing because in that moment, when I saw his emotions, I felt bad for pushing it. I had already been working through my possible emotions over the last two days, so what is shown here in the video is two people processing different things. For me, it was more confirmation and acceptance, but for Alessio, it was total shock and more of a fresh, raw surprise. Hope this helps clarify. Again, I am so humbled and grateful for everyone's kindness and love. I truly feel it and appreciate every one of you! -Jessi

[@yasminagreen306]

Dear Jessi and Alessio, I am so sorry to hear about this outcome for you. I was rooting (and will continue to do so). You two will be amazing parents. I am guessing you have considered adoption already, perhaps I didn't see that video if you talked about it. Wondering if that is an option you two will be considering? Love your content and the best of wishes to you on your IVF journey!

[@antigrace1]

Bless you two.❤ I know that God is holding you in His hands.🙏🏻❤🕯 Thank you for so bravely sharing your journey.❤

[@Surreal452]

Jessi, keep testing! The second line doesn't always show up if HCG levels are still very low in the very, very early stages. I wouldn't give up yet! 🤞

[@julieberryman6917]

You both deserve the best and I know you will have the family you’ve always wanted. Try to be encouraged. Hugs to you both. I pray that you feel uplifted.

[@absowell1010]

Jessie I’m in Raleigh, NC and I would gladly be your surrogate. My heart breaks for y’all. You both are meant to be parents and WILL BE the most amazing parents to your miracle baby. I would be so happy to help y’all in any way. Y’all brighten so many people’s lives with your content. I cannot imagine your heartache. Please don’t lose hope. Y’all are going to be parents. This is another challenge that y’all will overcome. Sending y’all all the love and positivity that I have in me. Y’all will get there 🙏🏽❤️

[@LearningToLinka]

Jessi, you keep saying you’re sorry and I want to remind you - this is not your fault. You did not fail. You are not broken. You have not made this happen. 💜💜

[@mattandchristijohnson1111]

This 👏👏👏

[@darahhart5872]

I came here to say similar. No need to apologize or feel at fault. ❤

[@ansr8859]

All our love and support goes to you two. You are not broken, you are whole and you are on your journey to being who you need to be. I am so thankful that you two are there for each other and have such a beautiful relationship as you navigate this journey. Sending peace, love, strength, and all the perseverance you need. ❤

[@ShavonMersing]

So much this!

[@CourtneyTaylor10001]

TRUTH right there.

[@JulesfromHouston]

You are so brave to share this very private moment and pain with your viewers. We are all wishing, hoping, and praying for you, and crying with you. The saying I have used in my life to get through these times: Life is not a race, it's a journey. Please keep traveling and fighting for your dream. 💖🤠

[@uvishainarman1368]

Agreed, they both are very brave and strong to share moments like these with us and we all are rooting for you guys ❤❤❤

[@majida2306]

Do not give up guys!

[@Msharri649]

Life is a journey...sending love.

[@mysonsmom9754]

Over 5 years, I had 19 eggs harvested, 17 transferred, only 1 developed, but I miscarried. It’s the hardest road to walk. I know your pain, but it’s also uniquely yours. I’m so sorry. You are not alone and I will pray for God to bless you with your heart’s desire. 💖💕😢 Through adoption, we were blessed with our son. Don’t ever give up. Strive for peace. ❤

[@ronnimesser]

I’m so sorry. I had two miracle children then got diagnosed with stage 3 endometrial adenocarcinoma and had to have a hysterectomy at age 24. I always wanted a large family and felt like something was missing. Then at age 44 I met an amazing man who was widowed with 2 middle school aged children. We were married 18 mos later and from the moment I met his children I felt that whole in my heart filled. Sometimes we get our family in ways we never expected. Sometimes it’s nieces, nephews, friends, birth children, adoption, etc. I am continuing to pray for you both!

[@susanstempien8462]

I feel for you guys. 7 miscarriages, 2 failed IVFs, one ectopic pregnancy, full hysterectomy at 36. BUT it opened our hearts to adoption. We have 4 amazing children, who I feel were meant for us. And it wouldn't have been something we would have done if we had biological children. Stay positive and keep an open mind on different ways to have a family. It's so hard but keep each strong. There is a plan for you guys. U will be amazing parents one way or another!!

[@Susie7760]

Same with my friends. They tried and tried. Decided to adopt a child, and then a miracle conception occurred. Now they have two children as life unfolded in its usual way, not according to our plans, but the way they were meant to be.

