3 Options for Handling Emotions

[@shandymonte]

“I’ll give you something to cry about” was a common phrase in my childhood 😢

[@janiceince1965]

Shandy how have you been doing? I'm still struggling..,

[@josiejo117]

Yes! And you usually would be given something else to cry about!❤

[@Inge508]

Expressing emotions should be part of education and parenting.. Lots of trauma could be avoided by doing/ learning that. Sun has finally arrived in my little village and makes all stuff so much easier.. Have a lovely week Dan and everyone ❤

[@Lenneke8422]

I absolutely agree ❤👌😁

[@marieleak8731]

Inge, I live in Phoenix Arizona in the U.S. we have SO much sun, it is actually nice to have a cloudy day!! LOL

[@Inge508]

@@marieleak8731oh I understand, it can be too hot at your place! Enjoy the clouds dear and feel the sun in your mood ❤

[@nancyrussell6598]

YES IF OUR EMOTIONS ARE STIFLED IN CHILDHOOD THEY DO NOT DISAPPEAR BUT WILL REAPPEAR LATER AND SEEM LIKE A MYSTERY UNTIL SOMEONE LIKE DAN CAN TEACH US WHAT'S GOING SO WE CAN FINALLY BE HEALED FROM CHILDHOOD

[@Inge508]

@@nancyrussell6598yes exactly! The good news is that it’s never too late to heal that ! Have a lovely day Nancy ❤

[@kelsangzopa6727]

Thanks Dan once again. There's one thing I would add from my experience. Sometimes it is necessary to be heard so the "always in private" can be itself a judgement as it can feel that the emotions need to be "hidden" or are "shameful". It doesn't mean the three options are incorrect, they are absolutely on track. But since the repressed emotions were always developed "in a relationship" it is very healing to learn to express them "in a relationship" and not alone in the bathroom. So..... I would add a fourth option: expressing them responsibly with a trusted person who can listen. I have personally helped people do this and experienced directly how healing it was for the one expressing their emotion and being fully heard and not alone with them as they were in the past. I have been on both sides, expressing my emotions responsibly and listening compassionately. Just thought I would share my experience with emotions and hopefully it is useful to someone.

[@sherrilawrence662]

So true...wish I had someone safe to express years of stuff. Don't really speak I'm so repressed now. A shell of a formerly vital woman. I will keep trying to heal ❤🙏

[@LilyOscar333]

Well said and so true.. 👍

[@kelsangzopa6727]

​@@sherrilawrence662 please keep wishing for someone to appear with whom you will feel safe to share with. Often, our past experiences taint our current perception and we see everyone as not able to just listen. I'm quite sure there is ALREADY someone in your entourage who is a good listener. One thing you can do once you find that person is tell them you would like them to just listen and not provide solutions or cut you off and talk about themselves (as people often do). This clearly sets the parameters of the conversation and incites the person to use their listening skills as well as making you feel safe. May you find once again that vibrant self, it's still there! Just hidden behind all you need to share.

[@TheCrazyPlushWorld]

He says to express your emotions in an adult like manner...but before doing so do so in private and feel your emotions alone that way you don't explode when it is time to express yourself💝

[@marieleak8731]

Like the late, great Louise Hay said, your feelings are your feelings, they are neither right nor wrong, they just are. 💕

[@Inge508]

🥰 love it!!

[@pattyboucetta1897]

Love Louise!

[@josiejo117]

Love the sunshine. Love the birds. Love the surroundings. Love your words. Nothing but love.💚

[@reneemerna5658]

The book The One Thing Holding You Back by Raphael Cushnir teaches you the process. Emotions are physical. Once you learn how to let your emotions "have their say" by physically processing them, you will be free. The recorded book has a chime timer that was helpful. After learning this process I applied it to a very bad car accident. I processed my emotions while waiting for the ambulance, because, I didn't want to take that trauma home with me. By the time the ambulance got there, all emotions were processed, all trauma gone, and I have never had any residual fears. I was so happy that I learned this process because you can use it in real time to things that are causing you emotional pain.

[@desertbluesplaylist7550]

Here’s to all the sunny days ahead...enjoy that ☀️ Dan!

[@unclemick-synths]

Yes, definitely a big difference between expressing emotions and dumping them on other people.

