P31 OBS

This video was created to go along with the Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study on the book, "Uninvited" by Lysa TerKeurst. To view the blog written to go along with this video and the "Let's Chat" QUESTIONS mentioned in the video, click HERE: proverbs31.org/online-bible-st...

[@rhondarohrer241]

Zephaniah 3:17 - my favorite verses of the 12 in these chapters - first time I learned God is a singer - "He rejoices over me with singing." What a treasure!!

[@ouimoncherie]

I smile as Kristina speaks about "treasures of words" and reiterates Lysa about collecting them. I do this already and have for quite some time now. What works best for me involves making those treasures into images post-worthy for Facebook or Pinterest and I then collect and categorize them in Facebook albums or Pinterest folders. This makes them readily available in digital format for sharing on a whim or when necessary in a specific circumstance or message topic. The actual time and effort spent in creation of the images embed them into my brain and heart, as well.

[@samanthacline726]

Wow! I just caught myself using that line from the book when a friend of mine said, "Im must be stupid" without thinking I countered back with Not in my presence. Really reinforced it in me. Praise God

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Love that Samantha! Isn't it such a powerful treasure? I love that you're being that voice of truth and encouragement for your friend.

[@erin7854]

I love the idea of a notebook. I'm going to begin one to capture those phrases that truly stick with me. After working through today's study, the treasure I took away is that "rejection steals the best of who I am be reinforcing the worst of what's been said to me."

[@robinteitelbaum8118]

So thankful to begin this study. I have to keep my mind focused on what God's Word says - about Himself, about me, about others. His Word is a treasure worth seeking and storing up in our hearts. For when we have that great treasure, we will be less likely to find our truth elsewhere. I love that God takes us on a joyful, exciting journey to find the marvelous treasures in His truth and make them our own. Glad to be on that journey with you all!

[@rgporter1957]

I love the way Katrina unpacked the word "treasure" and gave us ideas for how to capture meaningful words and phrases so we can return to them later. Lysa's idea of a notebook and the idea of the index cards were the two that stuck most with me, so that's what I've started today! Thank you both!

[@bettysandor4061]

I have used "not in my presence" with my children and grandchildren, and now I will use it to counter Satan's lie to me. What a treasure to be mined in chapter one, can"t wait to move onward.

[@donnagriggs3186]

Thankful for this study. I have allowed "rejection to steal the best of who I am," and I want to replace the lies with truth. I will journal the treasures.

[@jillswinderman3762]

I look forward to this Challenge! Most of my life I focused on words that brought me down, it feels good to focus on the words that life me (and others) up! Thank you so much for writing them down and I will be beginning today!!

[@annesmith8762]

God's perfect timing, this study. Thankful for thoughtful download of first three chapters and excited to start replacing rejection and abandonment with Truths from Abba. Starting my new journal to capture new treasures to ponder. Thanks ladies

[@marthaflores1202]

I have started my treasure of words by just writing them down and then memorizing them. I want to say that the scripture of the week has been my go to scripture and has helped me put things back into perspective of who I really am in Christ; holy and dearly loved!

[@bacherryfamily]

I have a small journal where i will be storing scripture and encouraging words to read through during and after this study. God's timing is perfect!

[@suzisutphin]

Words are treasures! Jesus is the words of scripture. THE VERY WORDS! This study is already medicine for my soul! THANK YOU for this. My internal record player just got thrown away!!! I replaced it with the TRUTH.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Awesome Suzanne!

[@wendylewis7511]

I usually am my own worst enemy!! I am harder on myself than anyone else ever could possibly be. I had a very challenging day and caught myself speaking lies of the enemy to myself. My self-talk was going something like this.... "I have no idea why they promoted me to manager, it is just a matter of time before I get fired! I am not smart enough to manage this store and other people!! Everything I do takes longer than it should and I seem to struggle so much more than all of the other managers." THEN I REALIZED WHAT I WAS SAYING TO MYSELF!! I stopped dead in my tracks and the thing that came to my mind is that I have the mind of Christ and the wisdom that come with that!! So I just kept thanking God for the mind of Christ and pulled myself out of the PIT!! This after only reading one chapter of the book. I'M UP FOR THE CHALLENGE!! Thank you Lord!!

[@susanandrade7291]

Yesterday, at work, I made an error and began to berate myself verbally out loud. As never before I became aware of what I was doing to my own heart and soul. I immediately spoke to myself just like the man at the airport spoke to Lysa. I was able to stop the lies and turn to God for acceptance and love. Praise God for His merciful presence!

