Opposites Attract, Mama Reacts | Family or Fiancé S1E20 | Full Episode | OWN

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[@Dazz6370]

😂

[@melomodiba4919]

I for one view the fact that Jordan told her brother to go after his fiance as a redeeming quality. In her core she's a good person.

[@bridget3163]

I think she puts up a wall and she’s very protective of those she allows in her circle. I definitely agree tho it showed a side of her I didn’t expect to see.

[@mrssuchafknladyy2078]

Mehhh😂😂 I bet if they do a Where are They Now she’s still a petty and hater-ish individual 🙄🥴🤷🏾‍♀️😂😂 it’s one thing to be Cautious and a Whole other to just be a B!!TCH🤌🏾👌🏾👏🏾😂😂

[@jimicahyder7908]

I agree. I enjoyed seeing her in that way!

[@niesharichardson2907]

It probably come from them losing there mom young and losing a sibling and then feeling like losing another sibling due to marriage …

[@rettaj77tv89]

Yes

[@Nicole-yy7ei]

Who tf is this relationship coach!? She is AMAZZZING! We need more people/therapist out here like her 🙌🏾🥰🤲🏾

[@WhatIsHasValue]

Her Ted Talk is amazing too… “The person you really need to marry”

[@YaardieNCarra]

Tracy McMillan

[@p9782]

​@YaardieNCarra she's my favorite, along with Iyanla

[@Viva__XO]

💯💯💯

[@krisjackson6567]

She also has a show based off her life where Kerry Washington plays her on Hulu.

[@TheeJessieWoo]

I need his sister to LIGHTEN 🆙 my gosh

[@bridget3163]

Jessie omgg you watch this too!! ❤

[@justrob7129]

She was sooo hard , empathy and compassion would of been useful at some point

[@nikiahandy4403]

She has a hard exterior

[@nikiahandy4403]

I ,I’ve thrm❤❤❤

[@MzCandyApple5683]

That’s the military in her 😩. Growing up with military men is NO JOKE! She needs her brothers GF! I’m glad they talk regularly now.

[@max8038]

I'm convinced the mom is suffering from her own childhood trauma. Something stunted her maturity.

[@helena3631]

It’s addiction

[@jessicapeoples3683]

His side act like they been dating less then a year ! They been together for more then 4 .

[@shardayjourdan7396]

Same thing I said

[@amiciopera]

He a real man, this is what a gentleman looks. Feel and should be. I look up to him. He is solid. True black man... ❤❤

[@TapiTTwala]

Strong silent type.

[@jeanmccargo8072]

The brides mother is so pissed off that her daughter putting her business out there😂😂😂

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

This was the CALMEST most genuine episode of the series s far. The families came to do the work and I am happy to see it.

[@ashleyhewitt7681]

agreed i enjoyed it

[@t.c.5456]

Jordan is going to be soooooooooo mad when they have kids 😂😂😂😂

[@zammymynakersnackstbmoth]

ISTG 😂😂😂😂

[@high-endsecuritysystem.2817]

I agree...but explain please

[@wifeyhernandez_xoxo6341]

@@high-endsecuritysystem.2817 I think when you get married and have kids, between traffic, jobs, paying bills, grocery stores, Dr. visits, life gets busy and the natural way for it to happen is that you’ll see your brother less and less. I hardly see my twin she’s got three kids, a husband and is very busy… I married with no children and I’m still very busy.

[@robintheempress248]

They did very well! Remained calm, empathic and supportive with directly addressing their concerns

[@pinksolstice6268]

Jordan nobody cares chile...blessings a strong word blah blah 😂 The soon to be groom needs to keep his family out of his business

[@07labelle]

I just want to give Whitney a big hug

[@GoddessPower777]

Jordan giving attitude simply from her family saying they want everyone to be a family. She’s miserable

[@babytash1369]

Yea she does seem miserable, but I'm wondering if she feels like she's losing her brother as they did their mom.

