Overstimulation Is Ruining Your Life - Find Purpose & Reinvent Yourself In 2024 | Robert Greene

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What are the laws or principles that underpin all human behaviour? Today's guest is someone who has spent many years trying to crack the code and answer that very important question. Robert Greene is an American author and speaker best known for his books on power, strategy and seduction.
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[@RobertGreeneOfficial]

Thank you got this wonderful conversation. I really enjoyed it.

[@giovannidestantis1422]

The problem with lot of the self help books and videos also religion that forces ppl to look inside. Is that the the true hardcore narcs and envious ppl won't look at these videos or books or seek religions that force ppl to look in. For society to work properly we all have to look within and aim to improve.

[@alexgillo9233]

Thank you both! I really enjoy listening to your wisdom Robert! I wish more men were so aware 😆

[@princeamu]

Robert Greene is the homie. Thanks for being available for these contents and your books. I’m learning a lot and trying to put them into practice and it’s helping big time.

[@portiermartin]

Hey man you're brilliant! Hallelujah

[@smileyface5908]

Thank you very much Robert. I’m excited to read your books. Thank god another sensible voice is flying around in this stormy existence. Very grateful for your thoughts and that you’re sharing them.

[@complexobjects]

9:15 Robert finishes explaining how most people don’t listen during conversation. Host immediately responds with “yeah-“ and proceeds with his own tangent, proving Robert’s point.

[@Benwheatleys]

💯

[@irishrepublican756]

Good observation 🤣

[@sapienspace8814]

Reminds me of when I asked a waitress "how are you?", immediately turns away (apparently I'm too ugly)

[@isahjade1903]

Steven from diary of a ceo listens well to his guest and engage at the right time

[@rumelingecristescu6046]

​@@sapienspace8814not related but lol😂😂

[@KnightsofComputation]

I have spent most of my life being lazy, thinking, drinking, relaxing.. the rest I have wasted.

[@MrJesse3030]

I don’t really think that’s wasting your life. Sounds like you’re enjoying life and taking it in. I’d rather live it that way than wake up one day at 85 with the hard reality that I never stopped to smell the roses. I know a lot of ambitious people that are miserable. Just keep an eye on the drinkin lol

[@Likorca]

I love it, I'll quote this phrase for sure.

[@nickotin2987]

Waste is a luxury phenomenon. Treat yourself to luxury!

[@wenlambotomy6231]

And I have spent most of my money on drugs and prostitutes and the rest of it I have wasted…

[@scottfreeman5289]

@@MrJesse3030you misunderstood the quote, it’s satirical

[@jennifermatlow]

I got rid of FB due to my envy. I feel much better without it. It's toxic and not even real representations of life. A bragging and argument forum

[@not-even-german4892]

U have a problem 😮😮😮

[@Urnumber1hero]

⁠​⁠@@not-even-german4892 Childish and not needed But @jenn , That’s transparent of you and I admire you doing that. Ngl, I can get envious too. When it comes to social media, sometimes you can’t help but compare. And it really isn’t all what it seems,some people are paying for trips with credit cards, in debt, working basic jobs that they make seem to be high end, having parents help out with rent, depressed, so much more too.

[@johnleebass]

​@@not-even-german4892 because of people just like YOU!

[@benghiskahn3673]

Social media is a sewer for the mind. Spend a lot of time there and you start to stink and get sick. Leaving social media has been very beneficial for me also.

[@earlducaine1085]

@@not-even-german4892Didn't she admit that? Envy is a universal human vice. It's not easy to conquer (and many people who think they've conquered it are self-deceived). Admitting she has envy and taking steps to mitigate it puts her far ahead of many of us.

[@elenasingh3104]

Robert Greene is one of the best authors of our time. I read and re-read all his books. The insights are life changing. I re-read his books all the time and find different angles and answers. Thank you for amazing interview 🙏

[@gururajsattur7065]

Robert proves that there is no shortcut to success. Period .

[@stringlarson1247]

I jsut keep aiming lower :)

[@Marshmellowcashewnut]

Please do a timestamp on each question/topic! It's going to benefit both your channel and us, audience.

[@miapax1962]

Yes please

[@robertafierro5592]

VERY good suggestion. Ro ert Greene is one of the easiest Therapists to connect t to on video. He's compelling g and even keeled. I need to work on my listening skills 100% harder and just as consistently.

