LIVING ROOM RETURN & RESET | Decluttering through Grief | My Decluttering Journey

[@emmajane7745]

Put your Christmas decorations in a box and label it for now. Any cardboard box. You don't need a special container for now x

[@aliceglazner1538]

I agree

[@keelienne]

YESS! And keep it simple, but most important: together 😃 Put the CDs in a cardboard box too, label it from ALL sides and put it next to the CD shelve.

[@gigipaz5959]

Hi Mira, My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. You have experienced great loss in the past 2 years and it is understandable that you cry often. I do feel a sense of relief after a good cry and I feel that it cleanses and heals my heart also. I do pray that your heart is filled with love and peace❤ I was going to suggest using the tissue paper to wrap your decor to protect it and to use an empty cardboard box for temporary storage. I would also suggest labeling the 4 sides of the box to easily locate it when your closet is ready. Five minutes a day makes a huge difference to the area that needs attention. It also makes a positive impact on your mood to have a clean space. One day at a time, dear Mira.. Block those people that are not showing you love and kindness. You don't deserve any hateful people in your life.

[@annamariabo8963]

This! Don't buy new stuff you feel you need for organization. Cardboard boxes are perfectly fine. Put things in a box, label it (!) and put the box on the bottom on the hallway closet so it's in the right spot even if you haven't the shelves in there yet.

[@someonesimple104]

Yes! You could use your scrapbooking skills to decorate your christmas cardbord Box. Then the box becomes a unique Style and you will find it better again, especially you're a visual person. Different boxes helps me , as a ADHD women with some cludder isues.. (sorry for my english, i'm not a native speaker)

[@sarahharper-fi2mx]

When I lost my son, I felt like all I could do was cry. I got so annoyed at myself cause I was so over crying! But then I heard you laugh after you cried and it reminded me of my journey. There's lots of laughter these days, lots of jokes to get through. Some days are harder than others, as we all know. I'm so proud of you for saying you were going through grief bit by bit, just like your decluttering! Yes! Excellent! Keep going, you are so loved and appreciated. ❤️

[@futabulousco.3881]

I am so sorry for your losses. I totally can sympathize with what you are going through. It is so hard to keep going but you are making progress. You are also inspiring others to clean and organize their homes too.

[@midnytemelody7822]

No-one is ever as interested in everything you do as your mother, or as proud of you. ❤ 🫂 ❤

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

I am so sorry for your recent losses. I am approaching a year on the loss of a beloved Beagle. You are inspiring others with your perseverance. I am observing your strength and success. Thank you. I wish you comfort and peace as you build a new world and routine.

[@mrsdscraftdesk]

Reuse the tissue paper to keep your decor safe in the box. You’re a sweetheart with so many genuine words of wisdom. Perfection is overrated and boring. And I agree with you about new year resolutions- don’t need to add more stress on purpose!

[@johnnatopper6063]

I've been praying for you. You can do this, you'll look back on this once it's all cleaned and organized. Clear bins are my go too. Your such a wonderful person

[@hannahsampson4835]

I’ve always been told that crying is healing and while I’m sure that’s true I also believe that having those small happy moments (like when your puppy shows you love) in between the tears helps the most

[@annamariabo8963]

You got so much done in this video! That was nothing but a hill, you conquered mountains before. It didn't have a chance.

[@JenniferBack-d2s]

You are my hero!!!! I was so happy to find your videos! I suffer from major depression and am unable to complete other videos, You inspire me to do a little at a time, no push for perfection just do what I can do to make progress. Prayers for comfort in your grieving process.

[@malanegallagher2219]

Oh Mira, I am so sorry for your losses. Grief does ebb and flow and you will move through it and one day feel better. Don’t be too hard on yourself for letting some things pile up. Life happens, people get busy, you are grieving. Be kind to yourself. Thanks so much for sharing your journey. You really are inspiring to so many people.

[@judyfarmer2962]

Mira, I have loved watching your videos. Your dogs are precious. I’m sorry you were so depressed in this video. You had reasons to be depressed. Things will come together in its own time. Take care and get some rest.

[@mixmix3499]

Give yourself grace. You are going through a lot. Just getting up can be a chore, but here you are doing it. You deserve all.good things that come to you

[@cyndyfabian7555]

Hi Mira. Grannie Cyndy from South Australia here. 72yo brand new subscriber who has battled similar things for the last 30 yrs or so. I would improve things but then slip back every time. Shame was a huge factor for me. I would do anything to avoid anyone coming inside my house. Finally I am getting there and now I'm down to the unseen areas. Only yesterday I emptied a tv unit. I couldn't believe that I had VHS tapes and lots of audio tapes in there. They are now gone and I have new available storage space. Win win! Keep it up, Mira. Thankyou so much for your honesty. 😚

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thanks for subscribing! Sounds like you are doing great! Grateful that you're sharing.

