people that had a worse summer than you - REACTION

[@Aimes604]

I’m a nurse in BC and if I had a patient like the first story I NEVER would have sent her home. She was obviously septic. The malpractice in this story is so insane. Women have such a hard time getting people to listen to them when they’re sick. We women in healthcare need to look out for each other.

[@Aimes604]

@@allenbanks9034 nurses have to be “gatekeepers” when doctors make the wrong decisions. It’s part of our job and licensing. Not sure gatekeeping is the right word lol. It’s responsible practice.

[@shasvrefirios1536]

Sadly while the malpractice in this story is so insane, it is not so rare. :(

[@shasvrefirios1536]

We are so unlucky, unlike men who has all their medical problems addressed quickly and with no malpractice. You can tell because their deaths due to things like cancer are so much lower than ours.. Oh wait....

[@mer_claire]

​@@Aimes604What made those "tunnels" form? I was so in shock by this story...

[@Aimes604]

@@shasvrefirios1536you obviously don’t work in health care

[@maureennolan816]

I’m in the states. I felt that first story in my soul. I kept complaining about stomach pain. Was told it was flu, food poisoning blah blah blah. Turns out out I had a tumor on my pancreas and duodenum that was cancer. Healthcare all over needs a freaking revamp. Nobody should be made to feel crazy. We know our bodies better than anyone!!!!

[@PaperMario64]

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that.

[@j3ttagrl420]

yes! it needs to get better. i always find it to be a miracle when I actually get nurses/doctors who actually listen and try to help me - you know, their job!! but seriously, I send all my love to healthcare workers like that. and I am so sorry you went through that. 😢 i hope you're doing a lot better now. 💕

[@martina21953]

Pancreatic cancer is hard to detect. It doesn't show up until it's in your liver and then it's too late. My good friend's husband died from it. Gallbladder cancer is the same way. My dad died from it.

[@d4ever649]

Indeed. They can’t ever seem to diagnose stuff unless you push and push for it.

[@annabelmiller8]

Curre try in the middle of it but I advocate now! I push and call and follow up. BE ANNOYING. They won't say no, they'll fit you in to get you to shush then find out you were right. And you'll get a nice hefty check for malpractice 😊😊

[@susanmichelle3292]

As a RN, I can tell you that a study found that on average, you get 11 *seconds* before a doctor interrupts you. I have first hand experience of a Cardiologist who dismissed me when I said "I KNOW I have an arrhythmia." Two days later, I pass out at work, and had to get emergently cardioverted and had a cardiac ablation the next day. As an ER RN, I always ask people to tell me their whole story, not to be annoying and have you tell it again for what feels like the millionth time, but bc I want to make sure that I get the whole scenario, so I can advocate for you! I hate that healthcare everywhere sucks and finding somebody who will listen feels nearly impossible.

[@teensy88]

You sound like an amazing nurse ❤

[@foxbuns]

one of the good ones 💗

[@yazzie208]

Thank you for this! My neurologist is exactly like that. When I first went in, I rushed telling my medical history out of force of habit and was shocked to be interrupted by her saying (in the sweetest voice) "Woaah, slow down there. Tell me right from the beginning, I wanna know everything". She really took her time and listened closely. That's rare.

[@norawade8127]

Sounds like the cardiologist I dealt with a few years ago. He told me the very first visit he was looking for patients to try out an implanted heart monitor and refused to do any other testing until I agreed. The admin for the hospital he was associated with backed him. I never went back to him OR that hospital. He ended up in a huge malpractice suit recently because of said implanted heart monitors. Don't just trust doctors will have your best interest in mind. They don't.

[@jessicaszpila760]

I am currently having a similar issue. It took 15 years and a random chance visit to my primary doctor for them to catch an issue on an ekg. Sent to the cardiologist who thankfully listened and was surprised I could distinguish my racing heart rate from hypoglycemia and an afib event. Wore the holter monitor for only 24 hours didn't catch anything of course but did see my heart rate stayed in the 120s - 130s even while alseep( i am heavily medicated to sleep nc severe insomnia that nobody will even look into). Dx with SVT, and given metoprolol to help keep my heart rate down. Even though a normal blood pressure for me is approximately 90/54 and told to just eat more salt to keep my BP up. This past year thankfully to my google watch I have been able to catch and record multiple episodes of afib that I will be bringing to my next appointment...assuming I survive the summer heat without incident.

[@BigWired]

That first story is horrifying and also sadly normal for women who have concerns about their health. She could have died, but hey, she was just being 'dramatic.'

[@caljones]

It isn’t any better when you’re fat

[@studyjam8725]

@ForgiveZharionhey just to let you know, this is not an appropriate comment to beg for subscribers on

[@srideout91]

@ForgiveZharion KZbin etiquette 101 never go into other peoples comments, sections to promote your own channel or beg for subscribers. It’s unprofessional and tacky. It’s also a way to lose subscribers. You’re lucky she is a very kind individual. Because some KZbinrs wouldn’t have taken that crap and would’ve sent their subscribers to troll your comment section or downvote your videos or report your videos. Just be careful who you do it to because the next time you may find yourself not being able to have access the comments, sections of your favorite KZbinrs because they are tired of your begging. Take that into consideration.

[@heatherglenfield9554]

This isn't the platform for begging.@ForgiveZharion

[@bigirish7349]

@ForgiveZharionyou have no videos?!

[@icarusbinns3156]

That first story is horrifyingly common. My wife was told “You have diabetes.” And nothing more. No advice on treatment, no referral to an endocrinologist, not told what Type she has… nothing. She figures, “It’s gotta be Type 2. We’re both 30, I am overweight, so it must be Type 2.” I have Type 1, by the way. Changes her diet, starts exercising more. A few months later, she says she’s not feeling great while staying with her family in another state. I tell her, “Get to the hospital.” She says she’ll go in the morning. NOPE! I call her grandmother to get her to go. As she’s checking in, a nurse asks her, “How long have you not been taking your insulin? This could kill you!” Turns out… she has Adult Onset Type 1 diabetes. It’s not common, just like it’s not common to be born with the condition (which I was). The first doctor is facing a malpractice lawsuit.

[@Rae777]

Holy moly. as I’ve said multiple times while reading this comment section, how the hell does that even happen? You already know that T1D needs different care from Type 2! It would’ve been negligent regardless of diagnosis, but my goodness.

[@icarusbinns3156]

@@Rae777 we’re pretty sure the doctor simply didn’t care. We now see the same endocrinologist, and my wife is doing much better. Actually getting the insulin she needs and recognizing sugar swings

[@Rae777]

@@icarusbinns3156 I’m so sorry she went through that and I’m glad you’re both receiving good care now. There’s so many facets to managing T1D. I’m so glad you encouraged her to go to the hospital before she faced a severe high or low. Ugh, how scary. That first doctor needs major consequences and I hope the malpractice lawsuit does that.

[@lookslikeanangel]

I feel like this was my family doctor. He lost his license for no follow-up after diagnosing patients.

[@MaryMorningstar7]

My sister had gallbladder stones once, she was in the ER crying her eyes out because of the pain and the doctor just said that it was psychological and she was just being emotional. HE SAID AND I QUOTE "I really don't understand why you're crying, stop being histerical"

[@PenelopeHighet]

The first story is so upsetting, she went through so many experiences of malpractice and suffered so much. I’m so impressed by her resilience and positive attitude, many people would harbour such anger and hurt from something like that

[@cauliflower5639]

Love that she casually did her makeup while talking about her bleeding butt and how the healthcare system failed her

[@Rowdygirl50]

I cant believe that the first thought was not to refer her to a GI doctor. Unfreakin real. That poor kid. What an awful journey.

[@jenniferpenny5852]

Going thru the same thing with a different GI issue in the US, paying $200 per visit plus $6700 deductible. 12 months, lost 72 pounds , no appetite, most weigh lost was muscle. Still telling me it’s just IBS.

[@charmingjinx9379]

My son has Crohns, but in his intestines. I think probably they would have restructured her "butthole" to remove possibly excessive folds and to allow healing, bypassing with a colostomy bag until healing is complete. Hopefully, anyway. Poor kid. It was bad enough the 3 months it took to find out why my son was sick and finally getting proper treatment, but this is a horrific story. Her poor mom.

[@davidguidry657]

I was wondering when she was gonna be done and it just kept going! And the makeup took forever too. 😉

[@donaldjz]

​@ForgiveZharion get a job, get a cheap camera, start posting videos, you don't have any, BUILD your channel. Don't beg for subscribers just to get a good camera when you have NO content

[@thecurryeater]

All women I know have at least one such story of not being taken seriously about their healthcare issues.

[@davidguidry657]

I’m not convinced it’s gender specific as I was diagnosed with hemorrhoids but pushed for a colonoscopy at just 35 years of age and discovered colon polyps. I had to do a little assertive self advocacy or be dismissed. I can’t speak to how often that happens for a woman as I’m not one but I have gone to appointments with my exes and daughters and noticed a need for self advocacy as well. If you’ve got a pain in the 🍑 then BE a pain in the 🍑! That’s my advice anyway and it works for men and women.

[@lynettebr]

I remember hearing a story of a woman being pulled over for speeding because she was on her way to the hospital in the middle of having a miscarriage. She explained to the cop that she's bleeding heavily and the cop just told her she was having her period. And she lost her baby

[@ResidentMilf]

​@@davidguidry657Of course it also happens to men, but for women it's a systemic problem. That's what makes it a gendered issue.

[@davidguidry657]

@@ResidentMilf what makes it a systemic gendered issue tho if it happens to both genders and is perpetrated by both genders within the medical profession? I’m not denying that women are negatively impacted by apathetic docs and I’d probably agree that it happens more frequently for them but since it happens to everyone wouldn’t it be more of a systemic apathy issue than a systemic gender issue? I know we won’t solve this here so I’m just asking. I also encourage men and women to be their own patient advocates.

[@empath9814]

Yep I had a sinus infection and they tried to tell me I didn't. Glad my mom was there because she demanded I get antibiotics.

[@nicolewalker6894]

I'm glad to see everyone showing empathy for the first story. I almost cried for her. That is horrific. Makes me grateful for my leukemia. When that blood test came back, everyone acted IMMEDIATELY. I can't imagine going through what she did. To make matters worse, you can't hold down a job (so no insurance or way to pay for those of us in the US), and your life could very well fall apart around you as you literally are dying. I'm glad she was young and seems to have recovered. Shoutout to moms all around the world.

[@Just1Nora]

That's the thing, if you have cancer people will jump hoops to treat you, and while I'm not trying to minimize cancer, there are so many people, especially women, who suffer for years, lose their jobs, social lives, and quality of life until they're almost at death's door before anyone cares. It's sickening! I tell anyone with chronic conditions, but especially the women, that they need to advocate for themselves and learn to stand up, pull up their big person underpants, and learn to say no. It can be very hard to stand up to an authority figure, especially a specialist, and say no or demand proper treatment, but for your life you have to. I've had to fight tooth and nail against family and doctors to get treatment and answers. It's exhausting and it sucks, but it's worth it in the end. Glad you got treated swiftly and I'm assuming are in remission! I hope you live the rest of your life cancer free. ❤

[@Just1Nora]

Funny thing is that my dad has been my advocate and my mom my critic. If my dad hadn't put his foot down then there's no telling where I'd be now. Probably dead tbh.

