Paris Paloma - boys, bugs and men [Official Video]

[@entropy3982]

i love what paris paloma's music stands for: both fragility and strength, all at once, and a vocal fight against violence

[@torielschild]

omg yes!!! a beautiful way to put it

[@pariahmouse7794]

Fragility AND strength are what women are... And THAT'S true power...

[@jessestrobel2]

more like whining against males

[@juriscoughsyrup]

​well abusing males if thats the case.and i think confronting abuse is such a powerful move.@@jessestrobel2

[@jessestrobel2]

@@juriscoughsyrup Confronting male children for being typical is sick, and that's what so many have deduced from Paris' inciting lyricism. She's cobbling together misandrist propaganda and you validate her because of what? A mediocre piece that contents you in quelling your angst by aligning yourself with an anti-men movement?

[@KikiRockwell]

I remember in kindergarten me and some of the other girls knew there was a swallow nest with fertile eggs in it up a tree in the garden and we would guard it daily. One day one of the boys shoved past us and climbed the tree. He brought down one of the eggs and peeled it in front of us (they had chicks inside) and laughed hysterically. I couldn't fathom that he had only done it to horrify us.

[@Kamila-eb9pz]

That's so mean! Poor bird 😢

[@jinlings978thuncle8]

theres seriousl something wrong with boys

[@crackbrainsabina]

@@Kamila-eb9pz Also it's a sign of a potential serial killer brewing

[@phancypahnts]

Thank you

[@janlaag]

@@KikiRockwell beyond a level of suffering and powerlessness there's a point where one feels so inexistent that one's perception of the quality of attention received is like colour for colour blinds...getting attention seems to be all that matters. Not sure what it takes to bring colour back in one's perception, the only sure thing is that more damage and more pain makes it even more gray. Interaction's a damn trickster, it sucks too often.

[@meaganadwyer]

I can't help but think about the man I married, who is so strong when I need him but who I had to comfort for quite a while yesterday when he accidentally hit and killed a bird with the car, and as he wept into my arms, I couldn't help but think how much I love him and how tender his heart is compared to other men that I have known before. "Be strong enough to be gentle."

[@kecym.4808]

❤

[@medusaslair]

You're very lucky to have such a man, they are rare, unfortunately.

[@MbaliSaliwa]

Did the bird leave a mark on the car?

[@medusaslair]

@@MbaliSaliwa Shame on you.

[@lifeoutnumbered]

As a mom with three young boys this song makes me sad because this kind of behavior is very real and very learned behavior. Because my boys are taught that nature is sacred and we don't hurt things smaller than us and don't let bigger things than us hurt us.

[@lenibeni7421]

Right? I’ve never witnessed such behaviour personally… Not from any family members, not from kids at school… It’s isn’t "boys being boys" it’s kids not being taught the value of life and that being stronger is what counts… that violence is the key to everything in life… And sadly some parents truly think that especially boys are supposed to be rough, uncaring and destructive… When their nature literally is not that. They can be just as caring.

[@Doyoujustlovethepain]

It's about actually about nature

[@jessestrobel2]

@@lifeoutnumbered Your job is instilling positive values in your children. As is every other parent's - you wouldn't disown your male child if they killed a butterfly, would you? That would be preposterous. Yes, killing symbolic insects isn't right but a little boy isn't commiting evil when they do. You have to realize that in the developing mind, not every decision is completely rational. So for a grown woman like Paris to not understand that aiming a propogated piece like this at male youth, to ploy for the condemnation of not yet grown or even teenaged males' actions is in poor taste - and for you to not detect it either - is indicative of incompetence. I think she is aware of her affect, and does it consciously out of radical and unchallenged misandry.

[@jaimicottrill2831]

@@jessestrobel2 I wouldn't disown my child but I would think ver yhard about who I was raising that they would do that. It would also depend on the circumstances. Has the child been taught that cruelty is wrong? Do they understand that they are causing pain to something that has feelings? Are they laughing and enjoying it? Because that is definitely not "typical" or "boys will be boys". Little kids can still be taught to value life and have empathy even if the lessons are simpler than that for adults. You are taking a song about how society shrugs it shoulders at boys being cruel and dismisses it as harmless when it is anything but, and basically saying "when they are young it doesn't matter!" (it definitely does) and accusing the singer of misandry without any actual points to back it up.