[@suegoncalves4910]

What a wonderful stellar interview. Robert Greene is an transparent, eloquent, incredible human being

[@SS-gm9gt]

Thank you both. Very informative 👏 👌

[@superamanda]

Thank you one of my favorite videos for trying to improve my day to day. And of course, the pillow of Jacques🙏🏽

[@sharose451-zu4er]

I'm still learning a lot from Me. Greene, thank you for this interview.

[@stefanieparker1856]

This interview is so incredibly helpful! Will listen to this so many times! ❤

[@TheFinn1976]

Gents, thank you both, what a wonderful conversation. Robert, wishing you the best of health man.

[@mariatherase8299]

Love this interview 🎉🎉❤

[@doriannemosich232]

Robert hugs, DrRangan hugs great sit down pow wow thank you!

[@emilysky8824]

Amazing interview!!!

[@samar3634]

Great conversation. The last part is really awesome and can help many people 🙏🏼

[@Truffle_Pup]

Adverts every 5 minutes. My favourite.

[@dannyg599]

Deep. Loved this. Thanks both

[@Ni-uj9ws]

I really enjoined the interview. One of the best I have listen. Especially the advice at the end, honest , real and ''tough love'' kind like. Thank you Robert Greene.

[@Sarah-Gee]

I love that last piece of advice Robert gave: there’s so much in it & worth listening to a few times over & I am thankful to Rangan for not interrupting or rushing Robert through that golden nugget he delivered! ❤👏

[@Spiritual494]

Two amazing practitioners in there own right. Emence respect for both their work followed both for years. 🙏

[@camfrancisco]

Excellent, clear & inspiring

[@PierreLaBaguette]

the parts of the video as i saw them (if anyone needs a map to these 89 minutes) - narcissism and envy and other 'bad' qualities -> picking up cues from others and feeling them (nonverbal communication) -> how ? about his meditation practice - irrationality and emotions - (emotions aren't words), you can become addicted to emotions (even anxiety or depression) - perspective + law of shortsightedness - we're being affected by others - is he still fascinated by others? irrationality of people - tweet "everything that happens to you is a form of instruction to you, if you pay attention" - unhappy? make things hard for ourselves to change things and get the needed urgency

[@susanbyron6499]

Thank you

[@jamesmccormick354]

Thanks for doing this

[@forbearancemp5283]

Such a GEM of a conversation. Thank you so much guys, for sharing this with us!

[@priscilla3583]

Brilliant conversation with a brilliant man.

[@LetThoseOatsRoll]

This was so interesting, thank you so much

[@suseashford7314]

I so appreciate your videos and commitment to making lives better, by whom you choose to interview and the types of questions you ask. Thank you @DrRanganChatterjee!

[@Eristotl3]

This is the best podcast I have stumbled on to in quite some time.

[@aamir-hk8px]

This conversation injects humanity with clarity, hope and wisdom. This is an amazing effort to truly unearth the mysterious forces that drive the human psyche.

[@Ihaksoz]

Robert Greene is my favorite author.

[@EYDIMUSIC]

The comments about people being roaring lions from behind the curtain reminded me of the scene in wizard of oz, when the wizard gets found out. If social media had transparency like we have in the street then it would possibly help people be more graceful. I think the curtain plus the written word being powerful is an underestimated power a lot of us don't use carefully enough.

[@andrewortiz5797]

I did the whole street preaching thing and used to be a hardcore christian but I still felt empty Inside. So I searched for God in Islam and Mormonism and Santeria/voodoo and drug's and alcohol but I became more Lost and was on the streets once. It wasn't until I hit Rock bottom and gave up on Life, and told God that if this is what God's wants for and if God wants me to suffer, I told him 'okay' and I surrendered and then and only then is when God spoke to me and touch me and my Life changed instantly!! God is nothing like how the religions claim. God is Bigger than religion and bigger than The Bible and Bigger than The Quran.

[@user-zt6pq5kb9z]

I really like Robert Greene, what a lovely, genuine man who has so much to teach us all. Thanks for this great video! Appreciated.

[@Noel-Mc]

I just want you to know, that through your podcast the knowledge you have given me has given me so much more belief in myself and therefore had such an impact on my children's life also... A big thank you from the bottom of my heart.... Noel 💙💯 Birkenhead.

[@mngaq7951]

I’m about to read the human nature now you made me more excited

[@Jones8orejas]

Great program. Thank you. I ENVY ROBERT GREENE....he´s so articulately erudite.