[@jackew.inindiana7421]

You're doing great! I watch Marissa Peers who talks extensively on self love. You are so much more than the things you collect. Hugs❤

[@lynnhendley8910]

Prayers going up for your loss. Please take care of yourself. Give yourself grace. Take your time. Grief is not easy to deal with. 😢❤

[@johnwolfe2616]

Sue Wolfe- I'm so sorry for your suffering, Mira. I use clear plastic containers with a piece of packing tape on the side and top to write the contents on. I don't use cardboard as they attract bugs because of the glue. Mira, remember that you are a worthy person. You deserve to live in a nice, clean environment, free of the things that hold you back. As you move ahead and clear and clean each space, please remind yourself that you deserve to live in a safe place. This is so important to how you feel about yourself! You are so worthy and deserving of it. Don't let bad thoughts convince you otherwise!! Keep on with the good work! Here for you and cheering for you! 👏👋👍💪♥️♥️

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you for this lovely, encouraging comment. I appreciate it so much!

[@monicadziuk5635]

Yes to the clear containers with labels! I think Mira is a butterfly (from Clutterbug). So am I! Clear containers are the way to go.

[@patriciagluscic6816]

I just love You ❤

[@SharaLee60]

Mira, I'm so sorry you're still feeling bad. I understand it's hard, especially losing your Mom & your beloved doggie close together! I loss my parents within a 1yr of each other & I think there was an animal too. It was very hard for me then for a while. This has been several years ago. I just keep going & the help of my husband & family & friends I got through it. I still think of them every so often, & I have a good cry, then I go on. Maybe make a journal for your Mom & doggie. I know you're a crafter. That would be so neat! I love making Junk Journals. Also put each category like DVD's, you're collectibles, your clothes, papers to look at in a box & Write on all sides & top what's inside. You deserve to be in a nice clean environment & not let things hold you back. You're doing great! Just keep at it. Maybe set a daily goal to do 1 thing or more. You keep it going. Thanks for sharing! ♥️☺️🫂🐾🍄🦉✨️

[@JESUSiscomingSOON247]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're such a beautiful woman inside and out. I can feel your kindness through your voice. God bless and protect you 🙏🏼 prayers. Keep looking up, JESUS is coming 💪🏼🙌🏼❤️

[@brendajackson2651]

Grief can take over every aspect of your life and rightfully so. I find that focusing a small amount of time at the beginning of each day on what I’m grateful for helps my day be a bit more positive. A gratitude journal might help with that. You’re the best Miracles.

[@lindaburton4206]

So sorry for your loss. We all have our demons to deal with. You are not alone. You inspire me to clear out things I no longer use or need. God bless and keep you. May he give you comfort and strength to get thru

[@sheilagaleano365]

Mira, thank you SO MUCH for sharing your ups, your downs, your grief, your vulnerability, humor, thoughts, progress, "set-backs".... can we call them side steps instead ? : ))) Hugs and love from me and tens of thousands around the world. I LOVE watching your videos. They are like a visit with a good friend : ) Please don't apologize for filming angles, etc. NO ONE cares about any of that. They care about YOU!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

I love calling them side steps, LOL. Thank you so much for this comment. It is beautiful!

[@lozzy8821]

Maintenance cleans are so important, you are strong 💪 don't doubt yourself 😊

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Aw, thank you!

[@libbyecheverria730]

What a transformation! It looks so much better! I'm really amazed at your determination and persistence during a time of so much pain. Grief is one of those things that you simply have to walk through and feel, as awful as it is, it's the only way. And you're right, it's roughly the same size as our love - except love never ends, and grief eventually does. Hang in there. You are valued.

[@mama_p_nz8233]

Love, thoughts and prayers coming your way, as you say in your voice over, You are Loved, you are Amazing, we are all here for you.❤

[@coastalnana2766]

Good job tackling the living room even though you didn't feel like it. I'm sorry that you are suffering so much. My suggestion is work on closets next now that you have some clear space in the living room to sort. It will be much easier to stay organized and tidy when you have usable storage spaces. Keep your chin up!!