[@jessestrobel2]

​@@jaimicottrill2831 What proof do I need to materialize when it's so blatant? Look at 'Labour'; a woman's lament of a relationship in which she's constantly fighting an uphill battle and it exhausts her - sure, a tale as old as time. But her marketing of the song is at the greater female online community which is very unapologetically anti-men; condemning of males for transgressions not committed by them, etc - any way you wish to euphemize it, Paris' fans hate men and as an artist, she must be conscious of her effect. Beyond just 'Labour' is a scatter of other compositions that have the same central theme - men evil, femininity sacred, yadayadayada. As a guy who has observed firsthand the hypocrisy of women and really the frequency of malice far greater in them than men, I'm disillusioned with the narrative Paris constantly puts forth. Its nauseating, she's full of herself with these imaginary anecdotes tailor made to give hateful female aggressors ammo against normal guys.

[@serenityblaze4988]

So boys killing bug friends was a universal experience?

[@kendallbenson2757]

Yep

[@lindenshepherd6085]

That's what it's looking like.

[@Monanged]

This brings a lot of memories. My brother pretending to "kill" and torture my dolls and enjoying my tears, torturing little insects. My dad telling me scary stories before bedtime and then creeping in my bedroom to spook me. Boys at school stepping on bugs and enjoying me pushing them whilst crying to save them. Running after the girls with their bb guns and laughing while we screamed in fear. I could go on and on and on. I will be forever grateful I met a man that didn't have a ounce of this sadistic streak that so many young boys that grow up to be men seem to have. Anyway, I had not thought of these feelings and memories in years, it shook me to hear about it in song and to see it portrayed with such grace and poetry. It's beautiful and melancolic

[@nicolecampos4153]

Same, I dont have older brother but I remember two older cousins who loved to collect snails and put them in the middle of the street so cars would crush them and making fun of me for telling them they shouldnt kill them😭

[@annabellekahle5230]

"before me stands a man who cares not for little things," is my favorite line that has been ringing in my head like a bell. you learn so much about people by the way they treat the small creatures in the world, metaphorically or not.

[@ninetails961]

I remember when I was little I was so excited to show a nest of kildee eggs to my friend, (kildee lays their eggs in the ground hidden in rocks) When he saw it he stepped on the eggs and laughed at my scream. We were no longer friends after that, we were in pre-k or kindergarten at the time. It’s scary to think about where that sadistic enjoyment may have taken him as an adult.

[@plantika786]

I was on a walk in the woods with my mom, our family dog, my brother, and a friend of his. Our dog came across a newly born litter of bunnies hiding in the brush and started attacking. I was about seven or eight and couldn't deal with the scene, and started wailing "not the bunnies" as I watched them dying. My brother and his friend tormented me all the way home, mocking my cries, jeering "not the bunnies" back at me as much as they could. I don't speak with my brother now in my adulthood unless I'm forced to be around him. It's one of many instances, but I'll never forget it.

[@lemon-limeade]

When I was a kid, another girl and I would pick up worms on the sidewalk and put them back in the grass. One day, a classmate ripped a worm we’d just saved in half before laughing at our reactions.

[@lavenbug]

How do so many little boys learn to be sadistic at such a young age?

[@gabriellaharris3494]

@@plantika786im so sorry! How cruel. So many women/girls learn empathy in a way men/ boys cannot comprehend. They think of us as weak but we connect with living things on a different level. It is so beautiful and sad.

[@alliseygaming1059]

Back when I was in daycare, I was a bigger kid than most kids my age (7-8) but I was also emotionally behind by two years. A slightly younger kid had his older brother drag me to the corner of the playground where they’d found a little frog-I was super happy until the bigger kid picked it up to ‘show me’ and crushed it in his hands. I hit him so hard I broke his nose, and I threw his younger brother into the dirt. They weren’t expecting that-and even though I got kicked out, I still didn’t regret what I did. I hope they learned not to mess with people.

[@bluefairy7653]

“Before me is a man who cares not for little things.” It’s a sign of something bigger, because if you don’t care about what needs to be protected because it holds a fragile, yet vital place in life, what does that show? You find meaning in causing ruin to things and lives you hold power over, and that’s wrong. I just think it’s sad, and I don’t want to be around people who are like this, but there are so many of them.

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

My Dad is a man who cares for the little things, he's the first guy I ever knew to do so (might get adopted one day lol) and honestly it still astounds me when he does. ❤ The world is going to be an awful place when he finally goes.

[@jessestrobel2]

yeah and guess who also didn't care for "little things"; symbols of female empowerment from the 40s and 50s. Feminists are the biggest hypocrites

[@jaimicottrill2831]

There are many of them, but there are good ones too. I am raising my son to be one of the good ones that have empathy and show kindness.

