ROCD & Retroactive Jealousy: How to STOP asking questions!

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Hi there, we are Eva & Sean Harrison.
A married couple that has overcome retroactive jealousy, ROCD and general relationship anxiety. The first few years together we really struggled with these issues and today we work together to help individuals and couples who feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated and stuck due to intrusive thoughts and mental movies regarding their partner’s past and/or doubts about their relationship today.
Whether you suffer from Retroactive Jealousy, ROCD, Relationship Anxiety or just want some invaluable relationship advice we hope our content helps you.
If you’re an individual or couple suffering with anxiety, confusion, anger, disgust, judgement, intrusive thoughts, trust issues, numbness, uncertainty in your relationship and are trying to keep it together on the outside but are suffering daily on the inside or if you’ve Googled or looked up “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy”, “Overcoming ROCD”, “Relationship Anxiety symptoms”, “ROCD / Retroactive Jealousy why do the thoughts feel so real?”, “How to stop wishing your partner's past was different”, “How to treat ROCD”, “Intrusive thoughts and compulsions in relationships”, “Feeling doubt/questioning my relationship”, “Cure for Retroactive Jealousy?”, “How to overcome Retroactive Jealousy”, “ROCD / Relationship Anxiety or wrong relationship?”, “Relationship OCD urge to break up”, “ Retroactive Jealousy symptoms”, “ROCD symptoms” you’ve come to the right place.
The people we have worked with have experienced and processed how and why these things showed up in their relationships. As well as how it lead to them having intrusive thoughts, feeling angry, sad, anxious and like they are self sabotaging their relationship.
DISCLAIMER: Any information or advice we give is purely based on our own experience, learning and research as well as the methods utilised in Rapid Transformational Therapy, NLP and Hypnotherapy. These methods can be used to get to the root cause of any issue but are not for everyone. There is no guarantee as there are many variables that will impact your success. We are not doctors and always encourage you to work with your doctor for your medical care. If you are in a life threatening situation or contemplating suicide, please seek appropriate medical and professional help.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

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[@anon8577]

Spent near a year paying therapist after therapist to try and help me deal with this, non of them helped. Stumbled across stoicism and it helped me to not interact with my thoughts, now everything just breezes over me without acting on the debilitating image. Fundamental OCD techniques are founded from Stoic Philosophy.

[@Sonia-dc3dy]

I keep asking details about my current bf's exes since the reason i broke up with my ex is him telling me that he is still in love with his ex and used me to forget her.I got a trauma,now i want to know everything about my bf's past and his exes.You're helping me a lot thank you so much

[@dakz9296]

So sorry to hear that. It's not right for someone to use you so they can get over someone.

[@ThePinkadelic]

I think if I don't ask him every day, my fear can come true, and the end of the relationship will come soon. It's horrible!

[@TheNeskens]

This video is such on a point. You are making it easier for us sufferers to understand this not well known and understood problem. I truly appreciate your work, knowledge related to this psychological phenomenon, and the way how you approach sufferers and their partners. A big thanks!

[@quynhvu2381]

Love this video. Thank you so much for being so clear. I have RJ of my boyfriend’s past. He was involved with women who were very sexual. They were also marijuana cigarettes and alcohol users. One was high functioning alcoholic. I have always been responsible and goody two shoes. I questioned him a lot about why he could have long relationships (5&7 years) with these women. He was the one who eventually broke up with them. I could understand why I need to put them in a box labeled “scums”. And the struggle For me is he could live with them for a long time, he must be “scums”. I am now with him what does that make me. I will spend next 21 days switching out my thoughts to my exercise routine because that’s what I love to do. Thanks again

[@sanrihoe777]

Thank you for this

[@MaxMTXE]

Oh my gosh thank you so much Eva. I’m in therapy for RJ OCD right now and this video alone helped a lot more than the 3 sessions I have. I must book immediately! ❤️

[@ashupardhi5071]

I appreciate 👍

[@silvermoon1051]

this is my fav channel thank you so much for your content ❤

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

I'm so glad to hear you enjoy the videos ! Thank you for your comment ❣️

[@stephaniehuber7742]

This was great thank you very much

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

I'm glad it helped 😊

[@marialauraco]

Awesome Eva! Great information. Thank you very much!