[@reinab8168]

Feelings are like visitors; you acknowledge them, interact with them and know them... then you say goodbye until next time.

[@dkaur454]

Can you please tell me how?

[@reinab8168]

@@dkaur454 if you are in a stressful situation, acknowledge your feelings and then dismiss them. Don't hold onto the stress, don't let the situation control your mood. You decide how it would be best to handle the situation and do that. You don't have to be upset because things are not going well. I hope this helps. I'm just trying my best like the rest of us.

[@vanessawilhelm594]

I just got back from an amazing weekend in London with my friend. I had ZERO symptoms whilst away and just focusing on living. I return home and it's anxiety and insomnia town. SO WEIRD! TMS at its finest I reckon! Dan, could you do a video on that? I always love love love sunny days, unfortunately not too many of them in Scotland! Re expressing emotions, journaling is really helping me with that, almost feels like a purge.

[@1STLUCKYB]

I live in London hoping to get up to Scotland, PDP free. Well done

[@kayladewaard4019]

That is actually fantastic! Clear proof of TMS. Brain is just stuck in a rut, so to speak. Brain made associations about your normal routine being a certain way. But it doesn't have to be that way. Just try not to be negatively emotional or upset about it, just laugh a little and say I know what's going on. Visualizing you day going well, upon waking can be a huge help to making daily life better. ❤❤

[@josiejo117]

So pleased you had such a wonderful weekend. I have found after doing something the tms stuff kicks up...I have realised my mind & thoughts come in trying to tell me I've done too much or some such BS!! Yes I also write my feelings down, then rip up the paper dump it in the bin & give self some kindness & soothing for acknowledging & releasing. I love Scotland. You live in a beautiful country.❤

[@vanessawilhelm594]

Thanks lovely! I am actually German but I have been living in Scotland for close to 10 years now, the scenery is magical! I am taking home a puppy in 5 weeks and I can't wait to explore the countryside with her.@@josiejo117

[@vanessawilhelm594]

That's what I am thinking! I am trying to be whatever but it is a little annoying haha@@kayladewaard4019

[@sherry2866]

The fear is triggered by the emotions that triggers the symptoms. What do I do

[@Bachconcertos]

In order to get through a very traumatic crisis i had to suppress my emotions. I had to keep it all together or i would have fell apart and lose the battle. Now i learned that emotions are wrong - a catatalyst to defeat. When i made it through the scary event i was still trying to keep myself together hypervigelent hyperactive wide awake at night looking out for danger - there was no room for emotions. 10x action to over overcome the threat - non stop vigilance. The body mind snd emotions need to rest and feel safe.

[@CC-bw2rp]

😭😭😭❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 thank you also for yesterday s video. I have a anxiety default. Alwauus afraid and in fight or flight modes. I learned am lot in therapie and how a brain works, i do everything i can every day is a struggle. For my son i wil do everything but i almost can not do it anymore. I listen to you every day . Thank you for talking to me . I feel soo alone. And listening to you make s me feel a bit calmer. I do not know how to go on at times. Did therapy EMDR for years. And now it is there every day it is a big cloud and feels like hel. Thank you for being there every day again and again. That means the world to me. I am from Europe. Bay Dan

[@fabianggggggg]

This video is like diamond-class of your pain free you videos. Thanks, Dan. You’re the best. Much love ❤

[@1STLUCKYB]

Get your vitamin D. Blue sky here in London, but it's freezing. ❄️Am sat in a London square, listening.

[@mirelgoi7855]

”Unless you feel what you know, your feelings are of little value and are transitory, being merely reactions within themselves.” (Marshall Vian Summers, Secrets from Heaven) This has been my mantra while re-learning to feel and accept my emotions. Much easier to handle these ”unwanted” emotions once you know that they are not who I am.

[@PainFreeYou]

Love that!

[@cheryl8493]

Oh my god this was so good!! So much suffering because of my emotions!

[@user-dianejcml]

Thank you Dan! Enjoy this beautiful day and the birds singing ☀️

[@jamesroof6150]

Another great daily. Alot of it makes sense. Very helpful. Patience, practice and persistent is key. Still working on it 2 months into your program and even though I seem to go backwards some days, overall I seem to have more days where the stress/ fear levels are less and the pain is less. It takes time to teach the brain new lessons especially after a lifetime of thinking other ways. I wish everyone success in using Dan's program. Thanks

[@SurrenderCrew]

Thank you Dan ❤❤❤ loving the birds singing in the background.