[@jessestrobel2]

@@jaimicottrill2831 listen to how insane you sound. That's like saying that women are mostly wastes of time and ungrateful, but there's 'some good ones'. Yeah, men talk like that. It's no more forgivable than how you do, but keep in mind this comment section is attacking little boys. Creep.

[@jessestrobel2]

@@jaimicottrill2831 you've basically conveyed to me that you're abusing your son by trying to indoctrinate him into submissiveness

[@daphneeehlig3598]

The lyrics : 😩😩😩 The instrumental : 😊😊😊

[@cluelesschicken8396]

It isn't even out yet!

[@Cat..Person]

I guess they know from the snippets

[@cluelesschicken8396]

@@Cat..Person Oh right yeah, sorry my mistake!

[@Cat..Person]

@cluelesschicken8396 No worries luv

[@daphneeehlig3598]

@@cluelesschicken8396 the video wasn't out but the song was already out on the platforms !! Hope you enjoyed it 😊

[@bluebrrypie]

the amount of comments that have had a similar experience of boys in primary school hurting animals infront of us just to get enjoyment from our hurt is terrifying. those boys grew up to be adults.. i only hope they changed, and felt soul-crushingly guilty over what they did.

[@simaz1915]

"if i dont make a sound does it ever hurt?" "if a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to watch it will it make a sound?" i love this so much, amazing song ❤

[@small_soy]

I’m for the first time dealing with the trauma from an abusive relationship. I’ve felt so alone for so long but your music makes me feel seen, feel heard. It’s healing and empowering. Thank you.

[@kristakat5686]

Me too love, me too. I SEE YOU.

[@tessatea333]

@@kristakat5686 same here yall. much love to you both.

[@heatherchisholm2415]

You aren't alone, friend. I'm so sorry you're going through it. If you don't mind a little unsolicited advice, take time just for you. Get to know yourself again, that one might sound silly but so many of us forget ourselves and lose ourselves in this process.

[@Lombreee]

❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️

[@idiomatic444]

Reminds me of my ex

[@kayw3922]

I remember when I was in the 4th grade and during recess I saw these two boys stomping an orange monarch butterfly into the gravel. They just laughed as they crushed its thin and delicate body into the rocks. I was so upset; I didn't understand why they would do that or how they could have possibly found it funny. It was just a butterfly, light and harmless. I never thought I would hear this concept described in a song, but I'm glad the message of this song is finally getting out. Children should be taught to respect living creatures, not destroy them.

[@jessestrobel2]

an insect. 10 year old boys killing a bug. Your heart could be exercised in more needed areas than the lamenting of a freaking insect man

[@mccat5]

@@jessestrobel2did you know that those butterflies are endangered due to human actions? Why did you find it necessary to complain about someone’s grief over the death of a living being?

[@jessestrobel2]

@@mccat5 Because it's pathetic, this problematization of every facet of maleness that Paloma perpetrates. Her music is wholly geared toward "intellectually" combating men and she consistently succeeds in rallying hordes of women to commiserate over nonexistent problems, without having any substance. Imagine the corniest anti-woman folk music and you get a rough idea of Paris' effect. It's inflammatory, it's wholly unnecessary in the present time where women are absolutely the pimps in society to continue to "fight" for increased women's privilege - you already have achieved it, now you're simply juicing the other sex and if you don't totally pulpify them you can only imagine the counter response. It is harmful to continually enable sentiment that has no relevance, to manufacture angst and misdirect the formless frustration of persuaded feminists into a concentrated point - the childhood transgressions of the opposite sex. Its so mental, what's next to go? Throwing rocks, riding bikes? Keep turning everything into a problem and see how quickly real problems worsen.

[@oceanoqraphy]

⁠@@jessestrobel2 An insect is a living creature that holds its own purpose on this planet, someone finding joy in the destruction of a life so small and innocent is definitely worth having a heavy heart over. Seeing as you had also made another dismissive comment about boys destroying an egg, you seem to not understand how insane this behavior actually is to anyone who is normal.

[@Ergoperidot]

When I was about 6 or 7 I stomped on an ant for no reason and a friend of mine asked me why I did that and that it didn’t do anything to me. Sometimes it only takes one kid to be a positive example for others. Unfortunately he grew up to be kind of a jerk for a while though he’s better now. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

[@ameagari__]

i was abused my whole childhood by my brother - physically and verbally. I don't relate to her other songs because i've never experienced domestic violence, but violence by the hands of little boys, my whole life has been built on it. this hurts and at the same time, the quiet rage in the lyrics is so healing.