[@NoFairyPrincess]

I’m so sorry to hear you’re so sad… 😔 But on a positive note: you’re doing great! You’re still able to laugh at yourself for doing silly stuff and you’re CLEANING UP! So proud of you! Lots of love from The Netherlands! ❤

[@jennifershaw9323]

I understand your grief and the 10%. I am at 10% with you after losing my husband 3 years ago. I am still at 10%. I am trying and you are motivating! I am sorry about your Mom and Cupid! Grief is real. Be kind and gentle to you. Hugs Mira!!!

[@cynthiaschambers5403]

My heart really goes out to you. I truly feel your pain. I lost my son in-law, my mom, and my granddaughter all in 5 years. Just know we are all here for you. ❤ I myself like clear storage because if you don't get it labeled right away you can see what's in the container.

[@ellenfields-sischka7441]

My mom used to say socks are the larval form of hangers 😅 It's good to cry as you need to grieve. It's so nice to see your honesty, openness and vulnerability - you are so special. Also I've learned in my life that no one can tell another how long they "should" grieve. You'll grieve as long as you need to - don't let anyone tell you differently.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

What a lovely comment. Thank you so much!

[@cat-mum-Jules]

I agree 100%

[@Magdalena-ch5ep]

Mira, you’ve said it’s not perfect, it’s perfect for you at this moment of your life, and that’s all that matters. You’re doing amazing! I’m so impressed how well you’re doing despite this extremely hard time. I’m so sorry for your losses, I feel for you. ❤ But I’m also impressed by your self awareness and doing what’s right for you at this exact moment. You are a very wise woman! Every little step counts; progress not perfection. All the best for you ❤

[@madzabinga8382]

Oh gosh, you have really been through it. I am so sorry you lost your Mom and Cupid. How awful. Proud of you for getting up, getting dressed, and moving.

[@sallygombita]

Honestly, that's half the battle! It will get easier as time goes on.

[@marystrenke3050]

We love you!!! My close friend was widowed this year -- seeing how grief has engulfed her😢 my other friend had 2 years of profound shock and sorrow after losing her ex-husband (unresolved trauma) I am so glad you have Clay❤

[@ashleysnedegar3268]

Keep the blue confetti. I am a minimalist but I have a diaper bag and no kids. Long story- I was a foster parent and used this diaper bag with all my kids. It's not special nor that pretty but some how my heart connects that diaper bag with my kids and I can not let it go. It's the memory that the bag holds. Throwing it on the ground to run to a playground or cleaning out gold for the 100th time out of it. Keep the confetti you need to feel safe and have memories to help you through your grief. You need time and love. Also about the pants I use to think hey I'm a minimalist I can't buy anything or I can't be a minimalist nope wrong. I buy things. Things break. They make some pretty I've never seen before. Oh I finally find clothes that fit yep I'm buying... you are doing amazing. Please keep living and laughing and loving. You will feel better a little at a time. ❤ You are making a change. The pile is smaller. You are using the bin. It's less bottles. You are working on the piles faster than before. You are not starting from the beginning you have some experience now. You want to feel his company and its ok. ❤❤❤❤ I would wrap up the Christmas decor in bubble wrap in a labeled box, even an Amazon box will work. I would put it in the space bedroom yes even if it's on a pile until you are able to work in that room.

[@joyindrelie6715]

To your comment about thinking you're disappointing people about purchases--I just listened to a great podcast (Flusterclux) that talked about how when we try too hard to avoid disappointing people we eventually get to a place where we are being dishonest. Thank you for modeling authenticity, it's refreshing! It's so wise to allow yourself to grieve, decluttering anything that feels obvious is great content, and we are so grateful for you for letting us be part of your journey!

[@ritatharp5238]

Mira, when you have known great love, like you have, you have a responsibility to pass that love on because love and memories never die. I want that on my gravestone. Seriously.

[@AprilJohnson34]

oh I am sorry to hear about your mom. Especially after Cupid went to doggie heaven (to play with my dog Lizzy). You did great cleaning up the living room. The clutter is no longer controlling you... you have proven that you are in charge and slowly each day by being good to yourself, you are making progress. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way Mira!

[@rmf4]

I find taking items out of the cardboard boxes makes the area look neater. Then put the cardboard out for recycling. This will help with the visual clutter.