[@adiarainfoster]

Trust me, the doctors not taking you at all seriously is not just a Canadian thing lol. It took me six years to get a doctor to take me seriously and actually run tests here in the states before finally finding out something actually WAS wrong and it wasn't all in my head like the other doctors kept saying. I found out recently that some doctors still talk about "female hysteria," which is something that was thought up in the freaking Victorian Era. it amazes me that that attitude still pervades in the medical system. Women are far less likely to be taken seriously than men. One of my friends was having massive migraines that put her down every couple weeks or so. The doctors kept telling her there's nothing wrong, it's all in her head, she's just being dramatic, etc. Then her husband goes with her and HE tells them what's going on and next thing we know they are running all kinds of tests on her to see what's wrong. Thing is he told them the SAME thing SHE did. The only difference was it was a HE saying it rather than a SHE. REALLY frustrating. 😒

[@j.jtilling1722]

Would it upset you more to know the reason they still believe in female hysteria? It's because they actually still teach it in medical text books. I was horrified to learn this, but it explains a lot. I had the same thing happen with one GP. He was a really old man that made almost all his female patients cry, he did it to me on multiple occasions. So one time I take my Psych qualified other half in, who has a beard, and no joke the GP even sat up straighter just when he entered the room. Let a lone actually listened with interest to everything he said on my behalf. It was infuriating.

[@fibanocci314]

The worst part is, it's not even just male doctors. Had a female doctor tell me that the severe pain in my abdomen that got worse every time I had my period was completely normal and I just needed to suck it up and learn to live with it. She had even ordered an ultrasound, so I took her word for it. Six months and three doctors later for what I thought were unrelated symptoms, I had another abdominal ultrasound and they mentioned that the cyst in my ovary had gotten bigger since the last ultrasound and was the likely cause of at least some of my symptoms. What cyst, I asked. The cyst that showed up on the ultrasound the first doctor (an OBGYN) had ordered and declared all clear. The cyst that was already over five times the size of the organ it was inhabiting. The cyst that ended up needing surgical intervention.

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

If it wasnt for the fact my incident happened in the uk I could swear we had the same dr lol my old primary care physician told me my bipolar disorder was just hysteria, that having a hysterectomy would cure my ehlers danlos syndrome and the chronic fatigue syndrome comorbidity and actually tried to bully me into agreeing to "manual stimulation" because it would help fix my chronic migraines 😬🤢 and despite me and 15 other women complaining he is still practicing medicine at my old Drs surgery and is even practice manager. It absolutely terrifies me that drs like this are still allowed to practice

[@j.jtilling1722]

@@fibanocci314 have you been assessed for endometriosis, adenomyosis or at least had your ovarian cyst diagnosed yet?

[@wmason1961]

Ot took me 4 visits to the ER before I was believed when I had a heart attack. It would really be nice to be able to blame an ism for it. Sexism, racism, whaterism. But no, it was just incompetence. Stop assigning blame where you have no proof. The simplest explanation is usually correct. You're blaming sexism when it was probably just simple laziness.

[@JessicaRabbit324]

As a Crohnie myself, I've heard far too many horror stories about Doctors not believing us about our pain. Hell, I googled my symptoms and figured out what I had months before my doctors finally diagnosed me. Glad she eventually got taken care of, but sad as hell it took so long and so much suffering. 💖 ya Charlotte!

[@LilDevyl17]

Unfortunately, Healthcare Providers have gotten too Apathetic that we are nothing more than the "Complaining Customers" and the ones that have that Mental Issue where they are convinced they have something severe but it isn't. And they just keep lumping all of us together. Not only that but too many of them are Fatphobic, and have a hard time believing anyone that isn't Wheelchair bound that they're disable and will write them off. Even if you are Wheelchair bound then it's all about the age too.

[@moonhunter9993]

So sorry for all your suffering. I don't have Crohns but it took 14 years to diagnose my Celiac disease...

[@LazyIRanch]

I am so sorry! Crohn's is a hideously painful disease. Makes me so mad when others not only have no compassion, but even make fun of Crohns sufferers. My ex used to bully a man he worked with who had severe Crohns. They worked outdoors at a large amusement park, repairing rides. The man with Crohns would carry a bucket with him just in case he couldn't get to a restroom fast enough, so my ex and his a-hole buddies would hide the bucket so he would have messy accidents before he could reach a toilet. My ex would laugh and imitate how this poor man would run. I can't believe I was married 15 years to that creep. He made fun of me too when I was sick or injured, especially if he "accidentally" caused my injury.

[@ferox965]

I had colitis. Had an ileostomy done in 1999. Was in such bad shape that I slipped into a coma and actually died and was revived on the table. Crohn's and Colitis are brutally painful and invasive diseases. I chuckle to myself every time I play bass on big festival stages-covered in scars, the "bag" and I'm rocking out in front of thousands. Stay well and safe.

[@RougeMaire]

Took me over 18 years for a fibromyalgia diagnosis I sympathize for you :( they now take me seriously

[@I_Am_SciCurious]

Every one of the 14 doctors I saw over the course of many years for my symptoms instantly decided my inability to concentrate and severely dry skin was depression. The 15th doctor took one look at me and said she’s sending me to get me checked for Hashimoto’s disease. She was right. She knew instantly from the shape of my neck that I had a relatively common autoimmune disorder. It’s easy and inexpensive to treat too. I’m incredibly fortunate it wasn’t more serious. I left reviews detailing the incompetence of the other doctors who couldn’t spot an obvious issue and blamed their ignorance on my supposed female fragility. They didn’t see me. Their bias tells them all women are typically just whining. That is what they saw. It’s their own incompetence that is at fault, not us. There is no guarantee that a female doctor will listen, but data and statistics show you’re much better off with female doctors and surgeons if you are a woman yourself. And also if you’re a man.

[@slactweak]

Just because it's common, doesn't mean the doctor you're seeing has seen, (and KNOWS), the symptoms. Marfan syndrome runs in my family and it generally took at LEAST two visits to a doctor, (or doctors), for it to be diagnosed. The symptoms are easy to spot but unless the practitioner knows what they're dealing with, or has seen those symptoms before and connects them with the disease, then they are going to miss it. Not an excuse but an explanation.

[@graceful_enigma]

Make sure you get ultrasounds babe - my 12/13 year battle with hashimotos turned out to be papillary thyroid cancer

[@GrainneSheridan]

I hope you filed a complaint with the medical board, this is malpractice.

[@gracieewart9282]

​@slactweak Okay but she went over ten times. Feel like these are different circumstances maybe. Ya know- justttt maybe

[@marywright8612]

Idk. I have severe pain in my hip and have for a month now. Went to ER 2 weeks ago. Female doctor, just asked a couple of questions, pressed on 2 spots and asked if it hurt, said it was my sciatic and wrote me a prescription for Percocet and muscle relaxers. No imaging, no follow up with her after giving meds there to see if they did anything. The meds did nothing for the pain. About to go back because pain is worse. Just trying to decide same ER or different one. I don't have a primary care doctor for several reasons.

[@lzbrtstwbrtakaliz]

That first girl? Same thing happened to my mom. She couldn’t eat or drink - kept throwing everything up. Took her to the ER SEVEN times and they kept telling her she had the flu, giving her an IV and then releasing her. The eighth time I took her to the ER which was 24 hours after the seventh time they did an x-Ray (supposedly they did one the day before) and found a baseball sized tumor and said she needed surgery immediately. This was in the States. They just don’t want to believe people when we say something is wrong. 🤷‍♀️

[@kaylaashwell6581]

Oh god! I feel for both your mum and the first girl. I’m in U.K. I’ve got crohns colitis luckily not lucky for me Ibd runs in my family so literally it took less then 6 months to get me diagnosed at the maximum. But we kinda guessed it was Ibd after the 5th lot of “stomach bug”. My Aunty was wrongly diagnosed for 6 years a consultant tried to say she just had ibs. By the time she got a 2nd opinion she needed live saving operation as her. My mum supported my Aunty through her 6 years of hell so when I started with the symptoms that’s how we knew I had it too

[@Tacocat227]

All of my doctors said I had an eating disorder. Not until I went to the eye docter and they were like"hey, you have pressure behind your eyes you should get that checked". I finally got an MRI and the neurologist was like, "We have to admit you." Luckily it was non cancerous, but it was roughly the size of a softball all over my brain. 😅😅😅 I was fifteen

[@kyris66]

Glad you're ok! Your brain! Horrific.

[@bunnybaker2289]

😦

[@catherinebugden]

Same, except the eating disorder part. Thank God for eye doctors

[@amandataylor8067]

Damn I feel really bad for you but I'm glad you're okay now. 🤗

[@crystaldawn2708]

Ophthalmologists are literally lifesavers. Mine is the most thorough doctor I've ever dealt with, she checks and tests for SO many different things and has so much medical awareness that she has saved multiple people from death due to an undiagnosed illness.

[@TessaLefterys]

5:15 this is definitely not just in Canada. I didn’t go to the toilet for 2 months and all the doctors here in Australia were just trying to convince me the pain was just in my head. Not exclusively but I think this is especially common for women as we’re just accused of being “dramatic” particularly when it comes to abdominal pain because people just assume it’s normal period cramps.

[@MarthaRamirez-fz8td]

US is starting to be like this as well

[@Rionnagan]

As a fellow Crohn's sufferer who waited 17 years for a diagnosis by which time so much damage had been done, including permanent fistulas (multiple tunnels) I feel for that girl. We recently had a case of a woman who was screaming in pain right up to her death (in hospital where they told her she was faking) from Crohn's.

[@HummingbirdG6843]

That is absolutely horrible

[@ydad8946]

That is distinctly detestable.

[@reginamachamer821]

That's fucking awful and sadly not even a surprise. Although it is kinds surprising that it happens so often with crohns bc it's a pretty common condition, no? I've known at least 3 people with crohns, and I mean not everyone you meet shares their health issues lol so probably more. I once walked into a hospital and told them I wanted to kiII myself (this was over a decade ago, I'm doing great nowadays lol) and then sent me away bc I didn't have insurance at the time. It was so hard to even say that out loud, I only did bc I thought surely they couldn't possibly turn me away if I tell them that. But no they don't give af about helping anyone they only care about overcharging insurance and then kicking you out to make room for the next one. It's sick. Btw I just mean in general.. I definitely do believe that there are doctors who do actually care.. but unfortunately they seem to be the minority.

