Overcoming the impact of childhood bullying as an adult

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7 жыл бұрын

Recovering from effects of childhood bullying. A short video by our principal psychologist Michelle Grosvenor.
I have uploaded a 2nd video about this subject: • Overcoming the impact ...

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@Alan7997 Жыл бұрын

11 - 16 is the most evil period of most peoples lives.

@user-ob9zo9cr4c Жыл бұрын

20 - 25 30 - 35 40 - 50

@ts3858 8 ай бұрын

Sadly yes...😓😓🙏

@tommyparkerparker 3 ай бұрын

Adults too.

@tanishaaburman2005 2 ай бұрын

Kids always picked on me for my dark skin colour...excluded me from conversations and parties. And no-one really stood up for me.

@Harsh-ut8ix 2 ай бұрын

Mine is 11 to 20

@kyleleavy1621 3 жыл бұрын

When I’m out in public I get depressed, because, if I’m in a cafe I see people in groups and pairs and then remember how I never use to fit in as an adolescent, and how unimportant that I still am.

@Yashhaa 3 жыл бұрын

Your not unimportant bro you’ll find people who will love you for who you are

@pulengbeaunyaka4434 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate

@katec9893 Жыл бұрын

That's so strange because that is one of my exact issues too. Today I want to go to a cafe and I often feel resistance to going to places alone, assuming people will think I'm weird and I'll be made to feel unwelcome. In reality that rarely happens and if it does I can go to a cafe with nicer people in it. But I totally understand what you mean how the internalised dialogue from childhood of being unworthy keeps replaying in your head.

@fabionovelli3136 6 ай бұрын

Even worse when you come home and the worst bullies are your parents

@AtlantaPlaylist 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 30 and I’m upset I have to look this shit up

@flamme_eternelle333 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 17 and because I’m doing online school I’m finally away from all of my bullies. But now I have to deal with the aftermath of their abuse. It’s horrible we have to look up Stuff like this. But I’m happy that there’s at least resources.

@Suralin0 3 жыл бұрын

35 here. Still trying to heal myself.

@letsgoBrandon204 3 жыл бұрын

Apparently most people that seek help for social anxiety are in their 30s. I'm 36 and have struggled since school in the 1990s. I still live with my parents because of this crap

@a.p5079 3 жыл бұрын

@@flamme_eternelle333 - stand up for yourself and deal with the trauma early on. DOn't avoid it and don't drink or smoke ok? cuz it'll make your negative feelings worse. I'm 26 and healing all the shit now + addiction.

@hinatahyuga6936 3 жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that i'm not alone. 22 here about to turn 23

@BioTechEntertainment 4 жыл бұрын

I was bullied from elementary to middle school. It was the worst in 8th grade. It wasn’t just one person, it was a lot of kids who just wanted to dump their shit on me. Every now and then it comes back to haunt me.

@marylnmonroe 4 жыл бұрын

BioTeck I went through the same from elementary school all the way to high school I also attended Job Corps from Age 18-22 and got bullied there too, so I can relate :/

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I am sorry you have had such a challenging time. I have posted a second video on a type of treatment that can help with overcoming the impact of childhood bullying:kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJWQdaqgo6uefZI.

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

@@marylnmonroe Thank you for sharing. I am sorry you have had such a challenging time. I have posted a second video on a type of treatment that can help with overcoming the impact of childhood bullying:kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJWQdaqgo6uefZI.

@Nurse_Aspen 3 жыл бұрын

I was bullied all through elementary to Jr high. It was the same 4 girls from 2nd to 7th grade. Now that I'm 39 it still haunts me. I fear it would happen to my kids. At time I don't want them to go school.

@maxg2335 Жыл бұрын

Kids are cruel, cruel and evil.

@UI_Jon Жыл бұрын

I've been bullied all the way from 4th to 11th grade, and even after graduating, I still suffer from this years until now at 22.

@Punicia Жыл бұрын

You probably wouldn't believe it but it gets better brother, just be grateful you're healthy and alive. Not everyone gets a chance at life so continue to face the trials and tribulations of this world, you will make it out the other end.

