People You Shouldn't Fall In Love With

[@GoneButNotGone]

“Throw out the ideal, and build something real” is the takeaway from this. Good advice that unfortunately may take a few broken hearts and a divorce to learn.

[@coffeejunkie4193]

Sometimes it taking the road most travels won’t lead to anything. Sometimes you got to take the dirt road to get the waterfall. It’s rocky and rough but the journey is worth the reward.

[@Vladimyrful]

Did you really learn something new, honestly? I bet all of us were aware of this 'wisdom'.

[@cg8846z]

​@@Vladimyrfulobjectively, we all know this on some level...

[@Vladimyrful]

@@cg8846z Agreed.

[@WithmeVerissimusWhostoned]

on the other hand, if you let go of your dreams they sure won't happen.

[@mitthrawnuruodo1730]

It was when I learned to fully accept being alone that I finally stopped feeling lonely.

[@ShumuStudios]

Agreed, well said

[@Lesistius]

This is literally it. How can you expect people to love being with you, when you can’t love being with yourself.

[@AvoidTheCadaver]

One who is able to be happy and content while being alone is one who would make a good partner because they already know how to handle being with the most difficult partner.

[@himanshu6472]

Me to mate i think its the thought process thats make the whole difference in my 23 years of life i have never been loved by a girl

[@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr]

I'm 34 years old and I'm still learning to be alone. I've been alone for a long time. I want to be alone, I just don't want to be alone with my problems of being me.

[@jameskulevich8907]

My Ma would say, “Make sure you ‘like’ the person you’re going to marry more than you ‘love’ them; with time love fades.”

[@N28-h9m]

Starting to make more sense now that I am over 30

[@trip_t2122]

You mean to try and focus on their 'non-romantic' traits?

[@harshabhigyan928]

This is actually amazing. Your ma was crazy wise

[@WithmeVerissimusWhostoned]

'time' is a concept of people who hallucinate the reality,.. and also if you make love your state of being instead of a 'gift' you give to others you can maintain it forever.

[@srinavin]

Wow

[@kemoni221]

As a 22 year old single man, I do not fear staying single anymore. I’ve witnessed too many rushed relationships turn ugly, and just enough friendships that blossomed into beautiful couples to believe that I’ll make it too. We all will.

[@kemoni221]

@ how is this relevant?

[@X1DOUBT]

22 and single as well, just recently realized that looking for love is a task I don't even have the energy for anymore I always thought, like the video mentioned, that love is just something that HAPPENS effortlessly but then came the realization that it's, in fact, very externalizing and draining to seek it all the time. Just happy for the homies that went through all that already and found love and WAGMI or whatever

[@being5743]

Uhmmm. Seriously guys?? I'm a 31 year old guy who's been single since high school. I've realized the same on my later years but you're too young to give up. Just enjoy looking for love but don't force yourself to it.

[@Katasa_____nova]

Lol you’re too young to be jumping to any massive conclusions about the world chileeee

[@Surovi-er4pb]

@@being5743your also too young to give up as well. All the best of luck!

[@erikbianco78]

Even KZbin now is telling me just to give up

[@finaldestination41]

Life sucks

[@majam8955]

ikr

[@khairul_pjam]

Not youtube. But the creator.

[@Wuwei32]

Love yourself.

[@bboyneon92]

No, KZbin said it's possible that love can happen if you seek it. But, consciously while working on yourself. And, that's not a promise that you'll absolutely find love. But, you wouldn't regret it if you didn't.

[@ChronoTriggers]

This channel should be called the pursuit of melancholy and the infinite sadness.

[@anachronistofer]

Either you didn't watch the entire video or you didn't understand it.

[@justbrian_47]

Smashing Pumpkins...

[@RealWildWalter]

exactly what i was thibking but i guess it’s technically Mellon Collie?

[@kevinkerr9310]

How can you know happiness without sadness?

[@Zaftrabuda]

great album

[@OmniTarget13]

I used to think that finding “the one” would be the solution to all my problems, but I’ve learned that love isn’t perfect or easy, as it takes a lot of effort, and it’s not going to fix everything. Just gotta work on myself first instead of hoping someone else will make me feel complete.

[@DWSP101]

Finally, somebody who uses common sense congratulations. You’re one of the few people who understand this meaning and yes, it’s a lot of work.

[@塩山マヴィ]

​@k2sworld exactly. True love is pretty much like a coop mode in a video game. The game itself is already fun and fulfilling when played solo, but playing coop with a partner just gives a different experience of the same game. It can make the game easier or hard in certain aspects, but it doesn't necessarily make the experience "better" or "worse."

[@Canvaschronicles-0]

The true meaning of "the one" is actually what you have said

[@rahulsawhney1279]

What the hell? dude it is a COMMON SENSE. LITERALLY EVERY PEOPLE NOW THIS.

