Anger Management Techniques That Work!

Dr. Christian Conte presents two extremely helpful anger management techniques. For more information about Dr. Conte, visit www.drchristianconte.com

[@DrChristianConte]

To everyone who is angry right now - remember this: No matter how bad things get, and no matter how much you're suffering: "This too, shall pass." Everything changes. Absolutely everything.

[@zoe51409]

My mate just got beat up, really, I'm fuming because they went for me aswell. Really not in a good mood. Telling you it was wrong

[@rjhernandez0911]

Wow,I just kinda stumbled on top this and thought I'd give it a watch and wow, very helpful, the Lord puts people in your path for a reason, thanks for this I've just subscribed.

[@DrChristianConte]

Thanks brother. I wish you much peace.

[@rjhernandez0911]

Christian Conte thanks for that keep doing what you do it helps.

[@kmir8]

Dr. Christian Conte I'm really in pain because of a person of over aggressive personality. He just gets angry over everything and says things that hurts me so much emotionally and kind of gets abusive too. I dunno how to make him understand that it's just weakening our relation. I get hurt so much that Im not able to get back to normal for so many time. Help me.

[@bennybenns]

I am currently in the final segment of a breakup with my Fiance. She left me. My anger had pushed her away, I lost control. I gave it away. I've been studying several of your videos the last few days, thank you for what you do. The advice through heartbreak is hard to take and to listen to but already some of the techniques you have taught me have already made a small impact on my life. I may never get her back, but maybe one day with enough practice I will be in control of myself. Thank you.

[@judeannethecandorchannel2153]

My...paused-fiancé? and I have been going thru the same struggle. I think these videos are great. My partner and I can both be rageful, even violent. I seem to mostly only go to that place of extreme anger when I'm in a relationship with an aggressive man. (My schizophrenic mom brings it out in me too, but it's much easier to stop and apologize with her. She doesn't Go To War with me the way the two men I've tried to be with have. Last year I made some progress but got discouraged when he got Much Worse Despite intensive therapy. Now I'm left to wonder--can too much talking about childhood trauma before you've mastered self control make a client with anger issues Much Worse??!? I know the rational thing would be to break up and stay broken up Butv we seem Actually Incapable of falling out of love or resisting each other...

[@Skydejavu]

God bless you and give you the strength to lead a happy life for you!

[@ieva5948]

Yes i think whats crucial is to first take back your life and learn how to control, only then dig deeper into reasons and trauma. We came to this conclusion with my therapist.

[@SquarePenix.]

I drove my fiancé away too. I’m an agnostic and she’s a Christian and she kept mentioning how I should look into Christianity with her. Instead of being rational with her; I internalized this as “she’s trying to control me. Don’t take that! Stand up for yourself” and so in an angry outburst, I told her to get the fuck out while she was showering at 2 am. I kicked her out in anger as she was crying and followed her around my house as she got her stuff. About 20 minutes later; I had finally calmed down and told her, begged her even, to stay but at that point, I had already done too much damage. That incident made me look into controlling my emotions; a harsh lesson but a necessary one.

[@justetip]

😳.. whoa

[@paperchain1239]

I am in tears because I know I have given so much of my power away to people who just don't deserve it

[@FreeTibetFTW]

Eleven years later and still helping people. My own lack of control got me into this puppet situation where my boss is actively trying to get complaints from my coworkers in order to have reasons to fire me (several of them warned me). Now, without these videos, I would've been offended and resentful toward my boss, but it looks like it has been me the one who lend her the power over my person, so I'm the one to blame. I formerly thought of my temperament as a sign of strength, now I realize it has always been a sign of weakness. Thank you for your wisdom

[@DrChristianConte]

A lot of times we don't want to "bother anyone" with our problems - until we realize that we are bothering them with our actions anyway. When I am faced with bothering someone with my actions or bothering a friend by asking for support, I tend to pick asking my friend. More often than not, friends are not actually bothered by us turning to them anyway. If you can, try to seek out a friend or counselor to turn to, even if it's difficult, because none of us needs to face things alone. Much peace

