Retroactive Jealousy: How to accept their past & how to handle mental movies?

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Hi there, we are Eva & Sean Harrison.
A married couple that has overcome retroactive jealousy, ROCD and general relationship anxiety. The first few years together we really struggled with these issues and today we work together to help individuals and couples who feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated and stuck due to intrusive thoughts and mental movies regarding their partner’s past and/or doubts about their relationship today.
Whether you suffer from Retroactive Jealousy, ROCD, Relationship Anxiety or just want some invaluable relationship advice we hope our content helps you.
If you’re an individual or couple suffering with anxiety, confusion, anger, disgust, judgement, intrusive thoughts, trust issues, numbness, uncertainty in your relationship and are trying to keep it together on the outside but are suffering daily on the inside or if you’ve Googled or looked up “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy”, “Overcoming ROCD”, “Relationship Anxiety symptoms”, “ROCD / Retroactive Jealousy why do the thoughts feel so real?”, “How to stop wishing your partner's past was different”, “How to treat ROCD”, “Intrusive thoughts and compulsions in relationships”, “Feeling doubt/questioning my relationship”, “Cure for Retroactive Jealousy?”, “How to overcome Retroactive Jealousy”, “ROCD / Relationship Anxiety or wrong relationship?”, “Relationship OCD urge to break up”, “ Retroactive Jealousy symptoms”, “ROCD symptoms” you’ve come to the right place.
The people we have worked with have experienced and processed how and why these things showed up in their relationships. As well as how it lead to them having intrusive thoughts, feeling angry, sad, anxious and like they are self sabotaging their relationship.
DISCLAIMER: Any information or advice we give is purely based on our own experience, learning and research as well as the methods utilised in Rapid Transformational Therapy, NLP and Hypnotherapy. These methods can be used to get to the root cause of any issue but are not for everyone. There is no guarantee as there are many variables that will impact your success. We are not doctors and always encourage you to work with your doctor for your medical care. If you are in a life threatening situation or contemplating suicide, please seek appropriate medical and professional help.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

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[@user-fc5pg9kj8l]

Hello, Eva! I've recenntly found your channel. I'm not an English speaker so I don't understand everything what you say (actually, about 80-90%), but your videos help me a lot to start working on myself. My case is horrible. At almost 40 I haven't had any relationships in my entire life, I failed all my attempts. I dream of the last chance though. Having no partner, I still suffer from RJ!!! Hard to explain, but I feel like even if I get a chance my RJ will ruin everything. And I won't have an extra opportunity cause I'm too old. That's why I watch your videos and prepare for my last attempt to find a woman. P.S. I'm Russian, but I'm totally against the war and absolutely against criminal Putin's regime. So don't despise me, please! It's just my feedback to tell my big THANKS to you.

[@jamiewilson728]

I would love to see a more in depth video on mental movies with rj, and what to do when they occur

[@joaosousa6950]

thank you darling, and your partner too. it is the best content on this subject I've found yet

[@kpas22105]

How about when you are innocently given just enough information to start thinking about what happened? I never asked to be told what I was told and I could tell that she was trying to tell me something without actually telling me. It’s mental torture but I never ever bring it up; I know that it’s my cross to bear

[@aero4eva388]

Great video. Good to have you back making them! Very good information.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Thank you!! Glad you find it useful:)

[@Julio-eh4oz]

I am seeking professional help, but Eva your videos might just save my life keep going please!

[@morgsdavies]

Thanks Eva. Found this really helpful.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Great, happy to hear!!

[@oliviastaszewski9532]

Hi Eva, I’m so glad you’re back to making videos! They honestly help me SO much when I’m struggling with RJ. I’m looking forward to your uploads.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Hi Olivia, I'm really happy to hear the videos help. If you have any specific ideas or questions about what you want to see feel free to comment or message me directly:)

[@user-sm5sz2li6e]

Did you get better??

[@joeglac-xl4nd]

Thank you so much for this video and your positive insights in overcoming this toxic RJ mindset. However my partner was used and abused by many of her previous exes and then dumped. I know some of these people and how they view women, especially those who have a so called promiscuous past. I love my partner but can't stop thinking that I have got her exes plaything. They see me with her and some have made derogatory comments to me on her sequel history with them. Some have even tried to advise me that she is a ....... My partner know nothing about this or how I'm feeling. I'm trying not to judge her but this RJ is creating a major problem in our relationship. To make matters worse she still passes herself with these people when we are out and one of them has tried to come onto her a few times. I am starting to question her self respect even though we are together 5 years and she has been faithful to me. I love her and this RJ is rampant

[@philc9141]

Eva, glad to see you back! I know your videos help a lot of people, me included. Given your area of study, have you ever heard of the Myers & Briggs personality profiles. I stumbled upon this before I had ever heard of rj or as I like to call it rj/e while trying to figure myself out. Diving into my individual profile (isfj) and that of my wife"s (isfj) has really answered a lot questions about why we both do what we do and react the way we do. Just an idea.