[@sophiehobley828]

Sending love and validation. Honestly I relate to all the songs from tiny things, being felt up on the bus as a teen, male cousins bullying me while others were so gentle. So many things. I'm glad this was healing for you. Sibling abuse is so under recognised and dismissed

[@always_1895]

This is a bit of an older comment but please know you’ve got love and support from here as well- my brother was also abusive, though I’m lucky enough that he’s changed as we get older and we repair our relationship more everyday. I hope the same happens for you if it hasn’t already, and I hope it helps to know that you’re not alone in what you went through. The quiet rage is real and it’s very cathartic

[@gabriellaharris3494]

My mother used to yell at me for bringing snails home when I was little but I was just trying to save them from the boys who would crush them for fun.

[@ttfn1412]

i love bugs and little animals but have a phobia of worms, one time on my birthday in elementary school, the boys in my class left dead worms on my desk and laughed when i got my first ever panic attack from it. this song brought me back to that moment with such anger i never allowed to felt growing up. paris never ever failed to write songs that just connect with me

[@HoneyTwee]

That's horrible. 😢

[@Hoenest]

the visual at the end of the destruction of the forest is so sad and true we’ve seen it (at least I have) more than i would like to admit: “Before me is a man who cares not for little things.” it’s so heartbreaking that the smaller the creature is the less they care for it as if their lives are no better than a power dynamic to show off dominance.

[@annalouise_x]

“you’ve been playing with your power for a long time” this song is heartbreakingly beautiful and I have it on loop❤

[@opossumpadaum7433]

I remember being young and seeing little boys dive down to the lake floor, bring up mussels only to step of them and laugh. I remember being horrified, I tried to put them back in the water whenever I could but they were broken shards and slime and I to this day cannot understand why… As a teenager I saw boys in my school kill a small burd by repeatedly driving over it with bikes and laughing hysterically. They talked about it for weeks and found it so funny. A big group too. Around that time I learned to be wary of that gleam in other’s eyes.

[@bellamln]

That is so sad and how they found enjoyment in doing that is insane

[@alexmagney5326]

I loved snails and frogs as a little girl and caught them when I could (in my hands, I couldn't imagine having one at home trapped in a jar), and I was often late because I picked up all the snails and worms after rain and put them in the grass so they won't get stepped on. When I was seven or eight I built resorts for snails with pools and roofs, plenty of leaves, shade, rocks, hiding places, anything a snail could want. I brought them there and back if they didn't wanna stay. I was happy with it and some even trusted me and it was amazing. My classmates knew and one of the boys took one of my snails, put it on the grass, and waited for me to pass him by only to jump on it with a smile on his face. I felt nauseous and sad and so fucking mad. I kicked his ass so hard when he was around me he would literally look if any snail was close to him and he'd step away from it. I played with the boys a lot - I hated dolls, tea parties, and those stereotypically "girly" toys. I liked to play rough with them and would often fight with them - but I always knew it was okay because I never picked on anyone or bullied anyone. Both sides agreed to it, and the only times when they didn't, is when I was defending something or someone. So it's not that I was "a girl" or didn't get that "a little violence is okay" or "that's how boys like to play". I just never found cruelty funny or justifiable. And this song puts it in words so amazingly, because while I immediately get mad thinking about that snail, I was told being sad about it made me weak and silly and that I should be embarrassed about it and I had to always pretend it didn't get to me so much, and I couldn't comprehend it, because I always felt like it was an act of terror and torture and war, to force someone to look as you kill something they loved and make them not even flinch - but if you say that, you're the problem, and they're happy. And it's just so fucked up to make sure little kids have to pretend not to feel pain for the rest of their lives.

[@marcelaiglesiastoporowicz1221]

When i was about five i liked to keep the snails i found in my garden as pets for a couple of hours in a "terrarium" i made with cardboard boxes, i would feed them and then i would set them free by the river. One day my cousins, who were about two years older, grabbed my terrarium and started throwing the snails into a small pond of water we had. I panicked and i threw myself into the water to save them, and i managed to get out one that survived. They laughed at me for days after that.

[@MorganJ]

It's sad. I think it's a well-written song, the lyrics are good, I love what the music video adds. It just, y'know, it's sad. It sucks that people celebrating destruction is so normalized.

[@ophisnephele3962]

There's a group call BlackShape,and there only song right now is fire. But you have to watch the video first before you listen to the song alone because it speaks loudly

[@jessestrobel2]

@@MorganJ Paris is the ultimate destroyer.

