Parents Can't Control What You Want

[@whatisyourexcuse7240]

This is so true! Parents want you to do what they think is best, but you gotta do what makes you happy

[@AyushMajithia]

What Is Your Excuse Could I ask you for a favor?

[@whatisyourexcuse7240]

@@AyushMajithia what is that

[@AyushMajithia]

What Is Your Excuse Well I recently started creating content and it would really mean the world to me if you checked out my channel.

[@Gravitywalker20]

They want what's best for their own EGO's! Not what's best for you.

[@Gravitywalker20]

@Keith Brey Not sure how old you are, but as you age, you're going learn certain things as I have. No parent on this Earth has the right to be a controlling asswipe well into your adulthood. Hope all works out for you.

[@RealVersatile]

Parents want their children to live their dreams they never got the chance to do when they were their children's age...I like how Gary was straight to the point.

[@yagottapaythetrolltoll3127]

Yeah my parents are constantly playing the college “game” with me (I only just finished freshman year of high school). I do agree that I should work hard now, and im thankful to be as privileged as I am, and to have parents who give a shit and want me to be successful. However, even when I meet their quotas, they expect more. Literally yesterday my mom saw that I had free time at 10, an hour before I would go to sleep, and dragged me out to have a discussion with her and my dad about doing more work. I just recently thought about it in the fucking 30 minutes of free time I have walking my dog that this kind of shit isn’t helpful. I realized that instead of building up my own work ethic, and wanting to do things myself, I’ve started to try and cheat my work. Now that just doesn’t help the both of us. I think the reason they overload me is because they want me to be even more successful than they were, which is good, you should want the best for your child. But they try to achieve it through brute force instead of letting myself discover success, and actually doing something on my own for once.

[@sureshrana3948]

@acho gujjar No Don't.. jaise acha waqt ni rha waise bura waqt bhi ni rahega, Stay Strong.

[@MaryamKhan-vf3zo]

Sometimes they want you to live their pain and want you to do the exact same thing they went through because of their parents!

[@The222ndAngel]

@@MaryamKhan-vf3zobingo.

[@scc6609]

Parents are usually your worst enemy when you wanna strike out on your own. They say things that straight up seems they want you to fail or say YOU will fail. It hurts really bad, but also use that as motivation to make sure you do what you wanna do and do it the best!

[@allisonscanlan4144]

Exactly

[@hansonel]

Narcissistic parents especially, they can cause lasting damage. I think that poor girl came from narc or toxic parents

[@mrgabrielfantastic5895]

@@allisonscanlan4144 I just keep moving forward, Until my enemies are destroyed

[@drcakemd7114]

It sucks man, everytime I talk about my big goals or dreams my mom says "well if it was that easy everyone would be wealthy" or "just get a job and pay your bills" that's not what I want. They don't believe I will succeed at all.

[@nathanaeladdison3631]

@@mrgabrielfantastic5895 jaeger-San is that you😳

[@sarvesh714]

I see why people are so afraid to go against their parents... It all comes to the house... Say you don't decide to go to college, what is the worst thing that might happen?? Parents kick you out of the house.... But you don't have any house to fall back on... So they use this chance to blackmail you because they know you are nothing without their support... I say people like us 20-25 we all should try hard to get our house even if it's very small... Once we do that there's nothing that will come between our dreams... Nobody can give you shit if you own everything in your life...

[@mrinmoybiswas3704]

To own a house you need money and a LOT of money. And to earn that much money you need a high profile job and for a high profile job you gotta graduate from an A grade college. Indirectly you're doing what your parents wanted you to do

[@sarvesh714]

Not necessarily... You can hustle... Get experience doing small jobs first... Develop a skill and work for free for a while for someone to gain experience... Then compete for freelancing jobs... Or gain enough friends to start a business... Or make a product and sell it to the big businesses...or buy stuff in bulk and sell it Amazon... There are tons of opportunities today to make a living without college....

[@patricialim6816]

Don’t forget about finding out what you love to do, and that it is not always through educational institutions that you find that.

[@RATED4EVER]

This is exactly why I started playing the lottery every week since 2010 so that I can move out, get my own place, and never have to be in this situation ever again. But of course, the chances of that are extremely low as you know. Bottomline: You Gotta Be IN IT to WIN IT!

[@chickenlittle567]

Watch how quick they change when you say you’re moving out 🤣 I was making 1k a week but stayed at home to support my parents they refused support but tied me into a 60k loan without telling me anything and making me feel guilty. Now I’m on 1.5k a month changed my profession I’m the biggest idiot in the world....