[@derrellbryant3930]

When you stop looking for the one and realize that you are the one that can make you happy that's when you are on the road to happiness

[@Stoitism]

I had my heart broken 4 times between the ages of 16 and 31. Then I stayed single for 7 years. Then I took a chance on someone I never expected to meet and some 4 years down the line, had my heart broken again. It's been almost 2.5 years since the last time and I won't make that mistake again. I get lonesome sometimes, sure. I'm only human. But I spend more time not feeling lonesome, so it's ok. No dating, no hookups, no situationships, nothing. Just me and the peace I have fought tooth and nail for. "There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isnt. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes" - Henry Cloud.

[@thatmovieguy7778]

It just sucks that when you get a taste of love it's hard to go back to being on your own.. sometimes it's like what's so wrong with me that they don't want to stick around for the long run..

[@Diarrheagod]

What did you mean when you said “you never expected to meet”…was this an online relationship?

[@Stoitism]

@thatmovieguy7778 Mate sometimes you can do everything right and still lose. It's a hard lesson to learn, but a valuable one.

[@mrmalio]

​@thatmovieguy7778 Most times it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact that whether or not they admit it they are oppurtunist that in their minds got a better deal elsewhere.

[@ImKezo-kq4pq]

wish you the best man and I'm sorry for all those heartbreaks

[@anachronistofer]

It seems to me the modern world often presents an unrealistic ideal of what love is, a fantasy version of it. It sets our expectations much too high and inevitably most of us will be disappointed. Instead, we should strive toward realistic expectations, forgiveness, and patience. Nothing is perfect and never will be.

[@tevbuff]

@anachronistofer I agree ☝🏾💯. Our modern conception of love is unrealistic.

[@ChineduOpara]

Well-said.

[@federicocherchi6493]

Exactly what i think. No disney movie plots or adrenaline pumping moments. Just slowly welcoming that person in your life, and making them an extension of yourself, and vice versa. A shoulder for both to hold on to. Nothing over the top, just the feeling that it will all be okay

[@skiller0386]

that's why im single again

[@Katasa_____nova]

@@federicocherchi6493Yess a shoulder for both to hold on to and someone to do 50% of the life maintenance that is a burden off you. It really comes down to practicality as opposed to all this emotional nonsense

[@arn3107]

i like how i open these up hoping to learn profound life lessons, but just end up realizing that i already knew everything presented in the video

[@SenhorAlien]

Some years ago I was hopelessly entranced by so many different things I could learn, but now anything that isn't some scientific innovation or related to technology or hard sciences feels like "yeah, I've seen/thought that before"

[@matyasnovak9539]

you are a wise man, we all have so much to learn from you

[@arn3107]

@@matyasnovak9539 i assure you i'm not... i'm not even a grown man...

[@arn3107]

@@SenhorAlien maybe try focusing on creating things instead!!

[@arn3107]

@@matyasnovak9539 i assure you i am not 😅

[@DaCasualMMA]

I actually thought this was beautiful. Ultimately love is a decision we make everyday.

[@seemranhoro]

Soo true ❤

[@Katasa_____nova]

The ending was very nice

[@frozi1541]

I love refrigirators.

[@Wkumar07]

I've been married for 14 years and, like any other couple, we have had our ups and downs. Lately we've been struggling, but we have stayed together. The reality is that life apart would be far more difficult than life together.

[@Young_Dab]

It's called attachment. When your with someone for so long it feels unnatural to no longer be with them. Your partner has became your other half probably 6 months after the relationship began.

[@Wkumar07]

@Young_Dab that makes sense

[@ALEXANDERATTACK]

Or they are your person and you two are destined to go about this life together.

[@yashgupta2912]

"Love won't be perfect but it would be real "

[@Stranger_In_The_Alps]

Most men I know value their peace more than anything dating has to offer. So they choose to remain single

[@arn3107]

most men you know aren't miserable, i imagine sadly most men you DON'T know are...

[@NikosM112]

Most men are single, because they have no options compared to the average woman.

[@CraigStCyrPlus]

It took me 5 serious relationships to realize nobody is better company than myself. I don't add stress to my life, I remove it.

[@lu5445]

Its better to want a relationship and not have it than to have it and not want it. Everyone needs to learn this on their own tho, “the grass is always greener on the other side” so doesn’t really matter which side you’re on, you’ll still wonder if you’re missing something.

[@reddykilowatt]

That’s called making a virtue out of necessity 😂

[@donniecatalano]

Next year I will celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary. We are ok, thing change with age, sometimes a bit up, sometimes a bit down. I wouldn't change anything.

[@voodoochile4147]

💜

[@ProLaytonxPhoenix]

Anyone with sense would understand that what you got IS love. Finding what you got is very hard.

[@mygirldarby]

I celebrated my 25th wedding anniversary in February of last year. Three months later I got very sick and my husband left me. I loved him with all my heart and he always expressed the same. We were planning to finally achieve our dreams of moving to the coast and never in a million years would I have believed he would have left me to die. He walked out rather than call an ambulance for me. 25 years doesn't mean it is forever. 20% of men leave their wives when the wife develops a serious illness. Only 2.5% of women seek a divorce when their husband gets a serious illness. I only heard directly from my (ex) husband one time after he left. He wrote me an email that said he was sorry. That he just wasn't "strong" enough but that he would always love me. I guess he doesn't understand that cowardice is anathema to love.