[@JustPeaches21]

My mom had terrible Endometriosis and other issues (that I have now too) she was told she wouldn't be able to have kids, then she had me, then a month later had a full hysterectomy. She told me she was so made at God for so long, then I got sick in 7th grade and was in the hospital until basically the middle-end of freshman year. And she said, she understands now, because she would've had no time to take care of another kid. The world works in ways we don't understand and often will never understand but as I'm growing up more (just graduated) I understand the phrase "When one door closes another opens up" I'm currently looking for a open door, but I'm hopeful that one day I'll understand. So never stop looking for that open door because there are kids in foster care and up for adoption that are also looking for a door to open. Possibly for you to be the one that opens that door

[@btscarzella214]

I’m crying with you! I am praying for you both. Lean on God to give you comfort despite this great disappointment. He does not cause anything bad or is He preventing you from getting pregnant. But He will hold on to you with His right hand. Pour out your heart to him, “He is the Gos of comfort”. ❤

[@JC-qb2qj]

Please don’t bring up adoption, it’s not for everyone, I would never even consider it. I find it’s so inconsiderate when people bring this up. We did ivf but would never adopt. As if ivf people have never heard about adoption until your stupid comment

[@daynapayne8110]

My heart hurts for you😢

[@user-xq6ii4ys6n]

I'm so sorry, I laid on the floor and sobbed so loudly with each failure, a neighbour heard me and knocked on my door and I just explained and he gave me the biggest hug. That hug from a stranger and some compassion meant everything to me.I cried watching this, I am so sorry.

[@FMercadoR]

Me too. :(

[@Retrotube17]

Did you succeed eventually?

[@FMercadoR]

@@Retrotube17We did, we have a 3yo and a 1yo!

[@Retrotube17]

@@FMercadoR so happy to know. I wish to be a mother one day. 🙏🏽

[@theseahaswings]

❤❤❤

[@tamaragrba8296]

For me, the test on day 9 of the IVf process showed negative. I did a blood test and it was positive. Now I have a baby girl obtained from 5 attempts of the IVF procedure.. Don't give up people.. I want you to become parents one day..❤

[@heathersund7381]

Same. Pregnancy test was negative and blood test was positive.

[@laura2677]

Same for me too, negative urine test up till 2 weeks.

[@maryannknox7158]

Congratulations 🎊

[@crystaln2429]

I didn't get a positive until 16 dpo with those exact tests.

[@JS-lx9fi]

Did you go for several collection rounds? I thought the process here in the United States seems to be to collect as many viable ones as possible. When I did my fertility preservation they preserved over 20. I don’t want to say anything upsetting it seemed to me like 3 was a small amount. Sorry if I’m upsetting anyone.

[@classy0507]

I appreciate the raw honesty and straightforward video title as opposed to those clickbait titles I’ve seen others post. I’m so sorry the embryo didn’t take this time. In my heart I wish it was a false negative 😢 I’m praying for things to look up for you both ❤️

[@renateca78]

Dear Jessie and Alessio, I went through this 4 times. I did the tests at home before going to the laboratory. Despite the sadness, I would rather stay sad at home and cry with my husband than have the doctor call me saying it wouldn't work (which always happened later). At least for this call I was already prepared. It is difficult. I understand your frustration. If I could give some advice, I don't know if it's your idea, but if you are open to adoption, this helped me a lot in my psychological process. Here in Brazil, the adoption process takes more than 2 years. So when I started trying to get pregnant I joined the adoption queue. It was very good for me because I felt that while one side was going wrong, the other side was going right and that I would be a mother anyway, because in my heart I felt like a mother. Don't give up on your dream. I'm sure at some point you will be blessed with a child. One way or another. Today I have Alice who turned 8 years old. I'm half Brazilian and half Italian and I identify so much with your story. I keep hoping and praying. Hugs, Renata

[@plaidpaisley5918]

Cry. Dont hold back. We are mourning with you and praying for what's next.

[@ninasartorio1065]

Hi. I just wanted to say my IVF also failed today. I was cheering for you and us during the tww. I also saw a double rainbow here in Belgium a couple of days ago and I thought this was the time my rainbow baby would come. It is such a hard road. But know 1) you're not alone 2) you guys came already sooooo far 3) we'll find strength to keep going. I am wishing you guys all the best. Give yourselves a lot of self love and time to recover. Sending lots of love your way.