[@Hair8Metal8Karen]

I get such a flashback to the alternative 90s women fronted bands from Paris Paloma. You could slip her songs into a compilation of Skunk Anansie, The Cranberries, Garbage and The Cardigans and it would just fit.

[@Elli-fr9je]

I will never not love Paris Paloma. I resonate so deeply with your poetry. Something about it is so visceral. You just get it.

[@jaimicottrill2831]

There are many terrible, traumatising stories in the comment section so I thought I would share a nice one too to balance it out a little. I was fortunate to be raised by a good man who would help us build enclosures for any "lost" insects we found, even if we only kept them for a few hours. I know he did it because he was a good father, not necessarily because he loved bugs! but it showed me what a good heart was. My brother was the same and was so kind- he teased me of course, what sibling doesn't? but it was never cruel teasing. Then I married a good man who helps name the bugs that my kids bring home (boy and girls). I hope that the ones raising kids now are raising their daughters and sons to be strong AND kind. I still hope....

[@pestilenssi8979]

Ily

[@jaimicottrill2831]

@@pestilenssi8979 thanks. I love you too

[@paularmstrong2712]

This is poetry that few artists are still capable of, i get the sense that she wrote this song for herself and that's what makes it so beautiful and real. I'm so glad that I stumbled across it.

[@herebedragons4338]

I have a vivid memory of the neighbors kid calling me over to look at a caterpillar and then tearing it apart with a stick. I started crying and went back inside while he was laughing and flinging parts of the caterpillar at me. I’m not sure where he is now but I hope he realizes how cruel that was and has changed.

[@ava_marie_v]

This song is going to become my new obsession I can already tell from the snippets

[@faenovak]

Oh my god this song!! “Boys are bringing bugs just to kill them in front of my eyes” 😭

[@jocelynne1513]

i am a bug collector. I never want these creatures to be defiled by being stomped or pulled apart by boys. they live on my wall instead. this song makes me appreciate them even more. i only wish i could have saved the bugs and small animals from the boys i grew up with.

[@vedekX]

absolutely unbelievable (as always) “you’ve been playing with your power for a long time” hits deep

[@neofalconer5722]

The cruelty of others just because you care, it's upsetting that it's so relatable.

[@hellagreen2734]

"You've been playing with your power for a long time.° Indeed, millennia.

[@ms.blooddiamond3857]

This is painfully accurate. I adored "potato bugs"/pill-bugs. They were so cute, & harmless. I felt bad if I scared them so I tried not to, but I always tried to have them crawl to me & gently play with them. I was a kid with really bad anxiety & these little bugs seemingly didn’t want to & literally couldn't hurt me. So I'd chill with them at my grandmother's, draw chalk mazes with them & with the ants... I had a cousin, just a little less than 2 years younger. He would purposefully find my favourite bugs (the pill-bugs) or other bugs just trying to exist in their own home, NATURE, & kill them just to see me get mad & yell at him to stop. Just to watch me hopelessly try & collect these bugs & section them off so he couldn't step on them. I didn't know this was a relatively universal girl experience, though a few of my girlfriends would do the same & help me try & defend them or just not hurt them. I loved picking up worms as a kid, not really snails or slugs, definetely not centipedes, but I absolutely loved worms. The one time my cousin killed a worm in front of me was just awful. I'm obviously not traumatized by it but as a little child it left an impact, for sure. He did it just to see me in pain. Then again, he's got a lot of issues, but, regardless... This song speaks to me a lot more than I could've anticipated. Metaphorically, I can relate to many of the male figures in my life not being someone to idolize. But even just on its face, with the senseless killing of harmless creatures, peacefully existing within THEIR OWN SPACE, becoming a sadistic act so disturbingly beloved by little boys because of how powerful it makes them feel... because someone refuses to teach them that it isn't funny to make little girls cry... that I can also relate to, all too well. That & the oh, so endearing line, "No, no! He's 'teasing' you because he likes you!"

[@JUlie-nk7bm]

I hope this doesn’t sound rude but does he treat you the same way now? Is he still like that as an adult?

[@ms.blooddiamond3857]

@@JUlie-nk7bm He never went on to hurt animals, like some serial k¡ller sh¡t or something (not saying that was your implication btw, you're good🖤). Not that bugs don't matter, that was still awful💔 But he doesn't like hurt animals or anything like that. We're not close. I mean, we're not physically distant (we live near each other), but like emotionally speaking & all that, I mean.

