Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy As A Couple & Answering Your Questions

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Hi there, we are Eva & Sean Harrison.
A married couple that has overcome retroactive jealousy, ROCD and general relationship anxiety. The first few years together we really struggled with these issues and today we work together to help individuals and couples who feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated and stuck due to intrusive thoughts and mental movies regarding their partner’s past and/or doubts about their relationship today.
Whether you suffer from Retroactive Jealousy, ROCD, Relationship Anxiety or just want some invaluable relationship advice we hope our content helps you.
If you’re an individual or couple suffering with anxiety, confusion, anger, disgust, judgement, intrusive thoughts, trust issues, numbness, uncertainty in your relationship and are trying to keep it together on the outside but are suffering daily on the inside or if you’ve Googled or looked up “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy”, “Overcoming ROCD”, “Relationship Anxiety symptoms”, “ROCD / Retroactive Jealousy why do the thoughts feel so real?”, “How to stop wishing your partner's past was different”, “How to treat ROCD”, “Intrusive thoughts and compulsions in relationships”, “Feeling doubt/questioning my relationship”, “Cure for Retroactive Jealousy?”, “How to overcome Retroactive Jealousy”, “ROCD / Relationship Anxiety or wrong relationship?”, “Relationship OCD urge to break up”, “ Retroactive Jealousy symptoms”, “ROCD symptoms” you’ve come to the right place.
The people we have worked with have experienced and processed how and why these things showed up in their relationships. As well as how it lead to them having intrusive thoughts, feeling angry, sad, anxious and like they are self sabotaging their relationship.
DISCLAIMER: Any information or advice we give is purely based on our own experience, learning and research as well as the methods utilised in Rapid Transformational Therapy, NLP and Hypnotherapy. These methods can be used to get to the root cause of any issue but are not for everyone. There is no guarantee as there are many variables that will impact your success. We are not doctors and always encourage you to work with your doctor for your medical care. If you are in a life threatening situation or contemplating suicide, please seek appropriate medical and professional help.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

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[@moiramai6668]

I’m only 18 and have been suffering with this for a long time. I’m very thankful for your videos because I can now start to work on myself properly by knowing where to start with my young age.

[@saabman7172]

I suffered for the first year of our relationship and I took a long hard look at myself. Deep within. I discovered that I was jealous of what she did in her because I had done it. I knew the feeling of excitement raw sexual pleasure and I was jealous because I didn’t want her to have had that. I wanted her to have that with me, not someone else. Then I learned to realise that I was going to lose the love of my life because of my own insecurities. That was the pivotal moment. I could feel that she was mentally packing her bags to leave and I had to act fast. I took her for dinner and made a promise that the past was the past.. and from that day I’ve never (openly) looked back. Ok, things have crossed my mind, but I’ve just kept my thoughts to myself and managed it in my mind…. It is getting better week by week, month by month, but the thought of losing her brings everything back into perspective. Please be assured that everyone has a tipping point… Thankyou for posting this valuable video.. for all those suffering and reading this, please work on this topic as the results if you don’t are far worse than the mental images you form in your mind, which, to be honest, probably never happened. I wish all who read this success in their journey and hope you live a life of joy and happiness.

[@Manny_Drives]

When i say you hit the nail right on the head on this, you described it literally 1 to 1 as to what i feel. thank you

[@glimpseavila1325]

Wow this true. Im with my partenr for 16 yrs now we have kids and just recently this rj hits me when i we startrd talking about his sexual relarionships before us. This is really hard. Hes always been loyal but this monster is eating me inside and knowing im not alone is such a relief. thank u guys.

[@kennethddunn3116]

I've met that monster that eats you from the inside out. I'm not sure that it can be defeated. My mind just cannot get passed the thought of them together sexually. I struggle everyday with it, and it's really beginning to take a toll on my life! People ask me, "Are you ok? You don't seem yourself today." I just want to lay in bed, hurt, and sleep. My heart doesn't know how to handle the love of my life giving herself away like that. I love her with a broken heart. So I totally understand.