@ts3858 8 ай бұрын

Try feeling the effects at 63 yrs old....😓🙏

@charleshurstreinvention3959 2 жыл бұрын

This falls under PTSD and abuse. There is one way to overcome it--empower yourself. Because most won't. Something I told my own subscribers this week. As I see this daily as a healthcare provider. People who are destroyed adults because they couldn't outrun a terrible childhood. Too many times this becomes the excuse to give up. The reason someone won't try. "Because this (fill in the blank) happened to me." Now understand I am not discounting terrible childhoods. I had one as well. What I am saying is that the world doesn't care. It is totally indifferent. It may owe you but good luck trying to collect. The only way to collect your due is to go out and seek it, pursue it and take it back from the universe. The stories of great triumph are rarely without great adversity--ever notice that? Most will lie down to bad circumstances. But those who get up and fight back will insure that their story is a great one. Hope this helps someone out there---keep being great---Charles.

@emilyi771 4 жыл бұрын

I don't care if people don't like me. I want to learn how to get over the times people have been incredibly unkind to me, the hurt i feel. Even the anger (which comes from hurt). This is from childhood on into adulthood. Because people are assholes. I have been in many abusive situations with bullies in workplaces.

@10_Roads 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah exactly. The feeling of injustice and how unfair it is, that I can never get back at them. I have this big feeling that I want revenge. I tuely hate these people who made my life hell on earth for so many years!

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

@melissar2943 Жыл бұрын

One of my childhood bullies was my mother. She gaslighted me into believing I deserved it. She now pays for my therapy as an adult.

@user-ob9zo9cr4c Жыл бұрын

leaver her alone

@GZU 3 ай бұрын

I have a lot of bad memories with people from 10 - 12 years ago which hasn’t bothered me until like last year couple months ago, feels weird lots of new thoughts coming

@katec9893 Жыл бұрын

You've explained it well. It's a vicious circle because you feel on edge in New social situations and assume the worst, which then makes you come across negatively to new people. They then don't want to socialise with you more and then it's a self fulfilling prophecy. I feel a lot of anger at my bullies for doing this to me but I'm not going to let them win. Challenging the inner negative thoughts is really important.

@dracarnoir7606 Жыл бұрын

58 still feeling the effects from been bullied as a child.!! Go get help dont wait !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

@LivL-gy8wo 11 ай бұрын

Me too

@ts3858 8 ай бұрын

So sorry .....me too ..🙏😓💕

@robnelson6545 4 жыл бұрын

Being someone who was bullied for years I think you get it. Spot on.

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

@Wassupmeh 6 ай бұрын

My earliest memory of getting bullied was when i was 4 years old. My second year in kindergarden. I was pushed on the ground and kicked by fellow students of mine. And worst of all the teachers blamed me for asking for it. After that i was getting bullied for the next 13 years straight. And it only got worse when i got a phone and a facebook account. I'm 20 years old now i was diagnosed with autism 6 years ago. I have no job. No deploma. Not even a goul in life.....i still am amazed by the fact that i'm still alive

@Dragonbreathereditz 4 ай бұрын

Dont worry may Allah be with you

@Wassupmeh 4 ай бұрын

@@Dragonbreathereditz thank you(:

@Dragonbreathereditz 4 ай бұрын

There's light in the tunnel. These people are the child of a devil don't worry about them and do what's right and Allah will protect you❤️❤️❤️

@StopBulliesNow 4 ай бұрын

I can try to help you! :)

@Wavyprincessa 4 жыл бұрын

I was bullied in elementary and high school even though I was confident and smart some people just did not like me for reasons that do not concern me. It was tough to overcome, but I did it. The past made me this strong, blessed individual with wonderful potential. I know I am loved by those that matter and that's all that really matters. God does not make mistakes and he has already dealt with those bullies. Sometimes the bullies lives sucks even more than ours and that's why we should forgive them and just send love their way. What happened to us is not our fault and I hope we all heal from things that should no longer haunt us ❤❤❤