[@ashleykindheartministries]

Thankyou!❤️ I found your video today, and will try to remember what you said. I’m living in India, where people cross “normal” boundaries all the time. They have a whole different set of rules over here about what is polite and what isn’t. Whenever we go out in public, complete strangers touch my children, pinch their cheeks roughly, and try to take them against my will, after I’ve said NO. And sometimes they yank my baby a couple times to see who will win the tug of war!!!!!😭😭😭

[@pxmaarch7998]

This is so far the most effective technique I saw on youtube. Other vids are crap. This man just hits me right in the feels.

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you so much. Sending you much peace!

[@allenh7835]

Have to agree on other videos. Incredibly naive and downright stupid advice is all over youtube ! Incompetent professionals that need to stay out of the way and just stfu !

[@sambt123]

When I’m angry , I usually don’t think. I just act, I punched a gaping hole in my wall because of this

[@sarahm2878]

Same. It's almost like something else inside me completely takes over and I am no longer myself until I come to and see the mess I've created. It's like a monster inside.

[@redruby747]

M2

[@mmvjohnson5]

@@sarahm2878 same

[@tyrannosaurus62]

When I get angry. I think and I don’t punch any holes in anything. However I do yell. I get impulsive. But I do somehow manage to control it a little. But I don’t enforce anything in anyone: just don’t touch me.

[@urltima]

I have a hole in my bathroom wall I had to cover up with posters and im gonna hide it from my family til we move 💀

[@Bobo411]

This video helped me a lot today. I was in a situation I couldn't leave and the person would not stop poking and prodding. Instead of the situation devolving into me yelling and/or crying, I cut the puppet strings and was able to maintain my composure, and the other person was left to be angry to themselves. I did cry when I was alone and ruminated too much afterwards, but that's something I feel like I can keep working on now that I have a base to work from.

[@matthewsnowdon8628]

Brilliant and im a teen who got has a bad bad bad temper now this really helped me

[@DrChristianConte]

Thanks brother. Sending you all the best and much peace for sure!

[@telagraf]

i can't thank you enough for this. it's been a daily struggle lately for me.

[@DrChristianConte]

I agree: we have the power to determine how we feel - even though it can be difficult, the fact is, it's possible. Thank you for your comments.

[@pikachuuu2163]

Just got into a fight with my mom before this lol, but this vid really could help me with my anger issues.. See, its runs in my family haha, but I'm realising that I don't want to live that way.. So thanks a lot Dr Conte, I'll try to put ur techniques into use, the whole puppet analogy just opened up my whole mind

[@angelic_screams]

I was a angry person I felt alone and robbed of communication with others I spent years of my life ploting and pushing away people that got in the way of my anger and what upset me or who upset me I put my enemy's that I made from my own poor choices over the people I care about...Loosing friendships along the way I was so disconnected to human interaction and emotional Attachment that all i felt was rage All I had was anger it consumed me I didn't cry for 4 years only shout and break things Once I reached that point I was getting a rush...a high from becoming angry It even changed me sexually I injoyed watching people suffer because of how terrible I felt for years In school I would constantly get in to fights and was always the one who started it I hurt my mother, my brother and myself through all of it But after all of that and realizing who I was i knew I needed to change I started smoking weed Exercising And in general I tried to nature things more And most importantly never shoving my empathy down for anything I feel a lot more now I've worked on myself Don't do the same thing I did Open your heart to love over hate, Hate will solve nothing it only consumes Revenge,anger, and hate will only leave you robbed of hope Robbed of humanity And ultimately turn you in to a monster After not feeling guilty for so long and then waking up to what monster I let manifest I would truly never wish apon any living thing in the mlutiverse I hope someone like me can read this and know what path rage leads you to

[@ugo4632]

Thanks for this

[@alekzhdo]

This is awesome! it made me realize how I was giving away that power everyday and that it is myself the one who needs to be in control. We often blame the other person but it is up to us to take control.