[@donniecatalano]

@mygirldarby so sorry to hear that. Maybe I will die tomorrow morning, so yes, nothing is actually forever.

[@Oldrockrules]

@@mygirldarby My wife is in that 2.5%. She left me after I had a series of back to back health issues, the latest hyperthyroidism brought on by Covid. We were married 31 years and I thought we were one of the couples that were forever. In our family and social group we were inseparable. Sadly she decided to go with the 80% of women that divorce their husbands for myriad of made up reasons.

[@Deenoboy4444]

Choosing to remain single is a persons way of saying they just want peace in their life without the need of validation from another person. Self Love is the key!

[@JoffreyGeenen]

This video goes deeper than just breaking the illusion of perfect relationships, it's applicable to expectations as a whole, the pitfall into deep sadness is believing that happiness and success are guaranteed and that those things also should have clear aesthetic. I really felt something deeply with this video, thank you.

[@kayskreed]

Romance and love are completely different animals. To be "in love" (romance) is different from love proper. The first is just infatuation, whereas the latter is deeply rooted in care and respect. I think part of the issue is that most people can't distinguish these since we misuse the same word for it ("love"). Also, there's the problem where everyone wants to be loved, but no one knows truly what that means, let alone how to love back in turn. Because love is not merely a noun, but a verb also. To love is a choice, an action, not a feeling. Lastly, I agree that the "One" is a very destructive concept if meant to represent another person. The closest thing to the "one" we can ever hope to achieve is within ourselves.

[@roysmith5597]

Very wise words. Love is a dance between people who mirror the other's inner world, so that each comes to know both themselves and the other. It is a skill to learn and practice, rather than a reward that is found. It is a path of growth, and one of life's greatest endeavors.

[@definite11]

I'm glad this video exists. I have always felt this way about life, i never felt like i needed to have love after living alone for a couple years. Then i met someone, and as much as i love them, i know im okay without them. But they do make things more enjoyable, so why not try. I see a lot of comments about people choosing to be single because they were hurt. I've had people walk away as fast as they came and changed my world for those moments. But I always knew that people come and go, and their exits never made me feel like i needed to only be alone for peace. Both give me the same amount of comfort to an extent. I always felt like i was wrong for not being too hurt about break-ups even when i gave my all. This video just helps put it in words for me. Realizing life is a guaranteed up and down battle in many ways which can hurt a person, its comforting that it means im not unlucky. If this partner doesnt work out, thats okay, it happens to all of us, so ill just accept the terms if ill be here for a while. Great video man!

[@BazaarGameTradingDracut]

This might be my favorite video of yours and I’ve watched all of them. So touching

[@cynp9431]

This might be my favorite video in the world. I am grateful to have found it at this time. It is too late to change the choices I've made about love before, but now I am equipped to choose differently. I don't know what it means to me yet. But thank you for this video, all the same.

[@erikaskag]

The encouragment I need in this hour, havin been single my whole life

[@finaldestination41]

U r not alone fr

[@RichardHartl]

Same. I had a close friend we would hold hands together although nothing more. She died sadly. Then met someone else that made me feel healed from the intense pain but she ended up with an older coworker of mine that left his wife for her. Too much pain and suffering it lead me to depression. I've since picked myself up, expressed all my feelings, went into therapy, and hired a personal training. I'm back in the ring ready to keep fighting

[@philosense]

I appreciate the emphasis on realistic expectations, effort, and growth in relationships instead of chasing unattainable ideals.

[@zenmodeplease]

Find someone who can try to work with you through whatever come up … that is love . Because you have no idea what’s coming towards you in life 😌 Life will continue to surprise and shock us … so someone who will continue holding hands through it all is the perfect companion.

[@trishalsuvarna]

Your perspectives are always intriguing to me and I think they are worth listening to. I love how you phrase your words and the video content synchronises and completes what you try to complete. You even talk about your sponsors in a unique way and how you blend it in your videos.

[@Davidsavage8008]

Love is more of an example of sacrifices made for the betterment of others . willingly caring for someone or thing.

[@Atima.]

"Work toward and learn to love, make it a goal like anything else, not to attain, but to get better at" ♥️

[@janycebrown4071]

The only thing that you actually have is YOURSELF ❤️ Be kind to yourself ❣️

[@Collien-n5b]

0:13 starting off strong 😂

[@BoobieSinclair]

Dude, I love you channel. I am 22 on a life journey of being my best self! Your channel has helped me explore so much! Keep doing what you’re doing💕

[@maheshshahmaheshshah7797]

"the finest and serene form of love is, in it's unearthly faintness. It's not unconditional love but rather assimilating him or her's unearthlyness. Love astonishingly begins to fade, the moment you began to stroll endlessly within the silent fields, as the infinite crawls can only be preserved and indwelled is transcending further, aware of it's faintness."

[@sama.5380]

i’m 31 and just being dumped by someone i really love. it sucks when you thought that she is the one but she isn’t. now i’m feeling so lonely and can’t even enjoy anything. i’m just empty.