[@MonicaRRodriguez]

This is my second time reading the book. I am doing so with the study. I highlighted "Sometimes a phrase lands in your soul with such weight it leaves the deepest impression." I have an app on my phone where I do the same as Lysa. I hear something of grate value and worth that I write it down so I can expand on it later either in my journal or a blog entry. I appreciate this exercise. It's help me ebb and flow through times I have felt rejection want to seep and plant its tiny little roots in me. I unlock my phone, re-read that nugget of wisdom and keep trucking. Or I re-read my own journals and encourage myself! :)

[@KatrinaVWylie]

LOVE how you utilize your journal Monica! I have found that to be the most helpful for me too to really fully unpack the treasures and all that God has waiting for me in them.

[@mrskmajor07]

Love this idea as well. Storing "treasure words" as a constant reminder of truth. Praying for the Lord to lead each and everyone of us. Will also be intentional to speak "treasure words" to other people around me. Speaking love, life, and truth.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Yes! Love that :)

[@laurahill9812]

Treasure from chapter one for me is: We can't control the lies that come at us but we CAN CHOOSE not to listen and what resides in us. 2Cor. 10:15 I am a huge Notecard/sticky note girl that posts encouraging words on bathroom mirrors and all over the house:) I can relate to the Dianna Spears who shared about spousal verbal and emotional abuse ! after 20 years of marriage also for me I had a dear friend that was placed in my life just for me and my boys that walked that journey with me to wake me up and stop believing his lies.

[@dianneschlegel5767]

I love those words the luggage man said. I have my 9 year old grandson living with me. He is hurting deeply after my son, his father died and his mother left him. He speaks so many negative things about himself. I will use these words with him.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

I'm so sorry your grandson is having to go through that Dianne. Bless you for taking him in and looking for ways to fill him with good words!

[@tracyhennes9569]

This book and study are going to be wonderful! I can tell already! I have a tendency to underline, "star", or "heart" things that I love in books, in fact, I've already marked up my copy of Uninvited. I love the idea of writing my treasured words during this study in my planner! Thank you for the challenge!

[@sandijames6409]

Taking you up on this challenge! I could not stop reading tonight, the book speaks volumes to me. I'll be collecting my treasures in a special section I created in my planner.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Awesome Sandi!

[@gbautista34]

Thank you for sharing your insights and chatting with us about the reading.

[@cathyvanatta-wandersee4469]

I LOVE this challenge! What a terrific way to record and remember the takeaways. I strongly identified with the example of the ballerina. No matter how hard I try to be "whatever," I am always judging my life/performance on the opinions of those around me and it results in rejection over and over again. I can never be good enough to satisfy everyone. When, in fact, the only opinion that really matters is how God sees me and how I live my life for Him. When I stay focused on Him, I am whole. I am complete. I thrive. I can be assured that I am exactly where I need to be, doing exactly as intended.

[@dianneschlegel5767]

What a treasure Isaiah 26: 3-4. Is for me. Trusting in God will bring me perfect peace. Knowing that God is good at being God. Oh how I need to learn and believe that- how hard it is to do. I have been struggling with this for nearly 3 years- since my son was killed in an accident at work. I struggle with his loss and also with not knowing if he is with Jesus. Lysa says it so well when she said "I must fill the gaps of the unknowns of my life with a resounding statement of trust: God is good at being God." Please pray for me that I will come to that level of trusting our God and find that peace that he is offering.

[@bcd4562]

I have a journal that began as a prayer journal and morphed into a "My One Word" journal. My One Word is a journal exercise where you pick one word for the year. It could be faith, it could be trust, it could be learn. This year, my one word is forward. So I collect sayings and special Bible verses that go along with that word. About a week ago I was having a pity party for one and I took out this journal and read through what I had written and collected this year. I honestly encouraged myself! LOL Her suggestions are very good, whether you are doing this study or not. Thank you!

[@KatrinaVWylie]

I love the One Word concept! I choose one every year too and always find it's just the right word I needed that year.

[@bcd4562]

Pinterest is another great way to collect sayings, pictures or whatever that will encourage you and probably others--if you like pinning.

[@julianewsome5745]

I LOVE the word TREASURE! I will be keeping a small journal that I will keep with me, and keeping my Treasures in there as well! :)

[@cindymilz3055]

I feel like someone has looked inside of me and written what I feel. Its encouraging that I am not the only one struggling with most of these feelings. I really liked the prayer at the end of Chapter 2 and I wrote myself a note. "Say the prayer at the end of Chapter 2 every day until it is a reality."

