Parents Invited Me To Celebrate My Graduation Party But They Turn Out It Was For Golden Child Sis

[@rosaliaday7218]

Spoiled sister ended being a decent human being, can’t tell the same about the parents

[@LordGertz]

Spoiled or smothered? Sounds like somewhere in between. Bad parents in two radically different ways. But OP did get the worst of it by far, and I can't understand the rest of the family. Did no one say what about a party for OP's graduation?

[@Zurround]

I have posted on many other threads that in cases of extreme favoritism NEITHER child is loved by the parents. When you love a person you do what is BEST for that person even if it is not what that person most wants. You have to teach them proper morals, ethics, and boundaries and spoiling someone to the point of neglecting their siblings ends up harming the "favored" one in the long run. Parents who practice extreme favoritism are self absorbed narcissists not capable of truly loving anyone.

[@tracygardner6318]

I’m glad OP and his sister can have a relationship she’s not the issue in the story, Their parents are they failed both of their kids.

[@sandragarner2912]

Love what you said! I was even happier to see a comment that used the proper "their". It still astounds me how so many people seem to be unable to grasp it.

[@tracygardner6318]

I’m glad OP got to say it out loud even if no one was listening or caring what he said he got it out of his system horrible parents.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

I 100% believe OPs story, as I too had parents that doted on their golden child, and ignored their other 2 kids. The only difference is that I was the golden child, and I hated it for as long as I could remeber. My siblings and I were close, and they understood my parents behavior was not my fault. Funny thing is as we got older, my sister, brother, and I used my "position" to our advantage. Sister wants to go to Six Flags, and we know parents will say no, so I would tell them I wanted to go to Six Flags, and we were there the next weekend. Brother wanted a dog, parents no! So, I told my parents I wanted to get my brother a dog for his birthday as it would make me so happy to have a dog to live with. Parents answer "that's a great idea!" While I know it will make some people scratch their heads, its how we got over on our parents and I always made sure to try my best to get my parenst to give my bro and sis what they wanted. I am 52 now, and am as close as ever with my siblings. However, we see our parenst on Thanksgiving, Mother's day, Father's day, and at one of our kids bday parties, and thats about it. I learned from my parents mistake. My husband and I have Twins, and when they were kids and conflicts came up in schedules, my husband and I would always make sure to mix it up where one of us would attend one child's event and one of us would attend the other child's event. Everyone got a vote in family vacations, pets, and such. The kids were expected to do an equal amount of chores, and we have never played "favorites." We do have a younger child, but he is 8 years younger so there were never any scheduling issues when the twins were teens, and now that our son is 15, and the twins are 23 they spoil their baby brother rotten, lol. Parents should never push one child's event aside to support only the other child. I mean that is parenting 101.

[@tartlynerdy]

That's beautiful. I'm glad you turned out to be a good person and an ally to your siblings.

[@PowerStruggle555]

yeah. its one of those stories that sounds legit. I had a sister who was the golden child. if she wanted something, she got it. never got grounded despite me and our siblings would get grounded for same thing she does. Only time she ever did get grounded it was for like 5 minutes because my mom thought "she had plans...it would be rude for her to cancel them" please she threatened to ground me with my ride 2 minutes away (and being out of the way) back before cell phones were a thing

[@KittyKat-ky5us]

Good on you

[@Ahalaia]

Good way to deal with it, your siblings knew you weren't at fault and you would help them out.

[@amandalewington6525]

Yup, me too. Youngest of 5, to a mother who idolised her little girl but didn’t bother about her 3 sons. Thank heavens for my wonderful siblings.

[@miketannhauser5511]

At first glance, I thought this was the story where OP's birthdays and celebrations were all geared toward the little sister. The whole thing came to a head when they had his, I think 18th birthday at a Chuck E Cheese with a girly birthday cake. He finally stormed out and let out all his frustrations for the whole family to hear. OP ended up moving in with grandparents and little sis ended up getting sent to boarding school in the end because her spoiled entitlement had been fused into her personality since birth.

[@annnichols3091]

I remember that one.