[@kevinpark55]

Thank you for positively changing my life. Your puppet/IronMan technique of not giving away your power literally saved me from committing crimes like assault and battery which would have landed me in prison...possibly for life. I don't have a felony record and never want one. I genuinely can't thank you enough.

[@nubiangoddess2376]

This is great advice. The way you present/word the info in the video, has inspired me to control my anger simply out of spite for others 😂 I can’t believe I have been giving up my power all these years.

[@dhanisk]

Excellent analogy of the puppet and the book to manage your anger, Dr. Conte. While it seems very simple, I am sure practicing it will have its own challenges. I will do my best to visualize the puppet and the book every time I become angry and say things that I wish I had not said. BTW, I also watched several other videos of yours last night. Appreciate posting them all on KZbin. Thanks a bunch.

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you so much Suresh! I appreciate you taking time to watch my videos and express something kind to me. And I believe you are 100% right - understanding these concepts and practicing them can be two very different things - and it's not always easy to practice what we know. The key is consistency and trying, though, and I'm definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace!

[@matthewnugent-marcoux3658]

Dr. Conte, I have been suffering from extreme anger issues over the dumbest and most unrealistic things, and again I have you and most importantly my wife for finding this video. I really am tired of overreacting to things that either my daughters 2 & 6 do or my relatives. My wife found this in concern for my health, as I've been afflicted with diabetes from about 16yrs now and stress is definitely not good for anyone's health especially mine. I turn 36 today, and I sincerely wish to change for the sake of beautiful wife and daughters, as they deserve nothing but the best. God bless and thank you again.

[@DrChristianConte]

Hey Matthew, I'm sorry to hear that you've had to struggle with anger for so long, but I really admire the fact that you are making changes for your family. You're right, your wife and daughters deserve your best, and it's awesome that you are giving that to them. I think it's understandable that we have learned behavioral patterns of accepting that it's okay to lash out of anger, but the great thing is that we really can change. My website has some resources to help you keep up with the changes you're making (and I started posting videos regularly on my youtube channel). I'm sending you and your family all the best. Much peace, Dr. Conte

[@matthewnugent-marcoux3658]

+Dr. Christian Conte Thanks for the reply and words of encouragement. I will definitely follow up on the website, I wish you were close by so I could personally come and see you as a patient. If ever you're around/in Montreal for anything related to your profession, I'd like to volunteer myself as a person willing to publicly go through your process on your show or otherwise help you promote your help and teachings further. I don't have anything to offer as I don't think I could afford you, but you do more than you can imagine by doing what you do and deserve all the best for you and your family. Much peace to you and yours as well, and I'd love to keep in touch if we can.

[@DrChristianConte]

Definitely. Feel free to contact me through my website if you'd like to stay in touch. Much peace brother!

[@momrocks3]

We shared this video at our Celebrate Recovery meeting when someone was sharing on their anger issues and everyone thought it was very helpful. It can be used to relate to giving your power to other things too. Thanks for this insight!

[@galynaripa697]

Using these technics, I've managed not to ruin my mood during an argument with pathological ex. This is huge for me. Thank you!

[@monikah12345]

Thank you, I really need this info right now before I do something I will regret...

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you. I think it's hard sometimes to step back and stop ourselves from making decisions in the heat of the moment that we will regret. It's amazing how empowered we feel when we can take the time to think things through beforehand. The fact that you are taking time to watch videos and learn about what's going on inside you shows that you certainly do have that self control, and you are probably a lot stronger than you know. I wish you much peace.

[@DrChristianConte]

I think the way I see it is that there is a difference between understanding and practicing. Most people seem to understand (in theory) how to handle anger, but actually living that out can be tough. I wish you much peace.

[@drpaulchan]

puppet & power technique for anger management. I remember this. Thanks

[@briancaples587]

Great explanation of this. I like the puppet and Iron man analogies!