[@emiliadonoghue6770]

❤

[@noahsummers5513]

I am so very sorry for your loss, Nina. 💔 Praying for your rainbow baby to be in your arms soon. 🙏🏼⛈️ 🌈

[@Bear_the_shepherd]

I'm so sorry, sweetheart. i pray for your peace x

[@warriormamma8098]

I am so sorry for your loss. I have a rainbow baby. It has been 18 years since she was born. I know our lost children will be waiting to meet us one day. Energy can not be created nor destroyed. Only change forms. I pray everyday for pregnant moms, hopeful would be moms, unborn babies, postpartum moms, newborns and anyone grieving the loss of a loved one. I pray you are comforted and know that someone is thinking of you from Orlando, FL. Air hugs.

[@lplummerRD]

Thinking of you in your journey. All the prayers.

[@diluvsny4055]

I’m really sorry but the way you support and comfort each other is beautiful.

[@rebeccaknight9712]

My heart goes out to you so sincerely. My husband and I navigated years of infertility and miscarriage and we ultimately ended up adopting our (now 17 y.o.) daughter. During that time there's no way I would have been able to share a video like yours. I'm certain that watching your story will be helpful and encouraging to someone else who is going through the same thing. I am sending prayers -- that you will know the next right step for your family and that you will have peace through it all. I will say that finding a good doctor who helped me find the right medication to manage my depression and anxiety relative to my infertility was something that really helped me. Sending prayers and positivity from New Orleans.

[@itsm3333]

Thank you for the rawness of this whole journey. You don’t have to share your private and intimate sorrows but you still do. That is courageous. You guys are amazing. There is nothing wrong with you. I am struggling too with infertility and we just started the whole process of thinking about surgery for my endometriosis then IVF. I’m very tired and scared and overwhelmed. Thank you for showing the world that you real and you have real emotions. It’s not always about “looking good” on KZbin. May God bless you and hold you. You are both so loved.

[@neboderkica]

Huuuugs from 50 y old whose twins will turn 13 this saturday. They came after 3 IUI and 5 IVFs. Every single second was worth it. ❤❤ Huuuuuuugs and stay strong, dont give up!

[@amandasmith5344]

how is bragging about your own success going to help these people? People without suffering have no idea what to say to people who are and it drives me nuts.

[@ayodari_style]

@@amandasmith5344I think she’s just trying to share that she’s been through it herself to show she understands?

[@-Brige-]

​@@amandasmith5344she says that there is still hope. How is that mean?

[@brittanyclark7931]

@@amandasmith5344 she was offering hope through sharing her story of suffering. You’re ridiculous.

[@neboderkica]

@@amandasmith5344 if you gone through this, you cruel one, you would get that this is not bragging. They will understand. You have no clue, and on the top of it, youre rude. Disgusting even. To assume that my 10 years of battle with infertility is bragging. Nobody said something not even near rude to me in 50y like this one. Shame on you.

[@whatmattersmost4]

I'm heartbroken for you guys. The pain is so real and you are allowed to be angry and sad. I really wish people (especially people who have dealt with infertility) wouldn't comment stuff like "don't give up", "it will happen for you some day",... You don't know that. Unless you have a crystal ball please refrain from these comments as they are incredibly hurtful. Also, whatever way a couple decides to move forward is completely their choice and no choice a couple can make should ever be considered "giving up" by someone else. Just my two cents as someone knowing the pain of infertility and stillbirth.

[@Surreal452]

I agree, but it's hard not to offer hope when you've come out the other side of it after feeling completely hopeless!

[@roesi1985]

@@Surreal452 You could just offer compassion and leave it at that!

[@ssergium.4520]

Thanks for the enlightening moment regarding “never give up!”. It’s always meant in a positive way but you’re right it. No matter what they do, it’s not “giving up”

[@whatmattersmost4]

@@ssergium.4520 I honestly think that most people say it with the absolute best intentions. But I know that for myself and for other people who have dealt with infertility and stillbirth/child loss it can pull some triggers. Thanks for being so open and interested to see this side as well!

[@fallenangelwi25]

I've been pregnant 16 times with 3 surviving biological children. They told me after my 10th was beaten out of me, I would never have kids. Don't give up hun!!! All in God's time. Prayers for peace and baby sprinkles!!!