[@chinitamar7430]

Very emotional vid, but I’m glad you had the motivation to clean 🙂 it’s a sprint not a marathon and even if u just threw one water bottle away, you already did something 😊😊 Give yourself grace, how you said specially in this time of grieve. So sorry to hear your mom and Cupid passed 😢

[@LynsAlteredArts]

I’ve gotten rid of the majority of Christmas and other decorations over the years. I have some plastic drawers in the closet of my spare room and that’s now where my decorations live. I think it’s a lot easier to pull out a drawer than to carry a box around, although I do pull out the drawer of ornaments and I carry it to the living room to put them on the tree, but then I just slide the drawer back in. You’re doing great, re-decluttering is a constant thing. I’ve been decluttering for years and there’s always more. I took two boxes and a bag to the thrift store today and I don’t know where it comes from, I think it just multiplies in the dark when we’re not looking. One goal that’s kept me on the straight and narrow is nothing on the floor except furniture legs and trash cans. It makes it so much easier to clean. Also remember what you said about your mother watching your videos and telling you that you were an inspiration. Keep that in mind.

[@ArtfulRe]

I find your whole thing very encouraging and am rooting for you. Not gonna preach minimalism to you, but wanted to say it's been the best thing for dealing with my own ADHD. You don't have to get minimal, but the less there is to manage, the easier everything is to do. Less laundry, less dusting, less doing dishes, and more time for cuddling cute puppies 😊. Slow down when you need to, but keep going. You're doing great and I want you to remember that even at the start of this video, your living room still looks way better than a few months ago. You got this

[@kimibrown1578]

I’m sorry for the losses. Your explanation of grief totally makes sense. I’ve heard two things that have stuck with me about grief. I’m not good with words so bear with me. Grief is love with no place to go. Grief can be like a big black circle ⚫️ inside a square around the same size. The ball is moving and hitting the sides of the square almost constantly for a while. As time moves on, the ball gets a little smaller so the ball doesn’t hit the sides of the wall as often. As time goes by, the grief doesn’t necessarily go away, but the ball gets smaller and doesn’t hit the sides of the square as often anymore and is moving more slowly as time goes by. The love is still there…big grief is because you have such big love. 💗

[@uhohlilbit09]

De-cluttering does not mean you don’t get to buy and enjoy new things. You are graciously sharing your life with us and don’t need to feel pressured in anyway. You’re buying with a purpose (even if it’s just because you like it) and you DESERVE to. We are here with you

[@poppywillow]

Sending love and hugs your way 💕💕💕 You’re doing amazing! And you’re so self aware now and that’s how to make progress. 💕💕

[@janeorr3074]

Shelf decor: no reason not to leave it out a little longer. Consider using one of the Amazon boxes: seal it up label Christmas, and put in the Craft room or laundry room, for another time. Best wishes! Glad 10% is working for you. Good to acknowledge grief, always hard.

[@vb5662]

You freed some energy airflow and your floors are shiny. 🤗 Great job.

[@gh-terri5707]

Progress over perfection. 💖💖💖

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

So true!

[@susanlaughlin2081]

Grieving is both normal and unpredictable. Getting back to your declutter and taking the time to re-declutter the living room is a great step. That way you will regain the sense of accomplishment that you did when you first saw your beautiful living room. Cupid would be proud that you are clearing the floor that he was able to enjoy running around on! You are a very special woman who has taken on a project that many people can't. Congratulations and Happy New Year!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you so much!

[@dogmothercoffeelover]

Mira, the fact that you experienced two great tragedies in such a short time, and still have managed to continue peeling away clutter, and also take the time to record it and edit and upload to KZbin?!? That is no small feat. I’m honestly very impressed by you! Those people who leave judgemental comments are beyond ignorant. The vast majority of us are not let down by you I promise. We are impressed and inspired by your strength! Keep it up girl ❤️

[@ellenfields-sischka7441]

You're doing great. The holidays are such a hard time when you add grief to it all. I'm so sorry.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Thank you!

[@momof2momof2]

You really are doing a great job. I am very sorry for your loss. I have several family members who have passed over the last 7 years. It's hard, some days its very hard, but keep moving forward and upward. 😀❄☃💗

[@aliceewrwr9484]

I have a saying I tell myself often. "Perfect? No. Better? Yes." You made your space better and that's great. Some days, you just breathe, and try again tomorrow. Grief sucks.