[@DrChristianConte]

Thanks brother! Sending you much peace!

[@billmiles9413]

That's exactly what happens, this guy knows what he's talking about.much respect and peace to you my friend.🙏

[@jessreyes5030]

My anger problem is not anything that you've given advice on in this video. It is like a much more deep rooted anger. I don't get as angry at people anymore for the dumb shit they do, i used to act out often but ive calmed down alot. My anger feels very deep inside and i rage especially at those closest to me, but not strangers. I need serious help with this because its ruining my relationships, and the guilt is weighing me down. Please help, thanks.

[@DrChristianConte]

Hey Jess, Thanks for watching this video. First, I think it's great that you are reaching out for help and doing something about it. Second, I agree, the two techniques in this short video certainly do not address the issue you described. In regard to help online, I would invite you to keep looking for videos that might help explain the underlying reasons for anger; but more importantly, I really hope that you might be able to find a professional in your area who you could sit down with. Sometimes the process of letting go of the things that hurt us in life takes a lot longer than we might expect. It is possible though, and I certainly wish you much peace.

[@RedForceRising]

Hi Jess, I would like to share my experience. Earlier this year, I finally went to anger management councelling. Long story short, people doing or saying dumb shit is just the trigger. My anger is deep-rooted and caused by past trauma. I still get angry but less frequently and no longer hits 10/10 everytime I do get angry. My wife is triggers my anger the most. Almost exclusively. This is a real problem. While I work on myself, i am convincing to go for councelling as well. She is addicted to conflict. It is a dangerous situation. I find Dr Conte's tips in this video. The next time my wife is being exceptionally ubreasonable and aggreasive, I will choose not to give away my power.

[@cimonecampbell8490]

order 5 Cd "how to deal with anger" by Joyce Meyers if you are a christian, catholic etc it is awesome it quotes the bible and deals with deeply rooted Anger issues. I bought for $19 on Amazon!

[@DrChristianConte]

Melanie Morris Hey Melanie, The best that I can offer to you is to find someone you can trust to begin to work through some of those issues. Our pasts shape us for sure, but that does not mean they have to determine our future. I wish you much peace. -Dr. Conte

[@drfarihasuniverse6409]

Jess Reyes go for hypnosis or nlp session as it will give you fast results of getting rid of your deep anger issues ,which is mostly from our childhood and past life ,unprocessed emotions ,need to come out of our subconscious minds ,praying for you

[@PraveenSriram]

This video is from 2013 but is still very true today in 2023. These videos have helped me tremendously. Thank you so much 😊 Dr. Conte!

[@danielmarquis5258]

This man really put things into perspective. I work a gate for a Security Job and the Employees are rude as hell (from shaking their badges to flashing me the dirtiest of looks). That is enough to set me off where I go back inside the shack (when there are no cars or employees) and bang my fist on the table really hard. Sometimes I have angry outbursts because I am in “Rage Mode.” As much as I hate these people right now, I want these feelings of anger to stop. I’m not rude to them, but they sure as hell take a huge pile of crap on me.

[@labombshell83]

I have seen countless videos on this subject and this video really helped me. I saw my anger in a different way. I've been letting other people control me well no more . Great video

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you so much. It's such a good feeling to be in control of our lives and not allow others to have power over us. I wish you much peace.

[@urltima]

I have BPD so anger issues are VERYYY familiar to me. The puppet analogy is so smart because part of my being angry is being SOOO inside myself that I can't escape and become an observer again. The ability to observe myself becomes next to impossible when I become angry most likely as a defense mechanism. Anger is NOT violence or hitting. Anger is very internal, it's so much deeper than being pissed off. I heard from Dr. Phil once that "Anger is hurt, fear, or frustration" and that one line helped me dramatically in my Anger management journey. So when I do get angry, afterward I review what happened and what got me so angry, and trace it down to if I was feeling rejected, or embarrassed or defensive - it's not Anger. It's hurt, fear, or frustration. Finding the deeper emotions beyond my anger has helped me dramatically and I encourage everyone to retrace their steps and go deeper and deeper with the why's because it helps you discover why you are actually presenting so angrily.