[@veroniquenoel3018]

We have a similar story 14 pregnancies, 2 multiples and 3 living children

[@fallenangelwi25]

@veroniquenoel3018 it's not something I would wish on anyone. I'm sorry you know what I have felt. However, I am thankful you have surviving kiddos, too. Sometimes, when life is rough, it helps me to remember all the hell I've come through and how strong I am. Sending hugs your way!!!

[@carmeldelintsch8643]

There are no words to describe how sad I am for you. One day you will be amazing parents. Sending you much love!

[@cristinaxx6440]

How hard ? If you had to go through that will be not more reasonable to adopt a kid that is already in this planet and was having a bad luck from the start ?

[@fallenangelwi25]

@@cristinaxx6440 a lot easier said than done. Not everyone has thousands of dollars to adopt just laying around.

[@CookingwithChefDai]

“A Frictionless Life Is Also A Life Without Traction”. This is one of my favourite metaphors. I know it’s hard but don’t lose faith or hope guys. Sending much love and strength x

[@edwindalimburgo4837]

Don`t give up Jessi and Alessio! The world needs new little Ital-Americani! We just need them. Go on and never give up!🤗🤗💪

[@murpyslaw]

so sorry guys, I'm with you. 8 years of infertility , closed this journey 1.5 year ago, I felt finally free. Started adoption journey a while ago, not sure how this will go, but I just want to live my present to the full, no matter what. No pain, no grief. You are so brave for sharing this with other people, I wasn't that brave, kudos to you! I know comments don't help, sometimes encouraging comments are even more painful, because the reality is that this may never happen to you (but it may still happen to you). I just wish you to be happy , come whatever may.💚

[@kathyhughes502]

We failed for three years, gave up hope , then bam, bam, bam.... 3 kids, 38 years later. Please don't give up. Thank you for sharing. You are loved 💖

[@mydailyreward2090]

This comment is not helpful

[@macyspires9710]

That's exactly what I was going to say @coxscreekbaptistchurch

[@RIPolos]

@@mydailyreward2090 Disagree. It was heartfelt and sweet and encouraging

[@goldpizza7225]

Her point was that it can sometimes sporadically happen so don’t lose hope over 1 fail

[@amandasmith5344]

I'm not sure subjective anecdotes are great at this point to people who are suffering with their own story that may not end the way yours did. I know people would do this with us until we lost our twin boys and oldest son and no one had anything to say anymore, thank God.

[@nadyahristova6473]

It is very brave to share this online. Thank you. You make so many people feel a little less alone in this journey

[@One_eyed_penguin]

Keep trying. My parents tried iVF for 9 long years before I came about - have faith and keep at it

[@najatm]

Jessi, don't say sorry. Your baby is waiting for you. Your baby is waiting for YOU. He/She will come. Don't be disappointed, don't be afraid, just know YOUR baby will come.

[@cetterus]

no doubt

[@richlo8887]

Don't you mean they/them will come?!!!!!

[@nicolad8822]

Unfortunately maybe not. At least not a baby she can carry herself. Surrogacy, Adoption, who knows.

[@najatm]

@@richlo8887 if they are planning to have twins

[@richlo8887]

@@najatm No. Just one baby, Einstein!

[@mamamoats4890]

Please please dont apologize! I cannot fathom how hurtful this is.

[@Uncocochanel379]

Why is she apologising?!

[@noise6869]

​@@Uncocochanel379she wrote it herself.

[@karenmorris2112]

@@Uncocochanel379she wrote in a comment that she was apologetic because she wanted to test before the blood test, Alessio didn’t want to and she felt like she put a little pressure on him to test because she had already started to make leave that it was negative but he was let ready to test it to accept that. So she was apologising for that. Not because it failed.

[@nataliapinto1469]

I remember that feeling. I'm so sorry....We tried everything. IVF, Adoption, surrogacy is illegal where I live..... I needed an hysterectomy which I hated but now I'm kind of glad, cause it helped me move on....After so long wishing to be three we are learning to be happy just the two of us. I'm not yet fully on the other side, I still feel between child free and childless.... But I'm trying to focus on everything we can do as a couple, and doing those things, and trying to feel complete with what we have. And we have so so much love, just like you guys.... Now we are making new plans with all the money we aren't going to spend anymore on treatments.... We are going to travel and have fun, go to adventures together. My new dream is to go to as many amusement parks as possible.... I hope you can find hope and happiness in the life you get to live. But I know how hard it is. I'm so so sorry 😔😢❤

[@alexandrabetancourtgil9379]

I am sorry. Receiving the news of a negative test after a transfer is difficult to digest and the emotions that are felt are so personal and specific to your journey. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable moment with us. Jessi, you don’t need to explain to us what you said in that moment. You are opening a door to your lives to spread awareness in this journey and this is already a huge step that is not easy to make. From a fellow fertility/IVF warrior, although I don’t know you, you are in my prayers. Continue to support each other to navigate through this result and your decision to the next steps.