[@sissilia449]

I'm so sorry for your loss Mira. I lost my sweet beagle Lucy this year and like you feel that void so intensely. When I lost my mum I felt like the bedrock of my life was removed suddenly. Both of these losses left me frozen, unable to move at times. To have both of these things happen so closely together would be have been devastating so I can only imagine your grief. So if you want to keep some confetti, then keep it. I'm in the process of decluttering too. Sometimes even tackling one area seems overwhelming so I've broken it down further. My mantra is "just do that..." it might be just folding up a box, or taking out some garbage, but it has taken the pressure off dealing with entire areas. It might also be a good time to take stock of your storage, look at the items you plan to keep and visualize where they will live. For example your craft room. It will need probably need wall to wall shelving before you can really organize it. Stay well Mira and be kind to yourself x

[@wendyeskelin8765]

I'm glad that these voice overs are bringing things to light for you, which is so therapeutic.

[@kerry0411]

Lovely Mira - your videos give me so much joy. Grief is truly debilitating and I cant believe how amazingly you are doing. Youve cleaned, tidied, made a video, done voiceovers, made decisions, hell... you got up and got dressed. I found any and all of those things too much when my grief was at its peak. You're a marvel. Maybe not perfect, but you are a marvel. If it helps, i keep our christmas decorations in a clear tub. We keep them in the garage because it's 1 box and we only need them once a year. I hope that you are able to always treat yourself with great kindness - you so deserve it. So much love from Brighton in the UK. Kerry xx

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

You are so kind. Thank you!

[@sarab1076]

So happy to see you continuing on even when it is hard. You are doing so well on your journey and you should be so proud of yourself for where you are at and giving yourself grace during this time. I use plastic bins and label them for seasonal decor, but a box works great too - just make sure you label it well. Hoping for brighter days ahead.

[@Moonlight-nq4wy]

🛍️👍It is TOTALLY OK to purchase new things when you need them! The unused/ unneeded things are what needs to go. Even extreme minimalists need new things sometimes. It takes time for new habits to set. You're doing great! 👍💟🐾🦋🐕

[@RadCenter]

Tidying is an act of self-care. It's a gift you give to your future self. When I know I will be facing an especially hard day, I will make sure my bed is made so when I get home I will have a calm space to retreat to. Clutter amplifies every negative emotion, making me feel sad, angry, and hopeless. My living room right now is literally making me sick. I've been tackling it for a few minutes every day. I'm starting to be able to walk into it without clenching my abdominal muscles from stress. Here's to my future self-and yours!

[@dregeminin1]

My ♥️ is with you. It’s ok to go at your own pace.

[@roxanes43]

Grief brain is for real. Be patient and kind with yourself. You've made such an impact on so many people, including me. Wishing you peace and comfort in your warm memories 🙏🐾

[@dirtbagdeacon]

I am seriously impressed that you have continued to declutter during your grief. Particularly loss of a dog and a parent! That's enormous. Hang in there. I have kept the small boxes for knickknack type stuff in the past, especially when I was moving a lot, but since I am not going to be moving anytime soon, I have gotten rid of most of them. If you still have the ones for your knickknacks, hopefully you can store them that way. I also used to keep more gift bags and tissue paper, but my closet had become such a mess I couldn't store things the way I wanted to, so I did a big purge. I didn't get rid of all of it, but the stuff that was torn or battered got tossed, and it made a huge improvement. I don't know if any of this advice helps, I hope it does.

[@TiffaniNikiforos]

At the time I watched this video there were 5,847 views. When you picture that hallway with all the scary doors and overwhelming grief. Maybe consider an idea that what is really behind each of those doors is a wonderful memory. That memory may stir grief and feelings of loss. But what you might not have seen is for every door you see there is at least one of us viewers who is waiting in that room and would hold your hand and be with you through it. As of this moment 5,847 of us have proven that to be true. We are with you. And I encourage you to be pleasantly persistent and full of grace for yourself and the goals you set. Flowers bloom by digging thru a little dirt with their roots and taking time to soak in the sunshine. 🌸🌸🌸

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

What an absolutely beautiful comment. Thank you so much, really. I am truly grateful.