[@dreonthetube]

I can empathize with this girl so much. Also coming from an Asian background it is so hard for me to just do my own thing because we are taught to listen and respect our elders our entire lives. It's hard to just ignore everything they tell us and disappoint them.

[@Divisyon474]

Me too, now doing uni and helping them with family business. I don’t know if this I what I really want in my life

[@ladybonezz8017]

It has nothing to do with being Asian. That’s parents in general for anyone. And who knows if she’s actually from Asia

[@Oysters176]

@@Divisyon474 Helping with family business sounds awesome! That's such security!

[@officialzacadammorrison]

Kinda pathetic that parents have to wait 200 million years before they can drop their ego

[@onanahavannaa4554]

facts

[@markarca6360]

They can't and they won't.

[@ryan24a73]

They be dead by now and another parent be minding there own business

[@johnshafer7214]

If parents love their children, they need to allow their children make their own decisions. Too often they make decisions that will only ruin their adult children's lives and they will destroy any relationship that they have with their kids.

[@drcakemd7114]

I feel bad for thinking this, but I CANT WAIT to rub it in my mom's face how successful I am some day. It's fueling the fire. Her not believing in my dreams or goals is pushing me to succeed even harder. I love her so much and I will help her a lot when I succeed, but I cannot wait to see the look of disbelief when I show her I made my first million dollars.

[@Dubblrr2330]

Feel the same EXACT way

[@everydayfun9531]

Feel the Same Exact Way i Wanna Destroy My Dad's Mindset and Show him he's So Wrong on What his definition of Success is..

[@baddaysfinisher]

how you did so far?

[@deepanshsingh5907]

​@@baddaysfinisher 😂😂

[@deepanshsingh5907]

Yeah guys, how did u all end up doing? For myself i have also failed in many side hustles over the years. I m 19 rn. But soon gonna find some success!! Even had some little successes with previous side hustles but it's hard at times ❤❤

[@daniellemccollum6599]

My 13 year-old told me she’s leaving at 18. I told her if she goes to do her own thing at 18...then I did my job as a parent. I’ll be proud whatever she does...why would any parent want their kid unhappy in life?

[@everydayfun9531]

Your Really a Good Parent But My Parents woudnt Even care to Listen to what i Gotta Say they will Just Shame me And Say oh so your gonna be a Loser to Society or So my Parents said..

[@charlydatduclai7734]

That is because some parents are selfish and greedy, all they care about is their own happiness and money over the happiness and successes of their children. They’re the ones that do not deserve to be parents.

[@swaroopvaidya]

Most parents are happy with their kids being unhappy if they make a lot of money. They think earning more is gonna make everyone happy. I think thats the problem

[@blaineg107]

I know right 🙄

[@obitouchiha6439]

"Why would any parent want their kid unhappy in life?" The answer to that is collectivist family culture. The idea that a person only exists to appease their parents and grandparents by becoming their retirement plan, since being brought into existence against one's will is considered a "gift" and the person MUST repay that debt by sacrificing their right to pursue individual desires and interests for the sake of providing for the family, because that's considered their only purpose in life. Going against these ideals is considered "selfish" "arrogant" and "ungrateful." Selfish because "We didn't get to do whatever we wanted when we were your age, so neither should you." Arrogant because "You think you're so special that you think you shouldn't be forced to follow our traditions." Ungrateful because "We took care of you, so you owe it to us to sacrifice your autonomy for our sake." This attitude is commonly prevalent amongst communities and families who are poverty stricken or have been molded by religious doctrine or a combination of the two.

[@pratimathapa5330]

It just goes to show how 90%people are toxic and they mirror it to their kids. Inner work is so important. I have toxic parents too, it gave me depression for 8years. My mental health started getting better when I moved out, it's tough but keep praying and don't give up

[@DracoYahinAlchedius]

Some parents are very dominating. They love controlling their children as much as possible. I know a guy who at the age of 26, being a graduate, wasn't allowed to apply for a job because his parents wanted him to finish his IELTS exam first. The truth was actually they have this mentality of being angry when they see him being too advanced according to their views. It's like not allowing your child to touch a phone. Also, they didn't even allow him to wear a suit at wedding ceremonies till he was 23 years old, as if he was wearing an inappropriate dress.

[@alasdairhicks6731]

Going through the same thing with my parents. I dropped out, now I'm getting successful in sales, and am working on a business. They tell me it's not going to work long term and that I should go back to school. And my father in particular is very good at using psychological pressure to get his way. This is so enlightening.

[@pepsicolla123]

Good job 😊 ! Can I ask what do you sell?