[@pennyauffert6852]

My heart is sad but please do not give up.

[@faithhakkarainen8776]

Big hugs, there are no words that can describe the feelings you must have and how much we all wanted this for you.

[@animegirl27516]

I'm so sorry! I'm currently battling my own IVF journey and understand all the emotions associated with it. Sending love! ❤

[@annakrol6912]

Best of luck on your journey ❤

[@BlueBird-nf2gp]

Best wishes to you! Hugs❤

[@AudreyH-m4o]

Thank you so sharing your most vulnerable moments with us; we join in your sadness. This is not the end!

[@christinehughey5949]

Jessi, please don't feel the need to apologize. You've done everything possible for this to happen. When you finally become a mom, you'll be amazing!

[@SIP123abc]

That is for Alessio to be telling her. Sad that he didn’t.

[@noise6869]

​@@SIP123abcthere's an explanation by Jessi herself about this topic.

[@karenmorris2112]

@@SIP123abcalessio needs time to process the grief too.. he doesn’t always have to be the strong one. They are both supporting each other. It’s not about what he said or didn’t say during that video. He is allowed a moment of silence to process.

[@SIP123abc]

@@karenmorris2112 and she is allowed to not feel blamed but okay.

[@missjo2036]

It's hard not to feel like a failure when you go through IVF and it fails.

[@lisaharvey3453]

I’m so sorry. I know how painful this is. 22 years ago we were in the same place. While we never got the desired outcome we did end up on another path and adopted 2 babies. They made everything better and I don’t regret it for a single second. Prayers and love coming your way.

[@susandevinenapoli7649]

I hated that emotional rollercoaster. 33 years later I tear up with you. This much love has a place to go you will find it.

[@holliedisla2289]

I appreciate you being so vulnerable. The emotional pain is very strong. Take the time to grieve, cling to each other, and let yourself feel.

[@ilovetosweetthings]

Don’t give up hope!!! ❤️❤️❤️ We also struggled with infertility, and lost my first pregnancy conceived through ivf. It was an identical twin pregnancy at 5 months along due to TTTS. We kept on trying and after three egg retrievals we were blessed with a beautiful, healthy son. I recommend maybe not sharing the transfer next time and waiting after a positive test or negative. I think sharing the whole process might add more unnecessary pressure and affect the outcome. During my successful transfer, I didn’t tell anybody about the transfer, only my mother and didn’t tell anything to anyone until I was 12 weeks along.

[@lynnchamberlain781]

My heart hurts for you. I will continue to say prayers for you. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable moment. ❤️‍🩹💝🙏🏻🤞🏻🙏🏻🤞🏻

[@LifewithAuj]

Each time you do IVF your chances are higher and higher. Mine also failed the first try but doesn’t mean it hurts any less. Prayers 💞

[@stephaniestuart3025]

My heart hurts for you both. Sending prayers.

[@beatrizblancorossi]

Don't hold back. Cry, let it all out. Always check the sensibility of the test (10ui, 25ui) Here 2 failed IVFs, 2 cirurgies, 1 chemical pregnancy and 1 that possibly became molar. But don't give up. We are fighting the same battle. I'm living this and you give me strength as I hope to give it to you too.

[@claralorena6828]

This made me cry... You 2 love eachother and are so wonderful together. Do not loose hope. I am wishing you the best of luck!

[@MaryBonYT]

It is SO painful! I'm crying with you guys. I'll keep praying! ♥️

[@anettszondra9026]

I was told at the clinic NOT to test for 14 days, because there are too many false results before the 14th day.Don't give up hope!! You have 2 more embeyos, the next one will stick! Sending much love!!

[@SharonRepici]

They only have one more embryo. 😢

[@anettszondra9026]

@@SharonRepici that one will stick!🙏🏼

[@nelzzz89]

@@anettszondra9026maybe. You don’t know that. Let’s me positive but don’t give false hope either.