[@miltosmaris4108]

Thank you for another great video Dan

[@tammyrichards9901]

0 I think this is where I get stuck I think my digestive issues are repressed emotions from trauma as a kid into an adult because the symptoms come out of nowhere at times.

[@sherrilawrence662]

Me too❤

[@wednesdayschild3627]

Yes. I am going through this at times of upheaval. I am so tired if spending money on doctors.

[@rosemarymounts131]

Same here. Hope not too much TMI but have chronic constipation. Anyone else experience it? I believe it’s repressed emotions from childhood.

[@BokiSama10]

Dan you Are our Most Sympathic Hero ♥️ Greetings from Vienna

[@nancyschwartzberg6005]

Suppressed emotions. I avoid my emotions in some relationships. Yeah I repress for fear with my stories. I love how you talked about letting the emotions. Conversations..... I drop story in me....Confrontation is my problem/fear then....

[@JaneThomas58]

This is another home run, Dan. Thank you.

[@lorrainebrown7263]

How lovely it looks there - we have had constant cold, damp, thick cloud coming in from the Dogger Bank in Yorkshire for weeks now. The sun is up there somewhere and it will break through eventually! Your talks helping enormously. Thank you.

[@brucerennie9583]

Loved your discussion on how to let emotions flow in a rational way. Very nuanced and balanced and completely realistic, without being "work", 😄 🤣 thank you, a great way to start off the week 👍 😀 🙏

[@elisabethj6613]

Dan💕🙏🏼

[@alexandrecouture2462]

Thank you! I do enjoy journaling for feeling the emotions in me, but I have learned to do it in small quantity, because journaling a lot can put me upside down emotionally for a little while.

[@JoanneCrabb-gq8fx]

I joined your group today 😮scares the heck out of me but I'm going to do it!! 0:03

[@wednesdayschild3627]

I was doing better and now the symptoms are colorful again. Pennsylvania is nice. It is cold here in Colorado. I tried to go out but wind was miserable.

[@Kali.245]

Hi Dan. Thank you so much for all your great videos. I have over 60 years avoided going to movies and in past 10-15 years isolated myself to avoid contact with people for being “ fake” and pretending all is well etc when inside it’s a different story like jealousy, anger, comparison, criticism etc. Wonder if anyone can relate to this as causing PDP in body due to learned repressed emotions since childhood.

[@sweetie2219]

I have been feeling my emotions more and more. Now I have to have the conversation with my partner in a calm manner. That is the part I am avoiding.

[@1egmont]

Delightfully wise. Thanks Dan.

[@cheryl8493]

I loved the day, too, Dan!! It heals my brain and then in turn-body! Yay! You look good in that color, Dan!

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes! Thank you!

[@eloisemarie5219]

Appreciating the thoughts. Always gives me a path to action.

[@martha-louise]

Thanks Dan! 💛💛

[@JoniGallerani]

So spot on! Yes, makes sense. This is the root of my problem. I'd like more information on how to manage my emotions. More step by step help. Thank you.

[@PainFreeYou]

There is no step by step when emotions come and go all day long. Allow yourself to feel them without judgement and not getting lost in ruminating on the story. Emotion are normal, not something we need to process with a checklist. Feel them. They will pass.

[@SusanWallace-t3d]

Excellent like always. Such an inspiration

[@Lenneke8422]

Good one ty Dan setting bounderies alright and talk things out when needed in a nature way ❤😁👌

[@cheryl8493]

❤you’re the Bestest! This was so, so beneficial! Thank you, Dan the Man!😎

[@PainFreeYou]

You're so welcome!

[@lindascott7644]

❤ Great Talk Dan.. Will listen to this again and Save it.. Hit on alot of emotions for me..Thank you..

[@Raj-tr7sd]

Love you Dan❤

[@liam.4454]

How does anyone handle overwhelm? I can handle any emotion apart from overwhelm, it totally numbs me

[@krystle8534]

Brilliant, thank you🌞

[@spiritualpathseeker]

The woodpecker (?) made a cameo appearance toward the end! 😊

[@Gorgula]

Great video. Going to keep this one handy.

