PART 1: We had been intimate with each other the week before his nikkah | EP 42

Hey guyssss, Kally and Hodo here with s3 of answering the internets craziest dilemmas!!! We just want to wish our sister the very best in life - may Allah guide her, protect her from evil and compensate her loss with goodness in this life and the next. It can't have been easy to send this so we hope we did it justice!
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[@misshan6648]

I feel the wife needs to know what he's been upto before she has kids for him and be stuck with him for life. She is a victim in this too.

[@DSQueenie]

I agree so much. If no one else she needs to know.

[@purplebear445]

No I think god will expose him to his wife in his own way

[@unkiy8528]

I suggest to the sister to take it as a blessing in disguise. What kind of man is that ? Why would you still love him? Block him and move on with grace, it's the best thing you can do. All love and empathy to you.

[@PositiveWomenTV]

"Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better." Maya Angelou

[@nouralain1]

The girlfriend if she is smart will be the lucky one! She gets to walk away from him, the wife is the sad one she is in for a lifetime of misery being married to a cheater that uses religion to absolve himself of blame!

[@King-ij8ee]

What do you mean you are not religious? You are religious. The definition of it is believing in a religion. Now a religious person is someone who manifests devotion to a deity through practices etc. And would you say you don't or at least don't try to? I don't like this cookiecutter mentality or fear of conclusiveness. We are all struggling sinners, please be firm in your approach of statement.

[@Sparkly-lh9ft]

May Allah reward you for this comment! Ameen I was going to comment the same thing, but you worded this better than I ever could've! I just want to share a hadith that closely reflects what you wrote for my sisters in this video: It was narrated from Anas that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Every son of Adam commits sin, and the best of those who commit sin are those who repent.’” (Sahih Hadith) May Allah guide the Ummah, keep us steadfast on our deen & forgive us all for our shortcomings. Ameen ❤

[@King-ij8ee]

@@Sparkly-lh9ft Barak Allahu feek. May Allah reward you abundantly amin. Thank you for your kind and informative reply masha Allah. And amin amin amin to your dua!

[@tara6305]

Expose him..he played with her feelings... his wife should know what a two faced liar he is... !

[@sumayahmed372]

He wants to have his cake and eat too. Both women deserve better, these kinda men exist -it’s brave of her to share and and enlighten the rest of women-kind

[@tastyrecipesonabudget1689]

You almost had it right. It’s “have your cake and eat it too”

[@saimakhatun4783]

My favourite KZbinrs, have my tea ready for your episodes 😅 love what you guys do, your chats just love it I feel like I’m there hahaha my sister can literally hear me always laughing when I’m watching your episodes 😅❤️

[@oversharerspodcast]

😩💗💗

[@Qurbajoog]

You guys are such a delight to watch❤ I was wondering if you guys have a podcast? If not you totally should I can listen to you guys forever ❤

[@phukathegamer7642]

She has to expose him, especially because of the wife

[@fatimadaya8736]

Yes please!!!!

[@nataliesaidi4868]

The wife needs to know he isn't a good person..how do you do that to two women woooow

[@youheard03]

You gurls come like a walking Colgate advert mashallah

[@ariyassin3035]

Commenting before I heard the story.. but I love your accents 😍 it’s so lovely! Anyways gonna continue

[@a.a1123]

I love you kaltuun Mashallah You have such pure heart I can see that you feel for her may Allah let you keep that

[@a.a1123]

I would tune in for your Podcast

[@rax0x]

This man is selfish. She needs to block him and move on. She deserves better and InshaAllah she will find the right person.....he ain't it.

[@gigi7467]

Can u guys make a poddcast, I would looooove it❤️❤️

[@user-vi8ld9wv5v]

They have

[@gigi7467]

@@user-vi8ld9wv5v no shit

[@MrEsquire7]

Narcissist! Manipulator! Liar! And using the Deen for his own selfish wants!? Audhubillahi mina shaytani rajeem!! I'm feeling anger on her behalf!! As a Muslim man, how do you do that?? How do you expect to bring up children with morals and values, especially within the Deen!? SubhanAllah!! I'm a Muslim man and I am livid and really disgusted!!

[@istahelahmed8829]

This whole situation is really sad. Islam is too beautiful of a religion for a man or woman to use it as a means to an ultimate end. How selfish of this man? People will use you as much as you will allow. He should of been honest and did the right thing from the start. As Muslims, we are not perfect. We are have our flaws and shortcomings. I hope that he owns up to his mistakes and apologizes. Both women deserve to be with someone much better.