[@anettszondra9026]

@@nelzzz89 well, I just repeat what my hubby said after 5 years of failed IVF treatments. If he wouldn't have said that our almost 5 months old baby son wouldn't sleep next to us. I hope you don't mind if I wish the same for this very lovely couple?

[@SolunaV]

I just did some research but apparently it's recommended to test after 16 days. I am not even religious anymore but I will pray for them😢

[@louannbinkley6456]

Prayers for each step of your future ... holding you in my heart and in prayer.❤

[@toureiffelusa]

I'm so sorry guys - Sending love!

[@fathimaasmitha9768]

Dear, don’t give up! Just keep Trusting your Body that it can do it. You will feel the miracle soon.❤

[@guayaquilindependiente8763]

My parents had me at 39 (mom) and 41 (dad), and my sister at 41 (mom) and 43 (dad)… they both found each other when they were older and decided to have my sister and me… I don’t know how stressful it was for them and how complicated life was in the anticipation, but I have to assume it’s something like this. Hope you guys are well, I send you the best of wishes and I’ll pray for you at mass.. life goes on, don’t give up :)

[@marloulman104]

My heart...ouch. I wrote before. I'm 70, & was told I'd never have children. My 2nd just turned 35. My 1st is 45, & we're waiting for grandchild #6. I lost 2. Don't give up. Did fertility tx. Trust God! My mom used to say it's not carrying a child it's raising them. There are so many children in need of a loving home. Adoption is always an option. You 2 have so much love & will make wonderful parents. Pray & remember all the signs you've had. The pictures of those angels. It's OK to cry! Heck I don't personally know you, & I'm crying.

[@mrbigdaddym]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 I was adopted and chosen to be blessed in my life.

[@MaryJane-bk9vj]

Thank you so much for pointing out adoption.❤ Seems a sensible solution also for a child.

[@mrbigdaddym]

@@MaryJane-bk9vj quick fact - my adoptive mother could not conceive so I was adopted. A couple years later she became pregnant all natural style. I guess something in her maternally fixed itself. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@MaryJane-bk9vj]

@@mrbigdaddym What a beautiful story.❣️

[@a0ch]

There’s so many unhappy adoptees online, that it scares me to adopt. Are you happy? You seem to be from your comment 😊 Many people I see online feel like they were a band aid to infertility. I would never want to make a person feel that.

[@lisacorcoran7327]

@@a0ch Don't be scared to adopt. My adoptive parents were the best ever and I miss them deeply every single day now that they're gone. They'd been married 16 years when I was placed with them (they were 38 and 42, at a time when infertility was not well understood). Every family has their challenges, but they had plenty of love to give and that's what children need most of all.

[@renaissanceroamers]

I’m so sorry. You both are always in my thoughts and prayers.

[@chrischevalier1980]

I’m so sorry, I pray for you guys every day.

[@claireskinner9077]

I’m sorry this wasn’t your time, but at least it lets you move into the next stage making decisions about when to move etc with clarity. I firmly believe you will get your child, but maybe the universe knows something you don’t about the timing, and will reveal it all soon. In the meantime we gentle with yourselves and each other. Any loss is heartbreaking, and you’re grieving the possibilities you’d imagined and hoped for. Sending you love and light.

[@ellendorian]

I'm so sorry for this news. I was in your place so many times, so I am e en more in awe of both of you for being willing to share your experience. Millions of people all over the world will feel less alone because you are so brave and open. You are wonderful.

[@amysimonbiz]

Oh sweet Jessi, you have nothing to be sorry for. I was never able to conceive and had a complete hysterectomy at age 33 due to countless cysts and endometriosis that it took several hours to remove the endometriosis from my internal organs and that was with my surgeon using the “divinci robot”. I felt I failed my husband who was always upbeat and said we could look into adoption or foster care but in the end we decided due to a few other chronic health issues I have (multiple sclerosis) that we would just be the best Aunt and Uncle for our siblings children as well as our close friends children. I sometimes feel a little sad but we have the best furbabies and spoil our nieces and nephews rotten and it’s always rewarding watching them grow and become these amazing humans that I’m honored to be related to. Seventeen years have passed since my complete hysterectomy and I’m happy. My husband is happy and we actually have a little more money to do fun things and well spoil our nieces and nephews and adopted nieces and nephews (friends kids). You’ve been brave and are my hero with having multiple vaginal surgeries and IVF which we know isn’t for the faint hearted. You’re both amazing humans with so much love in your hearts. I know that you would be awesome parents if you decide to go adoption or fostering route and if you decide to just have furbabies you will be incredible and is rewarding as well! Sending you both so much love, virtual hugs and positive vibes from the US state of Montana. ✨💖✨

[@atala55]

I’m so sorry 💔 Praying for you guys.