[@ridgegameren6921]

Me too brother, was just dumped by the most amazing girl after 5 years because of my own blindness and inadequacies. We’ll be alright, time to build.

[@sama.5380]

@ be strong brother!

[@lanceandrew1319]

Not much else to do but move forward. For yourself. The world is big. And it keeps on turning. And each and everyone of those 8 billion people from it will keep on moving. You should, too, as well. Don't stop for anyone because they didn't stop for you. Focus on your work, move up the ladder. Work out/exercise, get that "revenge body". Eat the best food out there, the ones you always crave or the ones you've always wanted to get a taste of. Do sky diving, or learn how to DJ, or write a comicbook. Just don't stop for anyone else and let them be the one to chase you.

[@unLuckyFetus]

Sorry to hear about that man. Luckily I can't relate 🥹

[@dorkdork4471]

​@@unLuckyFetus 2nd part is unneccessary

[@gregoryrowlerson8457]

"And to occasionally triumph over the hardships together." Part of some wonderful prose around 9:10, 9:30 👏

[@eddieloujones2673]

I found that each time I had my heart broken, the time to recover was longer than the recovery from the previous heartbreak. I have had so many that I no longer am willing to try again. I am cool with that and my life is very peaceful.

[@Macriné98]

This is a bit off-topic but I just wanted to share since everybody is writing their stories. I'm 26 years old and never been in a relationship. Years go by and I don't even get a hug. I'm a girl and have been dealing with an eating disorder for a long time which isolated me even more. For some reason though, day by day I feel less worried. I love reading books and if I manage to starve for a long time, classical music starts to sound painfully majestic. I try to think that so long as I have access to books, life shall be tolerable. My father is an orthodox priest and when I was younger he said: I named you after Saint Macrine, she was a Christian nun, but the name itself means distressed, futile and abandoned. Somewhere along the lines, I realised that I'm living up to my name.

[@trip_t2122]

I'm 26 too and I've never been in a relationship. It's mostly due to my psychology; I don't have a secure attachment style. I don't have a solution but I hope you beat that eating disorder and that you get a loving relationship eventually.

[@artlover3120]

Girl, same !! I'm 26, and coming from a traditional culture, relationships are based on marriage only so no bf / gf thing, which makes me think really well before getting involved in a marriage. Peace of mind and self love are my main goal now.. Everything else will come at the right time..

[@Rithmy]

You deserve a relationship with someone that hugs you. Stand up for your needs. THere are plenty of lonely people that want to be with you.

[@TheKrispyfort]

There are professional huggers, should you need/want a break from the touch starvation

[@sostoopid5668]

I'm 25 and never been in a relationship because alot of reason, I'm so picky and I'm serious to think about it so I don't want to fail and make a mistake. I'm just too perfctionist maybe the relationship doesn't suit me.

[@Gyatttmunch]

Funny this is recommended to me the same day that a real messy divorce went viral in my country that led to the man taking his own life. I dreaded being alone in love and intimacy, now I realise that loving yourself should be the primary goal.

[@Aquabyte]

Atul case?

[@Gyatttmunch]

@ yeah, just so unfortunate and depressing

[@Aquabyte]

@@Gyatttmunch It is. Well you are right about loving yourself always should be the primary goal.

[@ThisisBrandi]

This is the kind of real support I need in my life. 😉

[@layalalmoghrabi5675]

Love this channel. Your videos can never be bad or unentertaining.

[@doublestarships646]

My soulmate is a beautiful Native American woman who has a lot of issues that come with her but we literally need each other everyday and we are practically in love. I always tell her that I hope we can stay in love after this life and into the next because there's no world or universe where I can be happy without her.

[@διαβόητο23φάντασμα]

Not going to work

[@--Spidy--]

@@διαβόητο23φάντασμα ok Einstein

[@liam78587]

Not going to work

[@GabrielXDrums]

@@liam78587ok diddy

[@zwagig1761]

May your love transcend time

[@mgtowmister]

I cannot decide which hurt more... the years of being alone before I ever found love, or the years since I lost it.

[@Thepickle12344]

It was called the ‘love paradox’ it’s been changed because negative titles get more clicks.. I think this is a really optimistic video..

[@mauricenorden3665]

The title can be labeled as "clickbait" but i see it more as an reflection on myself. Not falling in love is because i can't find love. But because i don't love myself. That's the first step (for me at least) to learn how to love. Maybe it will work out. Maybe it won't. But at least i have a goal now. Thanks for this video and i hope someone else sees his/himself in this comment.

[@lorensims4846]

Love is life. Life is love.

[@hroxaxgaming1699]

I watched almost every video and none of them had failed to make me think. So for that i thank you with all my heart. ❤

[@MingMoonrider]

This video came out on my birthday. thank you for the new clarity

[@62Movement]

Happy Birthday. And Merry Merry Happy Happy Joy Joy Fun Fun Holiday season!