[@LazyIRanch]

@@reginamachamer821 Sadly, if the county mental hospitals are like the ones where I live, you probably would have regretted going there. They are more like jails and they do little to help patients who don't have insurance. You'd be in there with other patients with varying degrees of mental illness, some dangerous. 7 years ago, I had insurance, and an over-zealous psychologist who called the sheriff to come to my house and take me to the hospital because _he_ said I was suicidal. I was very depressed, but not suicidal! He asked me to explain what I was feeling and I told him I feel the way Nina Simone described depression in her version of an old blues song, "Trouble In Mind", and I sang this part... "Trouble in mind, it's true I have almost lost my mind Never had so much Trouble in my life before "I'm gonna lay my head down on some lonesome railroad line Let the 2: 19 train ease my troubled mind..." The therapist either took me literally, or my singing was so bad he thought I needed to be locked up in the loony bin for 4 days. It was horrible and I wasn't helped. We inmates, I mean _patients_ sat around in a day room full of broken furniture and watched bad movies. They could have at least brought some Disney DVDs in for us to watch, but no. I asked for paper and pencil so I could draw, but they didn't allow it. For an hour a day we were allowed to color with crayons that were 2 inches long or less, but when the hour was up we had to put every tiny piece of crayon back. If any were missing, we'd lose "coloring privileges" the next day. I was expecting Nurse Ratchet to walk in any minute! I'm glad you are doing great, now. I'm still struggling with depression, but I'll do anything to not go back to that awful place

[@chuckeymurphey]

I have ulcerative colitis which is closely related to crohns and went undiagnosed for years!!! I always feel so bad to know that other people get misdiagnosed or undiagnosed and it's so frustrating! Sorry it took you so long to get diagnosed!

[@suzbackstrom]

As a Canadian living in the United States, I can assure you the same thing happens here with healthcare and doctors brushing you off. The only difference is you have to pay for them to treat you poorly here!

[@heatherduke7703]

I spent so many thousands of dollars over 6 years to have no one help me (in the US). Any breakthroughs I came to were a result of my own efforts and research

[@boogermaiden]

I heard it's worse in America

[@FlyingSquirrel_999]

Can confirm.

[@Shadowhunter420]

Right on the dot with that one. I have many friends that have been brushed off

[@tiggerlicious]

In New Zealand it's like that too

[@dexterking2631]

For those curious; The ring the emu ate wouldn't be pooped out if my knowledge serves- it'd be more likely to end up stuck in their gizzard grinding up the plant materials they eat or stuck in their guts somewhere as a potential blockage. (If ever you find your ring eaten by an animal, let their handler or owner know so the situation can be handled appropriately. Materials used for making beautiful rings aren't always safe when ingested, especially when there are pointy edges or fragile parts. 'Petting' zoo animals have insurance that covers exactly this kind of thing and you may get your ring back.)

[@kikafayesings]

I live in the US and I used to have very severe Migraines. I had one that lasted 26 days. I went to a hospital in Kentucky that treated me awfully. I went to an Emergency Room where they put multiple narcotics through my IV while the nurse just talked away. So she wound up " poisioning" me with a med that you NEVER put in an IV. It was a local anesthetic that they put systemically through my IV. The last thing I saw was my husband's face in pure shock watching me die..... literally. So they had to use the paddles and shocked me back. I woke up in the ICU 3 days later. We did sue, so my life is worth $50,000. That's it. I now suffer with Severe Anxiety, PTSD, Depression and Suicidal ideations. I just had surgery today(9/20/23) and felt horrible for the nursing staff taking care of me. But they were AMAZING with me!!!

[@NatalyaCherry]

I am so sorry all of that happened to and is happening to you, except for the part where you were well cared for during yesterday's surgery. Lord have mercy. Your life is worth way more than $50k, you're priceless (and I also wish they had paid a much higher price for malpractice, too).

[@theindigopapillon3495]

That is disgusting that they did that but worse that you only got $50k. I bet the same nurses are still working there with a slap on the wrist.

[@LA-cm9uo]

If this makes you feel better, the type of treatment you refered to (narcotics and anaesthetic in the IV) was the accepted treatment for migraine relief up until recently when adverse cases (such as yourself) were reported more and more. Migraines are extremely problematic to treat. So, they were just doing what they knew how to do at the time. Nowadays there are better medicines on the market

[@kikafayesings]

@LA-cm9uo well the only problem with that is that I'm sure she wasn't supposed to put it in my IV. I was told it would go up my nose to stop the pain. They had done this once before with Lidocaine and it worked on a previous Migraine, but not for long. So they decided in the Bupivicaine this time. And it was also a FULL bottle she pushed through.

[@Amazon_213]

Absolutely get a therapist, request EMDR it is really helpful for medical trauma. Can confirm 1st hand.

[@spotteddragon2969]

Pro tip for anyone who has a similar experience to the first lady, ask the doctor to put into your notes exactly what you describe and that they chose not to take it further that way if anything comes back that Doctor will be specifically highlighted as negligent and also most will push for further tests if you say this because they won't want that risk to come back onto them 👌 all the best to anyone having problems with their doctors/medical offices ❤

[@67DrWatson]

Spot on.

[@starrniece6779]

This and I started recording my sessions especially if my husband isn't with me. Sometimes you are so overwhelmed you end up missing information or forget what to ask.

[@atmoney4206]

@@starrniece6779I always say if you are comfortable take a friend at least one of you will be able to get both feet of said doctor into your exam room for more then 11 seconds. Crazy how many times I feel I was asking a doctor a question and they literally already had a foot out the door. Someone needs to block for you in these cases!!

[@laurendillon627]

The crohn’s story blows me away. I started getting sick, losing weight, stomach issues like she described. Was told that it might be nothing but I should see a gastroenterologist asap. They immediately made me do a colonoscopy and endoscopy after one appointment because they were worried about it being crohns. It wasn’t the issue but the fact that no doctor told her to see a specialist until that late into the symptoms is crazy. If a doctor tells you to get a colonoscopy and you are under the age of 50, take it seriously. It’s sucks but it can save your life

[@Rae777]

I already had been diagnosed with a chronic pain disorder at 14. When I was 17, I told my parents that I was in severe pain in my abdomen. I knew what my pain felt like at that point. This was different. They took me to my PCP, who said that it wasn’t a kidney infection so I was fine. I was passing out regularly and barely able to walk. My parents took me to urgent care, and they said I was constipated. I told my parents they were wrong after the meds weren’t working. Eventually my parents took me to the ER, and turns out I had pretty severe pancreatitis. They said my values were so high it was impressive that I was awake and not screaming (I had a high pain tolerance). I had to get surgery for gallstones and stay in the hospital for 2 weeks. Ugh, just sucks.

[@marciabigg469]

I had severe pancreatic 4 years ago and ended up in hospital for 8 weeks. The pain clinic nurse was impressed with my high pain tolerance too, but I have fibromyalgia and chronic sciatica as well. They took my gall bladder out 2 years later (delayed because of COVID). My pancreas was so infected and swollen that it squashed my stomach and I ended up losing 35kg (over 75lbs) in the 8 weeks. Unfortunately, I've put it all back on, but I suppose I do know that gastric band surgery would work for me 🙈

[@Rae777]

@@marciabigg469 oh my goodness I can’t imagine going through that for 2 years. I’m so sorry you had to bear that pain!

[@biancajade728]

As a chronic pain patient from multiple stuff people don't realize we actually have stronger pain thresholds and are in pain everyday. So our responses to pain are different from them. I had over 175 shoulder dislocations and ers were always amazed how calm I was. Yeah it really hurt but it pales to pain I am in daily.

[@Just1Nora]

Thanks to my fellow chronic pain sufferers for sharing. I tell medical professionals that my pain scale goes to 15. One urologist told me that with the amount of kidney swelling I had (lodged stone) that most people would have been screaming or unconscious and he had no idea how I wasn't. Dad and I had been making pee jokes to lighten the mood. A shot of toradol was partly the cause, and I did go in moaning and planked. My migraine neurologist was so surprised by my almost non-existent reaction to the nerve block injections in my head saying that his other patients were sobbing to screaming at them. I turned down the use of the freezing spray and stress ball, and he and I had casual chats. He wants to put me in a pain study if any of his colleagues do one because he thinks it could help those with hypersensitivity to pain. I told him by all means. If I can help someone else please do! I was dx with migraines at 12 and fibromyalgia at 14, myofascial pain syndrome in my early 20s. If you have fibro you probably have it too. Muscle spasms you can't massage away? A spasm that feels like a pencil you can roll over? Look it up. My recommendation for anyone with an autoimmune disease, incl fibro, is to look at your extra symptoms and see if they might align with other autoimmune diseases. I say that they're like potato chips; you can't have just one! 😅 But seriously, the immune system rarely picks one thing and only goes after that. They may not seem related in any way. I have a whole slew of them. One affects multiple systems and has different inflammatory markers from sle & ra. Took most of my life to discover. I have pretty much reversed my ckd, eGFR back to normal lvls due to discovering it and changing my diet. Keep fighting. Sending you all extra spoons! (Plus a few forks to tell bad doctors, "Hey, fork you!" 😂)

[@p4umaya]

The fact that even female doctors call us dramatic for expressing pain is unbelievable. She said that I had psicological fear of the future or something just because I cried while they tried to give me the epidurial (y'know the anesthesia that goes into your spine and is the most painful). According to my doctor "they weren't even touching me and I still cried". If they didn't touch me, then why did I have marks in my back?

[@ArleneKing1372]

I've had numerous epidurals and I don't remember any of them being painful. Maybe ask for professional next time and not a "student" Dr???

[@saphiael-mansub2206]

Never had an epidural, but from experience of 1000s of patients and friends, the majority say the fear is worse than the actual pain. Still can't see what fear for the future had to do with fear of a gigantic needle being stuck in your back. As an ob/gyn in a poor 3rd world country where pain relief isn't an option I talk them through it. And personally I'm good with pain as long as it's not the months of pain, debilitation and torture the first girl went through. But even some Drs react terribly so shouldn't judge

[@NekoKuro-il8rz]

My sister's first epidural hurt but that was because they messed up the first time and had to redo it.

[@sharonsharon9540]

My epidural hurt they tried a bunch of times and finally put me under...c-section under general anesthetic. Epidurals can hurt ...a lot

[@p4umaya]

Idk about the people who say that epidurials don't hurt but it was the worst pain I've felt in my entire life (my mom agrees with me). The doctors clearly weren't students but it still took them like 3 tries to finally put me asleep, so I guess that didn't help either.

[@Reddzion]

here's what my dad went through considering the first story, but, SUPER brief as it lasted 10 months. - he had pains in his chest (born with 2 heart valve flaps, one was hardening) - complained of chest pain to regular doctor > doctor said its anxiety - went to hospital 3x in 1 month of chest pains, reg doctor claimed its anxiety - after 4th ambo trip, we went to a different doctor that was 40mins away DUDE HAD 4 HEART BLOCKAGES AT 90% Placed into urgent emergnecy surgery in the same week. Had a quad-quadruple bypass FOR THE LOVE OF GOD ALWAYS SEEK A SECOND DOCTOR IF YOU FEEL UNSAFE. My father could've dropped dead at any moment due to the regular doctor shrugging it as anxiety

[@Ater_Draco]

The first story is scarily similar to how my friend nearly died because doctors treated her for haemorrhoids without doing basic checks. She ended up in ICU in a coma, and had to have emergency surgery to have a bag fitted.