[@salvatoreaiello9436]

Carissimi Jessi e Alessio, continuate a lottare ! Siete una coppia meravigliosa! Leggevo... una nota... che ..",,,.Per questo motivo, si raccomanda di aspettare almeno 10-14 giorni per eseguire il test di gravidanza dopo il transfer dell'embrione, perché prima i livelli ormonali possono essere insufficienti per essere rilevati." Speriamo e preghiamo che il test fatto a distanza di due settimane possa darvi un esito positivo!! Coraggio!!

[@stefanociardi7880]

It's so sad, I hope you 2 will reach your goal one day.

[@rhondaray373]

I can't imagine having to feel your emotions through this journey!! My emotions as an outsider just watching are hard enough! My prayers are with you both for whatever path remains to parenthood!!

[@ChristineGraham-dl3dc]

You both are so brave to share your hearts and lives with us. God bless you both. He knows the plans He has for you! Praying for you while you take this journey, especially for this current heartbreak. You are both so strong and so loving. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!

[@annelouise6120]

So sorry. I don't want to cry, but crying my eyes out. You are going to be okay

[@CaliCavanaugh]

Im so sorry I’ll be praying for you both 🙏🏼🙌🏼

[@juietsza]

You guys are incredibly brave! Thank you for being so vulnerable with us and letting us follow you on a really personal journey. It’s been such an honour to follow along with you!

[@tomssantosusso1274]

I am so very sorry. There can be no comfort anyone can offer you except the comfort of each other. Prayers and blessings.

[@galeem713]

The first one often doesn’t. But the second one usually does. It’s almost as if the first one primes your body and spirit to be ready next time.

[@noise6869]

@@galeem713 I love your comment 💕

[@Lonewolf.1111]

❤

[@AnnabelleRawlins]

It is their second that I know of. They tried in the U.S. first and then went to Italy to try again. I know you were being supportive and probably didn't realize, but this comment might make her feel even worse. Some people try over and over and over again before it finally works and sometimes it never works. There's nothing "usual" about IVF or the rollercoaster of emotions it puts you through. But I love where your heart was at💯❤️

[@LucianaVIP1]

But she had problems not seen by doctors in the US. So, we could say this is their first try in a totally clean uterus? I understand your comment. I think that's what she meant when she said "first" attempt.😊❤​@@AnnabelleRawlins

[@Pixyedust]

@@AnnabelleRawlinsI thought they did not try in the U.S. They researched it but decided to do it in Italy instead.

[@Sahoonie]

I'm sorry it didn't work out Be kind to yourselves, you'll get through this together x Sending hugs x

[@hollin37]

Oh I am so so sorry!! I have been exactly where you are and I know that pain, numbness and disappointment all too well. Big hugs to you two! I wish all the best for you!!!

[@kanalune]

I’m so sorry for you guys 😢 In her mid twenties my mom had a huge cyst on one of her ovaries so it had to be removed. About 10 years later and 2 failed IVF rounds she ended up adopting me and then my 2 other siblings. She just couldn’t deal with the disappointment again even though my dad really wanted to try IVF again

[@nancyzhang3679]

Praying for you two! Don’t give up! Your love and marriage are so so strong ❤

[@miriamscotland3090]

I'm very sorry, I've been thinking about you both. I suffered many early on miscarriages and always knew before I knew. Bless your hearts.

[@noise6869]

Not the news we all were expecting. Sorry guys. Don't lose hope ❤

[@Tyras5534]

So many people routing for them. When this baby comes it will be the most expected baby on Instagram.

[@christinebisset6262]

My heart is very heavy and sad for you both, don't give up, sending much love ❤️❤️❤️

[@trainingolives3370]

Oh my, this breaks my heart for you two. I’m so very sorry. We’re here rooting for you still and feel all of your ups and downs right alongside you. I won’t give you platitudes. It’s ok to just sit in this moment and let it be what it is.