[@lucbunseitz7828]

This episode touched me because of the therapist. She was willing to put her own history out there. In order to help her clients heal ❤

[@TheodoreBakes]

So I took Jordans behvior as she used to being the most important female in his life and now shes not. Its a hard adjustment for her. Even the way she jumped in the middle of the group hug, signified that she needs to be the center of attention. Hopefully, she will come around in time.

[@godc1109]

I watched the same show. I heard them tell her to get in the middle” what show was u watching?

[@naynaywill]

​@@godc1109no she said I'm gonna get in the middle.

[@edwarddawson8604]

We’ll think Jorden got in the middle as a way of reaching out to everyone that she is all in and is totally excepting her brother’s choice and her family too.

[@JusTee22]

Y’all I haven’t every cried this much during an episode. My heart was breaking for Whitney!

[@Momo-xb5cu]

Same here

[@reginacarelse213]

Me too

[@misiedjanarmanda829]

All we do is cry on apps😭

[@leah8112]

I changed my opinion of jordan as soon as she told her brother to go to whitney

[@7Tiffany]

These were the calmest families I’ve seen on the show❤ The groom is so mild mannered, he’s going to make a great husband and father.

[@jessicapeoples3683]

I go off vibes too if you make me feel uncomfortable I’m not goin to say much to you either

[@jenjen12345653]

Same

[@kiranholt3296]

Whitney's mom may have an addiction she needs help to overcome. Once that happens, they can work on their relationship.

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

I agree, she clearly is an addict

[@thelonetravelr]

She looks so put together, that’s crazy.

[@easterbunnymomson130]

That’s true That’s why she was raised by her grandmother

[@Sweetiesplanet]

Her mom reminds me so much of Billie Holiday

[@ilissawalker7051]

I totally agree. My dad he does the same thing, not understanding my feelings, only seeing his own feelings..

[@cartoon171]

Whitley Aunt is gorgeous I hope I look half as good as her when I’m older

[@high-endsecuritysystem.2817]

I hope their kids get those aunts genes

[@misiedjanarmanda829]

Same

[@misiedjanarmanda829]

Same

[@jenniferfrazierlpc7171]

For real!

[@sharellmobley5348]

I can't imagine what Whitney and Charles went through. Losing a mom, dad and brother. Not having your parents and brother there on your wedding day must be very hard. I wish Whitney and Charles all the best love peace and happiness.

[@jessieb4]

RIP Cam!! One of the coolest I knew at UAB that stayed in that little dorm bed as tall as he was 😂

[@carolinagirl2428]

The way Charles confidently answer YES when Whitney asked if he's ready to walk down the aisle 😍🥺

[@jasmainmusic3736]

Right!

[@poupee6929]

His sister need to stop snarling. She’s doing to much

[@dbeloved02]

She's a hater

[@queentinadoire6931]

Exactly. She has an attitude problem.

[@p9782]

​@@queentinadoire6931I thought that initially but she's good and she opened up to Whitney and Whitney opened up as well.

[@1120forevrr]

Exactly I’m like is she not gaslighting?? Did she not walk in the house and ignore the sister?!

[@npmartymar]

It’s been the two of them (brother and sister) they are very close. She was protecting her brother after these major losses. We’re not going to pretend that the Fiancé isn’t labeled “angry” She labeled/called herself “angry

[@laciejavonne352]

Whitney's mother is In Denial about not raising her daughter and she still wants to shush the family. Glad she got willing tho. Reminds me of my how my mother says "I raised u" but I lived with my Dad ALL MY LIFE..... SMH they don't get it!!!

[@ikay87]

You cannot keep hounding someone to change them. Sometimes you just have to accept who your parents are and roll with the punches. We all cannot have loving parents, accept it and have your boundaries. It’s difficult but necessary for your mental wellbeing.