[@aishafaisal2249]

Get the family’s number somehow & expose him with the explicit photos so they actually do something about this trifling little boy

[@Khwaab]

If they are Pakistani or Arab, they will do NOTHING. Absolutely nothing! They will cuss this poor lady out and just protect him. If his wife makes even the slightest fuss, they will exchange her for a new victim for him to use.

[@sophiesumleen7872]

Pls expose him sis. So dat the wife can get out

[@amirahabib9454]

Damn get to the damn story 😂😂😂😂😂😂was running out of patience!!!!!

[@Ali-jk3cu]

I thought you guys were Australian this whole time ? You guys are from London ?

[@tahminehisa6235]

Needs to be exposed. Wife can do what she likes with the knowledge but she NEEDS to know his reality.

[@madeehakhan7381]

She absolutely needs to expose him because it wouldn't be fair to his wife either that he is cheating on her by still staying connected to her. May Allah make it easy for her as well.

[@Mia-ud4mf]

Who else needs a pt2???!!!

[@misterbk1791]

Nah children above a certain age are fine but of course babies or even up to 1 year old/2 year old you still have to take care of the kids to the same place

[@saharamakeupacademy]

Walk away. Allah showed you what kind of “man” he is. He isn’t worth it.

[@user-hr3mb1fn1t]

your hijabs match so well

[@oversharerspodcast]

We didn’t plan it 😂😂😂

[@zahramohamoudsaid7467]

I think she should expose him because that is not faire even for his wife

[@muslimahb2953]

I think its better to answer ppls situations not reddit

[@mumtas4469]

The only thing the girl can do is repent. Allah will forgive her InshAllah for commuting zinah with him. This is probably a sign from Allah so she can stop this relationship since it is nothing but harmful, dangerous, and with no blessings at all. Either get married to him as soon as possible or end it as soon as possible. The best thing for her to do is pray, Repent, and most importantly pray Istikhara. Allah knows best and Istikhara would help you. It is such a powerful prayer that will remove anything bad in your life or keep anything good so pray and pray until you get your sings.

[@itsaisha_]

you cant say Allah's name and then say Insha Allah in the same sentence.

[@purplebear445]

Tbh I think she shouldn’t have had s3x with him in the first place !!!

[@korruptnovellst4751]

Youre not religious?

[@pleasemakeduaaforme7419]