[@russstclair7985]

I hate it when you can't enjoy life and be happy because your parents are controlling and overprotective

[@damienjohnson6385]

Man what!!

[@dhaqabk4022]

@@damienjohnson6385 you read him

[@DannyJ_2003]

@@damienjohnson6385 controlling parents try to make you believe their way is the only way, and to them you’re essentially a child all the way until you have a wife and kids, and therefor all of your dreams and passions are just “fantasies”

[@ryankirk-fw6jf]

​@@DannyJ_2003 that's my story

[@NeoTesla]

I have a overcontrolling mom. She's forcing me to go to college because she thinks it's the only way to success. In reality. Thats not true. You dont need college to be successful. Theres so many successful people out there and they never been to college. I'm not going to college, because i dont want to end up in student loan debt. Its not true. She's a comparing me to my other relatives and her friends. I hate to say it but her expectations are the reason why I'm always stressed and depressed. I can't stand it anymore. At this point. I'm done trying to please her. I'm tired of being soft and being her slave.

[@ZacharyLaid]

Only you control what you want!

[@AyushMajithia]

Zachary Laid Finding Freedom Could I ask you for a favor?

[@Emersongabbriel]

Facts

[@mansipatel1]

u can never change selfish,cruel, narcissistic parents for their lifetime, narcissism is not at all curable, "no contact" with parents is only the remedy !!

[@vasiavisilievic1873]

As someone who grew up with an abusive narcissist parent, i confirm.

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

We had a narcissist family member. They were extremely abusive. I agree with no contact. To give you an idea of how bad this person was no one came to their funeral.

[@mansipatel1]

@@ChooseLoveToday316 thank you so much for giving me validation, plz help me getting more subscribers🙏🏽

[@therearenoshortcuts9868]

either that ... or you have to give them the "hard-goodbye" LOL

[@growingwithoscar6943]

Im glad I listened to this. Going through the same situation.

[@mattrixx007]

Me to, stay strong!

[@mscisland]

Same here.

[@hafizrazak89]

same here

[@kramietaylor3391]

Same stay strong I’m not going college if the last thing I do

[@SASHA-wv2ls]

What happened?

[@cheeck6230]

People are too polite to their parents. They exploit thou must love thy parents except they often do not reciprocate. They are not always on your side.

[@punitkhanolkar5637]

This is the callous, hard truth. It’s 💯 though.

[@tersan5043]

Cheeck true. But it goes both ways... Why rest in someone ELSES efforts (parents), take from it willingly, but then cry when the people supporting them place expectations on recieving that effort? That’s what Gary’s saying. When your 18 NOBODY owns you unless you let them.

[@newkiller4457]

That's true. What's the point in loving your parents if they love you the worst way and almost torture you.

[@KyriosHeptagrammaton]

"thou must love thy parents" but those who do not love you are not your parents

[@berrymint6384]

They do not do politeness out of kindness FEAR and RESPECT are two OPPOSITES LEARN them!

[@LovepreetSingh-lp7hw]

My parents never did what I said even in my childhood they never supported me ... And told me when you will grow we will get you that toy... Now I'm grown up and missing that days without happiness 😢

[@nevinwebster]

Money // Shelter // Psychological Warfare

[@mansipatel1]

(between parents & children) "no contact" should be allowed socially & legally !! society should stop shaming n making d child feel guilty for going away from parents !!

[@hansonel]

This. Narcissistic parent's always use the "obey thy mother and father" BS and "you don't turn your back on family" BS. No contact is great for some people and helps them thrive

[@obitouchiha6439]

Come to western civilization and you won't have to deal with that.

[@cyndriana]

I moved back with my parents after dropping out of college... that shit is a TRAP. Now I'm stuck with toxic parents that make me understand I'm a failure and I don't have any option to move out. I'm currently saving so I can get the hell out for good.

[@aprillynn6221]

Ages 18-25 is a difficult point of life to be in. Oftentimes, couples worry more about their reputations than what is actually the best interest of their son/daughter. It's the time where the young adult needs to break away from childhood and take responsibility, and the parents need to step down from their role as authority figures. --Those life transitions are hard.

[@hustleabroadchronicles]

Im in my 30's and Im here listening because i too have and still experiencing this....IM FINALLY PUTTIN A STOP TO THIS AND NEED THIS MOTIVATION AND CONFIRMATION !!!

[@jpx8793]

That is partly true. While the child is a minor, parents have power over other things also, such as what the child cannot watch, for instance, and/or a curfew of when to be inside, etc. But after the child is 18, then they have only those two leverages.