[@Chonts]

If this happened to someone in my country they sadly would be leaving the hospital in a body bag. Our health care system is really really really bad here. No one on the island wants to go to our hospital. They rather save up the money and go to a private doctor. I have a story, not as bad as yours I was rushed to the hospital after fainting and vomiting, with debilitating pain when I first started getting my period. I had a 40° fever and I could barely keep my eyes open or my head up. When I got there I was waiting for like an hour before a doctor could see me. They asked for a pee sample, saw blood in my pee and asked my mother if I was on my period. When she told them yes, the doctor laughed and said my period was causing this to happen to me, told a nurse to give me an injection (nurse said it was paracetamol) and sent me home. I suffered from these symptoms for years until I went to a private doctor and was diagnosed with PCOS. I was prescribed a birth control to help with my hormones and I never had that issue again. I cannot tell you how many people I know who's lost loved ones in the hospital on my island. I have also lost a few loved ones to the negligence of health care professionals. I am not joking when I say no one wants to go to the hospital. We recently got a new hospital but it isn't 24 hours and it's severly understaffed

[@Ater_Draco]

@@Chonts I'm so sorry to hear that 💔

[@lilliegibson7131]

As someone who has severe Crohn's disease and had a UTI for a solid year before they diagnosed me.. that first story I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. From one IBD patient to another, sending love and hopefully you never have to deal with that again. The worst of mine was peeing on a table in front of 8 grown men while they watched on a machine. They had to give me meds to make me pee cause I couldn't while they watched. My bladder and intestines attached to each other and were feeding each other, cause of UTI. Surgery was done, found out I had Crohn's. But during that whole year I had male doctors asking if I knew how to wipe correctly or if I knew how to clean myself correctly, at 26yo I was pretty confident I knew what I was doing. Only reason they did the pee table test was I went to the ER for the third time with a 104⁰ fever. Gotta love the US military health care.

[@GrandmaLoves2Scuba]

My doctors in the hospital told me I had Chrohn's but fortunately for me it was later revised to SEVERE IBD with constipation. Let me just say, as much as I suffer, I feel BLESSED!

[@dianabehrens1867]

It's very frustrating!

[@melissamontgomery7616]

This is what killed my mom, a UTI went untreated for God knows how long because she had chrohns and she died of sepsis.

[@Grace-ms7un]

😢😢 oh my dearest dear ❤️ military 🪖

[@moniqueengleman873]

OMG I feel you. I kept getting septic and staying in the hospital for weeks at a time. I had the figures and leaky gut. Then my entire colon ruptured. They let saying I was fine. Six surgeries later I fired my doctors. Found better ones. Advocate for yourself.

[@Plaasklong1]

15:32 To answer your question, it is a female ostrich. In regards to the ring, ostriches like shiny things. In nature the swallow shiny stones to help with their digestion (the stones in the stomach grinds up the seeds they eat). Now an interesting fact is that their throats are stretchy enough that they can actually swallow large objects. In fact there is an ostrich farm in South Africa where years ago they found a complete 1 litre glass coke bottle in an Ostrich's stomach.

[@anigmaa1]

😮 1 ltr coke bottle wtf poor thing 😮

[@DMTsanto]

Charlotte, please be careful regarding the flooding in your condo. Mold toxicity is VERY real, very sneaky, and gradual. It can take over a year to recover from, and doctors refuse to believe the long list of symptoms you may have. Just a suggestion as someone who has dealt with it for years due to flooding. It’s AWFUL. Thank you for your awesome content 😊

[@heatherduke7703]

Seconding this. Having dealt with mold illness, her comment about 2nd time flooding spiked my anxiety. I would be out of there as soon as possible

[@EDSzebra1]

As a female that has been blown off by doctors, I can tell you that you can never take their word for it. If your symptoms are GI, find and excellent female GI doc that will listen to you. In my case, the doc blew off all my symptoms and I actually have a genetic disorder called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Then I have about 8 tag on syndromes to top it it off! So way to go docs!!!

[@SunnyD74]

I have a son that I have never been able to get a diagnosis for, nor a referral for a GI specialist. He’s 21 now. My daughter is 17 and also has GI issues, and potentially pots, and we have finally gotten a referral to a cardiologist but not a pots specialist, so I don’t expect big resolutions since pots is autoimmune and not entirely cardiology related. It’s just so frustrating to deal with chronic illness and continually dismissed as it’s just anxiety, etc.

[@alexshaw8167]

I don’t find female doctors any better. Sometimes they’re worse honestly. Just gotta find someone who cares.

[@Tink_InTheRoom]

I’m always looking up what is going on with my Ms on google I can’t rely on doctors they just look at me like a drug addict because I’m skinny and have had problems with my teeth and they all tell me I should look into being Ms dr cause of the amount of shit I know about it or they go against my every word trying to find something else so they don’t look dumb and tell me that I was wrong but they are saying everything that I said

[@herronml86]

​@SunnyD74 that sucks! I recommend having them get a blood test for Celiac Disease if they haven't, though an endoscopy and colonoscopy would be best. But maybe they'd order blood work at the very least. My husband struggled for many years until he was diagnosed in his twenties. (Make sure they are eating plenty of wheat before tests or it won't be positive even if they have it.)

[@fibanocci314]

@SunnyD74 Depending on where you live, it might be required that a cardiologist do the test because POTS is largely a diagnosis of exclusion so they have to be on hand to look at the results to rule out a different cardiac problem. A POTS specialist may not see her until she gets that test because there aren't very many specialists and their schedules tend to be very full. (Source: I have POTS) Also consider trying for a rheumatologist if GI won't see you, because of any of their GI issues are autoimmune they tend to do those tests. Celiac's, as the other commenter suggested, is an autoimmune disorder with severe digestive symptoms, as an example.

[@anakelly76512]

I feel you, girl. I can relate. I was diagnosed with severe Crohn's Disease in September 1997. I passed a lot of blood as well. I've had a total of 17 transfusions. On October 4, 1997, in ICU, my colon ruptured. I was coherent when it happened. Well, the poo got into my blood stream which caused sepsis which caused my lungs to stop which caused a stroke on my birthday which caused 12 seizures. All in a 4 1/2 day coma. I was dehydrated and malnourished. 5'5 1/2" and 85 lbs. I've had dozens of surgeries. I had one 8/28/23. Got my staples removed today. Now, I no longer have a colon and missing 6 inches of small. I have a rectal stump. Fortunately, I still have my butthole. Unfortunately, I don't poop out of it anymore. And, it's rough. Hoping for a reversal one day. I hope she's happy and healthy now.

[@essennagerry]

So sad to read about all you've gone through and how you're missing parts of your organs and can't poop normally. 😔 I have coitis and it's never gotten to the point where I'd pass out or need surgery, colitis is similar but one of the differences is there's no risk of rupturing the organ, somehow just the inner layers get damaged and they can get damaged enoughbto have to remove parts of your colon, but it seems there's no big risk of sepsis. I wish you full and complete healing for everything you need it for! It sounds impossible but miracles happen and who knows how medicine will advance in the future.

[@anakelly76512]

@@essennagerry Thank you so much. Colitis is nothing to sneeze at. It's rough, too. I hope you never have to gave surgery. It takes a toll on the body. At my age, I don't want any more surgeries. I read about the doctors using our own DNA to grow new organs. It would get nice to have a new colon.

[@prettybirdthepetgoosefrien8155]

The amount of times she survived going septic, is AMAZING!! Sepsis almost took me out ONCE from a stuck kidney stone that was ignored and blown off by docs for almost a whole year!! It was so painful (rivaled 2 deliveries) and terrifying. The doc was SHOCKED that I was still alive and that my body had contained the infection for THIS long. I'm glad you made it through that❤

[@missdenisebee]

I had a coworker years ago, an older woman, who saw doctor after doctor after DOCTOR, and they kept dismissing her health worries. Eventually, by the time she found a doctor who took her seriously, she was diagnosed with stage IV uterine cancer & didn’t have a ton of options left. She passed shortly after I left that job.

[@neoloanderson6676]

😢

[@dizzydots4786]

Being overlooked medically is the worst. I've developed a fear and severe distrust of all doctors. So when I had E.coli and urosepsis, I waited about 4 days, I couldn't eat, I couldn't drink, I ended up going through severe alcohol withdrawals ONTOP of the infections, i mean, I was dying. I'd started turning grey, I was vomiting blood that just... smelled awful. And when my partner finally drove me to the ER, the nurses were lovely. But they thought I was forcing myself to continue vomiting / heaving because I just could not stop. In the wards, I was wired up with cannula's, multiple blood draws, turns out my O2 was low as well, so I had an oxygen cannula in my nose. I was just so damn thirsty. The anti-sickness meds were a life saver. The first couple of nights I was still having vomiting bouts. In the sleep wards, one of the nurses said, because I have an extensive history of mental health issues, that "I might be making it up, that it's all in my head." ...nah, it was in my kidneys and bloodstream actually love, but thank you so much for giving me that distress. The rest of the staff though were lovely. I was moved into the long-stay, and I was treated wonderfully. Recovered about a week later and was discharged with some new prescriptions to keep my health up and stable ^.^

[@kirstenb3845]

Love the first story 🙃 same thing happened to me. Dr in the clinic said, "youre not that sick" gave me some mild andtibitocs. Turned out I had a baseball sized abcess in my chest and had gone septic... WHILE RECOVERING FROM JUST HAVING A BABY. Ended up in the ER a few days later and a week long hospital stay with a new baby

[@LazyIRanch]

That sounds horrible! Right after giving birth, our breasts already tend to be very sore and tender so I can only imagine how excruciatingly painful it was to have a chest abscess too. I hope you and your baby are healthy and happy now.

[@lauriedenton139]

I'm saddened but relieved that I'm not the only female that has had issues with doctors completely blowing off some serious symptoms. While in my teens, I was occasionally having severe pain in my head and was told by one doctor that it was hormonal, another that (I kid you not here) I was faking it for attention! Time goes by, the pain was coming much more frequently and severely until I starting passing out when it happened. When I passed out behind the wheel of my car, I had to stop driving. Come to find out, molar/wisdom teeth were coming in but there was no room for them so they were pushing the teeth in front of them out. Since this was happening, a severe infection was developing in two of them that had started traveling to my brain which in turn was causing sharp black-out pain in my head.

[@WeartheGoodSocks]

WOW. Thanks for sharing this cautionary tale...

[@essennagerry]

An infection traveling to your brain??? How did they take care of that?

[@UsandEveryoneWeKnow]

When I was continually passing out, my doctor told me I was probably just someone who passed out a lot. Madness isn't it! Feel your pain.

[@LexiSadie0614]

At 12 i was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis bc i was bleeding out my ass and i am so happy that the doctors listened and managed to diagnose this early on, that first story was heartbreaking

[@clockworkeclipse4689]

Stateside woman here, and story 1 rings true here too. I had to fight tooth and nail to prove I had a heart condition to my regular cardiologist. Why? She checked and said "I don't see an issue." Problem is, my pediatric cardiologist, who we got because I had a lovely genetic condition that could *literally make my heart explode like an overinflated balloon,* saw a problem at the ripe old age of 14 and had me going in every year to make sure medication was working and it wasn't getting worse. It was in my patient history. It is *still there.* But no, this one's convinced I was told some over exaggeration and insisted it isn't there. Worst part is this one was recommended by my pediatric cardiologist. Like, either I've been lied to for over half my life about my own heart and have been taking a medication I didn't even need all that time, or I was told the truth and this one's just full of it. Women should *not* be made to feel delulu over their own health.