[@violet807]

He takes a long time to explain what any 6 year old already knows

[@yazminmojica4458]

ROBERT GREENE YOU ARE THE BEST! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@ritagreenwood9397]

The part on the sublime, and finding it in the ordinary was quite profound, especially in the way it came to Robert.

[@tristan7216]

He's right. I'm half listening to Robert right now.

[@petrosnazaryan401]

Thank YOU

[@stringlarson1247]

Great interview, thank you. I got into Soto Zen Buddhism in the early 1990s. I highly recommend reading Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind_ for anyone interested in starting a meditation practice. The first chapter or so instructs the basic technique (posture, breathing, etc.). If, like me, you can't sit in the full lotus position with both legs crossed, don't let that stop you. For that matter, don't let any physical issues hold you back. If you're breathing, the practice is possible; if you're not, well . . . Anyway, the book is a free PDF download or in print and on Audible.

[@PositiveMommaLife]

Robert hits the nail on the head.

[@sharronsmith2234]

Deep Revelations ❤

[@susanclare5475]

This is truly fantastic, I have read many of Robert's books and for me this is his best interview yet. Thank you.

[@justinanthenge619]

Thank you Robert Greene. Everytime I feel stuck I want to listen to you. Thank you for your guidance. More power to you!

[@northernstar2064]

Problem is he talks about narcissistic tendencies which he doesn’t recognize he’s one of the worst

[@irenahabe2855]

Thanku. Very sencere.

[@user-et5ms8yq3s]

11:00 this is amazing point of view

[@robertafierro5592]

Refreshing

[@aishdesai]

Behaviour patterns Important skill

[@anonymoussource5344]

Thanks for describing repentance.

[@carolzaher2655]

So interesting!

[@amanmagar2117]

It's really an insightful conversation .got to learn lot about human nature .human nature is really fascinating ...thnk you dr.ranjan and Dr .green for this wonderful conversation

[@SPSHSP]

32:07 key!!! I had a talk therapy psychiatrist who would ALWAYS walk in front of me and this was afterhours so the office was empty and that made it more uncomfortable and uncomfortable

[@lazarus3068]

If anything I have payed too much attention to people,having moved so much finally ending up in Philadelphia 8 years ago. Which has turned out to be an extremely insular large city and like many cities an evergrowing mega college town full of self-centered 20 somethings. Did my great deeds for my neighbors in New York for decades which in that same spirit fell on deaf ears with all of my efforts in Philadelphia just the same. Great conversation by the way.

[@maryhoppe7981]

@Ryan Holiday I have been listening to your podcasts and have started reading your books. I’m not a traditional philosopher, but I enjoy listening and reading a variety of topics that allow insight into the human condition and consciousness. This specific podcast made me think of another book I’ve recently read called The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. The term for the practices of a level of stoicism and self awareness but which offers empathy and compassion is called “bodhichitta” in this book. This is a warrior practice in Buddhism. I hope this adds to the conversation here.

[@mollypinto4666]

Thank you for such an enlightening conversation 💗

[@warofsouls9065]

That’s how I am right now, missing that energie to reinvent myself. I am very aware of bouth terms.the need of become a new person, and the need to have all the energie is needed to do that.😔

[@mattbowman2521]

An amazing conversation with two great minds. Thank you.

[@XuanNguyen-nf3bi]

I started my journey fueled with passion to achieve goals (career) that i desired in my life more than 1 year ago. Lately, the previous 2 weeks was the end of that journey as i was exposed to many things in life that are so contradicted with my belief and goals I'd set before. Now I accidentally find this podcast that seems to be a possibility to help me with my depression i'm having right now. Hope it can solve it.

[@ricardochambers9926]

Robert is pure genius! I’m obsessed with him! Brilliant men

[@gulcalskan9151]

Thank you Dr. Chatterjee. Grateful for your work.

[@Joshualuv13]

I find my issue is ,I have too much self awareness. Not sure if that's more negative than positive..

[@EllaBoadu]

I’m honestly in love with Robert Greene’s teachings, they’re so insightful.

[@lydnav1673]

Every time you interview a person as this great man, and knowledgeable person, You amazed me with this extraordinary channel that you Dr. Chatterjee manage so well! You are transmitting a such powerful message to all us. I totally agree with your feelings, thoughts, knowledge as well. Great, Great!