[@EnCroissant427]

LMAO 🤣🤣 who else lost their shit when the dude pulled a puppet out of nowhere 😆😆

[@emsalistaful]

This video is fantastic. Thank you for taking the time to put it out there for all of us!

[@amiradeshon5501]

I remember when I was in 5th grade, a boy kept calling me stupid. It hurt my feelings so bad I took my metal lunch box and hit him over his head . I was sent to the principal's office and punished. I was so embarrassed as a kid . I now have your advice to live by . I thank God for you.

[@CombatVetReviews]

That puppet explanation just changed my perspective. You have my attention... thank you

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you. Thanks for taking the time to tell me.

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you for your kind comments. Kate is awesome and I would love to hear from her and how she's doing. Congratulations on your engagement! She can contact me through my website. I wish you two all the best!

[@mosesyah1261]

Good work, doc.

[@DrChristianConte]

Thanks brother. I appreciate you taking the time to let me know.

[@HussainAl--Khalil]

Thank you for this

[@cujo4397]

this is so powerful to me!! many videos just say "take a deep breath, count to 10" and it's so not helpful at all! if someone in the moment is angry and you tell them to just take a walk, it seems to be more of an irritant than an aid! but this video puts things into perspective and helps a lot! I'm really struggling with anger, but i think a big change in me just happened! i don't HAVE to struggle! i don't HAVE to give people my power!

[@thisisbob1001]

Thanks.good stuff.

[@joekidd298]

Your videos are great. Thanks for making them.

[@michaellilly4070]

Thanks. Great perspective.

[@DrChristianConte]

Thanks brother.

[@user-qr6sm4nb8q]

Thank you for your example

[@exohydra]

Thank you very much!

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you SuperWeaponR - I appreciate hearing that a ton. Much peace, Christian

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you so much.

[@sherdilnba5626]

Thanks Doc!

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you.

[@Hella990]

Thanks Dr Christian

[@rush022]

You are a blessing, thank you 💯🙏🤙

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you very much.

[@gracetrevett4846]

Thank You!

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you! I wish you well for sure.

[@bunny8169]

Yes Yes Yes! Thank you for posting on KZbin! Dr. Conte you are greatly missed! Your techniques are practical and have definitely made a difference in my counseling style.

[@elab4187]

So simple and amazing

[@lightbrowneyesusa]

Thank you

[@valor36az]

These techniques help so much, thank you for taking the time to make this video

[@grimlockprime9862]

Thank you for the tips

[@DK-do8nr]

sharing with people in my groups and public

[@jacobcohen8355]

Always helpful. Thank you Doc

[@noahfirstark]

Powerful words

[@kellyandersen3856]

Thank you so much

[@yousseftijdit]

Thanks Doctor, it's very helpful !

[@merymares]

Dr. Conte, thank you so much for this video--keep them coming! I was so fortunate to have taken a few courses with Dr. Conte and have learned hands on techniques and theory from someone who has been able to help so many people deal with their personal issues. I highly recommend his book to anyone in the mental health field. His book is full of tangible and creative counseling techniques that really work.

[@hannahis813]

The best doctor!!

[@IdratherbeinHobbiton]

I am so glad and thankful I stumbled upon your videos! Your down to Earth sense of conveying your messages is amazing. You have a no-b.s. way of putting things and you're easy to listen to. I hope I can get better at practicing all these techniques and be better especially for my kids. Thank you so much!

[@RealRaslu]

Great practical advice. Thank you Doc!

[@mexiluvsw]

Thank you so much for this video back a few years ago I was constantly angry and I looked and acted completely different. At the time I thought it was no big deal until I saw videos of who I was. I never wanted to leave my house because of how angry I was and hated interacting with people out side of my comfort group.