[@gilkrys]

When I tell you. I love this therapist. I'm crying. This mom and daughter talk was ❤❤😢🙏

[@NessaYvonne88]

I loved the way he expressed his feelings for her to his family ❤

[@kenneyp.9456]

The mother is a addict. The family didn’t want to say anything but you can see it in the sisters/aunts eyes that the mother has a past. Plus the biological father didn’t want the mother raising her

[@briesharnellern6905]

They are my favorite couple on this show. Whitney is beautiful and Charles is handsome. Both are very mature and well mannered despite of their hardships in life. I can’t wait for an update after the wedding and when they welcome their first child (assuming they want children). 🫶🏽 Whitney: mom is emotionally draining. You will have to set boundaries with your mom. You may have to love her from a distance. Mom may be a Narcissist, Sociopath, or psychopath. Anyway Continue your own healing ❤️‍🩹 journey. I wish y’all well.

[@malenahernandez9377]

Never bond with people through your trauma. That never ends well.

[@BeGood4Eva]

yeah I didn't like the fact that she "stalked" him and pursued him. She's the prize. Hopefully she doesn't try to be a mother figure to him and rather sit back and be a wife

[@marquitayoung9561]

I agree. I think they can work but I do see the red flags. Their red flags aren’t deal breakers though, they just need more coaching and therapy. Like when she said she try’s to give him the love that he’s missing from his mom (or something like that)..that’s sweet but they just need a different perspective. I pray they will be great together

[@garylogan4566]

This is how relationship with family's must be, in the end all become winners.

[@truthBreal2030]

I really like this couple.

[@darlynejean-noel259]

The sister needs to be more open. Don’t judge someone before you actually get to know her

[@nbl5516]

The groom's sister definitely gives off jealousy, anger, and resentment. She is holding her brother hostage because he is pursuing someone he cares about. His sister can be tough, but she also needs to learn that if she continues this behavior, she can push her brother away regardless of who his partner is. Whitney was very transparent with the grooms family. Honestly, she doesn't owe them anything. They have been dating for a LONG time! The sister could be more transparent and admit that she needs grief counseling. Whitney's mother appears to be dealing with addiction. So her view is going to be self-serving. Why did Whitney's mother even show up?

[@gailsmith836]

She wants to be there, but emotionally she’s not sure how to do it.

[@ashleycharie]

I had hope for the Mother-Daughter relationship, but having experienced that similar type of mom, I knew she was frauding. That lady made up her mind on that couch with her drank, that she would go silent on her daughter. I'm so glad the sister came around! Everything happens for a reason.

[@_kaiiie]

Most people will disagree but NOT all women want to be mothers. Shocking!!!!! Just because you can have children doesn’t mean you should. Just like father issues are a thing. Mommy issues are a lot more prevalent. For varies of reasons.

[@cjsanti1035]

I couldn’t agree more!! I think one of reasons it’s hard for society to understand women who have children and not want to be a mother is because of the maternal bond that usually takes place during the pregnancy. That clearly doesn’t always happen. Not all women are nurturers. That doesn’t mean the woman is defective. Motherhood isn’t for everyone.

[@gailsmith836]

I also think that when the mother physically lost custody she thought she had nothing to offer. She said she didn’t have a home for her. The custodial parents should have pushed for that relationship. I notice that neither of them are there. Did they pass? I didn’t hear that.

[@williepayton7883]

What a Beautiful Couple, I pray your lives together as husband and wife are filled with love, respect and happiness in abundance 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👑👑🙌🏾

[@kech2145]

Jordan, you are a beautiful lady but please smile more, you look more beautiful when you do.

[@Toybonnie635]

This episode was really emotional to watch because my beautiful mother passed away 2/17/22. I wish I could hold her kiss her have one more conversation I hope they can get through their issues and her mom can be there for her the way she needs to be! 🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖

[@kaylan5274]

Was a little skeptical in the beginning but I think that Whitney and Jordan will get closer as time goes on, they’ll probably even be like sisters. Wishing both families the best 🩷

[@CEOMommy]

Jordan why come ? If you feel this way your whole existence on the getaway was irrelevant. How y’all feel about her does not matter. It’s something we didn’t see or they didn’t speak on for the grooms cousin to be so sassy about a woman. I wonder if she said something and the brother told his sister cause no way she’s acting so hard up.