[@pastoralrezowiecki4379]

I absolutely love You, Robert. I cannot even say with words, how much You helped me and how much I changed with Your help. And, to me, it is absolutely clear, that Your books take so much time to write. Because the way they are constructed. Every sentence is like a punch into my psyche. And every punch stays with me. And makes me a stronger individual. I wish You all the strength and love and waiting for the next book. Thank You for being so warm and comfortable in being You. Thank You for being my teacher.

[@petraalt4006]

Yes I did that today when my son was going nuts … I remained calm instead of being in his movie and reacting I am watching the movie and saying unaffected .

[@aquarianhealer]

CALM method Jennifer Kolari

[@jowoodfield4245]

Wonderful! Exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you

[@culfidant4851]

I just love this man - wished I have the opportunity to learn from him when I was twenties (back in China) - The cutures countries are different, but the principles and human natures are the same.

[@meagglyASMR]

25 years young here and I’m very grateful to have the awareness to listen to people like him and eckhart tolle, Jordan Peterson, Carl Jung, etc.

[@CaseyHolden-kh5nf]

I totally agree but some of us are so self absorbed they don't have the time to be envious. I know I put myself where I am it's nobody's fault but mine.

[@pamgreshock]

Oh no I admit I have envy!! I use it as inspiration!! I also cheer for others!!

[@cordy_mac]

This dude smart asl

[@kingstorm7188]

I have a lot of narcissist traits not proud of it but I notice them and need to work on becoming better

[@SiGowing2]

Incredible and very timely chat as I’ve lost my Drive and motivation and cannot work out why, this has helped me; identify why I’ve been miserable, frustrated, angry, envy etc as well as off track with my fitness (no real goal) it’s because I’ve stopped Meditating many months ago restarted my 5Am Club Jan 1st 2022 and lasted 200days. Before having to get extra work (to pay the bills) and got very tired- and couldn’t maintain/sustain my routine. This interview has helped me recognise that I’m missing my 20 mediation (in my 5am club). So that’s me back (testing my 5am C tomorrow morning) prior to Jan 1 2023!!! I’m back- thank you both!! Also the last Question eg final words has connected to the urgency and high motivation- so a great end of Year interview. Roberts book is now on my wish list and my first book Dr C (new Book) has arrived for Xmas (half way through at the mo- fantastic) and thank you for the game and life changing podcasts and work it’s incredible 🙏 Si Surrey 🇬🇧

[@lauralou4852]

Isn’t that funny? Every time I’m off track, I can trace it back to abandoning my core routines that got me to the better place in the first place. Somehow life pops up (whether it be more work, family emergency, kids needing more from us, etc etc) and I tell myself I can skip parts of the morning routine or I deserve to rest rather than driving to the gym. Then, not long after that, I have abandoned all my routines and gained 20lbs. 😩 Now that I wholeheartedly accept that I MUST protect my core routines like i would protect my kids from a threat, I still don’t have *desire* to put one foot in front of the other … to get back on the proverbial wagon after this last 18 months of crushing blows. So your comment struck a cord with me 😅 I’m trying to adopt the belief that “I don’t need motivation or desire. I just need discipline.” But knowing that and DOING that are still different things. 😵‍💫 Just wanted to send my best wishes to you. 🎉❤

[@sophieoshaughnessy9469]

No you are not a neuroscientist, but as a consciousness writer who has had a stroke you certainly have unique bonafides. Thank you for this content and the gift of you experience.

[@jarosawmechlinski9321]

Know thyself

[@marcuschavez8411]

What’s the best video to learn how and why to do zen meditation?

[@Noitpure]

What a fantastic conversation!!! And hank you!

[@susanbyron6499]

Thank you so much, dear Mr. Greene, for being so profoundly, humanly honest and sharing your cogent, valuable thoughts and especially vulnerability after the stroke. How edifying and inspiring. Kudos also to the generous interviewer, Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, for offering and modeling such deep, evocative listening and allowing Robert Greene to share in unimpeded, sweet flow, welcomed and uninterrupted by the interviewer's ideas and reactions. How brave and compassionate to yield to the speaker and not needing to evidence your own impressive experience, education and insights, which might feel unacknowledged, but we viewers can vibe with your high quality, sir.

[@joanleon8704]

Risks vs Benefits - overall technology has been misused on many levels and very detrimental to humans and society.