[@Huntingbunnyrabbits]

This is just one step in your wonderful journey. Stay strong, care for each other, and draw strength even from the failures. You guys have this!

[@AlliBaba1234]

So sorry, I wish you comforting self-care for yourselves and each other 🙂❤

[@jeanmarieteresa4067]

I’m so very sorry; you both are in my prayers. Sending hugs and d comfort

[@darlene9084]

I'm so sorry ! I've been praying for you two and positive results every day! I will continue to pray for you both!!

[@lisametheny2243]

I am so sorry. You two will make the best parents someday whenever and however you do it.

[@librarymousemama]

I just want to hug both of you and let you cry on my shoulders. Thank you for sharing real and raw emotions.

[@samuelrave]

So sorry to hear that. I'm praying for you guys! 🙏🏼

[@anxiety4daysmusingmedic891]

I'm so sorry. The disappointment must be earth-shattering. Thank you for sharing such an intimate journey with us.

[@zzzz759]

Jessi, Alessio-you both have me in tears! Sending you both the biggest hug from Florida! Everyone is cheering you on, praying over you both. ❤❤

[@melissafeliciano9531]

Praying that you find peace in your process. God bless you both!

[@CaseyLebowitz]

Going through a fertility journey also, I empathize so deeply with your experience in this video. The ever-present slight hope that keeps you going and the heartbreak that comes with negative results. I am so sorry and pray that you’ll get positive results one day very soon.

[@arieltourmaline6391]

My heart...crying with you guys. Love you so much. You are so unbelievably brave ❤

[@tammyclark2526]

I've never seen such dedication to each other and having a baby. I'm so very sorry. I'm praying for a positive future

[@vickypicoulas]

This pulled at my heart strings and brought memories back to our failed attempts. With every failed attempt I tried to see it as a step closer to finding the resolution. Each trial is like a test run. The doctor's see how they can tweak and make it work for the individual. I can't wait till you make it on top and get your blessing. Prayers for you both.

[@almccormick85]

I missed this update. Im so sorry. You two are such a beautiful couple. We all want this for you. My prayers are with you as you grieve and make future plans.

[@Ourlifedaybyday]

Sending you love!! It just means that little egg and sperms weren't the ones meant to be your baby! I struggled for 3 years with infertility and when I finally had that 1st positive test, I found out the baby was alive but not growing on schedule. 2 weeks later I miscarried. It was tough but I told myself that little baby wasn't meant to make it. My son is now 11... I am sending you all the positive energy and prayers.

[@emmep2749]

While painful, this "no" gives more direction. It points to the next step to be taken. Praying for you.

[@DearVichelle]

There is a special baby just waiting for you both! I am so sorry, but, you will both be amazing parents and consider an angel that is already here on earth please.

[@elliek5350]

First, I want to say I hope your personal journey goes well - whatever your goals and dreams are. At the same time, I can't help wondering what made you want to record this very personal moment to share with thousands of strangers...

[@leonardsusskindswar7258]

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Because that's what it is, and it's okay to feel that way. My best friend is currently going through IVF, and I'm seeing first hand what warriors you guys are. The process to get to a transfer is wild! Jessi, I just want to say you are so incredibly strong. And Alessio, you have been so sweet and always by her side. My friend's first transfer didn't work, but she had recently had surgery to remove an endometrioma. After she had time to heal from the surgery, things went better. I'm wishing so hard for the same for you guys.

[@shellybeck6522]

I am so sorry. I will continue to pray for you two

[@abundantlyblessed1547]

May God bless and strengthen you during this difficult time and give you the desire of your hearts. So many of us are praying on your behalf.

[@cisabelle7304]

I'm so incredibly sorry, guys. IVF is such an emotional roller coaster, it's the hardest part, riding the highs and lows. It took my third try before it was successful. I'm so sorry you're going through this, but please don't give up hope. Sending so much love your way.

[@kristinaj9159]

You have nothing to be sorry for love! We all feel for you. Sending our love and support. You deserve success and I hope it happens soon !

[@andreaillidge9011]

Just want to say stay strong dnt give up . I've just had my 3rd failed transfer . I only have one embryo left . You are young and I'm sure the doctors will work out what happened . sending love to you both .❤

[@janicegilman7672]

😢 💔 oh Jessi and Alessio I am so sorry.

[@CarolanIvey]

I wish I had words of comfort for you. I'm so, so sorry.