[@melaniebalzer7806]

Hey Mira, I can relate to a lot. Decluttering while grieving is way more hard. Also I tend to buy more. - Yess, let´s face my natural or the bad habbits I devoloped over decades. Stressful times will trigger me and will lead me to get back in old habbits. Getting back in my "comfort zone". But also I can relate to something else - facing decades of old stuff and decluttering also is showing me, that I have changed. And it is in my opinion good and right to get new stuff. Changing my surrounding and environment to less clutter is not against changing it to my actual beeing and what is suiting my interest at this moment. 2024 word: Control I can control the effort I am spending in making steps into the future I am looking for. I can control the way I rewire my thinkings to create new confidence, new habbits, new routines, new self love etc. etc. Quarter 1 in 2024 will be: get prepared for the bad times and the unforeseen Make myself a list with stuff I like and will help me to get some stress outlet without getting in bad old habbits. Make myself a list of reminders aka write myself notes of good things which happened, stuff which I accomplished, stuff I am dreaming of, to get out of negativ talk and thought spirals. Finishing old projects and tasks which almost are finished, but I fell of the wagon. So getting the last 2-5% which are missing finished, so I can have it from my shoulders and don´t need to think about it again. Giving myself enough grace, when there is a downtime. I can use that time for important stuff which means: My body + my soul are needing rest to process the past, grief and heal - that is important work which needs to get done. Reflecting and beeing mindful with the way I will appreciate that "inner stuff" which also needs to get done, will be a big portion of "new learning" and "new expierences" and I will give it a high priority in 2024. - Nightmares, triggers, anxiety, good + bad emotions, tears, sweat.... your welcome, I am here for you waiting with open arms. You are a blessing for so many people Mira. Keep up talking about everything you are thinking about. It´s going to help thousands and thousands of your followers.

[@talesfromthenuttery]

Clay is such a good boy. ☺I recently realized (also in the grief process) that I need to see my things, or I can't find them again. All my storage bins are clear now. It helps me so much because things aren't hidden anymore. I use them especially for crafting materials and for holiday decor. The clear containers stand out more than the previous boxes I used. This may help you! Thinking of you and inspired by all you have accomplished! 🙏💖

[@rebeccaplasters2964]

I like that you circled back around to the living room. Keeping up the rooms that have been decluttered was my priority. For quite a while, I just re-visited by kitchen, living, and dining room because I didn’t have the motivation to go further. It was so nice to always have those rooms tidy even when I couldn’t emotionally do more. For you, that would be your living room, kitchen, and bathroom. To simply (not simply)maintain those 3 rooms would be a great gift to yourself. Even if you can’t go further in other areas. You’re right that the journey isn’t straight forward. Keep peeling away 😊

[@karenrogers3685]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I understand you keeping the blue crape paper. I had the opposite reaction after losing both of my parents. They died within a year of eack other and I had to clean out the house they had built and had for 57 years. Neither sister could help. After working in their house for hours each day, I wanted to go to my house and just burn it all. It's just STUFF. No matter how much we keep, it won't bring them back. Some things are very sentimental, so yes I kept some. After wickedness is taken off this earth, I most definetly look forward to welcoming them back when they are resurected. For now knowing I have cleaned and am taking care of our house is helping me deal with missing them.

[@susanbrowning5325]

You mentioned in a previous video that your mom was proud of you and told you that you’re inspiring others. She was correct. You’re not only helping yourself, inspiring others but honoring your mom by not giving up. Grief is so hard! Cry all you need to. I lost my mom in 2010, still have a grief wave some days. I’m proud of you Mira! ❤

[@ashleycaldereous5339]

I am soooo proud of you continuing to declutter even through grief. Losing loved ones is terrible and derailing for anyone. It shows how strong you are that you are continuing on and not giving up. For the decorations, it is okay to have a few off-season boxes of decor - just make sure those boxes are labeled and only for those decor items (no sneaky water bottles ;). I'd put the labeled boxes in a corner until you can put them in a closet or garage (do you have a garage?). It's great seeing you go through the living room again. The "what's it's purpose" and "where will it go" guidelines are fantastic! The living room looks so much better (not mountainous). You are doing a great job!

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Those water bottles, always trying to sneak where they don't belong. I don't have a garage, but I can definitely stash the off-season decor somewhere. Thanks for the suggestion,

[@angelharmon2465]

I applaud ur self awareness Proud of u keeping going ❤

[@dawnpakstas4650]

Mira, you are an inspiration 🩷🇨🇦

[@Queenjuile]

I’m so sorry for your loss sending prayers ❤

[@CammyHell]

I store breakables in paper towels or tissue paper - whatever I have on hand. I don’t keep the boxes because they take up so much space. Your mom is with your dad now; maybe you can rest in that for Peace? Also picture Cupid having ran to her when she showed up ❤

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

It is a real comfort to picture Mom and Dad together. Each is with their favorite person. In fact, tonight is their usual date night. Thanks so much for your comment.

[@angieh18bart]

You're doing a great job Mira! I really like your jeans!!