[@KatrinaVWylie]

I agree Cindy. It's encouraging when we learn we're not alone in our struggles. That's one of the things I love most about the P31OBS community!

[@genebuell1413]

This will post under my husband's name, but I would like to say that I hope to collect so many of those treasured words to replace the damaging ones I carry with me. Blessings, Renee Buell

[@sandibrandenburg8082]

I think of the song "Breathe" by Michael W. Smith with the lyrics "Your very Word spoken to me" Treasures of words. God blesses us every day with words. We only have to open our eyes and ears to hear them. Hard to do in a noisy world. I accept the challenge!

[@diannacole5001]

The bible tells a husband not to be harsh towards his wife. After 22 years of marriage, and the brokenness of it, now separated, it is hard to forget those harsh fights and words. Satan loves to stir those emotions and images up - even after I have laid them at the cross many a time over. A very dear friend of mine sat me down and looked directly in my eye and repeatedly said to me " Dianna - you ARE NOT A B****H! " You see, I heard that so many times it totally degraded my self image. I felt unworthy, unloved, misunderstood by someone who should understand my emotions and truly want to help me with my struggles. Instead, I was degraded - my husband was harsh. So dear sisters - I challenged you - do the same for yourself. Create your own treasure. When you hear that line of rejection(verbal or mentally) - go to your mirror or dear friend - speak and claim over your heart - " I AM NOT xxxxxx " whether the xxxxx are a word, adjective, characteristic no longer true for my sister in Christ Jesus. YOU ARE NOT who Satan wants to claim you to be. Satan wants to keep us from a real relationship with God and prevent us from ministering to others how God heals our broken hearts. Satan wants to hold you down but as you know Satan has been defeated and through the power of the Holy Spirit - we are free to walk with the Lord in an intimate relationship. Prayers and Praise !

[@tracyhennes9569]

Thank you so much for allowing God to work through you and for sharing your experiences. I am in the 20th year of a very similar marriage which has taken a great toll on me. I want Satan and his lies out of my marriage, my life, my home. I intend to do just what you suggested today. Thank you!

[@marylynch3839]

Thank you, Dianna, what you said is so true for me also. I allowed it for 33 years. It also came from my parents. I feel worthless. In a group of people, even family, i just fade away. I know Satan wants to keep me in this place of feeling that things would be better if I wasn't here, that I have nothing to offer. Please pray for me. It is so hard to let go of these lies.

[@diannacole5001]

Mary, I will be praying for you. Please, read what God says about you in his Word. I am literally immersing myself with the Bible to combat the attacks. I have found several channels on TV that have some wonderful preachers and/or Christian music. I've given up on secular TV and only watch/listen to those channels. God loves you so much and has a special plan for your unique self. Turn those lies around on them self. You have plenty to offer. Start with doing what makes you happy. If you like to bake cookies, bake some and find a person in wants them. If you like to babysit(be with kids), find a family who could use a date night or some extra help.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

What a treasure your friend is Dianna! And thank you for being a treasure as well with your words here. I"m so sorry you had to experience all of that hurt from your husband, but I am praising God for the work it sounds like He is doing in you and through you in response. Blessings to you!

[@nsteiler1]

I have been listening to some on the radio, whenever I go out the past few days....Never listened in my life before. Wouldn't you know that one of the verses they were talking about was one of the ones presented to us just yesterday. If you can hear things in different contexts, it helps. Try the radio or the cd, too!

[@jenniebuettner3977]

I have always taken notes in a journal for my Bible studies, but almost never find myself going back and being able to locate something that spoke to me in my time of need. However this time I am going to write them down on index cards and keep them in a box on my desk! Maybe even keep them in my purse so I can correlate scripture with it and meditate on it during the week!

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Great ideas Jennie! I love that you recognized what didn't work in the past and that you're making adjustments now to try and find something that does work for you.

[@audreygilden3096]

Love this idea! I seem to remember things better when I take notes so I'm putting my treasures in my journal:) Just like they said in the first video about what shirt should I wear to this party and comparing it to clothing ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience I like the word treasure. Most people think treasure is expensive: diamonds, gold, etc. In the long run those treasures don't matter. It is the words that stick to us and give us positive thoughts and feelings.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Love the point you make Audrey about many thinking treasure is expensive. So true! We can often overlook the greatest treasures in life because of that. Awesome that you recognize the treasure to be found in words :)

[@NancyAnneMartin]

I'm ahead of ya! :-) When I read the book this morning as part of my devotions, I jotted down the phrases that stuck with me, as well as any of my own thoughts that came up.