Hijab - TO ALL BROTHERS & SISTERS 4 parts HIJAB (Part 1 of comment) Don’t mean to come off extreme and sound like haraam police. I believe that starting somewhere is better than nothing at all but unfortunately, it’s become a trend. If the Muslima sisters of today actually knew the true definition of HIJAB and had the strength within their IMAAN to implement that definition, they wouldn’t take their insecurity issues to the level they have taken them to, in today’s day and age and wouldn’t have to deal with many other unnecessary problems which exist due to neglecting and rejecting hijab. Nonetheless ofc, hijab or any good deed, should not be done to avoid problems. It must all be done, for the pleasure of ALLAH . Also, nonetheless, we should keep the virtues and consequences of good and bad deeds, in mind, too. I’m not here to judge. Just talking about hijab. Fatima (ra): - Said moltte (more or less to the effect) - when I pass away, bury me (ra) at night so no one see’s the shape of my body - No one even had knowledge of her height, let alone the shape and beauty of her body and face (ra). - She was covered head to toe, including her face, including her face - It is also said that on the day of judgement, the bridge of siraat will be thinner than a hair strand and sharper than a sword. Everyone will be completely naked. When Fatima (ra) crosses the bridge, it will be announced that moltte: “ Oh son of Adam (as), lower your gaze as the daughter (ra) of Muhammad (saw) (pbuh) crosses the bridge.” ALLAH Hu Akbar . This was her modesty. Mariam (as) - Mary (pbuh) - Not only according to Islam but maybe, just maybe, maybe even in the Bible, you can find her reaction which was out of modesty and shame when the arch angel Jibreel (Gabriel) descended into her home and approached her in the form of a man, to simply blow under her sleeve so that she’d have a full fledged 9 month old baby (Isa as) (Jesus pbuh) ready, in her womb by the command of ALLAH but she didn’t know that. So her reaction was moltte: “ Fear ALLAH , stay away from me. I’m a chaste woman. “ Then Jibreel informed her that “Not to worry. I’m an angel.” Subhanallah. Look at her modesty!!! “Stay away.” Masha ALLAH sisters today mis-take “playing hard to get” for the “modesty of Mariam (as).” No sister! Wrong! He shouldn’t get anything at all, until Nikah!!! Not even the honour to take you out, let alone, kiss you, hug you or even getting to hold your hand. Even him holding your hand is strictly haraam. It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” So the woman is not permissible for him, up until the very moment, they are married and not a second before. Yes a woman can remove her niqaab for the man who wishes to marry her, for him to see her face, in front of her wali, if her wali permits. Please double check that with a religious scholar of correct akidaa. Also, if you give in to even simply hanging out before marriage, you will be dishonoured, even if he doesn’t touch you. And please spare me the “intention” or “it’s not actually the ultimate form of zina until the private parts of both people are used,” speech. Muhammad bin Munkadir said that he heard Umaimah bint Ruqaiqah say:
“I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) with some other women, to offer our pledge to him. He said to us: ‘(I accept your pledge) with regard to what you are able to do. But I do not shake hands with women.’” We all know how “innocent” we really are! So let’s just obey ALLAH and avoid the fitna, problems, sins, fasad, by stopping sins from their roots. The roots are men keeping their gaze low, women covering up head to toe, including the face and not mixing in mixed gatherings. This way, we will truly stay innocent, inshallah. So keep the haya (modesty) of Mariam (as) in mind too. Fun fact: Insha ALLAH Mariam (as) will be one of the wives of Rasulullah (saw) in Jannah. WHEN ALLAH CREATED OUR PARENTS ADAM (AS) & HAWA (AS) - When ALLAH was creating our father Adam (as), HE didn’t cover him up. On the other hand, when HE created HIS wife, our mother, the most beautiful woman to have ever stepped foot on the face of this earth btw, (actually the most beautiful woman in history, according to Islam) Hawa (as) Eve (pbuh) , ALLAH went to the extent of placing a veil over the eyes of the malaaika (angels). Why??? Because she’s the most beautiful woman to have ever stepped foot in this world??? No. And Here’s the real question we need to ask: What sexual desires do the angels even have?????? They don’t even have nafs, let alone sexual desires. They are not deceived by nafs or shaytaan, period! ALLAH has made them completely immune to nafs and shaytaan. They only and only obey, obey and obey, ALLAH . But still, the meaning ullema abstract from the reason behind this, is that despite the pure nature of the malaaika (angels) ALLAH covered the eyes of the malaaika to send the message regarding the gravity, the magnitude, the importance, of the dignity of a woman, to the world. That’s the dignity, the modesty, of a woman and she’s simply better in every way, when she is completely, completely, hidden. This will make the world a better place, she will stay precious, respected, honoured, wanted, wanted, wanted and ofc it’s for the pleasure of ALLAH AZZAWAJAL. - Men and women, single or married, can deny all they want but the truth is, people simply wish to fit into the non-Muslim and non practicing Muslim society. We fail to realize that when sahaba (ra) tried to fit in with Rasulullah (saw) by following His blessed sunnah, the ripple effect by ALLAH was that society started trying to fit in with sahaba (ra) and ahl-ul-bait because they tried to fit in to the dean the way ALLAH commanded. 1 narration says - we were once amongst the lowest of people but ALLAH gave us honour because of Islam. As soon as we start to seek honour in avenues other than that in which ALLAH has granted us honour, ALLAH will then, humiliate us. 2nd one - We are a nation whom ALLAH has given honour through Islam. So we shall not seek honour in other avenues 3rd - Oh Abu Ubaydah! You people (Arabs) were the smallest in number and the most degraded of people before ALLAH gave you honour through Islam. When you start to seek honour in anything else other than Islam, ALLAH will certainly degrade you

[@pleasemakeduaaforme7419]