[@MsQueenpoppen]

She there for her brother and as a sibling you do not have to like your siblings girlfriend/boyfriend hell wife/husband that's not your relationship

[@lachelleflood6066]

It matters because families can mess up even a good and stable relationship.

[@MsQueenpoppen]

@@lachelleflood6066 not always true I don't f with or talk to my husband family n our marriage and relationship is good he be around them I don't

[@MsQueenpoppen]

@@TheLoveBugz could have sworn the show was for them to give them they blessing

[@MsQueenpoppen]

@@TheLoveBugz good night

[@ronicmwest]

Whitney will have to learn to live her life whether her mom is in or not. I can see her carrying that burden but her mom doesn't want to face it so it is easier to be in denail and not speak to Whitney. Because when she talks to her daughter she has guilt. It sucks but is very possible to heal and forgive your mom and get understanding without your mom being involved. I am wishing this for her. I've had to do it for myself. So it is possible. Wish her peace and healing and that she may have gained a sister in the process. Be grateful for the love you have in front of you and understand family is not always blood and comes in different forms. Sending her strength. This episode was so good and I may get into helping people directly.

[@garylogan4566]

The mother is confused also . After she loses custody for Whitney, I think she gives up, and she just gets comfortable with her life. But I think improvement is a door open towards their relationships

[@IraRochaa]

I’m sorry but his fiancé is so fine😂 and his personality 🙌🏾 I’m so happy for them 💕

[@allegroaffettuoso9012]

Jordan just comes off like a narcissistic, angry, jealous hater. Even in the end, she couldn’t be bothered to give her blessing when he made it clear how he felt. Sad. Anyway, glad everybody else did.

[@Kfred1]

This is the only episode that made me cry! Dang, her mom looks like my mom just a little. I will always miss my mommie. RIP Doris

[@zammymynakersnackstbmoth]

Grandma's name was Doris and she passed a month ago. RIP to your mommy.

[@Kfred1]

RIP to your grandma Doris. I also pray for your healing and peace!

[@janelleflagg7154]

The question is what happened to her mom in her childhood to adulthood! Her mom has some pass hurt!

[@Kurauone__]

Looks like she is an alcoholic too

[@Ddych81]

I feel like her mom has guilt for not being able to step up and raise her

[@dainellesimmons7398]

It seem like it became more about the mother than what they were really there for.

[@gailsmith836]

I hope they had a breakthrough.

[@cyndedawson3129]

Mother and daughter relationship sad she's not here for her daughter 💔😢 smh

[@strongblkwoman3930]

Jordan is unnecessarily bitter, and Charles better be really careful about telling her anything about his life with his soon-to-be wife.

[@Queencharisma22]

I liked this episode Whitney and Jordan they will be best friend soon they are just alike and they need each other more then they can see I pray it works out for them ❤

[@enuphsayd9746]

These two found each other, that's rare, and they will move accordingly throughout

[@gab19guerin72]

The groom’s sister is a hater. It is so unbecoming.

[@naphisa340]

Please let's expand our vocabulary...that term is overused and old..

[@joshuablac4243]

That’s a stretch, she cares for her brother

[@mrssuchafknladyy2078]

@@naphisa340please let’s NOT TRY and tell MFS you did NOT birth, how TF they should type, comment or ANYTHING else, bc WHO TF are YOU🙄🥴🤷🏾‍♀️😂😂😂the sister was Indeed Miserable, Jealous hearted, Petty, Condescending and an Antagonist🤌🏾👌🏾👏🏾😂😂😂 she’s a HATER and you’re probably one too and that was 🌽 of you to try and tell a grown UP WTF they should have in their vernacular 😂😂STFUUUU and SIT TF Downnnnn🙄🫢🫣😤🫠😭😭😭😭

[@naomihunter9412]

I think the sister is still experiencing hurt from the mother passing away. My mother also passed when I was 12 and I'm still going through lessons because I havent healed.

[@gab19guerin72]

@@naphisa340 she is a hater, like I said! Use synonyms if you choose. Thanks!

[@camillelittler4284]

I am disappointed that no one in his family tries to comfort her when she cried due to her mom not being there and making false promises. You don’t have to be friendly with someone to be compassionate 🫤.