[@Magical_Thinking]

As a nurse, the first story about the young woman who had severe septic Chrohn’s disease really ticked me off! Especially with the rectocele (a hole/passage that develops between the rectum and vaginal wall where POOP comes out of the bung hole AND vagina. Not only would she ever feel or be clean in both her hoo ha or her hiney hole, the huge infected abscess only made it worse. She had ALL the classic signs of severe Chrohn’s & the fact that they didn’t find the abscess during her scope is unforgivable. Basically, people who have it that severe happily let the surgeon remove their anus, rectum, and a large portion of their colon and get a colostomy or ileostomy (poop) bag that sticks on their abdomen. Oh, and the surgeon sutures their anus closed. It’s the perfect excuse to decline butt sex & your partner can’t get mad at you!

[@Widdekuu91]

I know what you mean and all, you were joking, but 'the perfect excuse to decline buttsex' is 'I don't want to' and if your partner gets mad at you, you need a new partner. Buttsex against your will is rape and if you try it without wanting to, you will cramp up and feel horrific pains. Hence the reason you have to be careful even wíth permission, because being too hastily can also hurt the other person.

[@alexshaw8167]

Uh as a nurse you should know a rectocele does not = an open hole between vagina and rectum

[@NataleeHEALS]

I have experienced a similar situation. It is really awful.

[@jeannetterw]

This response was 👌

[@lindahendricks1868]

I'd sue for negligence. OMG. She practically doctored her own diagnosis. I worked in healthcare for 10 yrs. Literally shit would be hitting the fan, as they say.

[@ravenfaebowie]

That first story brings so much trauma back to the surface. My dad went through something similar. He got ill, he started rapidly losing weight and bleeding every time he used the loo. He was so sick, and they did the same "hemorrhoids" then "crohn's disease" He just kept getting worse. Finally they sent him to a specialist. He had ulcerative colitis. It was really bad, they tried putting him through chemo to get rid of it, but it was too late, so he had to have an operation to remove it all. Now he has a colostomy bag, which he still has issues with and has had to have multiple operations on. Still waiting for yet another. And most of this went on throughout the pandemic. So we weren't allowed to see him for most of it. People, if you feel something isn't right, don't ignore it. Get yourself checked out asap. BUT always ask for second opinions, and if a diagnosis or treatment doesn't feel right, just put your foot down and make them take another look.

[@julie6092]

I TOTALLY feel the Crohns' girl. My daughter went through the same type of treatment when she was 23. After years of complaining about bowel issues, she was given a colonoscopy. After her appointment she was told that she had a tumour and that it was cancerous. Within 5 days she was booked for her surgery and the tumour was removed along with her colon being resected.

[@valeriepalamaris3798]

The u

[@ChronicPainInTheAss]

I hope you sued! Please know that in 38 states in the US that are "one party consent states", you can secretly audio record ALL doctors appointments without their knowledge or consent. If you live in a one party consent state, it doesn't matter what their office policies, or hospital policies are, it's your legal right. In Canada it's also legal to record any conversation to which you're a party. People need to do this in order to protect themselves. There's no excuse for any doctor or hospitalist to be dismissive for any reason. As a physician, it's doctors like that who make my job more difficult. I tell my patients to feel free to record their appointments and to bring someone with them if they're more comfortable. I wish you and your daughter the very best!

[@ASavageEye]

I was only 15 when I had similar operations. Mine stemmed from an underlying issue called " Lazy Bowel". Essentially I only defecate about once a week. Been that was since I was a child and over time I had ruptured the inside of my colon. The rupture had grown larger every time I did go to the toilet and at this point was 3 inches long running right beside my colon and entering it again just inside my butthole. It was like having a second colon beside the first one. Of course because I already had issues nobody thought to check anything when I complained about excessive pain, they just gave me even more constipation meds and told me I would be ok once I went to the toilet. Roll on 6 days later and I collapse in school with a massive fever. I woke up 2 days after that, having already had my operation to repair my colon and spent another 4 days on IV Antibiotics to clear the remaining infection. I know a lot of people like to complain about hospitals and doctors but even after they kinda failed me initially they did ultimately save my life. On top of that, a year after that operation, the exact same doctor removed my ruptured Appendix so in fact they save my life twice.

[@christinamiche]

this also happened to me, at the same age of 23. except my colon was not resected as i was very lucky to have a pedunculated polyp, one on a stalk like a mushroom.. so it was not attached to the colon wall meaning all cancerous cells were able to be removed during the same diagnostic colonoscopy procedure!! they clipped these clips to stop the bleeding, tattooed my colon so they can go back and check in a couple years, and i live happy and healthy! only took 10 years to find it

[@t.l.c7481]

I’ve had that “dramatic” remark because I had pain they couldn’t figure out. After an injury, they sent me for a MRI. I found out two days before Christmas that I have an autoimmune disease of the CNS. That explains the pain. One doctor advocated for me and that’s how my “dramatic” pain was explained. Now I’m being treated for it. If left untended, it can make you disabled. Keep pushing for answers. Be your own advocate. Women are often misdiagnosed because of a gender bias.

[@cbpd89]

My "dramatic" sister was never taken seriously with her abdominal pain. It was ignored when she was a teenager, as a young adult they just kind of assumed endometriosis and let her keep being in pain. Turns out she actually had a blockage in her kidney. It took two surgeries (the first one didn't work. Too much scary tissue) and because it took so long to fix, she has so much damage in that kidney it will always be at risk.

[@tibbetabbi880]

My family doctors (3 of them over the many years from early april 2011 up until start october 2022) told me I was just "hysteric, depressed, fat and just looking for attention" when in fact I had raging untreated diabetes and a massive tumour on my uterus/fallopian tube who was slowly but surely killing me.. so yeah thanks to that one old female nurse who took a second look at me and pressed the doctor to order a scan of my lower stomach and some bloodwork without her I would have been dead before I turned 26.. but yeah I was just being "dramatic" I guess.

[@kellynh9303]

This is crazy we have to deal with this. I've had so many health issues my entire life that I almost died & my doctor said I'm a medical mystery, they still haven't figured out what's really wrong with me but I have an entire list of diagnosis of diseases and issues . I'm now having heart issues & it's so frustrating because I worked in the medical field for decades n had to basically tell my doctors what my diagnosis are . It's insanity.

[@FabricFool]

Yeah, read up on the etymology of the word “hysterical” if you really want to get your shorts in a twist about this “medicine doesn’t take women seriously and never did” stuff. F’real.

[@singingwolf8997]

A few summers ago, I fell HARD on some pavement; came right down on one knee with all my body weight. I spent a good few months limping and barely able to put pressure on that leg. I honestly suspect that I had fractured something. But I never went to the doctor about it because I've been told to 'stop being dramatic' so many times in my life, both by him and by other people, that I reached a point where I just stopped bringing up my health concerns. Now I'm dealing with chronic pain in both shoulders, which sometimes gets so bad I can barely use my arms. But I'm still fighting with the decision to try getting it checked out because I don't want to sit and listen to someone tell me I'm just being dramatic.

[@siobhannicolson5566]

15:39 so uhh fun fact. when i was about 2 years old, i was OBSESSED with my pacifier (or as we call them in australia, dummies) like most 2 year olds were. we went to the zoo for a family trip, and i decided to wander around near the ostriches. the ostrich decided it wanted to grab my dummy from me. 2 year old me was furious and very nearly jumped the cage to get the dummy back. thank goodness for my mother, who panicked and reminded me that we had more dummies, but i still was pissed :')

[@sdbelland]

That first story breaks my heart. I'm in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. My experience was just the opposite. My doctor is amazing and I was immediately sent to ER where a MRI showed I have Ischemic Colitis. I was then referred to a gastroenterologist who has been helping me since. I so sorry for anyone who has had a bad experience trying to simply find out what the H is wrong with them. Blessings to all!

[@ziggystarlust]

The first story is so common, it's frightening. I was diagnosed with a pituitary tumor in May but was told it was "too small to cause the extent of issues I'm having", told something else is adding to it, but they haven't investigated and are acting like I'm a drama queen (because heaven forbid I be anxious about having a brain tumor). I had to quit my job yesterday because my symptoms are so debilitating. But yeah, totally in my head, right?

[@TinksiehTink]

Well it's in your head to be fair. I hope they start taking you seriously now 😢

[@effystrange]

I’ve been diagnosed with a pituitary tumour too! I’ve been waiting months for an appointment to see someone I’m terrified

[@sexigirlfay]

​@@TinksiehTink I was going to write this, then scolded myself and said "those are inside thoughts!" Just to see this 😶 (Lol- for taking to myself, not the situation). Wishing that commenter all the best and specifically at least one genuine doctor to advocate for you throughout your treatment process.

[@sexigirlfay]

@@effystrange Wishing you all the best and specifically at least one genuine doctor to advocate for you throughout your treatment process. And never let anyone dissuade you from what you are feeling. I work in healthcare and don't understand what gives anyone the right to invalidate a patients concern. Don't let anyone tell you "don't be afraid" it's ok to have concerns and worries, just don't let them overwhelm you because you will need as much mental strength as you can possibly harness, as well as to making decisions and asking the right questions along the way. Best of luck.🫂

[@ziggystarlust]

@@carla6558 very different situation from mine. Had an MRI and mine is small.

[@Mandaraminu]

I have a similar story to the first one, I had developed a weird discolored and hard patch of skin on the back of my leg, we went from doctor to doctor and no one knew what its was, finally we got recommended to a dermatologist(Who we were trying to go to for forever) and she said it was an immune disorder and if left untreated would spread and if it had gotten the chance to spread over my joints, it would effectively cease all movement.

[@LarissaParedes]

This summer, I pulled my back and had to do spine surgery. 10 days into my recovery period, my husband kept feeling a severe “heartburn”, so he went to check with a cardiologist, and turns out that it was 3 massive clogged cardiac arteries up 99% including one called “widow-maker”. He caught just in time before he could have a fulminating heart attack. The doctor said that that’s one chance in a million to caught that before it could have been fatal. He said that your wife’s surgery saved your life. Had he not been doing all the chores and carrying me around, he would have days at most. I guess my summer was the worst, but thankfully we overcame all that and now we are in physical therapy together ❤ can’t wait for fall 🍁

[@rebecculousrk]

That’s pretty miraculous! I hope you have many more years together. Truly remarkable that he got checked just in the nick of time.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

My grandpa went to the ER with only a sense of impending doom. The widow maker was clogged 98%. He never goes to the doctor for anything so the second he mentioned feeling off Grandma rushed him to his cardiologist.

[@essennagerry]

Oh wow!

[@Just1Nora]

In May my dad did have a heart attack. First thing he did was vomit, likely from the pain, and Dad never vomits so we knew it was serious. He had a 98% blockage as well as two +80% blockages. Thankfully I got ems there quickly and he was able to get prompt treatment and a few stents. He just saw his cardiologist yesterday and he suffered some minor heart damage, but he's doing good enough that he doesn't need to go back for a whole year. He would frequently clear his lungs due to his asthma, but oddly after the stents it nearly stopped. I then remembered reading something a few years ago that said if you have heart trouble that big deep coughs every 10 or 20 seconds can keep your heart pumping until help arrives, so he was likely forcing blood through those blockages. He had been doing that for probably five years! Glad your husband is okay, and best of luck with your back!