[@barbaracarter6027]

Very excited to start my treasure journal !

[@lenanewby4698]

Loved the treasure box idea. THe index cards in my handbag are helpful to me. Truth right there with me where I can pull them out like a Tylenol for a pain or headache!!!

[@barbmcinnis4937]

This is something I started doing after reading War Room! It is so very helpful!! Started a new treasure chest with Uninvited today :)

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Love that Barb! I'm glad to hear it's been powerful for you to do and that you're going to do so for Uninvited as well :)

[@carliw6023]

Enjoying the study so far. I think I'm going purchase a small chest to put my "treasures" in. It will not only have visual symbology but practical symbology as well.

[@brickfilmfreinds]

Ready to take this challenge! I have a small notebook that I can write in or glue note cards on the pages. It is small enough that I can carry it with me where ever I am going.

[@dverdouw011]

Brilliant idea! Not only for the reminder of the study but forever. As soon as we let our guard down, and at some point we will, the enemy will be right there and we will need Gods words to remind us not to go back down the path of rejection.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Very true Dawn!

[@nsteiler1]

Thinking of a journal, that is quickest for me.

[@AlejandraRodriguez-lj1xv]

I love this definitely going to take the challenge. in chapter 1 i could relate to her when she had the incident at the air port

[@erinhess256]

I definitely struggle with believing lies about myself and God. Just last week someone said a very innocent comment to me, but I took it in and twisted in my mind to where I was full of shame. I allowed the line to become truth, and it affected me for the rest of the night and into the next two days, and how I interacted with others. I spoke with a mentor who told me I forgot that I had a choice to determine whether the words that were spoken were truth or lie, so by default, I took them in as truth. It was crazy to me, that then just two days later, I heard the exact same message in chapter one. God is definitely showing me how I allow the lies in.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Love how God's timing works! I find when He wants me to learn something, the message is repeated several times in several different avenues. Sounds like that's what He did for you :)

[@MultiArtmom]

It's nice to have a lie uncovered like the sky cap did for Lysa. I have a block of rejection from my husband's family. I am praying that God shows me every lie I believe and where my part is in it.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Prayed that for you as well Deb!

[@brittanyl303]

Such a great idea! I am the "sticky note gal...", so that is where I will be keeping my "Treasure Trove" of words :)

[@KatrinaVWylie]

I knew there had to be some sticky note gals out there :)

[@angelaskipper9378]

I have chosen to use the digital journal to record my Treasures. The first one from Chapter 1 was, "Honesty isn't here to hurt me, but to heal me". This resonated with me from a recent experience of rejection from one of my daughters who initially wanted me to participate in her bachelorette party, but told her planner who relayed the message through another daughter that she did not want me there. The hurt came because I felt betrayed, that she felt that I would be an embarassment to her being there, and that she no longer wanted me to be a part of her pivotal moments as I had always been in the past. The liability has resulted in us not communicating at all when we would daily. I know she was being honest, but am seeking past the hurt to see what needs to be healed so that I don't think that I'm a disappointment or embarassment to her. Genesis 1:31 is my treasure scripture for this.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Angela, you have done a beautiful job of reflecting and working through the pattern of rejection in your particular experience with your daughter. I'm believing God is going to be working in and through that for good as you continue through this study.

[@angelaskipper9378]

Thank you!

[@kathyburke5337]

OBS stands for Online Bible Study

[@anaedwards3078]

Starting my treasure trove of truths to stop me from walking on the path of rejection. I'll use my iCloud Notes so I can read anywhere on any device.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Great idea Ana!

[@samanthacline726]

I couldn't find what you added in the video. I absolutely love the idea of collecting treasures. I am taking it a step further and calling them by different jewels depending on what the subject starts with. Its from a childhood story I remember about a little girl finding treasures in her bible and putting them in a treasure box. Lots of Pearls in Psalms. I had forgotton about this until I read that story in the first chapter. That whole sentence jumped off the page at me. I can definetely hear our Father saying, "not in my presence."

