Overcoming Self-Sabotage With Intention | Art of Choosing Love S1E6

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

QUESTION: How have you self-sabotaged in the past.

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AdamRoa forgetting my laptop with rainstick

[@tynealhodges2111]

AdamRoa I have self sabotaged by not choosing love, by not being all in, so I didn’t have to feel.

[@JasonDalnoki]

I've always choose fear, grew up believing I was worth nothing. I know this not to be true, took me 40 years but I'm here choosing love

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

bahaha so true!

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

It's very often the reason we self-sabotage, to avoid feeling something uncomfortable.

[@groundssite4029]

This is the type of reality show we need in the world now....we need more off these. Not seeing people hurt each other but create a healthy way of being as for human dynamics.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Hahaha indeed. lets make it main stream :)

[@LifebyMikeG]

Wow, never seen anything on KZbin quite like this, thank you for sharing

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thanks man, we hope it fills a powerful need.

[@AUSmr2017]

The spoken word at the end spoke in so many ways. The fact that it was almost a freeze frame or slow motion of everything around. SO captivating!

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thank you!

[@ChelseaAdamsWrites]

Wow. Your poetry is so powerful. I am in an era of change and self discovery; in a hard time in my 10-year relationship and seeking truth for the next decade of my life. Thank you for your honesty. I feel grateful to know I’m not navigating this experience alone. Keep beaming your truth into the world. The ripples are happening...

[@cketz1]

Your spoken word at the end has me in tears Adam Roa! Ha. Just going through a breakup myself... this is medicine. This helps fill my mind with happiness versus anger.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Sending you love for your healing journey Christy

[@casandrashell5891]

..the amazing gifts that are revealed when we choose love♥️🙏

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

So many gifts

[@vanessab2619]

This video is such a gift , it is by design I came across your page . I am growing through my transitions at the moment and this was like water to the seeds in my mind Iv neglected to care for . THANK YOU .

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thanks for being part of the journey as well

[@RinmizuKioki]

Deeper into the rabbit hole we go...this to me was the most vulnerable video so far, i literally found myself having a difficult time watching the entire video as it was so raw and real, but I pushed through it because i have been self-sabotaging since my son was born 9 years ago. I have not opened myself up to this raw and vulnerable self because it scares me, because of the pain I've dealt with in the past due to harmful relationships, thank you for this..thank you for starting this journey. You are helping so many of us, you are helping me open my creative cocoon and I'm seeing it slowly happening day by day... please keep sharing, keep creating, keep loving, Bless.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

It can be scary to open up to deeper parts of ourselves, I totally get it. And it's also the most rewarding journey I can imagine. I feel like it's why I'm here.

[@gondergirl6127]

In the past I self-sabotaged by making excuses to stay with my finance even when I knew it was nowhere near my highest excitement. It only took me 6 years to leave the relationship. lol. Once I got REALLY HONEST with myself, I left. Best and hardest decision ever, but, it was just the beginning of a WHOLE new me.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Honesty with ourselves takes courage.

[@sindristardust9687]

That poem was so beautiful, incredible, thank you for sharing

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

you're welcome :)

[@nikkylindsley7920]

wow. your spoken word poem at the end. that gave me so many chills. just wow. so honoring your commitment to your mission and your courage to share so openly.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thank you for that, glad you liked it.

[@mela.paraguaya]

Such an amazing poem. I hear your words and in return I get a flash back of my own relationship and the break up I am currently going through alone. Your videos bring comfort and help my heart coming from a place of love rather than letting anger take over. Thank you

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

thank you for sharing that, honored to have helped your heart! blessings!

[@RA-pv8br]

Adam!!😁😁 Soooooo incredibly grateful for you, your heart, your sharing, your Love, ALL of your YOU-ness! ❤❤❤

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Appreciate you!

[@JustMinhaz]

Just wow! I feel like every video - I'm just falling in love with everything! Thank you Adam and the creative crew!

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thank you for following along!