[@TheDubdubwubwub]

Thank you for making these videos! I have couple of questions: In your experience, how often fear of abandonment is the root of RJ? Is fear of abandonment and not feeling good enough connected? And can you heal fear of abandonment with hypnotherapy?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Hi Nick, in my experience both of those things are often the root of RJ. It can be both or one of them, it depends on the individual. Yes people heal using Hypnotherapy specifically RTT.

[@TheDubdubwubwub]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety thank you! Great seeing you back.

[@tabassumkausar1119]

Thank you , your videos have really helped me diagnose my problem. Can you plz help me I’m a Muslim woman and husband remarried hence I’m suffering from rj ocd. What to do whilst in a polygamous marriage

[@kenthenry7522]

This really hit home, How can I privately ask you a question?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

You can email us at [e-mail]

[@ankitanayak3373]

I really need your help regarding this! My boyfriend used to love a girl who had a boyfriend so she rejected him. Again he used to have a major crush on a girl who also had a boyfriend so he never confessed to her. They are still good friends. He was also in a relationship with a girl about whom he was not very sure so he left her.. Then he found me and we got into a relationship. We love each other a lot and even plan to marry..he keeps assuring me that I'm the one..But I'm not okay with the fact that he used to love other girls before me..and he wouldn't have been with me if they loved him back. I feel like he just got settled with me because the one's whom he truly loved were already in serious relationships. I keep thinking that do I deserve someone better cause I'm someone who's always been approached by many men but never rejected by any..I love him lot bt still I can't get over these thoughts I fear that I'll ruin this relationship someday..please help

[@itsTheTiana]

My girlfriend sometimes struggles with something similar so maybe I can help you by giving a piece of my perspective. I had two long term relationships before her and she's never had any (and that led her to a large amount of one night stands and other crap that triggers my RJ) so she feels insecure about the fact that everything I'm experiencing with her it's just a known experience for me while for her it's a new one. You know, like the butterflies and the hype. She has told me sometimes that the feeling she gets is of being just "another one", and that if the relationship ends I will be the only one she's loved while I will have her forgotten with a new one. So what I truly want her to understand is that there are no repeated experiences, that she is who she is and everything is new and beautiful because every one of us is different. There is no comparison at all. Now, let me tell you that I would gladly change my RJ with hers, because what I told earlier about her having a promiscuous past really gives me embarassing and shameful thoughts. I'm talking about extreme shit I can't even write. From what you've written I think you will be fine. Love changes its form constantly, and when I think about my exes (and yes, I DEEPLY loved them with my soul at some point) it is just not there anymore. He's not settled with you, he chose you and that is all you need from him. He may have loved other girls but that is just what he had going on in life at that point, nothing to do with you. Hope you recover form the heavy-weighted thoughts, I feel you from the heart :)

[@28taniel]

What about Othello syndrome?

[@Healthymumlife]

Hii My ocd was worse last year This year 4-5 months were awesome , I started to accept my partner nd loves him But 2 from 2 weeks , I start feel bad . I am comparing him to others … Can you plz reply

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Hi, are you suffering from retroactive jealousy or ROCD?

[@Healthymumlife]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety rocd

[@Healthymumlife]

Probably partner based ocd

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

@@Healthymumlife I would recommend books or courses that are ROCD focused. They have helped many people.

[@seanw910]

Have you had clients who have lost sexual interest in their partner due to RJ? Were they able to fix it?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Yes, it is not uncommon for this to happen. Most people are able to fix it.

[@sirfrancipal2187]

You’re speaking Bible verses oh my lord

[@thegreatahgou6100]

I'll book the strategy call and what happens after? You tell me the generic sh1t like "our past doesn't define us"? I'd pay a lot to get rid of some thoughts, just find it hard to believe that talking is enough...

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Firstly, please don't be rude. Secondly, I dont believe in talk therapy either. It works but only up to a point. Hypnotherapy & NLP is what I'm trained in and what I myself and most of my clients have had great results with.

[@Mcfly_2024]

I have always wondered how Ross in Friends has done to never make rj with Rachel ? 🙄🙄🙄

[@BKINDY]

Bro was just happy that he got her

[@ayodejisolomon2835]

Please, Eva, I have sent you a message on Facebook pls reply when you get the chance. Thank you