[@astrofan1993]

Yeah, I remember that story. It was easily one of the most messed up stories I've read on Reddit. One can only hope that boarding school will reform OP's sister to some degree, but it is entirely possible that she will remain spoiled and entitled well into adulthood. If anything, it makes me think of Malty from the anime The Rising of the Shield Hero. Like OP's sister, she also grew up spoiled and entitled, being the eldest princess of the Queendom of Melromarc (if you've never seen the anime, the Queen is the ruler, not the King). It got so bad, that she, too, was shipped off to boarding school. But it didn't do anything for her. She was still as spoiled as before. As a result, the succession to the throne was given to her younger sister, Melty. Malty then tried to have her sister assassinated, but it ended with Malty being put on trial for her crimes, being branded a traitor, stripped of her royal status, disowned by her family, and even being given new names (with her official name being changed to a five-letter euphemism for a female dog that begins with the letter B, and her adventurer name being changed to a four-letter euphemism for a promiscuous woman that begins with the letter S). She ends up becoming a fugitive. I genuinely fear that OP's sister will largely turn out the same way as Malty: boarding school won't be able to reform her, and when she reaches adulthood, we'll have another Karen on our hands, especially a Karen who is willing to commit crimes to get what she wants. After all, she literally vandalized the car that the family got for OP because she didn't get one too (despite being too young to drive). And we'll end up seeing her pop up again in the Entitled People subreddit.

[@dorothrawalker1389]

Us 3 older kids starved, abused and got no birthdays slept on the floor and clothes from people trash. Yet our younger sister got everything never abused had food to eat toys beautiful bed and nice clothes.

[@Zurround]

I posted above that in cases of extreme favoritism none of the children are loved. Your sister was not loved either. Part of loving a child is making sure that the child is provided with a stable and nurturing environment and making her 3 siblings hate her out of jealousy and forcing the "favorite" child to grow up in a broken household is NOT what they would have done if they truly loved her.

[@dorothrawalker1389]

@@Zurround my sister is a piece of work herself I walked in on her and my husband and I just left California and never been back.

[@Zurround]

@@dorothrawalker1389 See the point I made? She turned into a totally screwed up person from being "favored" growing up. Her parents failed horribly to raise her to be a well adjusted adult. They did not love her. If they had loved her they would have instilled enough morals and ethics to keep her from sleeping with her own sister's husband.

[@Felix24148]

When I first saw the title, I thought it was the one about the OP who's parents literally gave his 18th birthday to his sister, and the entire family had to turn against his parents

[@txquilter608]

That was my first thought. I thought there was another update from OP. I hope both kids in that story are doing better. The daughter was abused, too, just in a different way.

[@angelmendez2211]

Same

[@jws1948ja]

I remember that too.

[@astrofan1993]

Yeah, I remember that story. That was really messed up. And it wasn't just that the rest of the family turned against the parents. Turns out that OP's sister ended up so spoiled by their parents that she threw a couple of tantrums at OP's do-over party and vandalized the car that the family chipped in to get for him (despite her being too young to drive), and ended up being shipped off to boarding school, where she'll probably stay until she's 18. Now the parents have nothing. They don't have their family: OP moved out for college, with very little intention of coming back; OP's sister is locked up in the boarding school, blaming her parents for her situation; and the extended family all hate them. They probably don't have any friends to turn to, either. All they have now is an empty house and their work to pay for the boarding school. One can hope that boarding school will reform OP's sister to some degree, but there's the distinct possibility that she will come out of it as rotten as before. After all, if we look at the anime The Rising of the Shield Hero, the spoiled daughter, Malty, was shipped off to boarding school due to her spoiled nature, but remained spoiled well into adulthood. She ended up being disowned, stripped of her royal status, and branded as a criminal and traitor.

[@brandypebler2054]

I remember that to

[@Py-Py-Py]

I've seen this family dynamic before between brother-sister treatments! This is actually very believable.

[@tiffanyhaddox7499]

Same

[@KcLee677]

Very shameful and awful parent..