[@Erikoow]

Me too i feel destroyed with grief about somethinf she did 4 weeks before we met. How are you doing now, are you getting better?

[@graemebowes8065]

I’m struggling with this I have to say and looking back it’s ruined every meaningful relationship I’ve had. I am completely exhausted and embarrassed about it all and although you say it can be overcome the way I feel I’m not sure. I worked away for many years when I was younger so most of my previous are from a variety of places who I never see now or probably will again. My wife however has never left our town so for me it’s everywhere. Only today I was in the company of two of them. Ironically she used to work with both of them at the same place and now I work with them both. I don’t hate them, in fact I speak to them both, but it’s resentment I have for my wife. Especially as she was considerably older than them and they are best friends. When we first met she insisted on talking about previous which I felt uncomfortable with, telling me she was only interested in relationships but I’ve gradually found out otherwise. It’s only certain ones I have an issue about, sexually. One I’m actually quite good friends with and I have no issues whatsoever. But the ones I do…well that eats away. This has taken a massive effort to write this as I am so embarrassed and don’t want anyone to know I suffer from this but I just felt I needed to, I guess in some ways to finally admit the problem. After today I think we may need to take a break from each other, again my fault completely not hers I just didn’t handle us all being in the same room together too well. Certain events I believe triggered this a long time ago which I don’t want to discuss but I think I need some closure on…perhaps then I can move on. I do hope so. I’ve a family to think about. Best wishes

[@mr.schwitzer1451]

I know this was months ago, so I apologize for just coming to this now. I couldn't even imagine how difficult that all must be. Each circumstance with this is totally unique. For me I have never even met anyone she was with before me. But when we first got together, she announced it on Facebook and the guy she had been sleeping with literally up to the week before we met posted a bunch of pictures of them being intimate on her Facebook page. So the mental movies I have had to content with were more based from actually seeing at least one of the events. I loved her so I married her anyway and have had this struggle now for 13 years. All I can say and this is not for everyone, is that I love her enough that I would put up with the RJ hell for the rest of my life in order to be with her. Now I just identified the name of this problem and am in the beginning of working through it. In the end you just have to determine, what is worth fighting for. IF she is worth fighting for, then start to look for the tools to fight.

[@MrArthurlandry]

he problem i see (and i and other i know experience it) is that we are "achievement focused"(school, sports, jobs) and busy making our way and maybe a little slow with women. At age 24-25 we feel we are "ready"(having accomplished our goals) and we meet nice similar women(reasonably fit/educated).. However that type woman has been approached for relationship/sex since 18 by guys with resources/experience(college upperclassmen, mid managers at work) and she is unlikely to have rejected them all (most men can go through life without being approached..i was). We are crestfallen and feel a li

[@TheNeskens]

Thank you both for showing that this nemesis could be solved and tamed. Great work!

[@arturelias6418]

Now THIS is the real, non-BS, thing. Chapeau 🙇🏽‍♂️ and thank you both 🙏🏿

[@meifort1154]

You guys are so beautiful inside and out! Thank you both for sharing something so personal in order to help others expiring the same issues. I found this sooo helpful. 🥰❤️

[@dionneyagla5731]

Celebrity crushes, LoL! Oh yes... That's a touchy one too! I actually respect my bf's actress admires. 😉

[@thicc_pork_bun]

This right here was beautiful! I loved the vulnerability you both had and all the information resonated deeply with me. There are a lot of tips I will be taking with me! Kudos to both of you for sharing your story, I loved it!

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Thank you Israel, happy you enjoyed it:)

[@beyza2000.]

You guys are beautiful. This helped me a lot and I'll show to my bf. please keep making these videos and don't care about the amount of people watching commenting or liking it. The people who already subscribed believes u guys are covering our wounds.