[@HomemakerDaze]

So helpful thank you

[@JaXFitness101]

Dan, thank you ! Can you please record video on pollen, and grass allergies that come up just like that first time in life, do you think it is also tms, mind-body (overreactive immune system response) and what do you thin(when we are not scared but cannot breath and functrion properly) about using anti-histamins sometimes?

[@fifiearthwanderer]

I habe chronic full body spasms and catatonic episodes almost due to not wanting to feel the big emotions. Working to let go of the fear of the emotions. Very hard to express emotions.

[@jonaswiden956]

Hi Dan! What do you think of EFT to work with emotions?

[@w300655]

Dear Dan, I have a very important question.. Because I'm stuck! I did the TMS test, and I got a score of 43 ... I have been suffering from all kinds of physical complaints for 6 years ... dizziness, spinning, brain-frog, concentration problems, pains in the legs, coughing, feeling of stuck mucus, fears, panic attacks, stress etc ... but doctors find nothing during all kinds of examinations ... the only thing they have been able to determine is: high blood pressure ... has also been examined by a cardiologist, and it is not from a medical cause .. the doctors say that this is due to stress, fears etc.. now I know that I have various traumas ... and emotions of sadness and intense suppressed anger, injustice etc ... the fact is ... if I allow these emotions and feel ... that I immediately notice a lot of relief or even total disappearance in all my physical symptoms ... but afterwards ... a few hours later or the day after ... the physical complaints and symptoms become terribly bad ... so, if I allow emotions ... I get relief ... but afterwards they are back but then much worse... and then I don't dare to allow the emotions for a while... because the complaints get worse afterwards... But, then the physical complaints and symptoms start to get worse again... I release emotions to relieve the complaints... which clearly helps as I have already written... but then it is worse again afterwards, this vicious circle just keeps going on.. this has been like this daily for 6 years now... I don't know what to do with these emotions that cause the physical complaints and vice versa 😫😞 . can you give me some advice? thanks for your answer 🙏💖

[@dkaur454]

How to express the emotions ? If you are unable to do the journaling.

[@PainFreeYou]

I believe we want to FEEL the emotions, more than "express" them. I explain more in this video from a few weeks back. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKmvioN6eduHf7c

[@dkaur454]

@@PainFreeYou what is another method to feel the emotions. If you can't do the journaling in a toxic environment

[@PainFreeYou]

@@dkaur454 did you watch the video? Allow yourself to feel them. We do that naturally and do not need a formal process. Have you ever been angry? Do that. Have you ever been sad? Do that. It is natural.

[@anthonycastoro1684]

It's Tracker Boy Season!

[@abitofeverythin3535]

Crying is the bodies way to relive stress and anxiety .

[@paulmason9794]

What about trying to focus yourself, most of the time on positive/happy emotions? Surely these are the best to feel?

[@mjoachim9554]

Hi Dan. Need your voice of reason badly today. Going through a divorce and new sharp lower back pains have emerged. I’m trying so hard not to freak out as I know exactly what this is. I’m waiting for an mri but it’s going g to be a very long time before I get there. How can I reassure myself that I’m okey without the mri?

[@PainFreeYou]

If you were not in an accident or did not fall on your back, I'm 99% sure this is all just your brain perceiving danger. MRI's don't prove anything. DansFastStart.com - watch, take notes, implement consistently, watch again, repeat until well. Focus on KNOWING you are safe.

[@mjoachim9554]

Dan. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your quick response. You are helping me so much. I know you must attend to so many people in a day so I thankyou sincerely. Dan, if you could answer this…I fell hard on my tailbone in 2018. Didn’t break it but came close. Could an old injury contribute to the pain ?

[@PainFreeYou]

@@mjoachim9554 No - the body heals. Yours healed long ago. Perceived danger causes pain. A perceived old injury that still hurts creates a lot of fear which is exactly what keeps it going.

[@mjoachim9554]

Thanks very much Dan. Your videos and responses are holding me together. I really believe what you are saying.

[@Siddy641]

🎉

[@pattyboucetta1897]

You look good in that shirt Dan. :))

[@PainFreeYou]

ah - thanks. Just got it recently.

[@kihntagious]

But enduring the discomfort of a disagreement without dysregulating comes when we own the very short moment before we act.