[@bluexwings]

The first story is SO similar to mine! Except for me, it was vaginal bleeding and endometriosis. I constantly bled (heavily) for an entire year, and also felt like I was sitting on a golf ball. Along with severe abdominal pain. My primary doc didn't really believe me/wanted to handle it herself, even after I had a CT scan show a mass in my uterus (literally enough endometrium to make my uterus feel like a 6 month pregnant woman's according to a different doc). Despite many, many trips to the ER, I didn't get treatment until I mentioned it to a different specialist. They had me talk to a gynecologist that day. After exploratory surgery, turns out my uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes, bowel, vagina and rectum were all fused together. 🙃 Just had a complete hysterectomy and oophorectomy, and it's the first time in 3 years I haven't been bedridden.

[@Victor-tr5wr]

Brutal, I wish you healthier, pain free times

[@TessaLefterys]

Frustrating how often endometriosis is overlooked despite so many women being so severely effected by it.

[@bluexwings]

@@Victor-tr5wr Thank you. ♥️

[@essennagerry]

Oh my goodness. How does one overlook something like that and then even SEE IT ON A CT SCAN and somehow still overlook? Like what's the deal, did your primary care physician want you do die? I genuinely don't understand! And after all the pain and suffering and having tobget surgery too you also had to have a complete hysterectomy and oophorectomy. I'm not a doctor but I would assume REMOVING ORGANS could have been avoided if they took your YEAR LONG BLEEDING seriously on the first day instead! Oh my goodness! So shocked and so sad to read all these things you had to go through and the aftermath. I sincerely wish you all the best and full and complete healing for everything you need it for. ❤ Was this all recent? How are you feeling these days?

[@JokerThaToker]

5:13 I'm American and my ER trip ended with open heart surgery at 26 years old because for over a month doctors kept telling me "you're fine". I was septic and dying as well.

[@mdcochran85]

The women from 1st story is so lucky to be alive...becoming septic multiple times. Wow. So messed up how doctors just wanna assume the easiest problem

[@Nikki-333]

I feel so bad for the 1st lady. A similar scenario happened to me with my 8 month old daughter. She ended up in the hospital with FIVE SEPARATE infections that her damn pediatrician kept brushing off. I KNEW something was wrong. Now as an older seasoned mom, I desperately wish I could go back in time and change things. She suffered unnecessarily for so long. Ugh. 😭 She’s thriving and doing awesome today, but it makes me outraged her dr sucked.

[@jenn8179]

Yes! No one knows our kids like we do! It's infuriating to be brushed off with a suffering baby! 😢

[@Nikki-333]

@@jenn8179 yes! It so sad! I don’t understand why drs don’t believe you sometimes when you say something IS wrong! Like, I thought you became a Dr to “help” people. So HELP ME please!

[@starseedlightworker6539]

nah most of them is just for the $$$@@Nikki-333

[@alietheartist734]

Yup, creeks sometimes experience flash flooding when it rains, especially if they’re in the mountains and/or fed by runoff. There’s a place not too far from me where they tell you not to cross the creek and camp there if there’s any chance of rain. There’s usually someone coming out from the city who doesn’t listen to the locals and then our county’s volunteer search and rescue has to go out there and get them because once the water gets up it takes a few days to go down.

[@crossanddream2]

9:56 there was a story of a couple who was camping, got woke up to something trying to eat there tent. Absolutely terrified, but when looking outside the tent they found a herd of wild ponies who had come to say good morning. One of the poines were trying to eat the tent since it was green and mistook it for a bush/grass

[@rebny7801]

I love that story!

[@ReleaseTheQuackers]

The joys of camping on Assateague!

[@booklover5238]

That was not how I expected that to go. I thought you were heading to that story where a crocodile crawled like a mile away from the water to grab someone out of their tent. I think it was an I Shouldn't be Alive episode.

[@nancykaminski8600]

Nah, some horses just enjoy ripping stuff they can get their teeth on. This is why my horse’s blankets get ripped, one of his pasture mates likes to grab the material and pull real hard.

[@LazyIRanch]

I went camping for 10 days in Big Bend Nat. Park in Texas as part of a college geology class in 1996. Amazing, beautiful place and I learned a lot while having a blast hiking and dipping in the hot spring. Now I know the difference between rocks being "tuff" or "gneiss" ( a little geology pun, just not a good one) While we ate around the fire at night, a little skunk came to visit, begging for food. Our professor told us not to feed it, so we didn't (I wanted to, but he was right). It was a friendly little thing and cute as all git-out, but it's a wild animal with the potential of laying a stink bomb! It rubbed it's body against my legs just like a cat would. I held still and held my breath, not knowing whether to be flattered or terrified. During the night, we awoke to that horrible, unmistakable skunk stench, grabbed our lanterns and came out of our tents to see what happened. A numbskull in our class had PUNCHED that poor little skunk, hard, right through his tent without looking first to see what it was, so it defended itself. He tried to say he thought it was an armadillo as if that would make it okay. The rest of us yelled, "Who punches an armadillo??" We drove back home 2 days later. A very long drive from Big Bend to N. Dallas. We were met with gagging and "OMG!" at every place we stopped to eat at, even the Sonic which is a drive-in. We had showered and all, but that smell takes a long time to wear off. I went to pick my 4 year old son up at my brother's house, where he had a fun visit with his cousins while I was gone. His first words when he saw me: "EWWW! Mom, you stink!!"

[@davinastein5776]

If you think that Crohn’s disease story is bad, imagine, going through that exact same scenario of neglectful and caring doctors, and having to pay dozens of thousands of dollars to get that treatment or lack there of. That’s what it’s like in the US.

[@storyranger]

Yeah that was my thought. Like, I get frustrated with wait times and how difficult it can be sometimes to get a doctor to listen to you in Canada, but I would be afab and overweight and some doctors would be rude and negligent anywhere I went; at least in Canada I'm not also forced to choose between going to the doctor or paying rent.

[@PaperMario64]

Exactly. Oh and each doctor that simply looks at you and gives you a misdiagnosis also charges you many thousands and the ER even more.

[@Summer-sx7xl]

Eh. I had a similar experience to her, but the us system got me through the whole diagnosis process and treatment under a month. I had one gp visit who referred me to a terrible gi doctor who I then saw a different gi doctor and had one follow up. Four total appointments and I was much better in less than a month.

[@jengsci8268]

I have rarely had this experience with neglectful doctors. But there are lots to choose from in my area. Fairly large city. I think the competition keeps them better.

[@Anthony-fd8mh]

@@Summer-sx7xl That is the U.S. System, they will send you to a specialist because they know they can gouge the insurance company so they have no problem sending you to multiple doctors and all the specialists ya want. In those other systems they will avoid spending at all costs until your about to actually die😂

[@megangwilliam5343]

I had an experience recently where people like the woman who made the TikTok really helped me out by staying as witnesses after I got into a wreck. We live in Houston and it was so hot, but they stayed to make sure the cops knew I was not at fault (without any video of it along with the fact that I tboned the other car it could’ve easily been assumed I was to blame, so I am so thankful for people like them

[@justinestephonie4606]

That first story of the girl with Chron's was quite literally my same experience with "unspecified autoimmune disease of the intestines" (which is what they diagnosed me with). When I was prepping for my colonoscopy I was dying and passed out so many times. I don't know if I've ever had a worse physical experience than that. I also wasn't able to eat for days, I was just in pain and basically bed ridden for weeks before I finally was being treated for it. My heart goes out to that girl, because lord knows that was traumatic in so many ways for me too. 💛

[@onepoh4680]

Based on my experience with my wife having her symptoms ignored several times (we live in the usa), if you are a woman and feel like you are being ignored by your doctor, bring your dad or partner with you and they will take you seriously…sad but is better than being ignored.

[@dancesmokesmile344]

18:06 It very much depends on the county, how long the travel is, and what agency you fly with. The food on planes from Europe to Asia and Africa is always soo good.

[@neeharikad3522]

Charlotte's starting to feel like a cool elder sister who always makes sure you're happy no matter what!! I love you Charlotte!... you make me so happy

[@CharlotteDobre]

I'm so glad!

[@jiwarindu6690]

Yup. unfortunately my eldest sister is a b-word indeed

[@davidguidry657]

I dunno, for me she’s more of a younger cousin that keeps me informed on all the cool new things that I wouldn’t otherwise know about. 😉 Well, that and the fact that she’s about 20 years younger than me! 😂🤣

[@neeharikad3522]

@@CharlotteDobre omgg thank you for replying 🥺

[@roxannaboykin1935]

I felt the 1st girl 100%. Over 20yrs ago I had a simular situation. Multiple dr & ER visits being told 'you're constipated '... 3 days in hospital with a stomach pump, 2x daily ultra sounds and MRIs. Techs/nurses being rude saying 'you're not that sick'. Come monday emergency surgery... my intestines had twisted, blown up and died. I almost died. Another 10days in hospital trying not too. I should have sued.

[@moriane.]

You definitely should have. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Are you well now? I hope there's no ongoing complications due to that.

[@breadcrumbhoarder]

First story resonated with me, I kept going to the doctor for severe nausea, they just straight up didn’t believe me when I said I wasn’t pregnant at first (I was a virgin and they made me take a pregnancy test lmao) and then they just said idk drink ginger tea that makes you less nauseous. A year or two passes where I lost weight really fast, eventually got stomach pains, finally got referred to a gastroenterologist, turns out I have GERD. Clear signs of chronic inflammation and possibly a small ulcer scar. At this point I was eating so little that my hair was starting to fall out. I changed doctors at one point during this process and my new GP knew that I had chronic nausea and said it was fine for me to take 9 advil a day for cramps around my period and I’ll never forgive her for that (NSAIDs can irritate your stomach so obviously someone with chronic nausea shouldn’t be taking a ton of them)

[@bugstomper123]

I'm from the states and I really related to that first story. Big TMI: Wasn't as serious as hers was, but the hospital staff were so horrible and unhelpful. Basically, I was horribly constipated, it was stuck where my small intestine meets my large intestine, and I was in horrible pain (I later learned the pain was not only from the gas buildup, but it also hurt when things did actually move), and the pain was made worse when every nurse in the hospital came in to poke my belly to see where it hurt (it hurt everywhere equally). When the gastro doctor finally was able to make it, he was like "Why is she on antibiotics? She's constipated. No, she doesn't have crohn's disease, she doesn't need this invasive procedure, just give her a laxative." Yup. That's all I needed. I was fine after that.