[@Zurround]

I posted above that in cases of extreme favoritism NEITHER child is loved. They do not love the "favored" child any more than they love the OP. Anything they do or buy for the "favored" child is an investment of sorts. An analogy I like to use is if a wealthy person owns 2 cars and one is a beaten up old dodge covered in dents and the other is a brand new Rolls Royce they will FAVOR THE Rolls Royce and put almost all of their time and money into the more VALUABLE car but they do not LOVE either car because the cars are not people they are objects. Parents who practice favoritism to this level are self absorbed narcissists and true love is NURTURING. The SPOILING and favoritism that they show their "golden child" compares to TRUE LOVE the way the quick energy boost of a candy bar compares to the nourishment of a well balanced meal.

[@michellehubler6811]

Toxic parents suck, my father is a toxic narcissist. My therapist wonders how I turned out so empathetic. I love my mother, but she tends to take my dad's side. I hope that he can get over the years of neglect that his parents did in regards to him.

[@georgewashington4866]

I wouldn't have been surprised that OP's parents didn't end up saving money for OP's college saying they only put money in their daughter's college fund and that they still do it and that OP's sister decided to let OP have the account so he could go to college and that their parents said that he can't go to college to be better than their daughter.

[@lestatsgames7426]

I’m so glad to hear the sister ‘s perspective on the same events. I’m happy to see your sister became a friend. From what I’ve seen, kids with an age difference often don’t see their siblings as much more than furniture. As adults though, they can become close friends with treasured shared memories - memories that were not important when made, only when looked back on by years. I just hope OP realizes that the adult sister reached back to you and keep it close to your heart.

[@amyyaku5022]

I don't believe it was fabricated at all. Just people don't understand how toxic and abusive family systems work. But, I really want to hear Jenny's perspective and what she was thinking during OP's speech.

[@judithjeffers7666]

Been there, done that. Have way too many Tshirts. I’m proud of OP for taking the microphone and was able to tell his story.

[@christinahaythorne3633]

Same. I was the black sheep of 2 families yet my Stepsister started a cult

[@karinasamaniego8765]

Ok. Got to admit that when I heard OP waited until the last minute to tell his parents about his game that he was creating situations to make himself look like a victim. But after hearing the rest of the story, I just wanted to kick the crap out of his parents. How could they create a huge party for Jenny simply getting a job while letting his graduation pass like he is some stranger to them? It doesn't sound like they even attended his graduation. They are horrible, horrible parents. It's as if OP was living his own separate life.

[@mpmansell]

It is likely he left it until the last minute because he knew what the outcome would be and wanted to keep hold of the illusion that they might come for a little longer.

[@karinasamaniego8765]

@@mpmansell yes that's what I figured after hearing the whole story.

[@KimberlyArrington-dd3wm]

And was he not 12 at the time to if I heard the story right

[@karinasamaniego8765]

@@KimberlyArrington-dd3wm I don't see how that matters. Kids learn at a pretty young age how to be manipulative. So I figured it would turn out to be a pattern for him. But from the rest of the story it seems he was always ignored. Maybe he thought if he told them last minute they couldn't come up with an excuse.

[@janapeterson5967]

Why does he want anything to do with his parents ever? Its not a given that his parents loved him. Thats his ego talking. You dont neglect people you love. They showed him daily that he was not apart of their lives.

[@dianac818]

OP may not have chosen the best time to unload, but, come on, they completely ignored his graduation for sister's possible new job. I couldn't help but think wouldn't it have been hilarious if sister said; "thanks but I didn't get the job and happy graduation brother". 😂😅

[@diarradunlap9337]

I, personally, think OP actually DOWNPLAYED how bad it really was.

[@susanmcpeak7267]

Do I believe that this story could be true? Yes, yes I do. I lived it. My parents only paid attention to me when people were around that they could brag to about my achievements. I was nothing more than an ego boost to them. My sister got all the "real" love. They didn't give me a second thought unless I did something to make them look good. And,no,I didn't get spoiled with any extra gifts - that was for my sister. She got to do or say anything she wanted without any fear of being reprimanded. If she got a C on her report card, it was a cause for a ticker tape parade. If I got a B I was yelled at & made to do all the chores & was grounded. Listening to this story has me ugly - the kind that come with streaks of tears going down my cheeks,sobbing & gasping for air with snot pouring out my nose. It hit me hard. I need to go wash my face now...