[@JUlie-nk7bm]

@@ms.blooddiamond3857 thank you for being so kind and replying to my question! I appreciate it I hope you have a great day

[@ms.blooddiamond3857]

@@JUlie-nk7bm Of course! No worries at all! You didn't come off as rude, & if anything I honestly appreciate the checking in. It's nice to know there are people who read comments & remember they're also written by humans with real lives🌈🌹 I hope you have a lovely day, too🖤

[@themoonxchilde]

the first lines... wow... as a woman who rescues wildlife its ALERMING how many grown men like to corner me to tell me in detail how they "deal with wildlife" its literally insane

[@ComfyCatz]

Thanks for putting to words what so many people struggle to even put together in their minds, for speaking up for those who only dare to think of breaking free when they're alone at night. From the depths of my heart- thank you.

[@Lunallea]

I remember in elementary school there was a nest of newly hatched baby birds in a tree at a playground and everyday when I went there, I would go check on them because I wanted to see them grow. One day, after a few weeks of checking, I started heading home after checking the nest and saw three middle school boys on bikes riding around and didn't think anything of it. The next day when I went to check, all of their remains were smeared over the sidewalk and street next to the tree. I couldn't fathom why anyone would do that to these innocent creatures and I still think about it to this day.

[@kristinajordan1571]

The character of a man is shown in how he treats those vunerable who can do nothing for him

[@saradjukanovic801]

This is too relatable, it hurts

[@whothehellismalachi6270]

I remember in my elementary school picking up a small fly. It wasn't able to fly so I was carrying it around. A boy in my class hit it out of my hand and laughed.

[@quadtoe]

this song is, genuinely, describes my HATRED for these specific kinds of men. their joy in their power they believe they have over women and girls. "it fills you with light to take away mine" LIKE its like ive been thinking this for so long and paris truly put my thoughts into this song. so good.

[@idiomatic444]

I was lucky to grow up with a lot of guys who were raised right. But i remember a lot of times id create things, just drawings or small art peices, and watch them get torn apart just to uoset me. Its weird how that behavior is learned.

[@Mijuki]

I'm going to be honest here. I didn't think Paris could ever write lyrics again, that would hit me the way "Labour" did. As a vegan who gets hurt by the destruction of the planet, and a person who has encountered very destructive people i am "glad" i was wrong. Paris has an incredible talent for putting my daily thoughts and feelings into very melodic words.

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

Happy there are people like you in this world ❤ Makes me want to stay in it just a little while longer.

[@Ayah.Papaya]

wishing my personality and interests goodbye for a little while- this song is going to be all i can think/talk about (my friends are going to be a little annoyed lol)

[@charaoharathecowboy]

I LIKE INSECTS I see a caterpillar and word "bugs" and I'm already excited TOO MUCH I CAN'T WAIT TO HEAR THIS MASTERPIECE Upd: it was beautiful. The melody, the lyrics, visual support. Great job!

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

Glasswing butterflies are exquisite,no?❤

[@tashasims6591]

Same as soon as I saw bugs in the name and also said about worms I was like I know I’ll love this song 🥰🥰

[@RD-wq1ns]

this really opened up my mind...it has such deep meaning but is executed so well but honestly it just brings about a feeling of sadness and defeat

[@HealthyObbsession]

I have listened to this song for the last two weeks it has become such a source of comfort and has helped me heal from things I wouldn't wish upon anyone.

[@renevaile7192]

Oh man the universal experiences of boys destroying animals and insects for amusement is honestly so alien. I've known so many guys who were bleeding hearts for animals, but I also would get in fist fight brawls as a kid to save ladybugs from being dismembered or having their wings plucked by other kids, and take them home to care for them (and release them when they learned to handle a leg or two less, or kept them until they died naturally if their wings were gone). My own sibling once was among several girls trying to protect a bat that fell from a tree in their cement school yard in the day, but a bunch of boys stormed them and one stomped it to death before the scuffle could be broken up. I've also had a much older boy (I was 7 and he was 12) drown an inchworm I was caring for, and then when it survived he impaled it with a pencil and we had to be separated because I started throwing hands over it. Some kids (mostly boys, but its just that they're not taught to be as gentle as girls, not that there's usually a true gender imbalance for empathy in children) honestly never learn to have empathy for other beings- they get a joy from causing pain only because they have no idea what pain feels like, or the true impact of their actions. It's honestly.. sad? disappointing? I can only pity the parents whose lessons fall on deaf ears, and scorn and revile those who never bother to teach their kids empathy in the first place.