HIJAB (Part 2 of comment) LITERAL MEANING OF HIJAB: The literal meaning of hijab is not covering the head. No. Covering the head is a part of hijab but that’s not the literal meaning. The literal meaning of hijab is “segregation” and separation.” Let’s use a very explicit scenario. Very explicit; so we can understand thoroughly, inshallah. So for example, a woman is naked at home showing herself off lustfully to her husband for his pleasure because he asked her to, so he can be pleased by simply looking and/or staring (keep in mind, there is 0 hijab between the husband and wife. 0) Someone knocks at the door. She runs to the bedroom to go in for privacy (hijab), closes the door, the guests enter the home and have a seat with the husband. The wife is in her room but keep in mind she’s still completely, naked. I don’t wanna use the term “naked,” believe me. Anyway, that room is now her hijab!!! How??? Because she’s covered/confined by the door and walls of that room. Ofc she should stay away from the window. Despite that her face and body are not being covered by clothing, they are still being covered by something (the bedroom walls and door). And if her face and body are covered by clothing, they must be covered by clothing which Islam approves of which may not necessarily be tasteful to our desires. No one is implying that hijab is meant to be distasteful but it’s not meant to attract attention and people, either. But again, it doesn’t matter whether we approve or not. It matters if ALLAH and HIS Messenger (saw) approve. So the guests in her home cannot see her. The husband can walk into the bedroom for whatever reason and go back out, as he pleases because that’s her husband. As for the guests, if they are non-mehram, then they definitely cannot see her even when she has her clothes on (i.e pajamas, night gown or any clothing which fits into secular society which are not Islamic. Hence, just because the clothing are secularly approved, doesn’t mean they are religiously approved). The non-mehram guests can only see her and interact with her, if it’s for an important reason which cannot be dealt with unless the woman and her non-mehrams speak face to face. In this case, she should interact with the non-mehram while she is covered head to toe, including her face and with a male mehram by her side, such as her husband or father. If it’s her brother or son, then they must at least have hit puberty. I’m pretty sure that if it’s her husband or father, they’ve already gone through puberty inshallah. What if she simply wants to pass by the living room where the non-mehram guests are seated and she’s completely covered up OR dressed comfortably for home??? Then her husband should still have taqwa and have a (non-transparent curtain installed in the living room so she can pass into the kitchen or wherever. If this is the precaution which must be taken at home with non-mehram guests present, then shouldn’t a Muslima be even more precautious when stepping out of the home even though she must be with a mehram? I.e cover up head to toe, including the face. Of course. So she must cover up in sharia approved clothing outside of the home because there isn’t any room to seek privacy in, outside, where she can dress comfortably or be completely naked, unless it’s a change-room or bathroom or somewhere she can get her privacy. ((((((((((The reason we’re struggling with something so basic is because the lack of effort on our imaan)))))))))). Therefore, mashallah we’re still stuck on “shaykh, is it halal to have a gf? Bf? smoke marijuana? drink? Shaykh is it okay if I don’t perform salah 5 times a day? Or at all? So mashallah we’re on cloud 9, which means we’re far from understanding something so beautiful like hijab. Then there’s brothers who understand hijab but don’t understand the importance of the lehya (beard). And no I’m not talking about your clipped off or shaved or scruff beard, brother. I’m talking about a full fledged minimum fist full, if not sunnah (which is to the chest) and not clipped from the sides but grown from the bottom or faded or whatever. Don’t imitate women and then expect your women to listen to and obey you in terms of observing hijab; Mashallah telling them like you’re a man. Be a man yourself too. She doesn’t want to obey a woman. She wants to obey her man (husband). But you yourself are too busy imitating her, Mashallah. A beard is a sign of a man. So her sexuality is her business and her husbands. That’s hijab. No one else’s. Muslims have forgotten today that even the mere presence of a woman, is a part of hijab!!!!! No one even knew what??????? The height of Fatima (ra). The more hidden a woman is from public, the more beautiful; but again sister, your intention shouldn’t be to hide yourself to become more wanted or beautiful. Your intention should be the pleasure of ALLAH . Becoming more wanted and beautiful are just the perks that come with it. Ikhlaas for ALLAH is what really matters. The more she is hidden at home, the more the right men will be inclined to towards her for marriage and not just for sex inshallah. Why? Because the men see that she values herself and more importantly, they see that she values ALLAH and HIS pleasure, the most. Many men love this quality in women. Not just Muslim men. I’ve heard non-Muslim guys too “yo bro! Nobody knows her! She’s a ghost bro! All she does is stay home.” The other guys are like “oh yeah bro??? Yo that’s wifey right there homie!” And Subhan ALLAH , these women today are out and about to look pretty while standing at a bus stop, walking the dog, at some front desk or behind a cash register, astaghfirullah, in deception that they are respected for who they are. No sister. It’s your beauty, your shape, your curves, your face and your mere presence too!!! Just having a woman, present, in the vicinity, tickles a man’s fancy. And once you’re done getting used, whether it’s by their eyes or by the limb inside of their pants, they move on to the next woman who is also stupid enough to reject hijab and maybe even stupid enough to criticize other women who practice it. Keep in mind, you contribute to him using you, too. Whether you know it or not, you help him use you. Why? Because when you’re told to dress and behave modestly, you’re like “I don’t got time for this.” Lol so as a result, he doesn’t have time for you either. The only time he does have is an hour, half hour, 15 min, 5 min, 2 min or 30 seconds, if you know what I mean. Lol you can laugh at the “minute-men” too. Doesn’t change the fact that you got used like a corolla by 10 owners in 3 years. Even if it was just 1 guy who used you, you still got used. Btw for those of you who did get used, repent to ALLAH for taking the haraam route. Don’t worry ALLAH can forgive you as if zina never happened. Even if it wasn’t zina, ask ALLAH for forgiveness, for the fitna you’ve caused thus far. EVEN A WOMANS VOICE: A scholar was telling us as to how we should visit Muslim brothers in the community and bring them to the house of ALLAH . This is called “jaula.” He said if a girl or woman of the household happens to open the door, do not start a casual conversation. This is haraam. Just simply request that when the man/men of the household, return, please attend the lecture at the masjid. The jist of what he said was that non-mehram men and women should both speak to each other in a (((stern))) voice. Simple as that. At the time when I heard the shaykh say this, I thought to myself “wtflip bro? That’s a little too much, no?” Then 2 weeks later, give or take, I was sitting in bio class. This was grade 11. I was 17. I’m 28 now Alhamdulillah. 17 is when I really saw my religious journey on the straight path, begin, alhamdulillah. So I was in Bio class. We had a substitute teacher that day. So we classmates spent the period chatting, as I remember it. This classmate of mine, a white guy named Kyle, he and I were conversing. So he was like “dude where you from?” I was like, “well my parents are Pakistani but I’m born in Montreal. So I’m French Canadian with a Pakistani background.” (Mind you, we reside in Toronto now alhamdulillah). He goes, “dude I don’t care who says what but when French girls speak, they sound sexy.” I was like “Subhan ALLAH . The shaykh was just, just, just, just, justtttt talking about speaking in a stern voice to the opposite gender, just 2 weeks ago or so.” In other words, take every precaution and don’t do anything at all, to provoke and tempt the opposite gender into lust; anything at all; EVEN A WOMAN’S NAME: Throughout the Qur’an, ALLAH does not name a single woman ((((except for one)))) and that is Mariam (as). Why? The Christians began calling Isa (as) the son of ALLAH Ayudhubillah , Astaghfirullah. Within regards to all the other women, ALLAH said (for example), “the governors wife” when HE was speaking of a governors wife in the Qur’an. Why??? Who can question ALLAH if HE names women in the Qur’an ??? Women are HIS slaves just like men. ALLAH does not answer to anyone! ALLAH does not owe anything to anyone! So why didn’t ALLAH just name all the other women folk in the Qur’an??? But look at how wise ALLAH is. The ullema (scholars) say, the reason behind this is, even a woman’s name is a matter of hijab. Ajeeeeeeebbbbbb