[@aismakessounds]

That Crohn's one reminds me of how, when I was 22, I kept having shortness of breath, fatigue, and chest pains to the point where I was passing out. No one would listen to me when I was concerned despite the fact that I told them I'd been hospitalized at the beginning of the year because of pneumonia, and instead they kept telling me my symptoms were from anxiety and a "sedentary lifestyle" (aka, it was my fault despite working in jobs/volunteer positions that required a lot of manual labor). I was waking up most mornings dreading getting out of bed because my heart rate upon waking was already 120bpm, and getting up would make it worse. After several months of multiple doctors visits and not getting anywhere, I get a stomach bug and can't hold down liquids to the point that the chest pain becomes unbearable. My sister takes me to the ER, but they take hours to take me back because there are people who seem worse and I don't have a fever yet, so clearly my crying out due to chest pain is just me being dramatic. After 3 hours my sister is ready to fight the Triage nurse, they retake my vitals, realize I've spiked a fever, and finally take me back. Once back there I get some zofran and pass out. My mom joins us by that point, I have received no fluids, and my heart rate is 130bpm and I'm sound asleep. The ER doc is ready to release me, and my mom questions what we'd need to do when I woke up and my heart rate jumped to 140. He rolls his eyes and says, "That won't happen." So my mom wakes me up, my heart rate spikes to 170, and he's all exhasperate as he agrees to run a couple more tests and keep me overnight for observation. I wound up staying a week because my potassium wouldn't stabilize (which is indicative of a potential heart attack) and I get assigned a cardiologist to follow up with, and she schedules me for an echocardiogram and a stress echo. Heart failure. The thing they'd tried to tell me was either stress or me being lazy was my heart failing on me at 22. If they'd caught it earlier there's a good chance it could have been corrected, but as things stand I'm just lucky it didn't kill me. And this was in the US, so I had to pay a lot of money to continue being told that it was all in my head. Sadly, a lot of women have stories like these 😔

[@whitneythomas42]

I’m glad the first girl finally got help I hate when doctors just won’t listen to you and make you out to be crazy I’ve always had horrible periods and was made to feel like I was insane I started mine at 9 and would literally vomit constantly and pass out at school because I was in the worse pain ever I was diagnosed with PCOS at 12 or 13 and endometriosis at 21 I still have really awful periods but at least I’m not getting laughed at and told I’m being over dramatic by a doctor I went through so many before I finally found one that I honestly feel like saved my life

[@simona_merkinin]

Googling your symptoms definitely works sometimes. That's how I found out that I have a torn meniscus. Later, when I went to see a doctor, I was actually diagnosed, and surgery was performed.

[@SensationallySilky]

I stepped in a hole and needed to rule out a torn meniscus. Made an appointment with an orthopedist who didn't review my chart but wanted to refer me for bariatric surgery. Sir I roller skate and do several pilates classes a week. my knee hurts because I stepped in a hole, not because I'm fat. And I had that surgery years ago. When I told him such he started turning colors. And he ate crow when he xrayed both my knees for reference and found zero evidence of arthritis. BUZZARD.

[@angelashortall9778]

It’s how I found out i had cancer

[@wendimooreart]

Re: that first story, I can relate to using Google to find out I had cancer before anyone else. In 2020, I was having "issues" that led me to realize something was wrong. I had an ultrasound that showed a "thick endometrial stripe." No one told me what they suspected or explained anything. I was simply referred to another gynecologist, but when I Googled "thick endometrial stripe" I learned that it most likely meant I had cancer. Family members and friends kept telling me not to worry and my sister rolled her eyes at me as she told me to stop being dramatic, "you don't have cancer." Well, after a few months of doctor visits I learned I had endometrial cancer. A hysterectomy got it all. Thank God! We have to advocate for ourselves, ladies!

[@elphieofkiamoko]

Googling my symptoms helped me diagnose my fibromyalgia. We have to be our own doctors when they don't believe us. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@allyaldridge]

As a kid, my family stayed at a campsite in the Lake District. In the night the river rose and flooded the site. My parents took down the tent, in the rain. My brother and I got our wellies on. My baby sister floated around in her crib. We drove to the club house at the top of the hill & my mum stayed with us. My dad went back to rescue people from caravans by smashing in the roof window as the doors wouldn’t open due to the pressure of water and they all didn’t know until too late. He got the nickname Flud from his mates. He was a hero. Some people couldn’t even swim, so he had to hold them and swim back one-by-one. But, we drove home after that - end of holiday- I don’t think the people he saved even know who he was as it was way before the internet, let alone social media.

[@shannonb.5771]

Had Hyperemesis Gravidarum when I was pregnant with my daughter. The doctors kept refusing me nutritional support until I got gallstones and the surgeon who was going to remove my gallbladder called the OB/GYN clinic yelling at them. I was 50 pounds down at that point. I ended up on tube feeding through a port in my chest before my daughter was born 6 weeks early.

[@thrgost]

I lost a kidney and got appendicitis @19 weeks and had hg, my son was 11 weeks early. Never had another successful pregnancy.

[@karenneill9109]

When I was admitted to hospital (they had no idea what was wrong- took two years to find out), I had a roommate with HG. She had TPN, and was doing okay, but she kept trying to eat, and she was miserable. My sympathies- it’s a rough road!

[@GaskyChan]

This story makes me happy that my doctor actually wanted samples after I told them I had diarrhea for 2 weeks. They rushed me to have a colonoscopy almost as fast and I got diagnosed pretty quickly. Later on though I was feeling sick and booked a time with a doctor, the secretary cancelled my time without giving me a new one and when I called to get a new time she was like "you properly pregnant you should just take a test" I was on birth control and had to get my original time back. Was hospitalized and not pregnant. Still mad at that B

[@MistyQueHarper]

That first story... holy cow, I thought she was from Romania. The same health care here. Hubby spent 8 YEARS looking for an answer to his epileptic seizures (which 15 neuro doctors told him is technically wasn't epilepsy, but the seizures had a similarity. so many different hospitals, both public and private hospitals. So much money spent on bloodwork and MRIs and so many more check ups. The same answer, you have a little knot in your brain, but you're fiiiiiine, there are normal for all people, there are people who have hundreds of these inside their brain!!! Meanwhile he would seizure 5-6 times a day, some would affect his short term memory, too. Guess what, it was that little knot that bled from time to time and it would floor his hippocampus, the area that is responsible with the short term memory. He was so close to a killer stroke. yeah. 8 years.

[@_Cambria_]

That first story hits home right now because my brother's drs said he was fine and he's been in the hospital for over 2 weeks after being diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer and he's terminal. It's been extremely hard on our family, he's only 41, and despite all his symptoms not one person said anything...so hearing her describe the pain/no appetite/no energy/couldn't eat much made me emotional. I'm so glad that things worked out for her, i only wish it could have worked out that way for my brother...

[@evelynneufeld7610]

My condolences on the loss of your brother 🙏

[@squirrelbugg99]

My 14 year old cousin has stage 4 esophageal cancer also. She was given a terminal diagnoses, but she’s on her 12th round of chemo. Health care workers really need to start taking their patients seriously 😞

[@intelligent_rope9704]

I'm so sorry for your family's pain 💔

[@Nickylovesart]

From Ottawa here. When I was pregnant In 2022 the ottawa hospital discharged me after 5 hours of no treatment. I had been transferred by ambulance from a rural hospital2 hours away for suspected preeclampsia . They did not inform my dr or the original hospital that I was discharged and i ended stranded at 3am dehydrated contractions and 33 weeks pregnant alone in Ottawa no way to get home . I actually had preeclampsia and progressed to HELLP syndrome. Gave birth preterm 2 weeks later

[@chantalarteau6692]

I empathize with the first girl so much. I just recently had my 1st ER visit in Canada. At least they listened to my entire history and symptoms before giving a diagnosis. The following day, I was having surgery to remove my gallbladder and the large stone obstructing it

[@melvasaiel]

That first story gave me hemorrhoid flashbacks. Mine actually WAS hemorrhoids, but I was getting thrombosed ones (which is basically when they get a blood clot in them and won't drain away on their own). I had to go to the doctor to get them lanced. By the second time in a week I basically begged for hemorrhoid removal surgery, which they were miraculously able to get me into in just a couple of days....And then I was prescribed opiates for the pain, WHICH MAKE YOU CONSTIPATED, and because it was such short notice I hadn't been able to take stool softeners ahead of time. So I was immediately constipated AFTER BUTTHOLE SURGERY for like five days. I thought I was going to have to go to the ER for constipation, especially after taking drastic measures like drinking prune juice and epsom salts (which I vomited up) and nothing was working. Finally on day 6, the blockage released itself and I had THE WORST SHIT OF MY LIFE. Like, I felt it go around the bend in my colon, jerking my body as it banked the turns. Afterwards, I just laid on the floor of my bathroom like I'd run a marathon. I was out of work for a month because of that surgery. My coworkers all thought I had something life threatening since I vanished so suddenly and for so long. Finally I just came right out and told everyone that I'd had butthole surgery so that they'd stop fretting. Turns out, a lot of people knew people who'd had the same thing, and two of my other coworkers also had it in the years after mine. So I became something of a butthole surgery guru, guiding people on how to prepare and recover. But man....her story was WAY worse.

[@louisejohnson6057]

I'm a 62 year old Canadian woman who had her first major surgery at 2 months old, spent more of the first 3 years of my life in a special ward of B.C. Children's Hospital for children experiencing respiratory failure, than I did at home on Vancouver Island. I've had health issues for my entire life, and they have continued into my senior years. And while I have had a few bad experiences with doctors or other people who work in the medical field, I've had many more positive experiences. I've received so much help and support from doctors etc over these last 60+ years, and I'm extremely aware that without the excellent care that I've received, I would have almost certainly died as a child. I continue to receive great care from my family doctor and from the several specialists that work with me, and him. Not all medical experiences in Canada are awful, it's just that when things are shitty, they're really shitty. We are in desperate need of more doctors, nurses, etc, but people don't want to pay for the more, it's a conundrum to be sure.

[@fibanocci314]

Also my experience with chronic illness in the States

[@chrystiafreelandscankles548]

Yeah. Maybe we could re-hire the 10’s of thousands of healthcare workers who lost their jobs for not taking an experimental jab. For starters…

[@louisejohnson6057]

@@chrystiafreelandscankles548 Get Bent.

[@QueensNative]

11:05 That’s definitely the sound of tempered glass cracking… if it didn’t have anything heavy on it… it would have made that same crackling sound until it was done cracking. then he souldve been left with a pretty cracked glass. He for sure did that though… he punctured it.

[@sydneyyoung7352]

The one I hate is "it's probably nothing, come back in a couple of weeks if it doesn't get better." I already did that! I felt sick, assumed I was fine, waited a couple of weeks, and came to the clinic because it isn't getting better! I didn't take the day off work and wait 5 hours in your waiting room because I woke up with a runny nose today...

[@sarahserenityqueen117]

The first story reminds me of my bestie Katie and her current situation. So my bestie used to be perfectly healthy until this year. She woke up feeling like she couldn't breathe. She went through 5 different doctors, all of them treating her like crap and like she was overreacting. She went to another doctor and allergist and they told her the cause of it when the inhaler failed and steroids failed awfully for her and made her breathing worse. She's currently still undergoing tests, she's been prescribed a new medication that helps her breathing, but she had to give up her animals, throw out her clothes, has PTSD and severe trauma now because the "doctors" didn't care enough to LISTEN to THEIR PATIENT. She's currently trying to get a job so she can continue to afford her medicine however she's not been the same since. She's constantly going through depression and severe anxiety. It breaks my heart because my bestie is a beautiful person and a ball of light. She can make anyone smile.

[@daisy9910]

Can you start a GoFundMe for her?