[@DonnaO3184]

Mira you are in a place right now,that you have to give yourself grace. Going back & doing a reset of your living room was a fantastic idea. Before you tackle a project, a touch up makes you see accomplishment. Even if it's trash & recycling. Take one day at a time & give Clay all the love you can.

[@joyindrelie6715]

I think your Victorian child ghost shirt is funny :). They say humor is the opposite of anxiety!

[@kathyaakananabluebird]

Glad you are able to hear that 10 percent of your heart that says don't give up. HUGS I lost my mom a few years ago and our lovely cat a year ago He was age 17. Don't give up on your goal. The grief does get easier, milder.

[@ruthiler4151]

I put all my Christmas decor in a clear bin.

[@victoriachristian4379]

Your 10% energy produced a LOT! Sending you love!

[@mariannedressler6784]

Mira, I can feel your sadness 😢I like to keep seasonal decors in clear totes. One day at a time sweet lady. ❤

[@bridgethester8235]

I am so sorry for your losses!

[@Karen-uo3ep]

My sincere condolences 💐

[@kathymusgrove8518]

When I go through things I have a box cutter or scissors to flatten out boxes, a bag for trash, and a couple other things such as clothes baskets to sort into piles as I go. For example a basket for different rooms. I attempt to touch it once. I also have a tub with a lid to store decorations I am not currently using. I like the colored tubs because colors can mean different things. I also took a couple drawers and set up tissues paper and sacks to use for gifts . That has been a life saver. I don’t do wrapping paper as it takes up a lot of room, paper sacks are easier. I get either white or brown paper sacks from Joann’s or Michael’s and they can be used for any gift you need them to. I also use a robot vacuum each day. I still need to vacuum with a hand held one once a week but the robot vacuum is great. Mine is a shark brand. I have clutter too. Before the robot vacuum could run in my bedroom I had to pick up a few things off the floor. I was pretty ruthless with my clothes and came to realize that I really was only using 10-20% of my clothing. I got rid of everything with a stain, did not currently fit, and if I had not worn it in six months. I was surprised with that process. I did go through the clothes three times and it took me six months roughly to get to that end. You are on the way to a happier home. Less crap means less to clean. Best lesson I’ve learned so far. Take care!

[@kdk38]

Mira - you are so vulnerable and real, and so dang brave. I take strength from your strength. And you are strong, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t hurt. It makes sense that the grief is still hitting you but I am in awe of the work that you are doing to move forward. That doesn't mean that you are forgetting Cupid or your mom, but you are honoring them by living your life. You go girl!

[@dtimes2wa]

I am so so sorry for your losses. I lost my mom a little over 2 years ago. I understand. It took me awhile to get back on track and take care of myself. I say to take it day by day or hour by hour. Maybe you are just trying to maintain what you have done for awhile. Try putting up a sticky on your fridge, bathroom mirror and the inside of the outdoor door you use with a positive affirmation about yourself. It will help you as keep reading it. It will help you to believe in yourself. The New Year’s resolution I do each year is to do things which bring me joy. Even though the decluttering may not be the funnest, the outcome will bring you joy and you are creating a community to rally for and with you. Best wishes for a better and blessed 2024z

[@christineepiphany]

KZbin always has trolls. We keep spraying, but just can't get rid of them! 😆 You're doing good 👍

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

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[@gluey27]

Mira my New Year’s resolution this year was not to not to be so hard on myself. I am not perfect and sometimes I just stay in bed and cry, things will bet done when they do. You are in my thoughts daily don’t be so hard on yourself you are Amazing!

[@hanna7644]

I noticed your jeans right away, love them! Hugs to you in your time of grief. Maintenance of your LR, kitchen and bathroom is a way to celebrate your progress - declutting can come later....

[@bonnielovestuxedos7929]

I lost my sweet Pazie today, my 15 year old beautiful Tuxedo kitty. He was my Buddy Cat. I share your sadness and grief. Keeping going, Mira, at whatever pace feels right.💕

[@lindagarner1320]

I inherited my Dad's tuxedo cat when he died 3 and a half years ago. He helped me get through the death of my Mom a year after that. It was hard when Bubba died several months ago. So sorry for the loss of your precious kitty.💔

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

@bonnielovestuxedos7929 I am so sorry for your loss. Although 15 years is a long time, the great love we have insists that there will never be enough time. The love is eternal. It is mutual. I wish you comfort and peace.

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

Oh no! I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.