[@Brasileirale]

Did you cut off contact with these horrible human beings you’re forced to call parents?! I am sooo sorry you went through that, and I hope that somehow you were able to leave that situation and is in a better place now. No child should ever be traumatized to the point they become an adult that listens to a story and it makes them cry because they’ve lived it at home. Keep you head up, they don’t deserve your tears babe, you’re too good for that! ❤

[@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681]

doesnt really tell me anything if it is real

[@susanmcpeak7267]

@leticialuyla2867 Mom passed in 2014. I was there but the golden child couldn't be bothered😔

[@thomasbreen3644]

Jenny at that age she should have spoken up .. but the parents are garbage . Dude it wasn't rude . It was epic! You are the boss ...

[@maryh-w8647]

Just started watching. I’m on the edge of the chair to see what happens and I know all to well there is ALWAYS A-GOLDEN CHILD

[@VandelSavage1433]

With 2 parents who didn't come to my kindergarten graduation, I can believe it. Then act like victims

[@tracygardner6318]

My Heart goes out to OP in the first story, do you have kids if you could have a golden child you still treat the other one with respect, and celebrate their milestones like a graduation🤦‍♀️

[@nimisilverbird1239]

When you have to wish to not be treated like shizz by your own family. You know it is toxic and abusive

[@ytubesuxshite4497]

I understand exactly how the kid feels, hell I had gone through cancer and almost died due to complications, and noone from my family even sent me a follow up text. So....I disavowed the entire shitshow.....its coming up on 10 years of my mothers death,and 5 years of me beating cancer.....I told them to be happy and live every day the way they had so far, I wanted just as much communication in the future as had been for the last several years. I only wanted one thing to actually change.....I wanted to be written out of my grandparents will because I want absolutely nothing from them as I wasn't worth their time.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

I send momma hugs to everyone in a family like this.

[@sheliawaymon9023]

Hope OP goes NC with the parents for life !!!

[@loishowardrodgers8137]

His Parents sound like mine, anything that happens is always been my fault even when I was living 300 miles from home.

[@carolinagrammy2735]

I'm always happy when I get a notification from any of the Mr Reddito channels and I'm never disappointed.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

I hope that OP goes nc with his parents permanently!

[@stephaniewilson3955]

OP does not need to resume connections with his parents. His sister also needs to go NC. The parents should be abandoned as they abandoned OP and smothered his sister.

[@mychilo53]

It’s really sad that are parents like this, have a favorite kid and one that they don’t care about. How many stories like this have we heard? Not few; a lot! Hope the siblings keep their relationship going and be friends.

[@lynnechapman6204]

Why is it that parents prefer one child over another. At least OP now knows rhat his sister did not like all the attention either.

[@dawnwagoner8307]

Absolutely it was probably worse! Hang in there OP.

[@emme2141]

I’m so glad OP and the sister weren’t really pitched against eachother, and managed to talk it out and understand eachother better in the end. Usually these stories end up with one of the kids acting really entitled, but Jenny seems nice. I’m glad the parents got the blame they deserve. Though in the parents defense with the cat issue, a cat is a lot easier to look after than a dog 😂 (and I’m a dog person).

[@Odd_Interaction]

S1: Benign neglect or indifference is not love.

[@sufferable]

It's very hard for people to understand that children within the same family can have totally different experiences and have completely separate upbringing. This leads them to doubt that a child's experience is true. Victims of abuse of all kinds are not believed because people simply can't comprehend it especially when one child is singled out and the others are 'normal'. Not being believed adds enormously to a victim's distress.

[@tartlynerdy]

I believe it. It happens too often and to too many people. People expect a story to have a satisfying conclusion and maybe that's why they think this op made up his story. Stories like this often don't have a satisfying ending because there's nothing a parent can say that'll justify favoring one child to the point the neglect their other kids. As for op, sometimes it's absolutely necessary to be rude. I'll never understand why people have multiple offspring if they only want to pour all of their attention and love on just one of their children.