[@sallythorne4384]

Self-sabotaging at this very moment. Intending to leave the job that doesn’t work for me - but putting it off until the end of the month. Reconsidering that after watching this. Thank you, Adam.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Do what works best for you, checking in on what feels most true when you see the vision of what you want for your life. Sending you love for the upcoming shifts in your journey :)

[@StephanieKlotzMorningCleanse]

I feel your girl had a hard time telling you her heart. But I can understand being on camera in front of the world! 🙂❤

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Yeah it takes a lot of courage.

[@loze5571]

Thank you for sharing with us Adam. I watch this and think to myself "my what a wonderful life it would be if we could all be this authentic with each other". Maybe it might not be in our life time but as you said the ripple effect might just see the change we dream of. And yes big time self sabotager right here particularly in my teens and 20s. I am aware of my mind. I am a witness to its effects on me. But I still a work in progress x

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

We are all still works in progress :)

[@skylarlysaker9321]

These are amazing. Brothers I honor you🙏👁

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thank you brother

[@amagicman]

favorite poem

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thank you

[@andrewgottlieb7407]

great video Adam and gang

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Much love brother

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

Speak for yourself. Sabotage can be a good thing and a realistic good choice. I've done it to kill off a mutual love. Never be ashamed to have no regrets for doing that. ;)

[@thereal6486]

It is our nature not to be alone. Good stuff as always bro.

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[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thank you!

[@jennifer6833]

I appreciate Ruby’s sensitivities towards your ex. On a side note: Ruby resembles Maureen McCormick from The Brady Bunch with a little Carmen Electra depending on her expressions.

[@jennifer6833]

I have a question for you, Adam. Have you considered fully not putting yourself into any relationship whatsoever during this time after ending that longterm relationship? It’s important too take time too get to know yourself again in the creation of self respect and love, realizing when you’re fully ready to commit again. Ruby, Appears to have been a rebound. Be careful when choosing too share parts of yourself when you may not be ready.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

I definitely considered not putting myself out there... the question is, for what length of time? When do you feel it's appropriate to connect with someone else in this way again?

[@jennifer6833]

AdamRoa , I hear you on the length of time. I’d say when you no longer feel like crying about it. Break ups are hard, no matter makes the choice to end things.

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

@@jennifer6833 That's an interesting viewpoint... I don't know if I agree, however, since in my own life I've seen different layers of sadness that can come up from things that happened when I was really young and thought I was completely moved past. So, waiting until it's no longer present for you emotionally is a fluid and tricky thing.

[@jennifer6833]

AdamRoa , I get that perspective as well. We all experience things in life differently so the takeaway can be one way for one person and another it’d never work for them. Wishing happiness...

[@FreeMeLife]

Didn't get to watch it all yet but what I've seen is beautiful. Xo

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Thanks, hope you watch it all :)

[@FreeMeLife]

Finished:) what a beautiful experience for the both of you. I feel sharing of the heart and soul in a vulnerable state is so so much needed. Thank you to you both and Asria for letting us in. Much love to you all! Xo

[@ChelseaAdamsWrites]

FreeMe Life - watch at 17:00!! The spoken work poetry .... wow.

[@FreeMeLife]

@@ChelseaAdamsWrites YES!!!! 😍

[@ahimsahome]

You were talking about you not her.

[@ahimsahome]

two months is too early based on how long your relationship ship was. take time.... bringing other people (women) into your process while fascinating is not the best. you are clearly not ready in my humble opinion. the flow will be incredible when your process is done. This women is your mirror and she is clearly not easy either.

[@ahimsahome]

ohh just saw then end...her body language on the bench...take a year to heal and not put your energy into another. after 10 years??? at least a year!

[@ronnielandis]

Beautiful brother

[@AdamRoaOfficial]

Appreciate you buddy

[@LifesGuideToExcellence]

Getting out of a relationship

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[@AtonMaiti]

you know i do it. all day everyday. im at an all time low

[@matthewgoetzka8855]

it's been a while since you commented this & I hope you're in a better place now

[@amberwalker5178]

❤

[@sarahmuschel4812]

Ruby is not a mere character in the play of 'you' . I hope one day you understand love as not just a disembodied concept/word or a series of actions that when looked at closely are incongruent with what love actually looks like and is.