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

@seismixx 4 ай бұрын

For 15 years I don't remember anything about my trauma. Today out of nowhere it's coming back. Every kick and punches, the dark and smelly hostel room on the 4th floor, sounds of glasses being shattered as my body got thrown around, the evil eyes of those bastards, how no one care to help bc it was a 'norm' to bully and assault people at that time. It's so f cked up and it freaks me out

@ChrissoDiiFonso 4 ай бұрын

Stay strong pal. Same here with 11 years. Every day is a battle with panic and anxiety. We ought to find a way. For us. For that lil guy in us. We can't give in

@GZU 3 ай бұрын

same

@yagovmolotov5127 Ай бұрын

did you get initiated as a ritual or something?

@MrsCabbage Ай бұрын

Curious what years was this ?

@virathiyam6546 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the video. But can you give some tips on how to recover from those effects?

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

@julia5229 3 жыл бұрын

I was bullied for a straight decade (from elementary school all the way to high school, i.e., ages 7 to 18)), and due to poor experiences with therapists in the past, I have the innate belief that any therapist I genuinely open up to will either openly or secretly judge me and ridicule me in front of fellow colleagues or friends when I'm not around. How would I manage making therapy effective if I feel so afraid to genuinely open up? When I went to therapy in high school (17/18), I would just sit in the corner in silence, to afraid to speak.

@vinodxxx1581 3 жыл бұрын

Bullying is natural, it is here to stay. It was your viewpoint of bullying and response to bullying that was wrong and gives you anxiety disorder now. So learn to respond appropriately when attacked by people and practice those responses till you have confidence. Good luck.

@palisadube5611 3 жыл бұрын

@@vinodxxx1581 have you aver experienced what she's gone through? Bullying is natural? Why are you normalizing such a think, and don't tell her that her reaction is wrong.

@vinodxxx1581 3 жыл бұрын

@@palisadube5611 Bullying is a manifestation of characters prevalent in nature, it will be here, as will Racism, as long as there is like and dislike, profit and loss in nature. Accept its presence in life like a sailor accepts the storm, and DEAL with it. Fear, anger, despair, shame and anxiety are obvious responses to bullying but certainly they are not intelligent or correct responses. With a proper perspective on what's bullying she should script her own positive response to it and practice it rather than weep over it.

@mikkelangelokers9965 3 жыл бұрын

@@vinodxxx1581 Your comment is disgusting and discrespectful. Yet you have a point that people should learn to live with it. Children can't though, which gives people mental issues later on in their lives. It's therefore incredibly vile to just tell people to man up. It doesn't work that way. I assume you have issues pretending you are in someone elses shoes?

@vinodxxx1581 3 жыл бұрын

@@mikkelangelokers9965 "Children can't though" so teach them the techniques; duck and punch back, run when needed, but always within the correct perspective, the sooner the better. The jungle is filled with wild beasts, poisonous plants and snakes, it's not vile to tell them the facts upfront. Peace.

@glazzeddonut3317 6 ай бұрын

29 and still feeling it sometimes...

@tatie7604 2 жыл бұрын

It is not just as a young person. It happens as an adult.

@associatedpsychologypracti666 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, unfortunately people can experience bullying at any age. However, the impact can be different depending on the stage of life you are in and your circumstances.

@scentsoftravelmeditation 3 жыл бұрын

We all go through similar things in life, I faced this issue too! The best way to go about it is by using it to grow stronger, forgive yourself and others, be positive and don’t allow any one to wring you in the future! 💙

@shanefrancis8947 3 ай бұрын

Forgiving yourself is key.

@FaithFashionFinances 5 ай бұрын

What about people who heal from childhood bullying only to experience the same thing in adulthood because society is filled with people who are unhealed and still acting like immature adults? The victim gets blamed for being triggered but that isn’t necessarily true

@polovt9511 3 жыл бұрын

I was bullied in school from (k to 11th grade) and also bullied,picked on and physically bullied me at CHURCH from primary to young womens. I kept being calling names and being called fat and others and it has been constantly running in my mind alot I cry myself to sleep cutting myself suicide and feeling alone and not seeing myself in the future. But I thank you for this video it has given me some thought to look for help.