[@patricialim6816]

The tough part is a child under 18 with dreams like such

[@enochduah3066]

@@patricialim6816 acting and modeling

[@PatrickCogen]

Do what you love to do no matter what your parents say! This is the reason I'm creating consistent content on my channel and sharing as much value as I can:)

[@StacyReadsCards]

Your comment worked, I just subbed to you lol You have very good information on your channel!

[@PatrickCogen]

@@StacyReadsCards Thank you! I'm doing my best:)

[@Sana-ce8ud]

What to do when i dont know what i love and and i dont love what my parents say me to do

[@pepsicolla123]

@@Sana-ce8ud Try many different things, keep trying

[@amariahisrael3356]

It is the same case for me too, my parents want me to do what they want. But they forget about my future. They don't want me to do What I like. Even to go to work, they did not want me to go to work. I'm 18 years old.

[@cartershank6568]

I felt this one too, I don’t want to go to college, I want to become a professional racecar driver, but I feel like my father doesn’t want me to do it, but that’s also the thing, he doesn’t want me giving my shot at it because that was HIS dream when he was my age, and he never got the chance too, and now that I have a chance to, I can understand why he would be jealous, but this is my dream, I’ve wanted this shit since I was 6 years old and I’m 20 now. However, also, if I succeed, I also know he will be proud of me down the road, and that’s one of the things I’ve always strived for, is to make my father proud of me, because I feel like I struggle to connect with my father, and even my mother sometimes too, on a personal level.

[@neymar.senior]

Aim to make yourself proud first. You will be with yourself until you die.

[@everydayfun9531]

Me and my Dad's connection is way off bro if i do something Wrong my dad will just hate me...

[@Carlon847]

This video came at the right time

[@yaboimatteo7706]

How can you get over the psychological warfare because after years of being so strong and hearing the same thing, I finally let it get in my head and I'm struggling to get back up from it

[@jawahersaidi5064]

Just put positivity in your headphones (Gary, Oprah winfrey, inspirational people etc). Leave and live it. I did the same.

[@EmoZix]

Learn to separate yourself from your own thoughts. I know , the voices occur in mine too. But you know who you actually are right? Once you start to separate yourself from your own thoughts you'll start to stop dwelling/be anxious about it. Bcs YOU are NOT your own thoughts.

[@yusiwarrels8541]

My parents didn't care about my health. I guess they really wanted to look good in front of their friends.

[@markarca6360]

They are doing it for boosting their ego, but not for your own good.

[@user-so1wr2oh1t]

I'm 43 and still dealing with parents who are disrespectful and judgmental. I've recently started watching videos like this and showing my boundaries and they think I'm insulting them and asked if i still want to be a part of their lives. Really?!?!?!? I'm shocked by the response and not sure how to go forward.

[@pepsicolla123]

Oh man.. At 43 they still do that?

[@Laurabenz34]

This brought tears to my eyes

[@mrstrain42]

You see how insecure she is while talking?? That’s how I was when living with my siblings!!! They couldn’t let me do what I wanted, it affected my confidence and self esteem. I hate school but they force me to go to school… If you 18+ and have big dreams, chase your dreams!!! Do not let family decide what type of life u should live… I’ve been through a lot of shit at a very young age.. I’m 20 now.. Still working on myself, I know I’ll get there!!!! If you going through hard times mentally, sending you lots of love

[@VirtualMilk]

thank you!!!! everyone came to this video cause we all have the exact same situation as her.

[@gosebokabelomaelane4066]

Parents are toxic fr 💔same thing she's going through is what's killing me inside

[@AriDeleuze]

The pain in her voice 💔

[@floop2935]

If u take money or use ur parents home , then u gotta listen 💯 we don’t wanna move out or be uncomfortable but wanna use parents resources to try our shit that’s being spoiled! Gary nailed it!

[@thatfamily9355]

I've been watching you allot lately...I've been honestly puting most of my efforts into watching you, you've influenced me so much in so little time I've just been trying to find out ways to genuinely thank you

[@Jdndjdjdjdjjdhy]

My mom uses physiological control alll the time. I literally can’t do anything without her making me feel bad. I don’t want to go to college but she’s literally forcing me to go to college 🙄

[@user-ig1ew2kb8t]

Tell me about it. I like to think that this is all a test though. A test to see how bad each and everyone one of us want it. I won't give in and you won't either.