[@pleasemakeduaaforme7419]

HIJAB (Part 3 of comment) EVEN A WOMANS PRESENCE I had no idea about this either but I was sooooo surprised to find out that even the mere presence of a woman is a part of her hijab. We should also study the presence of the muslima women folk, in the time of Rasulullah (saw). Especially His wives and daughters. Many Muslim women use the excuse that this type of hijab was only for the wives of the Prophet (saw) and no one else. My question is, who else is to be followed but His blessed wives and daughters (ra)??? Is their anyone better example from this ummah than them, amongst the women but His wives and daughters??????? The men of today ought to follow Rasulullah (saw). Then what about the women of today??? Obviously they have to follow the wives and daughters of The Prophet (saw). Who else? So given that a woman’s, face, body, shape, name, age and even the presence is a part of hijab, then can a Muslima vlog, be in a movie, video, show AAAAANNNDDDDDDD (((simultaneously))) practice hijab??? No!!! Because the moment she shows herself on camera (with or without niqaab) or shows even her face, off camera, it defeats the purpose of hijab. Even when it comes to going to work and iffff working is permitted, is it a workplace that lets the sister cover up shariah style, including her face?” And does she have to deal with non mehrams because it’s not permitted (to my understanding, she must be with a mehram to deal with a non mehram). The sisters should look in the mirror and ask themselves, “who am I really lying to? Deceiving? Fooling?” Why can’t I just try and work from home??? If I have to work outside of home, then why not address a shaykh of proper akeeda. Do I really have to work at all??? Can’t I just have my father, brothers or husband and son work??? This is proof that Islam was never altered like other religions. How? Modern-day Muslims and Non-Muslims, have a problem with Islam more than any other religion. Do they speak in the same ill manner, regarding Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism, Sikhism??? No. Because those religions were altered or man made and the followers of those religions decided to cater to people’s desires as opposed to cater to THE CREATOR . Practicing Muslims cater to THE CREATOR ALONE . And when practicing Muslims cater to people, they are still doing it only within the realms of Islam and ONLY in THE NAME of THE CREATOR. So basically they are still, only, catering to THE CREATOR ; serving THE CREATOR , ALONE .... but when it comes to choosing between people and THE CREATOR , it’s THE CREATOR over everything. For practicing Muslims that is. Not non-practicing ones and not always part-time practicing. Ofc Zionists who own the media, education system, magazines etc..... they used these tools to spread hate against Islam. On top of that, they orchestrated terror attacks to make it even worse. Turns out more and more people end up reverting to Islam because they find out that their understanding of Islam was incorrect. The Qur’an does not preach terrorizing innocent people, animals, crops, trees, temples, church’s, synagogues etc. WOMEN OF JAPAN: Idk if it was in the time of Rasulullah (saw), one of the 4 khalifas or another Muslim king but at one point, the women of Japan came to find out that the women of Islam practice something called hijab and that they cover up head to toe (including the face). It is said that the women of japan began practicing hijab, in their own way, if not like the Muslima women. You can still see it in their culture today. Tight long dresses which look like abayas. So they were asked Moltte, “why do you choose to cover?” They replied “these men do not deserve to see us.” ALLAH Hu Akbar. It’s true. No man but the husband, should have the honour to see. Sad to see that Muslim sisters today argue about hijab when it is said that those Japanese Muslim did not even accept Islam but still practiced hijab. Sad. THE CALENDAR: When I first started practicing Islam, my friend gave me a calendar which I’d flip the pages of, everyday. I’d keep it in my locker, in high school. One day I brought it home to my room. As I recall it, every page I’d flip would either have an aya of the Qur’an or narration of hadith. So one day I flipped another page. There was an aya of the Qur’an written in it which I don’t remember but I do remember one thing for sure!!! The aya of the Qur’an did not appear to have anything and I mean anything, anything at aaallllllll, to do with hijab. Again, that was apparently. Wallahi-al Azim, thats how I remember it because I remember reading it over and over and over and over and over again. The reason I was reading it repetitively was because I couldn’t figure out why it said, what it said after the ayah. It said the following