[@riverbanzachamploo9725]

i think this might just be my new favorite paloma song. it honestly gives me mixed feelings. the lyrics are quite upsetting and relatable, but the tune is so pleasant that while listening i can't help but smile. the instrumental and lyrics might seem to contrast each other but they actually compliment each other. the beautiful melody feels like a nostalgic spring, which is the setting of the stories paloma is singing. i think almost all afab folks have these memories. maybe a late spring or summer day when we were little all kids and a male friend or brother had been cruel and tried to frighten us by using the new discovered power they had over little creatures. back then i didn't think much of it. just the boys being mean again, but now i see it as the beginning to much worse behavior. "you've been playing with your power for a long time"

[@SelenaCraftsCrochet]

This song isn’t about bugs. Wow this is a song I never thought I’d need to hear. The line about picking up as much worms as you can.. omg I can relate so much

[@trevorjames9366]

People are talking about bugs and kids etc- in. Moments and i think that is a metaphor for people who take pleasure in hurting others- consciously as adults !

[@Echolaic]

It's both- it's a metaphor for violence (particularly male violence against women) but it is presented through the very real experience of little boys and girls in which many little boys (not all of course) purposefully hurt or kill bugs/animals to scare or upset little girls.

[@SableCatDog]

I've been in several abusive relationships. I also save bugs and worms in the path and I have several pet insects too. So this really resonates with me ❤

[@Venus0Kets]

Jesus fuck- you just unlocked a horrible feeling/memory and gave the music to soothe it all at once. I’m glad I’m listening in my room so I can shed slow tears in private.

[@tyrfishy6936]

A class (mixed gender) at a school I taught at recently had a large baby crow in a corner of their woodland playground and they were all bringing it food and water and taking care of it until it fledged. I was so grateful for their empathy.

[@veraladin]

"Sözcüklerin bu kadar güçlü ve güzel olduğunu bilmezdim." ~Michelle Cohen Corasanti

[@pestilenssi8979]

Around the age of 12, I told my mom about a large spider that had scared me when I was looking for something from behind the TV. Her solution to the problem was to put the spider in a small glass jar, and put that jar on our lit woodstove. She said she did it because "no one scares her kids" but all I remember is watching the spider run around in the little space it had before it got cooked alive. She wasn't protecting me.

[@milouschaareman9128]

The visuals fit the song so well. I love it

[@blunderful30]

This pulls at my heartstrings. I'm someone who will try and save the bugs in the house. It is sad how some delight in the destruction of small things, big things, and each other.

[@Thegirlwiththebooks-]

I’M SO EXCITED ❤❤ UPDATE ITS SO AMAZING… HER MUSIC REMINDS ME OF THE HANDMAID’S TALE (MARGARET ATWOODS POETIC STYLE IN GENERAL THO)

[@damamici]

Paloma's lyrics >>>>>>>>>>>

[@oliviahernandez3221]

i wish i could put this song on a billboard and make the whole world watch it. stunning work and so original.

[@alenecameron1542]

Paris Paloma uses words in such a beautifully poetic way that wows me every time. There’s so much meaning in just a measure of her music and everything is just symbolicly beautiful. Thank you so much Paris for making such strong and amazing music!

[@MariaWasak]

Paris Paloma is a phenomenon of 2020+ music, the storytelling, the wording, the metaphors and comparisons that are so poetic but so straightforward and simple at the same time. I have never fallen in love in someone 's artistry so quickly.

[@deezed6478]

When I was 14, I went on a camping trip and the group of boys were all 12 years old. They found a frog and covered it with a plastic container to capture it, and then proceeded to use a lighter on the container to burn the frog alive. I didn’t like it but I didn’t say anything because I knew they wouldn’t listen to me. I truly cannot understand how anyone can find it funny to cause such harm to an innocent being.

[@haunted-but-holy]

This is the first time in, what feels like a long time, that a song has resonated so, so deeply with every word spoken... Healing hurts

[@jessicaneedles2111]

Always blown away by your music! Having some of my past feelings put so eloquently into words is bittersweet- but so incredibly healing. Thank you so much for sharing your music and experience!

[@kwiatowycytryn9248]

Paris Paloma is such an underrated artist.

[@gingerft.honeybees4097]

I love you Paris Paloma! You captured beautifully the repeated experience I lived through as a child. I'd run away so fast if I ever met someone who didn't car for small living things.

[@Victorianghost-qc1jk]

This song definitely makes me think of lord of the flies, and how jack went from brutally killing pigs to fellow boys

[@ReBeLRecKLesSs]

This song makes me cry every time

[@sorlos]

On the flipside: this summer a stranger, a man, came and helped med pick the slugs to safety from the road- he was thrilled he found another person who does this. And then later another stranger, also man, spontaneously joined me in spending about 2h trying to save a trapped bird-we succeded thanks to his efforts and great ideas. Some men also grow up to be very kind indeed.