[@cmygamelife]

I am impressed that everyone who wants any kind of viral video didnt record the poor person on the plane during that persons worse day. Kinda touching actually. That was some very polite passengers and employees

[@carissathomas6270]

Man I felt that first story. I was in and out of ERs and doctors appointments from the age of 13-16 and after multiple surgeries, a mini stroke, and years of being on heavy pain killers I was diagnosed with endometriosis, PCOS, a severely infected appendix due to all the cysts in my body which caused it to swell 4 times it’s normal size and leak toxins into my body, and a uterus that was out of place and needed to be moved…. My first diagnosis was period cramps and I was prescribed ibuprofen, I had to take so much it almost burned through my stomach… our health care system

[@saraquintanilha5903]

Canadian Healthcare system?

[@WhatTheWHAT524]

Us health care is horrible, sad to hear Canada doesn't have as good healthcare as I originally thought or was led to believe. Sad in this day and age we don't all have good healthcare or coverage.....Have several horror stories of my own for myself as well as family and friends. Wishing everyone the absolute best moving forward. Much love!

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

That first story actually sent shivers down my spine because a friend of mine JUST had to have surgery for something extremely similar, and now I’m worried she’ll experience this again and again. The description of feeling like there is a golf ball in there is exactly what my friend said.

[@Melaniesue92]

That girl that took down the license plate number is the real MVP.

[@merilicious1594]

I recognized the first story immediately - my stepbrother had the exact same thing. Took them a good 3 years in and out of hospital after hospital to finally get him back to health. Fistulas. By the time they fixed one, another would have formed and so they kept going and going and going. Still grateful for that one doctor that decided to get everything checked out properly instead of a slew of doctors going 'oh you're fine take some aspirin', 'don't complain you just need to eat more fiber', you're okay it's just a hemorrhoid'.

[@cauliflowerwizard]

This first story happened to my sister as well. Had awful pain after eating, nausea, was losing weight and getting worse and worse. Goes to the hospital, gets sent home with nothing but paracetamol. A month or so later her skin is literally GREY and she is feeling worse than ever, can hardly get out of bed. She ends up being admitted for emergency surgery. The surgeon said her blood was almost septic and her bowels were ROTTING in her belly. Luckily she survived and is okay now. But a negligent dr could have cost her her life.

[@teensy88]

Hospitals are so evil 😢

[@ToniaJane]

"In the name of the moon - I bless you!" ~* Smoke and glitter shower*~

[@yomi1786]

The doctor run around is normal in the US too. As a kid I had multiple docs tell me i was faking because they couldnt figure out what was wrong. It was appendicitis, and since they waited so long it lead to kidney failure as well

[@lemondew8138]

First story sounds similar to what happened to me as far as being easily dismissed by doctors. I almost died from covid in December 2020. 11 days on ventilator and many other issues lead me to require a medical port implanted( like a chemo port). I crashed during the surgery and ended up with an infection. A few days after getting home I felt worst and my doctor sent me to urgent care and urgent care sent me directly to the ER. Hospital doc looks at me, prescribed a different antibiotic and sent me home without running tests. I just kept feeling worse and my doctor sent me to a different hospital where the surgeon was currently working. I was seen right away after triage and sent to get scans and blood work then out of nowhere a doctor comes to me and explains that I have sepsis AND a massive pulmonary embolism in the main artery of my lung. Almost killed me and had another pulmonary embolism while on blood thinners just 2 weeks later lol Doctors should at least run basic tests before sending people home.

[@morganablackwater2017]

"the ocean is in your tent" ...I lost it when you said that 🤣🤣🤣

[@davidguidry657]

Lemme get this straight. Dude sets up his tent in a clearly marked floodplain and gets flooded? And the screaming didn’t stop the flooding?! The audacity of Mother Nature to be out and about in…nature. 😂🤣

[@LazyIRanch]

Who would do something so stupid!... Oh, wait... In my early 20s, my boyfriend and I went camping with friends but didn't get to the campsite at the lake until after sundown. We were lucky enough to find this nice wide flat sandy area where there were no tents, yay! Thankfully, it didn't rain that night. Unfortunately, in the morning light we saw the huge sign right next to our campsite, warning about it being a flood plain. We broke camp and carried our gear back to our cars, doing the walk of shame while the real campers who knew what they were doing laughed their butts off at us!😟

[@brigittegill808]

That first story is exactly like what happened to me when I had to get my gallbladder removed. I was in excruciating pain, it felt like my ribs were being pulled out one by one and my spine being ripped out, we spent three days going to the ER and they refused to take me seriously. At one point my mom came home to me screaming on the floor in the fetal position. She called the ambulance and the first thing the paramedic asked her was if I had just broken up with a boyfriend. Finally when they were about to turn me away again without even looking at me, I screamed at the ER nurses that I wasnt leaving, I needed to see someone, and that they needed to find out what the hell was wrong(I was in so much pain I dont even remember this, my mom was in the room with me). I was given a bed, but still treated as a nuisance. FINALLY they discovered the pain was due to gallstones that were being blocked from passing due to my gallbladder being severely inflamed. So they had to completely remove my gallbladder.

[@_Crossiant_Perception_]

Sue that hospital.

[@LazyIRanch]

Lemmee guess, did they tell your Mom that you were "too young" to have gallstones? That nonsense about asking if you'd broken up with a boyfriend would have made me want to knock them out. What an insensitive, stupid thing to say! If they can't tell the difference between severe physical pain and pining for a boyfriend, they've got no business being in healthcare.

[@brigittegill808]

@@LazyIRanch It was four years ago so I was I was like 23 or 24 so I dont know if they said I was too young. But It got even worse when my mom had to disclose I was Bipolar. The paramedic instantly wrote me off as "having an episode". My mom recently told me when I brought up the whole thing that she almost yelled at them what a manic episode ACTUALLY looks like but knew it would make no difference.

[@Nervidi]

That last part about that flight was hilarious,😂😂 it just gave me a stomach ache

[@wendylou8963]

Canadian here. I kept telling doctors that there was something wrong. They all said it was in my head. Kept pushing and finally after I yelled at a gynecologist she was not going to touch me again after trying to do a procedure 5 x, in came the doctor that saved my life. He painlessly did the procedure (the other doc was female) and the results were indeed cancer. I still have a hard time talking to my family physician. I'd rather go to the ER.

[@Kirsten1313]

Sipping my tea, watching my daily dose of Charlotte! ♥️

[@Kirsten1313]

@ForgiveZharion 🙏🏼 hope you get it!

[@lugenewhittenberger1983]

​@ForgiveZharionI just subscribed. Good luck!

[@joylimar]

I’m puertorican and 24, when I was 12, I was diagnosed with osteosarcoma high-grade on my left femur, thankfully it was discovered JUST one time because when I bent my niece, somehow the pain reflected a little bit lower almost on the knee. I don’t think I would have liked to have gotten cancer in Canada because my type of cancer goes very quickly to the lungs if not treated on time and I could’ve died before my Quinceañera. The only orthopedic oncologist in Puerto Rico didn’t work in the pediatric field at the time, who would have known that being on the heavier side, my whole life would’ve saved my life (almost)

[@heymsparker2816]

With that first story, the exact same thing happened to my bf when we were in college. He stopped eating, lost A LOT of weight, shitting blood, and severely malnourished. He was in and out of the hospital for a year. But they kept sending him home. Very hard on us. One night he came into the room and told me he loved me and that he cherishes our relationship - essentially saying his goodbyes to me. I literally rushed him back to the hospital only to find out he had sepsis and his colon was 6x the size of a normal colon. Chrons/bowels issues are NO JOKE. Take them seriously. So glad that girl survived. 🙏🏼 Edit: ironically the girl who ended up on the cover of an ex’s album also happened to me 😅

[@heymsparker2816]

@@viol3tsparrow wow, I should’ve added that part in there, but yes he did! He ended up with an ostomy bag, but he’s living a full life now.

[@MicaBlackwell]

Ended up in a similar situation to the first story when I was 18. I was feeling sick and feverish after going on holiday with my family and noticed my breast was inflamed. Went to the GP where they said it was an infection and to just leave it. After I felt worse and noticed the inflamed area getting bigger turning into a lump, I was referred to the hospital where I found out I had a giant abscess in my breast. Cue weeks of constant scans and draining out the pus, but it kept on filling up after a few days. In the end I needed surgery to remove it (my first time), where I was absolutely exhausted and had to have further appointments to change the dressing because they left the wound open. When I told the doctors what happened at my initial GP appointment, they were shocked I never got antibiotics which could've prevented all of this happening. Ended up missing 2 months of school (studying my A levels) and a giant scar on my breast because my GP wouldn't give me a few tablets.

[@moonshine4049]

Omg. My poor aunt had a diarreah issue at Disney. She was humiliated standing in the bathroom with no bottoms on,washing them and airdrying them, sobbing. Breaks my heart.

[@WeirdSnakeGal]

The flooded tent makes me think of the ordeal my sister went through barely a couple of weeks ago. She went on a kayaking trip drown the Rhone river. Something like over 500km long. She and her friend set camp one night and woke up flooded because they didn't know they were in an area that gets flooded when they open barrages. Their kayaks were gone and they had to be rescued by helicopters. They had to cut their trip short obviously. Turns out, it was a blessing in disguise because if that hadn't happen, she would still be on that trip and there have been massive dangerous floods these past few days in France. She could have been caught in the middle of that. Thankfully she was safe at home instead.

[@KuroDokueki]

Usually, looking up symptoms is bad and leads you down the wrong rabbit hole. But with Crohn's? I've seen time and time again, how TRUE it is. Most people seem to only realize they may have Crohn's by looking their symptoms up. Most doctor's don't think of it, or take it into consideration. So, sometimes, looking up symptoms is a lifesaver.

[@FluffyCoww]

It’s been 2-3 months that my cycle started acting weird and I have just random symptoms here and there. Im a med student and i know how early symptoms can be helpful to prevent something big. So literally today i rushed to clinic, do all checks and consultations, even my family and boyfriend thinks it’s little overreaction to do so much just because of this random symptom : like i have pain in kidney area or my period is late last couple months or that i have morning sickness sometimes (no I’m not pregnant) for me it’s calming to know l’m healthy 😅 since i wanted everything to be done for tomorrow i paid for everything and I’m so glad that i live in country when one can afford healthcare like that.

[@TreiaSaint]

I think the majority of ppl can relate to the 1st. Had back pain since my pregnancy and got worse after the epidural and delivery. For 5 years I complained and asked for anything and all I got was to go to therapy, which made the pain worse. Finally a different dr listened to me after I told her I was getting scared cause my legs feel like they are “failing me” and got a simple X-ray to start. Not only was the hernia very visible but my spine was deviated by 1cm. It wasn’t just a simple pain it was really pinching my nerve and that’s why I was stumbling over. Now finally I’m getting things done for it…. Only took 5 years of pain and tears. The worst part is I can’t even pick up my daughter this whole time cause of the pain. I feel like I’ve missed out on parts of her growing up. 2: the last part: I always get a vegan or non dairy vegetarian meal on planes beforehand cause it’s prepared separate from the rest of the meals 😅. Also I’m allergic to dairy so it’s a must lol.