[@alexandrealferan7144]

Thank you very good analogies

[@maaudioman]

thank you

[@Daddyo94521]

does put a picture in your mind. Thanks

[@DrChristianConte]

Thank you for taking time to say something positive. Much appreciation.

[@williamvinacco1912]

I love your advice, very helpful.

[@kitshelton8168]

I'm glad this man found his calling.

[@DrChristianConte]

I really appreciate hearing that Kit! Thank you. I genuinely believe I have. Sending you much peace!

[@kitshelton8168]

@@DrChristianConte I say that cause everytime I snap, I grab my phone and watch one of you're videos. I just have to keep remembering that it will pass like you said. Thanks for the helpful videos. ✌

[@happymommy81]

Never thought of it as giving away my power! Love this concept/technique!

[@user-uw7mh4pk1i]

real clear.

[@elitechelle]

Dr. Conte!!!! you're a boss!! we miss you here in Reno. be blessed!

[@christopherstewart3558]

I resolve to keep my power! I like that the idea of not being someone else's puppet. Great analogy.

[@D-Slowpass]

Thank you. That was spot on😀

[@TheRedTango115]

Thank you this video has helped me so much.

[@cameronnovak6056]

This was a powerful video for me to listen to years ago when I was going through a hard time and now I'm sharing your info to a friend right now who needs help. Thanks for the amazing video . I feel you compassion and love.

[@travis9190]

This video should have at least 100 million views.

[@belief7994]

This video was so helpful I had to watch this again

[@cr125k2f]

thank you Christian you really helped me. thanks you !

[@debbiebrown5766]

You are awesome!!

[@jasonturner1590]

Thank you much Great advice.

[@trishmairet4061]

Excellent information...thank you!

[@happytawi]

Thanks so much for this video, really helps! The puppet example is spot on. Great thinking thanks again

[@OGShiv]

Thank you Doc! Very intuitive and well thought out strategies laid out so beautifully and simply. Sending positive vibes to you and anyone reading this

[@sarahdearborn5723]

Dr. Conte, this video is an extremely great visual to let children and parents watch that are struggling with this concept, I can never put it as elequently as you! These are such helpful concepts to teach others that can be resistant to new ideas because they are easy to grasp. I can't wait to share this visual with others!

[@manases94]

Thank you so much dr conte, this video has been very helpful in my life

[@VelasquezAlfredo]

Excellent, liked your power shield metaphore very much.

[@JackalGoldKick]

Thanks for these kind of videos sometimes small stuff that shouldn't be a big deal I sometimes take to heart and your videos help with not letting anger get out of control

[@MrTellboy]

Thank you. You helped my life a lot.

[@eunicegomez2020]

So helpful Sir. Thank you.

[@em1000000]

This is great! Anyone else notice the whiteboard in the background? Words at the surface, meaning underneath. Attention to detail = Intentionality. -love it-

[@letstalksuccess580]

Great points. Thank you for sharing these techniques.

[@ritaendres6495]

To Dr. Christian Conte, For the last 2 days now I have been checking out your videos on You Tube. (by the way I did subscribe to you channel) For as long as I can remember I seem to always have some anger issues in the workplace. In my late 20's I was diagnosed as Borderline personality disorder along with bipolar depression. I try so hard to control my thoughts and anger in the work place but I am having a hard time struggling with that. I see a doctor for my prescriptions for my mental illness. I really like doing the work I do, but I have very hard time dealing with the people I work around. For the last 20 plus years the jobs I used to do I just sat in a cubicle and did data entry work. I did not have to deal with the people I worked with, also I did not have to deal with the public. I liked my other jobs, but I eventually got laid off. The point I am trying to make is because I have to work around the coworkers and mingle with them, I do not seem to know how to deal with this. Do you think people that have a mental illness can get better with your anger management videos and learn how to communicate better with coworkers and their bosses?