[@MrArised]

I have struggled with this in almost all of my relationships and now I got to know that there is actual term for it. I thought it was lack of maturity from my end. Im 35 and in a 1.5 years relationship. She was very open with me from the beginning about her past relationships and I was very forward in telling her that I do not like to hear about past relationships. By time I realized that I don't mind listening or talking abt past relationships but I don't like to hear about one-night stands or hook ups or even when my partner was treated badly but still sticked to that person. I know for a fact that I never enjoyed hook-ups even though I had my share, I never enjoyed them or else I regret them later and ghost then ghost them. This is probably the reason I do not like to hear about my partner's past hook-ups because I probably find them immoral.

[@Carolina-rd3gh]

You’re such a beautiful couple. 🤍

[@cstevens2001]

This was great, thank you.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

thank you:) so happy you found it valuable!!

[@dionneyagla5731]

Thank you for this video 🙂. You are both adorable 🥰. Best of luck to you both ❤️🌹

[@vipinkumar-kf6jr]

Hey, guys,.i hope you're good, i wish you good luck, what i understand about it till today, it's all in mind, emotions like jealousy is a hell, might be good in some places but when those emotions doesn't let us breathe, we should defeat those recurring pattern and stop getting ourselves hurt. that's it. changing the wiring of the brain is still close to impossible but it's possible. Thank you for your videos. I wish you both stay happy and have peace together. 😇

[@reneeramoleta6262]

I struggle so much with this and it’s affecting my relationship, I just didn’t know that there was a name for it 😱.

[@hannahr7483]

I have not fought with my boyfriend about RJ, as I always knew it was a “me” problem, but I still asked questions for reassurance and kept my RJ a secret and suffered by myself. Should I tell him about my RJ or heal by myself?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

I think every relationship is different and there is no right or wrong way to approach it. You know your relationship best, so I would say it's up to you whether or not you want to tell them or not. Maybe weigh up the pros and cons and that will make it easier for you to make the decision.

[@deliarowe8407]

Do you think those that are predisposed to anxiety are more supcetible to RJ. As an anxiety sufferer I believe I won't not ever have anxiety, and I can't believe that I would never have RJ. I believe it can be managed, like anxiety but it doesn't go away 100%. I honestly don't believe this is possible . What did you do to overcome RJ and can you honestly say you don't have triggers. In between has your partner got some South African sounds there? 🇿🇦

[@marybel.beating.cancer]

Loved this, thank you so much, my partner suffers with rj. ..

[@beyza2000.]

I really need help, I've a bf who still contacts his ex for her. He talks with limits, he does not talk often to her. But I started looking in his phone when he sleeps. And I feel terrible. He is loyal to me, but I just can't seem to accept this mysterious ex he talks to. I'm going to talk to him about this topic, and he told me that he can cut contact if I'm uncomfortable. But that makes it even harder for me to tell him to cut contact. He looks like an angel and I want him to keep contact for him. He tries to make me feel safe. But the problem is with me. If I ever become a ex I wouldn't want to cut contact forever with him. So I try to understand his ex's position. But should I just tell my bf to cut contact with his ex? He just tries to make everyone happy he tells me. And that it will be tough to cut contact with his ex. Because she has nobody and goes through hard times. I don't know what to do. This excuse makes me look like a bad person. Like why does his ex need my bf the first place?? IM GOING INSANE PLS HELP ME

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

It is really up to you, and the answer will vary depending on who you ask. One the one hand while you are healing and trying to get over this it would be good for your boyfriend to cut contact for a bit. At the end of the day he is with you now and prioritising the relationship should come first. I would tell him how you feel and see what he proposes to do to help you through this.

[@beyza2000.]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety that helps a lot. Thanks a lot eva!

[@kennethddunn3116]

I would have a very hard time with that. He would have to choose in order for me to continue with him. It will continue to eat at you until it is mutually worked out.

[@alvinsauerberg5291]

what if the current partner is the one that caused RJ to trigger?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

This does happen in some cases, it takes work and time to build up trust again but there is still hope overcoming RJ.

[@YbcA1]

Same here man!

[@YbcA1]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxietyany tips on this? My partner’s comment triggered my RJ I’m working on it but any tips? Especially with core fears