[@elle_lovesgizmo]

I'm so glad i caught this video along with the question you asked. I have 2 older siblings, male& female. I would put their ages here but i can't. All i know is that they're in their 70's. I'm 66 now & still can't get over what my family did to me. My mother told me, when i was still little, that I was an opps baby, a mistake, an accident. My sister (oldest) was the golden child. She could do no wrong. She was valedictorian of her class, was voted to go to the catillion ball. I don't think they do this anymore. In a nutshell, it was a very honorable, a coming out ball. The older people will know what I'm talking about. But my siblings were thought highly of. Anyway it messed with me. My mom never told me that i did good in school. I finally asked her why. Her answer, she was never praised. She was born in 1920. Girls did not go to college but her 3 brothers did. All in all, it did affect me. There's so much more i could tell but I'll save that for my next chapter lol 😆 Thanks for reading.

[@stephaniewilson3955]

I hope you have a good life once you got away from those terrible parents.

[@hamzaelmaliki4511]

​@@stephaniewilson3955he is 66 years old...

[@annnichols3091]

Paying for his college education is the LEAST those parents owe him.

[@chaoticdemise4494]

Dang, the sister had more balls than both their parents combined to tell him facts. Was their relationship strained yes, but both the sister snd brother can definitely have a better relationship in the future as she actually feels guilty. Maybe in a way she feels she failed as big sister. And she should of interjected, but at least now she's showing that she can still be the big sister, even though it's 19 years late.

[@Kayenne54]

The weird thing is that young people just accept that this is the way things are. Additionally, especially when pre-teens, kids aren't prone to be listened to by parents about their faulty parenting style. But she probably just barely noticed. That was just the way things were. We've all seen some really bizarre stories of family habits, customs and dynamics, and hardly any of the kids in those families realized that "this stuff is WEIRD, and should we all be doing this?" The sad fact of the matter is that kids don't have the power to change the family customs. They just plot to escape them.

[@ADADEL1]

Who'd like to bet me that she was jealous of the OP because he was allowed to do pretty much what he wanted (neglect) while she was always pressured to be the perfect one?

[@antoinettebates244]

OP..What trashy parents!!

[@bseelman67]

Yes, I do believe they are bad parents. It's bad enough that the parents did not come to his soccer game for his sister's rehearsal, but to have a big surprise party for his sister instead of a graduation party? Seriously bad, bad, bad! Did they even attend his graduation? The parents should be embarrassed and ashamed for what they've done. The least they could have done was show up for his graduation and give him a nice give befitting completing 12 yrs of achievement. The sister is OK, none of this is her fault and it was nice to know her side from different perspective.

[@richardcutcher8819]

No i do not think that this was fabricated at all cause this is something I went through when I grew up because I grew up in a very large family of 13 brothers and sisters and I was the youngest and when I graduated from High school my dad passed away when I started my senior year and when I was working a full time job I wanted to have a graduation party and with some friends my mom said no and refused but let my siblings have one when they graduated from I high school, but the real case was I had to learn how to cook and clean when I was eight years old and sometime now I'm 60 years old and I think back what I went through in life mad me a better person Oh yes I'm a male

[@janayem7765]

What I don't understand, is why they had to do it on the day of his graduation, unless they didn't remember.

[@Johnnybanarna]

I would go NC and then save up, show up years later and just hand them the college money.

[@rukiakuchiki6187]

I hate the golden child because people spoil them rotten

[@delorescannon455]

Yeah they did the parents SMH are soooooo awful Op need to Ghost the family and live your best life without the family in it.....

[@rukiakuchiki6187]

@@delorescannon455 facts

[@honeyjohnson8536]

It’s not here fault yall just as ignorant as the parents smh

[@loganjoh1]

I’m just glad Jenny was actually a good person. A lot of the time the golden child can be just as bad as the parents but this time she was just living her life and also annoyed with how her parents treated her compared to OP. Also glad she and OP have a healthy brother sister relationship now that would suck if they lost contact all because of the “parents” terrible treatment of OP.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Y’all need to learn how to shame family on social media for the golden child crap and neglect/abuse along with their work, and friends. This is the only way to get narcs to change

[@desrussouw6797]

I know of many cases where similar situations occur, my sister was the golden child as far as Mom was concerned and she made my life hell on many occasions. I've seen a few of my sons' friends go through similar experiences and the heartache is caused for many of them, even into their mid forties and now my grandson and his mother as well as the horrific situations that some of his friends have had and are still experiencing from parents who basically abandoned them as young teenagers around 14/ 15 years old and some as young as 9 and 10 years old.