[@marionmcnee8759]

This was an interesting conversation. Unusually I noticed I was a little annoyed with the flow of the interview, like Dr Chatterjee was often not responding to what Mr Greene had said but moving onto another point. This lead me to wonder what it was in my own life that it was triggering. Maybe an inability to fully listen and respond to people because I am distracted with my thoughts? Thank you both for an interesting video.

[@GabrielBacon]

Good looking dude

[@shankarbalakrishnan2360]

Let all the forces of this earth and universe bless us human beings to live

[@user-ix9yh3kx4b]

Can you speak more on the pond life you spoke ok in your last book on love

[@elletuppen4844]

Chase Hughes is a superb expert to start with developing body language analysis and how to master this. He is also on the Behaviour Channel.

[@user-tr7yg7zo3j]

I feel fortunate to be a writer because I am always interested in other people’s stories.

[@jayashreeacharia6782]

Always love listening to Robert Greene and Dr. Chatterjee is an amazing interviewer! Thank you both for bringing this insightful talk to us!

[@dandyandy2046]

Truly inspiring! The message starting at 1:24:00 is so powerful. Dr. Chaterjee is an amazing interviewer; listens carefully, knows huge amount of Robert’s work, asks excellent questions. Thank you so much for this interview.

[@fabio.1]

Thanks for highlighting this part

[@stefashaler8340]

I can't imagine who these people think they are, deciding that any life is less worthy than others. There is no single formula for living. People are social animals except those who are not. People need a sense of purpose except those who don't. It's not helpful to listen to people when one isn't interested in the particular person. It may be more useful for some people to more honest and let others know they are not interested and would rather think about themselves at the moment. Humans are a complicated species with a range of experiences and drives. It only makes people feel sad and displaced to keep harping on about how to fit in. Not everyone needs to feel good or to change. For some people there's a huge benefit in honouring every feeling as it arises and sticking with it through a deep process. Proselytizing that something is wrong with someone can be demoralizing and lead to persistent anxiety. There is nothing wrong with anyone and reinforcing their sense that they are defective doesn't help. Fair enough to respond to people who ask for help. But, does it help to join them in feeling they are defective?

[@ravcarcoinsandmore]

Different ethnic groups are hardwired different...💯 Facts, Ask any Detective .

[@maryclaire340]

I love your comment and it resonates with me completely. I live in a very multicultural society and I could write a book about all the differences I perceived over the last 20 years. And yet, each ethnic group has almost cookie cutter, predictable behaviours.

[@ravcarcoinsandmore]

@@maryclaire340 💯

[@sunkintree]

It's nice of you to share your coping tacts with others, but true success means not needing to tell yourself beautiful lies. Cheers

[@robertafierro5592]

You learn a whole lot about people by the way they drive.

[@enriquecastillo-ni5mg]

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[@ErickeverRB]

Drive a vehicle? lol

[@robertafierro5592]

@@ErickeverRB duh..yeah..you do, don't ya?

[@ralphrose1]

I just changed the way I 🧘‍♂️ meditate....ty

[@bbana1745]

My view: there is no fault, there is only PERSONAL way to REALISATION.

[@EmergingForward]

I've frequently been frustrated with this - with "normal" conversation where it goes so fast and no one seems to REALLY listen. Inspirting-I'm going to work on my listening skills, listening deeply. I know with clients I can do this deeply, but I want to improve on listening to my partner.

[@chocks9350]

You have to unlearn what you have learned to find yourself and not to be what you are teached through life.... Learn to be alone, if it is possible at all in your life :) Good hunt finding yourself....

[@katepeck2384]

I found out when I was a teenager that if I paid close enough attention to foreigners who were speaking to each other in their own language, I could decipher what they were talking about. I never studied other languages, so I found that fascinating. And it puzzled them, too, when I could help them out with directions to places they were trying to find. I did this often with the foreign exchange students who came to the US.

[@shankarbalakrishnan2360]

Ok rob does approach to life change from the napoleon days to ours like things like becoming conservative after becoming powerful❤❤🎉 so

[@lilabukvic4216]

How I know that life is "my"?❤

[@davidevans1723]

Typo Robert 😉

[@Saggitariusrising]

One of the best videos I have seen in a long time

[@user-wj7cv9hb5j]

This really tells me how he thinks. I certainly work with a lot of good people who are selfless and clearly not envious and push other ahead to succeed. I'd hate to live in his world. 😢

[@heidim9019]

Which book is he referencing in this interview?