moltte: “when this verse was revealed, the women of Madina slipped cloaks over their faces.” But again, the verse itself did not appear to have anything to do with covering the face or covering anything at all. Then I realized something. Please stay with me. We’re doing the math. Lol. What I realized was that the Muslims man’s job is to follow Rasulullah (saw) and that is also the Muslima’s job. And where the Muslima cannot follow a Sunnah Rasulullah (saw) because of the difference in gender, then that’s where they should look at His blessed wives, daughters and the women of His sahaba (ra). So whether or not we have an understanding of the aya of the Quran and narration from ahadith, who had better understanding of the Qur’an and hadith, them or us????? To the best of my knowledge, they did, obviously!!!!! If anyone else says otherwise, may ALLAH guide them. So despite that the aya did not apparently seem to have anything to with covering up, the Muslims of that time, had a better understanding of the Qur’an and hadith, than we do today, thus, that is how they understood that specific aya better than us SISTER FATIMA FROM COLORADO: By the grace of ALLAH , I came across a man, here in Toronto, Canada who was perceived to be a waliullah. If memory serves me correctly, he was around 90 years old when I met him. I spent some time with him on, maybe 4 or 5 occasions. Spoke to him. Became close friends with his khaadim and learned quite a bit about him which seemed like a lot. When India was colonized by the British, he, as a (I guess... non-practicing Muslim) was a Colonel in the British army. His name was Ameeruddeen. So we used to call him Colonel Sahab. Sahab is a term of respect, like “sir” in the Urdu language. His 1st wife was shia. He was sunni. At one point in his life, he began studying under Shaykh Yusuf (ra). Shaykh Yusuf (ra) is the shaykh who wrote the book, “Hayat-ul-Sahaba,” ofc, in the light of Qur’an and hadith. It is said that the effort of da’wah is the backbone of Islam and the backbone of the effort of da’wah is “Hayat-ul-Sahaba (life of Sahaba). It makes sense too. Think about it, who should we follow while giving da’wah verbally, or not and when we’re following Rasulullah (saw) in general, which is also a form of da’wah? Who? The sahaba (ra) and ahl-ul-bait. So Colonel Ameeruddeen Sb would learn from Shaykh Yusuf (ra) and eventually migrated to USA and reverted over 10 000 people. His wife who was shia, he reverted her to sunni too. Lol btw, my father is shia. Mom is sunni. Alhamdulillah I’m sunni too. Anyway, he said that he stopped counting after 10 000 reverting 10 000 people because he was afraid that ALLAH might take his ikhlaas away. Moltte (more or less to the effect) he wanted to meet a few people and give them da’wah. He was told by the locals in Colorado that if you wish to meet these people specifically, their time is spent in the club; even in daytime (from how I remember the story) Was it a nightclub, strip club, or just for plain old dancing.... idk. But Colonel sb said “take me.” Imagine the caliber of imaan and taqwa it probably takes to visit such a place whilst controlling the gaze. Ofc, ALLAH does ALONE . Colonel sb met these brothers (I’m assuming they were all brothers but Muslim for sure as I remember it) and gave them da’wah. As he (ra) was giving them da’wah, the girl who was dancing approached. She was interested in the conversation. I’m guessing the first thing that made her curious was his way of dressing in a turban, a thobe with a beard. She tapped his shoulder and said she wanted to speak or hear what Colonel Sahab had to say. So he said please go put some clothes on, then we can speak. Moltte, she went, got dressed and came back. She explained that her husband is the drummer and as he plays the drum, she dances. Subhanallah, men sharing their wives, mothers, daughters and sisters with the world. No respect. Anyway, he gave her da’wah. She embraced Islam and so did her husband. Today, her name is Fatima. From what I know, Fatima wears niqaab!!! This story was from yeeeeeaaaaarrrsssssss ago. They stopped their business. Started making much less money than before.... to the extent where they’d simply take the bus; can you believe it? The bus. Subhanallah, all for ALLAH !!!!! The bus to where??? To give da’wah to their relatives. One day our dear sister Fatima called Colonel Ameeruddeen Sahab crying and panicking. She said “colonel sb. I was taking the bus, the driver made a hard stop/brake, my sleeve rolled down and my wrist was exposed. (Wallahi I’m wiping my tears as I write this portion) “Colonel sahab, I wanted to ask, will that part of my body burn in jahannam because of this???” ALLAH Hu Akbar. Who is asking? An Ex-Non Muslima. We must take heed. Must. Both, brothers and sisters.