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Hi there! The questions are below my video that's shared on the Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies blog. You can access that here: proverbs31.org/online-bible-studies/2016/09/07/when-rejection-isnt-just-an-emotion/ Hope that helps and sorry about the confusion. Thanks for joining us!

[@chel7414]

I have read chapter 1. I can't even begin to tell you how much this chapter hit me. And I mean, straight on hit me. I saw me in everything she said. I took notes from the chapter and put them in a journal. And under each one of those notes, I wrote something about me. I will admit that I am fighting a bad round of depression and the medical staff is helping me work with rejection. Most days I lose the battle. I have been calling myself all kinds of names for awhile now. I wasn't aware of the effect it was having on my son until he started doing it. I don't like who I am. That is one of the things that I struggle with the most. I have realized in this chapter, I am dealing with self rejection. I also realized that I owe my son an apology for putting myself down in front of him. He tells me that I am his number 1. I wish I felt that way.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Hi Michelle, thanks for sharing your heart. I love that you've recognized your struggle with self-rejection. Often times the recognition is half the battle. Praying God would use this study to help you continue to recognize the struggles and lies, and replace them with His truths and healing.

[@genisel2872]

Dear Michelle, i happened to read your comment and I wanted to reach out to you. I too have often felt that I don't like who I am and have called myself names in front of my son. One day I was in my room screaming at myself and he overheard me and it really scared him. You are not alone. Don't give up fighting the depression! I have struggled with depression for a good portion of my life-through reading scriptures and counseling I have learned strategies to talk back to negative self talk. I know that this study will help you so much! Dear Lord, In this moment I just want to lift Michelle up to you. Fill her with the truth about who she is your eyes! I pray that the medical staff working with her will be able to help!

[@kathleenoylear9700]

amen

[@carolekelley7282]

my sister, with whom I was best friends for 75 years, recently went on a cruise with her 4 daughters and no husbands. I wanted to go so bad but my sister told me "Get over it Carole, you're not going." "Get off the pity potty" I was and am devastated that my own sister would treat me this way. I need this . I cannot read the book. I have wet macular degeneration in my eyes. I hope I can derive a sense of peace and forgiveness. We are completely estranged now.

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Hi Carole. I'm so sorry for the falling out you've had with your sister. When I read your reply I stopped and prayed for you and your relationship. Here's where you can get an audio version of the Uninvited book. I hope this helps :) www.audible.com/pd/Religion-Spirituality/Uninvited-Audiobook/B01H5ROND0/ref=a_search_c4_1_1_srTtl?qid=1473359727&sr=1-1

[@kathleenoylear9700]

My heart went out to you as well Carole. I've been there and the hurt is so deep. I really think this book and Bible study are going to be just the right medicine for us. I am a year behind on the study, I've never taken part in anything like this before and am having some trouble finding my way around but so far it's awesome. I do hope you were able to get the audio version. Love in Christ, Kathy

[@corlettedwards4584]

I can't find the comments or the list of scriptures you offered? Help

[@beachlvrmi]

Really like this idea...would be a great way to utilize the journal and add the words there

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Absolutely Lisa! The OBS journal is a perfect place for that :)

[@itssewannie5872]

sorry what does OBS stand for?

[@diannebullock9485]

Online Bible Study

[@itssewannie5872]

+Dianne Bullock thank you ☺

[@sereewilson4379]

I dont see where the questions are. Am I missing it?

[@sooocool2011]

I think she's referring to the questions listed below the video on the blog page.

[@sereewilson4379]

Ah! I see now. Thank You!!

[@sooocool2011]

+Seree Wilson glad I could help! Hope you enjoy this study! :)

[@colleenremein3178]

I'm embarrassed to ask ......but where is the blog page😕

[@sooocool2011]

+Colleen Remein proverbs31.org/online-bible-studies/2016/09/07/when-rejection-isnt-just-an-emotion/?Uninvited+OBS&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9B1eIdrXunzJQOAXYende8Nls-EuKCqgiYEAcL9VW6uHyUrz6JQ6tOUkdDra5AA3jp-AZUFaS45Fp7SvOt2pT7D8TyMQ&_hsmi=33898231 you can find a link in the email they send out each morning or on their FB page Proverbs 31 Online Bible studies

[@MariaG2570]

where are the questions?

[@KatrinaVWylie]

Hi there! The questions are below my video that's shared on the Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies blog. You can access that here: proverbs31.org/online-bible-studies/2016/09/07/when-rejection-isnt-just-an-emotion/ Sorry about the confusion and thanks for joining us!