[@trishb6895]

Those jeans are very flattering You sound very lonely and isolated. Please reach out to your support system daily. A five min chat on the phone can work wonders. When you fill up a garbage bag bring it out side to the trash. Don’t let several build up. I think the instant win of seeing a bag gone can motivate you or make you feel accomplished. The empty boxes need to go out. Your livingroom isn’t a dumpster so try to think about it as a living space. You are coming along beautifully. Keep up with that trash above all. The other items can go in good time. Getting outside to run even the smallest errands can be so beneficial for a change of scenery. Also being real about your grief is good. I think you feel the sadness over Cupid so strongly because he was your fur child. Please reach be out to loved ones and allow company to come over.

[@alicehooten1513]

My husband died in 2021 and it’s true you will get through it. I had my sister with me for the first month or so. She kept my house running while I cried and slept. You are doing it correctly, working on it as you can it will keep your mind occupied while doing it. I’d suggest clear plastic containers instead of boxes. Buy a couple as you can afford it. Don’t need to buy all at one time. Then put like things in them and label them. Much easier than boxes. I learned you have to be kind to yourself, not be hard on yourself at times like this. You will get there stay strong

[@camrygirl84]

Sending you a big hug and prayers. ❤

[@brigittamrs3805]

God bless you dear Mira❤

[@0497311]

❤ alles braucht seine Zeit. Auch die Trauer. ❤ Zum Verstauen z.B. von Weihnachtsdekor nutze ich klare Boxen und Ziplock-Beutel. So habe ich alles sicher und sortiert. Herzliche Grüße Gaby aus Deutschland 😊

[@PeelingAwaytheClutter]

You're so kind, Gaby. Thanks for commenting!

[@daniellebcraftingcorner]

Since you are a visual organizer I think you should get a clear bin for the decor. I'd say put it in a space you haven't worked on yet so you can come back to it when you have more storage options. I'm so proud of you for tackling the living room despite how hard it is for you right now. Always always progress over perfection and look how far you've progressed.

[@prettycubby4764]

Regarding doing only small amounts of work: I have long gotten a lot of satifaction over small accomplishments, for better or worse. Some people think I'm lazy. My father however said that a little progress is still progress. He is dearly missed by my family

[@lindalorton4334]

Grief is the price we pay for love! How very sad it is to lose our parents but something we all share together as no one lives forever! All of us that have lost our parents and a beloved pet understands your pain and loss! It's absolutely crushing but you can make it! Lean on your friends and family and all of your YT family who love and support you! Honor both your Mom and Cupid by making your home a warm and cozy safe haven where you can relax and enjoy your hobbies in a clean and clutter free space. You are already doing a fabulous job and I know 2024 will bring you blessings! You are strong and brave! You Go Girl!❤

[@Anberel]

I’ve really struggled since becoming disabled. I used to be so on top of things. My new motto is “progress, not perfection .” The book How to Keep House While Drowning literally changed my life. It taught me to focus on function rather than appearance. If my kitchen doesn’t function it needs work. If my kitchen is functional but not spotless I can give myself a pass.

[@Conval-wi5eh]

I am so sorry. I am still in my twenties, no kids yet, I live in an apartment and I am very fit, but maintaining requires so much time and energy nevertheless. If you want to have clean and tidy surfaces and a tidy kitchen at the end of the day it really is a lot of work and it is just not doable in times when you world is falling apart.

[@marciapickens7444]

I usually don't make resolutions either, they never work. This year I made two. I want to work at being healthier, & declutter my house. They're both doable, & by next year I'll be able to see a big difference! I'm trying to remember to take pictures ( I'm horrible at it)! 😂

[@kristalpower292]

While I’m decluttering I use old boxes to store like items that I know will go together. I have a place I stack them in the mean time. As I’ve had money I’ve brought the storage boxes I want store them in when they get to their home. I make sure I label it and try and keep shoved in a box to sort later boxes seperate from this waiting for its home box. So yes at times I have lots of boxes stacked in a room but I know when I get to that area I will be able to put it away. Seeing the stacked boxes can motivate me to quickly move to the next section.

[@barbaraharris9369]

Sending you Love ❤

[@pennysaufley8974]

You are doing so well. After each time my parents died, I couldn’t do anything but go to work for month. Barely even paid bills. It’s ok. But I’m SO glad that you are developing those habits. I think clutter is like alcohol or over eating (that’s me, btw), it feels good in the short term but long term it hurts. Having that bowl of ice cream (me) or swimming in water bottles, may help for a moment, but doesn’t do anything with our feelings and only prolongs the agony. Crying with you.