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Glad you found it helpful 😊

[@johnsambar2658]

Have you had experience with clients with RJ who know about the past, able to be indifferent to it, but then years later during a rough period in the relationship triggers it to a significant level?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Yes, which is why offering ongoing support is important!

[@zoborzo]

That’s totally my case. I’m with a woman I love for over 25 years, 20 of marriage, parents of beautiful teenage kids. This woman has declared her love and adoration for me practically since day one. I knew everything she told me about her past relationships and to be honest it never bothered me or gave me any kind bad emotion. I was absolutely indifferent to that. However, all of a sudden this thing started to first bother me then created huge anxiety and then all that follows in terms of asking her questions driving her crazy with my horrible mental pictures and that. Obviously everything is sexual. This is hell in my mind. What worries me the most is that things that I practice like meditation and exercise are not working as they did when confronted with anxiety. However I know I will overcome this bad present. That for the video an the good question!

[@mimo01izito73]

I want to know how you got cured from this?? Because you really make a point this is the greatest video I ever see about this👏

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Thank you, using the tips I give in most of my KZbin videos but the biggest thing that helped was the therapy that I am currently trained it. It is a combination of hypnotherapy, NLP and CBT.

[@Someoneoutthere67]

My partner does this to me a lot, but I never questioned my partner. How can I help my partner when emotions are affecting the way she’s thinking.

[@donshifty]

hey eva would you say you are 100% cured from it now or does it still have its moments?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Hi, no I'd say I'm pretty much over it. No one likes thinking of their partner with someone else but I don't obsess over his past or compare myself at all anymore.

[@donshifty]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety ok and one more question…do you think a break or time away from your partner can help?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

@@donshifty yes if you actively take the time to work on getting better during that time.

[@somilmehta2141]

❤️😇

[@orengordon7921]

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[@widf1l699]

do you have experience with childfree clients that have RJ and where dating a single dad ? I am a childfree woman and was dating a single dad and all my worries and intrusive thoughts were driving me crazy about his children his ex wife and how it would affect our future. He was great partner but it drove me to break up. I actually wish I could have made it work but don't know how

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Yes, I have definitely come across people that are in a relationship with someone that has had a child. Sorry to hear it did not work out..

[@DanielMunoz-sq6bh]

So when seeking help, what should we talk about without seeking assurance or validation. What should we avoid?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Do you mean seeking help from your partner?

[@DanielMunoz-sq6bh]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety just in general. She already told me she’s fine with questions. I haven’t mentioned anything to her anymore. But I’m still battling with images and thoughts. I feel in the moment I don’t want to burden. Her anymore. But not sure who to talk to about it and I’m just starting to try yo do other things to focus on like you said in videos. But man I’ve been battling. I feel like I do good then just fail again and feel stuck.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/j6HXmmuIq9OVmJo does this help? Let me know I you have any questions!

[@Dangleesak69]

Hi Eva, question for you - is it really retroactive jealousy or is it conflicting views on sex/monogamy?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Are you having conflicting views on being monogamous in your relationship now? So for example do you want to be monogamous in your current relationship and your partner doesn't?

[@Dangleesak69]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety I would say more about their past - I personally only believe sex is to be shared with one person in that moment (not a threesome) but my partner has had a threesome before with 2 men. Is this a conflicting view or retroactive jealousy? It’s hard to see it for what it is currently.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

@@Dangleesak69 I would say if it's based on what they did in the past it's RJ. It's got nothing to do with you or the life you share today. Do you feel the need to ask questions or seek reassurance?

[@Dangleesak69]

@@overcomingrelationshipanxiety okay, thank you. I feel the need to look at social media to see dates on when she did or make up scenarios on when she did it, but I know not to ask for any additional information as it can do more harm than good.

[@louissalas4863]

@@Dangleesak69 this is what happens to me. She won’t want to do things with me now when I know she liked it or did it with past partners

[@princechoudhary4185]

U are beautiful 🌚