[@U.A212]

I feel like this too man, it’s so overwhelming cus the only thing that’s being held over me is that it’s taken me basically months since I dropped out of uni to find what I want. Every argument they bring it up and act like I’m disappointing them, I wanna not go down the traditional pathway I wanna make my own I just don’t know what that will be. I’m 20 and idk what I wanna do, it’s like I HAVE TO KNOW or I’m failing. Sometimes the pressure makes me so anxious and depressed on another level.

[@Jdndjdjdjdjjdhy]

@@U.A212 I’m 22 and I still don’t know what I want to do. I feel like part of us being so confused is because their always pressuring us

[@True_Dat]

My aunt went to college and her mom made her cry by debasing her on her grad day. I lied and told my mom my graduation was the day Before, and as expected she used psychological warfare to make me cry on that day. whew!

[@blaineg107]

I have the same problem. I don’t want to go to college after I graduated high school this year but my parents are forcing me to go there. Even everybody in my family wants me to go to college as well 🙄 After I finished high school I’m going to move out so that way I can do my own thing without being pressured by my parents and I really want it to go good

[@MsPriyaLal]

Its really hard in Asian and Indian backgrounds. The parental shaming and blackmailing get really bad.. To the point it wears you down..

[@fiatfiat69]

I wish I had video when I was 17yo living at home. I hope there are more youth out there get the opportunity to see this!

[@ruarithompson1604]

i can understand how this girl is feeling how she wants to make there own choices about having there own life and being happy

[@Illest_sky]

So true! And also google being your new parents during these transformative times. It took a yearlong break from watching your content until the message finally started to click. Thanks garyvee!

[@LucasDanielSantoro]

I've started life coaching as a side husstle. I do it from my bedroom. If it gets past 10 pm and I'm still talking my mom would enter the room and make me shut up in the middle of my practice. I tell her to not do it (like a little child would) and she replies to me 'I will keep on doing it'. I feel helpless.

[@VirgosGroove3]

How are you life coaching but living with a parent?👀

[@LucasDanielSantoro]

@@VirgosGroove3 Good question. I was not charging at the time and I was taking coaching classes as well. Anyway I'm young and have the privilege of living with parents. Nobody has their life figured out, not even life coaches.

[@sadu_418]

Okay so I’ve just been crying for the past ten minutes because I have an admissions exam for a uni course that i don’t want to do in 4 days. My mum has been telling me to do medicine ever since I was a little child and since I was young I thought nothing of it and agreed. But now I’m going into year 13/final year of high school, about to do my UCAT exam which i’ve been struggling to do well on in mocks and i don’t even want to be doing this right now. I love my mum and she has always been there for me when I needed her but this one thing is really causing some conflict between us because every time I try to bring up the fact that I may not be interested she gets mad. Sometimes I try to say it in a half-joking, light-hearted manner but she just says, what else would you do instead. Now you see, because my mother always told me to do medicine I followed her words, no questions asked, until it was too late. So I never really thought about what I really wanted to do. When I tried to say that I didn’t really want to medicine before going to year 12 and when choosing my A-Level subjects she kept asking what else am I gonna do, and I had no answer. So I ended up giving in and just choosing bio, chem, maths even if these weren’t the subjects i wanted to do. Now I’m kind of leaning towards neuroscience which I have decided to put as my backup choice for my 5th university option and she’s accepted that. But I really don’t want to take this exam or do medicine. And to make matters worse, I get really emotional when I get into arguments so I can never get my point across in a strong, successful way because I always end up crying or on the brink of tears so I just have to walk out. I really don’t know what to do and I’m honestly really tired. I’ve tried to look for advice online but they always say the same thing: to have a calm conversation with her and allow her to try and understand. But she’s too stubborn and since my exam is so close by and I’ve already done so much to prepare for this course, it’s going to be even harder to convince her. I just wish I could have someone by my side who could help me convince her. I feel really pathetic right now, but standing up against her is definitely much easier said than done, especially in this matter.

[@joebizzymiddleman]

Parents are really limiting their children's dreams in no small measures which is why i have started branching out my contents to this area as well.

[@dude5416]

I tried to move but nothing has changed. I just lose all my free time to pay my bills and i had no time to improve my skills to create my project. So i hurt my back and had to move back. Now I realize that my parents want me to go college cause they want the best for me. I appreciate that and tell them everything is okey they don’t need to worry about me. I love them and we shouldn’t talk about college in order to keep good relationships. I am not sure it works good but they’ve stopped annoying me so much. Usually we have common conversations and they not about do what I say

[@carlosalcazar2344]

This is amazing Gary. Thanks for the inspiration! Let's keep hustling

[@thesecondfrosk1011]

(I'm 18 years old) Just got a haircut today. Dad didn't like it and told me I was a "f**king embarrassment" when we got in the car. Hasn't spoken to me for a few hours.. Kinda hurts

[@joelrc648]

No you're amazing! Never forget it.