[@xXSetsuaiXx]

I get the feeling this guy was meant to be the donor child, in case s**t. Poor guy...

[@kdeville87]

Don’t play favorites with your kids it never ends well

[@dorothylloyd1804]

Good afternoon Mr Reddito. Thanks again

[@BjornNatan]

“You’re going to cry? Go ahead and fucking cry.”

[@ThatAmazingSpy]

So one sibling was forgotten while the other one had the all the pressure and expectations on them. Jesus. I was expecting Jenny to be a spoiled sister but she seems to be a victim of their parents as well. I wouldn't be surprised if OP was an oops baby and thats why they ignored then

[@CainEverest]

I keep saying that doing a golden child thing is a form of child abuse

[@mattym3781]

That poor kid! Not only the parents but all of the family disregarded him. It’s a trap from the sister, she knew how things were and never spoke up or acknowledged him either. I wouldn’t be surprised if she wants something from him and is putting on an act so that she could trick him. This is very familiar to other other golden child stories and it’s sad that cousins, aunts/uncles, grandparents and etc. completely disregard the poor guy and never have the “black sheep” back or hold the bad parents accountable even after the blatant favoritism. If this is a story, “Joe”, needs to cut ties with all of the family and make his own way without them and never contact them again. Even in the last update he never said that his parents asked about him or reached out to him but occasionally like the his social media. He should use their financial assistance and cut all ties immediately. As in he should delete his social media so they can’t see anything bout them and start new social media under a different name to further cut ties. I would also recommend he change his name as well so that he can move on without them and have faith knowing that if starts his own family that the family name he will be passing on will not be from his parents.

[@honeyjohnson8536]

Shitbup. The parents were the problem not his sister, as he said multiple times

[@Dragonmaster0118]

If anything I bet op underplayed everything

[@lunalovegood9269]

Oh, I feel so so bad for OP, especially at the graduation party😢

[@naptime1900]

If you go to Jenny’s wedding with a girlfriend just introduce her to your parent as the parent’s that never was.

[@Kayenne54]

20:37 Let me gaze into my crystal ball - ah yes, Jenny gets pregnant, married and never leaves her little home town; becomes a stay at home mother (nothing wrong with that, it's an honourable career choice but not how the parents are viewing her trajectory currently); while OP will rise to the top of his profession, have a six figure income job, and travel the world having great adventures. He will meet a smart, savvy gorgeous woman at college, with great business ideas and probably launch an amazing company together. Either way, because of all his difficulties, if he doesn't give into self pity, he will excel. There's nothing like opposition to build mental and emotional resilience; which are the best tools for a great life.

[@stephanbutler7988]

Poor op thinks his parents actually do love him, sad, best to forget about them and have the best life, it’s nice he’s able to get on with his sister.

[@SuperJuxtaposition]

IMO, it’s very possible that this is a true story. Spoken as the least favourite sibling

[@JuKraz_6]

The sister was not bad. She just didnt understand how bad it was for OP until he let it out. Its good since both have a bond now

[@CiaofCleburne]

Im left out of everything because golden child brother doesn’t invite me anymore and he has taken over as patriarch of our family. I’m not invited but still see the photos online. You see, I am the holder of truth in our family. I know all their dirty little secrets, but it isn’t what keeps me at bay…its my siblings children. I am the youngest of 9 and am closer in age to my nieces & nephews than my siblings, their parents, and when I wouldn’t allow any 😅ne of them to walk all over me, I started being shunned. Its ok tho. I’ve made it this far without them, I feel certain I will remain after they’re gone. For awhile anyway.

[@christinahaythorne3633]

That is some bs. I'd go nc asap. They will never treat you like you should be. They shouldn't have had more than one kid if thats how they act. What horrible parents!