[@TB-fk4qm]

Thank you Jordyn and Whitney for being mature. These women and the real leaders in the family!!! There's NOTHING like a great sister n' law relationship ❤️

[@high-endsecuritysystem.2817]

Whitney is bless to have him. She definitely got lucky to get him. He is made for the camera.

[@modestinemungo4661]

I don't care nothin' for the stink attitude having Jordan

[@VANSLEEK1]

Jordan is bitter within herself More self reflection is important

[@CEOMommy]

Literally she shouldn’t have even attended.

[@ladyt9181]

I was just about to say something is definitely wrong with the bride. Just her initial interaction with her aunt and mother when tgey walked in the door, she was just stank.

[@truth167]

He is such a good guy.

[@evelynoden7565]

That mother connection starts from the womb. Her mother will always be disconnected.

[@jasminerodgers9553]

The sister seems jealous of her I've been through the same with my ex husbands sister she was terrible.

[@racistsbegone7215]

Mama is wearing me out, she is extremely selfish, was it drugs and alcohol? Did I miss something?

[@Kurauone__]

She is an alcoholic from the looks of it.

[@raya74]

A narcissist

[@YaardieNCarra]

I'm soooo happy she got her mom back! Thank God & the relationship coach! I love how she has a genuine grip on her new sis in law, and how he's hugging up his mother in law in the family photo.🥰😇

[@Powermoves1080]

You must didn’t watch the ending, her mom ghosted her 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@brieanalewis7871]

Jordan is sooooo jealous and threatened.

[@BeGood4Eva]

jealous of what exactly? and please don't say the usual looks thing. She has no reason to be jealous, even the guys had issues with Whitney. She doesn't have to like the girl if she doesn't like her. It is what it is. They'll be fine.

[@brieanalewis7871]

@@BeGood4Eva I don’t know you from a can of paint go figure it out!

[@kandicelee8473]

What a beautiful story.. Reading some of the comments people take one perspective and make that the person’s entire identity. Each one of these people have trauma, but they have all shown that they are all open to working on it. The Lord told me that In the presence of adversity trauma is revealed, but it’s through God’s grace that people are healed.. Judgement is normal, but people have to learn to view others through the lens of grace. Praying that we learn to see each other through the same lens God see’s us through.. 🙏🏽

[@thetuckshop]

I love this🎯

[@tlotlisomathews8715]

There was no need for me to have cried the way I cried during this episode. It was honestly amazing to watch.

[@dollskull86]

I think Jordan is just protective, and I'm not sure who's the oldest, but she seems like she's played a mothering figure in his life, I understand the wall she has up

[@teresamarie7460]

Charles was twelve and Jordan was six years of age when their mother died.

[@dollskull86]

@teresamarie7460 yes I picked that up later in the show....thank you

[@gailsmith836]

I don’t think she mothered Charles at all I think she had no mothering herself. Poor woman.

[@Med-withKarabomasithela]

Jordan is jealous of her brother's girl 😂. Honey relax

[@smartkookie]

Whitney's mom is a major problem. I can't stand people like her.

[@hoandi_g]

Me too ❗

[@Fourlittlefurpeople]

Her mother is just plain mean

[@natsdaley9615]

Nah just un resolved trauma

[@gailsmith836]

A little selfish and feels overwhelmed by this situation of all these people. In her head she’s trying to separate herself instead of trying to include herself.

[@ReadyNowStayReady]

You can obviously see that her mom needs counseling. All the Best to this couple‼️

[@shantaralynette2034]

If you have a baby boomer as at parent Glenda is the prime example of how your children experience you……. The stone walling, the pouting, pretending nothings wrong but it really is. Not saying all people from that generation are like that but a lot are.

[@dainellesimmons7398]

The sister does not have to have a relationship with her but I think they are just scared for him bc it’s new for them.

[@garylogan4566]

Charles and Whitney I give you my blessing till death do path, but member put God first in everything , remember happiness is like getting a new car but joy is eternal.