@skeletongrl4evr 3 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I was bullied in middle school but I can assure you things will get better. I felt so alone for so long and felt like nothing in life has value, but I’ve grown to see the beauty in life. I truly hope you see it as well. Stay strong, there’s so much more to life I promise.

@laylavaldez8555 4 жыл бұрын

My best friend got bullied ever since she was 6 and shes 13 almost 14 now Shes afraid of people She thinks everyone hates her Shes scared to be alone she thinks they'll come for her if no one is around I only try to help her nothing works everything that they did ruined her life forever I think she'll be scared of people for ever

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

We are sorry to hear that. It could be helpful for her to have some appointments with a psychologist or counsellor who is closeby to where she lives. That might be a good suggestion you could pass on to her.

@laylavaldez8555 4 жыл бұрын

@@associatedpsychologypracti666 thank you so much who knew bullying had a huge affect

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

@TastyTarco 4 жыл бұрын

she just read me like a book

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

Hi everyone, thanks for your comments and sharing. I have uploaded a 2nd video on this subject. Please click this link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJWQdaqgo6uefZI

@talkindurinthemovie 3 жыл бұрын

My confidence in my abilities and social skills...trash

@RubyOnyxx 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the feedback. . I have posted a second video on a type of treatment that can help with overcoming the impact of childhood bullying:kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJWQdaqgo6uefZI.

@RubyOnyxx 4 жыл бұрын

@@associatedpsychologypracti666 Thanks for the update. A lot has happened since I posted that comment, I'm currently studying Social Work and have a strong drive to not let my past stop me from engaging with others socially.

@grandmastermario3695 3 жыл бұрын

No one owns up to being a bully or abused its disgusting there lies I've owned up many times to me bullying others alot of abusers don't my parents did alot of abuse to me as a kid don't own up to any of it nothing I own up to things basically because I want to do everything in my power to not be like my parents admit to things not hide it or make excuses it's ridiculous

@grandmastermario3695 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry I meant no one owns up to being an abuser people own up to being abused

@user-ob9zo9cr4c Жыл бұрын

self-worth..

@rareview362 5 жыл бұрын

Good video

@associatedpsychologypracti666 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I have posted a second video on a type of treatment that can help with overcoming the impact of childhood bullying:kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJWQdaqgo6uefZI.

@LucasDanielSantoro 2 жыл бұрын

Oh, this is me 😭

@chelseaangle543 2 жыл бұрын

💛💛

@c-r Жыл бұрын

Hey how's it going?

@LucasDanielSantoro Жыл бұрын

@@c-r Hey, I'm glad you asked. My thing was some girls made me feel ugly and unlovable in my adolescence and I carried that self judgment with me. In 2022 I've made a lot soul work (coaching, therapy, religion) and went in a couple dates for the first time in my life, I even kissed a girl. I'm 26 and my bulling was around the time I was 14 and 15 mostly, so it feels like a burden. Now I'm standing in a place where I'm more confident socially and I can ask girls out even after rejection. Now my thing is, after the few dates I went, I get a crippling impostor syndrome and I can't ask for a second date. I feel totally worthless. Now I know that's not true and that is only a voice in my head, but its overwhelming and I'm still working on it. One remarkable thing that happened is one of the girls that bullied me bacame a friend later in life. Last year I gathered courage and told her the bullying has done a lot of harm in my life. She was visibly uncomfortable, as if she had never thought how may I have. I asked why did they do that and she said "We told you those things because you were a nice guy". To me it was very enlightening but at the same time it feels like I'll never get an apology. To her it was only fun and games. She never hated me or intended to damage me. So, it is sad but it is what it is. I feel good I had the courage to ask what I wanted to know since so much time ago, even though I did not get the answer I craved. (16/2/2023)