[@TairyHesticles]

I'm 36. I had several relationships throughout life, but none that I would consider really loving. Things came to a breaking point with my ex wife, whom I had been married to for a couple years. I left my house, started a divorce, and finally admitted that love was either not real or simply not for me. I wasn't going to put myself through that pain again, just to be taken advantage of once more. Then, just a few weeks later, I found someone so perfect for me that it still doesn't make sense that she exists. After years of searching endlessly for love, I found love when I wasnt even looking for it. Life is funny like that sometimes.

[@ALEXANDERATTACK]

You had me in the first part.

[@VenomLeon]

While I understand why many men nowadays choose to remain single, what I however do fear is that this topic about remaining single just helps men to stay where they are and not take any more chances, because it's mostly the negatives and risks that get promoted. It's a rampant topic on the web, and honestly, I'm concerned.

[@samueleborn9909]

I agree. This really seems to be used as an excuse to not take chances anymore. It does not bode well for social wellbeing

[@stefano7868]

I think "chance" is a very misleading and potentially dangerous concept. In my experience, it's far easier to believe that relationships are flat-out impossible because you're going to fail A LOT. Like you're going to fail way more than you succeed. It's not a matter of "trying until you succeed", because you also have limited energy and you're going to get mentally and emotionally exhausted VERY quickly, and that's a pain that almost never heals. You need to carefully manage your "resources" and perform cost-benefit analysis. You can't throw yourself at every single person you like and expect it to work even 90% of the time -- that's like playing every single lottery and expecting to win in the first few attempts. Pain from rejection and exhaustion build up. We're not infinite wells of energy, we're constrained by our minds, bodies, and emotions. I believe that choosing to take chances is just as dangerous and unhealthy as choosing not to. Choosing not to take those chances is better because you conserve resources that otherwise would be highly likely to be wasted otherwise. Self-help advice usually revolves around the idea of "don't think, just ask them out" but that makes the very unsound, illogical, and unsafe assumption that it will always bring progress. Rejection isn't what wears people down, it's the loss of energy that does. The information/experience you gain from rejection almost always tends to be insufficient to make up for the what you lost.

[@puttfordoughdiscgolf9361]

@@samueleborn9909 I've taken a lot of chances in my life. I've been in love in several serious relationships, traveled to 23 countries, lived off grid alone, worked two of my dream jobs, plus multiple other achievements all before 35 years old. After experiencing all those things and their ups and down, I currently strive for the least amount of up and down and just steady peace. I'm content with not taking major chances anymore.

[@xul5042]

Certain laws need to be removed in order for it to be worth it.

[@stefano7868]

@@xul5042 What do you mean by that? Like taxation laws for marital status, the messiness of legal separation, or…

[@tmannintendo]

Kind of just waiting till I die at this point.

[@SetariM]

Same. Got my self-retirement plan all set up so no one has to take care of me in "old age" or if I become unable to take care of myself in some capacity.

[@t--w5203]

what a sad existence. There’s so much worth doing excluding romance. Become the best uncle/auntie. Coach some kids. Learn and pass on a skill to the next generation. Become spiritual. You have something worth doing other than dying my friend. 🤝

[@a.modestproposal2038]

Having a "meaningful" i.e. happy life is something you can do with or without a relationship. Happiness never originates in an externality you do not control -- it's the result of having inspiring long term goals, making choices progressing you in the direction of those goals, and experiencing increasing satisfaction with that progress in the present. A romantic relationship is simply one of many vehicles in which you can do that. Any such vehicle may leave you stranded on the roadside at which point you accept it's time consider what other vehicle may be more appropriate to your purpose. The meaning is the behavior of the driver, not the vehicle.

[@georgeedward1226]

Peace of mind is far, far, far more important than love.

[@Joshy2-E]

Build your values, and find those who align with them, make every little choice in your life count, because everything builds and adds to who you end up being, and continue to evolve into.

[@pHixiq]

“It’s not about finding someone without bullshit, it’s finding someone with bullshit you are willing to deal with” The realest thing I’ve ever been told and I’ll take it with me for the rest of my life

[@RichMitch]

So... Do nothing?

[@MrTchupam]

Yup… that’s what I’ve been doing. Not going very well I gotta admit it.

[@arn3107]

​@@MrTchupamyou'll get there, dw keep your spirits up

[@arn3107]

@LifeShouldNotExist1 "nothing" in this case obviously means "nothing in terms of getting a relationship"

[@anachronistofer]

Either you didn't watch the entire video or you didn't understand it.

[@arn3107]

@LifeShouldNotExist1 okay but i want you to at least acknowledge that the context is different

[@dwezil6225]

That’s a video someone with a broken heart or that lost someone will do, Love is real and ethereal

[@NotOmni]

God damnit pursuit, why is this right on time?

[@finaldestination41]

Lol

[@Shiftingreubix]

My dad says he will not give his blessing if I am trying to merry before 25, he says people change too much and only start to settle into who they are after 25. I believe him, if you merry someone before then you don't really know what type of person you will be with after they change.