[@pepsicolla123]

You're not an embarrassment, you're beautiful

[@bubba41123]

Right now I’m in I similar situation and my parent has me all messed up. Can’t work or think straight right now. I’m almost to the point where I don’t want anything to do with them if they can’t be happy for my happiness. I lost my dad in a hard way and that messed me up pretty good, it makes me hesitate putting space between me and the parent cause I know what worst case scenario could be….

[@bubba41123]

However holding on this charade is starting to feel like the weight of the world is holding me down.

[@SS-cd6ie]

My mom's leverage is she's been calling the police on me since I was 12. Try dealing with that psychological warfare. It's her way of keeping me in fear so I can't leave.

[@pepsicolla123]

How old are you?

[@dhaqabk4022]

Hope you’ve left two years later

[@austinhernandez2716]

I'm happy to know I'm not the only one with this problem! I'm calling to go look at a house tomorrow.

[@AndreVlogsOfficial]

so true. my parents are using psycological pressure too

[@taekookshipper-oe2is]

Many children are afraid to their parents they dont want their parents to be dissapointed but in the end you make your own choice dissapointed because of your parents wanted you to be

[@deadchannel4103]

I just want my friend to be happy, his parents are forcing him to be a doctor and he has no control over his life. The psychological warfare is obvious. I tell him he can be what he wants to be but he says that he would get disowned. I try to tell him that his parents shouldn’t disown him for doing what makes him happy. But he brushes it off with “you just don’t understand the culture” and I don’t know what to do It so frustrating that if I try to help my friend be happy I may never get to see him again

[@Imkicelee]

Parents words are seen as the gospel by most children, because they’re your parents. But it’s ok to accept the fact that your mom and dad are full of it sometimes, and don’t know what they are talking about. Just because they’re your parents doesn’t mean they know what they’re talking about.

[@Lokaluna7956]

💯 agree with this.

[@patricialim6816]

I 100% agree with having to move out to pursue what you want, but what if they don’t let you?

[@deonambrose]

Parents need to quit using their kids as a financial backup plan for retirement!

[@therearenoshortcuts9868]

desperate people do desperate things

[@SbuMakh]

Me rn

[@markarca6360]

Asian parents have exited the chat.

[@DanielIles]

It’s good to be nice to your parents though. Prove them wrong, but do it with grace.

[@nevinwebster]

yeah, my mom thought i was gonna cut her out of my life when i tried to tell her off... wasn't cool of me

[@nevinwebster]

@@DrinkmoWater. i think so, found a few digital moms

[@vicspeaks6207]

No one is saying you have to be a dick to your parents though

[@obitouchiha6439]

It's not their job to be nice to people who treat them like shit.

[@cyndriana]

It's good to be even. My mom discredits my dreams and tells me I'm a failure? It's only fair that I remind her all the ways her life is a failure too.

[@tinythampy4722]

Very true my dad just shut the door for my dream he said, you can go do whatever you want but don't come back home. ALL I ASKED IS CAN I GO AND Study the college that I want.

[@pepsicolla123]

Perhaps you could find at least a small job and live on your own?

[@VirtualMilk]

SHE'S LIKE ME OML. I wanted to pursue my dream job but my mom's a bitch about it. But my main issue is "move". Yeah I can't without that rich job she wants me to get. Not to mention I got no one to take care of me until then. That's why I need a boyfriend.

[@karenmulcahey76]

True about the only power you have but not always true that eventually they will not be disappointed - they will use success for their own pride but any fails or shakiness and they revert to usual. You have to do your life for you and Dixie t nothing from them

[@adhirasanthosh1179]

I use to listen everything what my parents say even though it makes me unhappy. Even they should decide whom i should be friends with. 😐

[@pnwsx]

Needed this🔥

[@AyushMajithia]

Oleg Marchuk Could I ask you for a favor?

[@pnwsx]

What?

[@charlestolbert1111]

GOT TO GET OUT THE HOUSE ASAP

[@KevinFerreiraM]

Yep

[@AmanJoshi]

Same is happening with me but I'm ready to move out as Im earning good amount but then also they are not allowing me to move out. Plz help me out Gary.