[@MrDiplomata]

It's a good story, but... I can't believe it's real! It's too crazy to be real!

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Why can’t it be real? There are lots of terrible parents out there that do this to their children! There are lots of people commenting in this thread about experiencing the same things while they were growing up.

[@debra-qq1np]

Parts of this reminds me of my sister and I... Shocking, isn't it.

[@confuzedgamerz1558]

His voice sounds like the riddler and I love it 😂

[@dumoktheartist]

Jaime is pronounced Jay-mee or Hai-meh

[@winterbunnyx]

I feel so identified with this story I am also a younger sibling who is being overshadow most of my Life by my older siblings my older sister was the golden student perfect daughter while my older brother was a sports star and was also very good at art I myself are what you will get if you put my sister and my brother on a blenders i am stright a student i. Great at are and Fair in sports but it doesn't matter how good I was I was always on my older siblings shadows the worst moment was when I went away from camp and my parents never show up to pick me up because they forgot their youngest child wasn't on the house for 3 weeks I was only 14

[@denis3208]

That made me really happy that he made up with his sister and that they are real siblings now ❤❤

[@PowerStruggle555]

when you set the bar so low for a golden child where theyd probably celebrate her getting a D. Sister could easily expect everything for mediocrity. (at work) Sister: Ok I did the simple task everyone does.....so when should I expect my promotion and raise? (at school) Sister: I got straight Ds....how long should I make my valedictorian speech at graduation. Also why hasnt Yale or Harvard given me a full ride schoolarship yet?

[@ghostxavierd.4354]

Wow this is worst than I read a story of a time were ops parent gave his birthday to his younger sister and when he turn 18 he bring rage with him

[@elizabethradcliff7578]

While there are at least 3 sides to every story - my side; your side and the truth. What is important in this case is that this is how OP experienced it and therefore, how he was affected by it. I grew up in a large family where I often felt invisible. After years of therapy I came to realize my own responsibility in how I was treated by acting as if I was never upset or disappointed when others were prioritized over me. I am not saying my parents were not wrong but they were human and made mistakes and so did I in assuming they would just realize that they were hurting me but they were doing the best they could and if I hung on to resentment I was only hurting myself more as it interfered with my relationships

[@constancepeterson6156]

It is okay, not to have a relationship with abuse parents. They don’t love you, that is why it is okay for you to let go that unrealistic dream of them coming around. Go to counseling. If this is a real story, OP wasn’t being overly dramatic, hurt is hurt.

[@trueword-1]

Why "30ys of pizza"?... would an 18yr old say this? Liked the writing though.

[@BrendaLucas-nt2yr]

Yes it sounds true I wish all the best for him and his sister ❤❤.

[@kilika234]

I can see that it's legit. My family was similar. I was the black sheep (doesn't help I was the only one with black hair) and my older step siblings and younger siblings would get all the attention. They got the best school options, didn't get left at places and never got grounded for small things. Even now I am in my 30's and they never call me. They never want to visit and they hardly even care about me. Even when I lived 30 minutes away. I had to do everything to even see them. At this time, I moved away and decided that if they don't want to be in my life that I just will leave it be. I will go almost a whole year not hearing from them. They will eventually call me to see if I am alive but I don't get a Happy Birthday call, or Merry Christmas. I usually have to call them and most of the time they don't answer.

[@subutterfly73]

.... Hul -a- ba- loo.

[@nancyriggs8170]

Wow that is such a sad story.. I grew up in a house full of siblings, and craved privacy.. But other than a few being jealous of something my siblings got I never felt loved less.. Plus i also realized at about age 15, that i just didnt really ask for special or expensive things: so thats why I didnt get them: i just always thought asking for expensive stuff was selfish because i had 6 siblings still at home.. I found this out when I one day got up the nerve to ask for a expensive jacket, of course thinking Id never get it.. But i did get it!! My dad did tell me I'd better wear it for many years, but he gave my mom about 60% of the money for it, and mom paid the rest.. But Even without expensive stuff, i felt loved.. What bothers me so much about this story is the guy hasnt contacted his parents in a year, and they still havent reached out.. Yes they were very crappy parents..