[@RichardJames-ur5vi]

15 years ago I got my first two puppies and, despite having been through relationships for 20 years and having a daughter, it was the first time I experienced unconditional love. Today I still have a best friend, companion, and experience a connection no human is capable of offering.

[@gregoryrowlerson8457]

❤

[@Rithmy]

I mean the dogs are completly reliant on you. Of course they give you everything they have. Humans can't offer this type of subservient love. Humans can offer love between equals..

[@RichardJames-ur5vi]

​@@Rithmy No - incorrect. My dogs and I interact on equal terms and are equals. We are co-dependent on one another, it's a symbiotic relationship which benefits and enhances the life experience of both parties. The basis of animal - including human - exploitation and cruelty is not treating all life as of equal value and with equal respect. This is what animal and humans rights are based on, accepting that all life is equal and is to be treated as such.

[@ChineduOpara]

​@RichardJames-ur5vi We hear you, and we all love dogs. But your logic is, and always will be, fundamentally flawed because we humans can NEVER _truly_ communicate with lower animals (even if we think our pets "get" us).

[@Rithmy]

@@RichardJames-ur5vi You are co-dependent? DO you even know what that means? Here a definition: "codependency is a theory that attempts to explain imbalanced relationships where one person enables another person's self-destructive behavior" From what you write im sure you are not codependent. Lets face it. The dog relies on your goodwill for its existantial survival. Meanwhile you rely on the dog to compensate for your emotions. Thats not equal. You have absolut power over that dog. ITs a hierarchy and the only way to solve it would be a very special case of befriending an animal without buying it, without owning, and without feeding or housing it. If the animal lives nearby and visits you often then its a friendship. If you feed and house it, then you dog is simply your baby. Nothing wrong with that. And i m glad that you treat your dog well. But your dog is not in a position to disagree with you, because its existence is in your grasp.

[@RedRandy]

I honestly had someone real than an idea i hope. Someone i had was really close to me, i loved her but loosing myself was the key to loosing everything. I wished I didnt

[@omgitsarjun]

This video 5 mins ago was called "why you should (probably) stay single" what a revamp lol

[@reaperandyel]

Love, like everything else, is not perfect. But there's beauty in imperfection.

[@7gdnz]

You have to love yourself first before trying to find someone to love. Your self esteem will get crushed otherwise, they will twist your words or use your weaknesses to gain ground when a relationship is supposed to be equal footing. That’s why some men stop trying, give up relationships and settle for 1 night stands or stay single

[@leviathan5207]

Daniel Sloss said: "If you love yourself 20% and someone comes along who loves you 30% you'll be like 'WOW THAT'S A LOT', whilst it's literally less than 50%. You need to love yourself 100%, because then anyone who comes a long, has to go above and beyond" And that really resonated with me.

[@artofcujo]

Love is the same as friendship in the sense that you gotta stick by your friends and if they truly care for you they'll do the same. The one is the person who chooses to stick with you and grow, not the person who makes you feel validated

[@No-Stack-Developer]

Ah yes. My daily dose of copium

[@finaldestination41]

Lol😅

[@raphaelyana7975]

Great video, thank you! I particularly the aspect where you compare pyschologist's points of view and theories. Please continue this format

[@shreyanmajumder5364]

Believe me guyz....find someone who loves you back and is compatible with you in the longrun.... don't rush into immediate decisions. It is beautiful when you have someone to share your life with. Loneliness sucks !

[@_Eric._]

Exactly, I just met the love of my life not so long ago and she gives me peace and makes me happy as I do the same to her. I do admit it is difficult to find that rare perfect woman who doesn't give you much trouble if none at all. I was single my whole life and had only dated once, rejected 2 girls, been rejected twice and was friendzoned for most of my life until I stopped trying/caring and worked on myself. Think that's what people need to do more than anything, work on themselves and let the right person find them. Damn I feel corny now But more than anything I got tired of being alone, I was bored as I was already satisfied with myself and started feeling lonely again right before I ran into my now girlfriend

[@austiinos]

ive had to learn the hard way that love is an additional thing shared with that person. I learned to do my best to love myself. To not bring down the person you want to be with. Support and being there is what counts. Timing can rip it apart. Do what you love and love can follow. Dont chase it is all.

[@Cjspectre7782]

The irony is every time I start feeling at peace, and even happy being single: some one wants to start talking to me, and eventually be in a relationship with me😂

[@coffeejunkie4193]

That’s just the way it plays out. Just got to sort through the bad apples until one catches your eye. Being able tie step back and excepting being single is the best way to get a partner. People need to stop looking and just step back and let themselves get found.

[@Cjspectre7782]

​@@coffeejunkie4193 absolutely

[@LifeMyAsJoana223]

I love this video. My “one” the one I love he is everything and even more I ever asked for. And as we are growing together I see this need of protecting this love between us. I have to protect him, from the world, he is too precious, he enriches my life in ways I never thought it would. This man makes me feel beautiful and loved, but not everything is roses. I sometimes feel abandoned and triggered but he never abandoned me. He is just a different person from me and that makes it even better. Sometimes I wonder why he loves me. I feel so corny sometimes or insecure, and I make mistakes and he still loves me. He just told me to accept the fact he loves me and it has been hard not gonna lie. Never thought I could be loved like this. Like I know this life doesn’t end that well but fuck if I get to be the lucky chick that gets old with this guy by my side I die with a smile on my face. There’s no words to describe him. I love you soo much baby. I really do ❤

[@raymondmiller5098]

NO WIFE. = HAPPY LIFE !