[@LovepreetSingh-lp7hw]

Bro we are indians RIP!! That s our mistake

[@1.h3art.d10r]

my parents practically forced me to play soccer this year. basically everyone I know that knows my parents (including my sibling) kept pestering me and my mom for me to play soccer. either they are extremely desperate, or they don’t even care out what I think or say. its their job to run my life and what I do according to them. although that might be an overreaction, it’s kind of true.

[@jammyjay917]

Why are some parents like this.... Live your own dreams!

[@supriyaingle3270]

I figured out that they can't see what I see for me career wise, so i did my thing. They don't get it. That is ok. But i did another blunder. I thought they know people and relationship better than me (after series of stupid relationship decisions), I got married to their choice of boy. Boy, that knocked me off the ground. Horrible decision that would have cost me my joy of living. Now I s careful what they say to me. I guess this is what being grown up is.

[@stvrtnow6387]

MAN, THANK YOU A LOT! THIS IS WHAT I SHOULD LISTEN TO. BRO. I LOVE YOUR WORK. GOOD LUCK!

[@zhypontanar4055]

Great! i wanna surround myself with people here, I don't have friends.

[@ginsan8198]

My parents want me to live with or near them in the village, the only place where I want get away from because I have nothing left to do there, and my dreams lie somewhere else. I have given them many signals of how I want to live my own life and be somewhere else, I couldn't really tell them straightforwadly about this because I was afraid it would hurt their feelings, but they kept bringing this whole "coming back to the village" idea in every single conversation. One day, my parents had an idea to build me a house in the village. I tried to reject the idea, but at that point they already had set their mind, and I could only agree to it unwillingly. The only argument I could make was a request about not going overboard with the houss, keep everything as cheap as possible. Recently, my parents called me and asked if I had some savings, and they asked me in a roundabout way to maybe spare some for the house, so it was clear at that point that they never even listened to my only request about not going overboard. I would want to pay for my entire house, my own house, without asking them or anyone to pay for it. I never asked for my parents, NOT EVEN ONCE about building a house for me. I never asked them anything that I know I should do on my own. But here I am now, dealing with this uncertain dilemma. What they do doesn't really feel like something out of favor for me, it feels like a grand scheme of keeping me in one place forever. I was also rrally stupid. Had I told them to maybe spare the money for something else instead, such as education, maybe I could have avoided this predicament now. I don't know what to do. I feel like I have never had control over my life. My parents have a tendency to decide things for their children the way they see fit, even though some of those decisions have proven to be quite disastrous. My sister for example, had an eye condition. My parents learned about this eye operation that was super new and my sister could be the first ever patient in my country to receive such operation. Sounds great, but at that point, the risk was also unpredictable since there was no prior statistical success rate to be observed. After having such operation, for some reasons my sister's eye condition got worse over the years and I suspected this also had an effevt on her mental stability. I was really young at that time so I didn't even know what to do, I couldn't give my insights. Had I been smarter back then, I should have asked my oarents to reconsider everything. Now my sister is idle, she can't function on her own. I knkw that in the future I would be the one taking care of her, but in my big family, no one else has this kind of issue. My cousins for example, they had lived their onw lives without worrying about taking care of their siblings or anyone else in their family, let alone someone with physical and mental condition. It sounds cruel, the fact that I sound reluctant to take my sister under my care, but it is not because I don't want to help, it's because this whole situation could have been averted years ago if not for some of my parents' decision that I believe was idiotic. Now it is the point of no return for me, but of course, there is no way I could say that right in front of their faces, coz it seems like no matter what I do, they always believe that I'm the one who doesn't know shit.

[@gailslyfe3910]

Dear to my generation is our purpose to create something new and we better than just being an extension

[@cristianburgess7354]

I'm currently in college because I'm petrified of telling my parents I want to drop out. I have a plan, but during this pandemic it's gonna be hard for me to get a 9-5 job to at least buy my own place.

[@Khalil-pw1ec]

I feel you, I am in the same situation.

[@youreallyareanidiot2751]

Your basically an adult you live your own life and they have no control over you if they find out and text you nonstop just find help and block them out of your life

[@kesayo]

That’s just a harsh reality of life. If you accept your parent’s support as an adult you have to do what they say. It’s the same when you get a job. If you want to keep earning money, you have to do what your boss says. Maybe your parents are being annoying because they want you the hell out of their house. If they keep coddling you, you’ll never leave.

[@TWX27]

I fucking love this guy. He is spitting facts.

[@AverageAngel]

Her voice sounded pretty bad when she was saying that - hope she succeeds and is able to overcome her parents not supporting her, or even undermine her direction!