[@Mrwillie95]

If I was op as soon as graduation highschool I would pack my stuff and leave for college and go no contact with my parents

[@charlesjohnson4332]

Grow a backbone earlier in life than was natural. I had to and turned out self-sufficient and confident in my own ability

[@colleens1107]

Well the golden child is just as boned by their parents as they never learn how to be adults. Good on OP and sister for ending this toxicity

[@wfcoaker1398]

Those parents are proof that you should have to get a licence to reproduce like you need a licence to drive a car. What horrible parents! I hope they age alone and in misery. Glad he got the chance to show them up. And what he did wasn't rude, it was deserved. He shouldn't be embarrassed, he should be proud. The parents now know they're being talked about, and not positively. Every day that he isn't in contact with them is another day of well deserved shame for them.

[@toniirion5225]

I don't agree. The Sister could of said something. There is no way she didn't see this again and again and again over the years. She's maybe not as guilty but,she is guilty. She knew full well what was happening year after year. What an awful family.

[@jamesmontgomery6760]

i believe it my family was the same way but i was told by mom and dad that i should have never been born.

[@vickichavez9956]

I think OP story is real this goes on in a lot of families

[@vesla266]

I've seen a similar situation with some friends of mine. It's not the siblings fault after all, it's the parents who can't seem to be fair with both of the siblings. I'm sorry to say that sometimes I think some people should not be parents, they just don't understand the importance and responsibilities by being responsible and fair parents. I grew up with a brother 5 years younger than me, but we were always treated equally and fairly. Thanks for the good videos who point the finger at some social problems which is difficult to discuss 😊❤

[@Ahalaia]

Most people do embellish stories, but even if the story was 75% true it was pretty bad. It was good to see the sisters side of it too and glad she wasn't an entitled brat due to the attention, she actually suffered from them being helicopter parents.

[@Eric_Olsen]

If OPs sister didn't meet with him later I would see his sister naming OP best man and OP no showing the wedding just to stick it to his parents a little more than his sister. But since they talked the only way to get back at the parents would be to let the parents help plan for and pay for OP and his sisters wedding and have them not invited to the venue like plan a church wedding and get married in the courthouse and give a alternate reception location. How would OPs parents treated OP if his sister passed from an accident, illness or ending herself. It seems like these are the parents would still make it about her. Listening to OPs story I would go no contact or limited contact with your parents and along with your sister go no contact with any kids you and your sister have until their grandchildren graduate high school any younger children have a space separate have your children meet their grandparents and don't invite them to the party. I think both op and his sister have a lot of work over the coming years to decide how much to let their parents back into their lives or do they go full no contact and wait for a law office to contact them for a reading of the will. As of the last update it seems like these are the parents you stick in the cheapest and worst care facility in your area.

[@ladynikkie]

If you're going to attempt to get in touch with your parents, they should do it first. At least an apology but If they don't apologize or expect something from you like money cut ties with them completely you owe them nothing!

[@phillipgrossman132]

I believe it could be that bad. my egg donor defend her golden child after I told her that he SA'd me growing up and would try to manipulate me 100x more to be around him than before I told her. I wonder if I messed up my life with drugs and alcohol if I would have been an equal to him. But glad I didn't and they're both out of my life permanently

[@404Kiwi]

Shiiiiet I woulda just opened up on that mic with why didn't you just abort me saying my grievances and making a mess of the party. If they kick me out that's fine they don't pay for college that's fine too. I'm doing fine irl without college lol. If I ever interact with them again I'd be calling them by their first name rather than mom and dad.

[@lisaspencer3194]

I agree about a cat vs a dog. Dogs are a lot more work.

[@Rolletti21]

OP 👍

[@failingartist3524]

Op sister got out lucky she saw everything and did nothing she was forgiven too what a shocker man op better than me

[@janisbentzen4503]

No,we don't like it when the stories are long and wordie.

[@Sqweegi]

Op sister was okay with favoritism all her life.

[@ccggenius]

Not that this negates anything else, but I'd argue that yes, the first "proper" job after getting a college degree IS something to be celebrated.