[@patriciamckenna6099]

You’re Auntie is beautiful, greetings from Ireland ❤️❤️❤️🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪

[@smangelemasengemu8350]

I'm feeling the elephant in the room from over here😢

[@miamikc7519]

The therapist was very enlightening and helpful shes really good at it loved her feedback

[@kianatimmons8860]

Do they make carbon copies of Charles because honeypot I need one of those ❤❤❤❤❤

[@lorrainemallett1236]

Me too!😊😊😊😊

[@taylorg5462]

I think Whitney’s mom is feeling shame for losing custody of her. People talk about mom guilt but there is an entire level of MOM guilt when you are not a custodial mom.

[@sharonking2124]

Charles sister is jealous of Whitney! Her jealousy stems from Whitney’s beauty! 😢Point blank period!

[@stevenm5193]

The brides mom and aunts reminded me of the sisters on Fresh Prince of Bel Air

[@jamaicanstory2114]

Leave your mom alone, stop forcing people to be in your life

[@chaitea4701]

Chillleeee Tomas wants to be the bride lowkey 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@CeCeMe1]

Jordan, pick a struggle. You can't be mean and facially challenged...pick one.

[@jaydee4646]

Yep Jordan is a prob!!!

[@GoddessPower777]

Whitney: we’re really not ok. it’s not healthy for both of us Therapist:your daughter’s not good, can you hear that mother: no, she didn’t say that wtf??!!!😂 so the mother is slow. her saying “we could have been did this” is gaslighting. It’s evident she shuts down when it’s their relationship is brought up so she does have to take accountability for not being present in her daughter’s life as she should have.

[@RP.123]

I think the mother is embarrassed from her lack of parenting. She needs a lot therapy

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

I love them for each other. And im totally on board with her being his first girlfriend. We need to stop telling our oeople to sow their oats!! Our men a d women dont need to be in a whole bunch of diffrent relationships. Many of us have and are doing that, and how is that working out for US? IT AINT

[@DarlingWheresthecoffee]

Exactly!

[@arielle7777]

This episode touched my heart out of all the ones I watched. I feel like I know Whitney I just want to hug her 💕

[@rachael6344]

It was great to see this young lady and her mother try to build a relationship and I have to say at least her mother is willing!! Some mother’s are not willing to try to make the wrong they did to there child right! My hats off to the daughter to accept her mom!!! GOD BLESS ❤

[@BrittanyHunter-f6w]

The young lady is so well-adjusted for all of the things she’s experienced. They were both very impressive young people and far surpass any expectations I had initially ❤❤❤ I wish them so much happiness and prosperity

[@N_icoles_lifelessons]

Them as a couple is a good match they truly balance each other. They are super chill

[@pearlivory3483]

I love Whitney’s aunts

[@carolinagirl2428]

All Whitney needed was for her mom to SHOW UP this one time! Could've done meausures for her healing journey 😢

[@tatilove4295]

I cried for most of this episode omg This hit home for me In so many ways because of the relationship with my mom 🥹

[@PeaceBeStill44]

I’m sorry, I feel your pain. It’s unfortunate wanting a mothers love so bad, and not receiving it.❤❤❤❤

[@tatilove4295]

@@PeaceBeStill44 Omgg thank you sooo much ❤️❤️❤️🫶🏾 right especially when your mother is still living and able to have kids and throw them off on the family because of selfishness🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ my mother chose drugs over 5 children and now I’m responsible to take care of her after she had a stroke…. All I can do is pray 🙏🏾 and stay as strong as I could be

[@TheodoreBakes]

Same girl Im twisting my hair and next thing I know my eyes were leaking 😭😭 like woah wasnt expecting that!

[@dianapatterson449]

He is really mature. I like that about him

[@meekyw.4010]

3:48 I have no psychology degree and no therapy experience, but less than 4 minutes in you already know why there's tension with the Sister and problems within the family. I guess cause they're in it they don't see it, it's super clear. 27:54 The Mom is delusional!🤔

[@ZiyahRumbidzia]

More hugs needed for everyone.