[@Yashintmg]

Exactly what I needed to hear 😇

[@Andrea-df6nw]

My mom calls me ugly with my hair down, she prefers when I’m in a hairstyle, but I’m not the type of person to like hairstyles. I like my hair down, and free! But my mom says I’m ugly…I once wanted to wear a black sweater, and my sister said no, cause I looked “emo” in HER opinion. I wanna be myself, but I just can’t.

[@abhishek.h7705]

This guy is great.

[@chrisgabrilska8336]

That’s the same situation I went through ,My mom forced me to go to El salt when I wanted to go to the houston rodeo with my friends

[@Aki-kh2qe-StreetKidZZZ]

2:05 I wish it was that simple

[@yoogway2427]

I’m 15 and in my country it’s gonna be virtually impossible for me to find work due to my age, yet my parents want me to get a job and will scream at me when I go out and don’t have a job.

[@chrismorpher7439]

My parents always tell me I have no choice or no option

[@Greendaypunkcovers]

This hits home so hard. Well done Gary.

[@ranganathprahlad]

Now am 40 unmarried with aimless, it's all because of my father. I had aim but not given chance but diverted and spoiled my life as well as theirs.

[@pepsicolla123]

You can still have an aim! It's not all lost

[@pepsicolla123]

40 is not old

[@justmize665]

Just watched this and I’m going through this right now. It’s my final year and I passed 7 out of 8 modules but they are super mad (like pissed) because I failed accounting. I don’t blame them plus it’s the 3rd time I’m repeating this module This December I’m deciding to leave. I’ve been doing free websites for businesses and my plan it charge them for maintenance All I need is like R5k to R10k per month to survive without them ($280 to $560). This includes rent and food only. I’m confident I can get it offering services offline. Got 10 days to make it happen and then I’m out Wish me luck

[@scalabrineisgoat6010]

Good luck Fellow South African

[@CatChannelWithEntertainment]

Damn right Gary Vee

[@vanessascott8643]

I really hope this girl followed his advice!!

[@inzichte]

So True. You decided not them.

[@ChooseLoveToday316]

What my parents never understood is i'd rather make 30k a year doing what I love than 1 mil doing something I hate.

[@Belinda.]

I'm so sad and upset it took me 37years to finally get this 😔I suppose rather late then never.

[@RahulBajaj-nj1ze]

Sir, what you said is correct. But my question is I don't have any money right now, then, how can I move out of their home immediately?

[@mazenaljeldh4887]

First of all parents are the pride and joy of a child they are the standard that we try to attain they help you accomplish and realize you’re dreams they are the ones who invest and care about your future.

[@ladybonezz8017]

Even if you are living with parents and accepting their money though, you have no obligation, especially if you are helping out and contributing what you can. As a society we have lost family culture, working together as a community and being self sufficient. Parents expect you to move out at 18 and go get an inhumane corporate slave job or you’re Incompetent and lazy. It’s sad.

[@cyndriana]

I'm 23 and my mom told me earlier that I'm lazy, irresponsible and behind in life because my sister, who's a year older than me, just joined the **dreamy** corporate world. I wouldn't switch chairs with my sister for anything.

[@ladybonezz8017]

@@cyndriana Im sorry you’re going through that. I think definitely go after what you want in life and don’t let others criticisms put you down because this is your life. And you have the free will to live it how you want, to follow your passions and heart’s true desires. Nobody can take that away if you don’t let them. As long as you don’t intentionally harm anybody, and you live in love and compassion, continue working on yourself and accept responsibility for yourself (because we’re all human and we all make mistakes) then you’re good and nobody can take that away. Keep doing you 🙂👍

[@cyndriana]

@@ladybonezz8017 thank you for your kind words :)

[@twee2k]

I’ll never pressure my child especially emotionally to do what they don’t want

[@brandonstaples7300]

Wish my stepdad and mum were the same.

[@TRAINWORKS-ie2dm]

Same

[@josegalvan824]

thanks for this advice thank you thank you thank you

[@ishangautam6269]

it is said that become success then they will become happy, but what about when i needed them more, what about it. Ofcourse if you are success everyone will come together, but one or two people who matters most don't support or believe in you, its most damaging.

[@cassandragracien1662]

My parents was raise in a Christian house hold I am still today I have overprotective parents I am sad all the time I don’t want to do anymore Especially the age I am in today I also lived with them I deal with if I wanna go out with friends or anyone I been relying on my mom my whole life I am not sure what to do anymore I feel like giving up thank you for this video it’s inspiring me can you give your opinion on my situation to become the adult I want to be thank you

[@MatureMonster]

this is gold

[@rahulramesh1423]

Gary always been gary 🔥♥️