[@Valenciano87]

💯

[@opticalraven1935]

Love is a choice. We chose to love people.

[@Shisha2025]

Change the name of the channel to The Pursuit of Sadness.

[@That1_CopDude]

100%

[@ANTINATALIST_lewis]

totaly agree

[@--Spidy--]

ikr dude look at all these depressed people in the comments D:

[@derasor]

The vast majority of humans are not ready for this kind of wisdom. It is the ultimate level though, and it is simply beautiful. And I just wanted to thank you

[@GoAskAlice23]

I agree with you that the ability to sleep well with another person speaks volumes.

[@TheKrispyfort]

I've had that once. Someone I could sleep peacefully next to. But he decided someone else was better for him, his needs, and his goals. I didn't know that I needed to be able to sleep peacefully next to the other person before. Now, I can't un-know it

[@likespie1001]

Something I realized which helped me move in the right direction is that if I can’t make myself happy, then how can I expect to make a girl happy? Overtime I had to ask myself some serious questions like “would I be a different, happier person with a wife/ gf, or would I be the same miserable person but with company? Is who I am right now someone who can make a woman happy, or am I an emotional leech?” It sounds pessimistic but this realization was actually life changing. I switched my source of happiness from extrinsic values to intrinsic ones. From there, I realized that happiness is a choice, and one that must be actively made each day. To be clear, I don’t mean the emotion of happiness or pleasure, but a high spirit that can’t be broken down and helps others along the way.

[@nickchua3431]

I used to be the type who coped and said that I don’t need a relationship because it’s just gonna drain my time, happiness and emotions. However, I’ve been in a relationship for the past 6 months and even though it has its ups and downs, i don’t regret my choice at all. Right now, we’re going thru a bit of a rough patch but even then ik that this is just how it works. It’s hard to find the right person for you and there’s bound to be mistakes made along the way. But i believe that im on the right track and Im gonna give my all to continue down it.

[@98farhan94]

As an outsider, you just seem to be justifying instead of actually appreciative. The "ik that this is just how it works" portrays a sense of resignation. It doesn't have to be like that. Life can be better. Live for yourself, unless you find a person who makes you want to share your life with them - your current person does not seem to evoke those feelings.

[@Bronkowitsch]

Dude, one thing is sure. I love your words. God bless you.

[@Durmomo0]

I believe in love for some, but not for me.

[@friendboy10]

I agree with this video a lot. I have found that despite not having been in a relationship until my mid twenties, my views of love have maintained this more realistic view. I think it has served me well in my first(and hopefully last) relationship that I've always valued hearing about and knowing the rough and dark parts of people, as well as the truth over having a pretty light shined on the parts we all want seen with the clutter shoved into the closets. My girlfriend is not perfect by any stretch, nor am I. And I got to see many of those imperfections early on, but they did not deter me. Nor do I feel as though I am simply blinded by the positive aspects I see and are ignoring them. I take them in stride, take note of them, and recognize how they impact our relationship now and how they may impact our relationship in the future. We both have things to work on and grow from, but hopefully we can continue doing it together and become better off for having the other with us on this journey. That is my hope for our love.

[@VinodBangare-jk5ic]

Good video, but there's nothing specific here. I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation; you'll be shocked by the attraction techniques it contain about manipulation.

[@vantoannguyen5790]

nice try diddy

[@grddffg]

Scam bot

[@sqweed653]

That book's just AI generated misinformation lol

[@Skittles20p]

Bot

[@WorriorXD]

YAYYYY SINGLE LIFE IS 😄❤😭💔☠️

[@dakotabradstreet]

I don’t normally comment on videos but I would like to push back on the idea that “life doesn’t end well”. Death anxiety is very real and very understandable, but death isn’t inherently a bad or negative thing. It’s natural. I would argue that natural isn’t just okay, natural is good. What do we really have to fear from death except our egos desire to persist and our selfish desires for others to stay with us forever? These aren’t the ways of the world. Letting go can allow us to see the beauty, and goodness, in death. The nature of a death can obviously vary, but death itself is not “bad”.

[@AimkiOnTube]

I learned as a child from Pokémon’s red / blue/ yellow that’s you don’t get what you want. You get what you need and you keep it moving, or else you’ll die a hungry wanting ghost.

[@SetariM]

Nah I just cheat in the Pokemon I want. Can't cheat in life

[@AimkiOnTube]

@ honorable

[@lintang790]

There is nothing more lethal than to be loved, not for who we are, but for fitting the other person's ideal"

[@TheCrispOne2025]

“Beauty will save the world” - I used to believe that

[@shishiada5758]

Me too.