[@denisepace3229]

This reminds the time when we were 8 and my friend punched a boy and gave him a bloody nose because he kept taking the tadpoles out of the ditch and stomping on them on the pavement while laughing at her distress.

[@fridayweekend7775]

Your music always hits so deep. This song expresses so much that I couldn’t have put into words. Thank you for making your music, it’s more than wonderful ❤

[@kayw3922]

This is excellent! It's so impactful with these lyrics, the poetry, the meaning/message. Paris Paloma has done it again, creating another incredible song! 🤍💖

[@sari9645]

God your music is so beautifully written and powerful. Thank you for sharing your talent and lyrics with the world

[@meggy3635]

Your music means so much to me, truly. Especially after leaving an abusive relationship this year. I feel understood and less alone. Thank you.

[@daisy-rp9jj]

This is an absolute masterpiece - thankyou❤

[@lezangrobbler5349]

Amazing song, very deep💝💖

[@nic.0le09]

u don't get the views u deserve Paris. truly, Ur voice remind me of aurora and Halsey with an angel, please keep it up.

[@tia3932]

“Before me is a man who cares not for little things.”

[@guodaripinskaite6314]

My favorite of yours. Cant get enough of it

[@jannekevanelst7827]

I'm in love. Haven't even finished yet, but I'm in love❤❤❤

[@Elizabeth912-v6o]

Susan Vaga, Tori Amos, Tracy Chapman , Fiona Apple vibes ✨️ ❤ love this girl im happy to hear a knew one !!!!!

[@hayleyevers-king7120]

I still remember piles of dead bees. Now as the mother of a boy my big fear is I can’t stop him becoming this when there’s so many awful men out there trying to influence them.

[@rainfall6805]

Been looking forward to this one for a while and I'm so glad it's finally here I love it!

[@Evelyn-rb1zj]

I didn't spend much time around the boys at my school but I do remember them stomping on worms and snails after it rained though my most vivid bug memory has to be these two girls in the year above me who were friends with my best friend at the time shoving a bunch of dirt and dead bugs down my shirt...

[@zohreh5339]

You are a genius for these lyrics

[@cococolour8002]

Lyrics: You said those words and suddenly I’m five And boy’s are bringing bugs just to kill them for my eyes And I can see their hunger, looking for a sign That any of their destruction has me suffering inside You take such delight In killing my light If I don’t make a sound does it even hurt? I’m bending to the ground just to pick up little worms And I have seen you relish such violence with a joy That I’ve only seen before in the eyes of little boys Discovering their power for the first time You kissed me so hard I had a grased chin I saw your eyes spark at the braking And in to my see hunger, looking for a sign That any of your destruction had me suffering inside It fills you with light to take away mine At the cutting your tongue all I hear is shredding wings Before me is a man who cares not for little things And now I have my answer from when I wondered who Those little boys became because they grew up to be you You’ve been playing with your power for a long time A long time You’ve been playing with your power for a long time

[@NightLight13930]

Could you make a lyric video for this song please? Sometimes I need to see the lyrics to properly listen to songs(auditory processing disorder) and I want to listen to this wonderful song fully! Continue making these beautiful and impactful songs Paris!

[@marii7661]

i just agree so so much

[@lonelycherrio9349]

Please make an acoustic version, I love the bare bones songs ❤❤

[@queendomlive]

YESSS

[@itsmeroseee]

Why is every single song of hers so good 😭❤

[@Kiwiwi001]

i remember desperately trying to protect spiders and other insects from the boys in my class in primary school

[@brigidasa]

I love this woman so much

[@joannachatwin8935]

A lyric video edition or a simple live/acoustic performance would be awesome for this song

[@InternetFad]

Paris Paloma, you bring such incredible art into the world. Thank you ❤

[@zahrakhan1766]

you never miss, Paris. what a beautiful, beautiful song

[@jessepinkington4040]

Was driving today and saw a very obvious hedgehog on the other side of the road trying to cross. Checked mirrors to brake, the person behind me had ample time to slow too. Instead they overtook me, aiming for and killing said hedgehog. The arrogance of man truly is stunning.

[@honeyari22]

very similar thing happened to me but with a cat in the road,I watched the person in front of me speed up and swerve to hit them. i was sobbing the entire ride home because it is such a useless cruel act.