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HIJAB - (part 4 of comment - and last) MEN WASTE THEIR LIVES AND HOW DOES IT EFFECT WOMEN: It’s simple. Men see women outside. If women are showing it off and if men fall into lust which they usually do, they try to get you (physically). If they can’t get you, they go home and masturbate to your image. You might think it’s not your problem but that’s not true because eventually one of those men just might become your spouse. Turns out you love everything about him after marriage but surprise! surprise sister! He can’t satisfy you in bed. And You, you, you, contributed to his uselessness in bed. Don’t complain now because you didn’t give a damn when you were told to cover-up. Am I right or am I right??? ALLAH is my WITNESS . And what about if you get pregnant? Btw we men and women both know that if he successfully gets you pregnant Mashallah, doesn’t necessarily mean he satisfied you sexually. So if you get pregnant and don’t value the concept of modesty which should be in women (at least believing women) according to the teachings of Islam, then you’ll likely be wearing stylish clothing that pregnant women wear and simultaneously you’ll be hating on the women who are in good shape. I’ve heard grown women call other women, who are in shape, “hookers.” OH????? SHE’S A HOOKER NOW??? Why is she a hooker now, sister??? because you think your husband is more attracted to her/them??? Not his fault that they said no to modesty just like you. Just like you sister! They said “no” to modesty, JUST LIKE YOU!!! Just like when you were told to observe modesty for religious reasons and to keep in mind that it’s easier for the male folk in public, you said, “not my problem.” Now he’s checking next tings, next sweeties, next Hur al ayn, committing zina with his eyes and sister you’re getting mad???....... He’s getting sin too (for lustful gazing and most likely, even gazing at all (ALLAH knows best) but women are getting sin too, for saying “no” to modesty. And every man that looks at the woman, the woman gets sin for that too. And it’s so funny how so many women think “there’s no way my husband cheats.” That’s because women look at it from their own POV. It’s because the sister has said no to modesty, then it’s likely, she’s also saying no to other parts of Islam because she’s picking and choosing. These are the Muslims who are usually referred to as part time practicing Muslims or non-practicing. Then, as a result, the sister is also likely to choose a husband whose a part time practicing or non practicing. These are the types of Muslims we typically wind up seeing who are still desperately stuck on questions like -Shaykh Is it okay to smoke weed? - Is it okay to give and take interest? - Is it okay to marry a non-Muslim? Truth is they can’t resist. Why? No effort on imaan. I’m not looking down upon anyone. I’m saying effort on imaan is needed. People think their imaan will get higher by jumping into the depths of Bukhari. WE MUST MAKE PHYSICAL EFFORT ON OUR IMAAN. Will I get a 6 pack and chest muscles on my body just by reading a mens fitness magazine????? No. Actual effort needs to be made. ONE OF THE BEAUTIFUL QUALITIES IN WOMEN: Forgive me if I sound harsh but I don’t give a damn about what these Muslim sisters’ definition is, of modesty. That’s their definition. Not the definition of hijab given by Islam and not the interpretation of The Prophet (saw) and His Sahaba (ra) (His companions) What I love about the women folk (Muslima & Non-Muslima) is that they have soft hearts mashallah. I do hate the quality of stubbornness in the ones that have it. Not all are the same. But when the stubborn ones who choose not to observe modesty, end up getting used and regretting, they have themselves to blame too because they chose to be stubborn and choose the path of shaytaan; they chose to worship their desires of getting attention the wrong way. Even if the intention was to simply look presentable in public without niqaab. Masha ALLAH some women who get used, regret it and then try to pass it off as rape to ruin the man’s life. Lol that’s why it doesn’t fly in Saudi Arabia. People are really not that desperate for sex because it’s available, everywhere. You know what my sisters….. the Qur’an says, even a woman’s jewellery should not be heard dangling….. so imagine the face. When it comes to niqaab, women say but that ruling is only, specifically, for the wives of Rasulullah (saw). Is that so, sisters????????? Then how come people did not have knowledge of the beauty of, shape of, face or even the height, of Fatima (ra)? Why??????? If these rulings were specifically for the blessed wives of Rasulullah (saw) then why did Fatima (ra) do it? Was Fatima (ra) one of the blessed wives of Rasulullah (saw) or was she the blessed daughter, of Rasulullah (saw)??? She was the blessed daughter (ra) of Rasulullah (saw). Mind you, she could’ve made the same excuse like “no this ruling is only for my father’s blessed wives. Not for me.” - It’s not okay for sisters to be on camera. - It’s not okay to put up pictures on social media - It’s not okay to work (at least not in a place where the sister must interact with non mehram men) (interacting with non mehram men for a very, very, very important reason or under certain circumstances, is a different story) - It’s not okay to make religious tutorials or vlogs, audio or video, especially sisters doing tutorials about sex and whatnot. Sisters can speak to other sisters in private - The most sob and pathetic excuse I hear is, “my husband gave me permission.” No sister. It’s not okay if your husband gave permission because ALLAH and His Messenger (saw) didn’t. If your husband commanded for you to observe hijab and stay home and said if you go out, wear buhrka (not suggest, not permit, no….. command!!!) you’d likely be rebellious, to the point where it would probably reach talaq cuz you’d rather put yourself on display and get that attention from the world. So please don’t make up the sorry excuse that he permitted you Just think of it this way. Ofc the intention should be the pleasure of ALLAH when executing a good deed, including, avoiding sin but think of the virtues and consequences. Do I really wanna’ die saying, “well if I die a Muslim and enter jahannam (hell), I’ll still eventually get to enter jannah (heaven), as long as I die a believer, inshallah? No. Islam teaches that whether it’s little time or a lot of time or even forever, in jahannam, it will be bad. Real bad. Extremely painful. Ever try putting your hand over a candle? Not in the flame, just over it? And even if I go directly to jannah which is a place I’ll have to live in forever, do I really wanna be in the lower levels…… forever?????? Or do I want jannatul ferdous, without any obstacles, where I get to have a palace, in the neighbourhood of Rasulullah (saw) and get to do anything I want, forever? Even though there will be absolutely no sin at all in jannah, men and women will be segregated. Imagine. Even in jannah. That’s how serious this matter is. Inshallah we will all be in jannat-ul-ferdous, in the blessed neighbourhood of Rasulullah (saw). With love and truth, from Toronto, Canada 🇨🇦 Assalamualaikum