[@clareomarfran]

Wonderful animation with film and photos, and right down my alley philosophically.

[@jeromep-o9q]

Lucky me, I'm too ugly to get a first date. (This made more sense under the video's original title "Why you should remain single")

[@feralandroid]

No man has greater love then he who lays down his life for a friend...

[@ivor000]

man, your voice cadence is just perfect for the subject matter

[@madxbat]

I loved this episode. There is a fantasy as to what we portray love/relationship to be. This Disney, Hallmark perfect romance movie, when in reality love takes work and effort. It's accepting who we pick isn't going to be this perfect, that they can't read your mind. To an extent I am a romantic, but at the same time like in life, we need those down moments to make the up moments just as meaningful and impactful. Bailing out of a relationship because of something trivial or because after a few years, ya aren't in love anymore, to me is a lack of effort to make things work.

[@HalfIsland]

I see many people around me, friends and strangers alike, in happy and stable relationships. They have no idea we exist. Thus, I get this feeling that I am but a part of a community, a community of people struggling with love. We watch videos like this one, consume similar content of the same nature across other mediums, and look for reasons to confirm our already developed biases on the reality of love. I think it’s important to understand that this generation isn’t doomed, that the men, women of today aren’t screwed up and incapable of love. We’re just getting through something. I believe that losing hope, permanently altering behaviors, and giving up are all terrible ideas. After all… I see many people around me, friends and strangers alike, in happy and stable relationships. They have no idea we exist.

[@coffeejunkie4193]

Hey the kicker is you are fighting yourself. Let desperation eat away at you. Give yourself a break. Focus on yourself. Stop looking for someone. If you’re able to not keep looking for someone you leave yourself open to be found. Just expect what life is and take yourself out to a restaurant. Treat yourself and work on yourself. Don’t worry about what is happening around you. One you have excepted being single time goes by faster. You won’t be lost and in pain. And someone lost looking might just find you. Like how you treat yourself. Ask to come with you to a restaurant you like. Play a game with you. Then before you know it you will have it. Without even expecting it. This is the way to a healthy relationship. Give up on looking and just look at yourself. Take care of yourself.

[@danielberger9717]

If you are weak, you pursue these things. If you are strong, you learn how to oppose and ultimately bury/destroy any of these needs. These are things that only matter in a human context, not in a real one. If you realise these are things that need to be hindered/destroyed/kept in control, you are much better. Self sufficiency has one huge advantage, that is, that you become accustomed to it and learn how to live alone.In the end, you ll be stronger while most people will crumble under the petty idiocy they indulge in by staying together.

[@WisdomLife9]

Identify the right person to play with, to be a partner is extremly important. Thanks for your sharing!

[@Margo714P]

Just seeing the names of videos like this always make me sad. I have two wonderful adult children. They are the light of my life. That kind of love just can't be found by staying single. Well, I guess if you have children out of wedlock, but I don't recommend that. Anyway, I'll move along now as I see I'm probably in the minority here.

[@shreyanmajumder5364]

I share the same thought as you sir/mam .

[@coffeejunkie4193]

I agree. That is a very different relationship but it is exclusively tied to individual willingness to go through the struggle to get it. It’s worth it. I think the video is touching on the loneliness epidemic more. The ability to accept being single is the most crucial way to find a partner. Once you can accept being single and stop looking you let yourself be found.

[@--Spidy--]

I agree with you, I wouldn't mind more positivity in these videos lol

[@djjjh277]

I met a beautiful young woman who was Scandinavian, her hair, eyes took me but on reflection I loved her of course I did but what I grew to love was a space, more of a void being filled. And when she left I was left with a reflection, a mirrored version of who I was to her. I hated it and fell ill and lost a lot of weight.. 6 months later I made a friend and months passed and we fell "in love" only for 1 year, 12 months, 52 weeks passed... She left. I'm sad but this sadness is constant and in a way it's an emotion I've always avoided and now I must face it like we all must...

[@MrTchupam]

Wow beautiful animation

[@thepowerofyourtrueself4794]

This is the most realistic video about love, I have seen on KZbin. Its breaks the toxic narrative of "a soulmate iseal" that this magically is going to fix everything. Of course there are people that are compatible, but there is no such thing as the magic person that is going to make you whole and happy forever. We can only try to be happy everyday with our romantic partner.

[@jose9630]

What is the cool violin song played around 5:41?

[@knetom]

Idk but I wanna know too

[@LB-huk1dh]

I think soulmates are both found and made. There's a delicate balance to strive for. You want to find someone who naturally connects with you more than others, but there will always be work to do to achieve a full connection. I think of it like finding someone who annoys you the least, and then work hard on the rest

[@icecold5707]

Survival in this current world and economy is like treading water. So why tie a ball and chain around your neck lol? Just date and do short term relationships.

[@finaldestination41]

Live in relationships over marriage anyday

[@515me]

The fact that this video showed up to me is proof that Google knows me better than my closest friends. Merry Christmas btw

[@ZafOsophy]

Love like any other emotion, is temporary, it may last a bit longer.